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The Better V/ay 
 
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 Lessons in Wisdom, Truth, and Love 
 
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The Better Way. 
 
 ADVICE, (i) 
 
 i:i. Shall I- Take Itf — "If the advice be good take it, no matter 
 who gives it;" for even fools and enemies can sometimes teach us 
 something which we need to know. But, if you are advised to do 
 something which your deeper self forbids, or even does not clearly 
 consent to, don't do it, no matter how kindly or positively the advice 
 is given. 
 
 1:2. Cross References. — Talking Too Long, 53:2. Advising Dis- 
 couraged People, 17:1. The Final Decision, 19:2. 
 
 1:3. Kindred Topics In Other Parts of the Book. — Criticising and 
 Talking; Helping and Example; Truth and, too often, mere Guess 
 Work. 
 
 ANGER. (2) 
 
 2:1. Is it Right to Get Angry? — If by anger you mean simply a very 
 great disapproval of what another has done, or is doing (as in 
 Eph. 4:26, and Ps. 7:11 ), then the answer is: Yes, anger is sometimes 
 right; namely, when selfish or foolish elements do not get mixed up 
 with it. But this is not the usual meaning of the word; for it nearly 
 always refers to a more or less excited and anpitying disapproval of 
 what another has done, the excitement showing itself in at least a 
 slight tendency to lose your self-control and act or feel unwisely 
 or selfishly. And I venture to say that ninety-nine times out of a 
 hundred, when we are forced to admit to others, or in our own secret 
 thought, that we are angry, this is the definition of anger which ap-' 
 plies to our case. Is it right, then, to get angry ? Most emphatically, 
 no, no matter how great the provocation ; though undoubtedly some fits 
 of anger, secret or open, bring upon us far greater condemnation than 
 others do; for some are only seriously faulty outbursts of just indig- 
 
 For Full List of Topics See Index. 
 
THE BETTER WAY 
 
 nation on seeing real wrong done, while others are full of selfishness 
 and meanness. 
 
 But if anger is wrong, how can we distinguish it in ordinary life 
 from a disapproval and indignation which are right? In answering 
 this important question, I would recommend the following tests: 
 (i) If you are at all inclined to act or think recklessly; (2) if you 
 find it at all hard to remember the few or many good points of the 
 one whose acts you are condemning; or (3) if you are in the least 
 inclined to excuse your own faults, because his or hers seem greater 
 than yours; then you may be sure that your better self has lost con- 
 trol, and that your disapproval or indignation, however justifiable at 
 first, is so no longer, and should be speedily tied up and conquered, 
 by love, prayer, forgiveness, silence and solitude, and such other helps 
 as you find most effective. 
 
 Let us disapprove of wrong-doing most emphatically; let us show 
 our indignation very plainly, if need be; but let us beware of getting 
 angry. For anger, even at its very best, does much harm, and greatly 
 lessens the good effects of even a just rebuke. 
 
 2:2. Fighting it Out the Same Day. — When roused to fits of 
 wholly unjustifiable anger, or of well-grounded anger carried too far, 
 there is at least one thing which we can do, and always should do. We 
 can seize or make an opportunity, before the day closes, to prayer- 
 fully fight it out in our own minds, not letting the matter drop into 
 the forgotten past, till the better side of our nature gets a clear and 
 decisive victory. If you cannot get the time in any other way, take 
 it from sleep; for otherwise your whole life will be slowly poisoned 
 by unrebuked hatred and untamed anger. 
 
 But how can we tell when the better side of our nature has got the 
 victory? The answer is that anger will change to a more quiet dis- 
 approval, and side by side of this disapproval will spring up a hearty 
 willingness to be of service to the one who has offended us, in any 
 and every way that our better self suggests or approves. 
 
 2:3. Helps in Regaining Your Self- Control When Angry. — (For the 
 use of those who are in danger of acting, speaking or feeling angrily 
 or unwisely and really wish to control themselves.) First: He de- 
 serves punishment, and will get it in due time, but it is not my work 
 to give it. Second: He needs rebuke, but now is not the time to give 
 it. Third: He deserves rebuke; but his own conscience is giving 
 him all he can stand now; and, fourthly: Perhaps he does not de- 
 serve quite as severe a rebuke as I should give. 
 
 For Full List of Topics See Index. 
 
OR SIMPLE HELPS FOR MOMENTS OF NEED 5 
 
 2:4. Cross References. — Two Fools Instead of One, 54:2. How to 
 Tame a Quick Temper, 54:1. 
 
 '2:5. Kindred Topics in Other Parts of the Book. — Temper, Crossness, 
 Drudgery and Criticising too much. — For opposites see Patience 
 (Section 45.) 
 
 BESETTING SINS. (3) 
 
 3:1. 'How to Overcome Them. — If there is some one sin which you 
 seem powerless to overcome, even after honest, prayerful effort, 
 I would advise you for a while to watch more closely for other seem- 
 ingly more trifling faults, and to overcome these more fully, by patient, 
 prayerful effort. Then you will find that somehow or other, you 
 know not how, the besetting sin which at first you could not conquer 
 has greatly lessened its hold on you, and can now be fought against 
 successfully. 
 
 3:2. For Kindred Topics see Doing Wrong. 
 
 BOOKS AND NEWSPAPERS. (4) 
 
 4:1. How to Read. — Do not trouble yourself to read very much, or 
 to remember what you read. The chances are you cannot do it, even 
 if you try. Simply read with care: labelling each part with a well- 
 considered "Yes" or "No," or "Perhaps," or "I don't know about 
 that," or "I don't understand that," and above all, so plan and choose 
 your reading as to always start a few good clear seed thoughts and 
 queries of your own. Do this, and all your reading will do you good, 
 however soon forgotten; and more and more of it will stay by you; 
 and above all, your power to see things clearly and correctly, and to 
 use them wisely and effectively, will steadily increase. 
 
 4:2. Reading Too Much. — You cannot get strong by too much 
 eating, neither can you get wise by too much reading (too much in 
 all, or too much at one time). Yet we are all sorely tempted at times 
 to forget or resist this simple law of mental hygiene and substitute 
 much reading for well digested reading. But we always lose by it; 
 and the only safe rule is to stop reading for a while at least whenever 
 we have any doubt as to whether it will be good for us. Nor should 
 we go on reading till the doubt is I cleared away, or 2 duty very clearly 
 bids us disregard it. For the doubt generally proves that the mind 
 has something more important for our brain to do, or else is working 
 out successfully some better way of doing the work in hand*. 
 
 For Full List of Topics See index. 
 
THE BETTER WAY 
 
 4:3. Laying Up Treasure for Others. — Don't read simply for your- 
 self. There are some things worth remembering and keeping be- 
 cause some friend or neighbor of yours may sometime need them. 
 
 4:4. Kindred Topics in Other Parts of the Book. — Talking, Studying 
 and Truth; and, in index, see opinion, thought, news, arguments and 
 others. 
 
 BURDENS— GREAT AND SMALL. (5) 
 
 5:1. Hozv to Bear Them More Easily. — Remember that God is will- 
 ing to help you in bearing your burdens; the only conditions being 
 that God as the wiser partner (I. Cor. 3:9) must be allowed to do 
 most of the planning, and that you must do your part heartily, and 
 as well as you know how, however small it may be. 
 
 5:2. But Just What is God's Part? — It is not simply in the most 
 important matters that God offers to give and send us help. - For if 
 we ask and trust Him He stands ready to help us in everything that 
 is even a little too hard for us. Only let us remember that we must 
 let Him decide just how the needed help shall come; and freely con- 
 sent to His changing our plans for us whenever He sees best. 
 
 5:3. Tomorrow's Burdetts. — Do not carry tomorrow's burdens to- 
 day; for the morrow shall carry its own. Sufficient unto each day 
 are the burdens thereof; and according to each day's need shall 
 strength be given to those who ask it. 
 
 (Free Translation of Matt. 6:34 and Deut. 33: 25.) 
 
 5:4. Cross Reference. — The Bright Side, 36:1. 
 
 5:5. Kindred Topics in Other Parts of the Book. — Patience and Prayer; 
 Godliness and Christlikeness. Also see the list of Kindred Topics 
 given under Suffering, 52:4. 
 
 BUSINESS. (6) 
 
 6:1. Our Motives in Business. — Our chief aim in business, (as in 
 everything else) should be to make each act a wise 1 and real 2 contri- 
 bution to the general good; and if you make the simple getting of 
 money your chief end in life or in business, you may succeed, but even 
 if you do, you will be far less happy and really comfortable and hon- 
 ored, than many another man whom you try hard to despise because 
 he has less property than you have. 
 
 6:2. Returning Borrowed Money Promptly. — Never keep borrowed 
 money a single hour beyond the time appointed for its return, if it 
 
 For Full List of Topics See Index. 
 
OR SIMPLE HELPS FOR MOMENTS OF NEED 7 
 
 be in your power by any honest means to return it promptly; for dis- 
 appointment will often close a man's purse against you forever. 
 
 [Selected] 
 
 6:3. Cross References. — How to Start Up the Ladder, 32:1," and 
 Simply Yes or No, 19:2. 
 
 6:4. Kindred Topics. — The book is full of them; but especially 
 see Dishonesty and Money; Work, Drudgery and Rest; Time-Using, 
 Opportunities and Restlessness; Guess-Work and Excuses; Little 
 Things' and Hints for Hard Times; Helping others and Watchfulness. 
 
 CARELESSNESS. (7) 
 
 7:1. Its Consequences. — The man who does his work, or makes his 
 plans carelessly is sure to get into trouble. 
 
 7:2. Cross References. — Carelessness and Failure, 32:1. Despising 
 Little Opportunities, and What Comes of It, 44:1. Casting the Blame 
 on Others, 58:1. Learning to Do Better by Example, 29:2. 
 
 7:3. Kindred Topics in Other Parts of the Book. — Guess-Work, Ex- 
 cuses and Little Things; Discouragement and Loneliness; Restless- 
 ness, Unhappiness and Besetting Sins. For opposites see Watch- 
 fulness. 
 
 CHARACTER. (8) 
 
 8:1. Where to Begin. — The light that shines farthest must shine 
 brightly at home. [Selected] 
 
 8:2. A Pure Heart. — "Blessed are the pure in heart; for they shall 
 see God," (Matt. 5:8); and if they see Him, they can't help trusting 
 and enjoying Him. Yet it is not enough that our purposes alone be 
 true, though that is our greatest need. Our lives must also be z true 
 and 2 wise. For dirt is dirt, even if you honestly think it is gold; and 
 folly is folly, even if you think it wisdom. 
 
 8:3. Kindred Topics. — Nearly every section in the book; but espe- 
 cially Godliness, Doing Right and Home; and the Kindred Topics 
 there given. Also see "Ways of Learning," in index. 
 
 CHEER AND CHEERFULNESS. (9) 
 
 9:1. The Secret of Cheerfulness. — Unless we are lovingly engaged in 
 bringing cheer to other lives we cannot have much of it ourselves. 
 For love is the very fountain head of all true cheer; and a cheer that 
 has no love in it is a hollow and disappointing mockery, and an un- 
 successful attempt to deceive ourselves and others, for we cannot 
 long do it. 
 
 For Full List of Topics See Index. 
 
THE BETTER WAY 
 
 9:2. When Cheer Grows Dim. — But even in a loving heart cheer 
 sometimes grows dim. What then? Why, simply stop your other 
 work, however good it may be, and lovingly do some little thing 
 which expresses your love more simply and more wisely, and it will 
 not be long before things will look brighter. 
 
 9:3. Making Good News Reports. — Life is full of good news; but we 
 often hear it and pass it on with only the faintest sort of an idea how 
 good it is; thus losing much of the 'cheer and 2 good that we might 
 have had, had we known its worth. As a partial remedy for this tend- 
 ency I would suggest occasionally sending or giving to your pastor, 
 mother, or some other friend, little bits of news, specially marked 
 "Good News." Especially would I advise giving them to those 
 friends whose influence has proved the deepest and most lasting in 
 giving to your life some new impulse upward or onward; and also to 
 your gloomy friends, in a lighter but no less sincere and hearty way, 
 (We can furnish sample Good News Cards and Leaflets by mail for 
 two cents. But when you get started, you will not need a printed 
 card, except for extra occasions.) 
 
 9:4. Cross References.— Only a Smile, 31:2. Patience and Sunshine, 
 45:1. Looking for Good News, 36:2. Helping Each Other in Heaven, 
 30:1. 
 
 9:5. Kindred Topies in Other Parts of the Book.— Love and Kindness; 
 Patience and Thankfulness; Home and Prayer; Talking and silence.* 
 For opposites see Discouragement and Loneliness. 
 
 CHILDREN. (10) 
 
 10:1. Idle Hands. — For Satan finds some mischief still 
 For idle hands to do. 
 
 So reads the ancient rhyme, and it is true. So that one of your first 
 and most important duties is to keep in mind a rich variety of simple 
 kinds of Hvork and 2 play which your child likes; and also to find out 
 what kinds of sticks and stones, boxes and papers, tin plates and cups, 
 marbles and nails, wagons and dolls, and other simple toys, give the 
 little one most pleasure, and to carefully lay aside and keep in dif- 
 ferent parts of the house a goodly supply of these, to keep the little 
 brain pleasantly occupied in studying and using them when other 
 kinds of work or play have lost their interest. Nor should you look 
 on these as so much "truck;" but rather as among the choicest of 
 your family treasures; for on a proper use of such little trifles depends 
 a large part of your child's development of 'character, 2 mind and 
 3 body. 
 
 ♦See Index. 
 
 For Full List of Topics See Index. 
 
OR SIMPLE HELPS FOR MOMENTS OF NEED 9 
 
 10:2. Letting the Children Help. — Expect and require your children 
 \o help you, even if their help is at first rather troublesome; take care 
 not to make their work too hard, too long or too monotonous for 
 their childish powers; praise them heartily and lovingly for the work 
 that is well done; and be patient and tender when it is done blunder- 
 ingly, and patient and tender and firm when it is done unwillingly; 
 and your reward will be a happier home than you can have in any 
 other way. You will be happier yourself; and your children will be 
 happier, and far more likely to remember and to use through life the 
 lessons of truth and unselfishness which by word and example you 
 are trying to teach them. 
 
 10:3. Unaccountable Crossness. — When a child who is ordinarily rea- 
 sonable and loving, becomes suddenly very cross and seemingly un- 
 reasonable, without apparent cause — x hunger, 2 thirst (often for simple 
 water, rather than milk) — 3 s leepiness or ^some undetected physical 
 pain is nearly always the cause. And even with unloving and selfish 
 children, these account for a great deal; though there is added to 
 them a sad confusion and wrongness in their motives and habits of 
 thought and life. — Yet even such more or less excusable crossness 
 should, for the child's good, be stopped; first and oftenest by tender- 
 ness, tact, and making haste to remove or lessen its causes and second- 
 ly, when these means fail, or only partially succeed, by the use of som e 
 sort of punishment, side by side of the tenderness. 
 
 10:4. Children s Crossness in General. — Crossness is not wholly due 
 to selfishness; for it is always in part a protest against some mistake 
 which those around have made in their treatment of the one who is 
 cross. B ut it is a blundering and confused protest, and tends very strongly 
 to degenerate into mere selfishness and meanness. Hence the need 
 of punishment, of which we have already spoken, when other gentler 
 means of stopping it prove a failure. The best punishment ordinari- 
 ly is to make the child stay by itself in some other part of the room, 
 until it is willing to try to control itself and is ready once more for 
 more tender helps, which should then be given gladly, but quietly. 
 
 10:5. Rebuking Needlessly or Too Sharply. —We often misunderstand 
 our inexperienced little neighbors, the children, and rebuke and con- 
 demn them, when all they need is a little caution and restraint. 
 
 [Selected] 
 
 10:6. Going Into Repentance Comer Yourself. — Remember that you, 
 too, must sometimes go off alone into repentance corner and ask for 
 forgiveness and help, and wait till you get it (Gsn. 32:26); or you can- 
 
 For Full List of Topics Sss Index. 
 
THE BETTER WAY 
 
 not be as *wise and 2 patient and 3tender and yet ''firm as you should 
 be in correcting your children and pupils. 
 
 10:7. Your Example. — If you want your children to believe what 
 you teach them, or at least to profit by it you must really try to prac- 
 tice it yourself. You may not always succeed, and your children may 
 know very well that you do not; bat if you really try, and in a manly, 
 womanly way acknowledge to them that you do fail, they will listen 
 more attentively to what you say, and above all ponder it 'often and 
 2 honestly in secret, and in years to come. 
 
 10:8. Cross-Referejice.— Praying about Little Things, 48:1. 
 
 10:9. Kindred Topics in Other Parts of the Book. — Evenings, Home, 
 Prayer and Jesus (Section 11;) Kindness, Love and Patience; Little 
 Things and Restlessness; Drudgery and The Easy Way; The Child- 
 ren's Corner and many others. 
 
 CHRISTLIKENESS. (11) 
 
 1 1:1. Knowing Jesus Better. — "Come unto me and I will give you 
 rest" is still what Jesus says to the weary and heavy laden. But you 
 cannot know how good a friend He is, until you come very near to 
 Him, and consult him very often in all that rejoices or troubles you. 
 For He can help you at a distance, but you cannot enjoy Him. 
 
 11:2. Helping Others to Know Hun. — The more you love the Lord 
 Jesus yourself, the more your friends will feel their need of Him; and 
 some day, sooner or later, they will confess their need, and go to Him 
 for help. 
 
 11:3. Kindred Topics in Other Parts of the Book. — Godliness, Good- 
 ness, Love. Helpfulness, Prayerfulness, Thankfulness, Watchfulness, 
 Wisdom (Section 19) and Happiness; and many other related joys 
 and secrets of joy. 
 
 CONSEQUENCES. (12) 
 
 Of Careful Reading, 4:1. 
 
 Of Careful Living, Sections 24 
 
 and 2c. 
 Of Carlessness, 7:1. 
 Of Dishonesty, 18:1. 
 Of Despising Little Things, 44:1 
 
 and 37:1. 
 Of Doing Right in General, 29:1. 
 Of Doing Right Cheerfully, 19:3 
 
 and 29:5. 
 
 Of Doing Wrong, Section 58. 
 
 Of Gossip, 27:1. 
 
 Of Guess-Work, 28:1. 
 
 Of Getting Mad, 54:2. 
 
 Of Having a Pure Heart, 8:2. 
 
 Of Home Loving, 33:1. 
 
 Of Knowing Jesus Better, 1 1 : 1 
 
 and 2. 
 Of Love for the Truth, 57:3. 
 Of Patience, Section 45. 
 
 For Full List of Topics See Index. 
 
OR SIMPLE HELPS FOR MOMENTS OF NEED 
 
 Of 
 
 Prayer, Section 48. 
 
 Of Unwise or Unfriendly Criti- 
 cism, 14:3 and 4. 
 
 Of Yielding to Restlessness, 50:1. 
 
 Of Choosing Your Work Reck- 
 lessly, 56:1. 
 
 Ut rrayer, section 4s. 
 
 Of Really Serving God, 26:3. 
 
 Of Suffering, 36:1 and 52:1. 
 
 Of Talking Too Much, 53:1 and 2, 
 
 Of Thankfulness, 55:1. 
 
 COURTSHIP AND MARRYING. (13) 
 
 13:1. Smartness and Beauty. — Some of the smartest men and bright- 
 est, prettiest women make very poor husbands and wives, because 
 they are so selfish. There is no need of your marrying a man or 
 woman who is dull, or one who is homely as a hedge fence, unless you 
 choose to. And yet among those whom you count smart or pretty, 
 be sure and choose one who is really lovely (worthy of love and full 
 of love); for, if you are careless at this point, a hard and lonely life 
 will prove that you, at least, were once a fool, whatever your compan- 
 ion may be. Yet there is no need of your making matters worse and 
 showing that you are still a fool; for those who patiently and prayer- 
 fully teach themselves the lesson of trusting God and forgiving man 
 will always find that even a lonely borne is full of stepping stones 
 toward peace and heaven and joy, more perfect joy than they have 
 ever known before. 
 
 13:2. Cross References. — Praying Over It, 48:1. Taking Advice, 1:1, 
 Not Going by Guess-Work, 28:1. 
 
 13:3. Kindred Topics in Other Parts of the Book. — Happiness and Un- 
 happiness; Guess-Work and Excuses; Restlessness and The Easy 
 Way; and Home and Little Things. 
 
 CRITICISING OTHERS. (14) 
 
 14:1. Speaking Kindly. — Speak kindly of others and you will be 
 happier yourself; for even a man's faults can be spoken of kindly, 
 and yet truly; and even the severest and most public rebuke may be 
 full of a kindness which cannot be forgotten, though unnoticed at the 
 time. 
 
 14:2. Despising Others. — "He that is void of wisdom despiseth his 
 neighbor," (Prov. 11:12). But a true and wise man sees another's 
 faults and wrong doings and in proper ways rebukes and punishes him 
 for them and still pities him and helps him, tenderly and truly, in 
 such ways as he can. 
 
 14:3. Condemning Too Persistently. — Whenever you find yourself in- 
 clined to dwell on the faults of others one moment longer than is 
 
 For 'Full List of Topics See Index. 
 
THE BETTER WAV 
 
 plainly your duty, you will always find that there is something badly 
 out of order in your own life; and will also make others hate the very 
 truth you love. 
 
 14:4. Poisoning Your Own Life. — Try to never speak or think tri- 
 umphingly or needlessly of the meanness or faults of others; for if you 
 are not careful at this point, your own life will gradually become 
 mean and narrow, even in a good cause. 
 
 14:5. Kindred Topics in Other Parts of the Book.— Advice, Books and 
 Talking; Patience and Drudgery; Differences of Opinion and Guess 
 Work.— For Unfriend!)' Criticism, see 15:3. 
 
 CROSSNESS. (15) 
 
 15:1. Crossness in Adults. — How are we grown-up people to over- 
 come our owji crossness? Let us see; what is crossness? A,mingling 
 of disappointment and anger (only unaccompanied by any wish to 
 injure). Like all other forms of anger, then, we should fight it out 
 with ourselves prayerfully, the very same day, never waiting till to- 
 morrow (Section 2:2); and secondly, we should try not to have a9 
 many must-be plans as we do, and not to make our plans and expec- 
 tations quite as stiff and set as we do, so that we will not be disap- 
 pointed, it every detail does not turn out as we supposed or hoped it 
 would. For if our larger aims in life are well chosen, and we are 
 really careful and watchful in our work moment by moment, a great 
 many details, and sometimes even the larger outlines of our plans, can 
 be best determined on the spur of the moment, and seemingly almost 
 without thought. 
 
 15:2. Cross References. — Unaccountable Crossness in Children, 10:3. 
 Children's Crossness in General, 10:4. Too Much Pepper, B :y. Feel- 
 ing Ashamed of It, B:8. 
 
 15:3. Kindred Topics in Other Parts of the Book. — Differences of 
 Opinion and Overwork;* Anger, Temper, Unhappiness and too much 
 Criticising. — For opposites see Patience. 
 
 DIFFERENCES OF OPINION. (16) 
 
 16:1. Why Honest Men Can Differ. — Truth is very many-sided and 
 man's mind is rather slow and pretty easily confused on unfamiliar 
 ground; so that a man may be just as level headed and honest as you 
 are and still fail in seeing many of the truths and half-truths which 
 
 *See Index, 
 For Full List of Topics See Index. 
 
OR SIMPLE HELPS FOR MOMENTS OF NEED 
 
 13 
 
 you have seen. Remember this and be patient; and patience will 
 bring you nearer to" your neighbor and to God, even if you seem to 
 be as far apart as ever. 
 
 16:2. Kindred Topics.— [Ignorance,] Guess-Work and the Largeness 
 of Truth (Section 57.) For unfriendly differences of opinion see Mis- 
 understandings.* 
 
 DISCOURAGEMENT: (17) 
 
 17:1. Tfozv to Help Discouraged People— -Do not argue with a dis- 
 couraged person. Just show your love simply and tenderly; and get 
 them to stop and rest a while. Then later, when the first storm of 
 discouragement is over, make such explanations and suggestions as 
 you can; but not till then, and even then don't give too big a dose. 
 
 17:2. Cross References.— Exaggerating Our Misfortunes, 41: r. How 
 to Get God's Help, 5:1 and 48:1. Just How Much is God Willing to 
 Do, 5:2. What Does God Require of Us? 26:2. How to Start up the 
 Ladder, 32:1. Don't Carry God's Part of the Burden, 59:1 and 19:4. 
 
 17:3 Kindred Topics in Other Parts of the Book.— Rest, Loneliness 
 and Guess-Work. Also Blues.* Opposites, more hopefulness* and 
 more trust in God, 26:6 and 5:1. 
 
 DISHONESTY. (18) 
 18:1. The dishonest man is always an unhappy man. 
 
 18:2. Call your dishonesty by some other name, and you may fool 
 others; but you cannot long deceive yourself. 
 
 18:3. Cross Reference.— Dishonesty in "One Little Thing," 58:3. 
 
 18:4. Kindred Topics in Other Parts of the Book.— Excuses and 
 Money; Restlessness, Wrong-Doing and Unhappiness. For oppo- 
 sites see Doing Right. 
 
 DOING RIGHT. (19) 
 
 19:1. Meaning of the Words Right and Wrong (When Correctly Used 
 in Settling a Question of Present Duty).— Wrong is not what men 
 call wrong, or think wrong, or can prove to be wrong; and right is not 
 what men call right, or think right, or can prove to be right; though 
 all of these, if honestly used, may help in making a man stop and con- 
 sider. But right is what a man's deeper, quieter, more silent self 
 tells him he ought to do, now and here; and wrong is that which his 
 deeper, quieter, more silent self tells him he ought not to do. Obey 
 
 *See Index. 
 
 For Full List of Topics See Index. 
 
U THE BETTER WAY 
 
 this still, small voice of duty within, and you will find peace, for God 
 and truth arc with it; resist it, and you cannot find peace, and even 
 your successes will be disappointing failures. 
 
 19:2. Simply Yes or No. — Elaborate arguments and more simple 
 word proofs are often exceedingly helpful in finding out what it is 
 probably best for us to do; also in deciding tentatively matters where 
 mistakes can very easily be corrected; and also when we are talking 
 about matters which cannot be settled in any other way. But in 
 questions of present duty, where so much always turns on the decis- 
 ions of a single minute, our actual decisions, both great and small, 
 should always have a surer and safer basis than mere word-proofs 
 can possibly furnish. In these the only safe answer to give is a 
 simple, 2 quiet, 3honest Yes or No; for the simplest and quietest an- 
 swer, if honest, will most nearly express the leadings of our deeper, 
 better life, and so bring us nearer to God and right. 
 
 19:3. Godliness and Love of Right.— Tie sure and never separate 
 tire two; for true godliness without love of right is impossible; and 
 trying to do right, without often asking God's help, is but a sad grop- 
 ing in the dark. For without His help we are very weak, but in Him 
 we are strong; and the way which he approves, though sometimes 
 hard, is always pleasantest, if we enter on it willingly. 
 
 19:4. What to Do When in Doubt. — When, in a question of duty, you 
 can not tell which of several ways is right and wise, you should not de- 
 cide either way now; for guess-work in such matters is fatal; but 
 should at once go to making simple, 2 restful, Squiet and 4prayerful 
 changes in your surroundings, and, if possible, find some simple piece 
 of work which helps you to look at life more quietly and truly. Then 
 the more perplexing subject is sure to soon clear up, if it is really 
 your duty or privilege to solve it. Or if it does not clear up, your duty 
 will at least become clear; for conscience will soon plainly bid you 
 leave the whole matter in God's hands. For that which is too hard 
 for. us He is always willing to take as His part of the responsibility 
 and work, and we only bring confusion into our own lives and others 
 by meddling. 
 
 And even if you are so much in the dark that you cannot seem sure 
 of anything, just "postpone your bigger plans, 2 give yourself up heart- 
 ily to seemingly trifling duties, and shonestly try, moment by moment, 
 to come as near right as you can; and you will find later on that you 
 have been helped and blessed and have gained ground in manhood, 
 usefulness and happiness in spite of your perplexity. 
 
 For Full List of Topics See Index. 
 
OR SIMPLE HELPS FOR MOMENTS OF NEED 15 
 
 19:5. Apparent Confusion Between Right and Wrong. — The reason 
 why there is at times so much apparent confusion between right and 
 wrong is that in our 'ignorance, 2 haste or 3pride we have called some- 
 thing right that is really wrong, or something wrong that is really 
 right. Then the confusion begins, and never wholly ends, till we 
 patiently hunt up and correct our mistake. 
 
 19:6. Don't Stop to Explain. — When obliged to *act very quickly, 
 and also when -tempted, or very 3tired, be sure you are right before 
 you act, (that is to say be honestly sure that your quieter, better self 
 approves of your 'doing as you do, and 2 doing it now); but don't stop 
 to talk much about it with x yourself or 2 any one else; for many words 
 are only a source of weakness and confusion at such times as these. 
 
 19:7. Is the Right Way Always Easy and Pleasant? — No, it is not 
 always easy; for there are some very hard places in it. But it is gen- 
 erally easy; and all the hard places in this path of duty are but step- 
 ping stones to some special blessing (generally unseen at the time). 
 And furthermore you will find that most of the hard places in life, 
 and all of the seemingly unbearable ones are of our own making, when 
 for a season our trust in God or right grows dim. 
 
 But is it a pleasant way? Yes, for him who walks in it willingly. 
 And it grows pleasanter and pleasanter year by year; whereas the 
 wrong way grows less and less pleasant as the days go by. 
 
 19:8. Cross References. — Doing Right and Happiness, 29:1 and 5. 
 Doing Right Willingly and Gladly, 19:7 and 29:5. 
 
 19:9. Kindred Topics in Other Parts of the Book. — Godliness, Help- 
 fulness, Happiness; Watchfulness, Home and Business; Consequences 
 and Example; and scores of others; for a right and happy life is 
 very many sided. For the opposite of Doing Right see Doing 
 Wrong. 
 
 DOING WRONG. (20) 
 
 2fo: I. Does it Pay . — There are some wrong and foolish things which 
 we keep on doing through sheer desperation, or in moments of excite- 
 ment, though we are sadly aware that it does not pay. On these we 
 have already touched many times under Godliness, Doing Right, 
 Prayer and Besetting Sins. But there are some wrong and foolish 
 things so seemingly harmless, or even helpful, that we cannot escape 
 from them until we form the habit of very pointedly and honestly 
 asking ourselves this question, "Does it pay?" and insisting on a 
 simple "Yes" or "No" for an answer. 
 
 For Full List ©f Topics See Index. 
 
16 THE BETTER WAY 
 
 20:2. Doing Wrong in Little Tilings. — Doing wrong in little things 
 has ruined more lives and saddened more hearts than doing wrong in 
 great ones. For few men are blind enough to deliberately do wrong 
 in great things; but we are all tempted in little ones. 
 
 20:3. Cross References. — Doing Wrong in "One Little Thing," 
 58:3. Doing Wrong and Unhappiness How Related, 58:1. 
 
 20:4. Kindred Topics in Other Parts of the Book. — Guess-Work, Re- 
 setting Sins and Excuses; and Consequences and Unhappiness. For 
 opposites see Doing Right. 
 
 DRUDGERY. (21) 
 
 21:1. Why Do We Sometimes Hate Our Work. — Work may very 
 properly be hard and disagreeable; but when it seems like drudgery, 
 you will always find either that you are doing it very aimlessly or very 
 blunderingly or else you have got your mind filled full of unkind and 
 and unfriendly thoughts about those for whose good you are doing 
 it; and whichever be the cause, a little honest watching at these three 
 points will almost always show where the trouble lies, and help you 
 in doing better. 
 
 21:2. Kindred Topics. — Crossness, Temper and Criticising too 
 much; Guess-work, Haste* and Idleness.* For opposites see in the 
 index Enthusiasm and Earnestness. 
 
 THE EASY WAY. (22) 
 
 22.1. When to Choose It— Yes, the right way is generally an easy 
 way; but every easy way isn't right; and sometimes the right way is 
 very hard for a while (though crowned with a rich reward). So nev- 
 er choose the easiest way, till you are sure it's right. 
 
 22:2. Kindred Topics in Other Parts of the Book. — Watchfulness, 
 Earnestness* and Prayer; Guess-Work, Carelessness and Wrong- 
 Doing; Rest, Patience and Suffering. — For opposites see Suffering. 
 
 OUR EVENINGS. (23) 
 
 23:1. The day is for labor; the evening for rest, inspiration and 
 home. Let each have its share. [Selected] 
 
 23:2. Kindred Topics. — See Rest, Cheer and Heme. 
 
 *See Index. 
 
 For Full List of Topics See Index. 
 
OR SIMPLE HELPS FOR MOMENTS OF NEED 
 
 EXAMPLE. (24) 
 
 24:1. A Good Example. — If your life is lovely and true, a great 
 many people will find it out after awhile, and will gratefully, though 
 often silently, love and honor you for it, even if you are one of the 
 poorest or richest persons in the whole neighborhood. — And even if 
 your life is not lovely yet, if it is slowly becoming a little more so 
 day by day or year by year, this also will be known and remembered. 
 No, my friend, you do not live alone, however lonely some parts of 
 your hfe may be. Oh, how many lives that have silently helped me 
 and others do I recall as I write these words. — No; love and trueness 
 can never be lost. 
 
 24:2. Learning by Example. — Men are slow to learn by the failures 
 of others; but by the success and wisdom and goodness of others we 
 all learn something every day, though it often takes a long time to 
 get it into practice. 
 
 24:3. Cross References. — Learning to Be Happy by Example, 2c:2. 
 Winning Others by Example, 11:2. Our Example at Home, 10:7. 
 
 24:4. Kindred Topics in Other Parts of the Book. — Books and Home; 
 Love and Consequences. 
 
 EXCUSES. (25) 
 
 "I Can't Help It" .• 3:1 
 
 "I Can't Tell What It's Right for Me to Do" 19:4 
 
 "I Did It Just for Fun" 40:1 
 
 "I Haven't Time" 56:1 
 
 "I Have No Chances" 44:1 
 
 "I've Got To" 60:1 
 
 "It's Some One Else's Fault That I'm so Unhappy" 58:1 
 
 "It's True, Anyway" 57:1 and 27:1 
 
 "But He Deserves It" 2:3 
 
 "He Ought to See the Point" 57:2 
 
 GODLINESS. (26) 
 
 26:1. God Knows It All. — Let us be glad that God knows all our 
 sins and faults; for without His help we never can do better. 
 
 26:2. But What Does God Require of Us? — God does not expect you 
 or me to do one whit more than we are able to, however little our 
 
 , For Full List of Topics See Index. 
 
IS • THE BETTER WAY 
 
 ability may be. Only remember that at some point or other your 
 ability increases every day; for each new day reveals some little thing 
 or other which you can do, but knew not of before, or at least knew 
 not how to do. 
 
 26:3. Lessons in Love. — The longer we really serve God the more 
 we love Him; and our love for God increases our love for men. Is 
 not this pretty good evidence that He is a kind and wise master? even 
 though He is sometimes stern? Yes; and even the sternness changes 
 to tenderness, as soon as tenderness can bring a blessing. 
 
 26:4. God's Larger Blessings. — God does not even offer His larger 
 blessings to everyone; but only to those who are willing to do their 
 part day by day, and do it heartily and honestly; and are also will- 
 ing to let alone His part. (See 5:1 and 19:4) For to give His larger 
 blessings to others would be folly and wrong; though for every man 
 God has some blessings, such as are suited to his blindness and need. 
 
 26:5. God's Care. — God cares for the world as truly when we are 
 asleep as when we are awake. [C. c. Tracy] 
 
 26:6. How to Get More Trust in God. — First of all try honestly to do 
 your duty day by day and hour by hour, as far as you can see it; 
 secondly, watch for simple, natural ways of increasing your love for 
 others, both great and small, both wise and foolish; thirdly, try not 
 to mistake helpful guesses for certainty and helpful half-truths for 
 perfectly correct statements of the whole truth; and, fourthly, make 
 an earnest effort to crowd out, or at least postpone, ( 19:4) all subjects 
 of thought which perplex and upset you by other thoughts and other 
 work which are at least harmless and quieting even if seemingly al- 
 most useless. (See again 19:4) Then you will begin to clearly see 
 God's hand in life, and your trust in Him will grow strong and hearty, 
 even if at present you have but little trust, or none at all. And 
 whenever men lose their faith in God, or talk about Him without 
 really knowing Him, you will always find that in one or more of these 
 four essentials of a healthy manhood they have sadly failed. 
 
 26:7. How to Glorify and Enjoy Him. — If we wish to "glorify God 
 and enjoy Him" and also wish to have our testimony as to God's love 
 and the pleasantness of right-doing count for much, we must not be 
 satisfied with testifying in only one or two ways, but must rather seek 
 and find many ways of testifying, all close akin, and yet all different. 
 For in public acts and private acts, in rest and work, in weariness and 
 energy, whether silent or speaking, in each of these, in all its forms f 
 
 For Full List of Topics See Index. 
 
OR SIMPLE HELPS FOR MOMENTS OF NEED 19 
 
 an overflowing heart will somehow testify; and if we 'often walk with 
 God, and 2 love to .turn to Him for His rebuke and cheer, then will 
 this testimony not only be varied, but also full of power, and our own 
 life full of joy. 
 
 26:8. Cross References. — Our Wiser Partner and the Help He Of- 
 fers, 5:1. Trusting and Doing, B:3. Godliness and Worry, 59:1. 
 Just What is God's Part? and What is Mine? 5:2 and 19:4. 
 
 26:9. Kindred Topics. — Doing Right and Love; Christlikeness and 
 Prayer; and all the good things spoken of from one end of the book 
 to the other. — For different sorts of Ungodliness and of Perplexity in 
 regard to God see 26:6. 
 
 Goodness. — See Doing Right. 
 
 GOSSIP. (27) 
 
 27:1. May Be True and Still be Gossip. — "Gossip is not always tell- 
 ing lies; the most hurtful kind is sometimes speaking of the wrong- 
 doing of others unnecessarily." For when you speak of such things 
 unnecessarily, you 'poison your hearer's life; 2 degrade your own; and 
 3make it harder for the wrong doer to ever repent and do better. 
 
 27:2. Cross References. — Little Things That Darken Other Lives, 
 37:1. Two Fools Instead of One, 54:2. How and When to Use the 
 Truth, 57:1. 
 
 27:3. Kindred Topics in Other Parts of the Book. — Guess Work and 
 Meanness; Criticising Too Much and Talking Too Much; Besetting 
 Sins and Doing Wrong. — For opposites see Helping Others (Section 
 31) and Good News Finders, 36:2 and 9:3. 
 
 GUESS WORK. (28) 
 
 28:1. Going by Guess Work. — Don't Go by Guess Work in deciding 
 what to do or not to do, and you will save yourselt and others a great 
 deal of trouble. — For though we cannot always be sure whether our 
 work will turn out just as we expect it to, or not, we always can by 
 wise -and honest searching (19:2) find a way which is clearly right, or 
 at least a step in the right direction; and this is the way which al- 
 ways leads to blessing, especially when we walk it gladly. But guess 
 work always brings restlessness first, and disappointment later. 
 
 For Full List of Topics See Index. 
 
THE BETTER WAY 
 
 28:2. Cross References. — What to Do When In Doubt, 19:4. Avoid 
 Guess Work in Study, 51:3. Don't Always Choose the Easiest Way, 
 22:1. Don't Talk Too Much, 53:1. 
 
 28:3. Kindred Topics. — Carelessness and Excuses; [Appearances] 
 and Doing Wrong; Restlessness and Temper. For hints as to the 
 really safe and sure way, study the section on Doing Right (especially 
 19:2 and 4. 
 
 HAPPINESS. (29) 
 
 29:1, Goodness and Happiness. — The old saying, "Be good and you'll 
 be happy," is not strictly true, as words are ordinarily used; for a 
 man or woman may be really good, (though not perfectly good,) and 
 yet be very unhappy much of the time. But if we change it, and say 
 that Doing right always makes us happier, then the words are 
 strictly and grandly true; not only of saints and angels, but also of 
 the most weak and inconsistent person that ever really tried to do 
 right and took a step honestly in the' right direction. But if you wish 
 to find out how much of happiness there can be in life, you must T go on 
 and 2 ask God's help, and with His help stake many steps in the right 
 direction, though still taking them one by one; as the path of duty 
 and of privilege is made plain to you from moment to moment, and 
 day to day. 
 
 29:2. Learning by Exa?nple. — Be sure and study lovingly and often 
 the best and happiest men and women you have ever known, and your 
 own life will slowly drink in the secret of their happiness and become 
 more and more like theirs. For though good men and women are 
 often unhappy, because of the wrong things they mix in with the 
 good ones, this much is certain, that the happiest men and women, 
 though never perfect are always good. These are the ones to study, 
 
 29:3. Finding Happiness in Your Work. — The best place to hunt 
 for happiness and the place where you will find most of it is in and 
 around your regular work; and if you do your work with an eager 
 desire to make others happier, and with a humble, hearty willingness 
 to correct your faults as fast as you find out how it can be done, you 
 are sure to find a great deal of happiness even in the work which is 
 hardest and most common place. 
 
 29:4. Longing for Happiness. — Longing for happiness is perfectly 
 proper; the only question is whether we have sense enough to hunt 
 for it in the right way. For some of the ways men try only lead 
 them farther and farther away from the happiness they long for. 
 
 For Full List of Topics See Index. 
 
OR SIMPLE HELPSiFOR MOMENTS OF NEED 21 
 
 „ 29:5. The Secret of Abundant Happiness.— happiness comes most 
 abundantly to those who do right most cheerfully and fearlessly; 
 and are thus so busy seeing good and doing good (and doing it wise- 
 ly), that they see much reason for love and hope, and are not much 
 tempted to worry, no matter what happens. But if you wish to 
 learn this secret, you must begin to obey your wiser, better self with 
 equal care in little things and in great. 
 
 29:6. Cross References. — Happiness and Poverty, 47:1. Happiness 
 and Usefulness, 31:1 and 29:5. Enjoying God, 26:7 and 6. The 
 Bright'Side of Life, 36:1. 
 
 29:7. Kindred Topics in Other Parts of the Book. — Cheerfulness and 
 Helpfulness; Godliness and Goodness; Christlikeness and Love. — 
 For opposites see Unhappiness. 
 
 Hard Times. — See Hints for Hard Times. 
 
 HEAVEN. (30) 
 
 30:1. Love and Helpfulness in Heaven. — Even in heaven we shall 
 need love and help, and shall be called upon to love and help others; 
 for heaven would not be heaven without the sweet privilege of help- 
 ing and being helped. 
 
 30:2. Cross References. — "Many Homes," a new translation of John 
 14:2, B:2. Helping Jesus in Heaven, B:i2. Those Who Have Gone 
 Before, 43:1. 
 
 30:3. Things That Easily Remind Us of Heaven (When We Think of 
 Them Quietly and Fairly). — Duty Done Willingly, 29:5 and 19:7. 
 Work Well Done, 29:3. The Thought of God, 26:6. Christ's Life, 
 Section 11. The Best Men and Women We Have Ever Known, 29:2. 
 Loving the Truth, 57:3. Our Own Hungering for Truer Lives (Mot- 
 to on Title Page). God's Overruling Providence, 36:1. God's Past 
 Blessings, 55:1. Our Books of Remembrance, 36:2. Life, Home and 
 Happiness; Love, Rest and Patience; Kindness and Children; Suf- 
 fering and Misfortune; Prayer and Godliness; and many, many others. 
 
 • HELPFULNESS— OR HELPING OTHERS. (31) 
 
 31:1. Love, Happiness and Groivth, Hew Related. — Whenever you 
 find that your actions, words and thoughts are, hour by hour and day 
 by day, filled with an earnest, humble wish to help others, in ways 
 
 Per Full List of Topics See Index. 
 
THE BETTER WAY 
 
 which your own deeper life approves, then you will also find that 
 each new year of life is making you a little 'wiser and 2 more useful 
 and 3more happy than you were before. 
 
 31:2. Only a Smile. — It was only a true hearted smile; but it bright- 
 ened both lives, and still brightens them; for they often think of it. 
 
 [Suggested] 
 
 31:3. Cross References. — Helping Mamma, B:o,. Helping Jesus in 
 Heaven, B:i2. Helping Each Other in Heaven, 30:1. 
 
 31:4. Kindred Topics hi Other Parts of the Book. — Patience and Love; 
 Cheerfulness and Kindness; Example, Advice and Business; and 
 many others, as nearly every page contains some suggestions on this 
 subject. 
 
 HINTS FOR HARD TIMES. (32) 
 
 32:1. How to Start Up the Ladder. — One fish is better than none; 
 poor pay than no pay. But learn to do your poorly paid job extra 
 well and you are sure of a better one later on. For even in this 
 blundering, selfish world the most careless and sleepy workman is 
 almost always the one who goes to the bottom first and stays there 
 longest; while the man who loves to do his best for himself and oth- 
 ers is sure to gain Hnfluence, ^respect, ipeace of mind, and often ^riches 
 as well. 
 
 32:2. Szvapping Work. — Let your neighbors and friends know what 
 kind of work you would like to have done; and let them know what 
 kind of work you can do best; then occasionally swap work. Why 
 waste so much time in doing work for which you are not fit, or, per- 
 chance, in doing absolutely nothing, just because you cannot get a 
 chance to work for money, or cannot afford to always pay in money? 
 Swapping work with your neighbors may not be as profitable and 
 pleasant as having good steady work for which you are paid in money, 
 or as hiring others by the day or week; but it is a great deal better 
 than doing nothing, or wasting your time and strength in doing the 
 wrong kind of work. 
 
 32:3. Using Idle Moments. — Don't spend mo,,ey for what you can 
 make fairly well for yourself in your idle hours. Better work two 
 whole days on it than lie idle two days and then buy it for "only fifty 
 cents." You will be fifty cents richer in cash, and two days richer in 
 that manliness and pluck which bring 'happiness now and 2 success 
 later. 
 
 For Full List of Topics See Index. 
 
OR SIMPLE HELPS FOR MOMENTS OF NEED 23 
 
 32:4. Cross References. — Don't Always Take the Easiest Way, 22:1. 
 "The Bright Side of it All, 36:1. Praying About Little Things, 48:1. 
 In Partnership With God, 5:1 and 2. 
 
 32:5. Kindred Topics in Other Parts of the Book. — Poverty, Suffer- 
 ing and Discouragement; Guess Work and Excuses; Kindness and 
 Love; Carelessness and Opportunities; and many others. 
 
 HOME. (33)' 
 
 33:1. 'Home loving hearts are happiest.' (Longfellow; slightly altered.) 
 
 33:2. Cross References. — Let your Light Shine at Home, 8:1. The 
 Poor Man's Home, 47:1. "I Have Many Homes," B:2. Loveliness 
 First; Money Second, 42:1. A Lonely Home, 13:1. 
 
 33:3. Kindred Topics in Other Parts of the Book. — Burdens, Cheer 
 and Character; Courtship and Marrying; Patience, Love and Kind- 
 ness; Guess Work and the Easy Way; Watchfulness, Christlikeness 
 and Prayer; Evenings, Little Things and Rest; Children and The 
 Children's Corner; and many, many others. 
 
 . INGRATITUDE. (34) 
 
 34:1. Helps in Bearing- It. — The man who slaps you in the face after 
 you have done him a real kindness (in real love) has not forgotten it; 
 he is only trying to forget it. But in spite of all his efforts, the mem- 
 ory of it will remain; and is sure to do him good. 
 
 34:2. Kindred Topics in Other Parts of the Book. — Carelessness, Tem- 
 per and Excuses; Unhappiness and Discouragement; Besetting Sins 
 and Doing Wrong. — For opposites see Thankfulness, 
 
 KINDNESS. (35) 
 
 35:1. Words Not Enough. — Kind words are not enough. Your voice 
 and looks and actions must all be kind; which they cannot be, unless 
 you really feel kind. 
 
 35:2. Mistaken Kindness. — It is not true jdndness to let any one, old 
 or young, have what they ask for; unless it is good for them, and can 
 be given without wronging some one else. 
 
 35:3. A Loving Hurt. — Kind words sometimes hurt fearfully; but 
 it is a helpful hurt. But that is no excuse for unkind words; or for 
 kindly meant ones that hurt one whit more than is really necessary. 
 
 For Full List of Topics See Index. 
 
THE BETTER WAY 
 
 Yet if the words were kind, or half kind, let us ho. grateful for them, 
 even if they were unwise. — And if they were unkind, let us forgive 
 them. 
 
 35:4. Cross References. — Kindly Criticism, 14:1. Kindliness and Pa- 
 tience, 45:1. Kindliness and Fun, 40:1. 
 
 35:5. Kindred Topics in Other Parts of the Book. — Cheerfulness, 
 Helpfulness and Home; Patience, Love and Happiness; Watchful- 
 ness, Christlikeness and Goodness; and last, but not least, Criticising 
 in Love, 14:1 and 2. For opposites see Unkindness.* 
 
 LIFE IN GENERAL. (36) 
 
 36:1. The Bright Side of Life. — All things work together for good 
 to them that love God, (Rom. 8:28.) Yes, all things. But, the more 
 we love Him, the greater will be the blessing; for sometimes our love 
 is so small that the blessing cannot be very great. Yet even to the 
 very faintest love some blessing is sure to be given. 
 
 36:2. A Book of Remembrance — It is a great help when Hempted, lone- 
 ly, 3discouraged or 4perplexed if we can clearly bring to mind some of 
 the bright examples that have cheered and strengthened us in times 
 gone by; and also some of the hopeful things in the lives of those 
 whose faults oftenest discourage and disappoint us. Ordinarily these 
 bright spots easily come to mind, when we set out heartily to hunt 
 for them. But sometimes our memories seem very dull; for discour- 
 agement and tempter have silenced them. At such times a little 
 "Book of Remembrance" is very helpful. Several such lie before 
 me now. Some of the owners' favorite references I find repeated on 
 nearly every page, for they like to dwell on them and see them often; 
 but new ones keep coming in, showing that the writers are seeing 
 more and more of the bright side of life. Let me give some of the 
 entries, simply changing or omitting names: Mother's gen- 
 erosity. -'s earnest prayer meeting talks. Father's patience. 
 
 Father's past life. Aunt 's sweet life. John's forgiveness. J's 
 
 faithfulness. H. B's help in my work. P's improvement in school. 
 My talk with . Our stay in N. These hard times! 
 
 If you do not already keep some such book, let me advise you to 
 have one. For though some of this good news has been gath- 
 ered from plain, two-cent pocket books, and some from fine, gilt- 
 edged and expensively bound ones, it all has the same ring and has 
 helped in many an hour of need. ( For Children's Good^News Books 
 see B:5.) 
 
 *See Index. 
 
 For Full List of Topics See Index, 
 
OR SIMPLE HELPS FOR MOMENTS OF NEED 25 
 
 36:3. Cross References. — Life Is Full of Opportunities, 44:1. Things 
 in Life That Easily Remind Us of Heaven, 30:3. Kindred Topics 
 too numerous to mention. 
 
 LITTLE THINGS. (37) 
 
 37:1. Beware How You Call Things Little. — Be very careful how you 
 use that word little. For it often happens that things are not as little 
 (in real importance) as they seem. — Above all be careful not to call 
 anything little that is bringing confusion or blackness into your own 
 life or some one else's. 
 
 37:2. Little Minutes. — A minute a day makes six hours a year; and 
 a minute of folly may bring hours of pain. Then don't dispise the 
 minutes. 
 
 37:3. Spending Time on Little Things. — Don't stop to argue about 
 little things. Don't even stop to do them, except when you can see 
 that they will somehow make life brighter and better. But when 
 they do help, don't be ashamed to do them, and to do them heartily 
 and well. 
 
 37:4. Cross References. — Praying About Little Things, 48:1. Little 
 Blessings, 55:1. Doing Wrong in Little Things, 20:2. "Little Things," 
 and Unhappiness, 58:3, Fussing,* and many others. 
 
 LONELINESS. (38) 
 
 38:1. A Cure for Loneliness. — -Often bring to mind the dear ones, 
 living and dead, who are now so far away, and ask God to help you 
 to be true J to them and 2 to all the good they taught you. Then go 
 quietly about your work (generally some very simple work), and put 
 into it all the wisdom and love you can; and soon you will find that 
 the very memories which make you so sad and weak are becoming a 
 source of gladness and power. 
 
 38:2. Cross References. — A Lonely Married Life, 13:1. When Cheer 
 Grows Dim, 9:2. Books of Remembrance, 36:2. 
 
 38:3. Kindred Topics. — See Discouragement and Suffering. Also 
 Mourners. — For opposites see Cheerfulness. 
 
 LOVE. (39) 
 
 39:1. Why Do We Love Menf — We love them for the good there is 
 in them; not because they are perfect. — Then seek out the good, and 
 
 *See Index. 
 
 For Full List of Topics See Index. 
 
26 THE BETTER WAY 
 
 think of it oftener than you do, and love will spring up; even if side 
 by side of the good you see a great deal that is wrong and faulty. 
 
 39:2. Love — Hoxv to Increase It. — Love is like wheat; the more of 
 it you plant, in a well-considered, careful way, the more you will 
 have. 
 
 39:3. Cross References. — Love In Heaven, 30:1. Love as a Motive 
 in Business and Life, 6:1. Love as a Source of Happiness and 
 Growth, 31:1. Love Cannot Be in Vain, 24:1. 
 
 39:4. Kindred Topics in Other Parts of the Book. — Patience, Prayer 
 and Kindness; Love of God (Section 26) and Helping Others; and, 
 in a somewhat different sense, Courtship, Marrying and Home. — Op- 
 posites; Indifference*; Selfishness* and [Hatred.] 
 
 Marrying. — See Courtship and Marrying. 
 
 MEANNESS. (40) 
 
 40:1. Meanness and Fun. — "Don't mistake meanness for fun." True 
 fun makes everybody laugh; meanness makes one person laugh and 
 another cry. 
 
 40:2. For Kindred Topics see Unkindness.* 
 
 OUR MISFORTUNES. (41) 
 
 41:1. Exaggerating Them. — Take care not to exaggerate your mis- 
 fortunes, and many of them will trouble you no longer. 
 
 41:2. For full list of Kindred Topics see Suffering. 
 MONEY. (42) 
 
 42:1. Loveliness First; Money Second. — Wherever you find a lovely 
 mother and a loving father, you will always find a happy home. But 
 you can often find good clothes and plenty of money where there is 
 no home and no gladness. For money is a helpful and important tool 
 for him who loves his fellow man; but is always a disappointing 
 curse to him who gives it the first place in his life or thought. 
 
 42:2. Cross Reference. — Our Motives in Business, 6:1. 
 
 *See Index. 
 
 For Full List of Topics See Index. 
 
OR SIMPLE HELPS FOR MOMENTS OF NEED 27 
 
 42:3. Kindred Topics in Other Parts of the Book. — Business and 
 Work; Hard Times and Poverty; and Opportunities. For dishonest 
 use of money, see Dishonesty; for unwise use of it, see Restlessness 
 and Guess Work. 
 
 FOR MOURNERS. (43) 
 
 43:1. Those Who Have Gone Before. — When little ones and older 
 ones (who have won and deserved our love) go on before us, we may 
 be sure that the same kind God is tenderly caring for them still, ac- 
 cording to their need. And the more we learn to ask His help and 
 trust in Him, the more comfort shall we find in this one simple thought, 
 that He still cares for them and us. 
 
 43:2. Kindred Topics. — See Suffering and Heaven; and the lists of 
 cross references and kindred topics there given. 
 
 Newspapers. — See Books and Newspapers. 
 
 OPPORTUNITIES. (44) 
 
 44:1. Life is Fid! of Them. — Yes, life is full of difficulties and hin- 
 drances. But it is also full of opportunities. But the trouble is that 
 we turn up our noses at many of the little opportunities, and so never 
 become skillful enough to r find and 2 catch, and 3keep and *use the 
 larger ones. But if you will use your little openings in an earnest, 
 hearty, wide-awake way, and strive each day to become a little more 
 skillful in using them, you are sure to find larger opportunities and a 
 wider influence as the days and years roll by. 
 
 44:2. Cross References. — How to Start Up the Ladder, 32:1. — Kin- 
 dred Topics: Life, Doing Right and many others. 
 
 PATIENCE. (45) 
 
 45:1. A little bit of patience often makes the sunshine come. [Anon] 
 
 45:2. How Patience Grows. — Patience comes from trying to put in 
 practice under difficulties what little love for others and trust in God 
 we have. Then, if we persevere, the love, the patience and the trust 
 slowly grow stronger, till at last the ripened fruit is very beautiful 
 and very, very sweet. 
 
 45:3. Cross References. — How to Get God's Help, 5:1. Helps to 
 Self-Control, 2:3. Going Into Repentance Corner, 10:6. 
 
 For Full List of Topics See Jndex. 
 
28 THE BETTER WAY 
 
 45:4. Kindred Topics in Other Parts of the Book. — Godliness, Christ- 
 likeness and Goodness; Kindness and Love. — For opposites see Rest- 
 lessness, Drudgery, Crossness, etc. 
 
 POSTPONING. (46) 
 
 46:1. When Proper; When Not. — Never postpone doing a thing sim- 
 ply because you dread it; but if you have any doubt as to whether it 
 is right or not, then it is your duty to always postpone it till you see 
 clearly what you ought to do. (For reasons see 19:4.) But though 
 you may and should postpone the matter about which you feel some 
 doubt, you should turn very quickly to some other work, (watching, 
 listening, thinking or acting,) which you are sure is right, or at least 
 an honest, hearty step in the right direction; that by some other way 
 you may be led out into the full light and usefulness of a true and 
 busy life. 
 
 46:2. Cross References. — Choosing the Easiest Way, 22:1. What to 
 Do When in Doubt, 19:4. Postponing the Study of a Thought, 51:1. 
 
 46:3. Kindred Topics. — Time-Using and Haste.* 
 
 POVERTY. (47) 
 
 47:1. Poverty and Happiness. — Why is it that poor men's homes are 
 often so happy? It is because "The things that help most in mak- 
 ing life happy do not cost much money;" [Ram's Horn] and love, 
 care and industry can make a very happy home out of little. For 
 though poverty often brings upon men much unjust, though often 
 unavoidable suffering, and at such times points to a wrong some- 
 where which should be righted as soon as possible, thank God such 
 suffering can always be turned into a blessing and be one of God's 
 helps in making your life a larger, happier and more useful one! 
 
 47:2. Kindred Topics hi Other Parts of the Book. — Burdens, Misfor- 
 tunes and Suffering; Discouragement, Hard Times and Money; Op- 
 portunities and Work. 
 
 PRAYER. (48) 
 
 48:1. Praying About Little Things. — "Do you pray about such little 
 things?" she asked, in-surprise. "Yes, when they trouble or perplex 
 me; for that shows that I need help; and whenever we ask God's help 
 in a really trusting spirit, or even in true humility, He always gives it." 
 
 [Altered] 
 
 *See index. 
 
 For Full List of Topics See Index. 
 
OR SIMPLE HELPS FOR MOMENTS OF NEED 29 
 
 ,48:2. Cross References. — Going to God for Help and Getting It, 5:1. 
 Going to God for Forgiveness, 10:6. Nearness to Christ, n :i. 
 
 48:3. Kindred Topics in Other Parts of the Book. — Godliness and 
 Watchfulness; Thankfulness and Love. 
 
 REST. (49) 
 
 49:1. A Clear and Quiet Brain. — Never count your time wasted if 
 your working, waiting, resting or playing has given you a clearer and 
 quieter brain. For without it a man's power to do r large, blasting and 
 3satisfying work is lessened many fold. 
 
 49:2. Cross References. — Taking Time to Rest, 56:1. Rest at Even- 
 ing, 23:1. Not Letting Your Work Drive You, 60:1. Resting In 
 God, 26:5. 
 
 49:3. Kindred Topics in Other Parts of the Book. — Books and Talk- 
 ing; Evenings and Home; Work and Play.* — For healthy opposites 
 see Work; for unhealthy opposites see Restlessness and Overwork.* 
 
 RESTLESSNESS. (50) 
 
 50:1. Its Cause and Cure. — Restlessness may be partially covered 
 up {and made more dangerous) but can never be cured by taking a 
 larger dose of the things you so restlessly long for. The only way to 
 cure it is to let alone the things you so long for, till you are able to 
 make your decisions more quietly and wisely. For even when harm - 
 less and desirable in themselves, your restlessness shows that they 
 have got misplaced in your life and thought, and are injuring, and up- 
 setting you instead of helping. (If I were to define restlessness I 
 should say it was a more or less impatient and hasty longing for 
 change.) 
 
 50:2. Cross References. — "I Haven't Time," 56:1. Little Changes 
 Often Help, 19:4. 
 
 50:3. Kindred Topics in Other Parts of the Book. — Guess Work and 
 Worry*; Loneliness and Drudgery; Carlessness and Besetting Sins. 
 — For best tonics see Watchfulness, Rest and Patience. 
 
 Right. — See Doing Right. 
 
 ♦See Index. 
 
 For Full List of Topics See Index. 
 
30 THE BETTER WAY 
 
 STUDY— IN GENERAL. (51) 
 
 51:1. Keeping Thoughts for Future Study. — Writing a thought down 
 and then laying it away for future study or criticism is a great help 
 to vigorous and far reaching thought. But if you wish for something 
 more than merely superficial influence and hope to really benefit and 
 enlarge men's thoughts and lives, you must also spend much time in 
 rewriting and correcting your statements, always taking for each day's 
 study the ones which are clearest at the time, (51:3). 
 
 As an important help in doing this I would suggest that you keep 
 a part of your writings and clippings in simple envelopes, and on 
 rather small sheets of paper, so that one part can easily be revised or 
 even rewritten without copying or disfiguring all. Ordinary No. 5 
 or 6 manilla envelopes and little slips of writing paper, 5 inches by 
 2^i or 5 by 2, are the sizes I find most satisfactory. — This way of work- 
 ing will help you in noticing or correcting many inaccuracies which 
 would be sure to pass unnoticed in simply rewriting the article or 
 thought as a whole. 
 
 You should use both paper and envelopes freely; only do not mark 
 your envelopes in ink, as your envelope titles will change oftener than 
 any other part of your collection, and you will probably wish to use 
 the same envelopes over and over again. (Cheap letter paper can be 
 got for from ten to fifteen cents a package of five quires; and manilla 
 envelopes for from sixty to seventy-five cents per box of five hun- 
 dred.) 
 
 51:2. Seed Thoughts. — Even very crude, unripe and even untrue 
 thoughts, if healthfully suggestive, are often worth writing down and 
 keeping; because of some seed thought which they contain. But 
 they should always be kept by themselves, as mere raw material, and 
 not in the same set of envelopes as your more finished and carefully 
 tested thoughts. 
 
 51:3. Studying the Things That Are Already Clearest. — If you wish 
 to use your time and strength to the best advantage, you should 
 make it your rule to spend most of it in studying and applying more 
 closely the things which are already clearest in your mind. If you 
 do this honestly and patiently, (and without mixing in a lot of guess 
 work,) you will find it a sure and quick way of learning yet more and 
 helping others to do the same. 
 
 For Full List of Topics See index. 
 
OR SIMPLE HELPS FOR MOMENTS OF NEED 31 
 
 51:4. Cross References. — Do Not Always Choose the Easiest Way, 
 2 s 2:i. When to Put it Off, When Not, 46:1. How and When to Use 
 the Truth (and Not Use It,) 57:1. Spending Time on Little Things, 
 37:3. Studying Lovely Characters, 29:2 and 36:2. A Book of Re- 
 membrance, 36:2. 
 
 51:5. Kindred Topics in Other Parts of the Book. — Books, News- 
 papers and Talk; Truth and Guess Work; Character and Insight.* 
 
 SUFFERING. (52) 
 
 52:1. Often Proves a Blessing. — "That which was bitter to endure is 
 often sweet to remember;" for out of it God has brought a blessing. 
 
 52:2. The Hard Things. — Don't dwell on the hard things; for it only 
 makes them harder; but rather remember that God can turn them all 
 into blessings, if you will but willingly let Him plan for you. 
 
 52:3. Cross References. — How to Get God's Help in Bearing It, 5:1. 
 Suffering for the Right, 19:7. Christ's Help, 11:1. The Bright Side, 
 36:1. Choosing the Easiest Way, 22:1. 
 
 52:4 Kindred Topics in Other Parts of the Book. — Burdens and Mis- 
 fortunes; Mourning and Poverty; Discouragement and Loneliness; 
 and, finally, Self-Sacrifice* and Unhappiness. 
 
 TALKING. (53) 
 
 53:1. Talking Too Much and Talking Too Little. — A man may expose 
 his own ignorance, 2 narrowness or else 3 weakness, both by too much 
 talking and by too little; and wherever you are, you will get far more 
 credit for what you do know, if you are careful to avoid both the one 
 extreme of boastful or unthinking talkativeness, and the other of 
 proud or frightened silence. 
 
 53:2. Talking Too Long. — In giving advice, especially when some 
 rebuke is mingled with it, and also in all other attempts to persuade 
 and win men, we should be careful not to talk too long. For a little 
 too much talking may cancel much of the good done by our previous 
 'rebuke, 2 advice or Sexplanation. 
 
 53:3. Your Tongue, — Look out for your tongue; for it can do a great 
 deal of mischief. — Use your tongue; for if you use it carefully and at 
 the right time, you can do a great deal of good, be you great or be you 
 small, be you learned or unlearn'd. 
 
 *See Index. 
 
 For Full List of Topics See Index. 
 
32 THE BETTER WAY 
 
 53:4. Cross References. — Talking and Thinking Too Much, A Source 
 of Weakness, 19:6. The Tones of the Voice, 35:1. Talking with 
 Mamma, B:i8. 
 
 53:5. Kindred Topics in Other Parts of the Book. — Advice, Criticism 
 and Gossip; Rest and Prayer; Truth and Study; Books, Home and 
 Evenings. 
 
 TEMPER. (54) 
 
 54; 1. Hoiv to Tame a Quick Temper. — Is there any cure for a quick 
 temper? Yes, there is; a slow one, but a very sure one, namely; 
 fighting it out the same day with yourself (explained more fully in 
 Section 2:2.) This always results in slowly but surely giving a man 
 control ot even the worst temper. Nor do I know of any other cure. 
 But since this is so effective, and so helpful in many other ways, no 
 fair-minded man can complain at its slowness. 
 
 54:2. Two Fools Instead of One. — When another man acts like a fool 
 in your presence, you will be very apt to see it, and it may be proper 
 to say that he is acting like a fool, provided, your saying it will do 
 anybody any good. But if you get all stirred up or cross in seeing, or 
 saying it, then it only proves that there are two fools instead of one, 
 and you ought to make haste to catch and tame the one nearest 
 home, the one over whom you have most authority. Then catch the 
 other, if you can; but not till then. 
 
 54:3. Cross References. — Fighting It Out The Same Day, 2:2. Helps 
 in Regaining Your Self-Control, 2:3. 
 
 54.4. Kindred Topics in Other Parts of the Book. — Crossness and 
 Anger; Drudgery and Unfriendly Criticism, 14:2 and 3; Carelessness 
 and Unhappiness; Watchfulness and Besetting Sins. 
 
 THANKFULNESS. (55) 
 
 55:1. Our Little Blessings. — When we learn to thankfully notice the 
 little blessings of life, their number steadily increases, and each be- 
 comes sweeter and greater than it has ever been before. 
 
 55:2. Kindred Topics in Other Parts of the Book. — Cheerfulness, Pa- 
 tience'and Love. — Its opposite, Ingratitude. 
 
 TIME-USING. (56) 
 
 56:1 "I Haven t Time.' 1 — Suppose a person were to say "I haven't 
 time to eat and sleep," and were to go without sleep or food for a 
 few days. How would it work? Would he really save time and ac- 
 complish more? Yet nearly all of us make just such mistakes as this 
 
OR SIMPLE HELPS FOR MOMENTS OF NEED 33 
 
 often enough and long enough to keep our minds and stomachs, our 
 nerves and brains all out of order. Let me ask you, Does it pay? 
 Do we accomplish more by so doing? Oh no; we work harder, but 
 accomplish less. The only safe rule is to never say, "I haven't time," 
 except when duty very plainly approves of your so doing, or calls 
 you elsewhere. A moment's rest or prayer, a little more watching, 
 a little more care in making sure you're doing right will save you from 
 many a sad mistake, and will also make you work so much faster 
 and-more skillfully later on, that, though you have less time, you ac- 
 complish more. Remember this, and you will save yourself and oth- 
 ers many a needless heart ache and back ache. 
 
 56:2. Cross References. — A Minute a Day, 37:2. Time versus Mon- 
 ey, 32:3. Spending Time on Little Things, 37:3. Doing Too Much, 60:1. 
 
 56:3. Kindred Topics in Other Parts of the Book. — Hints for Hard 
 Times, Work, Rest and Postponing; and, in the index, Hurry and 
 Haste. 
 
 TRUTH. (57) 
 
 57:1. How and When to Use the Truth. — "It's true." Yes; but does 
 it do you any good to think and talk about it? For truth, like medi- 
 cine and like food, cannot help you, if you use it carelessly, or even 
 at the wrong time. So learn to let alone some true things, and to use 
 others only in small doses, But be honest, 2 wise and 3careful in your 
 choice; and be careful not to despise the truths and half-truths for 
 which you have no present use; and also be careful not to despise a 
 truth because it has been very blunderingly stated, or because some 
 of those who talk about it are insincere, and some very stupid. For 
 some of the very truths which are oftenest twisted, counterfeited and 
 misunderstood are the most helpful to an honest, earnest lover of 
 truth and right. 
 
 57:2. How to Increase its Power. — The more clearly and truly and 
 wisely you can state a truth, the more lives it will reach and the more 
 deeply it will influence those that it does reach. Do not be contented 
 with the mere assertion that what you say is true. The question is 
 whether others will see that it is true; and how clearly will they see 
 it? and again will your manner of stating and presenting it make them 
 any more likely to see and profit by it? 
 
 57:3. A Word of Cheer for Truth Lovers. — He that loveth truth shall 
 find more and more of it; slowly sometimes, but very surely. [Selected] 
 
 57:4. Cross References. — True Gossip, 27:1. Using Truth Unwisely, 
 57:1. How Honest Men May Differ, 16:1. Apparent Confusion of 
 Truth, 19:5. 
 
 For Full List of Topics See Index. 
 
34 THE BETTER WAY 
 
 57:5. Kindred Topics in Other Parts of the Book. — Watchfulness, In- 
 sight* and Right; Study and Talk; Books and Newspapers; and Con- 
 sequences. — Its opposites are [Ignorance and Falsehood;] Excuses 
 and Guess Work. 
 
 UNHAPPINESS. (58) 
 
 58:1. Casting the Blame on Others. — Unhappy people often try to 
 persuade themselves and others that some one else is to be blame for 
 their being so unhappy; and it is in part true. But only in part; for 
 though most forms of suffering may come upon us, because of the 
 wrong doing of others, unhappiness is a marked exception and always 
 shows that in some way or other we are doing wrong ourselves. And 
 just as soon as you turn round and do yonr part properly, you will 
 find that no man or woman under heaven, not even your worst enemy 
 or unwisest friend, can force upon you that bitterest of all pains which 
 we call unhappiness, by the side of which all other suffering is a 
 very little thing. 
 
 58:2. Unhappy Christians. — But, says some one, good people are 
 often unhappy over the doings of others when they don't seem to be 
 doing anything wrong themselves. Yes; but look more closely and 
 you will find that though trying hard to do what they call right, they 
 are at some point distrusting God, or else resisting the real leadings 
 of their own healthier, wiser self. For what we call right and honest- 
 ly think right is often but a very faulty statement of our present duty; 
 and can bring no large blessing, however well meant, unless it is cor- 
 rected and completed by the more silent present leadings of conscience 
 and of God. 
 
 58:3. "One Little Thing. 11 — Many a man who calls himself good and 
 really does try hard to do right in most things, is very unhappy much 
 of the time because of some one thing which he persists in doing; 
 though he knows (down in his heart) that it is selfish, wrong, unwise 
 or dishonest. 
 
 58.4. Kindred Topics in Other Parts of the Book. — Guess Work and 
 Carelessness; Dishonesty and Wrong Doing; Excuses and Ingrati- 
 tude. — For opposites, see Happiness. 
 
 WATCHFULNESS. (59) 
 
 59:1. Watchfulness and Worry. — A happy, trustful life will be full of 
 watchfulness; but not of worry. For watchfulness comes from an 
 eager enthusiasm to do our part, and do it well; while worry comes 
 
 *See Index. 
 
 For Full List of Topics See Index. 
 
OR SIMPLE HELPS FOR MOMENTS OF NEED 35 
 
 from trying to plan out work which God in his greater wisdom never 
 meant we should touch at all, or at least does not wish to have us 
 touch now. 
 
 59:2. Cross References. — How to Get More Trust in God, 26:6. Our 
 Partnership with God, 5:1. But Just What is God's Part, 5:2. Doing 
 Little Things Heartily, 37:3. Why Do We So Often Miss Our Op- 
 portunities, 44:1. 
 
 59:3. Kindred Topics in Other Parts of the Book. — Patience and Do- 
 ing Right; Working and Praying. — For opposites see Carelessness, 
 Guess Work, and [Pride]. 
 
 WORK. (60) 
 
 60:1. "It Must Be Done :" — To see clearly that a piece of work is 
 needed and that it is our privilege or duty to do it, and do it now, al- 
 ways makes the work easier. But if you have an anxious, excited or 
 desperate feeling that it must be done, regardless of consequences, 
 then you may be sure that you are going at it in a wrong and foolish 
 way. "But," you say, "what can I do? The work must be done." 
 I reply: Take time to J pray over it, and to 2 collect your wits a bit, 
 for you can always spare that much time (Section 56:1), and one of 
 four things will happen: Either you will find that you are mistaken 
 and the work need not be done at all; or, secondly, that God is not 
 willing th&t you should do it; or, thirdly, that you should not do it 
 now, or at least, not all of it; or, fourthly, you will find some way of 
 making it easier. 
 
 60:2. Cross References. — Work and Play, How Related, B:i5. Shall 
 the Children Work? 10:2. Shall I Choose the Easiest? 22:1. Work- 
 ing for Poor Pay, 32:1. Swapping Work, 32:2. Choosing Your Work 
 in Too Great a Hurry, 56:1. Finding Happiness in Your Work, 29:3. 
 Work in Heaven, 30:1. 
 
 60:3. Kindred Topics in Other Parts of the Book. — Opportunities and 
 Business; Overwork* and Drudgery; Burdens and Rest; Careless- 
 ness and Guess Work; Time-Using and Watchfulness. Also Hints 
 for Hard Times. 
 
 Wrong Doing. — See Doing Wrong. 
 
 For Full List of Topics See Index. 
 
Children's Corner 
 
 BIBLE VERSES FOR JOHNNIE. 
 
 B:i. "Let Your Light Shine." — Johnnie is a very little boy, but he 
 likes to talk and "study;" so his papa is making a book of Bible 
 Verses for him to learn. Here is one of them: "Let your light shine." 
 It is found in Matthew 5:16. Can you find it? 
 
 B:2. "My Father s House." — Johnnie's next verse is in John 14: I to 3 
 That's a funny name for a book, isn't it? But it's a nice book, and 
 here's the verse: "In my Father's house are many homes." Some of 
 these homes are in heaven; and some down here; for Jesus loves to 
 come and "make his home 1 ' with those who love Him. (See John 14:23.) 
 
 B:3. Trusting and Doing. — Still another of Johnnie's verses is in 
 Psalm 37:3 — "Trust in the Lord and do good." It is one his grand- 
 ma found for him. And what does it mean? It means that God will 
 help you, every day, and give you all that's really good for you that 
 day. So you need not ever be afraid. But it also says that you must 
 Do Something; doing good every day, and loving what is good, even 
 it you can't do much. 
 
 B:4. We hope some time to have a whole big book of these Bible 
 Verses for Children. This is only the beginning. But if you and 
 your mamma can hunt up some more and send me a part of them, I 
 shall be very glad. What I want is verses that even little bits of boys 
 and girls can understand pretty well. Your friend, 
 
 Grinnell, Iowa. W. H. Wheeler. 
 
 BOOKS AND PAPERS. 
 
 B:5. "Something Nice" — Little Rose has a book which she calls 
 "Something Nice." Can you guess what's in it? Nice things about 
 other folks, She can't write herself; but tells her mamma and papa 
 what to write and they put it down. Three of her little entries I will 
 
CHILDREN'S CORNER 37 
 
 copy for you to see: Mamma helps papa; Robby "dited;" and 
 Mayo's nice. Some of the nicest ones she gets down a great many 
 times. I have seen many such books; perhaps some day you'll let me 
 see yours. . Mr. Editor. 
 
 B:6. Johnnie s Writing Desk. — Johnnie has a little box, full of little 
 bits of papers which he calls his writing desk; and he often gets it 
 out and writes letters and 'tories for Grandma, Grandpa, Auntie 
 Emily and Auntie May. Nobody can read Johnnie's stories; but it's 
 easy to guess what they mean; and they do Johnnie lots of good. 
 
 CROSSNESS. 
 
 B:7. Too Much Pepper. — When a boy or girl gets cross he has put 
 too much pepper in the soup, and makes a great many people suffer. 
 But he always suffers most; for there is sure to be three times as much 
 pepper in his soup as in anybody else's. 
 
 B:8. James' Testimony. — "When I get cross I am always ashamed 
 of myself afterwards." 
 
 HELPING SOMEBODY. 
 
 B:o„ Helping Mamma. — Mamma helps me and I help mamma; that's 
 the way to be happy. 
 
 B:io. Washing Dishes. — Johnnie and I wash dishes for mother, and 
 little Lucy helps wipe them. Clarence. 
 
 B:ii. Taking Care of Papa. — One day when papa was sick, baby 
 Esther took her little doll-quilt and covered him up. Then she gave 
 him a kiss and said, "Now feel better;" and papa laughed and said 
 he really did feel better. Shouldn't you think he would? 
 
 B:i2. Helping Jesus in Heaven. — Little Stella loved to help others 
 here; and now she is in heaven helping Jesus. 
 
 OBEYING. 
 
 B:i3. Obeying Mamma Quickly. — Ethel likes to jump and play; but 
 when her mamma calls her she goes very quickly. 
 
 B:i4. Obeying My Mother. — My mother says she isn't perfect; and 
 makes mistakes. But I know she's real nice and knows a great deal 
 more than I do. That's why I ought to be glad to do what she tells 
 me to; and that's why she makes me do it, so that I may be as nice 
 as she is and perhaps a little nicer, when I grow up. That's what 
 she says, Rollo. 
 
3 8 CHILDREN'S CORNER 
 
 PLAY. 
 
 B:i5. Work and Play. — I like pl-ay and mother says that play is one 
 kind of work, real helpful work. Only it's the easiest kind; and she 
 says that if I want to be a good, strong woman, I must do some hard 
 work too; some hard work and some easy work, and some very easy 
 work (or play), and do them all nicely. Bessie. 
 
 B:i6. Making a Noise. — Yes, my boy, make plenty of noise; it's 
 good for boys; only don't make it except when mother says you may. 
 
 SLEEPING. 
 
 B:i7. Early to Bed. — If I don't get sleep enough, it makes me cross; 
 and if I stay in bed when I ought to get up and go to work, it makes 
 me cross. So "Early to bed and quick to rise" is my motto for bed 
 time and morning. James. 
 
 TALKING WITH MAMMA. 
 
 B:i8. Bible Stories for Baby. — When little Minnie was two years old, 
 her mamma used often to sing to her: 
 
 Jesus loves me, this I know, 
 
 For the Bible tells me so; 
 
 Little ones to Him belong; 
 
 They are weak, but he is strong. 
 And baby would say, "Desus dove baby," and "Baby dove mamma;" 
 and then she would ask for some stories about Jesus. In simple, 
 baby talk the stories sounded funny; but baby liked them, and mam- 
 ma liked them, and papa liked them too. 
 
 THINKING OF OTHERS. 
 
 B:io,. Shut the Door. — Shut the door, when you come in and when 
 you go out; for mamma's feet are not as warm as yours. 
 
 WORK. 
 
 B:20. Cooking. — I am learning to cook; and on Saturdays I have 
 full charge of the dinner and supper. Gracie Freeman. 
 
 B:2i. Selling Kindlings. — Father bought half a cord of soft wood 
 for me; then I sawed and split it and sold it for kindlings. Peter. 
 
 B:22. Working for Music Lessons. — Mollie Brown helps Mrs. King 
 three hours every Saturday, and gets a music lesson in return. 
 
NDEX 
 
 TO THE BETTER WAY 
 
 Definitions are in italics. 
 
 Numbers refer to sections and paragraphs. 
 
 B refers to the Children's Corner, which begins on Page 36. 
 
 Kindred Topics (or K Ts) refer the reader to topics in other parts of the book 
 which may help him in his studies. 
 
 Capitals. — Where single words (like Love and Truth) are spelled with a capi- 
 tal, they are section titles; but when capitals are not used (as in worry and haste), 
 the reference can be found only by looking first in the index. 
 
 Brackets. — Topics in brackets — e. g. [Pride] — have not as yet been discussed in 
 any part of the book; but may be helpful to the reader. 
 
 Abuse — 
 
 K Ts, Ingratitude and Temper. 
 
 Accidents — 
 
 See Suffering and Criticising; (esp. 
 10:5 and 52:2). 
 
 Accommodating — 
 
 K Ts, Kindness and [Policy.] 
 
 Accuracy- 
 Spending Time on Little Things. 37:3 
 K Ts, Carelessness, Little Things 
 and Truth. 
 
 Acknowledgements — 
 
 K Ts, Talking and Thankfulness. 
 
 Advice — Section i. 
 
 Advising Discouraged People... 17:1 
 
 The Final Decision 19:2 
 
 Shall I Take It? 1:1 
 
 Talking Too Long 53:2 
 
 Kindred Topics 1^3 
 
 Affability — See Talking. 
 
 Affection — Misplaced Affection 13:1 
 
 K Ts — Courtship, Loneliness, 
 Home, and, in a more general 
 way, Love. 
 
 Affliction- 
 See Suffering- and Mourners, 
 
 Afraid — See fear. 
 
 Agnosticism — How to Find God... 26:6 
 
 Aims in Business, 6:1 
 
 Aims of a Happy Life 29:5 
 
 Aimlessness — Effects of 21:1 
 
 K Ts, Carelessness, Drudgery, etc. 
 
 Alcoholic Drinks — 
 
 See ''using alcoholic drinks." 
 
 Alienation — See misunderstandings. 
 
 Amiability — ■ 
 
 K Ts, The Easy Way and Kind- 
 ness. 
 
 Amusements — See Rest and play. 
 
 Anger— Section 2. 
 Fighting Tt Out the Same Day. . . 2:2 
 Helps in Regaining Your Self- 
 control When Angry.. 2:3 
 
 Is It Right to Get Angry? 2:1 
 
 Two Fools Instead of One 54:2 
 
 Kindred Topics 2:5 
 
 Annoyances — 
 
 Praying Over Little Things 48:1 
 
 K Ts — Burdens, Crossness and 
 Temper. 
 
}o 
 
 INDEX TO THE BETTER WAY 
 
 17:1 
 
 19:2 
 
 53:i 
 
 53:i 
 
 26:6 
 
 Anxiety- 
 See worry, fear, and Burdens. 
 Appearances — 
 
 K T Guess Work. 
 Arguments — 
 
 Are not Suited to Discouraged 
 
 People 
 
 Arguments alone cannot settle a 
 
 question of duty in real life 
 
 Talking Too Long 
 
 Also see discussion and word 
 proofs. 
 Argumentativeness — 
 
 Talking Too Long 
 
 Atheism — 
 
 Different Kinds of, and Their 
 
 Cure 
 
 Avarice — See covetousness. 
 Axioms — 
 
 Of Right 19:1 
 
 Approach toward them in the 
 
 statement of truth 57 :2 
 
 Babies — See Children. 
 Backsliding — 
 
 Study carefully Doing Right, 
 Doing Wrong and Godliness. 
 Bad Luck — See Suffering. 
 Bad Temper — See Temper. 
 
 Bashful Silence 53:1 
 
 Beauty Alone Not Enough 13:1 
 
 Bed Time B:i7 
 
 Beliefs— 
 
 K Ts, Truth and Differences of 
 Opinion. 
 Benevolence (or love at work) — 
 As a Motive in Business and in 
 
 Life 6:1 
 
 As a Source of Happiness and 
 
 Growth 31:1 
 
 For K Ts see Love. 
 Besetting Sins — Section 3. 
 
 How to Overcome Them. 3:1 
 
 Kindred Topics 3:2 
 
 Bible- 
 Bible Stories for Baby B:i8 
 
 Bible Verses for Children B:i to 4 
 
 For lists of Bible verses quoted, or 
 referred to, see titles of various 
 books. 
 
 Bigotry (a narrow and short-sight- 
 ed earnestness.) 
 
 Also see earnestness and Guess 
 Work. 
 Bitterness — 
 
 See Unhappiness and Temper. 
 Blame — 
 Blaming Others for Our Unhap- 
 piness 58:1 
 
 K Ts, Temper, Criticising and 
 rebuke. 
 Blessings — 
 
 Born of Suffering 52:1 and 36:1 
 
 God's Larger Ones 26:4 
 
 Noticing the Little Ones «:l 
 
 Blues- 
 Praying Over Little Things 48:1 
 
 What Does God Require of Us?. 26:2 
 
 When Cheer Grows Dim 9:2 
 
 K Ts, Burdens — Great and Small, 
 Discouragement, Little Things, 
 Loneliness, Misfortunes, etc. 
 Blunders — 
 K Ts, Guess Work and Careless- 
 ness. 
 Boisterousness — See noise. 
 Books — Section 4 
 
 "Books and Papers," (Children's 
 
 Corner) 6:5 and 6 
 
 Books of Remembrance 36:2 
 
 How to Read 4:1 
 
 Laying up Treasure for Others.. 4:3 
 
 Reading Too Much •.. 4:2 
 
 Kindred Topics 4:4 
 
 Borrowed Money — • 
 
 Return it Promptly 6:2 
 
 Boys— 
 
 (All the simpler parts of the book.) 
 (Also Children, Home and the 
 Children's Corner, page 36.) 
 
 Brain — Clear and Quiet 49:1 
 
 Bright Side of Life 36:1 
 
 Bungler (an unskillful, careless and 
 
 yet conceited workman). 
 Burdens — Great and Small — Section 5. 
 
 The Bright Side 36:1 
 
 How to Bear Them More Easily. 5:1 
 
 Just What is God's Part? 5 :2 
 
 Seemingly Unbearable Ones 19:7 
 
 Tomorrow's Burdens 5:3 
 
 Kindred Topics S'-S 
 
 For Key to Index See Page 39 
 
INDEX TO THE BETTER WAY 
 
 Business— Section 6. ! 
 
 How to Start Up the Ladder.... 32:1 
 
 Our Motives in Business. 6:1 
 
 Returning Borrowed Money 
 
 Promptly 6:2 
 
 Simply Yes or No 19:2 
 
 Kindred Topics 
 
 Buying — 
 
 By Exchange of Work 
 
 Versus Making for Yourself 
 
 Cant — 
 
 The Cant of Others, No Excuse 
 
 for Truth-Despising 
 
 Care (has two meanings) — 
 
 K Ts, anxiety and carefulness. 
 Carefulness — 
 
 In Little Things, When Neces- 
 
 64 
 
 32:2 
 32:3 
 
 57:1 
 
 sary 5 
 
 37:3 
 
 K Ts, Watchfulness and Patience. 
 For opposites see Carelessness, 
 haste and Guess Work. 
 Carelessness — Section 7. 
 
 32:1 
 58:1 
 44:1 
 
 29:2 
 
 7:3 
 57:1 
 
 28:1 
 
 19:4 
 
 Carelessness and Failure 
 
 Casting the Blame on Others . 
 
 Despising Little Opportunities 
 
 Is Sure to Bring Trouble 7:1 
 
 Learning to Do Better by Ex- 
 ample 
 
 Kindred Topics 
 
 Casuistry — How to Use the Truth. . 
 Certainty — 
 
 How Far Possible 
 
 Also see axioms. 
 Chafing (a restless longing for more 
 
 liberty.) — K T, Restlessness. 
 Change- 
 Little Changes Are Often Helpful. 
 
 Longing for It Impatiently 50:1 
 
 Character — Section 8. 
 
 A Pure Heart 8:2 
 
 Where to Begin 8:1 
 
 Kindred Topics 8:3 
 
 Charity (in judging others)— ■ 
 
 See Criticising Others Sec. 14. 
 
 Why Honest Men Can Differ .... 16:1 
 Chastity — See sexual sins. 
 
 Cheapness — "Only Fifty Cents" 32:3 
 
 Cheating — See Dishonesty. 
 
 Cheer and Cheerfulness — Section 9. 
 
 Helping Each Other in Heaven. . 30:1 
 
 Hunting for Good News 36:2 
 
 For Key to Index See Page j>p 
 
 Only a Smile 
 
 Patience and Sunshine 
 
 The Secret of Cheerfulness. . . 
 Sending Good News Reports. 
 
 When Cheer Grows Dim 
 
 Kindred Topics 
 
 31:2 
 
 45:1 
 
 9:1 
 
 9:3 
 9:2 
 
 9:5 
 Children— Section 10. 
 
 Crossness in General 10:4 
 
 Going Into Repentance Corner.. 
 
 10:4 and 6 
 
 Idle Hands 10:1 
 
 Letting the Children Help 10:2 
 
 Praying About Little Things 48 : 1 
 
 Rebuking Children Needlessly, or 
 
 Too Sharply 10:5 
 
 Unaccountable Crossness 10:3 
 
 Your Example 10:7 
 
 Kindred Topics 10:9 
 
 Children's Corner Pages 36 to 39 
 
 Christ— 
 
 As a Friend 1 1 : 1 
 
 Also see Jesus (in index); and 
 Prayer and Christlikeness. 
 Christians — 
 
 Attractive Christians 11:2 
 
 Happy Christians II :l and 29:5 
 
 Unhappy Christians 58 :2 
 
 K Ts, Godliness and Christlike- 
 ness. 
 Christlikeness— Section 11. 
 
 Helping Others to Know Christ. . 11:2 
 
 Knowing Him Well Yourself 11:1 
 
 Kindred Topics 11:3 
 
 Circumstances — 
 
 (Something on nearly every page.) 
 
 Classifying Thoughts 51:1 
 
 Clear and Quiet Brain 49:1 
 
 Clear Insight — Some helps in get- 
 ting it are the following: 
 
 Well Digested Reading 4:1 
 
 Studying the Things That Are Al- 
 ready Clearest 51:3 
 
 Careful Reviews 51:1 
 
 Love of Truth 57:3 
 
 Obedience to the Real Leadings 
 
 of Conscience 19:1 and 2 
 
 Working for the Good of Oth- 
 ers 9:1 and 31:1 
 
 Gratitude to God 5^ :i 
 
 A Good Example 29:2 and 1 1 :2 
 
42 
 
 INDEX TO THE BETTER WAY 
 
 26:6 
 
 57:2 
 
 51:1 
 
 14:3 
 
 Clear Insight — 
 
 Four Ways of Lessening It. 
 Clearness of Statement — 
 
 Importance of 
 
 Closeness — See covetousness. 
 Comfort — 
 
 When to Seek It? 22:1 
 
 Comfort and Home 23:1 
 
 K Ts, Kindness, Rest and health. 
 Comforting Others — 
 
 Study carefully Life, Love, Kind- 
 ness, Godliness, Prayer, Jesu9 
 (Sec. 11), Truth, Cheer, Suffer- 
 ing, Example and How to Help 
 
 Discouraged People (17:1) 
 
 Common Place Books — 
 
 Envelopes are Better 
 
 Communicativeness — See Talking. 
 Compensation — See Suffering. 
 Condemning Others too Persistent 
 
 iy 
 
 K Ts Crossness, and other parts 
 of Section 14. 
 Confusion — 
 
 How to Lessen it 19:4 and Sec. 45 
 
 K Ts Little Things and Guess 
 Work. 
 Conscience {or the leadings of our 
 
 deeper life) See 19:1 
 
 Also study carefully the whole 
 
 section on Doing Right, where 
 
 it is often referred to. 
 
 Conscientiousness {an habitual wish 
 
 to do right) 
 
 Conscientiousness Alone is Not 
 
 Enough -58:2 and 19:1 
 
 Consecration— See holiness. 
 Consequences— 
 
 For a list of some of them see 
 Section 12. 
 Considerate — See Kind. 
 
 Contempt for Others 14:2 
 
 Contentment (in its higher forms) — 
 K Ts Godliness, Thankfulness, 
 Doing Right and Happiness. 
 Controversy — 
 
 K Ts discussion and Criticising. 
 Conversation — See Talking. 
 Convictions — 
 K Ts, knowledge, opinion and 
 Truth. 
 
 Cooking — Learning How B:2o 
 
 Cooperation — Swapping Work.... 32:2 
 Cordiality — 
 K Ts Love, Cheerfulness, Kind- 
 ness, Thankfulness and Pa- 
 tience. 
 
 Corinthians (1 Cor. 3:9) 5:1 
 
 Counsel— See Advice. 
 Courage — 
 
 K Ts, Burdens, Great and Small, 
 Godliness, Happiness (esp. 29:5) 
 and [Self-Forgetfulness.] 
 Courtesy — See politeness. 
 Courtship — Section 13. 
 
 Not Going by Guess Work 28:1 
 
 Praying Over It 48:1 
 
 Smartness and Beauty 13:1 
 
 Taking Advice 1 :i 
 
 Kindred Topics 13:3 
 
 Covetousness — 
 
 Loveliness First: Money Second. 42:1 
 K Ts, Restlessness and Money. 
 Cowardice {an unmanly and im- 
 proper fear) — See fear. 
 Creeds — See beliefs. 
 Criticising Others— Section 14. 
 
 Criticising Too Persistently 14:3 
 
 Despising Others 14:2 
 
 Poisoning Your Own Life 14:4 
 
 Speaking Kindly 14:1 
 
 Kindred Topics 14:5 
 
 Crossness— Section 15. 
 
 Of Adults 15:1 
 
 Of Children in General 10:4 
 
 James' Testimony, or Ashamed 
 
 of It B:8 
 
 Too Much Pepper B7 
 
 Unaccountable Crossness of Chil- 
 dren 10:3 
 
 Kindred Topics 15:3 
 
 Crude Thoughts— 
 
 Sometimes of Great Value 51 3 
 
 Curiosity {a rather aimless desire for 
 knowledge; often unhealthy, but 
 not always). 
 Death— 
 K Ts, Mourners, Suffering and 
 Heaven. 
 Debates- 
 How to Debate More Success- 
 fully 57^ 
 
 For Key to Index See Page jq 
 
INDEX TO THE BETTER WAY 
 
 43 
 
 Debts— Paying Them Promptly... 6:2 
 
 Dejection — See blues. " 
 
 Delay— 
 
 K Ts, Postponing and Restless- 
 ness. 
 
 Depression — 
 
 K Ts, sickness and blues. 
 
 Desires — See longings. 
 
 Despising Others 14:2 
 
 Despondency — See blues. 
 
 Details— See Little Things. 
 
 Deuteronomy (Deut. 33:25) 5,2 
 
 Differences of Opinion— Section 16. 
 
 Why Honest Men Can Differ 16:1 
 
 For Unfriendly Differences see 
 
 misunderstandings. 
 Kindred Topics 16:2 
 
 Difficulties- 
 How to Start Up the Ladder 32:1 
 
 Praying About Them 48:1 
 
 What to Do When in Doubt 19:4 
 
 K Ts, Burdens, Drudgery, Pover- 
 ty, Suffering, etc, 
 
 Diffidence 53:1 
 
 Digesting What We Read 4:2 and 1 
 
 Disadvantages — See difficulties. 
 
 Disagreeable People — 
 See Criticising and Love. 
 
 Disagreeable Work — 
 
 K Ts, Drudgery and Suffering. 
 
 Disagreements, Great and Small- 
 See misunderstandings. 
 
 Disappointments — 
 
 K Ts, Suffering, Misfortunes, and 
 often Unhappiness and Cross- 
 ness. 
 
 Disapproval — 
 Just Disapproval versus Anger.. 2:1 
 For K Ts see Temper and Criti- 
 cising. 
 
 Discernment — See "clear insight." 
 
 Discipline — See punishment. 
 
 Discomfort — 
 
 Kindred Topics. 52:4 
 
 AlsO see comfort. 
 
 Discontent — 
 See contentment, also sections on 
 Crossness, Temper, Guess 
 Work, Restlessness and Un- 
 happiness. 
 
 Discouragement — Section 17. 
 
 Don't Carry God's Part of the 
 
 Burden 59:1 and 19:4 
 
 Exaggerating our Misfortunes ... 41:1 
 
 How to Get God's Help 5:1 and 48:1 
 
 How to Help Discouraged People 17:1 
 
 How to Start Up the Ladder 32:1 
 
 Just How Much Ts God Willing 
 
 to Do? 5 
 
 What Does God Require of Us.. 26 
 
 U 
 
 57:1 
 
 57:2 
 16:1 
 
 Kindred Topics 
 
 Discussion — 
 How and When to Use Truth. 
 How to Increase the Power of 
 Truth 
 
 Why Honest Men Can Differ... 
 K Ts, Talking, logic and word- 
 proof. 
 
 Disheartened — 
 See Discouragement. 
 
 Dishonesty — Section 18 
 
 Calling It by Some Other Name.. 18:2 
 
 Dishonesty and Unhappiness 18:1 
 
 Dishonesty in "One Little Thing" 58:3 
 Kindred Topics 18:4 
 
 Disinterestedness — 
 
 K Ts, Love and [Self-Forgetful- 
 ness]. 
 
 Dislikes — 
 
 K Ts — Temper and Criticising. 
 
 Disputes — See misunderstandings. 
 
 Distrust in God and Its Consequen- 
 ces 19:7 and 58:2 
 
 Also see trust. 
 
 Docility — 
 When and How Far Desirable.. 1:1 
 
 Doctrines — See beliefs. 
 
 Dodging — 
 See Excuses and evasion. 
 
 Does It Pay?— 
 
 Hastily Chosen Work 56:1 
 
 Wrong Things That Look Right. 20:1 
 
 Doing Good — See Helping. 
 
 Doing Right— Section 19 
 
 Apparent Confusion Between 
 
 Right and Wrong 19:5 
 
 Doing Right Willingly. . 19:7 and 29:5 
 
 Don't Stop to Explain 19:6 
 
 Godliness and Love of Right 19:3 
 
 How to Decide 19:2 
 
 For Key to Index See Page 39 
 
44 
 
 INDEX TO THE BETTER WAY 
 
 Is It Always Easy and Pleasant? 19:7 
 
 Right and Wrong Defined 19:1 
 
 Simply Yes or No 19:2 
 
 What to Do When In Doubt 19:4 
 
 Kindred Topics 19:9 
 
 Doing Wrong — Section 20 
 Defined 19:1 
 
 Does It Pay: 
 
 How Related to Unhappiness 58:1 and 2 
 
 In Little Things 20:2 
 
 In "One Little Thing" 58:3 
 
 Kindred Topics 20:4 
 
 Doubt- 
 How to Get More Trust in God. . 26:6 
 
 What to Do When in Doubt 19:4 
 
 K T, Negations. 
 Dread — See fear. 
 Drifting — 
 
 Choosing the Easiest Way 22:1 
 
 Also see Postponing. 
 Drudgery — Section 21. 
 
 Why Do We Sometimes Hate 
 
 Our Work? . 21:1 
 
 Kindred Topics 21:2 
 
 Drunkards (repentant) — 
 
 See "using alcoholic drinks" 
 Duty — See Doing Right. 
 
 Dwelling on the Hard Things 52:2 
 
 Early to Bed B:i7 
 
 Earnestness — 
 
 K Ts, Love, Watchfulness, hope; 
 and a sense of the importance 
 of one's work. 
 The Easy Way — Section 22. 
 
 When to Choose It 22:1 
 
 Kindred Topics 22:2 
 
 Eating Too Much (mentally) 4:2 
 
 Economy — 
 
 Of Time. See Time-Using. 
 
 Of Strength. See health. 
 
 Of Money (in Hard Times) 32:3 
 
 Education— 
 
 K Ts — Books, Character, Chil- 
 dren, Study and many others. 
 Effects — See Consequences. 
 Employment — 
 
 See Opportunities, Work and 
 Hints for Hard Times. 
 Energy — 
 
 A Clear and Quiet Brain 49:1 
 
 Also health. 
 
 Enjoyment — 
 
 • Enjoying Christ's Love 11:1 
 
 Enjoying God 26:7 
 
 Also see pleasure. 
 Enthusiasm [strong love for one's 
 
 work) — Also see earnestness. 
 Envelopes— 
 
 For use in classifying thoughts. . 51:1 
 
 Ephesians (Eph. 4:26) 2:1 
 
 Errors — See mistakes. 
 Ethics [the science and theory of 
 right)— 
 Enables us to see more quickly 
 where duty probably lies; but 
 taken alone is not a safe guide 
 in actually deciding what to do 
 
 19:1 and 2 
 Evasion [trying to dodge a disagree- 
 able truth or charge instead of 
 manfully facing it) — 
 K Ts, Guess Work, fear and often 
 selfishness. Also see Excuses. 
 Evenings — Section 23. 
 
 How to Use Them 23:1 
 
 Kindred Topics 23 :2 
 
 Evil— 
 For K Ts see Wrong Doing and 
 Suffering; for the word is used 
 in these two very different 
 senses. 
 
 Exaggerating Our Misfortunes 41:1 
 
 Example Section 24. 
 
 A Good Example 24:1 
 
 Learning by the Successes of 
 
 Others 24:2 
 
 Learning to be Happy by Exam- 
 ple . 29:2 
 
 A Lovely Example 29:2 and 24:1 
 
 Our Example at Home 10:7 
 
 Winning Others by Example 11:2 
 
 Kindred Topics 24:4 
 
 E xchanging Work 32 :2 
 
 Excuses — 
 For a list of some of them see Sec- 
 tion 25. 
 K T, evasion. 
 Exhaustion — 
 
 Often Wholly— Unnecessary 56:1 
 
 Expectations — 
 
 K Ts, plans and hopes. 
 Experience — 
 K Ts, Life and knowledge. 
 
 For Key ' to Index See Page 39 
 
INDEX TO THE BETTER WAY 
 
 45 
 
 Explanations — 
 
 Should Not be too Long 53:2 
 
 When AW Helpful..." la: 2 
 
 Extremists — 
 
 Study carefully 57:1 and 2. 
 
 K Ts, Guess Work and Restless- 
 ness. 
 Facts— K T Truth. 
 Failings — See faults. 
 Failure — 
 
 Seeming Failures When Really 
 Trying to Do Right. . . 19:4 last part 
 
 For K Ts see disappointment. 
 Fairness — 
 
 K Ts, Kindness, Love and justice. 
 Faith — 
 
 See trusting and beliefs. 
 Faithfulness — 
 
 Is Sure of a Reward 32:1 
 
 K Ts, Patience (esp. 45:2) and 
 Love of Right, (Section 19.) 
 Fallacies— K Ts, word-proofs. 
 Fallen Men and Women — 
 
 See sexual sins. 
 Family Life— See Home. 
 Fascination — 
 
 K Ts, Restlessness and Guess 
 Work. 
 Fashion — 
 
 When Shall I Follow It? 1:1 
 
 Fatalism— See pessimism. 
 Fathers — See Home and Children. 
 Faults — Our Own and Others' — 
 
 (Look for the ones you specially 
 need to study.) 
 
 Also see Criticising. 
 
 Fault Finding 14:3 
 
 Fear — (a ^proper or ^improper 
 drawing back from pain.) 
 
 Study Suffering and the list of K 
 Ts there given; esp. Burdens 
 — Great and Small. 
 
 Fighting It Out the Same Day 2.2 
 
 Firmness with Children 10:2 
 
 Flirtation — 
 
 Little Things 37:1 
 
 Also see Courtship. 
 Fluency — K Ts, style and Talking. 
 Fools — 
 
 Two Instead of One 54:2 
 
 Foresight — See "clear insight." 
 
 Forgiveness — 
 
 Asking God for Forgiveness 10:6 
 
 Evidences of a Forgiving Spirit. . 2:2 
 
 Forgive To-day 54:1 and 2:2 
 
 Helps Towards Forgiveness 
 (Prayer and Love; also 2:3 and 14:2) 
 
 Fornication — See sexual sins. 
 
 Fraud — See Dishonesty. 
 
 Fretfulness (crossness caused in part 
 by sickness) — 
 For Treatment (even in adults) 
 see 10:3 and 17:1. 
 Friendliness — 
 K Ts, generally Kindness and 
 Love; but sometimes selfish- 
 ness, wholly or in part. 
 Friendship — 
 
 The Friendship of Jesus 11:1 
 
 Think of Your Best Friends Often 29:2 
 
 Fun — Meanness and Fun 40:1 
 
 Fussing (spending time unprofitably 
 and anxiously on little things) 
 
 Its Cure 60:1 and 37:3 
 
 Future — The Future — See hope. 
 Gambling— 
 
 K Ts, Restlessness and Abuse of 
 Money, (Sections 50 and 42). 
 Generalizations— When Helpful?.. 19:2 
 Generosity (has two meanings) — 
 K Ts, Money and forgiveness. 
 Genesis 32:26— See 10:6. 
 Gentleness— 
 
 K Ts, tenderness and Kindness. 
 Getting Cross — See Crossness. 
 Girls — 
 All the simpler parts of the book. 
 — Also see Children, Home and 
 Children's Corner. 
 Gladness — 
 
 Homes Where There Is None 42:1 
 
 K Ts, Goodness, Happiness and 
 Love. 
 Gloominess — 
 
 K Ts, blues and pessimism. 
 God- 
 God's Care for Us 26:5 
 
 God's Character 26:3 
 
 For Key to Itidcx See Page jg 
 
46 
 
 INDEX TO THE BETTER WAY 
 
 God's Larger Blessings 26:4 
 
 God's Requirements of Man 26:2 
 
 How to Find God 26:6 
 
 Our Wiser Partner 5:1 
 
 Also other topies under Godliness. 
 Godliness — Section 26. 
 
 God Knows It All 26:1 
 
 God's Care 26:5 
 
 God's Larger Blessings, Why Not 
 
 Offered to Every One? 26:4 
 
 Godliness and Love of Right 19:3 
 
 Godliness and Worry 59:1 
 
 How to Get More Trust in God. . 26:6 
 How to Glorify and Enjoy Him. . 26:7 
 Lessons in Love; or The Effects 
 
 of Walking With God 26:3 
 
 Our Wiser Partner and the Help 
 
 He Offers 5:1 and 2 
 
 Trusting and Doing B 13 
 
 What Does God Require of Us?.. 26:2 
 What Is God's Part and What 
 
 Mine? 5:2 and 19:4 
 
 Kindred Topics 26:9 
 
 Good Example — See Example. 
 Goodness — 
 
 Goodness and Happiness, How 
 
 Related? 29:1 
 
 K Ts, Doing Right, Character, 
 loveliness, Godliness, Christ- 
 likeness and many others. 
 
 Good News Books 36:2 
 
 Good News Books for Children B 15 
 
 Good News Cards 9:3 
 
 Good News Reports 9:3 
 
 Good Will— 
 
 K Ts, Kindness and Benevolence. 
 Gossip— Section 27. 
 
 How and When to Use the 
 
 Truth 
 
 Little Things That Darken Other 
 
 Lives. 
 
 57:1 
 
 37:i 
 
 May Be True and Still Be Gossip 27:1 
 
 Two Fools Instead of One 54:2 
 
 Kindred Topics 27:3 
 
 Governing Children — See Children. 
 
 Gratitude — 
 See Thankfulness and Ingratitude. 
 
 Greatness — 
 Foundations Where Laid? 8:1 
 
 Growth — 
 
 As a Reward of Love 31:1 
 
 K Ts, Study, Work, Rest, Home, 
 Little Things and manv others. 
 
 Grumbling — See fault finding. 
 
 Guess Work— Section 28. 
 
 Avoid It in Life 28:1 
 
 Avoid It in Study 51:3 
 
 Don't Always Choose the Easiest 
 
 Way 22:1 
 
 What to Do When in Doubt 19:4 
 
 Kindred Topics 28:3 
 
 Habits- 
 How Good Ones Grow 57:3 
 
 How to Overcome Bad Ones 3:1 
 
 Happiness— Section 29. 
 
 The Bright Side of Life 36:1 
 
 Enjoying God 26:7 and 6 
 
 Finding Happiness in Your Work 29:3 
 
 Goodness and Happiness. 29:1 
 
 Happiness and Poverty 47:1 
 
 Learning by Example 29:2 
 
 Longing for Happiness 29:4 
 
 Love, Happiness and Usefulness, 
 
 How Related 31:1 and 29:5 
 
 The Secret of Abundant Happi- 
 ness 29:5 
 
 Kindred Topics 29:7 
 
 Hardship — 
 See Suffering, Hard Times, Pov- 
 erty, etc. 
 
 Hard Things— Dwelling on Them . . 52:2 
 
 Hard Times— See Hints for Hard 
 Times. 
 
 Harshness [undue severity)— 
 Study Temper, Anger, rebuke 
 and punishment. 
 
 Haste [too much hurry) — ■ 
 
 "I Haven't Time" 56:1 
 
 "It Must Be Done" 60:1 
 
 K T, Restlessness. 
 
 Hating Our Work 21 :1 
 
 "He Ought too See the Point" 57:2 
 
 Health— 
 Don't Let Your Work Drive You. 60:1 
 
 Take Time to Care for It 56:1 
 
 K Ts, Home, Evenings, Rest, 
 Work, etc. 
 
 Heartiness — 
 
 Doing Little Things Heartily 37:3 
 
 Also see cordiality. 
 
 For Key to Index See Page jg 
 
INDEX TO THE BETTER WAY 
 
 47 
 
 Heaven— Section 30. 
 
 •. Helping Jesus in Heaven B:i2 
 
 Love and Helpfulness. in Heaven. 30:1 
 A New Translation of John 14:2. . B:2 
 Things That Easily Remind Us 
 of Heaven 30:3 
 
 Heedlessness — K T, Carelessness. 
 
 Helpfulness— Section 31. 
 
 Helping Each Other in Heaven.. 30:1 
 
 Helping Jesus in Heaven B:i2 
 
 Helping Mamma B:o. 
 
 "Helping Somebody" 6:9-12 
 
 Love, Happiness and Growth, 
 
 How Related 31:1 
 
 Only a Smile 31 :2 
 
 Kindred Topics 31 :4 
 
 Hesitation — 
 
 What to Do When in Doubt 19:4 
 
 KTs, irresolution and Postponing. 
 
 Hindrances — See difficulties. 
 
 Hints for Hard Times— Section 32, 
 
 The Bright Side of It All 36:1 
 
 Don't Always Take the Easiest 
 
 Way 22:1 
 
 How to Start Up the Ladder 32:1 
 
 In Partnership with God 5:1 
 
 Praying About Little Things 48:1 
 
 Swapping Work 32 :2 
 
 Using Idle Moments 32:3 
 
 Kindred Topics 32:5 
 
 Holiness [giving ones self up 
 
 eagerly to God's service and 
 
 to trusting and obeying Him)— 
 
 K Ts, Godliness, Christlikeness 
 
 and Prayer. 
 
 Home— Section 33. 
 
 Home Loving Hearts 33:1 
 
 "I Have Many Homes" B:2 
 
 Let Your Light Shine at Home... 8:1 
 
 A Lonely Home 13:1 
 
 Loveliness First, Money Second. 42:1 
 
 The Poor Man's Home 47:1 
 
 Kindred Topics 33:3 
 
 Homeliness — 
 Often Proves a Blessing at Last. . 52:1 
 Also see Loneliness, Suffering and 
 Prayer. 
 
 Homesickness— See Loneliness. 
 Ho«est Differences of Opinion 16:1 
 
 Honesty — 
 
 See Dishonesty, Right and Love. 
 Hope and Hopefulness — 
 
 Fearlessly Doing Right Brings 
 
 Hope 29:5 
 
 K Ts, Trust in God (Section 26), 
 Doing Right, Love and Cheer- 
 fulness. Also energy. 
 
 How to Start Up the Ladder 32:1 
 
 Hungering for Righteousness — 
 
 Motto on title page. 
 Hurry {may be either proper or im- 
 proper) — 
 For Improper Hurry see haste. 
 
 "I Can't Help It" 3:1 
 
 "I Can't Tell What's Right" 19:4 
 
 "I Did It Just for Fun 40:1 
 
 "I Haven't Time" 56:1 
 
 "I Have No Chances" 44:1 
 
 "I've Got To" 60:1 
 
 "I Must" 60:1 
 
 Ideals — 
 K Ts, Truth, Guess Work and 
 hope. 
 Idleness — 
 
 Idle Hands 10:1 
 
 Idle Moments 32:3 
 
 Proper Postponing, No Excuse 
 
 for Idleness 46:1 
 
 Impatience — 
 
 K Ts, Restlessness, Drudgery, 
 Temper, haste, etc. 
 Imperfection — Seeing Tt 
 
 See Criticising. 
 Impetuosity — 
 
 K Ts, haste and Guess Work. 
 Importance of Things Often Great- 
 er Than It Seems 37:1 
 
 Imprudence — 
 K Ts, Guess Work, Carelessness, 
 Restlessness, overwork, etc. 
 Impulsiveness — 
 
 See Guess Work and haste. 
 Impurity — See sexual sins. 
 Inaccuracy — 
 K Ts, Guess Work, haste or Care- 
 lessness. 
 Inclination — See longing. 
 
 For Key to Index See Page 39 
 
4S 
 
 INDEX TO THE BETTER WAY 
 
 10:5 
 
 10:3 
 
 26:6 
 
 Indecision [unwillingness to defi- 
 nitely face a difficulty and de- 
 cide what the next step shall be) 
 K Ts, Postponing, Guess Work, 
 fear and too much or else un- 
 timely thinking. 
 Indifference — 
 K Ts, [Ignorance], Carelessness 
 or else selfishness and Ingrati- 
 tude. 
 Indignation — See Anger. 
 Indiscretion — 
 
 K Ts, Guess Work and haste. 
 Industry (or love of work) — 
 K Ts, Work and Patience. 
 
 Inexperienced Little Neighbors 
 
 Infants— ' 
 
 Misunderstanding Them 10:5 
 
 Unaccountable Crossness 
 
 Also see Children. 
 Inference— See word-proof. 
 Infidelity — 
 
 How to Get More Trust in God 
 K Ts, negation, Criticising, beliefs, 
 etc. 
 Influence— 
 The Secret of a Growing Influence 31 :i 
 Also see Example. 
 Ingratitude — Section 34. 
 
 Helps in Bearing It 34:1 
 
 Kindred Topics 34:2 
 
 Injustice — See justice. 
 Insight — See "clear insight." 
 Insincerity — Words Not Enough. . . 35:1 
 Intemperance — See "using alcoholic 
 
 drinks." 
 Interest — Loss of 
 
 K Ts, Drudgery and need of Rest. 
 Intuition — 
 
 K Ts, conscience and insight. 
 Invalids— See sickness. 
 Irksomeness — See Drudgery. 
 Irresolution — ■ 
 
 What to Do When in Doubt 19:4 
 
 K Ts, Guess Work, fear, Post- 
 poning, and not-well-controlled 
 [Thoughtfulness]. 
 Irritability — 
 K Ts, Temper, Crossness and 
 sickness. 
 
 "It Must Be Done" 60:1 
 
 "It's True, Anyway 57:1 and 27:1 
 
 Jesus — 
 
 Helping Jesus in Heaven B:i2 
 
 Helping Others to Know Him... 11:2 
 
 "Jesus loves me, this I know" B:i8 
 
 Knowing Him Better 11:1 
 
 Kindred Topics 11:3 
 
 John (Gospel of), Chapter 14:2 and 3 B:2 
 
 Johnnie's Bible Verses B:i to 4 
 
 Johnnie's Writing Desk B:6 
 
 Jokes That Hurt 40:1 
 
 Joy — See Happiness. 
 
 Judging Others— See Criticising. 
 
 Judgment— 
 For Good Judgment see "clear 
 
 insight." 
 For unsafe judgment, see mere 
 "word proof." 
 
 Justice (in thought and act)— 
 
 Study Criticising, Differences of 
 Opinion and Right. 
 
 Keeping Thoughts for Study 51:1 
 
 Kindness— Section 35. 
 
 Kindness and Fun 40:1 
 
 Kind Words Not Enough 35:1 
 
 Kindliness and Patience 45:1 
 
 Kindly Criticism 14:1 
 
 A Loving Hurt 35:3 
 
 Mistaken Kindness 35:2 
 
 Kindred Topics 35:5 
 
 Knowledge (real knowledge) — 
 K Ts, "clear insight" and Truth. 
 Opposites, Guess Work and [Ig- 
 norance.] 
 Also see opinions and [Half- 
 Truths.] 
 
 Labor — See Work. 
 
 Ladder — 
 How to Start Up the Ladder 32:1 
 
 Language — 
 See Study, word-proofs, Talking, 
 etc. 
 
 Laying up Treasure for Others 4:3 
 
 Laziness — 
 K Ts, Drudgery, Guess Work and 
 Carelessness. 
 
 Leadership — K T, influence. 
 For Key to Index See Page jg 
 
INDEX TO THE BETTER WAY 
 
 49 
 
 Learning — 
 
 Learning to Cook : B:2o 
 
 Ways of Learning. See ways. 
 
 Lessons in Love 26:3 
 
 Let Your Light Shine B:i 
 
 Libraries — 
 See Books, Newspapers, etc. 
 
 Life in General— Section 36. 
 
 A Book of Remembrance 36:2 
 
 Is Full of Opportunities 44:i 
 
 Its Bright Side 36:1 
 
 Things in Life that Easily Re- 
 mind us of Heaven 30:3 
 
 Kindred Topics 36:3 
 
 Lights- 
 Shining Lights B:i 
 
 Little Things— Section 37. 
 
 Beware How You Call Things 
 
 . Little 37:i 
 
 Doing Wrong in Little Things. . . 20:2 
 
 Little Blessings 55:1 
 
 Little Minutes.... 37:2 
 
 "Little Things" and Unhappiness 58:3 
 
 Praying About Little Things 48:1 
 
 Spending Time on Little Things 37:3 
 Also see fussing and many others. 
 
 Logic— 
 
 K Ts, Truth, explanation, [Em- 
 phasis,] probability and Guess 
 Work. 
 
 Loneliness— Section 38. 
 
 How to Cure It 38:1 
 
 Books of Remembrance 36:2 
 
 A Lonely Married Life 13:1 
 
 When Cheer Grows Dim 9:2 
 
 Kindred Topics 38:3 
 
 Longfellow, H. W. (quoted) 33:1 
 
 Longing - 
 
 Impatient Longing. , 50:1 
 
 Longing for Pleasure 29:4 
 
 Unsatisfied. See disappoint- 
 ments. 
 
 Looks — 
 
 Kind Looks 35 : 1 
 
 Love—' Section 39. 
 
 As a Motive in Business and Life 6:1 
 As a Source of Happiness and 
 
 Growth 31:1 
 
 Can Not Be in Vain 24:1 
 
 How to Increase It 39:2 
 
 39:2 
 30:1 
 39:i 
 
 Is Like Wheat 
 
 Love in Heaven 
 
 Why Do We Love Men?... 
 
 Kindred Topics 39:4 
 
 Loveliness — 
 
 The Influence of a Lovely Life. . 24:1 
 
 Loveliness First, Money Second 42:1 
 
 Versus mere Beauty and Smart- 
 ness . .. 13:1 
 
 K Ts, See under Christlikeness. . 11:3 
 Low Spirits — See blues. 
 Lust — See sexual sins. 
 
 Making a Noise B:i6 
 
 Manners — See politeness. 
 
 Marriage— Section 13. 
 
 Foolish Marriages 13:1 
 
 K Ts, See Home. 
 Masturbation — See sexual sins. 
 Matthew- 
 Matthew 5:6. See Title Page. 
 
 5:3 8:2 
 
 5:16 B:i 
 
 6:34 5:3 
 
 Meanness — Section 40 
 
 Meanness and Fun 40:1 
 
 For K Ts, see unkindness. 
 Melancholy — 
 
 Study section on Cheerfulness. 
 
 Also see blues and pessimism. 
 Memory — 
 
 One Way of Improving It 4:1 
 
 Merit Is Always Recognized — 
 
 Gladly Though Often Silently... 24:1 
 
 Or Reluctantly But Really 34:1 
 
 Methodicalness (an unwise mixing 
 together of thought work and 
 active work, so that you cannot 
 do as well in either) — 
 
 Simply Yes or No 19:2 
 
 Using Truth at the Wrong Time 57:1 
 
 K Ts, [unrestrained though tful- 
 ness or love of work.] 
 
 Does It Pay? 20:1 
 
 Minutes — 
 
 A Minute a Day 37:2 
 
 Mischief and Idleness 10:1 
 
 Misdirected Ambition 6:1 and 42:1 
 
 Misdirected Zeal 59:1 and 5:1 
 
 For Key to Index See Page jg 
 
50 
 
 INDEX TO THE BETTER WAY 
 
 Misfortunes— Section 41. 
 
 Don't Exaggerate Them 41:1 
 
 Kindred Topics 52:4 
 
 Mistakes — 
 
 Mistaken Kindness 35:2 
 
 K Ts, Guess Work, Carelessness, 
 haste, Excuses and, in part, mere 
 [Ignorance]. 
 Misunderstandings — 
 Study Temper, Patience and Do- 
 ing Right. 
 Other K Ts are Criticising, Cross- 
 ness, Differences of Opinion, 
 Drudgery, Ingratitude, Misfor- 
 tunes and Talking Too Much. 
 Money — Section 42. 
 
 Loveliness First; Money Second 42:1 
 Money Making as a Chief End. . 6:1 
 
 Kindred Topics 42 13 
 
 Moods — 
 
 K Ts, Temper, Crossness, Guess 
 Work and Unhappiness. 
 Moral Science — See ethics. 
 
 Motives in Business and Life 6:1 
 
 Mourners — Section 43. 
 
 .Those Who Have Gone Before.. 43:1 
 
 Kindred Topics 43:2 
 
 Music Lessons, Working for B:22 
 
 Must-Be Plans— 
 
 As a Cause of Crossness 15:1 
 
 Need Careful Testing 60:1 
 
 "My Father's House" B:2 
 
 Narcotics — See smoking and opium. 
 Narrowness — 
 
 Needs Patience, pity, time and 
 
 [training]. 
 K Ts, [Ignorance] and bigotry. 
 Naturalness — 
 
 K Ts, insight and Right. 
 
 Nearness to Christ 11:1 
 
 Necessity — 
 
 Often Only Apparent or Partial 60:1 
 Negations — 
 
 Using Truth Unwisely 57:1 
 
 K Ts, Criticising and Restlessness. 
 Negligence — See Carelessness. 
 Nervousness — 
 K Ts, over-work, 60:1, and Wrong 
 Doing (19:1;) often in so?ne very 
 
 little thing. 
 
 For Key to Index See Page jg 
 
 News — 
 
 K Ts, Newspapers, Truth and 
 
 Gossip. 
 Also see "good news." 
 Newspapers— Section 4. 
 
 How to Read 4:1 
 
 Laying Up Treasure for Others. . 4:3 
 
 Reading Too Much 4:2 
 
 For K Ts, see Books and Gossip. 
 
 No— Simply Yes or No 19:2 
 
 Noble {lovely, strong and true, both 
 
 in great things and in small.) — 
 
 K Ts, Godliness, Doing Right, 
 
 ' Happiness, loveliness, Home, 
 
 Character, Life and many 
 
 others. 
 
 Noise — 
 
 Good for Boys B:i6 
 
 Nonsense (apparent) — ■ 
 
 K Ts, fun and Rest. 
 Nonsense (real) — 
 
 K Ts, [Ignorance] and Guess 
 Work. 
 Obedience to God — See Godliness. 
 
 Obeying Mamma Quickly B:i3 
 
 Obeying My Mother B:i4- 
 
 Obliging — See politeness. 
 Obstinacy — 
 
 K Ts, Crossness, Temper, [Con- 
 ceit] and Besetting Sins. 
 Old Age- 
 Study Godliness, Happiness, Rest, 
 loveliness, Love, etc. 
 
 Onesided Criticism 14:2 and 4 
 
 Only a Smile 31:2 
 
 Opinions- 
 How Far Helpful? 19:1 and 2 
 
 Need Correcting 58^2 and 51:1 
 
 Why Honest Men Can Differ. . . : 16:1 
 K Ts, Advice, Books, Gossip, 
 Guess Work, Talking, Truth 
 and Study. 
 Opium- 
 See Restlessness, The Easy Way, 
 Besetting Sins and Burdens 
 (esp. the last two). 
 Opportunities— Section 44, 
 
 Life Is Full of Them 44:* 
 
 How to Start Up the Ladder 32:1 
 
 K Ts; almost every page points 
 out some. 
 
INDEX TO THE BETTER WAY 
 
 5i 
 
 Optimism {habitually hoping for the 
 best and believing that %ood is 
 overcoming evil.) — 
 K Ts, Godliness, Goodness and 
 insight, (esp. 26:6 and 29:5;) 
 though often mixed in thought 
 with much Guess Work and 
 [Ignorance]. 
 Also see pessimism. 
 Overwork — 
 
 "I've Got To" 60:1 and 56:1 
 
 Why It Doesn't Pay 56:1 
 
 Pain- 
 See Burdens— Great and Small, 
 Crossness, Misfortunes, Suffer- 
 ing, Unhappiness, and some- 
 thing on nearly every page. 
 Papers — See Newspapers. 
 Parents — See Children and Home. 
 Partisanship — 
 See Differences of Opinion. 
 
 Partners With God 5:1 and 2 
 
 Passion— 
 
 K Ts, Temper, Loneliness and 
 sexual sins. 
 Patience — Section 45. 
 
 Brings the Sunshine 45 :i 
 
 How to Get God's Help. . .5:1 and 48:1 
 How Patience Grows 45 :2 
 
 2:3 
 10:6 
 16:1 
 45:4 
 32:1 
 
 32:1 
 
 How to Regain Your Self-Control 
 
 Patience and Repentance Corner 
 
 Patience as a Reconciler 
 
 Kindred Topics 
 
 Pay, — Poor Pay 
 
 Peace of Mind- 
 How to Get It 
 
 Penetration — See "clear insight." 
 Penitence — See repentance. 
 
 Pepper— Too Much of It B7 
 
 Perfect— Not Perfect; but Lovely.. 29:2 
 Perplexity — 
 
 What to Do When in Doubt 19:4 
 
 K Ts, Guess Work, haste and 
 Patience. 
 Persuading — 
 
 Danger of Talking Too Much 53:2 
 
 K Ts, Talking, word-proofs, etc. 
 Pessimism (believing that good can- 
 not overcome evil, or at least is 
 not doing it now) — 
 
 For Key to Index See Page jg. 
 
 Causes: too much haste, too much 
 guess work, and loss of trust 
 and insight. See esp. 26:6. 
 Also see Guess Work, haste, in- 
 sight and optimism. 
 Pettiness (useless expenditure of 
 time and thought on little things) 
 See 37:3. 
 Also see fussing and Little Things. 
 Piety — See Godliness. 
 Pity- 
 Pitying a Wrong Doer 14:2 
 
 K Ts, Kindness, Love and Suf- 
 fering. 
 Plans- 
 God's Plans for Us 5:2 
 
 Having Too Many Must-Be Plans 
 
 60:1 and 15:1 
 Play— Really One Kind of Work.. B:i5 
 
 Playthings — Simple 10:1 
 
 Pleasing Others — See politeness. 
 Pleasure — 
 
 Enjoying God 26:7 
 
 Is the Right Way Always Pleas- 
 ant? I97and 29:1 
 
 Pleasure Seeking 29:4 
 
 K Ts, Happiness, Cheerfulness 
 and Thankfulness. 
 
 Poisoning Your Own Life. 14:4 
 
 Politeness — True Politeness 35:1 
 
 Poor Health — See sickness. 
 
 Poor Pay...: __. 32:1 
 
 Poor People — See Poverty. 
 
 Postponing— Section 46. 
 
 Choosing the Easy Way 22:1 
 
 Postponing the Study of a Thought 51:1 
 
 What to Do When in Doubt 19:4 
 
 When Proper; When Not 46:1 
 
 Kindred Topics. 46:3 
 
 Poverty — Section 47. 
 
 Poverty and Happiness 47:1 
 
 Kindred Topics 47 :2 
 
 Power — 
 K Ts, greatness and influence. 
 
 Praising Children 10:2 
 
 Prayer— Section 48. 
 
 Going to God for Help 5:1 
 
 Going to God for Forgiveness . . . 10:6 
 Nearness to Christ 1 1 :i 
 
INDEX TO THE BETTER WAY 
 
 Praying About Little Things 48:1 
 
 Kindred Topics 48 :3 
 
 Prejudice — 
 For K Ts see Guess Work, Truth 
 Misused (57:1) and Temper. 
 
 Privileges — See blessings. 
 
 Probability — 
 What Is It Probably Best to Do. 19:2 
 K Ts, Truth, opinion and logic. 
 
 Procrastination {postponing unwise- 
 ly)- 
 See Postponing. 
 Profanity — 
 K Ts, Temper, Unhappiness and 
 often [Conceit.] Also see Beset- 
 ting Sins. 
 
 Promises to Pay 6:2 
 
 Promotion — How to Get It 32:1 
 
 Promptness in Paying Debts 6:2 
 
 Proof — See word-proof. 
 Prosperity — See success. 
 Prostitution — See sexual sins. 
 
 Proverbs Book of (chap. 11:12) 14:2 
 
 Providence — 
 
 See Godliness and optimism. 
 Psalm 7:11 and 37:3— see 2:1 and 
 
 B: 3 - 
 Pugnacity — 
 
 K Ts, Temper and [Conceit). 
 Punishment — 
 
 God's Punishments 26:3 
 
 Is at Times Necessary for Chil- 
 dren 10:3 and 4 
 
 But Often Unnecessary, or Too 
 
 Severe 10:5 
 
 A Pure Heart 8:2 
 
 Putting Things Off- 
 See Postponing. 
 Quarrels — K Ts, Temper and mis- 
 understandings. 
 Questions— K T, Talking. 
 Quibbling [dishonest evasion) — 
 
 See evasion. 
 Quickness- 
 Quickness and Many Words Don't 
 
 go Together 19:6 
 
 Quickness and Skill, How to Com- 
 bine Them 56:1 
 
 Quick Temper— See Temper. 
 Quiet— 
 The Voice of Conscience is Al- 
 ways Quiet 19:1 
 
 Rashness — 
 K Ts, Carelessness, haste, and 
 Guess Work. 
 Rationalism — 
 See word-proof, negation, logic, 
 Guess Work and "clear insight." 
 Reading — See Books. 
 
 Reason— See conscience, Right and 
 Truth. 
 
 Reasoning — 
 See word-proof and logic. 
 
 Rebuking — 
 
 And Yet Loving 14:2 
 
 Too Long 53 :2 
 
 Too Persistently 10:5 
 
 Too Sharply 10:5 
 
 K Ts, Advice and Criticising. 
 
 Recklessness — 
 K Ts, Restlessness and Careless- 
 ness. 
 
 Recreation — K Ts, Rest and play. 
 
 Rejoicing — 
 K Ts, Happiness, Cheerfulness 
 and pleasure. 
 
 Reliability — See faithfulness. 
 
 Religion — See Godliness. 
 
 Remorse — 
 
 K Ts, shame and disappointment. 
 
 Repentance {a confession of wrong- 
 doing, followed by a sincere striv- 
 ing to do right) — 
 See Doing Right and Doing Wrong. 
 
 Repentance Corner — 
 
 For Parents 10:6 
 
 For Children 10:4 
 
 Reproof — See rebuke. 
 
 Research— K Ts, Study and Truth. 
 
 Resentment — 
 See Anger and Temper. 
 
 Reserve — 
 Too Much of It, a Sign of Weak- 
 ness 53:1 
 
 Respect— How to Get It 32:1 
 
 For Key to Index See Page 39 
 
INDEX TO THE BETTER WAY 
 
 33 
 
 Rest— • Section 49- 
 
 A Clear and Quiet Brain 49" 1 
 
 Not Letting Your Work Drive You 60:1 
 
 Rest at Evening 23:1 
 
 Resting in God 26:5 
 
 Taking Time to Rest 56:1 
 
 Kindred Topics 49 : 3 
 
 Restlessness— Section 50. 
 
 Defined 5° :I 
 
 "I Haven't Time" 56:1 
 
 Its Cause and Cure 50:1 
 
 Little Changes Often Help 19:4 
 
 Kindred Topics 50:3 
 
 Results — See Consequences. 
 
 Revising Our Thoughts 51:1 
 
 Rewards — 
 
 See Consequences and praise. 
 
 Rhetoric — 
 
 How to Gain Vigor of Thought . . 51 :i 
 How to Increase Its Power.. 57:2 & 51:1 
 
 Riches — See wealth. 
 
 Right— See Doing Right. 
 
 Romans 8:28 
 
 Sadness — K T, Suffering. 
 
 Safety of God's Friends 
 
 Sanctification — See holiness. 
 
 Scandal — See Gossip. 
 
 Science — See Truth and Study. 
 
 Seed Thoughts 5 1 :2 
 
 Seemingly Unbearable Burdens 
 
 Selecting — : 
 
 Selecting Companions for Life. . . 
 Selecting Examples for Loving 
 
 Study 
 
 Selecting Occupations for Even- 
 ing 
 
 Selecting Subjects for Prayer 
 
 Selecting Thoughts for Study... 
 
 51:1 and 2 
 Selecting Truth Wisely. . .57:1 and 4:1 
 
 Selecting Work for Today. 
 
 46:1 and 60:1 
 
 Selecting Your Plans Wisely 
 
 Section 19 
 
 Self-Control — Some helps in keep- 
 ing it are the following: 
 
 A Desire to Be Just 2:3 and 54:1 
 
 Doing for Others 9:1 and 2 
 
 36:1 
 36:1 
 
 • 197 
 
 13:1 
 
 29:2 
 
 23:1 
 
 Less Guess Work 28:1 
 
 More Love of Right Section 19 
 
 More Trust in God Section 26 
 
 Our Books of Remembrance 36:2 
 
 Punishment Given in Love. . 10:4 and 3 
 Self-Deception — 
 
 ' K Ts, Excuses and Guess Work. 
 Self-Depreciation— 
 Study carefully the list of topics 
 given under blues. 
 Self-Help— 
 
 In Hard Times — See Hard Times 
 
 and Poverty. 
 In Life at Large — Scores of pas- 
 sages. 
 Self-Improvement — 
 See Books, Character, Evenings, 
 Home, Patience, Prayer (or ask- 
 ing help), Study, Truth and 
 many others. 
 
 Self-indulgence 29:4 
 
 Selfishness — 
 
 In Business. 6:1 
 
 In "One Little Thing" 58:3 
 
 Crossness Tends to Degenerate 
 
 Into It 10:4 
 
 K Ts, Dishonesty, Wrong Doing 
 and unkindness; Ingratitude, 
 Temper and Carelessness; Be- 
 setting Sins, Excuses and Un- 
 happiness. 
 Self-Sacrifice — 
 For Our Own and Others' Larger 
 
 Good 19:7 and 22:1 
 
 Selling Kindling B :2 1 
 
 Service — K Ts, Helping and Home. 
 Severity — See punishment. 
 Sexual Sins (in thought and action) 
 Carefully study and apply the 
 sections on Besetting Sins, Rest- 
 lessness and Loneliness. Also 
 study the sections on Happi- 
 ness, Unhappiness and Prayer. 
 Shame — 
 K Ts, Unhappiness and [Self-Con- 
 
 demnation]. 
 Also study Happiness. 
 
 Shining Lights B : I 
 
 Shut the Door Bag 
 
 For Key to Index See Page jg 
 
54 
 
 INDEX TO THE BETTER WAY 
 
 Sickness— 
 
 K Ts, see Suffering, Rest, health, 
 
 etc. 
 Also topics like Patience, Happi- 
 ness, Prayer, etc. 
 
 Silence — 
 At Times a Sign of Weakness. . . 53:1 
 At Times a Source of Strength 19:2 & 6 
 K T, Talking. 
 
 Simply Yes or No 19:2 
 
 Sin — 
 See Doing Wrong and Besetting 
 Sins. 
 
 Sincerity — 
 K Ts, True Kindness, 35:1, and A 
 Pure Heart, 8:2. 
 
 Singing to Baby. B:j8 
 
 Skepticism — See infidelity. 
 
 Slackness — See Carelessness. 
 
 Slander — 
 
 K Ts, Gossip and wrongs. 
 
 Sleep- 
 Early to Bed .., B:i7 
 
 10:3 
 26:5 
 
 13:1 
 31:2 
 
 Sleepiness and Crossness ..... 
 
 Sleeping Under God's Care. . . 
 
 K T, Rest. 
 Smallness (mental and moral)— 
 
 See narrowness. 
 Smartness and Beauty — 
 
 No Proof of Loveliness ...... . 
 
 Smiles — Only a Smile 
 
 Smoking — 
 
 Does it Pay ... , ...... 20 : 1 
 
 Also see Restlessness. 
 Smutty Talk — See sexual sins. 
 Snappishness — See Crossness. 
 Sociability— K T Talking. 
 Social Problems— 
 
 K Ts, Hints for Hard Times, Busi- 
 ness, Poverty and Money. 
 Solitude — 
 
 Suggests Lonelines, Rest, Prayer 
 Study and many other subjects. 
 
 "Something Nice" B:5 
 
 Sorrow — 
 
 See Suffering and Mourners. 
 Sourness — See Crossness. 
 
 Speaking Kindly 14:1 and 35:1 
 
 Spending Money Unwisely in Hard 
 
 Times 32 :3 
 
 Spirituality — 
 K Ts, Godliness (Section 26), "clear 
 insight (see index), and Love of 
 Right (Section 19). 
 
 Spite [petty hatred) — 
 
 K Ts; Anger, Temper and selfish- 
 ness. 
 
 Sputtering— See Crossness. 
 
 Starting Up the Ladder 32 M 
 
 Sternness — 
 
 God's Sternness 26:3 
 
 Also see punishment. 
 
 Stimulants — 
 
 See "using alcoholic drinks," 
 Also see narcotics. 
 
 Stinginess— See Money. 
 
 Stories About Jesus. .............. BmS 
 
 Strength — See health. 
 
 Struggles — 
 
 See difficulties and Suffering. 
 
 Stubbornness— See obstinacy. 
 
 Study In General— Section 51. 
 
 Books of Remembrance 36:2 
 
 How and When to Use the Truth 
 
 (and Not Use It) 571s 
 
 -Keeping Thoughts for Study 51:1 
 
 Seed Thoughts 51-2 
 
 Spending Time on Little Things 37:3 
 Studying Lovely Characters 29:2 & 36:2 
 Studying the Things that are Al- 
 ready Clearest 51:3 
 
 When to Put It Off: When Not. . 46:1 
 Kindred Topics 51:5 
 
 Style— One Way of Perfecting It.. 51:1 
 
 Success — , 
 
 In Wrong Doing Does Not Satisfy 19:1 
 
 Selfish Success Does Not Satisfy 6:1 
 
 How to Make Sure of Success.. . 32:1 
 
 Suffering— Section 52. 
 
 The Bright Side of It 36:1 
 
 Choosing the Easiest Way.. 22:1 
 
 Dwelling on the Hard Things 52:2 
 
 How to Get God's Help in Bear- 
 ing It....... 5 : * 
 
 Often Proves a Blessing 52.1 
 
 Suffering for the Right 19:7 
 
 Kindred Topics 5 2: 4 
 
 For Key to Index See Page 3Q 
 
INDEX TO THE BETTER WAY 
 
 Sullenness — 
 "K Ts, Crossness and selfishness. 
 
 Sunshine and Patience 45:1 
 
 Supernatural, The Supernatural — 
 
 See God. 
 Superstition — 
 
 K Ts, Guess Work and fear. 
 
 Swapping Work 32:2 
 
 Swearing — See profanity. 
 Sympathy— 
 K Ts, Love Kindness, Patience, 
 justice, Helping, Home and ten- 
 derness. 
 
 Taciturnity 53:1 
 
 Tact (in its higher forms) — 
 
 K Ts, Wisdom (Sec. 19), Love 
 and Patience. 
 
 Taking Care of Papa B:ii 
 
 Talking — Section 53. 
 
 Talking Too Little 53:1 
 
 Talking Too Long 53:2 
 
 Talking Too Much, a Sign of 
 
 Weakness 53:1 
 
 Talking (and Thinking) Too 
 Much, a Source of Weakness. . 19:6 
 
 Talking with Mamma B:i8 
 
 The Tones of the Voice 35:1 
 
 The Tongue 53:3 
 
 Smutty Talk — See sexual sins. 
 
 Kindred Topics 53:5 
 
 Taming a Quick Temper 54:1 
 
 Teaching — 
 
 (Something on almost every page.) 
 Temper — Section 54. 
 
 Fighting It Gut the Same Day. . . 2:2 
 Helps in Regaining Your Self- 
 
 Control When Angry 2:3 
 
 How to Tame a Quick Temper.. 54:1 
 
 Two Fools instead of One 54:2 
 
 Kindred Topics 54:4 
 
 Temperance — 
 
 See "using alcoholic drinks." 
 Temptation — 
 
 K Ts, Guess Work, Restlessness, 
 Besetting Sins, Excuses and 
 Doing Wrong, 
 Tenderness — 
 
 In God's Dealings 26:3 
 
 In Parental Discipline 10:4 and 3 
 
 With Discouraged People 17:1 
 
 Also see Kindness. 
 Thankfulness — Section 55. 
 
 For Our Little Blessings 55:1 
 
 Kindred Topics 55:2 
 
 Theism — See Section 26, esp. 26:6. 
 Theory — 
 
 Mere Theory Not a Safe Guide. . 
 
 19:1 and 2 
 Needs Correcting and Complet- 
 ing in Real Life 58:2 
 
 Thinking — 
 
 Thinking of Others B:i9 
 
 For other references see thought. 
 
 Those Who Have Gone Before 43:1 
 
 Thought — ■ 
 Calls attention to a thing; but 
 cannot properly settle a ques- 
 tion of duty 19:1 and 58:2 
 
 Untimely Thought Hinders Right 
 
 Action 19:6 
 
 Keeping Thoughts for Study.. 51:1 & 2 
 
 Seed Thoughts 5 1 :2 
 
 Thoughtfulness— 
 Thinking of Others (Children's 
 
 Corner) B : 19 
 
 K Ts, Kindness, Love, and in an- 
 other sense, thought. 
 Thoughtlessness — 
 (A Mixture of Guess Work and 
 haste.) 
 Thrift— K Ts, Poverty, Hints for 
 
 Hard Times, and others. 
 Time Using— Section 56. 
 
 Doing Too Much 60:1 
 
 "I Haven't Time"; or False Econ- 
 omy 56:1 
 
 A Minute a Day 37:2 
 
 Spending Time on Little Things 37:3 
 
 Time versus Money 32:3 
 
 Using Idle Moments ... 32:3 
 
 Kindred Topics 56:3 
 
 Timidity— See fear. 
 Tired People— See Rest. 
 
 Tomorrow's Burdens 5 :3 
 
 Tones— 
 
 The'Tones of Your Voice 35:1 
 
 Tongue — Your Tongue 53:3 
 
 Too Little— 
 
 Too Little Kindness 35:1 
 
 For Kty to Index See Page jg 
 
56 
 
 INDEX TO THE BETTER WAY 
 
 Too Little Nearness to Christ... n:i 
 Too Little Rest, See overwork and 
 Rest. 
 
 Too Little Sleep 10:3 
 
 Too Little Talk! 53:1 
 
 Too Little Trust 59:1 
 
 Too Many Plans 15:1 
 
 Too Much— 
 
 Too Much Advice 17:1 and 53:2 
 
 Too Much Criticising 14:3 and 4 
 
 Too Much Guess Work. .28:1 and 26:6 
 Too Much Love of Money. . 6:1 & 42:1 
 
 Too Much Of a Good Thing 57:1 
 
 Too Much Reading 4:2 
 
 Too Much Talking. 53:1 and 2 and 19:6 
 Too Much Work, See overwork. 
 
 Too Much Wrath 54:2 
 
 And many others. 
 
 Toys — Real Value of 10:1 
 
 Tracy, C. C. (quoted) 26:5 
 
 Training Children — See Children. 
 
 Trials— See Suffering. 
 
 Trifles— See Little Things. 
 
 Trouble— See Suffering. 
 
 Trueness — Is Never in Vain 24:1 
 
 Trust in God — 
 
 How to Get More 26:6 
 
 Trusting and Doing B:3 
 
 Also see distrust. 
 
 Truth — Section 57. 
 
 Apparent Confusion In 19:5 
 
 How and When to Use It 57:1 
 
 How Honest Men Can Differ 16:1 
 
 How to Increase Its Power 57:2 
 
 True Gossip 27:1 
 
 Using It Unwisely 57:1 
 
 A Word of Cheer to Truth Lovers 57:3 
 Kindred Topics 57:5 
 
 Truth Lovers — 
 
 A Word of Cheer for 57:3 
 
 Trying— 
 
 Really Trying to Do Right Al- 
 ways Makes Us Happier 29:1 
 
 Two Fools Instead of One 54:2 
 
 Unaccountable Crossness 10:3 
 
 Unbearable Burdens 19:7 
 
 Unbelief — See doubt and infidelity. 
 
 Uncertainty — 
 
 See doubt and certainty. 
 
 Unconscious Imitation 29:2 
 
 Unconscious Influence 24:1 
 
 Unconscious Progress 19:4, last part 
 
 Uneasiness— 
 
 K Ts, Restlessness and pain. 
 Unemployed — 
 
 See Hints for Hard Times. 
 
 Unhappiness — 
 
 Section 58. 
 
 Casting the Blame on Others. 
 
 58 
 
 "One Little Thing" 58 
 
 Unhappy Christians. 58 
 
 You are Doing Wrong Yourself. . 58:1 
 
 Kindred Topics 58:4 
 
 Unjust Criticism — 
 
 See under Criticising. 
 Unkindness — 
 
 K Ts, Temper and, generally, 
 Anger; Gossip and Excuses; 
 thoughtlessness and selfishness; 
 and, far too often, Business and 
 Criticising. 
 For Unkind Jokes see 40.1. 
 Unnecessaries — 
 
 Unnecessary Burdens 5:1 and 3 
 
 Criticising 14:3 and 4 
 
 Exhaustion 60:1 
 
 Fear of God 26:2 
 
 Fullness 53:2 
 
 Reading 4:2 
 
 Unhappiness 58:1 
 
 Unpleasant Duties 19:7 
 
 Unreasonableness — 
 
 Study carefully Right and Wrong. 
 
 Unrest — 
 
 See Restlessness and overwork. 
 
 Unselfishness — 
 
 In Business 6:1 
 
 In Life at Large 9:1 
 
 Should Early be Taught Children 10:2 
 Is Sometimes Unwise 35:2 
 
 Unsuccessful — See failure. 
 
 Unwise [wrong, though not inten- 
 tionally so) — 
 
 Does It Pay? 20:1 
 
 Unwise in "One Little Thing"... 58:3 
 Study carefully the section on 
 Doing Right. 
 
 For Key to Index See Page 39 
 
INDEX TO THE BETTER WAY 
 
 57 
 
 Uppishness — 
 
 • K Ts, Crossness and [Conceit]. 
 
 Usefulness — Love and Usefulness, 
 
 How Related 31:1 snd 29:5 
 
 Using Alcoholic Drinks — 
 
 Study carefully Restlessness, Bur- 
 dens and Besetting Sins (espe- 
 cially the last two); also Happi- 
 ness and Unhappiness. 
 
 Vexation — See annoyances. 
 
 Vice — See Doing Wrong. 
 
 Vigor — See health. 
 
 Virtue — 
 
 See Doing Right. 
 Also sexual sins. 
 
 Visionary {building great hopes and 
 plans on guess work) — 
 See Guess Work. 
 
 Voice — Is Your Voice Kind? 35:1 
 
 Wages — 
 
 Poor Wages Better Than None. . 32:1 
 
 Waiting — 
 
 Profitable Waiting 5:2 
 
 Also see Postponing. 
 
 Walking In the Dark 19:4 last part 
 
 Want- 
 See Poverty and Hard Times. 
 
 Washing Dishes B:io 
 
 Watchfulness Section 59. 
 
 (The book is full of it.) 
 
 Doing Little Things Heartily 37:3 
 
 How to Get More Trust in God. . 26:6 
 
 Just What Is God's Part? 5:2 
 
 Our Partnership with God 5:1 
 
 Watchfulness and Worry 59:1 
 
 Why We so Often Miss Our Op- 
 portunities 44:1 
 
 Kindred Topics 59:3 
 
 Wavering — See irresolution. 
 
 Ways of Learning — 
 Learning By Day and By Night. 23:1 
 
 Learning By Patience 45:2 
 
 Learning By Suffering 52:1 
 
 Learning By the Successes of 
 
 Others 24:2 
 
 Learning From Books 4:1 
 
 Learning From Fools and Ene- 
 mies 1:1 
 
 Learning From God 26:3 and 7 
 
 Learning From Wise Men 
 
 29:2 and 24:2 
 
 Learning at Home 8:1 and 33:1 
 
 Learning When Young 10:2 
 
 Weakness — 
 God Remembers Our Weakness. 26.2 
 
 God is Willing to Help Us 48:1 
 
 Our Weakness Without God's 
 Help 26:1 and 19:3 
 
 Wealth- 
 Alone Can Not Satisfy 6:1 
 
 Loveliness First, Money Second. . 42:1 
 K Ts, Money and Poverty. 
 
 Weariness- 
 See Rest and blues. 
 
 Whereto Begin 8:1 
 
 Why— When Not to Ask It 19:6 
 
 Will it Pay? 20:1 
 
 Willfulness - 
 
 K Ts, Unhappiness and obstinacy. 
 
 Willingly — 
 
 Doing Right Willingly. . . 19:7 and 29:5 
 
 Wisdom — 
 
 One of the Results of Doing Right 29:5 
 Also see sections on Doing Right 
 and Truth. 
 
 Wishes — 
 
 Impatient Wishes 50:1 
 
 Mistaken Wishes 35:2 
 
 Proper Wishes Improperly 
 
 Worked Out 29:4 
 
 Wishing and Growing 31:1 
 
 K T, trying. 
 
 Wit — see fun. 
 
 Words- 
 Words Not Enough 35:1 
 
 K Ts, thought, word-proof, etc. 
 
 Word Proof- 
 Is Not Always Necessary. . . 19:6 and 1 
 Not a Safe Guide in the Actual 
 Decision of Matters of Conduct 
 
 19:2 and 58:2 
 Also see arguments and discus- 
 
 For Key to Index See Page jq 
 
5 8 
 
 INDEX TO THE BETTER WAY 
 
 Work — Section 60. 
 
 Choosing Your Work in Too Great 
 
 a Hurry 56:1 
 
 Finding Happiness in Your Work 29:3 
 
 "It Must Be Done" 60:1 
 
 Shall I Choose the Easiest? 22:1 
 
 Shall the Children Work? 10:2 
 
 Swapping Work 32:2 
 
 Work and Play, How Related.. B:i5 
 
 Work in Heaven 30:1 
 
 Working for Poor Pay 32:1 
 
 Working for Music Lessons B:22 
 
 Kindred Topics 60:3 
 
 Worry Explained 59:1 
 
 Writing Down Thoughts for Future 
 
 Study 51:1 and 2 
 
 Writing Desk— Johnnie's B:6 
 
 Wrong Doing — See Doing Wrong. 
 Wrong Things That Look Right . . 20:1 
 
 Yes and No 19:2 
 
 Yielding to Temptation — 
 
 See temptation. 
 Zeal— Misdirected 59:1 and 5:1 
 
 For Key to Index See Page jq 
 

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