PN 6084 W6H2 Haines A^ A9 • 0- o cz ,0^ 0^ == 3J ^^S rn 7 = = C7) = 1 4 6 . 3D ■ 3) SOVEREIGN WOMAN VERSUS MERE MAN 'JfHtr'^' THE LIBRARY OF THE UNIVERSITY OF CALIFORNIA LOS ANGELES SOVEREIGN WOMAN VERSUS MERE MAN A MEDLEY OF QUOTATIONS COMPILED AND ARRANGED BY Jennie Day Haines PAUL ELDER AND COMPANY SAN FRANCISCO AND NEW YORK □.— :^— ^— ^-'^-^^^ ^—^-^^^ ^~^— ^— ^ — ^— ^^TQ Copyright. 1905 by Paul Elder and Company The Tomoye Press FN' , Uosf While " Woman " has ever been a popular theme with the world's writers, " Man " also has had his share of at- tention. A noted novelist has aptly said, " Nature does not mean that sex shall be more than a partial separa- tion of one common humanity"; — hence, in arranging the quotations fcM* this littie volume, the compiler has not sought only to draw comparisons, but also to find something in common between the sexes. 665831 Contents. Sovereign Woman. Mere Man. Page. The Title i Origin 2 "The Sex" 4 Heroines 6 A Lady 8 Types lo Maidenhood 12 Spinsters 14 Wives 16 Widows 18 Motherhood 20 Young and Old 22 Love 24 Matrimony 26 Coquetry 28 Cooking 30 Servants 32 Artists 34 Queens 36 Stages 38 Perfection 40 Looks 42 Age 44 Dress 40 Fads 48 Sphere . •• 50 Fame 52 Garrulity 54 Page, The Title i Origin 3 The "Certaine Sex" 5 Heroes 7 A Gentleman g Types II Manhood 13 Bachelors 15 Husbands 17 Widowers 19 Paternity 21 Youth and Age 23 Love 25 Matrimony 27 Inconstancy 29 Dining 31 Wants 33 35 37 39 41 43 45 Poets King^ Ages Selfishness Looks Years Clothes 47 Peculiarities 49 Assurance 51 Greatness 53 Garrulity 55 Sovereign Woman. Page. Nationality 56 Goodness 58 Badness 60 Ways 62 Work 64 Curiosity 66 Tears 68 Bashfulness 7° Disparagement 72 Riches 74 Will 76 Rights 78 The "New Woman" 80 Shopping 82 Patriotism 84 Religion 86 Finis 88 Epitaph on a Busy Woman . . 9° Mere Man. Page. Nationality 57 Goodness 59 Badness 61 Ways 63 Work 65 Heredity 67 Tenderness ©9 Bashfulness 7^ Comparison 73 Riches 75 Rule 77 Politics 79 Dreams 8i Speculation 83 Patriotism 85 Religion 87 Finis V • • • ^9 Epitaph on Man 9^ V. As to the Title. Sovereign Woman. A woman's rank lies in the fulness of her womanhood. Therein alone she is royal. George Eliot. As to the Title. Mere Man. There is a strong presumption that " Mere Man " so dubbed himself when in one of his many moods, and he prob- ably wanted something that an hum- ble attitude might win the sooner. Sarah Grand. »»••••*••••••• . — **:.* As to Origin. Sovereign W^oman. The woman was made of a rib out of the side of Adam. Not made out of his head to top him; not out of his feet to be trampled upon by him; but out of his side to be equal with him, under his arm to be I protected, and near his heart to be beloved. Matthew Henry. When Eve brought woe to all mankind, Old Adam called her wo-man; But when she wooed with love so kind, He then pronounced her woo-man; But now, with folly and with pride, Their husbands' pockets trimming, The women are so full of whims, That men pronounce them wimmen. Anonymous. Woman, they say, was only made of man, Methinks 'tis strange they should be so unlike , It may be all the best was cut away To make the woman, and the nought was left behind with him. Beaumont and Fletcher. ..- 4 Mere Man. As to Origin. God made man in His own image, and though man spoils himself in the making, and loses his pro- per pattern and falls out of shape, the original mould is not broken yet — nor never will be, trust the Lxjrd for that. Ellen Thorneycroft Fowler. Our grandsire, ere of Eve possess'd Alone, and e'en in Paradise unblest. With mournful looks the blissfiil scenes survey'd, And wandered in the solitary shade ; The Maker saw, took pity and bestow'd Woman, the last, the best reserv'd of God. Alexander Pope. When Eve upon the first of men The apple pressed with specious cant. Oh, what a thousand pities then That Adam was not Adamant! Thomas Hood. I think God found his finest nature unemployed on the making of Adam, and so poor Eve was sacrificed to its expression. Mary Adams. □/— -.^^^^^— '^^^^ ^--^-^^ ^ — — ^— ^-- — — — - 1 ..••••. ...♦•• As to the Sex. Sovereign Woman. By the unanimous consent of rhetoricians, there is but one sex : the sex, the fair sex, the unfair sex, the gentle sex, the barbaric sex. "We men do not form a sex, we do not even form a sect. We are your mere hangers-on, camp-followers, satellites — your things, your playthings — we are the mere shuttlecocks which you toss hither and thither with your battledores, as the wanton mood impels you. We are bom of woman, v/e are swaddled and nursed by woman, we are gov- emessed by woman, consequently we are beguiled by woman, fooled by woman, led on, put off, tantalized by woman, fretted and bullied by her; finally, last scene of all, we are wrapped in our cerements by wo- man. Man's life, birth, death turn upon woman as upon a hinge. Henry Harland. V Dante adored woman; W^ordsworth commended her; Shakespeare loved her; Tolstoi planted her in sunshine and watered her with his tears, only to tear her up by the roots at last; Bums smiled at her; Moore succumbed to her; Henry James studies her; Maupassant thinks her wicked but interesting; Bour- get dissects her; Balzac understands her. Alice Wellington Rollins. --. ••.^ M «^— •"— ♦•.^. •--. ."^ .^' V...... V, \Q^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ ^^^^^^^^^^^^ — ^— '.— D Mere Men. As to the "Certaine" Sex. There was ( not certaine when ) a certaine preacher That never learned and yet became a teacher, Who having read in Latine thus a text Of erat quidam homo, much perplext, He seemed the same with studie great to scan, In English thus, There was a certaine man. "But now" (quoth he), "good people, note you this, He saith there was, he doth not say there is; For in these daies of ours it is most plaine Of promise, oath, word, deed, no man's certaine; Yet by my text you see it comes to passe That surely once a certaine man there was: But yet, I think in all your Bible no man Can finde this text, There was a certaine woman. }} Sir John Harrington. 4 There are a thousand kinds of men, and their sense of things is various; each has his own inclina- tion, nor do all live for the same object. Persius. 1/ •• .••••v.' As to Heroines. Sovereign Woman. Woman is especially endowed to soothe disaster. She is called the weaker vessel, but all profane as well as sacred history attests that when the crisis comes she is better prepared than man to meet the emergency. How often have you seen a woman who seemed to be a disciple of frivolity and indolence, who under one stroke of calamity changed to be a heroine ! . . . There are scores and hundreds of households today where as much bravery and cour- age are demanded of women as was exhibited by (S'ace Darling, Marie Antoinette, or Joan of Arc. T. Dewitt Talmadge. There never seem to be any plain heroines except Jane Eyre. Mary MacLane. What will not woman, gentle woman, dare, When strong affection stirs her spirit up ? Robert Southey. It takes a heroine to be economical. Dinah Maria Mulock. Shakespeare has no heroes ; he has only heroines. John Rusldn. ««••••*•••••••«■« ..-••' Merc Man. As to Heroes. I have read in the story-bcxjks how men of great nerve and skill have slaughtered five to one, escaping with no great loss of blood. W^ell, of a brave man I like to believe good things. My own eyes have seen what has made me slow to doubt a story of prowess that has even the merit of possibility. But when there are only two of you, and one without arms, and you are in a comer, and there are ten pis- tols pointing at you a few feet apart, and as many sabres ready to be drawn, I see no power less remarkable than that of God or a novelist can bring you out of your difficulty. You have your choice of two evils — surrender, or be cut in pieces. Irving Bacheller. Now there is no time when a man is so anxious for a fight, as just after the enemy have run away ; he is like a hunter that has had a shot and missed his bird. e. j. stimson. "When a man deliberately elects a great personal sacrifice, he does not concern himself with its details, as women are more likely to do. Elizabeth Stuart Phelps. .•—••«*•«• s '•^ — ^ As to a Lady. Sovereign Woman. To a gentleman every woman is a lady in right of her sex. Bulwer Lytton. A true lady — a genuine society queen — ^represents modesty, and sweetness, and self-control. She is evolved by gradual processes from generation to generation — not ready-made. Robert Grant. A real fine lady does not wear clothes that flare in people's eyes, or use importunate scents, or make a noise as she moves ; she is something refined, and graceful, and charming, and never obtrusive. Selected. t( Woman" must ever be a woman's highest name, and honors more than " Lady " if I know right. Walter Von der Vogelweide. God made the woman and money the lady. Israel Zangwill. ;/•• 8 • •••••••■** t ^' Mere Man. As to a Gentleman. It is almost a definition of a gentleman to say he is one who never inflicts pain. cardinal Newman. The gentleman is a man of truth, lord of his own actions, and expressing that lordship in his behavior, not in any manner dependent and servile either on persons, or opinions, or possessions. Ralph Waldo Emerson. A gentleman is a fellow who doesn't undertake a thing unless he can see it through in proper style. John Oliver Hobbes (Mrs. Craigie). A gentleman is a man who looks and acts like a gentleman, even when he isn't dressed like a gentle- man. Selected. A gentleman is a person gifted with tact, kind- ness, knowledge of the world, and courtesy. Jane MacNeal. When Adam dolve, and Eve span, Wlio was then the gentleman ? Quoted by John Ball in Wat Tyler's Rebellion, reign of Richard II. ./ r\ v ..•• •••♦*••••••••»••• As to Types. Sovereign Woman. I have met with women whom I really think would like to be married to a Poem, and to be given away by a Novel. john Keats. It is the popular women who make shipwreck of their lives, and the unpopular ones who sail safely into pleasant havens. My experience is that the attractive woman gets the nice little things and the unattractive ones the nice big things in this world. Ellen Thomeycroft Fowler. Why should a woman with a comfortable home, a good husband and sweet children permit the demon of unrest to enter her mind and destroy her peace, because she cannot astonish the world with splendid toilets, and entertain her friends in a villa at New- port, or buy a castle in Europe, as some of our multi- millionaires are doing ? Ella Wheeler wacox. It is an uncommon event to meet a woman who, if put into the confessional of conscience, would not own that at some period of her life she had wished she had been bom a boy. Marian Hariand. \ur^^^^-'^—^—^--^—^'-^—^—^'-^—^^—^^-a\ 10 Mere Man. As to Types. A sceptic is a man who believes neither in doctors nor lawyers — so long as he is enjoying good health and his debtors are few. NeUie Cravey GiUmore. A lawyer — a gentleman who rescues your estate from your enemies, and keeps its himself. Lord Brougham. A wit — a man who says things about other peo- ple that they are too polite to say about him. James Jay O'Connell. A bore — the man who talks of himself, while you want to talk of yourself. selected. Philosopher ? a fingering slave ! One that would peep and botanize Upon his mother's grave. William Wordsworth. "You know who critics are?" — the men who have failed in literature and art. Benjamin Disraeli. Men will be men. . . . They are divided into two classes — the found-out and the not-found out. Julian Ralph. J □ .— '-^^.-.^^^^-'^— .-.^^—^^ —^^-^ ^— ^— ^-TD ..••' ••-•-....... \D^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ ^^^^^-^-^ ^^^^^ — .-I.— .-.□ As to Maidenhood. Sovereign Woman. There is something inscrutably delightful about a girl's way of thinking one thing and doing another. Perversity, thy name is maidenhood; and maiden- hood, thy name is delicious inconsequence. Maurice Thompson. Girlhood. An exquisite incompleteness, blossom foreshadowing fruit; A sketch faint in its beauty, with promise of future worth; A plant with some leaves unfolded, and tne rest asleep at its root, To deck with their future sweetness the fairest thing on the earth. Womanhood, wifehood, motherhood — each a possible thing. Dimly seen through the silence that lies between then and now; Something of each and all has woven a magic ring, Linking the three together in glory on girlhood's • Anonymous. r 12 '•-. ^•♦..TI.v. •^. •••H. Mere Man. As to Manhood. "But a man's a man, not a post or a holy angel; us wouldn't hear such a deal about angels' tempers, either, if they'd got to face all us have." Eden Phillpotta. A fool and a wise man are alike both in the start- ing-place — their birth, and at the post — their death; only they differ in the race of their lives. Thomas Fuller. What tho' on hamely fare we dine, Wear hodden-gray, and a' that; Gie fools their silks, and knaves their wine, A man's a man, for a' that; For a' that and a' that Their tinsel show, and a' that; The honest man, tho' e'er sae poor. Is king O' men for a' that. Robert Bums. The thing which impresses one most and fills one with the greatest respect for man is the courage with which he faces life. Day after day the working man in all classes of society, on whom a family depends, faces life far too often with the trials intensified by fear that the strength which means bread may give out. Sarah Grand. "•••••-••••..... «.^ As to Spinsters. Sovereign Woman. Among our industrial and frugal forefathers it was a maxim that a young woman should not be married until she had spun herself a set of body, bed, and table linen. From this custom all unmarried women were termed " Spinsters," an appellation they still retain in all legal proceedings. selected. There is no use in saying that any particular girl is a spinster from necessity rather than choice. One has but to look at the peculiar specimens of woman- kind who have married to be certain that there is no one on the wide earth who could not do so if she chose. Myrtle Reed. A woman with fair opportunities and without an absolute hump may marry whom she likes. William Makepeace Thackeray. Here lies Anne Mann ! She lived an Old maid and died an old Mann. Epitaph at Bath Abbey. ^• 14 .•• •• ••.. •• ••••• •«•••■•• Merc Man. As to Bachelors. An unmarried man is but half of a perfect being, and it requires the other half to make things right ; and it cannot be expected that in this imperfect state he can keep the straight path of rectitude any more than a boat with one oar or a bird with one wing can keep a straight course. vouaire. He that said it was not good for man to be alone, placed the celibate amongst the inferior states of per- fection. Boyig The men who refrain from marriage because they doubt their fitness for it, either on financial or philo- sophic grounds, would be likely, if married, to make the best husbands. j. h. Browne. I can fancy nothing more cruel after a long, easy life of bachelorhood than to have to sit day after day with a dull, handsome woman opposite. William Makepeace Thackeray. Is the single man therefore blessed? No! Shakespeare. Liberty, Equality, Fraternity, — they are only pos- sible for the bachelor. winston churchiu. 15 ..•"•. As to Wives. Sovereign Woman. One word can charm all wrcwigs away — The sacred name of Wife. Oliver Wendell Holmes. The girl with the curly hair and the dimples, and the genius for apple-duff may make a very good wife; but these points will not be a vital factor in her suc- cess. Neither will a great fortune or superior social position of itself make life with her for fifty years ^^^^' Lavinia Hart. Oh, wretched is the dame to whom the sound "Your lord will soon return," no pleasure brings! Charles Maturin. I tell you the women who make fervent wives, And sweet, tender mothers, had Fate been less fair, Are the women who might have abandoned their lives To the madness that springs from and ends in despair. As the fire on the hearth which sheds brightness around. Neglected, may level the avails to the ground. Ella Wheeler Wilcox. Mere Man. As to Husbands. The lover in the husband may be lost. Lord Ljrttleton. The ideal wife does not make the ideal husband. When man reaches a marriageable age his habits have taken firm root, and his tendencies are so closely knit they admit of little stretching. But the ideal wife has a great deal to do with the ideal husband of the future; for mothers are the women who make men. Lavinia Hart. As the husband is, the wife is — Thou art mated with a clown. And the coarseness of his nature Will have weight to drag thee down. Alfred Tennyson. The happy married man dies in good style at home, surrounded by his weeping wife and children. The old bachelor don't die at all — he sort of rots away, like a pollyWOg'S tail. Artemus ward. "Some men who marry and settle down would have done the world more good had they remained single and settled up." As to Widows. Sovereign Woman. It is an interesting fact that Almighty God seems to like widows better than wives. The wives men- tioned in the Scriptures, from Eve down to Sapphira, are, with notoriously few exceptions, obnoxious; they are always jealous, or deceitful, or suspicious, or mer- cenary, or unfaithful, or intriguing. But the widows are invariably kind and lovely. John Oliver Hobbes (Mrs. Craigie). You may love a simple maiden, And in time may marry her; But to wed a widow, gay or staid, Is a thing that can't occur — For the widow is of sterner stuff, And you'll find it pretty true — You can wed a maid all right enough. But a widow marries you ! -smart set." How does a woman feel when she is making her wedding-clothes for the second time, for another man? Jaoies Lane Allen. Mere Man. As to Widowers. A widower who remarries invariably reminds his friends that children should be brought up under the sweet and beneficial care of a woman, and he tells them that he remarries to give a mother to his dear little ones — nine times out of ten, an indifferent one, and not unfrequently a bad one. If he has no children he says he is so lonely that he must have a companion, also a housekeeper, and he gives you to understand all this is en tout bien honneur. j^^ o"R&n Why is a widower like a baby? Because he cries a good deal for the first six months; during the next six, he begins to take notice, and finds it very hard to get over the second summer. Conundrum. "Don't fool with widowers, grass nor sod." Alice Hegan Rice. As to Motherhood. Sovereign Woman. "Women know The way to rear up children ( to be just ) — They know a simple, tender, merry knack Of tjdng sashes, fitting baby shoes, And stringing pretty words that make no sense, And kissing full sense into empty words : WTiich things are corals to cut Ufe upon — Although such trifles. Elizabeth Barrett Browning. WTiat are Raphael's Madonnas but the shadow of a mother's love fixed in permanent outline forever! Thomas Wentworth Higginson. They say that man is mighty, He governs land and sea; He wields a mighty sceptre O'er the lesser powers that be ; But a mightier power and stronger Man fi-om his throne has hurled, And the hand that rocks the cradle Is the hand that rules the world. William Ross Wallace. We have got over thinking that the mother has all the love and the father all the intelligence. Mrs. Bixrdette. — — .. .^ ^».-^* Mere Man. As to Paternity. The sacredness of a father's love and sorrow never is recognized as is the mother's. * * * " W^ould to God that I had died for thee, O Absalom, my son, my son!" cried mighty David, in his agony of grief; and today, in any thoroughfare through which we pass, men go about their daily avocations with such steadfast cour- age as they may, whose hearts echo this bitter wail in silence. Mrs. James Farley Cox. And if there be love in this world stronger and sweeter than that of a father for his little daughter, no one has yet discovered it. For it is the ineffable mother-love shorn of all domestic exigencies and social frets — love that yet has not even contemplated the future, but is blissfully content with the joy of the present hour. Amelia E. Barr. If a man who turnips cries, V Cries not when his father dies, 'Tis a proof that he had rather Have a turnip than his father. Samuel Johnson. ,»••••%••••••••••••••••••«»„. ^^ As to Young and Old Sovereign Woman. As I am fonder of little girls than I am of boys, so old ladies appeal to me more than old men. They fill a place in life that would be quite bare without them. There is a certain something about them quite inde- scribable. They make much of the mellowness of life, and not a little of its fragrance. Some of them have a beauty with which the beauty of the most radiant belle can hardly compare. Thomas Nelson Page. There is always something pathetic in the adora- tion of a young girl for an older woman; she gives so much, and can, of necessity, receive so little; yet, with the exception of motherhood, it is perhaps the most unselfish affection which a woman's life can hold. Ellen Thorneycroft Fowler. "There is one thing about modem society that puzzles me," said the philosopher. "What's that?" " The older women are all the time anxious to get in ; the young and pretty ones want to come out." " Smart Set." y 22 .•- •. Mere Man. As to Youth and Age. The old man looks down and thinks of the past ; The young man looks up and thinks of the future ; The child looks everywhere and thinks of nothing. Selected. Young men soon give and soon forget affronts ; old age is slow in both. Joseph Addison. Manhood, when verging into age, grows thought- ful. Capel Lofft. Men of age object too much, consult too long, ad- venture too little, repent too soon, and seldom drive business home to the full period, but content them- selves with a mediocrity of success. Francis Bacon Young men think old men fools, and old men know young men to be so. ^^^^^^ ^y Camden as a Saymg of Dr. Metcalf. Money is time ; the millionaire is your only Me- thuselah. Israel Zang^vill. To be seventy years young is sometimes far more cheerful and hopeful than to be forty years old. Oliver Wendell Holmes. As to Love. Sovereign Woman. A woman happily in love is at her best. Every outward charm has an added glory, and every poten- tiality of her soul, heart, conscience and intellect is aroused. The plainest, so influenced, will appear almost beautiful, the dullest gain a kind of wit, the coldest can be kind. They are transfigured, glorified, inspired beings. jo^n Oliver Hobbes ( Mrs. Craigie ) . The average woman loves a man, aside jfrom his love for her, for his physical strength, and his stiff truth-telling. The first is attractive to her because she has it not. Far be it from man to say why the second attracts. Paul Leicester Ford. Woman is bom for love, and it is impossible to turn her from seeking it. Margaret FuUer. That tender light that never was on sea or land dawns only on a woman's face when her soul is awakening to love. Amelia E. Barr. Woman's love is but an echo, and her heart only whispers the word in answer to a man's voice. Maud Wilder Goodwin. \^z|;^7?^^' Mere Man. As to Love. Men in love labour at once under every disadvan- tage. Their judgment is dethroned; their strength mocks them; their associates complain of their wan- dering tempers; they get haggard and feel hunted; they pursue their Fairs and are pursued themselves by all the devils. A hungry madness absorbs their energy ; tliey are capable of any crazy deed. John Oliver Hobbes (Mrs. Craigie). Men are singularly unoriginal when they make love or pray. Women and the Deity have been per- petually hearing the same thing from the beginning of space. Author " The Story of Eden." When a man has never been in love before, there is only one thing more exquisite than the torment — it is the joy. Francis Charles. A man may love a woman who has sinned, but few men love women who sin for their sake, even though that sin be of their own compassing. Maxwell Gray. fC As to Matrimony. Sovereign Woman. Some women in manying demand all and give all: with good men, they are the happy; with base men, they are the broken-hearted. Some demand everything and give little : with weak men, they are tyrants; with strong men, they are the divorced. Some demand little and give all: with congenial souls, they are already in heaven; with uncongenial, they are soon in their graves. Some give little and demand little: they are the heartless, and they bring neither the joy of life nor the peace of death. James Lane Allen. Let still the woman take An elder than herself; so wears she to him, So sways she level in her husband's heart. Shakespeare. She that with poetry is won Is but a desk to write upon. And what men say of her they mean No more than on the thing they lean. Samuel Butler. ,,,»♦••••••••••••••••• »•••** ..^' ••••••*«»••* Mere Man. As to Matrimony. The man who marries puts himself in irons. Mar- riage is a bird-cage in a garden. The birds without hanker to get in ; but the birds within know that there is no condition so enviable as that of the birds with- out. Henry Harland. As for marriage — these young men who have the world, or the better part of it— they marry where Cu- pidity, not Cupid, leads them. Amelia E. Barr. Who ever invented the word "honeymoon"? Some man, I am sure. He never tasted myrrh in it. Mary Adams. There are many instances of immoral men who have led pure lives after marriage, but there never was an instance of a man who could drop the ear- marks of a dissolute life at the altar. Lavinia Hart. The extreme penalty for bigamy is the plurality of mothers-in-law, which it necessitates. Nellie Cravey Gillmore. s* 27 ..••-••.. » •••• • •« « • — ... ..V* .*"——•••••»., •'-*.^^' V As to Coquetry. Sovereign Woman. Any woman who wilfully allows sui offer of mar- riage only to refute it, lowers not only herself but her whole sex for a long, long time after in her lover's eyes. Dina Maria Mulock. The life of a coquette is very like that of a drunk- ard or an opium-eater, and the end is the same, — the utter extinction of intellect, of cheerfulness, of gener- ous feeHng, and of self-respect. ^nna Jameson. A Coquette — Or light or dark, or short or tall, She sets a spring to snare them all ; All's one to her, — above her fan She'd make sweet eyes at Caliban. Thomas Bail«y Aldrich. There are few daughters of Eve to whom conquest does not seem a finer thing than humility ; and the sovereignty of Diane de Poitiers over a king seems to many a girl just conscious of her own charm, a more emphatic testimony of the supremacy of her sex than the angel's greeting of "Blessed art thou!" to the elected Virgin of the world. Mane corem. .y^ •^ ^ V^.^-^" Mere Man. As to Inconstancy. Men were deceivers, ever. Shakespeare. Beware of loving a man. Today he says, " I love you, I need you! I shall go to the devil vinthout you!" Tomorrow he turns to his affairs. In six months he sajrs, "I was a fool!" Next year he says, "Who was it that drove me wild for a time last year? W^hat was her name . y^^^^ HanweU Cather^ood. Of course, there are exceptions, but the jilts and the defaulters are not all feminine. ^ g. Martin. Railway companies and women are by many looked upon as fair game of deception. Consciences tender in many other respects have a subtile contempt for these two exceptions. Many a so-called honest man travels gaily in a first-class carriage with a second-class ticket, and lies to a woman at each end of his journey without as much as casting a shadow on his conscience. Henry Seton Merriman. '••••••••••••*4 »*•••••••• >«•*••••• •••••••••^p,^^^^ :> As to Cooking. Sovereign Woman. Who hath not met with home-made bread, — A heavy compound of putty and lead, — And home-made wines that rack the head. And home-made liqueurs and waters. Home-made pop that will not foam, And home-made dishes that drive one from home, Not to name each mess. For the face or dress. Home-made by the homely daughters? Thomas Hood. She cooketh best who knoweth best Of all things, great and small. And the same mind that learning grasps Can cook, housekeep, and all. selected. No woman need envy the Sphinx her wisdom, if she has learned the uses of silence, and never asks a favour of a hungry man. Myrtle Reed. 30 .••••. ** *« •• ••« • • Mere Man. As to Dining. All human history attests That happiness for man — the hungry sinner ! Since Eve ate apples, much depends on dinner. Lord Byron. He was an ingenious man that first found out eat- ing and drinking. Dean swift. . . . But civilized man cannot live without cooks. He may live without books, — what is knowledge but grieving? He may live without hope, — what is hope but deceiv- ing? He may live without love, — what is passion but pin- ing? But where is the man that can live without dining? Owen Meredith. At no other time is a man's feeling of companion- ship with a woman so strong as when he sits at table wifii her — ^not a decorated and becatered and be- waitered table, but at a homely, appetizing, whole- some home table. Booth Tarklngton. A man is in general better pleased when he has a good dinner than when his wife talks Greek. Samuel Johnson. '•— . a _^_^_^_^-.^^^^^^ ^^^^^^-^^^^ —^ ^ — —.— Q As to Servants. Sovereign Woman. There is probably no one in the civilized world more proud of the possession of a domestic servant than the American woman who has never had one, and no one more prompt to consign her to the obscu- rity of the kitchen after a feeble pretense of making her feel at home. ^^^^ g,,„,. Her maids were old, and if she took a new one You might be sure she was a perfect fright. She did this even during her husband's life; I recommend as much to any wife. Lord Byron. Woman and wages as a social and economic ques- tion is one of burning interest ; but over against this stands tlie great work of woman without wages, the vast amount of service rendered without pay or even any thought of it, — work in the world's great pliilan- Cooks I have found to be the best of all subjects — the most phlegmatic flush into life at the mere word, and the joys and sufferings connected with them are experiences common to us all. Author " Elizabeth and Her German Garden." ./•••••.. V 32 .---\ ! Mere Man. As to W^ants. Man wants but little here below Nor wants that little long. Oliver Goldsmith. " Man wants but little here below Nor wants that little long": 'Tis not with me exactly so. But 'tis so in the song. My wants are many, and, if told, Would muster many a score, And were each wish a mint of gold I still should long for more. John Quincy Adams. Little I ask ; my wants are few : I only wish a hut of stone (A very plain brown stone will do) That I may call my own ; And close at hand is such a one, In yonder street that fronts the sun. Oliver Wendell Holmes. As to Artists. Sovereign Woman, Genius has no sex, — I defy any one to distinguish between two canvasses, one of which shall be the production of a woman, and the other of a man. WiUiam M. Chase. Woman is naturally more artistic in her tastes than man, and it would seem that man must become somewhat womanly (not effeminate) in order to be artistic. Selected. No man was ever known to admit, even in thought, that a woman can do better things in art than him- self! If a masculine creature draws a picture on a paving-stone he will assure himself in his own Ego, that it is really much more meritorious, simply as "man's work," than the latest triumph of a Rosa Bonheur. Mane Corelli. And that is what I call woman's genius, to make life beautiful, to keep down and out of sight the hard, dry, prosaic side, and keep up the poetry — that is my idea of our " mission." I think women ought to be what Hawthorne calls "The Artist of the Beautiful." Hsuriet Beecher Stowe. 34 '•••♦•.»••.,..•♦••* ..-' ..♦••••'•-I Mere Man. As to Poets. A poet may be a good companion, but, so far as I know, he is ever the worst of fathers. Even as grand- father, he is too near, for one poet can lay a streak of poverty over three generations. Irving Bacheller. Was ever there a true lyric poet who did not at least once in his early days believe himself the victim of a heartless woman ? p ^^^„„ ^^^^^^^^ Poets are all who love, who feel great truths And tell them ; and the truth of truths is love. Philip James Bailey. Most wretched men Are cradled into poetry by wrong; They learn in suffering what they teach in song. Percy Bysahe Shelley. Poets utter great and wise things which they do not themselves understand. ^i , Plato. The ancient British bards had for the title of their order, "Those who are free throughout the world." Ralph W^aldo Emerson. I ,^. , As to Queens. Sovereign Woman. Victoria was the uncrowned Queen of the whole world. Ascending the throne in her teens, she then displayed the qualities which have marked her entire reign — the simplicity, modesty, graciousness and ve- racity of true womanhood. Victoria never forgot the woman in the Queen. She represented in her life not the royalty of a monarch, but the royalty of true womanhood. j^geph SUverman. "France has had sixty-seven queens, many of whom led miserable lives. Eleven were divorced; two executed; nine died young; seven were widowed early; three cruelly treated; three exiled. A few of the others were poisoned, and most of them broken- hearted. Twenty-five presidents have entered the White House. Of the women who have accompanied them, some have come reluctantly, some gladly; but nearly all have acquitted themselves with a dignity and a sense of fitness that gave a new meaning to the national boast, Any American girl can be a four-years' queen. Manan West. 36 /^^\ H Mere Man. As to Kings. A man's a man, But when you see a king, you see the work Of many thousand men. George Eiiot. A king ruleth as he ought, a tyrant as he lists ; a king to the profit of all, a tyrant only to please a few. Aristotle. A king is a man condemned to bear The public burthen of the nation's care. Matthew Prior. Kings are like stars — they rise and set, they have The worship of the world, but no repose. Percy Bysshe Shelley. Think soberly, O ye kings! how your crowns are but yellow metal, and your purple robes the food of moths, and the scepters of your power no better than hedge-twigs for the driving of rats! Maurice Hewlett. "King Edward's favorite game of cards— 'VII up,' of course." •«•••#••* ****««*«*«»f , As to the Stages. Sovereign Woman. All the world's a club, And all the girls and women merely joiners : They have their fancies and their favorites ; And one woman in her time joins many clubs, Throughout her seven stages. At first, she's timid ; Draws back and nestles in her quiet home ; And then, the charming young girl, with her note-book. And sunny, beaming face, walking, like Eve, Unwittingly to doom. And then, the zealot ; Talking like magpie, with a joj^ul ballot Made for her chairman's glory. Then, a speaker, Full of strange words, and flurried like the club; Zealous in instinct, rapid and sure in method. Seeking the bubble reputation Even in the enemy's glare. And then, the matron, Her fair, round figure, cloth outside and silk lin'd. Full of w^itty quips and modem instances, And thus she reads her paper. The sixth age leads Into the gray and silvered devotee, W^ith lorgnette in hand, and bag at side ; Her youthful gown ^vell covered, a w^orld too small For her decorations, and her many badges Shining in all their gorgeous array, show Allegiance to her clubs. Last scene of all That ends this strange, eventful history, Is daily attendance at each society ; Sans aim, sans love, sans home, sans everything. A Parody, by Nellie Howes. 38 .♦ •- Mere Man As to the Ages. All the world's a stage, And all the men and women merely players : They have their exits and their entrances ; And one man in his time plays many parts. His acts being seven ages. At first, the infant, Mewling and puking in the nurse's arms ; And then the whining school-boy, with his satchel, And shining morning face, creeping like snail Unwillingly to school. And then, the lover, Sighing like furnace, ^vith a woful ballad Made to his mistress' eye-brow. Then, a soldier; Full of strange oaths, and bearded like the pard, Jealous in honour, sudden and quick in quarrel. Seeking the bubble reputation Even in the cannon's mouth. And then, the justice; W^ith eyes severe, and beard of formal cut. Full of ^vise sa\vs and modern instances. And so he plays his part. The sixth age shifts Into the lean and slipper'd pantaloon ; With spectacles on nose, and pouch on side ; His youthful hose well sav'd ; a world too wide For his shrunk shank; and his big, manly voice. Turning again toward childish treble, pipes And whistles in his sound. Last scene of all, That ends this strange, eventful history. Is second childishness, and mere oblivion ; Sans teeth, sans eyes, sans taste, sans everything. Shakespeare. □.-— ^^^--^— ^--^—^— ^-^^— ^--^--^-' — —^ra\ \ 39 **••«••••,,»•••• ....••• •^-.. ^ .^ •v. S V^...' q-.^.^^^^^^^— ^-'^-^-^ —_-_-_—_-_—_ ~_—^D As to Perfection. Sovereign W^oman. Earth's noblest thing — a woman perfected. James Russell Lowell. What woman can withstand the fascination of a lover's faith that she is an angel? If a man is fool enough to believe it, why undeceive him? And if he is so sure of it, may it even not be so? Robert Grant. A perfect woman, nobly planned To warn, to comfort and command. William Wordsworth. "Them 'perfect women, nobly planned,' hev got to begin right off sharp on the'r business o' wamin' an' comfortin' and commandin', an' it must come dretflil hard on 'em in the'r inexperience, sometimes, an' they must have panicky moments when the're afeard they hain't commanded right." ^, r r> v o Clara Louise Bumham. An unhappy gentleman, resolving to wed nothing short of perfection, keeps his heart and hand till both get so old and withered that no tolerable woman will accept them. Nathaniel Hawthorne. 40 /-■•N H Mere Man. As to Selfishness. Man of all ages is a selfish animal and unreason- able in his selfishness. It takes every one of us in turn many a shrewd fall in our wrestlings with the world to convince us that we are not to have every- thing our own way. Thomas Hughes. Men, even the worthy ones who will make sacri- fices in the big things, which women cannot nerve themselves to meet, are proverbially selfish in all those little things that make or mar the life of every day. Lavinia Hart. When a man says he sees nothing in a book, he very often means that he does not see himself in it — which, if it is not a comedy or a satire, is likely enough. Julius and Augustus Hare. A man with a mission is a devouring lion who pays no heed to time, or place, or feelings, or indi- viduals. Julian Ralph. ••••••*«••• • — . As to Looks. Sovereign Woman. "'A woman's crowning glory is her hair,' said the poet. Had he said her *hat,' he would have been no poet, but 'mere man.'" If the nose of Cleopatra had been shorter, the whole face of the earth ^vould have been different. Blaise Pascal. I alwa)^ envy the v^omen with good noses more than I can express. . . . Eyes grow dim, and teeth depart, and figures increase, but a good nose is an abiding resting-place for your vanity. You know that it will last out your time, whatever happens, and that age cannot wither nor custom stale its satisfactory proportions. EU^„ Thomeycroft Fowler. It really is an advantage to a girl if she doesn't want to be bothered by men, to be bom plain. Paul Leicester Ford. A pretty woman's worth some pains to see. Robert Browning. □ r^^^^^ ^^^^—^ — ^—^—^ ^,-^— ^^-^^-^ — -- — - a 42 ••.. •! Mere Man. As to Looks. Good looks in a man, as a very celebrated woman once remarked, are superfluous. A handsome man attracts attention, and so he has a certain preliminary advantage over a rival who is plain ; yet this counts for very little in the end. John Wilkes, who was more than ugly, knew women well when he said, "Give me half an houi-'s start, and I am not afraid of the handsomest man in England." Harry Thurston Peek. A great, good, handsome man is the first of created beings. charlotte Bronte. A Little Girl's Opinion of Men. " Men are ugly. They are dirty. They say, 'Come here, my little girl, and I will give you something' — then when I go to them they try and kiss me. And I will not kiss them, because their mouths smell bad. They stroke my hair and pull it all the wrong way ; and it hurts. And when I don't like my hair pulled the wrong way, they tell me I will be a great coquette." Marie CoreUi. That man is not fit to join the honorable ranks of the bald ^vho cannot spread and plaster down three hairs until they cover the entire top of his cranium. Charles P. Burton. a.— '-^— '-^^ ^—^— ^— ^— ^— ^--^— ^-^^^ — —^^-a 43 ,•• »• tj **•....•• As to Age. Sovereign Woman. They say that women and music should never be dated. q^^^^. QoidsmUh. A woman is never old until the little finger of her glove is allowed to project beyond the finger itself, and she orders her new photographs from an old plate in preference to sitting again. ^yrtie Reed. The girl whose face is her fortune soon finds that Father Time is a great spendthrift. James Jay O'ConnelL My birthday ! " How many years ago ? " "Twenty or thirty?" Don't ask me! "Forty or fifty?" How can 1 tell? I do not remember my birth, you see ! Julia C. D. Dorr. What a pity that wrinkles should not be all under our heels instead of on our faces! It would be a much better arrangement. Ninon de rEndos. 44 } t i \ Mere Man. As to Years. We do not count a man's years until he has noth- Ralph Waldo Emerson. ing else to count. What's a man's age? He must hurry more, that's all; Cram in a day what his youth took a year to hold ; When we mind labor, then, only, we're too old. Robert Browning. The years of a man's life that count the most are often those which may be passed quickest in the story O^ ^^- Winston ChurchiU. The third age of love is the callow age, in which a boy always falls in love with a woman old enough to be his mother. It is accompanied by a desire on his part to be thought very, very old, and very, very wicked. He regards any reference to his age as a per- sonal insult, and hates those who call him by his Christian name. ^^^^^^ ^.^ He who is not strong before twenty, handsome before thirty, wise before forty, and rich before fifty — on such a man even beer is altogether lost. German Proverb. _-^a As to Dress. Sovereign Woman. Eve's fig-leaves had the merit of simplicity, econ- omy, and comfort, in the climate of Paradise. Her daughters have seldom compassed so much with one hundred times the labor. Marion Harland. Woman ought every morning to put on the slip- pers of humility, the sWft of decorum, the corset of charity, the garters of steadfastness, the pins of pa- tience. Selected. In those days the women laced until they had no room inside them for a good, square meal. They wore paper-soled shoes on the street, and thought it vulgar to look healthy, and the height of every well-regulated young woman's ambition was to have an unhappy love affair, and to go into a decline. We are more sen- sible nowadays. Geraldine Anthony. " It was Talleyrand who, on being asked by a lady his opinion of her dress, replied that it began too late, and ended too soon." IW □.— '-.— ^-^^^—^--^ --^-'^-' ^ -^—^'-'^— — —^^'a\ 46 .*•.. •...:. ..♦• Mere Man. As to Clothes. Of course, clothes don't maKC the man, but they make all of him except his hands and face during busi- ness hours, and that's a pretty considerable area of the human animal. q^^,^^ Horace Lonmer. No matter how a man may dress, 'Tis not his clothes that make him ; Indeed, the swells themselves confess More often 'tis they break him. Selected. Women despise a man wno gives much thought to clothes, yet, on the other hand, they wish him to be well set-up, neat, wholesome, trim, and well-groomed, as every man should be, not as a matter of conscious effort, but, by an instinctive sense of fitness and good taste. Women will pardon slovenliness in a genius, but they will never like it; and in one who is not a genius, they will very justly infer from it the presence of something louche in habits or in character. Harry Thurston Peck. 47 ^ •"»-. •••-.. / V ^-.^.. As to Fads. Sovereign Woman. There are no inclinations in women which more surprise me than their passions for chalk and china. The first of these maladies wears out in a little time ; but, when a woman is visited with the second, it gen- erally takes possession of her for life. China vessels are playthings for women of all ages. An old lady of four-score shall be as busy in cleaning an Indian man- darin as her great-granddaughter is in dressing her baby. Joseph Addison. The bicycle ... is the true and only Woman's emancipator. What sisterhoods have been shrieking for, what people have been agitating, lecturing, and wrangling over for three-parts of a century, was sud- denly and quietly accomplished by the first turn of the first lady's safety-wheel — that freed a whole sex. Maxwell Gray. s J t : I I I I. •-.. 48 V D-'-^^^^^^'^^'^^^^'-"^ ^-^'- — ^^-^^^^— ^ ~^_— .— D Mere Man. As to Peculiarities. There are three reasons why men of genius have long hair. One is that they forget it is growing. The second is that they like it. The third is that it comes cheaper: they wear it long for the same reason that they wear their hats long. Israel Zangwill. Three things a wise man will not trust: The wind, the sunshine of an April day, And woman's pUghted faith. R^^ert somhey. How strangely men act! They will not praise those who are living at the same time and living with themselves; but to be themselves praised by posterity by those whom they have never seen, nor will ever see, this they set much value on. Antoninus. A man who has not an)^hing to boast of but his illustrious ancestors is like a potato — the only good belonging to him is underground. Sir Thomas Overbury. /• -.. 49 «••••••••••••••••••••.««.. ^^^ ^^» ••••••••••••• As to "Sphere. »> Sovereign Woman. In little duties women find their spheres The narrow cares that cluster round the hearth. R. H. Stoddard. Whatever has gone wrong with women in the world is man's fault. If she has been kept down; if she has been too much exalted; if she has been taught too much or too little, has got out of her proper sphere, or missed her due development, because the sphere accorded her was too narrow — it is all man's fault, and he must expect to settle for it. e. s. Martin. « They talk about a 'woman's sphere' As though it has a limit; There's not a spot on sea or shore, In sanctum, office, shop or store, Without a woman in it." The endless discussions of woman's "sphere" have produced a hampering self-consciousness. Women have been drawn into discussing their work instead of doing it. Selected. 50 *•••••*«••«• ,•••»•* ^ • •«••••• •«•• « Mere Man. As to Assurance. Does there not exist inside of every man a certain big, ferocious-looking faculty who is his drum-major — loving to strut at the head of a peaceful parade and twirl his bawble and roll his eyes at the children and scowl back at the quiet, intrepid fellows behind as though they were his personal prisoners? Let but a skirmish threaten, and our dear, ferocious, fat major! — not even in the rear — not even on the field! James Lane Allen. There are men whom no one respects very highly, "who are not sincerely trusted, whose honour is not spotless, and whose ways are far from straight, but who nevertheless hold a certain ascendency over others by mere show and assurance, F. Marion Crawford. 51 »••••• ft « • « « mmsm As to Fame. Sovereign Woman. It is only on the rarest occasions that a woman's life is balanced between love and fame — and the two gifts are seldom bestowed together. If she accepts love she is often compelled to forego fame, because she merges herself too closely into the existence of another. If, on the other hand, she chooses fame, men are generally aft-aid or jealous of her, and leave her to herself. Mane CoreUi. Whenever a woman has been exalted above the rest of her sex by the talents of a lover and consigned to enduring fame and perpetuity of praise, the passion was real and was merited; no deep or lasting interest was ever founded in fancy. Mrs. Jameson. •-•^. ..-^ ..^' ^ — "' ----. □---^^^^^^^^-^'^^^^ ^^^^^^-^^^^^^ — ^~.— .□ Mere Man. As to Greatness. Many a man has lost being a great man by split- ting into two middling ones. ^^^^^^ ^^^ ^^^^^^^ j,„^ Nature has her hour of revenge on every one who has sacrificed humanity to ambition, whether he wears the crown of the tyrant or the tiara of the saint. There is a greater man than the great man — the man v/ho is too great to be great. ^aii caine. Every man meets his "Waterloo at last. WendeU Phillips. When first a man his greatness tells, The world with doubt receives him ; But if he tells it loud enough The world at last believes him. selected. Pythagoras was misunderstood, and Socrates, and Jesus, and Luther, and Copernicus, and Galileo, and Newton, and every pure and wise spirit that ever took flesh. To be great is to be misunderstood. Ralph Waldo Emerson. As to Garrulity. Sovereign Woman. Ten measures of garrulity, says the Talmud, were sent down upon earth; but the women took nine. I have known in my life eight terrific talkers, and five of them were of the masculine gender. But, supposing that the Rabbis were right in allotting to the women a manifold proportion of talkativeness, I confess that I have inherited my mother's share. Robert somhey. A woman's tongue is a deadly weapon, and the most difficult thing in the world to keep in order, and things slip off it with a facility nothing short of ap- palling at the very moment when it ought to be most quiet. Author " Elizabeth and Her German Garden " (Countess Arnheim). Half the sorrows of women would be averted if they could repress the speech they know to be use- less — nay, the speech they have resolved not to utter. George Eliot. "There was an old woman who lived in a shoe" — ah! that accounts for the tongue in it. selected. 54 .•-—.. ..♦•• **••••••• • • • •! Mere Man. As to Garrulity. Dean Swift held the doctrine that there were three places where a man should be allowed to speak with- out contradiction, viz.: The bench, the pulpit, and the gallows. The very reason why men's talk, as a general thing, is nobler than wimmen's, is because they have nobler things to talk about. "Samamha AUen." There are men who talk in their sleep for sheer waste of activity. ... A better thing, in an ecclesias- tic, at any rate, than to sleep in his talk. Maarten Maartens. The man who admires silent women loses his heart to a chatterbox and spends the rest of his mor- tal life in teaching her to hold her tongue. Ellen Thorneycroft Fowler. There are a kind of men so loose of soul That in their sleep will mutter their affairs. ' Shakespeare. " Oh, why can't a man tell you the story of what happened as a woman would, so you feel as if you'd been there?" Maud wader Goodwin. □/— ^-.-^-^^.-.^^^^^.-.^.-.-'.-i.-'^i^^— — ^^^^^^^ — -a >* 55 '••♦••••••• • I i V" Mere Man. Epitaph on Man. Man's life is like a winter day : Some only breakfast and away; Others to dinner stay and are fUll fed; The oldest man but sups and goes to bed; Large is the debt who lingers out the day; Who goes the soonest has the least to pay. Death is the waiter — some few run on tick, And some, alas ! must pay the bill to Nick. Tho' owed I much, I hope long trust is given, And truly mean to pay all debts in heav'n. (On a tombstone at Barnwell, England.) As to Dying "When some men die it is as if you had lost your pen-knife, and were subject to perpetual inconvenience until you could get another. Other men's going is like the vanishing of a great mountain from the landscape, and the outlook of life is changed forever. Phillips Brooks. Qx ,.— ., UNIVERSITY OF CALIFORNIA LIBRARY Los Angeles This book is DUE on the last date stamped below. iiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiini 3 1158 00137 132 UC SOUTHERN REGIONAL LIBRARY FACILITY { |ii {II II HI III |ii| II mill III 1 1 II AA 000 701 046 5