^nia a] "to : j ;> >. ) a ESSAYS O N FRIENDSHIP AND OLD-AGE, B Y T H E MARCHIONESS DE LAMBERT. - ESSAYS O N FRIENDSHIP AND OLD-AGE, B Y T H E MARCHIONESS DE LAMBERT. Que tout ce qu'elle dit eft grace ; Tout ce qu'elle penfe, raifon. LA MOTTE. TRANSLATED FROM THE FRENCH, BY A ' L A D Y. WITH AN INTRODUCTORY LETTER T o WILLIAM M E L MOT H, ESQ.. LONDON: PRINTED FOR J. DODSLEY, PALL-MALL. M. DCC. LXXX. INTRODUCTORY LETTER, T o WILLIAM MELMOTH, ESQ. DEAR SIR, AS you have led me, though not intentionally, intothofe perils, that attend a novice in publication, I flatter myfelf you will pardon the liberty I take in recommending the two following little efiays to your prote&ion. AS In -f > ." .- J 6 INTRODUCTORY LETTER. In perufing your elegant tranf- lation of Laelius, iwas mortified to find, that in fpeaking of the dif- tinguiflied modern writers on Friendfhip, you had omitted the name of the amiable Marchionefs de Lambert, whofe effay on the fubjed: I had read with infinite pleafure, and perhaps with that partiality, which, women gene- rally difcover towards an author of their own fex. My regard for this excellent moralift, tempted me, upon this occafion, to enquire in what drefs fhe had been prefented to our country ; and the only tranf- lation of tjiefe treatifes that I could difcover, appeared to me fo very unworthy of the original, that INTRODUCTORY LETTER. 7 that I could not help feeling a defire to give the Englifh reader a more adequate idea of their merit. How far I have been able to fucceed, I am now to learn from the Public, as I dare not utterly confide in the approba- tion of a few partial friends. Let me honeftly confefs, that I not only engaged in a new verfion of the eflays in queftion, becaufe they appeared to me not fo well tranflated as fome of her other works, but from an ambition of placing her treatifes on Friendship and Old- Age by the fide of your Laelius and Cato : happy, were I able to enrich my tranflation with fuch biographical and critical re- marks, as give to your's fo confi- derable a portion of original me- A 4 rit I 8 INTRODUCTORY LETTER, rit! but I muft content myfelf with barely relating, in this pre- face, the few particulars, which I have been able to colled: concern- ing my author, from the writers of her country. The Marchionefs de Lambert was the only daughter of Ste- phen de Marguenot, Seigneur de Courcelles, and born in the year 1647: fhe loft her father when {he was yet an infant; a circumftance that proved, in its confequences, the ocean* on of her early and uncommon progrefs in literature ; for by the fecond marriage of her mother fhe fell under the care of the celebrated Bachaumont, who wrote, in con- junction with the fprightly poet LaChappelle, the pleafant motley compofition 9 INTRODUCTORY LETTER. 9 competition in profe and verfe, which bears the name of thefe lively friends. He was, as Vol- taire has remarked, one of the moft amiable and accomplifhed characters of his age, and culti- vated, with great pleafure and affedion, that early paffion for letters, which his little daughter- in-law foon began to difplay. Under the care of fo engaging a preceptor, fhe acquired that fund of elegant and ufeful knowledge, which afforded her fuch confi- derable fupport in all the viciffi- tudes of a long life, and which has fecured to her a lafting re- putation in the republic of let- ters. -At the age of nineteen flie was married io INTRODUCTORY LETTER, married to Henry de Lambert, Marq ns de Saint Bris, lieutenant- general, and governor of Luxem- burg, who died in 1686, leaving her a fon and daughter, on whofe education fhe exerted the utmoft powers of her affectionate mind, which are beautifully dif~ played in her two eflays of advice, addreiGTed to her chil- dren. On the death of her hufband, fhe was perfecuted with long and vexatious law-fuits, in which her whole fortune was at ftake, and in the conduct of which fhe is faid to have given moft ftriking proofs of a mafculine underftand- ing. As thefe were happily ter- minated in her favor, fhe pafied the INTRODUCTORY LETTER. n the remainder of her life in great affluence, and chiefly in Paris, where fhe died at the age of Weighty-fix, in the year 1733. It is fingular, that this lady, who in general pofTefied fuchfolidityof judgment, fhould, in one inftance, be under the influence of a vulgar prejudice, and confider it as un- becoming a woman of her rank to appear in the character of an author. Her admirable efTays to her children were firfl publifhcd in a clandeftine manner, and their appearance in the world gave her fo much difquietude, that, as fhe declares herfelf, in one of her letters, fhe exerted her utmoft efforts to fupprefs them ; and we may juftly fay of her, what Pope fays 12 INTRODUCTORY LETTER, fays of Shakefpeare, though on a very different occafion, ** She grew immortal in her own defpite." Her extreme defire to prevent the circulation of her writings, was owing, indeed, in fome degree, to the great (hare of natural modefty which flie pofierTed, and ftill more, I apprehend, to a painful dread of that raillery to which every French lady was expofed, who ventured to engage deeply in any literary purfuits, after the ap- pearance of Moliere's admirable comedy of the Femmes Savantes, in 1672, which was, indeed, fuppofed to glance a little at the hotel de Lambert *. Our * This is aflerted in a few remarks pre- nxed to the Femmes Savantes, in the laft oc- tavo INTRODUCTORY LETTER. 13 Our author had, however, the fpirit to become the cham- pion of her fex, in a little eflky which fhe compofed for the pe- rufal of her friends, entitled, "New Reflections on Women." She here combats, with great vivacity and judgment, the dan- gerous ridicule of Moliere ; and obferves, that the wit of this comic writer had proved as pre- judicial to female underftanding in France, as the pleafantry of Cervantes had to heroic valour in tavo edition of Moliere j but the circumflance appears to me improbable, as this comedy was firft reprefented a few years after the marriage of Madame de Lambert and her literary affemblies did not, I believe, attract the notice of the public till towards the latter period of her life, Spain. i 4 INTRODUCTORY LETTER. Spain. Nor does fhe feem to have exaggerated the ill effe&s of that ridicule which {he fo warmly oppofed, and of which fhe was fo perfect a judge. A living French author, of confi- derable reputation, has repre- fented this comedy of Moliere in the fame point of view, in a very entertaining effay concerning the character, manners, and under- Handing of women in different ages. Having alluded to the play of Moliere, he proceeds with the following remarks : " Some < c women, after this, applied " themfelves to letters, and fome * c cultivated the fciences; but the f< example was far from general. "In INTRODUCTORY LETTER. 15 c< In the moft enlightened of " ages, knowledge was deemed <c unpardonable in females. A <c tafte for letters was considered <c as a kind of incongruity in " the Great, and as pedantry in " Women. This fecret contempt, worthy of our moft barbarous anceftors, muft have impofed particular reftraint on that fex, " which is moft under the influ- " ence of opinion. Some women <c braved this prejudice, but fuch " conduct was even cenfured as " criminal. As all things that " are excellent have their ex- cc cefles, and as a bon mot fails Cl not to operate as a reafon, in <c blending what is ridiculous * c with what is ufefuj, it became <c cc CC 1 6 INTRODUCTORY LETTER. <c an eafy matter to difcredit <c knowledge in women. Boi- <c leau and Moliere fortified the <c prejudice, by the authority of " their genius. * . " Thus, in the age of Lewis the <c XlVth, women were reduced * c to conceal themfelves in the " purfuit of inftru&ion, and to c be as much afliamed of know- <c ledge, as they would have been " of an intrigue in ages lefs po~ <c liflied. Some, however, had " the refolution to free them- <c felves from that ignorance " which was impofed on them " as a duty ; but the greater " number concealed this hardi- <c nefs of fpirit, or, if they were " fufpeded, took every meafure " to INTRODUCTORY LETTER. 17 lc to avoid convi&ion, and al- " lowed Friendfhip only to be " their confident or their accom- " plice." This was particularly the cafe with Madame de Lambert; who, having defended her fex with great fpirit, in the effay I have mentioned, could not be pre- vailed on to publifh that defence; and in a letter to Monlieur de St. Hyacinthe, then in London, fhe exprefles her concern at its having ftolen into the world. She thanks him, at the fame time, for an Englifh tranflation of her work which he had fent her, and juftifies herfelf in the following manner, in anfwer to a very fin- gular obfervation of her trarifla- B tor, <c cc 18 INTRODUCTORY LETTER, tor, Mr. Lockman. " He fays " in his preface, that what I have written on women is my apolo- gy I have never had occalion " to make any. He accufes me of " having a tender and a feeling " foul. I deny not the charge ; " it remains only to enquire to cc what I have applied it." I muft obferve, for the honor of my author, that few perfons, of any country, could have lefs reafon to apprehend fuch an en- quiry, as it is univerfally allowed that her whole life was animated by that fpirit of tendernefs and virtue, which ftill charm us in her writings. One of the moft ftriking proofs of the high efteem in which fhe was held by her con- INTRODUCTORY LETTER. 19 Contemporaries, is found in a letter of the amiable Fenelon, to their common friend Monfieur de Sacy, in which he fpeaks both of her competitions and her cha- racter in terms of the warmeft admiration. Voltaire happily obferves, fpeaking of our author, in his Age of Lewis the XlVth, " her cc treatife on Friendship proves " that he deferved herfelf to tc have friends." There are alfo many paflages in her letters, which equally prove what ex- alted ideas fhe entertained of this noble fentiment, and how truly formed her own heart was, both to feel and infpire it. B 2 One 20 INTRODUCTORY LETTER. One paflage in particular I cannot help mentioning, as it pre- fents a ftriking picture of her own feelings, and preferves a pleafing anecdote of an amiable Prince, the accomplished but fhort-lived difciple of the virtuous Fenelon. In writing to her friend, on the death of the Duke of Burgundy, (he exclaims, " How great is * your private lofs, my dear " Sacy ! I muft acquaint you <e with a circumftance that re- * c lates to you, and which, per- cc haps, you are yet to learn. I <c had a friend in the houfliold " of the Prince, who, enchanted <c with his virtues, was continu- " ally fpeaking of them to me. "He INTRODUCTORY LETTER. 21 " He has told me, that as the <c Prince was one day coming out " of his chamber, where he had " ready our treatife on Friendship, cc he faid to him I have juft " been reading a book, which has " made me feel the misfortune " of our rank. We cannot hope <c to have friends ! We muft re- " nounce the moft engaging fen- timent in life. He felt, my dear Sacy, the neceflity of friendship. The fentiments of <c nature had their full influence tc over his heart, and majefty dif- " appeared before them. He " would have had friends, and " he would not have chofen them " from the crowd of his flatter- cc cc cc " ers/ 83 I hare 22 INTRODUCTORY LETTER. J have inferted this paffage, both becaufe the letter is omitted in the common Englifli tranfla-, tion of my author's works, and becaufe it (hews fhe was fuperior to the little meannefs of jealoufy towards a rival, who had written on the fame fubje& with herfelf. In her intimacy with Monfieur de Sacy, fhe difplayed all the delicacy of the moft refined friendfhip ; and Monfieur d'Alembert makes fuch pleafing mention of their mutual regard, in his eulogy on this writer, that I am tempted to hazard a tranflation of the paf- fage. " The talents of Monfieur de " Sacy, the reputation which he " had acquired, the mildnefs of "his INTRODUCTORY LETTER.' 23 " his character, and his manners, c< procured his admiflion into an " enchanting fociety, which is " ftill remembered in our days, " after a period of more than " forty years; I mean that of the " Marchionefs de Lambert. This " lady aflembled at her houfe " many celebrated writers, at the " head of whom were Fontenelle " and LaMotte, who united phi- lofophy to the charms of lite- rature, politenefs to talents, and reciprocal efteem to emu- lation. Madame de Lambert, who was accufed of an excef- five partiality for wit, and who honored this reproach of fools, " with an attention it hardly de- <c ferved from her, anfwered it, B 4 u (C 24. INTRODUCTORY LETTER. " by admitting into this little <c academy, more fplendid than " numerous, fuch characters of c< the court, as were moft diftin- cc guifhed by their ftation and <c their birth. In this aflembly ** they did not liften to, or rather c - { they were not acquainted with that rigid and unjuft philofo- phy, which, by imposing on women a filence humiliating to themfelves, and melancholy to us, obliges them to conceal cc their underftanding and their <c knowledge, with as much foli- c * citude as their moft fecret fenti- <c ments and affections. They be- <c lieved,on the contrary ^ and they cc had the good fortune to expe- ^ rience perpetually, in the pre~ " fence cc cc <c <c cc cc cc CC cc INTRODUCTORY LETTER. 25 <c fence of Madame de Lambert, c< that a woman of virtue, deli- <c cacy, and fentiment, animated with genius, and every pleafing accomplishment, was the prin- cipal tie, and the moft at- tradtive charm of a fociety fo happily compofed ; a rare af- " femblage of elegance and " knowledge, of imagination and " judgment, of politenefs and " learning. It was in the midft <c of this fociety that Monfieur " de Sacy compofed his eflay on c< Friendfhip. He addrefTed it <c to Madame de Lambert ; and " he was, indeed, much more her * c friend, than the other men of " letters whom fhe aflembled. ic The intimacy of thefe were only 26 INTRODUCTORY LETTER. : cc only agreeable to her, that of cc Monfieur^ die Sacy was much " more, it was neceffary to her " happinefs. If the wit of Fon- " tenelle and La Motte afforded " her more refources of amufe- " ment, fhe found in Monfieur " de Sacy a fenfibility more con- <c genial with her heart, and a " foul more in unifon with her <c own. Under the eyes of this " worthy friend, fhe principally cc compofed her excellent book, <c entitled, Advice from a Mother <c to her Son and Daughter ; a " work in which delicacy of tafte " is united to that of fentiment ; " knowledge of the world, to the " moft touching leffons of vir- <c tue; and the lively graces of ftile, INTRODUCTORY LETTER. 27 * ( ftile, to the moft natural ex- u prefllons of maternal tender- " nefs." Among the fmaller productions of our author, there are three very pleafing portraits of Mon- fieur de Sacy, Fontenelle, and La Motte, drawn with equal de- licacy and difcernment ; and among the Letters of the latter, in the loth volume of his works, there are feveral which give a lively picture of the chofen foci- ety which frequented the houfe of my author, particularly one from herfelf to the Duchefs of Maine, who had exprefled the moft eager defire to be admitted into her weekly aflembly. Fon- tenelle fuggefted the pleafantry a g INTRODUCTORY LETTER, of addreffing the Duchefs, before flie was admitted to their parties, in the name of the day in which the company afTembled. La Motte, who had received parti- cular compliments from her, was prevailed on to write as their * . fecretary ; and to his letter Ma- dame de Lambert added the fol- lowing : cc MADAME DE LAMBERT TO THE A _ff " DUCHESS OF MAINE. ' jr " BEHOLD, Madam, the ho- T y^_ *y^-* <c norable Tuefday, which comes 4 c to pay its homage to your Se- " reneHighnefs. The great Fon- c< tenelle, adorned with all his " talents, equally the favorite of " the ferious and the fportive " Mufe, INTRODUCTORY LETTER. 29 <c Mufe, whofe reputation is un- " bounded; fecretary, and almoft " prefident of our academies, " throws himfelf at your feet. " The inflexible La Motte, " who has endeavored to abolifh " the adoration of Homer, and " who has never burnt a grain of " incenfe on his altar, throws a " profufion of flowers on your's. <c The Mentor of a great 4C Prince, who inftruds better <c than Minerva, who has lent new graces to Cicero, and is lefs his tranflator than his rival, u proftrates himfelf before your " Serene Highnefs. " The amiable Abbe de Brage- " lonne, cherifhed by the Graces " and the Mufes, and fo extolled "by <C cc <c cc 30 INTRODUCTORY LETTER; " by you, is received into that " band which celebrates your " praifes. " The exacl:, the precife, of " rather precifion itfelf ; in <c fhort, the great geometriciarij " Moniieur de Mairan, comes to <c renew that homage which he has already had the honor to pay you. " You fee, Madam, that all cc our great men place theif glory in honoring you. It is but jufl that the academy, which is fo deeply indebted to you, fhould make to your Serene Highnefs their acknow-^ ledgments in form. Our lan- " g ua g e improves only when you cc fpeak it, or when it fpeaks of <c you. " I (hall . t C( cc it cc cc INTRODUCTORY LETTER. 31 " I {hall expect you, Madam, " with all the folicitude of that " refpe&ful attachment, with " which I am, i ,4 o4^^^ " MADAM, " Your moft humble, and " Moft obedient Servant." % " Paris y Auguft 23, 1726." The anfwer of the Duchefs expreffes, in a lively manner, the moft flattering efteem for our author. Thus pofTefTed of ge- neral regard, and equally honor- ed by the applaufe of grandeur and of wit, fhe pafled her latter days in the moft refined pleafures of 3* INTRODUCTORY LETTER, of feled fociety, and thofe fu- perior delights which attend the exercife of every generous virtue. All thefe, however, were much checquered by the infirmities of a tender conftitution by the com- mon maladies of old-age, and ftill more by the death of her daugh- ter, which happened two years before her own. I have now given you the beft account that I have been able to colled:, of an author whom I ne- ver review without enthufiaftic admiration : but I can affure you, I am fo far from being vain of the performance, that I have ftill an earneft defire to fee more juftice done to her inftrudive 2 character, INTRODUCTORY LETTER. 33 character, by a much abler hand. As you have mentioned her friend Monfieur de Sacy with ho- nor, in the advertifement to your Laelius, allow me to hope, that in your next edition of that work, you will not omit the name of the Marchionefs de Lambert. I am not Singular in this wifh, but fhare it with many friends, who are equally admirers with me, both of your writings and of her's ; and particularly one, who has given me leave to clofe my preface with the following Stanzas but before I tranfcribe them, allow me to allure you, C that 34 INTRODUCTORY LETTER. that I am, with the trueflLefleem for your literary talents, and ftill more for your private virtues, DEAR SIR, Tour Jincere friend, and obedient Servant, E. H. 1 O ...... ..,.___.. ' Dflfi ,23JH lliV 3Ji T O WILLIAM MELMOTH, Efq; On his omitting the name of the Marcbionefs de Lambert, in his account of the celebra- ted Modern Writers on Friendlhip. HASTE, gentle MELMOTH, Beauty's friend, Whofe fpirit glories to commend Each talent {he difplays ; And nobly fcorns that Cynic pride, Which oft to Woman has deny'd The palm of letter'd praife : C 2 O hafte ! "\} f i Q'^ ftsv* 1 1 * fnofi i A/ -. Y-J-J'^ O haile ' thy hard neglect retrieve, For which the wounded Graces grieve. And mourn their LAMBERT'S lot: . To think her page, to them fo dear, jHpnrliJQi Jorusq 3m n Is, by the critic they revere, Contemptuoufly forgot. But, as the voice of Fame will own, oiib e x x For fuch offences to alone ^i i n i i noxH Thou haft the happy power : , . . M TCl333i As the poor annual decays, This rhyme may perifh, but thy praife Is a perennial flower. Then in thy foft Virgilian profe, That with poetic fweetnefs flows, Whofe beauties will outlive The ruder verfe I vainly frame, To 'lovely LAMBERT'S injur'd name Full retribution give ! i Thv W. MELMOTH, ESCL 37 Thy TULLY, whom all eyes confefs So graceful in thy Englifh drefs, To Man confines his aim, When he makes age forget its ills, Or in the patriot foul inftills True Friendfhip's kindred flame : But LAMBERT, Learning's fofter pride, Her fex's unafTuming guide, Exerts a nicer art -, Her precept from Caprice withdraws, And forms to philofophic laws The lighter female heart. 'Tis her's to teach the vain coquette To bear, unwounded by regret, The lofs of youthful grace j And in the cultur'd mind difplay Charms, that compenfate and o'erpay The ruins of her face : C 3 FOJ? 38 STANZAS TO For well file eftimates, above The fcorching beams of blazing Love, Friendfhip's ferener fires -, Wifely fhe moulds the mind of youth ; Sweet moralifl ! who teaches truth, Yet teaching never tires. Oh Eloquence ! we own thy power : Thy Tully is the richer! flower, That can the fenfe regale : Butmuft the Rofe engrofs our eye ? And can we pafs unheeding by The Lily of the vale ? No, MEL MOTH ! tho' a rival coaft, Tho' Gallia may this Lily boaft, Its fweets thou wilt not wrong : Open to Merit's juft complaint, Thou wilt in happier colours paint The fubjeft of my fbng; That \Y. That mind, where, tender as the dove$ The fpirit of maternal love Was fondly feen to brood, And with foft Virtue's fweeteft tone, With gentle grace, to Man unknown, The Moralift endu'd. ' To generous admiration fir'd, Contemporary Wits confpir'd To praife her glowing page : And France, exulting, ranks her name With thofe who conftitute the fame Of her Auguftan age. Britain applauds fo juft a meed : Let Female worth, fhe cries, fucceed, Where'er that worth may fhine I Let France unenvy'd boafl her ihare Of glory from her letter'd Fair, Since MONTAGU is mine ! C 4 ESSAY I I ft 8 a M -3.IJI 1 gCL 1 , IISO -'I T -i c 11 ESSAY O N FRIENDSHIP. YO U are under fome obli- gation, my dear Sir, to confole me for the lofs of our female friend. I efteem as a lofs every diminution in friendfhip ; fince, in general, every fenti- ment that begins to languifh, expires. I examine myfelf with feverity, and I am perfuaded that I give more to friendship than 2 ESSAYON than others, and yet it ratitfli- es. Do, therefore, I entreat you, tell me, without referve, to whom I am to impute it, as my complaints muft certainly have an object. Is the fault in myfelf, or in my friends, or in the manners of the times ? In fhof t, correct me where I fail, and confole me for what I lofe. The farther we advance in life, the more we feel the neceffity of friendfriip. In proportion as rea- fon improves, as the imagination encreafes in brilliancy, and as the heart becomes pure and refined, the more the fentiment of friend- fhip appears requifite to our hap- pinefs. Behold, therefore, fuch reflections as the leifure of my 2 retirement FRIENDSHIP. 43 retirement has led me to throw together on the fubjed. In all ages friendfhip has been confider- ed as one of the firft bleffings of life : 'Tis a fentiment which is born with us, and the firft move- ment of every heart is to unite itfelf to fome other ; neverthelefs, it is a general lamentation, and all the world exclaims " There are no friends." The whole cir- cle of paft ages hardly furnifhes three or four examples of a per- fect union. Since then all men are agreed concerning the charms of friend/hip, why do they not comprehend their common inte- reft, and unite to enjoy it ? Man- kind, in growing depraved, be- come blind to their own ad vantage. Wifdom 44 ESSAYON H 3 yji i Wifdom and truth, in e,nlight- , ,3fmEffo oT72i enmg our underltandings, make our felf-love more adroit and pe- netrating, and teach us that it is our real intereft to attach our- HT>B !Ld3qi3q or b3riTL6T ? felves to virtue, and that vir- , . nu". 911. .dtotemphb hn tue brings with it all the gentle and engaging pleafures of friend- ,, . , t tn3i3nB,nA .arn? imp. Let us examine, then, what are the charms and the advantages of friendfliip, that we may feek them ; what its true characlerif- tic, that we may know it ; and what its duties, that we may dif- t SfifqlrflnnbiTi oJ flsilii charge them. The advantages of friendfliip manifeft themfelves fufficiently ; ., . . n3^no ^?on: all nature exclaims with one voice, that they are of all blefiings the moft defirable : without it, life has FRIENDSHIP. 45 giiha nx < .JJI& -; has no charms. Man is made up of wants, and when left to him- felf, feels a void, which friend- fhip only is capable of filling. Harrafled in perpetual agitation and difquietude, he can find re- pofe only in the bofom of friend- {hip. An ancient fays, that Love is the fon of Poverty and the God of Riches : of Poverty, becaufe he is by profeffion a beggar ; and of the God of Riches, becaufe he is naturally profufe : why may we not aflign to Friendfhip the fame origin ? When fhe is lively, fhe requires fympathy ; tender and delicate characters feel the wants of the heart more than others feel the common neceffities of life. On the other hand, from her generolity 4 6 E S S A Y O N generofity of nature ftie deferves to be acknowledged asi:he daugh- ter of the God of Riches ; for thofe have no pretenfions to the noble name of friend fhip, who fhrink from her feverer duties in the hour of advedity. In fhort, feeling minds feek to unite them- felves by fentiment ; for as the heart was made for affection, it becomes lifelefs the moment you refufe it the pleafure of loving and being beloved. Load men with pofleffions, with riches, and honors, and deprive them of the fweets of friendship ; all the charms of life difappear. Your reafonable characters de- ny themfelves to love : women, from attachment to duty men, from FRIENDSHIP. 47 from the fear of chufing un- wifely. You are attracted to~ wards friendfhip ; you are hur- ried into love. Friendfhip is of- ten built upon the ruins of love ; and fuch friend/hip is moft ten- der, moft lively, and moft aflidut- ous. All the delicacies of love are found in the connection of which I fpeak. Friendfhip, in its infancy, 13 fubjecl: to illufion : Novelty pleafes by promifing much, and whatever awakens hope is of high eftimation. II- lufion is a fentiment which tranf- ports us beyond the truth, by obfcuring our reafon. You fee in the perfons that begin to pleafe you, every perfection ; and the imagination, which always acls under 4 S ESSAY ON under the dominion of the heart, lends to the beloved "object the merit which it wants. We love our friends much more for the qualities that we give them cre- dit for, than for thofe which they have difplayed. There are alfo friendfliips which feem to depend on the ftars ; fympathetic con- ne&ions, and undifcovered ties, which unite and bind us fo firm- ly that we neither want vows nor proteftations : Confidence takes the lead of language. When Montaign defcribes to us his fentiments towards his friend, we fought each other" fays he, upon report, and our names had already embraced before we became acquainted. It was <c (C cc FRIENDSHIP. 49 cc Was on a feftival that I firft <c faw him, and we both found <c ourfelves in an inftantfo united, cc fo well known, and fo intimate, " that nothing could be more <c dear than we were to each <c other ; and when I afk myfelf <c whence arifes that joy, that " eafe, that repofe, which I feel cc when I fee him ? all I can fay " is, 'Tis he 'tis I." We enjoy in friendfhip the pureft fweets of love : the pleafure of con- fidence, the charm of expofing our foul to our friend to read in his very heart to fee it without a fhadow of difguife ; to difcover our own weaknef- fes, for we muft think aloud before our friend. Thofe only D who 5 o ESSAY ON who have enjoyed the en- chanting pleafure of friendship, know what delight there is in pafiing whole days together * how light, how rapid, the hours in the prefenee of thofe we love ! what a refource is the afylum of friendship ! By her we efcape from the world> which is generally deceitful, falfe, and inconftant. But one of the great advanta- ges of friendfhip, is the aid of good counfels : however rational we may be, we have ftill occafion. for a director, as we ought to diftruft our reafon, which fre- quently delivers as its own lan- guage, the mere dictates of paf- lion. 'Tis a great fupport to know FRIENDSHIP. 51 know we have a guide to correct and reform us. The ancients un- derftood all the advantages of friendfhip ; but they have fo o- vercharged their portraits of it, that they are looked upon merely as fine ideas, which exift not in nature. As men love to fly from great models, and to rejecl great examples, becaufe they require much from us, they agree to treat them as chimeras ; but in this we mifunderftand our own inte- reft. In withdrawing ourfelves from the obligations of friendfhip, we lofe all its advantages : it is a commerce, it is a kind of part- nerfhip, in which the moft wor- thy advances the largeft fum, and thinks himfelf happy in propor- D 2 tion 52 ESSAY ON A 1 tion to that advance. We divide our fortune with our friend ; riches, credit, attentions, fervices, all belong to him, except our ho- ; f/lJ(.'.' ~^) y/J} TIJ 2fj' Q33^{ nor. It has appeared to me, to >3 11/p 311/1; the difgrace of our age, that of- l\I: I/ I O UjJ^ZV 1 l\JJ^fi fering our fortune to our friend is confidered as the laft effort of friendfhip ; there are trials far %erior to this. Jjr?Jj);V/J : 5^1 flfJT But one of the greateft advan- tages of friendfhip, is to find in our friend a juft model ; for we * defire the efteem of thofe we love, and that defire leads us to imi- tate thofe virtues which may in- fure it. Seneca recommends to his friend, to chufe from amongft the great men the moft refpedtable character, to ad always as if he 117 /IF rra^iQ'Bli * was FRIENDSHIP. 53 aW SDn^fa^ te. i t . was prelent, and to render him an account of every adtion. Our friend is this exalted character to keep us in awe nothing can in- fure our conduct fo effectually, both with regard to ourfelves and others, as a refpectable friend. jo Jiorb jh i i b*M It is not allowed us to be imper- '.ilk i 2 Liii "Li *^ feet in his eyes ; neither do we often fee virtue connected with vice. We do not love to fee thofe who conftantly fcrutinize and condemn us-^-we muft be certain of our own integrity, to dare to give ourfelves certain friends. Pyrrhus faid, " Save me " from my friends, I fear only F|T% |- r\rri & _Tfsf\t4 <c them." Pliny having loft his friend, I fear," faid he, c< I (hall < c flacken in the road of virtue ; D 3 "I have 54 ESSAY ON <C T I. 1/1 -J- J ^.-t " I have loit my guide, and the <c witnefs of my life." In fhort, perfect friendship puts us under the neceffity of being virtuous ; as it can only be maintained be- tween eftimable perfons, it .forces us to refemble them, that we may preferve their regard. You will find then in friendfhip the fecurity of good advice, the emu- lation of good example, fympathy in yourforrows, afliftance in your wants, without being afked, wait- ed for, or purchafed. Let us now fee what are the true charadleriftics of friendfhip, that we may know it. The prin- cipal merit which fhould be re- quired in our friends, is virtue : It is that which aflures us they are FRIENDSHIP. 55 are capable of friendfhip, and worthy of it : expedl nothing from your connections, when they have not this foundation. In thefe days, it is not our taftes, but our wants, which unite us. It is not the union of hearts, or of the underftanding, that is fought for in thefe intimacies. Thus we fee them at an end as foon as they are begun. There can be no rupture without fome degree of difgrace, as there muft be fome fault on one fide or the other : there is no efcaping the mame of being miftaken in our opinion, and of being obliged to retract it. We form intimacies without any exertion of our judgment, and we diffolve them without re- D 4 fledtion ; 5 5 ESSAY OF flelion ; what can be more con- temptible ? Chufe your friend out of a thoufand ; nothing is more important than fuch a choice, fince upon it your happinefs de- pends : as, on the contrary, no- thing is more melancholy than to be connected with the unworthy, to have all the fhame of a fepa- ration to undergo, or the mortifi- cation of continuing united with perfons of no merit. We fhould alfo remember, that our friends (lamp our characters ; we are dif- covered in them, and we thus prefent a kind of portrait of our- felves to the public, and a con- feffion of what we are. We fhould tremble, if we reflected what we hazard in acknowledg- ing FRIENDSHIP. 57 ing a friend. Would you be efteemed ? live with perfons that are eftimable ; we fhould there- fore be well acquainted before we engage ourfelves. The firft mark, which affures us that any perfon is worthy of friendfhip, is virtue ; after that, we muft feek for friends that are free, and unenflaved by the pafiions : thofewhom ambition poflefies, are little capable of this tender fenti- ment; ftill lefs capable are thofe who are in the chains of love. Love carries away with him all the vivacity of friendfhip ; it is a turbulent pailion, and friendfhip is a gentle and well-regulated fentiment. Love gives the foul v on;b~ goi 58 ESSAY ON an intoxicating kind of joy, which is fometimes followed by extreme difcontent. j The other is a rea- fonable delight, always, pure and always equal ; nothing can ob- ftruct or weary it it nourishes the foul. Moreover, if you are attached to a perfon of merit, has not that perfon all your confidence ? The friendship of a lover is too inlipid; he may, indeed, afford you fome degree of attention, and fome fervices ; but as to fenti- ment, he has none left to beftow. The recompence of virtuous love is friendfhip; it is not, how- ever, a common paffion, but love of the pureft and moft exalted na- FRIENDSHIP. 59 ture, which leads to this reward. Perfons of a frivolous and difli- pated turn are by no means fuited to friendfliip ; for every objed with them carries away fome portion of that fentiment and fo- Jicitude which fhould be the property of friendfliip. Though it has been always faid, that we fhould give to friendihip a foundation more fo- lid than mere fenfibility, yet if inclination is not concerned, we are not deeply engaged. The fancy admits not of conviction. If the heart is not affeded, we advance neither rapidly nor far* Virtue and inclination united to form thofe ancient friendships, whofe memory has defcended to our 60 . ji/ii pvil-p.vsa.9W - % bn- our days. Montaign, who de- &3 . ,^3fi3bni>q3biji to, 33iipT>., icribes to us the rife of his fijnti- ments towards his friend, fays he 33XBO .DOGS ;jX>fljiltrB DJ3 was imitten as one in love : he o, r n^m woUoj jyuQit) was in a lituation to reliih fnend- nv.]-' -r, , r s-qinlbn^m Jhip. rreed from paliionsj and devoted to reafon, there remained t . 3fi , to him no other enjoyment. T* r i r -JtOICl Perions recovered from violent paffions, and who are reftored * .-cjOJ 3r ' ' 2^^^ to themfelves, from a convidlion ^ /^^ little value of things in ge- neral, are moft proper for true friendiliip. Thofe who are free, and difengaged from the million of frivolous amufements, attach themfelves to you by fentiment ; ^c -itTi^J 1 3nl yoin but however infenfible to their own wants, they fail not to feel and to alleviate tjiofe of their friend?, F R I.E N D SHIP. 61 friends. We never live in fuch a degree of independence, as to be able tp difpenfe with recipro- cal affiftance; but good offices fhould follow friendfliip, not friendfliip good offices. Friend- fliip alfo requires conformity, equality of age, or what ap- i r ^i j r -i r proaches to it, and a iimilanty of inclinations and purfuits. Per- fons elevated to a fplendid ftation, and intoxicated with profperity ; thofe diffipated minds which are carefled by fortune, are by no means proper for friendfliip. - iii JT1O3 ! Kings are alfo deprived of this r iioi ,?jn3m r . iweet lentiment ; they can never inonilfi3T VQ enjoy the certainty of being be- loved for their own fakes : it is always the king, and feldom the man : 62 ESSAY ON 1 man : I would not accept the firft of dignities at this price. All things are a burthen, without the fuccour of friendfhip. There never was a king, except Agefi- laus, who fuffered for having made himfelf too much beloved. It is a noble dominion, to reign over every heart. Perfons of dif- tin&ion are more eager to amafs riches, than to acquire friends. Where is the perfon who thinks of gaining hearts by effential fervices; of feeking after, and affifting neglected merit ; of preparing, in the heart of a friend, an afylum for himfelf in the feafon of difgrace ? The greater part of our acquisitions are for others ; this alone is for ourfelves. 9 A purity FRIENDSHIP. 63 A purity of morals is alfo ne- cefTary in friendfliip. The rifque is too great in uniting ourfelves with a perfon of an irregular conduct. You fee clearly that all the virtues are effential to perfecl friendfliip. Retirement is pro- per to cultivate this fentiment. Solitude is the friend of wifdom. The habitation of peace and truth is within ourfelves. " It " is the mark of a well-formed " mind," fays one of the an- cients, " to know how to live 1 c well with one's felf. How plea- fant is this fyftem of life, when it is thoroughly underftood, and fuccefsfully purfued !" Friendfliip demands an entire poffefiion cc (C cc 6 4 fc S $ A Y tf pofieflion of the whole milid i in retirement, this fentiment be- comes more neceffary and lefs divided. Moreover, we are ge- nerally fuch to others as we are to ourfelves. The wife know how to eftablifh peace within themfelves, and can communi- cate it to others. Seneca fays> " I have advanced fo far in im- " provement, that I have learnt " to be a friend to myfel" Whoever can live with them- felves, may live with others. Mild and gentle characters diffufe a foft charm over all that ap- proach them. Retirement fecures innocence, and renders friendship more requifite. Some witnefs of our conduct is neceflkry, to eftimate FRIENDSHIP. 65 eftimate our good qualities, as without fuch, we advance faintly in the road of virtue. When you efteem your friend to a certain degree, you place all your glory in his approbation. If you are happy, you would divide your happinefs with him: and indeed, all valuable porTeffions become infipid when unobferved. I believe that extreme youth is by no means fuited to the plea- fures of perfect friendship : we fee many young perfons fancy, and call themfelves friends ; but the bonds of their union are pleafures, and pleafures are not ties worthy of friendship. " You <c are at the age," fays Seneca to his friend, " when the violent E " paffions 66 ESSAY ON " paffions are no more; only the " gentler ones remain : we can " now enjoy the noble pleafure of " friendfhip." What renders friendfhip moft certain and moft folid, is virtue ; abfence from the world ; love of folitude; and purity of manners ; a life which reftores us to wifdom and to ourfelves ; an elevated fpi- rit (for there is a refinement and dignity in perfect friendfhip, to which minds of an ordinary level can never rife) ; but, above all, a purity of heart. The qualities of the heart are much more ne- ceflary than thofe of the un- derftanding. The underftanding may amufe, but it is the heart that attaches. Thofe who are influenced FRIENDSHIP. 6? influenced by felf-love, are un- worthy of it : they only think of taking from the fund of friendfliip, whereas the virtuous are only de- firous of adding to it. The ava- ricious are unacquainted with a fentiment fo noble. True friend- fhip is liberal : avarice forms an unfurmountable obftacle to every virtue. The fentiment of avarice retards, or$ to fpeak more properly, ftifles every good incli- nation. There is not a virtue which does not exacl: fomething from its pofieffor ; but the ava- ricious mind is always inclined to draw every thing from others. We muft give without a chance of return ; we muft rifque the E 2 danger 68 E S S A Y O N j c hJUKuf danger or encountering ingrati- tude. There are three feafons in friendfhip ; the beginning, the continuance, and the end. As the commencement of friendfhip abounds with fentiments, and as a rifing amity is fupported by fome illufion nothing is pain- ful in thefe firft moments ; all is pleafure : but it often hap- pens that fancy dies away, and this energy of fentiment is impaired by habitude. The il- lufion difappears, and we are re- duced to call reafon to our port, a dry and cold counfellor, at beft. Of our friendfhip, as of our love, FRIENDSHIP. 69 love, we fhould not be too la- vi{h. There is a degree of al- lowable ceconomy ; but how is it poffible to reftrain ourfelves in the enjoyment of a pleafure that has the fandion of innocence? However, as there is nothing in life fo pleafing as a lively friend- fhip, the parties fhould equally co-operate towards the prefer- vation of a ftate fo defirable ; for happinefs is nothing more than a conftant fucceflion of pleafing fenfations and agreeable ideas. We feel the prefent we imagine the future. Friendfliip fills both thefe periods, and fupports both the fentiments. To the prefent, fhe gives per- ceptible delight; to the future, E 3 the 70 ESSAY ON the brilliant vifions of hope: but as it has been obferved, that all fen- fibility is liable to decay, and that the pureft hearts cannot engage to prefer ve always the quicknefs of a growing friendship ; they may therefore be fometimes in- conftant, but never unfaithful. The vivacity of inclination fades away, but the love of duty re- mains. Such are to be pitied, for they have loft a pleafing fen- timent. Why have we not the power of infuring it ? Let us therefore give to friendship the more folid foundation of efteem, which, built on the knowledge of merit, is not liable to change. The bandage on the eyes of love, fhoujd be ever removed from thofe FRIENDSHIP. 71 thofe of friendship : it is her na- ture to be quick-fighted, to exa- mine before me forms her en- gagements, and to attach herfelf only to perfonal merit ; for thofe alone are worthy of her regard, who poflefs in themfelves a juft title to her affe&ion. gybjAfter having made a proper choice, we muft be fteady ; not efteem our friends with a variable regard, but with an unfhaken at- tachment ; for when fenfibility would efcape, and carry efteem away with it, juftice fhould in- terfere to retain it. We muft not allow ourfelves to pry into the defccls of our friends ; ftill lefs to fpeak of them. We Should refpecl: friendfhip but as me is E 4 given 72 ESSAY ON given us as an affiftant to virtue, and not as the companion of vice. We muft caution thofe we re- gard, when we fee them led aftray ; if they refift, we muft for- tify ourfelves with that ftrength and authority which arife from the prudence of wife counfel, and the purity of honeft inten- tions. We fhould hazard even the offending them, by our refo- lution in fpeaking truth : though the terms of it fhould be foftened according to the nature of their necefiity ; for few have ftrength of mind fufficient to fubmit to that truth which is to reform them. But while we blame them in pri- vate, we muft defend them in public, and not fuffer, if poffible, their FRIENDSHIP. 73 their reputation to be doubt- ful. What then, it may be afked, is the boundary of friendfhip ? It extends to the utmoft pale of re- ligion ; duty and honor are the only bounds which ought to con- fine it ; and there are many things, which the delicacy of ho- nor allows us not to execute for ourfelves, which are yet permit- ted, and even laudable, in the fervice of our friends. Diogenes ufed to fay, " When I borrow of " my friend, it is my own money " that I afk him for." Such a confidence is the nobleft panegy- ric on both the parties. Whatever your advantages may be, in the articles of virtue, ta- lents, 74 ESSAY O tf Icnts, or fortune, they give you no claim to an oftentatious fupe- riority. It has been made a quef- tion, if we may.entruft another with the fecret of our friend. The cafe admits not of delibera- tion ; a fecret is a truft of which we cannot difpofe, becaufe it is not our own. It now remains to enquire, in what manner we ought to con- duel: ourfelves when friendfhip begins to languish and change. As this union is formed between human beings, we muft make an allowance for the failings of hu- manity. Many things muft be overlooked on both fides, if we wifli to give permanency . to friendfhip. The moft virtuous are FRIENDSHIP. 75 are moft inclined to pardon - ** You will render your friend <c faithful," fays one of the an- cients, " in believing him to be " fo. We give fome title to of- * c fend, to that perfon whom we ** think capable of offence. " Ordinary friendship is never willing to confefs itfelf in the wrong; delicate friendfhip im- putes every failing to herfelf ; happy in being able to fave our friend from every painful fenfa- tion, we would indulge him in the pleafure of forgiving us, and fave him from the humiliating neceflity of afldng pardon. But for this purpofe we muft be con- nected with a noble fpirit, pof- fefling refolution to bear the in- fpection ;6 ESSAY ON- fpedion of its own failings, and even to affume fuch as do not belong to it. If your friend ftands in need of being guided and governed for his own advantage, you muft preferve a gentle hand, and never fuffer him to feel his dependence. Nothing is more at variance with friendfhip, than thofe felf-fuffici- ent characters, who endeavour to pry into your defects, and delight to difplay them ; fuch a difcovery is a triumph to them, as it forti- fies their fway, and encreafes your dependence. Avoid every thing that irritates, and in expoftula- tions beware of ufing any afperity of language : there are terms of reproach which ought never to be admitted, FRIENDSHIP. 77 admitted, fince they give fuch wounds to the heart as no time can clofe. From the moment you find your anger begin to kindle, have a guard upon yourfelf ; recoiled that paffion always commits a trefpafs upon juftice. But there are fome, who have no fooner committed one offence, than they perfevere to an hundred, and know not where to flop ; they punifli you for faults which they themfelves have committed, and are incapable of forgivenefs : when fuch have been deficient, you muft not fancy that you can con-' vince them of it; their under- ftanding is the flave of their in- juftice : you muft not reproach them; 7 $ ESSAY ON them ; but if you would punifli them, and avenge yourfelf with dignity, obferve a ftill greater nicety of behaviour ; feek occa- fions to fhew them kindnefs ; as it is your conduct which fliould reproach them, and not your dif- courfe. However ingenious felf^love may be in concealing our failings from us, there are moments fa- cred to truth, in which fhe makes herfelf vifible. The kindnefs we have fhewn in the feafon of friendfliip, muft be forgotten at the time of feparation ; and thofe who do not feel themfelves paid for their fervices by the pleafure which they have had in perform- ing them, cannot be faid to have given 5 FRIENDSHIP. 79 given ; they have only lent, or fold. In fhort, we muft fly in the purfuit of friendfhip, and the efteem of our friends, and not be apprehensive of doing too much. If we are fo unfortunate as to have made an improper choice, we muft fupport it, and by that means punifh ourfelves for our imprudence, and for the raflinefs of our attachment. Difagree- ments are difadvantageous to all parties. After having done all in your power to prevent them, as it will often happen that you are connected with obftinate perfons, who only fee you through the me- dium of their own per verfity, all is ineffectual. Nothing is more diftreffing, than to encounter thofe 2 violent Jo feSSAY ON Violent and inflammatory cha* racters, who have only juft un- derftanding fufficient to defend their own abfurdity ; whatever fteps you purfue, you will receive from them nothing but reproach. Let it not be the object of your ambition to reduce them to rea- fon; but to fubdue yourfelf: you muft retire, and let your inno- cence tranquillize and confole you. Do not think, that when a fe- paration has taken place, you have no further duties to fulfil ; here begin the moft difficult of duties, and thofe in which integrity alone can fupport you : refpect is due to paft friendfhip, call not the world to be witnefs of your 3 quarrels, FRIENDSHIP. 81 quarrels, and never fpeak of them but when you are forced to it in your own juftification ; even then, we ought not to aggravate the failings of our faithlefs friend. It is an ill fight to the public, and a difgraceful part to yourfelf, to appear in open diffenfion. Re- flect that all eyes are upon you that your judges are all your enemies, either from ignorance of your real worth, or from envy, if they are acquainted with it, or from prejudice and natural ma- lignity. Whatever has been im- parted to your confidence in the feafon of friend {hip, muft never be revealed ; remember that a fe- cret is a debt of ancient friend- ftiip, which you owe to ycurfelf. F In 82 ESSAY ON In fhort, the duties which you difcharge in the feafon of friend - thip, are -for the perfon beloved ; but after a rupture <they are, Jbr yourfelf. In the feafon of affec- tion, we all know how to coo- duel: ourfelves ; we need only to follow pur feelings .: but. wixen this is at an end, it is the voice .of duty and reafon which we muft attend to and obey. Few perfons know how to con- duel themfelves in anger ; the ge- nerality preferve no moderation. How melancholy is it to give lef- fons upon fuch a misfortune to contemplate, amidft the enjoy- ments of friendfhip, the danger of their efcaping us ! neverthelefs, we ihould refled: that we are threatened FRIENDSHIP. 83 threatened with fuch a calamity, and that the moft valuable friends may pofiefs fuch difpofitions as have a ftrong tendency to pro- duce diflenfion. We muft pafs lightly over ideas of this kind, or they would ruin the pleafures of the moft perfect amity. Some perfons think there are no duties to difcharge beyond the grave ; very few are capable of being friends to the dead : tho' there is no funeral fo truly noble as the tears and lamentations of our friends ; and the moft glo- rious fepulchre is in their hearts : neverthelefs, we are not to believe that the tears which we flied through fenfibility, and frequent- F 2 ly 4 ESSAY ON ly from the bitter fenfe of our own lofs, can acquit us towards them. There are duties which we ftill owe to their name, their reputation, and their family ; they muft live in our hearts by tendernefs, in our memory by recollection, in our difcourfe by commendations, and in our con- dud: by an imitation of their virtues ' m vinfb' aril 1o If I have given precepts for behaviour, when thefe ties are either broke or flackened, I am by no means of opinion that we ought to love our friend as if we were one day to hate him : my / * - / heart has never liftened to the do&rines of Machiavel, it is very 2 far END SHI P. 85 far from conducing itfelf by his maxims. Thofe who know me, are convinced, that in friendship I have hardly the proper degree of referve ; never am I cautioned by my own feelings to diftruft my friends : thofe who think after the fafhion of the vulgar, confi- der me as a kind of dupe : I only fave myfelf from the humiliation of the character, by rejoicing in the comfort which it affords. Thus the prudence from which I have hitherto collected thefe maxims, has not yet paffed into my heart ; but cuftom, the world, and my own experience, have but too well inftru&ed me, that in friend/hip the beft acquired, and F 3 the 86 E ; $ S A V ON the moft deferved, we muft trea~ fure up a fund of conftancy and virtue, to be able to fupport the lofs of it. It has been afked, if friendship can fubftft between - perfons of different fexes ? This is indeed rare and difficult, but it is the kind of friendllup which affords the higheft delight ; moft diffi- cult, becaufe it requires moft virtue and circumfpedtiom Wo- men who have only the com- mon ideas of love, are 'not wor- thy of it : and men who only feek in women the ordinary pleafures of the fex, without fuppofing that they may poffefs qualities of the jnind and heart more attra&ive jo than FRIENDSHIP. 87 than thofe of beauty ; fuch men are' not formed for the friendship of which I fpeak. Let us there- fore attach ourfelves by the ties- of virtue and of perfonal merit ; connections of this kind fome- times begin in love, and termi- nate in friendfhip. When wo- men are faithful to the virtue of their fex, friendship being the re- coinpence of virtuous love, they may flatter themfelves with the hopes of it. From the manner in which love is treated at this time, it frequently terminates in an open quarrel, lhame being ge- nerally the punifhment of vice. When women oppofe their duty to their affe&ion, and offer you F 4 the 88 : E S S A Y ON the charms and fentiments of friendfhip ; when, moreover, you difcover in them the fame merit as in men, can you do better than connect yourfelf with them ? It is certain, that of all unions it is the moft enchanting ; there is always a degree of vivacity, which is not to be found between per- fons of the fame fex above all, the failings that difunite, fuch as en- vy or competition, of whatever nature it may be, is not to be found in this fore of connexion. Women have the misfortune of not being able to depend on friendfliip with each other ; the multiplicity of their failings forms an infurmountable impediment j they FRIENDSHIP. 89 they unite from neceflity, and never from inclination. To what account, then, may they venture to turn that fund of fentiment which they pofTefs ? Thofe who have denied themfelves to love, are naturally led into friend- fhip, and men are confiderable gainers by this meafure ; for when women have not exhauft- ed the fenfibility of their hearts by the paffions, their friend- flrip is peculiarly interefting and tender ; for it muft be con- feflfed (to the glory, or to the difgrace of women) that they alone are capable of giving all that poignancy to fentiment, which 9 o ESSA'Y ON which they generally give.-^ Met* fpeak to the underftand- ing, Wbmen to the heart. More- over,- as nature Kas placed invi- *^ * v "\ fible attractions and' ties be- tween perfons of different fex, we find every preparation for friendfhip. The works of na- ture ard always the moft per- fe& ; thofe in which fhe has not the principal fhare, are the leaft engagirtg. In the friend- fhip of which I fpeak, we feel that it is her work ; thefe fe- cret ties, thefe fympathies, this fWet inclination, which there is no refitting; all are comprized in it. A blefling fo defirable, is FRIENDSHIP. 91 is always the recompence of me- rit ; but we ought to watch over ourfelves, left a virtue fhould change imperceptibly in- ESSAY 2 a H O o A -a J o ! nam oi nsvi nsad 2.d noi:&0ift0i tbHi idi HI f Blentqqif lo 300310! ,3vil ibritlo agaft ^ jft JB m ^Jasvb amol ,-t- o E L s s o D- A Y N AGE. EVERY neceffary affiftancc has been given to men for the improvement of their reafon, and for their inftrudtion in the great fcience of happinefs, in every ftage of their lives. Cicero has written a treatife on Old- Age, to put them in a fituation to ex trad fome advantages from a period, 94 ESSAY ON a period, in which every,, thing feems to defert us! Attention is directed to the improvement of men alone; but as to women, at all feafons of life i. they are left to themfelves : their education is , neglected in their youth ; in the fequel they are de- prived of coalbktion and fupport for their old-age. Thus the greateft part of wo- men Hve without thought,- with- O * out felf-examination : in youth they are vain and diflipated, in old-age weak and forfaken. We '-arrive at' each feafon, without knowing either how to conduct ourfelves in it, or to enjoy it: when it is paft, we fee the ufe we might have made of it; but as O L D - A JG E. 9$ as regret is unprofitable when it ferves not to reform us, let us turn to our advantage the time that remains. I fupport myfelf by my own refle&ions, and as I approach that age when all things forfake us, I wifh my reafon ,to afford me a compenfa- tion for what I lofe. All the world has a dread of old-age ; it is regarded as a fea- fon given up to pain and vexa- tion, in which all pleafures dif- appear. Every one lofes in ad- vancing in life, and the women more than the men. As all their merit confifts in exterior graces, and as time deftroys them, they are left entirely deftitute; for there are very few women whofe merit 9 6 ESSAY ON merit is more lafting than their beauty. Let us try if it be not poflible to replace it ; and, fince there is no bleffing fo trivial that it may not be turned to fome ad- vantage in the hands of a dex- trous perfon, let us endeavour to render the feafon of old-age profitable, by making it condu- cive to our happinefs and perfec- tion. Let us examine the duties of old-age ; the refpecl: and pro- priety which are due to that pe- riod : and let us enquire into the advantages which may be drawn from it, that we may enjoy them. Life does not confift fo much in the fpace of time, as in the ufe we are able to make of it. O L D - A G E. 97 it. ' We fhbuld lay clown a plan, and follow it with exadtnefs ; for to be ever chanonno; our refolu- o o tions and our conduct, is man- gling our exiftehce. We fhort- en it by our instability, and lengthen it by an uniformity, of conduft. Thefe reflections, my child, which belong to my fituation at prefent, will be one day your's. Prepare for yourfelf an happy old-age, by a youth of innocence. Recollect that the pleafurable age is but a flower, which you will fee faded. The graces will defert you, and health will dif- appear. Old-age will come, and deftroy the rofes in your cheeks. Young as you are, that which G travels 9-8 E S S A Y O N travels with fuch rapidity, is not far from. you. ,3iirtwt We have, in growing old, the common evils of humanity. The infirmities of the body and the mind are attendants on advanced life. Old-age, fays Montaign, imprejjes more wrinkles on the mind than on the face. The paflions may be faid to lie in wait for us during the whole courfe of our lives. There feem to be ambuf- cades of them, through which we muft neceflarily pafs. From the torrid paeons, fays Montaign, we retreat to the temperate. Melancholy refle&ions are in the train of old-age. They dry up the foxirces of joy and plea- fure. They make us difgufted 9 with OLD-AGE. 99 with the prefent, and dread the future. They render us infenfible to every thing but pain. All thefe misfortunes are com- mon to both fexes ; but there are fome which are peculiar to women. As there are different characters, there are different kinds of pain to fuffer, and mea- fures to purfue. Women are ei- ther libertine or virtuous. Thefe two characters are varied with infinite difcriminations, and there are many {hades and degrees in both. As to thofe, who are born without tendernefs or attractions, and who have neither made nor received any impreffion ; they enjoy a tranquillity and a regu- larity of life, and have lefs to G 2 lofe, ioo ESSAY ON o . lofe, as they advance m years, H 1LH ... x,& r / 7 than thofe who are fufceptible of fentiment, and calculated to in- fpire it. Neverthelefs, thefe have many uneafinefles to fuffer, and r n *f r V>tIJ5 imperfections to ltrup;p;le with. r & . vn They ought to be on their guard n i i againft melancholy. We become enemies to joy, which our intereft fhould lead us to cherifli in our- felves, and which we ought not to cenfure in others. But we muft chufe our pleafures, or rather our amufements ; what is allowable iiOJ JO oUOiyi jfI^"l3iTll"i *3 f B *^T^Ti ^ and graceful at one age, is unbe- coming at another. . on nwofil sysd Avarice is alio one of the i rr t_ i - 3d ^VBfi Odw weaknelies belonging to the lat- ter period of life. As every thing fails, we wifli for fome- thing OLD-AGE. 101 thing to lean on ; and we attach r i i_ r ourielves to riches as our lupport. Neverthelefs, if we could reafon properly, we fhould fee that we have no real occafion for them, and that we enfure more comfort by fharing them with others, than by amaffing them for our- felves. ^niLro ri But let us return to women too nr.dlnano.n . bl^H or gaiety ; they have molt to lofe in growing old, and a more difficult part to acl:. As there are various forts of them, fo there are different kinds of con- duct to obferve. For thofe who have fhown no difcretion, and who have been unfaithful to the prejudices, and to the virtues i j of their fex, they lofe infinitely 03 on E S AY Cf Q; N on the Jaiiwfc thefe being the only united them to ne&ion muft be thofe who have known how,t;o refpecl: themfelves, who have been able to join probity and friendfhip to love; thefe are ftill connedled with men by the vir- tues of fociety ; for virtue alone has a tight to unite us. Feel- ing characters have more to un- dergo. The heart does not ex- hauft itfelf like the fenfes. At- tachment to our duties is often followed by a long and painful fenfibility. Love indemnifies himfelf on the fentiments of the heart, for what the fenfes have refufed him. The more the fentiments OLD-AGE. 103 fentlments are reftrained, the more lively they become. In- clination grows weaker by in- dulgence, and the paffions 6f women wear out like thofe of men. In fhort, there is a pe- riod in the lives of women, which becomes a criris. It is the conduct which they obferve, and the part that they take at that time, which gives the; laft finifh to their reputation, and upon which depends the re* pofe of their whole lives. Women fupport themfelves in youth by a vivacity of confti- tution, which hurries them to- wards fuch objects as gratify their fenfes, and which deli- vers them to the paffions, either G 4 allowable IQ4 ESSAY ON allowable or forbiddenui} novelty/ pf:; -the fcene,:>i'Tfrfuiaii excites and nourifhes their cu- riofity, fupports them. For thofe who have beauty and at- tradHons, they enjoy the ad- vantage of their own figure, and the impreffion which they make on others. Their felf- love is always gratified by what they find in themfelves, and by the afTedtion which they in- fpire. What authority is more inftan- taneous, more fweet, and more abfolute, than that of beauty? Majefty and power have domi- nion only over external objecls> that of beauty reaches the foul. There is hardly an amiable WOT- man OLD-AGE. 105 man that has not enjoyed thefe triumphs. Moreover, what a fund of amufements does not the defireof pleafing fupply? All the apparatus of gallantry, allowable in a young perfon, drefs, diver- verfions ; all thefe pleafures are the occupations of a certain age. What a&ivity do the paffions not infpire ? Gan we be agitated more forcibly than by their power ? The events of female life depend on them, and great eftablifh men ts have often been the confequence and the reward of a fentiment. All thefe things are connected with each other ; they relate to the heart, and conftitute an active and bufy life, even for thofe who have not made an improper ufe of ESSAY ON of their liberty. All this vanishes at an after-period, when, if you wifh to try the fenfibility of the heart, you find it alive only to pain. There comes a feafon in which you rauft lead a fort of life fuitable to the decency and dig- nity of your age. You muft give up all: that is called lively plea- fure. It often happens that you have loft all tafte for amufements: they can no longer employ your hours ; you have even loft your real friends, and the time is paft for you to make others. The eftate of beauty is love, and the recompence of virtuous love is friendship ;. and you are -very fortunate, when all your beft years have procured you one, or two OLD-AGE. 107 two real friends. In fliort, you quit each feafon of life as foon as you begin to be acquainted with it, and you enter quite a novice into another. All exterior obje&s afford you no further fupport, or are prohibited to you. Within yourfelf you find nothing but in- firmities of body, and melancholy reflexions in the mind, nothing but difguft. You muft break all commerce with fentiment. We feel our ties when they ought to be diflblved. Devotion has been called the play- thing, but I con- fider it as the ftaff of age ; it is a becoming fentiment, and the only one neceffary. The yoke of religion is not a burden, but a fupport, But ESSAY ON f ^"*< .* But let us proceed to the du- ties of old-age. In all the fea- fons of life we have duties to difcharge, both to others and to ourfelves, and thofe which we owe to others double as we -*** X, MM I <* 1 ** ' OOJ3 f 3vT5r grow old. When we can no longer diffufe the charm of chear- fulnefs over fociety, it has a ftronger claim on us for intrin- fic virtues. In youth others will attend to you. In old-age you muft attend to others : participa- tion is expeded from us, and our failure is not forgiven. With our youth we lofe the privilege of erring. It is no longer per- mitted us to be in the wrong. We have no longer that fedu- cing charm, and we are judged with feverity. The firft graces of youth 109 rr\ ^rf'<i- fs~1 "j^Vf J^rtTf" ?ffe ^"^f "ffrfJ youth have a lultre which covers every thing. The errors in judg- ment are pardoned, and have the merit of fimplicity. t r *\ J+ L r *\ In growing old, we muft ob- ferve, above all, propriety in our converfation and in our drefs. Nothing is more ridiculous than making it appear, by ftudied or- naments, that you wifh to recall the departing graces. An avowed old-age is leaft old. The greateft misfortune of women who have been lovely, is their forgetting that they are fo no more. We muft alfo plan out for ourfelves a fuitable mode of life. It is not living as we ought to live, under the do- minion of our paflions and fan- tafies j we only live as becomes us. ESSAY ON us, when we live according to reafon. We muft alfo pay at- tention to our fociety, and only unite with perfons of fimilar age and difpoiitions. Shews and pub- lic places ought to be prohi- bited, or at leaft we fhould vifit them but rarely. Nothing is lefs decent, than to difplay there a countenance which has loft its graces. When you can no longer adorn thofe fcenes, it is time to quit them. The advantages of underftanding are but ill fup- ported, when contrafted with the brilliancy of youth. They ferve but to make you feel too fcverely what you have loft : nothing fuits us then fo well as home ; our felf-love fuffers lefs there than in other places. There are, how- ever* ever, -allowable amufements, and all -that is called pleafure is not forbidden. f ^psbol mo ot noi:/ Let us examine what we owe to ourfelves ; our fentiments and our conduct ought to be different from what it has been in our earlieft years. You owe to the world the obligations of politenefs ; but you owe to yourfelf fuch fentiments as arq allowable and innocent, from a fenfe of your own dignity ; for we muft live upon good terms with ourfelves. It is neceflary alfo for our own repofe ; but it ought tQ be coniidered, that there are fen- timents, from which- tp be di- vorced, aftedls the very foul. You neither^ know their price, nor ESSAY ON nor the ufe which fhould be made of them, till they are to be given up. In a more advanced age, the tafte becomes more delicate upon thofe points which wound, and more exquifite upon thofe which pleafe. Love is the firft of plea- fures, and the fweeteft of errors ; but when youth has forfaken you, the pains double, and the plea- fures diminifh. What conftitutes the misfor- tune of a certain feafon is, that we wifh to preferve, and to carry fen- timents into an age in which they ought not to appear. Is that the fault of the feafon? is it not rather our own? Our manners make the mif- fortune, not old-age. Every fea- fon muft be a burden to thofe who 10 have OLD-AGE. ii3 have not within themfelves the powers of rendering life happy. We muft with docility fubmit ourfelves to the pains of our age, and of our Situation. Nature^ makes a kind of agreement with men ; me only gives them life upon conditions : (he gives us nothing as our property ; me does no more than lend. We muft not revolt at the natural progrefs- of humanity. A philofopher who had lived to a hundred and feven years, was aflced if he did not find life tirefome ? Ke replied, have no reafon to complain of my old-age, as I never made an ill ufe of my youth. When the mo- rals are pure and innocent in ear-* ly life, old-age is mild and tran- H quiL folation of anadvanced age. Wfcn yga h^mK you reap the fea^S^ fpn the misfortunes which, our u PP. n :Sfe e^wk 21 ftfi ftfil , v The wants of the heart are infinite, thofe of nature are li- rmted. Happy is that old-age in which, the heart is devoted to heaven. Devotion is a proper fentiment for women, and becom- ing to both fexes. Old-age, with- i iJOJ v>J i/Aii i!vlJ JUIIiJi CEuif lyi ii Joi-l . out religion, is burdenfome. All the exterior pleafur,es abandon us. beft of bleffings, health aj^.yo 3 are yWPBremblifc N*i& infidel fees only pains prepared for him : tBe philofopher, only annihilation. Behold the termination" of the The laft a<5l is always tragical ; but how great the gain, to change the idea of annihilation for that of eternity ! If we live in a manner to render it blefled, how beauti- ful the profpeft of an eternity ofblifs! but the greateft part of mankind fuffer their life to pafs away without a thought of afcer- taining their real fituation. Who would believe that t^iefe very men, who are fo zealous upon H 2 that n6 E S S A T ^ bnii .;37ii jiaHl ,e,-YniJiis. that which regards their glory or their fortune, when they think it in danger, are tranquil and in- dolent concerning the knowledge of their being; that they will fuf- fer themfelves to be effeminately led on to death, without inform- ing themfelves whether what they have been told are chimaeras or truths ; that they fhould travel on their road, and fee advancing towards them death, eternity, and everlafting punifhments and rewards, without refle&ing that thefe great truths concern and intereft them ? Can we, with- out forefight and without fear, proceed to the trial of fo great an event ? This is, neverthe- kfs > the ftate in which the ge- 2 nerality OLD-AGE. 117 >. C i A > nerality of men live ; and for thofe few who have taken the good or the bad fide, how many- are there who never think of it? For thofe who are fo happy as to be affected by religion, their piety confoles them. It is alfo moft r if?{. v < t" ealy to pradtiie. ' r 3flw s^vbtffDrfj onr All the chains that attach us to life are nearly broken. It is the work of nature, more than that of our reafon, to detach us from it. The ban- dage of illufion is fallen, and we fee things as they are. A know- ledge of the world is dearly pur- chafed, and thofe who are beft acquainted with It know, that it is only good to take leave of. H 3 Subftan- we even in tranfient pleafures. We flaall draw nothing fo valuable from the world as we {hall from de- votion. . She has many refqurces. Refignation every period pra&ice of it is moft neceflary in old-age;, as we are fuflaining loffes continually. But as fentiment is lefs lively, we Attach ourfelves lefs to things. We muft follow nature imperceptibly, without revolting againft h$r. c .*uSk ifr<$hf beft guide we can have. We live but .to lofe, and to wean ourfelves from , the objects of our regard t H We . 119 We tnuft exped a change both in ourtelves and in others, and on mhfe$3&c<&fiMs we 'fhotrld fKew fiftch indulgence to others as we wiili to receive on the appearance of a iimilar change in ourfelves. o But our lofles are frequently to our advantage. Worthy minds will rejoice in being freed from the fetters of voluptuoufnefs. We are to blame therefore our morals, and not our period of life, for what we fuffer. We iliould fubmit mildly to the laws of our condition : we are all made to grow weak, to grow old., and to die. Nothing is ^rritfre idle than to #f uggte againft the effeds of $M?i ttHe^ciscidur fuperior in II 4 ftrength. E S S A Y O N ftrength. In youth we all live as it were in the future. Life is ipent in defire> and to the future we truft for our joys and repofe. In old-age we muft feize them in the inftant. Montaign fays, that he turns every thing to ad- vantage* I feel, fays he, as other men do, but not quite in fo tran- fient a rnanner. In proportion as life becomes fhpjrter, I would encreafe my reliih for what re- mains. I would flop the rapidi- ty of its flight by the eagernefs of my grafp. We muft fupport old-age by every prop. I make all things contribute to my aid, and both wifdom and folly will have enough to do in affi <0 L D*- A G E. me with their alternate good offi- ces under this latter period of life. One of the duties of old- age, is the management of time. The lefs that remains to us, the more valuable we ought to con- fider it. The time of Chriftkns is the price with which they puf-* chafe eternity. Without wafting it, therefore, in the purfuitof vain fciences, which are above us, let us make the proper ufe of our fi~ tuation, and juftly eftimate the reach of our underftanding. We are lefs limited in the article of enjoyment, than in that of know- ledge : we have iftdeed as much light as is neceflary and proper for OUT well-being ; but we en- gage E3 SiAOrj ,0 N which were not defigned for our saJipbeheBfion .? JbiitsbBfoie ore temqhitb inquiries! know the ftanding. What is the rule that fion ? We muft learn to feparafe opinion from real knciwJedge/^^) have the ftrength to pauie- amlt^) doubt, when we fee nothing clearly ; and to have the refolu- tion to bear the ignorance of truths which are beyond our Qfcmprehenfion. ioBut>ii0>qchecfa our prefumption, and to weaken our ccmfidence, let us reflect that the two principles of our know- noFHrqo t> L D-A G E. 123 ledge, our reafon and our fenfes, are deficient in fincerity, and very apt o to /mlfleadjdi^ noSftfae fenfes overpower reafon by furprize, andiit^e (reafon deceives them in its turn. Behold our two guides, who both lead us aftray 1 Re- flections like thefe infpire us with difguft for mere fpecu^- lative truths, let us then em- ploy our time in attainments which will contribute to our happinefs and perfe&ion. - There is hardly any age, which has not in its difpofal a cer- tain portion of bleffings :^^to the firft period, belong the live- ly pfefcfores of the fenfes and imagination ; to the fecond, thofe of ambition and opinion ; and to the 124 ESSAY ON the laft, the poifeffion of reafon and tranquillity. SfjTn4jy 3 $ foul- is the moft neceffary difpofi- tion for happinefs. When the foul is not fhaken by a multitude of fenfations, it is in a better ftate to make the moft of thofe bleffings which prefent them- felves, and gains as much by the improvement of its relifh, as it lofes by the failure of its ob- jects. It has been confidered as the duty of old-age to think of death. I believe it is ufeful to reflect upon it, for the regulation of our lives, and to detach ourfelves from the world. But it is not neceflary to have it always in contemplation, OLD-AGE. 125 contemplation, to afflict us. The idea is afflicting from the firft opening of the fcene. How beautiful foever the drama, the curtain rnuft fall. The nobleft lives terminate in the 'fame man- ner. A little duft is thrown over us, and we are plunged into eternity. Montaign does not agree with me. He would ra- ther difarm death, by familiar- izing the mind to its terrors. We muft hope that Heaven will fupport us in our clofing fcene. It fhould be our only aim to en- gage its protection, by a life of innocence and virtue. We fhould alfo b3 careful 'not to fet too high a value on life. It has al- ways 126 E 5 S >f'Y ON ways- tach m, and misfortunes enough to reconcile uSP^tf* its ^^6{s? n ^K philofophcr anfwered a man, who afked him if he fliould de- ftroy himfelf You have no re- fle<5fcion upon a point of fo much importance. Great men do not meafure life by the duration in point of time, but by its propor- tion of glory. An exemplary death throws a luftre upon life ; a weak one difhonors it. To form a complete judgment of any one, we ought to have feen Lite is in itfelf ihort, and we make it more fo, by our levijty and irregularities; The fliorf OLD-AGE. for- went glflp. 8 3i WJiqe,yer i j fubftrads f?h%ir^ift^e te portioa of; time allotted for fleep, and other necefiities, for the difor- ders of mind and body, will difcover, that little remains to us for happinefs ; and out of a long life, we fhall with difficulty extrad fome years of it. , It has been faid, we ought to fi- nifh our lives before our death, that is- to fay, our projefls. To finifli our life, is to have worn out our inclination; for it; for with re- fpeft to our projects, as long as we liv* we muft amufe ourfelves with hopes, and we exift lefs in t-28 S 5 A Y ON in the prefent than in the future* Life would be fliort, if hopg did &ot give it 'extent. The prefect, fays- afcal,- is never our aim: the p&ft and the prefent are our means ; the future alone is- oiir object Thus we do not exift, but we hope to do fo. WV fhould, however, make hafte to live. It is not wife to fay, I flmll live to-morrow. The Philofophers fay, Learn to live ; and the Chrif- tians, Learn every day how to die. - One- of the advantages ,bf old- age is liberty. Pififtratus afked Solon, who- eppofed him, on what he grounded his liberty ? Upon my old-age, he replied, which has- no longer any- thing to fear-; The OLD-AGE. 129 latter feafon fets us free from the tyranny of opinion. When we are young, we think only pf living in the conceit g{ Others. We muft eftablifh our reputations, and give ourfelves an honorable place in the ima- gination of others ; and we muft even be happy in their idea. Such happinefs is not real ; it is not ourfelves we confult, but others. In a later period, we return to ourfelves, and this re- tura jias its fweets. We begin to confult and to confide in our- felves. We efcape from fortune an4 from illufion. Men have loft their prerogative of deceiving us. We have learn: to know I them, 1 30 ESSAY ON them, and to know ourfelves j to profit from our own faults, which inftru us as- much as thofe of others. We begin to fe^'our 'error, in having fet fo high a va- lue upon men. Often do tjiey teach us, to our coft, to place no dependence upon arty thing. Infidelity difengages us ; the falfity of pleafure undeceives us. Old-age delivers u-s alfo from the tyranny of the paffions, and convinces us, that there is a con- fiderable pleafure in difcovering that we-ean e^ift without them, and a high degree of deliglit, in feeling ourfelves fuperipr to their controul. Nature fupplies us with OLD-AGE. 13 * with taftes and defires conform- able to our prefent fituation. In youth, we conceive a falfe idea of old-age : thefe are fears which w^ contract burfelves. It is not nature that infpires them, be- caufe, during the period we are in, we dread the paffions of another period, which is a ftranger to us. Nature is full of admirable re- fources : flie conducts and go- verns us almbft without our . knowing it, and has the art of afTifting- us under every incon- venience. Deprivations are no longer felt?, when defire is ex- tinguiflied; All our inclinations pafs away, even to that of life itfelf. It is to be wifhed that I 2 all ON " ; iV" 5w3i 3fiDjdbiw 4 . , the pafuons mould expire be- fore us this is to have finished our life before we die. In this feafon, reifqn is reftored to us. She refumes all her rights. We begin to live when we begin to obey her for they whole thoughts, whofe hopes, and even whole reafon, is at the mergy of fortune, and of their own fan- talies, they can affure themfelves of nothing, having nothing for their fupport. It is melancholy to arrive at the end of life with- out having made any provifion of real bldTmgs, which never decay. Never thelefs, men errfploy them- felves entirely in arriafljrig fuch j o pofleffions as" they muft necef- farily <XL D - A G E._ farily lofe, \?ithout reflecting, that thofe perifhable commodities do pot belong to us. Experience is alfo one of the advantages of the .eU CJ ;2 \ iQJI3i 3f J7O1.S57 */!<.- laft feafon. Vfe are inftruded by - . . - the paft even our .errors .reform, and reftore to us our reafon, which is feldom preferved in prof- perity ; for thofe perfons, who have been always happy, have V-J - Ar~>A.3. ^ *^ feldom deferved to be fo. But Tt^Tu " ' there are troubles that arife/rom fortune and from chance, and others, which flow from irregu- larity of morals. Thefe corrupt the mind and deftroy the health; for the fequel of an irregular youth, is a miferable old-age, and frequently we employ the firft I 3 part I 34 E S S A Y O N part of our lives to render the remainder of them wretched. The flavery of the paffions is a kind of imprifonment, in which the foul is impaired and weakened. When we are delivered from them, the foul enlarges and expands. At a certain age, we are no longer to be enfnared by the pleafuresof the imagination. We know how de- ceitful they are, and that all the paflions promife more than they give. Thofe which are only fup- ported by illufion, are mifplaced and odious at a certain age. Am- bition, extended too far, degene- rates into folly ; and love, by dif- play ing itfelf to public view, be- comes the objed: of ridicule. There OLD-AGE. There comes a feafon in our liveSj which is facred to truth. which is j deftincd to ' make things appear according to their juft value* Youth, and the paf- fions, give a falfe colouring to every thing we are then reftor- ed to pleafures of genuine fim- plicity we begin to confult and to rely on our own fenti- ments concerning happinefs. We muft in fome degree, accommo- date ourfelves to the cuftoms of life but we fhould not furren^ der to them either our liberty or our judgment. Nothing is more glorious than to make an honourable retreat, and to fecure to ourfelves an interval of I 4 leifure E s S A * o *r Ieifur6 between life and deatn. Death, fays Montaign, is no focial bufinefs, but the ad: of an indivi^ dual. In old-age, we ought rather to be avaricious than prodigal of dur fociety. It has been faid of a man, that he took the counfel of his old-age, and retired. We owe the firft and the fecond fea- fon to our country, and the la ft to ourfelves. To live in per- petual employment, is to travel rapidly through life. Tranquil- lity lengthens our exiftence. The world fteals us from ourfelves and folitude reftbres us.-^-The world is compofed of a herd, which are ever flying from themfelves. So- litude, lays an exalted character, is O'-L ft- A G E is the infirmary of fouls $ t etite then within yourfelf, but prepare for yourfelf a good reeepttaift Unite the oppofite tenements of {hame and refped, and, ing the Iktlenefs ; of learh to reverence your own The general pralice is thereverft; but how mekiicholy to retairi this felf-love, arid tti fee bAirfelves dying every inft^nt ! fa is eflentfel to our intereft* t wean ourfelves from tMs- felf- ifli affedion, to break part of thefe fetters, and make at leaft fome advancestowardsfreedom*-^^ to clofe every avenue that might; condu'd: us back into the world, and I 3 8 ESS AY ON and not even caft a look towards it. O happy exiftence, which finds itfelf delivered from every fpecies of flavery ! in which, we re- linquifli all things not from. a tranfitory difguft, ;but from a confirmed judgment, fupported by the conviction of the . fmall value of things in general* It is this knowledge which reconciles us with wifdom, which makes old-age palatable to us, if I may hazard fuch an expreflion. It belongs only to liberal fouls to make a proper eftimate of life andjdeath fuch alone as are full of refqurcescan extract enjoyment from thefe declining years. Weak minds endure them ; but minds of OLD-AGE. 139 of fuperior ftrerigth convert them to advantage. It has been faid, that there was no fpe&acle more worthy of a God, than a virtuous man ftruggling with adverfity. We may fay the fame thing of a man abandoned to himfelf, ftrug- gling with old-age, infirmity, and death. In retirement, which is the afylum of age, we en- joy an uninterrupted calm. In- nocent days bring with them nights of tranquillity, and while you affociate with the dead, they inftrucl, direct, and confole you thefe are certain and conftant friends, devoid of caprice or jea- loufy. In fhort, it has been faid, that the moft pleafing period in 2 the i 4 o ESSAY ON the life of man is the clofe of it. As we advance, we learn alfo to fubmit ourfelves to the laws ofneceflity: that free-will, fo ftrong and unruly, becomes weak, and is infenfibly extinguiflied. We have too often proved, that refiftance is ineffe&ual, and leaves us nothing but the diflionor of unfuccefsful rebellion. We often wifti for what is contrary to our intereft, and it frequently hap- pens, that what we have fuppofed prejudicial, turns out to our advantage. We no longer know what we ought to wifli for. We have no longer the ftrength to defire. We find it much eafier to O L P- A G E, 141 to fubmit, than to change the order of the world. Internal peace does not refide in the fenfes, but in the will. It is pre- ferved in the midft of affliction, as long as the will remains firm and fubmiflive. Our peace does not confift fo much in an ex- emption from fufferings, as in a mild resignation under them. We ought to consider every paflef- fion, which is out of our reach;, as ftrangers to us. It isiS-etii regarding things as our due and property, that we fuffer by their deprivation. Impoflibility alone, can fix the imagination of man. -; Perfons of judgment employ them- {elves in confidering the limits 9 which x 4 2 ESS A Y, which are prefcribed by reafon and nature. In fhort, all things are at peace, when they are in their natural or- der. The foul of man can repofe only in the bofom of his God. When we refign ourfelves to his guidance, resignation and regula- rity reftore us to that peace which our refiftance had deprived us of. The only fecure afylum for man, is in the love and in the fear of his Creator. 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