A 575741 Y 1837 INIMAIRE ARTES LIBRARY UNIVERSITY OF MICHIGAN VERITAS E-PLURIBUS UNUM SCIENTIA JEBUR OF THE SQUAERIS PENINSULAM AMOEN CIRCUMSPICE LLOJMADAGOGO00DUVAVAD. HOMOEOPATHIC LIBRARY Gress -3137+ 698 J. Gress WOMAN'S MEDICAL GUIDE; CONTAINING ESSAYS ON THE PHYSICAL, MORAL AND EDUCATIONAL DEVELOPMENT OF FEMALES, AND THE HOMEOPATHIC TREATMENT OF THEIR DISEASES IN ALL PERIODS OF LIFE, TOGETHER WITH Directions for the Remedial use of Water and Gymnastics. By J. H. PULTE, M. D. PROFESSOR OF OBSTETRICS AND DISEASES OF WOMEN AND CHILDREN; EMERITUS PROFESSOR OF CLINICAL MEdicine in THE WESTERN COLLEGE OF HOMEO- PATHY; AUTHOR OF "HOMEOPATHIC DOMESTIC PHYSICIAN, ETC. CINCINNATI: MOORE, ANDERSON, WILSTACH & KEYS, 28 WEST FOURTH STREET. NEW-YORK: NEWMAN & IVISON. PHILADELPHIA: MATTHEW & HOUARD. BOSTON: OTIS CLAPP. LONDON: LOW & CO. 1853. Entered according to Act of Congress, in the year 1853, by J. H PULTE, M. D., In the Clerk's Office of the District Court of the United States for the District of Ohio. HARRIS & FAIRBANKS, PRINTERS, STEREOTYPERS & BOOKBINDERS, 10 Bank St., Cleveland, O. PREFACE. In offering this work to the Public, the Author deems it appropriate to state some of the reasons which prompted its publication. The spread of Homœopathy throughout the country has been very great, beyond even the ex- pectations of its most sanguine advocates, and is daily increasing. Thousands of families depend on its efficacy in the most dangerous diseases, such as Asiatic Cholera, Scarlet and Typhus Fever, etc.; and thousands of intelligent mothers consider it the greatest blessing which science has yet bestowed upon them. While they have heretofore received their information respecting matters of general interest and usefulness, phy- sical education, hygiene, etc., from Allopathic writers, they now, since their conversion to Homœopathy, expect the Homœopathic practi- tioner to furnish them with similar instruction. This reasonable desire the practicing physician, burdened with toil and care, can satisfy only at a IV PREFACE. great sacrifice of time and breath, if he attempts at all to convey the requisite information person- ally to each one of his lady patrons. Popular treatises, devised for this purpose, will accomplish the object in every respect more satisfactorily. No such work, however, has, as yet, ap- peared in our Homeopathic literature, at least none especially adapted to the instruction of woman, as to her physical and moral education, her destiny, and the treatment of female diseases. This want the author intended to supply, by discussing these important topics in a popular and lucid style. Whether or not he has suc- ceeded in his task, is for the reader to decide: if not, then the failure has been one of judgment, not of motive. As to the latter, the Author is conscious of having spared neither time nor re- search in endeavoring to make the book indeed, what he intended it to be, a Woman's Medical Guide, forming, as it were, a supplement to his Homœopathic Domestic Physician. THE AUTHOR. CINCINNATI, May, 1853. INTRODUCTION, CONTENTS. D PART I. WOMAN'S PHYSICAL AND MORAL DEVELOPMENT; HER SOCIAL POSITION AND DESTINY. CHAPTER I. - 13-18 * WOMAN. 1.-PHYSICAL CHARACTER, 21-31 Anatomical difference between the two sexes, 21: Difference in the external appearance, internal organs and bony structure, 23: The female has a different sphere of action from the male, 24: Comparison of the female system with the male, 25: The destiny of either based on their physical constitutions, 26: Di- vision of the duties of life, 27: Organs peculiar to the female, 28: Description of their form, position and function, 29: Ex- planation of the changes in woman's physical economy, 30. 2.-MORAL AND INTELLECTUAL CHARACTER, 31-43 No superiority of either sex in mental or physical endowments, 31: Difference of character based on unalterable laws of na. ture, 32: Woman physiologically considered, 34: Phrenological VI CONTENTS. analysis of the female mind, 35: Moral region, 36: Intel- lectual region, 37: Reflective and perceptive faculties, 39: Region of the sentiments-imagination, 40: Its importance as one of the faculties which render woman pre-eminently so- cial, 41: 3.-DESTINY, 43-52 Woman in every respect man's equal, 43: Christianity the only true restorer of woman's rights, 45: Emancipation of woman, its true meaning and legitimate object, 46: Duty of legislation, 46: Her destiny, based upon her physical and moral peculiar- ities, 47: Woman's true position in the light of the gospel 48: Her position in the family as wife, mother, sister or daughter, 49: Duties and responsibilities of a christian mother, 50: Her position in society and the state, 52. CHAPTER II. GIRL. ITS INFANCY, 63-60 Difference of action between the male and female infant, 53: Swelling of the breasts in female infants, 54: Hygienic rules, bathing, exercise, air, food, clothing, 55: Vaccination, 61. ITS GIRLHOOD,- 61-84 Importance of a proper development and carly education of the physical system, 62: Danger of the intellectual education if too early commenced, 62: Our present system of education is wrong—the physical must precede the intellectual, 62: Each has separate ends to accomplish, 63: What they are and how they can be reached, 64: Dress of a girl, 66: Exercise, dancing CONTENTS. VII + : gymnastics, 66: Danger resulting from infant schools, 72: Bad results from the practice of awarding preferments and premiums in schools, 74: How a system of education should be organized, 78: Music, vocal and instrumental, 80: Moral and religious training, 80: Boarding-schools inefficient and dangerous, 81. CHAPTER III. MAIDEN OR YOUNG LADY. Changes in the system, 85: Menstruation, 86: signs of maiden- hood, 87: Moral and physical changes, 88: Puberty, 89: Its causes, 90: Description of the internal organs of generation, 90: Nature and origin of menstruation, 92: Moral develop- ment of the maiden, 94: Education at home and abroad, 96: Gymnastic exercises, 97: Early marriages are injurious, 98: Their causes, 99: Their prevention, 100: Runaway matches, 100: Legitimate time of marriage, 102: Education never fin- ished, 103: Different kinds of education, 106: Dancing, arts and sciences, 107: Extravagance in dress, 109: Duty of pa- rents, 110: Show mania and fashions, 111: Necessity of useful occupations, 112: customs of old times, 116: Study of languages, 118: Moral and religious duties, 119. CHAPTER. IV. MAIDEN LADY. Law of development, 120: Exceptions, 121: Duty to marry, 122: Duty and worth of maiden ladies, 124: Their occupa- tions, 128: Their joys and pleasures, 130. VIII CONTENTS. CHAPTER V. MARRIED LADY. Civilization of the world by woman, 132: Positior of a wife, 133: Affection the real talisman of the marriage union, 135: Other virtues 137: Physical changes during marriage, 142: Concep- tion, 143: Pregnancy, 144: Its signs, 145: The fœtus and its development, 147: Rules to be observed during pregnancy, 143: Its disorders, 150: Quickening-its meaning, 150: Dura- tion of pregnancy, 152: Labor, 152: Chloroform and ether- their use, 153: Duties of a mother, 153: In the family, 155; In society, 158: In the state, 159. CHAPTER VI. WIDOW. Widowhood, 161: External circumstances, 163: Duties of wi- dows, 164: Second marriages, 165: Education of children, 166: Physical welfare, 167. CHAPTER VII. MATRON. Her physical condition, 169: Her relations to family and society, 170: Her position and needs, 173: Recapitulation, 175-178. CONTENTS. IX • PART II. • DISEASES OF WOMEN: THEIR DESCRIPTION AND HOMEOPATHIC TREATMENT. CHAPTER I. DISEASES OF SEXUAL DEVELOPMENT. 1. PUBERTY AND ITS ABNORMAL APPEARANCE, 181-205 Chlorosis-green sickness, 182: Menstruation and its abnormal appearance, 186: Tardy menstruation, 187: Suppressed men- struation, 190: Too copious menstruation-flooding, 193: Menstruation of too long duration, 196: Too late and too scanty, 196: Deviation of menses, 196: Too difficult, 197: Painful, 198: Their cessation or change of life, 199: Abnormal erotic sentiment-nymphomania, 200: Absence of erotic sentiment, 204: Sterility, 204. 2. PREGNANCY, • 206-240 Swelling of the feet Plethora―congestion-fever, 206: Hemorrhages, 209: Hemor- rhoids-piles, 210: Varicose veins, 212: and lower limbs, 213: tooth-ache, 214: Salivation, 214: De- rangement of appetite, 215: Nausea and vomiting, 217: Diarrhea, 219: Constipation, 221: Dyspepsia-heart-burn- acid stomach, 222: Difficulty of swallowing, 222; Spasmodic pain and cramps, 223: Colic pains, 224: Disury—strangury— ischury, 224: Incontinence of urine, 225: Jaundice (icterus,) 225: Pain in the right side, 227: Asthma-congestion of the lungs-palpitation of the heart-spitting of blood-pleurisy, X CONTENTS. 228: Hacking cough, 229: Vertigo-congestion of the head, 229: Headache-fainting-sleeplessness-depression of spir- its, 230: Neuralgic pains, 230: Spasmodic laughter-crying -sneezing-yawning, 231: Puerperal convulsions (Eclampsia gravidarum,) 232: Miscarriage (abortion,) 234. 3. PARTURITION, 240-273 Labor, 243: Natural and preternatural, 244: Protracted, 246: Sudden cessation of, 247: Spurious or false labor-pains, 248: Excessively painful labor, 250: The waters (child's water,) 251: Delivery, 253: Apparent death-asphyxia of the infant, 254: After-birth, 256: Hemorrhage-flooding, 258: After-pains, 260: Confinement, 261: Lochial discharge, 264: Suppression of, 266: Excessive and protracted, 267: Offensive, sanious, 267: Childbed fever, 268: Milk-leg (Phlegmasia alba dolens,) 270: Mania in childbed, 272. 4. NURSING, 273-291 Milk-fever, 279: Ague in the breast-gathered breast, 280: De- terioration of milk, 283: Suppressed secretion of milk, 287: Excessive secretion of milk, 288: Deficiency of milk, 289: Sore nipples, 290. CHAPTER II. DISEASES OF GENERATIVE ORGANS. Imperforation of the Hymen, 292: Inflammation of external parts, 293: Wounds on the same, 294: Oedematous swelling of the labia, 294: Pruritus-itching of the private parts, 295: Diseases of the vagina, 297: Leucorrhea (fluor albus,) 298: Dis- eases of the uterus, 302: Prolapsus uteri (falling of the womb,) 303: Its retroversion and anteversion, 308: Inflammation of the womb, 309: Irritable uterus (rheumatism and neuralgia of CONTENTS. XI the womb,) 310: Polypus of the uterus, 312: Scirrhus and cancer of the womb, 315: Ulceration of the womb, 316: Dropsy of the womb, 317: Inflammation of the ovaries, 319: Ovarian dropsy, 322: Diseases of the breasts, 322: Scirrhus and can- cer of the breasts, 324. CHAPTER III. DISEASES OF NERVOUS FUNCTION. HYSTERIA, 325-332 Hysteria or vapors was formerly a fashionable disease, 325: Has become quite obsolete at the present day, 326: Derivation and signification of the word hysteria,326: Its chronic character,327: Description of an hysterical paroxysm (globus hystericus,) 328: Resembling epileptic fits, 329: Its mental causes, excess of joy, fear. fright, anger, grief, home-sickness, unhappy love, jealousy, mortification, insult, contradiction, chagrin and indignation, 330: Hysterical constitution, its treatment, 331: Hysteria di- minishes of late years in intensity and frequency-the proba- ble causes of this singular phenomenon, 332. • padan qalan mina pla An ang m B priate any means ma vady. NOTICE TO PHARMACEUTISTS. The medicines prescribed in this work are generally found among those usually contained in the boxes ac- companying the books for domestic practice; it has been the intention that their potency or attenuation should be the same as recommended in the Author's "Homœopathic Domestic Physician," viz: the medi- cines taken from the vegetable kingdom in the third attenuation, those from the mineral in the sixth. If separate medicine chests should be made to accompany this book, Pharmaceutists will please to put them up in accordance with the above rule; containing the following medicines: Aconite, Arnica, Arsenicum, Belladonna, Bryonia, Calcarea carbon., Cantharides, Capsicum, Carbo vegetabilis, Chamomile, China, Cocculus, Coffea, Colocynth, Conium, Crocus, Cuprum, Drosera, Dulcamara, Ferrum, Graphites, Hepar sulph., Hyos- camus, Ignatia, Iodium, Ipecacuanha, Lachesis, Lycopodium, Mercurius (vivus,) Natrum mur., Nitric acid, Nux vomica, Opi- um, Phosphorus, Phosphoric acid, Platina, Pulsatilla, Rheum, Rhus toxicodendron, Sabina, Secale, Sepia, Silicea, Spigelia, Stannum, Staphysagria, Stramonium, Sulphur, Tabacum, Tartar emetic, Thuja, Veratrum album; also the tinctures named in the Author's work on Domestic Practice. INTRODUCTION. It would be almost superfluous, at the present day, to preface a treatise like this with an apology for its appearance. Society in modern times, and particularly in our country, has assumed a de- cided direction towards the diffusion of knowledge amongst all classes and ages; the rich and the poor, the mechanic, merchant and literary devotee; the child, young man and woman, parents and aged persons-all are previded for in the distribu- tion of intellectual food. The presses are teeming with the various productions, suitable for popular education, diffusing a mass of knowledge, which, in time, will ameliorate the condition of society. The most abstruse sciences, heretofore strictly and carefully hidden from the eyes of the people at large, now make their appearance in crowded halls before popular audiences, being received with applause and eagerly absorbed, when brought be- fore them in language appropriate and easily understood. Thus, Astronomy and Metaphysics have been successfully treated of in popular lec- tures; natural sciences, in all their various phases, B 1 XIV INTRODUCTION. are familiar and pleasant visitors at the gatherings of the people. It may be truly said, our lecture- rooms continue to do, what the school-rooms have had no time to finish; and an intelligent, well- educated people, like ours, will pursue its studies, in spite of old-fashioned barriers and scientific cliques; having once imbibed the thirst for know- ledge, it cannot be restrained in continuing to satisfy its cravings. Another question, however, might be raised, as regards the propriety of treating in books of subjects, so delicate and private, that the modesty of the female sex naturally would shrink from their perusal. But it is an old adage, and a very true one: To the pure all things are pure; where the heart does not already yearn after the evil, and the imagination is not already perverted, finding her sole delight in the contemplation of impure pic- tures, a truthful and severe exposition of the laws governing the female system, cannot intoxicate the senses or degrade the moral taste; on the contrary, must ennoble the impulses of the heart by increasing the knowledge of laws and destinies in connection with the immense responsibilities, thus given to the choice of each one's judgment. Beside, we are convinced that it is possible to treat of the laws of nature within the limits of perfect decorum; and this without suppressing the truth or becoming unintelligible. INTRODUCTION. XV No one will deny the propriety of giving to woman all the instruction needed for herself and off- spring, and as this knowledge has to be presented to her in some way, that which least offends her finer feelings will be considered the best. Woman is naturally timid, and refrains as long as possible from making inquiries and asking advice from male persons about her own health or that of her daugh- ters, where the subject is a delicate one. And yet she must seek for information, or else irreparable damage might be done. She fears exposure, if it be only in conversation; her nature instinctively revolts against it. Here it is that a book, contain- ing all the information she wants, frequently comes to her as a great relief; she can receive instruction through it, without exposing her needs to the ear of a male person, be he ever so well known to her. This reluctance and fear of exposure is so deeply rooted in females, that they frequently rather seek advice, if absolutely needed, from the physician, who is a stranger to them, than from their own family-physician. How much easier is it to con- sult the pages of a book, which written for their especial benefit, will inform them privately about subjects, on which they hesitate to converse in the presence of others. Again, is it not all important that woman, the mother and guardian of our infants and children, should possess all the knowledge possible as to B2 XVI INTRODUCTION. their rational training and education. An igno- rant mother will have an excuse for the neglect which her offspring has to suffer; she can say it is not her fault; if she knew more about the education of children, she would not allow them to fall under the supervision of nurses, or persons still more incompetent. Give to the mother the requisite knowledge in this respect, and thousands of evils will be corrected, under which at present our infant world has to suffer. Inform the mother thoroughly as regards the physical and moral training of the young girl, and soon society will feel the blessing of such beneficent undertaking; the next generation will already tell of the differ- ence. Instead of sickly and nervous women, whose sole duty seems to consist in cultivating fashionable life, with its soul and body-destroying consequences, you will behold strong and vigorous bodies and enlightened and sprightly minds, whose duty will not be to run constantly after pleasure or external ornaments, but who would rather want to be themselves a pleasure in the family-circle, and an ornament to society. Our present system of female education, its workings in the school and at home, are entirely wrong and deleterious for the physical and moral welfare of the daughters of the land, who soon will have to be its mothers. But the evil does not stop here; it increases in a fearful ratio, as generation follows generation, INTRODUCTION. XVII until society and the state itself is brought to the verge of ruin and destruction. Well may the philanthropist shudder at the prospect in the future, on beholding the present mode of female education among the wealthier classes. From over-tasking the young mind with studies for hours and days, interrupting thereby the growth of the physical system, the inevitable result is a morbid development of the nervous system, a damage, which in most cases is irreparable. An undue degree of ambition is the cause of this growing evil. Each mother wants to see her daughter excel above all others, in what? In strength, health, good sound sense, modest be- havior, sprightly, cultivated mind, knowledge of house and social duties? No, not in these quali- ties; no, but in a display of mental and bodily fineries, called fashionable accomplishments. Ambition is a noble quality of the soul, when followed within the limits of reason; but it becomes a scourge and a destroyer of life and happiness, if immoderately indulged in. In the case of education it becomes more than that; it becomes a crime. How many a naturally strong constitution has been thereby enfeebled for life, and how many a naturally feeble one has been made thereby to de- part this life. These are weighty considerations which, we hope, will receive all the attention from those, for whose benefit they are here introduced. B3 XVIII INTRODUCTION. Let each mother reflect well and deeply, before she allows her daughter to be thrown into the whirl- pool of modern education; let her consider first, whether the child is physically strong enough, to go through with it; because it is indeed hard labor, to perform all that modern education proposes to have done. In the following pages we hope to convince parents, that substantial wrong is done to their children by too early and closely pursued studies; that the body must be allowed to develop itself first, before the mind is taxed so severely, as is the case at present. This relates particularly to the education of girls. Our plan will be, to present first, in a general review, the character and destiny of woman— physically, morally and socially; after which we intend to contemplate woman in her different stages of development, as a girl, wife, mother and matron. In each of these periods she will be subject to physical changes, and have to perform different duties. It shall be our especial duty to give a clear and faithful picture of these different periods of development and to show how woman ought to be in each of them, in order to deal out and receive the greatest amount of real happiness in this world, in which she decidedly is the most beautiful as well as the noblest of sojourners. WOMAN'S PHYSICAL AND MORAL DEVELOPMENT; HER SOCIAL POSITION AND DESTINY. CHAPTER I.-WOMAN GENERALLY CONSIDERED. 1. PHYSICAL CHARACTER. 2. 3. LA * 14 " "" "6 [L II. III. IV. V. D PART I. M P MORAL AND INTELLECTUAL CHARACTER. DESTINY. W GIRL. MAIDEN OR YOUNg Lady. MAIDEN-LADY. MARRIED LADY. VI.-WIDOW. VII. MATRON. B4 CHAPTER I. WOMAN. 1. PHYSICAL CHARACTER. In treating on this subject, we pre-suppose that the reader is familiar with the general outlines of human anatomy, and even with such details as have reference to the principal organs and their functions, necessary for the maintenance of life. These the female system shares in common with the male. It is our object here to point out only that, wherein they differ; and moreover to show that this difference in their physical nature is the cause of their respective destinies and duties. In comparing the female with the male body, we find at once the former less in stature and weight, but more rounded and graceful in form. It exhibits not so much strength of the muscles; these being less developed than in the male. But its motions, if less agile and strong, evince more graceful elasticity; in this respect, as also in the weaker but clearer voice, the female has retained more or less the character of the child. We shall have occasion afterwards to remind the reader again on the many analogies between the B5 22 WOMAN. female constitution and that of the child in general. This is mentioned here at once, in order to draw the attention to a fact, which will have great influence in the better understanding and appre- ciation of the female character and destiny. Thus in the outer appearance a great difference is noticed between the two sexes, and this in- creases as we proceed to a closer examination of the several parts of the system. In doing so, we have to compare the female organization with the male. The female face is smaller, its front not so high, but the neck is longer; the chest is not so capa- cious, but the abdominal region more developed, particularly across the hips, which thus forms in the female the basis-line of a triangle, whose apex rests in the region of the shoulders; while in the male system the order is reversed, the shoulders forming the basis-line and the hips the apex of the triangle. The female has shorter, but rounder and fatter arms, with softer contours; the hand also is smaller, whiter and softer, the fingers are finer and more pointed. The lower limbs, on the contrary, although shorter, are stouter, particularly from above downwards to the inner corners of the knee, which are generally rounder; the feet are shorter and smaller. The female skin is finer, softer and more transparent, the veins are easier discernable; on the more delicate parts of the skin, such as the face and neck, the blush appears PHYSICAL CHARACTER. 23 quicker and easier. The hair grows more abun- dantly and longer on the head, but less so on other parts of the body; the hair itself is finer, softer, more elastic and glossy, the nails are more transparent and tender. The areolar tissue, which contains the fat, is more abundant and firmer; the muscles display a lighter color, are softer, thinner and weaker; the single muscles less protruding. The diaphragm is less in size and lies higher up, enlarging thereby the abdominal cavity; the heart is smaller; the walls of the whole vascular system are thinner; particularly does the arterial system lack the same density of texture in proportion to the venous, as this is the case.in the male, although the female possesses a larger amount of blood in pro- portion. The lungs are smaller, and the apertures of the nose and the whole wind-pipe narrower. The brain, in proportion to the body, is heavier in the female, than in the male; the cranial cavity is more elevated as regards the position of the face, and the mass of the brain in proportion to the nervous system and the cranial arteries is larger than in the male. The nerves themselves, however, are finer, more tender and weaker. The bones are thinner, smoother, less firm, their processes and indentations less distinct; there is less bony matter in general; the bones of the face are finer, with a more even surface; the cavities in the front part of the head and cheeks are nar- B6 24 WOMAN. rower; the ribs are thinner, flatter, shorter, starting in a more decided curve from the spine; the spinal column therefore reaches deeper in the cavity of the chest, and the spinal processes are less discernable in the back-bone; the breast-bone is shorter; the cavity of the chest generally less capacious; the spinal column, as a whole, is rather longer in the female. But the greatest differences exist in the region of the hips, the bones of which are broader, although they are thinner and lighter: the cavity of the pelvis inside, formed by the hip- bones and the small of the back, is every way longer, wider and more uniformly so, above as well as below. We must be convinced by the above comparison, of the female system with the male, that the former was destined to move in a different sphere of ac- tion from the latter, and that this cannot be changed without serious danger for its physical welfare. The duties and mode of life seen to be clearly pointed out to the female in her bodily construction, which we now will proceed to con- sider, before we come to describe those organs, peculiar to the female sex, in which the greatest part of her destiny is fixed. As a prominent difference, we find the frame- work of her system less in size and strength; the muscles, attaching to it, are also smaller and weaker. This fact shows that the female body is PHYSICAL CHARACTER. 25 ! less capable than the male of undergoing toil and hardships, which require mostly muscular effort. Neither would it be possible to make her equal in that respect to the male, because her muscles are softer, thinner, not so compact and of lighter color; this physiological difference precludes them from ever becoming so compact, hard and strong, as the muscles of a man, even if ever so much exercised for that purpose. Besides, it states that the female has a firmer areolar tissue, and in greater abundance than the male; consequently is more inclined to become fat, and her form rounded, a circumstance which prevents any extraordinary degree of muscular development by exercise. Yet this latter is on that account not the less needed; enough of it must be taken by the female to develop those changes within her system, which, as we will see hereafter, are a peculiar charac- teristic of her sex. Another marked difference consists in the form and capacity of the chest and abdominal cavity, compared with that of the male. The cavity of the chest is smaller, while that of the abdomen is larger. Here we find a wonderful and wise pro- vision made for the respective duties of the two sexes. The male is destined to labor harder; to him is given the large wide chest, attached to which are the powerful muscles of the trunk and arms; his lungs are of greater expanse, his arterial 26 WOMAN. system, including the heart, is more developed; all this is needed for a more vigorous and pro- longed prosecution of his daily manual work; his system is fitted out for that especial purpose; the abdominal region is less in size, but nevertheless strong and compact, while his lower limbs princi- pally excel in elasticity and propelling power. How beautifully is his destiny written in the frame- work of his body and the display of his muscles. On the other hand, the female is larger across the hips, because there nature needed above all other parts room to fitly prepare woman for her destiny. From this is easily seen, how perverse to nature that fashion is, which compresses the female waist. and makes of her literally an hour-glass, or a wasp, while, indeed, her form ought to be broad across the hips, gradually, but regularly tapering off up- wards; the male form being just the reverse of this. The nervous system and the brain of the female show another great difference, indicative of her duty and destiny. Her brain is proportionally larger than that of the man, in comparison to the size of the body; but her nerves are finer, more tender and weaker, making them disproportionate to the size of the brain. The nerves, which are the carriers of the brain-power, ought to be de- veloped, in proportion to the size of the brain, in order to fulfil its demands; they are, however, PHYSICAL CHARACTER. 27 1- finer and weaker in the female, hence she lacks power of execution, which compels her to look for other help to have her designs executed. By this arrangement she has become pre-eminently the counsellor and constant companion of man, who is well fitted by nature to carry out her designs, to- gether with his own. This is one of the most wonderful arrangements in nature, by which the two sexes are bound indissolubly together, as the intellectual intercourse between them is rendered thereby a natural necessity. He flies to her in · time of need for counsel and advice, and she looks to him for action and execution. We can here only slightly touch upon this interesting condition of the two sexes. Hereafter, however, we will treat of it more fully. Thus, we see, that the domain of action for the female is at the side of man, not ahead of him, nor in his rear. These two have to accomplish together, what it would be impossible for one to perform alone. The hardships of life's duties are thus wisely divided, while the results from their faithful performance are mutually enjoyed, each one receiv- ing a double share of benefits for one share of labor. The female, physically disabled from participating in life's hardest struggles, receives a higher trust in the composition of her moral faculties, by which she is enabled to buoy up the toiling partner, when he seems almost to sink under the too heavy burden. 28 WOMAN. · Her sphere of action will be always more or less * the house, with its manifold labors and attractions; there the daughter, wife or mother finds room and time enough to exercise her physical and moral powers; and if no morbid craving has taken pos- session of her mind, she will find real contentment and happiness. Beside, the social circle, the school, lecture-room and church offer sufficient opportuni- ties for the display of her intellectual faculties, in giving or receiving instruction. If inclination or necessity prompts her to devote herself to duties. out of the house, society presents thousands of occupations, which she can fill honorably and pro- fitably, without risking her health or exposing her feelings. We will now proceed to call the reader's attention to those physical peculiarities, which belong to woman exclusively, and form her sexual character, determining thereby more than by any thing else her true destiny. It would be impossible to give an anatomical description of all the organs peculiar to the female system, without illustrations; yet some definite idea must be had about their position and structure, in order to show their harmonious co-operation and complex relation to each other. We prefer, however, not to introduce into this work illustra- tions, which might be considered objectionable on the score of propriety and good taste. To obviate this difficulty, therefore, we will compare the posi- PHYSICAL CHARACTER. 29 tion, form and size of these organs to familiarly known objects. This glance will suffice to give to the reader a sufficient knowledge of these parts, and if any farther should be desired, every one can easily have access to anatomical works, treating fully on this subject. The region between the hips contains within itself a cavity, called the pelvic, and the bones, which form this cavity, the pelvis; it means literally a bowl or basin. Its wider margin is above, its narrow opening below. The pelvis contains within its cavity all the organs we intend to notice here. The most important of these organs is the uterus, or womb, which occupies the centre of this cavity, suspended on ligaments on either side, and connected by very loose tissue in the front with the bladder, and in the rear with the rectum, the natural outlet of the contents of the bowels. The uterus has a pear-shape, and is about as large as a small egg, with an oblong opening of one-eighth of an inch long, across its smaller end, called the mouth of the uterus, which leads into its cavity. This cavity in the unfecun- dated uterus, is very small, and only sufficient to be noticed as such from the mouth upwards to its higher and thicker part, called the fundus uteri; here, to the right and left, are two small openings, which connect through a tube on each side, called the Fallopian tube, with the ovaries, two oblong, 30 WOMAN. flattened and oval bodies, of a whitish color, and the size of half a walnut. They are called ovaries, literally egg-beds, because they contain the ovum or egg, which is formed there, and when growing, bursts the outer skin of the ovarium, whence it is transferred through the Fallopian tube into the uterus, where in single life it passes away with the menstrual discharge; in married life however, when all the conditions of nature have been fulfilled, is retained within the uterus, and nourished there during nine months. While ges- tation is progressing, no new developments of eggs in the ovaries take place; at least that is the rule; but very few exceptions occur to the contrary. Generally speaking, the action of the ovaries is suspended during the time of gestation. This interesting period in a woman's life brings about a number of very important changes in her physical economy. The uterus, a very small organ before, now has increased to a great size, and its former insignificant cavity has become immensely en- larged. Organs which formerly were active, now lay dormant, and other organs, formerly asleep, now have become operative. Menstruation, the regular monthly discharge, has ceased, and the fluids, formerly thus wasted, now have become the source of life and nourishment for a new being, and before this is yet born, the breasts begin to MORAL AND INTELLECTUAL CHARACTER. 31 swell, preparing to yield the same precious nour- ishment in another more appropriate form and place to the child after its birth. These are some of the changes in the female system during this time, and they are greater in extent and importance than any other system has to experience in its life. time. No wonder that they are often accompanied with great danger, or prepare derangements of health, which often last for years. We will have occasion, when speaking of the diseases of woman, to trace a number of them back to this period of her existence, where either by neglect or accident, their seeds were sown. 2. MORAL AND INTELLECTUAL CHARACTER. We have seen that for wise purposes the Creator endowed woman with a physical constitution dif- ferent, in many respects, from that of man; each one being deficient and lacking perfection in several particulars, but when united in the sacred bonds of marriage and laboring together to build up a family, these two present an exalted picture of perfection, of which nature has nothing equal to show. The strength of the man is united to the loveliness and grace of woman; his impetuous but noble haste is checked by her timid and cautious. foresight; his bold aggressive spirit tempered by her wise reluctance of action; everywhere, a blending of qualities, which hides each other's 32 WOMAN. faults, while it admits their virtues to appear the more readily. The same wonderful arrangement can be discerned throughout the moral constitution of the two sexes, each of which, taken separately, may exhibit many faults and weaknesses, which mostly disappear when coming in contact with the good qualities of the other. From this point of view we have a clear insight into the wonderful operations of Divine Wisdom, which ordered just such relations as we behold, to exist between man and woman, endowing each one with different qualities, to promote the happiness of both. From this, it is evident that, strictly speaking, we cannot grant to either sex a superiority in gifts or qualities, either physical or mental. Each one stands on a separate platform, distinct from the other, and there appears unrivalled in some respects while deficient in others. Yet both have received a sufficient share of those high qualities which stamp the image of God on the human form and soul, and none is farther away from this ideal of perfection than the one who would be low enough not to recognize this divine inheritance in the other to its fullest extent. It is part of the Divine economy to have thus endowed the two sexes differently, in order to insure a more perfect union between them; they find in each other enough to admire and to love, as also from each other enough to learn and to MORAL AND INTELLECTUAL CHARACTER. 33 ܀ imitate. In the likeness, but not the sameness of the two sexes, consists the most perfect harmony. They would not find pleasure in each others company, if their intellectual and moral compo- sition were identical; the spice of intercourse, the charm of novelty, would be wanting; no inducement to progress, so essential to the welfare of intelligence, would exist; no social feeling would bind families together and create State organizations, because the family hearth, with its domestic happiness as the foundation, would be wanting. From whatever view we may contem- plate the relations between the two sexes, we come to the firm conclusion, that in every respect they are equals in position, although not iden- tical in physical or mental composition. The first condition insures to each an equal share of prerogative and emolument, while the latter fixes for both their respective duties and labors. Let us here yet remark, that revelation as well as physical and moral laws corroborate the above defined relations between man and woman, and if state and society had carried them out fully, untold agonies of body and soul, innumerable crimes and heart-rending scenes might have been averted, and the history of mankind been made to flow like the rivers of Paradise, full with the waters of joyous life, instead of what has been the case, full of blood and destruction. 34 WOMAN. The phrase, "emancipation of woman," should never have been thought of; its very sound is a disgrace to language, the especial gift of the Creator. And it never would have been uttered by suffering woman if she had received ample justice from man as regards her social and political rights, particularly those of property and labor. Of this, however, more anon. Generally speaking, we can be justified in asserting, that moral sentiments are more largely diffused among women than men; their veneration and benevolence are largely developed and make them particularly well qualified to perform their angelic mission upon earth. They also have received a greater share of hope and conscien- tiousness, which buoy them up in the most disagreeable situations of life, and secure to them the peace of mind and the charity so characteristic of the female sex. These four faculties comprise the whole of moral sentiment, and are those by which man is particularly distinguished from the animal. They make him sympathise with others in misfortune, and love and treat with kindness and humanity, the poor, aged and infirm. They· link his spirit to the Deity in adoration and love, while he is made to submit cheerfully and easily to the Divine will under all circumstances. Such exalted sentiments have been given to woman. more abundantly than to man, and make her, MORAL AND INTELLECTUAL CHARACTER. 35 in the sight of the latter, an object of veneration, regard and love, even if no other superior quality should adorn her mind or grace her figure. This is so universally true, that man, even in the most barbarous periods of history, never has failed to show this almost religious veneration to woman- hood, which fact is verified by many instances amongst the earliest nations. A kind-hearted, benevolent, pious woman, will always be an object of general admiration and reverence, while the opposite character will meet with as universal neglect and disrespect. In endowing woman so freely with these high and ennobling qualities, the Creator threw around her feeble frame and position, a far more potent shield to protect her, than any other instrumentality could have afforded. Wo- manhood never appears to better advantage, than in the holy garments of moral purity and divine consciousness. Then she is irresistible and all- powerful; there she seems to be all at home; no gift of the intellect, no dazzling wit and splendor of beauty, can compensate for the want of such exalted excellence. Those who seek to locate the power of woman in her superior external beauty, and rest her claims on these frail pillars, do not understand her proper relation to the other sex, and fail, entirely, to comprehend the true strength of her position. A beautiful face and graceful form will shield her 36 WOMAN. often from the attacks of the low and rude, but never, on that account alone, secure for her the esteem and reverence of the noble and refined. These she can secure only by the excellence of her moral character, of which she has received so large a share. It is, therefore, part of her earthly mission, to let the power of these high qualities be felt as much as possible, by teaching their principles to the young, and acting according to them before man. If she does not do so, she is doubly guilty of neglect of duty and propriety, since she has treated with contempt the greatest gift nature has so freely bestowed upon her. It is far easier for her than him to cultivate the strictest morals, because she inclines to them almost by instinct. Her trials and temptations in this sphere of life's actions, are less severe than those of man, and consequently her distinctions in this respect far less meritorious. If, therefore, she leads man on the moral path, she ought to do it with that modesty of behavior which does not let him feel her own superiority, else one-half the benefit might be lost thereby. She ought to remember that his share of the moral faculties is less than hers, that she feels, by intuition, what is right and proper, while he has to try to arrive at the same point of right feeling and acting, by reflection and reasoning, a process, slower, but more tenacious, and when successful, even more MORAL AND INTELLECTUAL CHARACTER. 37 exalted in its results. Thus, this apparently great disparity between the sexes, has been made the source of the greatest blessings to mankind, and if rightly understood and practiced, must render the world a paradise. In the intellectual region woman has been endowed more with perceptive or observing than retentive faculties. She has a keen perception of all that passes around her, particularly when it has reference to herself; very seldom, however, does she reflect on the nature of the object she observes, or the probable effect it may have. She is satisfied with having noticed it without further speculation. This faculty gives her a proneness if to curiosity, gossiping and light talk, which, indulged in, must weaken, in a great measure, the influence which her nice discrimination in moral matters could otherwise secure to her. It gives rise to another fault, so frequently met with among women, that of searching for each other's failings, rather than virtues. If woman shows lack of intellect by the side of man, it is more in the deficient discrimination of the worth of others and its acknowledgment, than in any other respect. She has, generally, when called upon, just as clear and correct a judgment as mau, and equal firmness and will, but less generosity and justice in the appreciation of others. And this is more apparent when she reviews one of her own sex, in which C 38 WOMAN. case her critical acumen becomes truly formidable and unmerciful. No fault, ever so slight, escapes her notice, while the good qualities of the person under notice, are generally overlooked. This trait in the female character, strangely contrasts with her otherwise benevolent tendency, and becomes, when not properly checked, a fruitful source of all kinds of annoyances and unhappy feelings, which often reflect even disadvantageously on her physical health. How many diseases have their exciting causes in nervous irritation? The nervous system of woman is easily affected, and the conditions of life in which women are frequently placed, render her still more sensitive to mental irritation. In child-bed, for instance, the slightest unkind word may produce the most disastrous consequences, and be destructive to both mother and child. How necessary it becomes, therefore, to cultivate kind feelings towards all with whom we have to associ ate, or about whom we have to express an opinion. A censorious spirit, if allowed to come up within us, soon grows to a height of intolerance, bigotry, and selfishness, which embitters the life of its owner forever. And woman, by her keener perception and observation of personal matters, has to fear its tyrannical sway more than man, who is generally more reserved in expressing opinions about others, even if his judgment in regard to them would be the same. Woman perceives quickly and expresses MORAL AND INTELLECTUAL CHARACTER. 39 readily, much more frequently than prudence would allow. This is owing to a less intense action of the reflective faculties, causality and comparison. She can easily, however, remedy this seeming fault in her nature, by considering well before she expresses her thoughts, thus exercising her reflec tive faculties. Her innate benevolence, too, must be exercised to keep down gossiping and censorious- ness, as it is a benevolent disposition, particularly, which constitutes the character of a true lady. Such an one will always be careful never to wound the feelings of another by words, gestures or otherwise, be the object of her remarks ever so insignificant. The golden rule contains for no one a more precious precept than for woman, whose conduct ought to be at all times measured by it. Amongst the perceptive faculties we must mention, especially, order, of which woman has received, generally, a larger share than man. This organ is the soul and ornament of a well directed household. To its influence, the domestic hearth is mainly indebted for its charms, and civilization considers it one of its main-springs. Its exercise and cultivation, therefore, are of the highest im- portance to every woman, as part of her individual character, in producing and representing in the family circle, that divine principle of order which the Great Architect so scrupulously observes in the whole Universe. c2 40 WOMAN. *** In the region of the sentiments, woman is also richly endowed. She possesses, and ought to cultivate a proper self-respect, a feeling of womanly pride, so as to make her independent in thought and action, without rendering her haughty or pre- sumptuous. She can and ought to gratify a desire to excel and please, of course in a moderate degree, lest it might degenerate into vanity. Her love of approbation is generally large, and while she has less caution than man, she is in greater danger of becoming vain and coquettish. Proper self-respect, however, will soon correct this evil tendency. Her imagination is splendid and generally more brilliant and quicker than man's, and in connection with greater and readier humor, renders her social qualities far superior to those of the male sex. She possesses a quick and lively conception of the ridiculous, even in such a degree, that it frequently ought to be restrained. Without woman, society would be barren of interest. No mirth, no merri- ment, no pleasantry and wit would take away the tedium of intercourse. Mankind would have lost the elasticity of its step; and as these qualities are essentially preservative as regards life, it is evident that woman, in this respect contributes an equal share in the maintenance of social order with man, who so often prides himself on being the pillar of state and society, overlooking, in his ignorance or pride, the essential benefit and help MORAL AND INTELLECTUAL CHARACTER. 41 he continually receives from the feebler sex in sup- porting him to bear his burdens. It is needed for woman to know the importance of her office and duties in this respect, as it will make her love and cultivate qualities so characteristic of her sex, and so essential for the welfare, even the physical, of mankind. Yes, truly may we say, the welfare of mankind depends, in a great measure, on these eminently social qualities of woman, infusing joy- fulness, hilarity and buoyancy into every-day life, thereby lessening its burdens, promoting physical health and moral strength. Man forgets, in her pleasing company, the earnestness and severity of his thoughts and pursuits. He, who but shortly before was deeply engaged in the serious conflicts. of life, finds himself disenthralled from such fetters, when addressed by her gay, lively and buoyant conversation; he is caught by her spirit in the pleasant retreat of imaginative sentiment and the enticing flow of humor, wit and conversational entertainment. For the welfare of his body and soul, this rest from fatiguing business is indispen- sable. If it were not so, his powers would soon be exhausted, and languor and disgust unfit him for the further performance of his duties. Physically and morally, therefore, these exhilarating faculties of woman, are essential to the welfare of the whole race; and for woman herself, their cultivation becomes of the highest importance, as she thereby c3 42 WOMAN. perfects her natural gifts, and holds undisputed rule in those holier spheres of life, the social cir- cles, where spirit communes with spirit for nobler purposes and enjoyments. Closely allied to the social circle, and, indeed, its very prototype and basis, is the family circle, the domestic hearth, which, without the presence of woman, would be desolate enough. Here, also, she reigns supreme. Her delicate feelings, amia- bility, filial and parental affection, make the home where she resides, truly a paradise for man, who, without it, would be the most miserable of mortals. Those qualities, so extremely predominant in the fe- male sex, are still more active, because not disturbed much by the selfish propensities, such as love of gain, of which man has received so large a share. In the above, we have tried to give the general outlines of what should constitute the moral and intellectual character of woman. To exhaust the subject fully here, is impossible, for want of space, as it would take a volume alone to do it justice. Our object is to draw the attention to those characteristics of the female sex which fix her earthly destiny, and which guide us in the selec- tion of the best methods for her physical and moral education, from her earliest infancy up. This subject ought to receive our most careful attention, as, according to our opinion, the welfare DESTINY. 43 of society depends, mostly, on the soundness of the female sex, physically, intellectually and morally. 3. DESTINY. From the preceding, the reader will perceive that, in as far as woman is different from man in her physical and moral constitution, her destiny cannot be identical with his; that while the strength of his physical frame points out a sphere of action for him, which is filled with hardships of all kind, her more delicate body must naturally be suitable and inclining only for tasks less severe. This is also true as regards intellectual labors. Their correspondence in this respect is perfect, although it might be said, that woman had heretofore, and was yet engaged in mental and physical transac- tions, as arduous or weighty as ever had fallen to the lot of man. This certainly is so, but it can only be a farther proof of the truth, that exceptions even in this highest productive sphere of nature, the creation of man, confirm a rule. As exceptions, we easily understand and value the acts of those who have played, during their life-time, the part assigned to the opposite sex. Such occurrences are frequently met with in history and daily life, and demonstrate the identity of the human forces, and the harmony of their tendency. They show the faintness of the line of distinction, where the two C 4 *· 44 WOMAN. sexes meet, and the ease with which parties of either side may overleap it. We have feminine men, as well as masculine women. But these cases do not furnish a rule. Nature has drawn a line, and its existence can only be doubted by those whose incli- nations have carried them already beyond its limits. The workings of society have shown this already for thousands of years, during which the duties and affairs of both sexes have been more or less clearly defined. It is true certain ages have not done justice to the claims of woman, rendering her lot harder than it should have been. But these times were yet barbarous and savage. The light of the gospel had not penetrated their darkness, and physical force was their only law-giver. How could woman, with her inferior physical strength, be treated on terms of equality by man, who measured everything around him by the strength of his arm and the force of his blow. If nature had designed woman to be equal in physical power, why did it not manifest itself in these times of physical preponderance? why did woman not then assume the place occupied by man in society? why did she not fight the battles and rove about, bent upon plunder and robbery? Why did she submit to a treatment as unjust as it was cruel? That she however did submit, and silently suffered for ages, is an historical fact, and proves evidently woman's superiority of moral strength in enduring DESTINY. 45 the wrongs inflicted upon her by man's undeveloped intellect and moral faculties. But the attitude of the two sexes changed as soon as the light of the gospel penetrated the spiritual darkness of the world. Christianity restored to woman her rights, and put her in the only true posi- tion by the side of man, where she always should have been, but never had been before, and never will be except when brought and sustained there by the doctrines of the Saviour. One of the last and most tender and affecting acts of His life had reference to this very relation of man to woman. He charged one of his disciples to take care of His mother; "and," saith John, "from that hour that disciple took her unto his own home." Here was a relation established by the Holy One Himself, between two persons whom He loved, and thus, according to nature's law, wanted to provide for. The woman was protected and taken care of by the man, the feeble by the strong, who in return received a mother's love. Thus it always should be. To destroy this relation of man to woman would be cruel, because tearing asunder the tenderest chords of human sympathy, based upon mutual depend- ence, and would be sacreligious, because laying violent hands upon the laws imposed on nature by the Creator. Views different from the above, have lately arisen in various parts of the world, claiming for woman equality in all things with c5 46 WOMAN. man; they call for an emancipation of woman- hood, as they term it. The endeavors of these reformers may be well grounded as to certain evils yet existing, such as the unequal right to property between husband and wife. They can, however, not be justified as to the extent of changes which these reformers are aiming to accomplish. To make woman participate in all the gross and inglorious, but necessary work of man, would destroy the true glory of woman's existence, annul her dignity, and poison the inno- cence of her heart with desires entirely foreign to her nature. What a sight to see the graceful form of woman mingle in a political crowd, eager to deposit her vote or to share in popular distinction. *We have no doubt that the progressive intelligence of legis. lation will remove, in time, all the civil inconveniences to which woman at present may be subject. One by one these impedi- ments will have to yield before the bold and liberal reasonings of the age. As regards the question of property between the two sexes, we venture to predict, that one day it will be found just and right to allow the woman to be the owner in fact of one- half of all the property that is acquired during the marriage term; that she also will be the equal loser in all transactions to which she, either in writing or orally, had given her assent but not to be a loser where she thus had not assented. If she would lend her husband her money or other property, she should have the same right against him which other creditors have; that, however, her personal property, such as jewelry, should not be exempted from being taken to pay either her own or the debts of the matrimonial firm; but should be exempt in case where the husband contracted the debt without her consent. DESTINY. 47 It takes the massive soul of man to become recon- ciled to duties and honors of this kind, which he must be firmly persuaded to owe to his country, lest he would find them too ardous and insufficient. Again, how revolting the spectacle, to see women engaged in occupations which would not suit the delicacy of their form and feelings. Hard, severe bodily labor would destroy their beauty and be ruinous to their health. What would become of home, its duties and pleasures? Who would have them to perform and enjoy? Can there social harmony exist, to charm and bless life, where no diverse directions of pursuit will allow of a uniting angle? All would be disunion, because one direction of pursuit would keep the pursuers in parallel lines, which never unite. We could thus continue to bring arguments without number against the so-called defenders of woman's rights, if it were necessary to do so. The destiny of woman is so evidently distinct from that of man, and indicated so clearly in her physical and moral construction, that we can safely leave the settlement of this question with the sound judgment of the reader. We will now proceed further to define the true position, which woman ought to fill here on earth according to her physical and moral character. These latter, as we stated above, have only received their due weight in the social order, since the gospel c 6 48 WOMAN. of love appeared among us, to supercede the gospel of law. Nothing is clearer proved by past history and the present condition of heathen communities, wherein woman is still treated far beneath her high moral endowments. And this close sympathy be- tween the religion of Christ and the true social condition of woman, is still more apparent when we consider the incontestable fact, that as Christianity appears in a country more true and active, in that same degree will its women be more elevated honored and loved. It is, therefore, the Christian woman, in her relation as wife, mother and daugh- ter, whose duties and destiny we here want to lay before the reader. "It is not good that man should be alone; I will make an help meet for him," was the simple, but grand and effective speech which preceded the creation of woman. Society should be established; it had become a necessity, and woman was needed, just such an one as would fulfill the demands, thus made on her by the Creator. The laws of her life should be in harmony with these demands, that she might be indeed "an help meet for him." And, truly, it is so yet; the divine designs can yet be traced, sometimes, even in perfect purity, in the relations between the two sexes. Although the fall of man has rendered the original types less defined, and it is but too true that the first paradise is lost, still the Christian woman is able to regain DESTINY. 49 it, partially at least, for man, if the latter is able to appreciate it. Such are yet her lovely endowments bestowed upon her by the Creator, for establishing society, and such is yet the longing of man towards her company, her consoling, inspiring presence and the sweet interchange of sentiments and ideas. Woman is destined, therefore, to create and rule society; she was created for that purpose, her duties point that way. The family, with its various small but continual cares, falls to her superintendance. Her watching eye and intelli- gent rule must be felt in every corner of a well regulated household. Being the mother of the children, they continue to cling to her far beyond earliest infancy. She has almost the sole control of them up to the time when the permanent teeth appear, after which she divides the care over them with husband and teacher. This, however, does not diminish the importance of her part in the education of the child more advanced in age. Besides its physical welfare, the care of which she retains to the last, her principal duty will then be to cultivate, by example and teaching, those highest of all faculties, the moral, which, in their bearing upon temporal and eternal happiness, are far superior to the mere intellectual, the culti- vation of which, falls to the lot of man. Thus she will be principally the one who teaches the child to be conscientious, modest and benevo- Mkt kan tage de 50 WOMAN. lent. Her influence will be mostly instrumental in leading the dawning sparks of veneration into the culminating centre of religion, from which radiate the all-inspiring rays of hope and eternal blessedness. No other agency in the place of a faithful christian mother, can accomplish this highest of ends so well. She should not, under any consideration, relinquish this part of her duty, as it involves the dearest interests here and here- after. How important, therefore, is it for her to appreciate, fully, this great responsibility of her existence, and to know well how to fulfill all its demands correctly. An intelligent, pious mother, will look around to gain all the necessary informa- tion on this point, lest she might err in judgment and execution. She feels her duty and is not unmindful of the high reward which awaits her in beholding the prosperity of her children. She knows it was, under God, her own work. But who will describe the pangs of a mother's soul, when the object of her love turns out to be an outcast from society, and an object hated by God and man? If she was conscious of having neg- lected her part in his education, how fearfully must increase that remorse and agony! "The immense responsibility of parents cannot be too highly estimated," says Mrs. C. M. Steele.* "On it * We recommend to the particular attention of our readers, a little work of Mrs. C. M. Steele entitled: "A Mother's Thoughts on Parental Responsibility." DESTINY. 51 rests the beauty and loveliness of the structure of mind? Unless mothers, who have the first nurturing of these delicate gems, are fully sensible of what awful results will flow from their hands in the neglect of the trust reposed in them, they must be unfitted for their work. If disregarded, what a dreadful loss must necessarily and inevita- bly follow. O, that the most vivid consciousness of this truth might irradiate every benighted female intellect, that she may never be compelled to perceive the direful images of this neglect." Another part of woman's destiny is to be an help meet for man. She is a wife, sister or daughter. In either of these conditions, the variety of duties does not change the object of her life. They all point, from their various directions, to the one great purpose to be accomplished by woman, as his companion and help meet. She shares his griefs and sorrows, lessening their severity by quieting the storm of his heaving soul, and by elevating the hope and courage of his drooping mind. She partakes of his joys and pleasures, sympathising with his elated heart, but purifying its outburst by the refinement of her taste and the chastity of her feelings. She is his guardian angel in times of temptation; her advice and enthusiasm encourage and support him in times of peril. She becomes his alter ego, the better and purer principle of his own self. With- 52 WOMAN. out her, his loneliness would be insufferable; his misery complete. Such is woman, the companion and help meet of man. This is her destiny and duty in the family circle, which she creates and sustains with her natural gifts, adapted to that purpose. The same faculties which make woman the ruling and beloved mistress of the house, lead her into society at large, of which she is the soul and idol. She contributes more than man to the establishment of mutual friendship and its social exchange. Her heart swells easier with humani- tary feelings. She is affectionate, and being less selfish and retired, willing to know and inquire into the conditions of others. Hence her strong social tendency, which is one of the greatest civilizing principles, to which mankind is mainly indebted for its progress. How important is it, therefore, for woman to cultivate her social gifts, in the right direction, in order to fulfill, satisfactorily, this, her glorious mission! CHAPTER. II. GIRL. ITS INFANCY. In earliest infancy, the difference of action between the male and female is hardly great enough to make it an object of particular notice. Yet, it soon becomes preceptible to one, who takes the pains to observe closely. The infant female has generally a more delicate look; its frame is less massive, the limbs more slender, and the traces in the face finer and sharper. Its nervous system can be agitated more quickly, it is more susceptible of external impressions, and their re-action on her internal preception is easier but less enduring. A female child must, therefore, be more liable to disease, and less able to with- stand its attacks. But it might not become, for that very reason, as seriously sick as the male. Its impressions are not so deep and lasting. Never- theless, we know that the greater average mortality of children is on the side of the female portion. It is true, a prominent cause of this phenomenon, 51 GIRL. may lie in the fact, that in general more females are born than males. This, however, could not account altogether for the greater mortality among female children; we must find a part of its origin in the feebler physical constitution of the female child. It is, therefore, our duty to be more careful in nursing and training the female infant, than we have been heretofore, in order to effectu- ally remedy this evil. The child's physical constitution must guide us in the selection of these rules. We dare not follow the old routine, merely because it is sacred by age, or agreeable to custom or fashion. Old usage, custom and fashion might kill our darling. Let us by all means save its life and preserve or restore its health, the most precious gift on earth. We presume the reader is acquainted with all that pertains to the good nursing of children, generally; if not, information can be had in books called "Homœopathic Domestic Physicians," which treat fully on the principles of nursing.* We must at present, confine our remarks on this subject to those peculiarities which, in the bring- ing up of a female child, have to be especially attended to. These are, it is true, but very few; but not altogether unimportant, as will be seen directly. *See in my "Homœopathic Domestic Physician," the article, Treatment of Children. INFANCY. 55 During the first weeks after the birth of a child, there occurs sometimes a swelling of the external breasts, which, though it will be of little conse- quence to the future welfare of a male infant, frequently destroys forever, that of a female. This inflammation, if badly treated, may terminate in induration or atrophy of the milk glands, and thereby deprive the future mother of the use of these most important organs. Thus not alone she, but also her offspring will have to suffer severely for want of a little more than ordinary care in cases of this kind. Mothers and nurses ought to be well instructed in regard to the treatment of this disease; they will find the necessary infor- mation in the second part of this work, under the head of "Female Diseases." We hardly need remind the reader to bathe, wash and attend the child altogether according to the strictest rules of Hygiene; the use of a cap, for instance, on the head, by day or night, is considered entirely superfluous, as it proves oftener detrimental, than beneficial. Equally pernicious to the physical welfare of the child is the too tight bandaging of its breast, limbs or abdomen. Every part of the body must be left as free as possible, to enjoy full liberty of motion, an especial condi- tion and means of health. The child must exercise its limbs and lungs to the fullest extent. Nature wants it; science demonstrates it, and 56 GIRL. unconscious instinct, as exhibited, for instance, in a young infant, establishes exercise as a law of nature. The child has an instinct, which governs its appetites and desires, frequently more correctly than it can be expressed by language. Let us only carefully observe its wishes and not stifle them by putting the child's body in a straight- jacket, wherein it cannot express what it wants. Nature herself, takes care of the child, we must only observe, not impede her dictates. Hear the beautiful and graphic description, by Dr. Eliz. Blackwell, in regard to the care which nature con- stantly extends to her little darlings, for protec- tion and healthful growth. "The young infant is almost withdrawn from our control. Nature says to us, 'stand by, and watch my work!' This delicate life will admit of no trifling, no neglect, no experiment; but watch the infant, how it kicks and cries, and works, not arms and legs alone, but every part of its body in pain or pleasure. We sit and smile or silently weep; but the baby puts every muscle in motion; if it is pained or angry, it will scream with its whole life, and contract every little fibre, and strain and wriggle in infantile rage, to the intense alarm of its mother. We may leave it to nature for exercise; it will be well attended to, and carried through an efficient course, reaching every muscle of the body, that we should find INFANCY. 57 difficult to imitate by art. Watch the little child, too, that has learned to walk and prattle. Do we need a more perfect illustration of perpetual motion during its waking hours? Give it free room and a few playthings, if they are only blocks of wood, and it will go through a series of posi- tions, stooping, twisting, doubling, turning over, that are incalculable and unapproachable. And you cannot quiet such a child; take away the playthings, and every legitimate source of amuse- ment, and your inkstand will be upset, your books ingeniously torn, the table-cloth dragged off, and the contents of the work-basket sent rolling; and if it be absolutely restrained from such questionable devices, it will make it up by fretting and fidgeting till the older head fairly aches. It is a most admirable arrangement, this incessant activity of the child, the inexorable law by which it lives, and which will turn the whole household upside down, sooner than sin against its own nature. For it lives by movement; fresh air and exercise are the mainsprings of its healthy physical life. Thus in the earliest years of life, nature's indications are very plain; and in exercise, as in the organic functions, the most perfect freedom, under favorable conditions, should be enjoyed by the child, that its own instinct may guide it." In a good foundation, lies the main strength of a superstructure; even so is it with a good con- 58 GIRL. - stitution, the basis of which must be laid in earliest infancy. And yet how often is it neglected by parents or those in charge of children. Science has furnished the farmer and husbandman with strict rules in regard to the rearing of good stock; these regulations are followed to the letter, and enterprise is thus an hundred fold rewarded for its expense and trouble. Science, also, has pre- scribed the best method of attending to the physical education of children, but how few follow its dic- tates. Those who have done so, have reaped the reward in rearing strong and healthy children, at once their delight and a blessing to their country. But too many, as yet, who behold such praise- worthy examples, consider them exceptions, freaks of nature, or the consequence of accidental good fortune. This is a sad picture, but a true one. We must have indeed strayed far away from nature's own path, to consider a pair of rosy cheeks or a lively, energetic disposition in a child, nothing else but a freak of nature. So scarce has that become which ought to be universal! The fault most productive of those evils, has been the great physical restraint under which we put the child as early as the first day of its exist- ence. Tight bandages, compressing the abdomen and breast, are applied immediately after its birth. Afterwards it is closely confined in heated rooms, not allowing a sufficiency of fresh air, so essential to INFANCY. 59 the development of the young organism; its brain is heated by a cap, its stomach deranged by improper food, which is forced upon the little sufferer,and if pain and restlessness follow, paregoric, Godfrey's cordial, etc., must restore quiet, or castor oil remove the evil. Still greater distress follows such violent and senseless treatment. Congestions to the head appear and convulsions threaten. No wonder that the constitution of a child, under such mismanagement, can never be a strong one, even if it survives the attacks that occur during early infancy. But how many do survive? Only one half of all children born, reach the age of two years. This is a melancholy fact, casting a dark shadow, freighted with destruction and death, upon our so-called modern civilization, with its boasted light and instruction. If one-half of the human race has to perish before reaching the second year of its existence, we have not yet begun to realize the blessings of reform in our treatment of the helpless young. It is full time that we should put into operation the measures devised by science, and calculated to keep the angel of death from the cradles of our children. These are at once comprehensive and effective. If we see our faults, let us forthwith correct them; no time is to be lost. We have perpetrated sins of commission and omission; we must know how we have done wrong in order to understand Ka ng pambata GESTA 60 GIRL. how to do right. We have wronged the child in omitting to give it a sufficiency of fresh air, water and exercise, all of which are indispensable condi- tions of its thriving well and receiving a firm, healthy constitution. But more than that, we have wronged the children by actually making them sick, committing an attack on their life and consti- tution, by compressing the lungs and other noble organs, rendering them, thereby, weak for life. We also prevent the liberty of motion by bandaging the limbs; we irritate the intestines by castor oil, and debilitate the brain and nervous system by opiates; and, finally, we over-stimulate mental action by too early application in that direction, merely to gratify our pride and foolish aspirations; a wick- edness often enough punished by the early death of the object of our love and hope. Let us avoid these faults, and not one-half of the dear, helpless beings, will fall victims in early life, while the surviving majority will be blessed with a healthy constitution. w. Hygiene has become a science and demands a treatise of its own, so extensive is its range of action and practical utility. We have not the room or intention to give here its details; the reader will find these in separate works on Hy- giene. We content ourselves in pointing out the grosser faults at present committed in the rearing of children, and their remedies. And as the female CHILDHOOD. 61 infants suffer, in proportion, more than the male, we consider the above remarks especially justified. The female sex ought to have, above all, healthy constitutions, being destined to play the most im- portant part in the propagation of the race. Let us raise strong and healthy mothers, and there will be at once an improvement in the health of the next generation. The female, therefore, requires at our hands, the most careful attention, and we are bound to commence it at the earliest period in infancy. When vaccination shall take place, let the female infant be vaccinated, either high up on the arm or on the outside of the leg, below the knee, (always the best place for small infants,) in order to avoid the scar from being observed afterwards, as the girl or young woman frequently appears with bare arms. It can easily be done, thus pre- venting an ugly scar from marring the beauty of a well-formed, symmetrical arm, no small attribute of the physical perfection of woman. Before we proceed farther, to discuss the best methods of education for the young girl, we would express at once our decided condemnation of those at present in vogue. We have for a long time witnessed the bad effects which the educa- tional system now adopted in most of our Boarding Schools, has on the health and minds of the daughters of the land. It is entirely erroneous, D 62 GIRL. and mischievous in the extreme; wrong from the commencement, its results cannot be beneficial. The object of nature is, to prepare the system in the preceding period for the next one following, in childhood for youth, in youth for womanhood, etc. We must, in our educational efforts, observe the intentions of nature, and not pervert or overleap this order. To teach a child what a youth ought to know, and so on, or to neglect or prevent the development needed for a child, in order to make it perform the duties of a youth, will be an injury which never can be fully repaired, as the more advanced period can never acquire that which should have been the object of its pursuit in a previous one. Each period of life has separate uses, which must be fulfilled, and which never can be changed without serious derangement; this is at least the general rule, the order of nature. The development of the physical system occurs principally during childhood, which extends to the age of twelve or fourteen years. During this time our endeavors should be directed almost exclusively towards the support of the physical growth; we must at least refrain from interfering with it. All education is properly divided into two parts, analogous to the two-fold existence of man, physical and intellectual. The moral preceding CHILDHOOD. 63 and following the latter, is therefore included in it. Each of these two departments has separate ends to accomplish, and will be required in different periods of life. The physical training has for its object the education and strengthening of the body, in the whole, as well as in all its parts. The body is the carrier and instrument of the mind; its strength and health are all-important for the easy and complete performance of the real or spiritual life. To make physical education effectual, we have to commence it in early youth, and pursue it steadily during the whole period of bodily development. This period, in fact, ought to be filled up almost exclusively with the practices necessary to carry out the principles of a thorough physical education, else the succeeding stages of life will result in fewer advantages for the object in view. We are firmly persuaded that the greatest blessings would flow from following the above principles in our common school system. Their adoption would not interfere with present arrange- ments, as we need only to alter the objects and hours of instruction. The child may, as hereto- fore, be put under school training at the age of six, but from that up to eight, it should receive twice, every day, half an hour's instruction in the purely elementary branches of education; the other time should be devoted to a regular and systematic practice of gymnastics, under the D2 64 GIRL. superintendence of competent teachers. Fron eight to ten years, the next higher branches should be taught during two hours in the day, while more difficult gymnastics should be pursued during the remaining time. From ten to fourteen years, a confinement of four hours a day in the school- room, for still higher studies, would not be prejudicial to the child's health, there still being left four hours a day for active gymnastic exercise. Such ought to be the instruction of the young, in order to make the body strong, while its expan- sion takes place, and to train by degrees the mind to those exercises which afterwards will be the principal business of its life. We are wrong, if we suppose that the great object of school instruc- tion consists in filling the head of the young with actual knowledge. The acquisition of this ought to be of minor importance; sometimes it is really detrimental. The school can only train the mind. in the paths leading to knowledge and thought, to enable it to improve by its own exertion and observation. This is an important truth, proved by the experience of great men, who were for their greatness indebted not to the actual know- ledge taught in schools, but to the impulse which their minds received by the training of those schools. We therefore, strongly recommend parents and teachers, not to subject the young and elastic system of the child to the cruel confinement CHILDHOOD. 65 of the school-room, but to educate the body, rather than to fill the mind with premature knowledge. A child of ten years of age can learn in a quarter of the time what is offered to one of seven or eight; it will be an easy task for the older, while the younger child will suffer and labor hard, to accomplish the same. There is no time, therefore, gained by hastening with the intellec- tual education of a child; let its brain first mature and harden, easily to perform intellectual labor. Besides, it is not necessary to accelerate the intellectual development, in our days of rail-roads and ready intercourse, which offer to the young an easy medium of instruction not heretofore known. A child can learn to read and write, by merely having its curiosity and imitative faculty excited, through the innumerable hand-bills posted up in streets and thoroughfares, on steamboats, and on rail-roads. The means and objects of observation being increased an hundred fold, com- pared with former times, there remains less for the school to instruct. The physical cultivation is, therefore, the first we have to look to in a child. It comprises different practices, from the mere running about in the street, to the most complicated gymnastic exercises. It forms a complete system, and ought to be taught and practised in perfect earnestness. We will dwell upon the more important exercises at some length. D3 66 GIRL. The girl should be permitted to run about in the open air, and exercise at least as much, if not in the same manner, as the boy. Her plays are naturally different, but the benefit derived from them for the development of the system, is the same. If the boy flies the kite, the girl rolls the hoop and jumps the rope. The latter amusement ought to undergo a surveillance by older persons, to avoid an excess of action and consequent injury to the nervous system, which is naturally excitable in the young. The girl should be exposed, even to the same degree of inclemency of weather as the boy, in all seasons, in order to harden her sys- tem and prevent precocious development. This latter consideration is even more weighty in her case, than in that of a boy, who develops more slowly, while she is inclined to precocious develop- ment. To counteract this more fully, frequent cold bathing is necessary, which, having become a habit with the child, will continue to be enjoyed as a luxury by the girl and maiden. The dress worn by the girl at all times, particular- ly during play hours, ought to be made to fit loosely. Any pressure in this age has a very injurious effect on the physical development, impeding easy, free and abundant motion; compressing the bony struc- ture, and thereby preventing the nobler internal organs from expanding. Spinal and lung diseases are the frequent result of a violation of this rule. CHILDHOOD. 67 Another very excellent exercise, suitable and natural for the girl, is dancing, the artistic rules of which, as an accomplishment, may be acquired in this period of life, better and sooner than afterwards. The child between seven and four- teen years, is naturally inclined to exercise, will be, therefore, fond of the dancing school. Its movements can be directed, in this age, very easily, because the mind of the young is less fettered by conventionalities and restraints, which produce so much awkwardness in after life, if one is not regu- larly instructed in the free and graceful motions of the body. In thus recommending parents to have their children, and particularly their daughters, acquire this beautiful accomplishment, we do not advo- cate its excessive practice among the young or adult. We have seen moral and physical evils. resulting from its abuse, and feel very anxious to warn parents, not to allow their daughters to become too much fascinated by the pleasures of the dance. The best of every thing may be abused; this should not prevent us from using it moderately and to the purpose. Dancing, systematically taught and rationally pursued, improves the beauty of the natural gait, and is conducive to bodily health and a fine flow of hilarity and enjoyment. We protest, however, against all fashionable nonsense, by which dancing, as an art, is carried too far, and ᎠᏎ a valida morte g GA, Agg 68 GIRL. becomes too difficult for easy instruction or quick acquisition. It ought to be taught in a simple, easy manner, without the affectation of the modern fashionable dancing school, in which this liberal accomplishment is presented to the pupils in a professional perfection, not suited to educational purposes. The latter object is only needed and desired, which to effect, nothing more is necessary than to teach the child the various graceful attitudes and motions, having reference to the improvements of its own natural walk and carriage. But it is not necessary only to establish by art, the elegance and grace of the human figure; we must also endeavor to raise its physical strength. For that purpose, the systematical exercise of the muscles, as taught by gymnastics, is strongly re- commended. The term "gymnastics," signifies physical exercises, according to scientific rules. Now, many might believe it needless to take exer- cise under the control of certain rules, thinking that bodily exercise in any shape or form, was the same in its results, viz: strengthening the system. This, however, is not so. Exercise may do harm as well as good, and great discrimination is needed to apply its force at the right time and in the proper direction. To let a person with feeble lungs take exercise in walking every day for a long distance, would certainly not improve his condi- tion, it would rather be injurious to him; while CHILDHOOD. 69 exercising the muscles of the chest by throwing out and drawing back his arms, would be bene- ficial. Thus every muscle in the whole system has its own beneficial effect, and should be strengthened by an appropriate exercise. For this purpose to put successively all muscles in active motion, the art of gymnastics has arisen, which teaches the various methods of doing it. A double benefit is gained by this process. It is not merely the acquisition of physical strength resulting from these practices, but also the training of the mental faculties, indirectly coming into play during these physical exercises, when performed scientifically. The pupil is constantly reminded that the use of certain means will be needed to accomplish certain ends. Thus, his faculties of calculation, decision, energy, order, etc., will be intelligently acted upon. The unscientific exercise of the body is as different from the scientific, as the playing of one who is unlearned, on the piano, compared with that of an experienced musician. The one produces an unharmonious, offensive noise, while the other delights and instructs by his performance. An important art, of so vast a range, cannot be taught and practised sufficiently in a short time. To be accomplished in the art of playing on the piano, requires years of patient, persevering effort; and the body is analogous to and even more complex than a piano, having four D5 70 GIRL. hundred muscles to be set in motion or played upon. It must require years of continued exercise and study to bring these hundreds of muscles under intelligent control, to act upon and with them, and thereby improve their several conditions and strengthen the whole system. The intro- duction of gymnastics ought to be commenced, therefore, in early childhood, while yet the body easily yields to, and even delights in exercises of all kinds; their study can be made very attractive to the youthful mind, as these practices not merely delight the bodily senses, but also engage and invigorate the intellect, acting constantly upon the child's attention and discrimination, that it may comprehend the different motions, and distin- guish one from another. A child cannot well be put under gymnastic training before it is six or seven years of age; it will then be sufficiently advanced to understand and retain the lessons, which begin like other systematic studies, with elementary efforts, and advance gradually. With the growth of the pupil, the exercises increase in power and variety. Every voluntary muscle of the body is, one by one, acted upon, and brought under the control of the will; particularly is this the case, where parts of the body or systems of muscles seem to be weaker or less developed than others. Regulated exercise increases their strength and bulk, and restores thereby that harmony of CHIIDHOOD. 71 organic development, so essential to the future health and permanent welfare of the whole system. Thus the gymnastics assume an hygienic impor- tance, not equalled by any other means, to counteract or prevent disease. And this in a greater degree for the girl than the boy; because the former, naturally weaker in frame and muscle, suffers more from early confinement in the school, and becomes thereby particularly inclined to spinal and lung complaints, these scourges and tortures of the female sex. Having arrived at this part of our subject, viz: the hygienic bearing of gymnastics on the present and future welfare of the female system, we would call the reader's attention again and again, to its vast importance, by reviewing the present treatment of girls during their educa- tion, and its bearing upon the health and welfare of the child. Look at the lively little girl, running about all day, fixing dolls or playing otherwise in the house or out of doors, talking incessantly, and putting herself into all imaginable shapes and forms, expressing thereby her inner feelings or wishes, and exercising her muscles instinctively. Scarcely four years old, you confine this lively and lovely little creature into an infant school,* where almost the * Some writer in "Chambers' Information for the People," goes still farther in torturing the poor little ones; his advice, if acted out, would certainly kill the whole infant world. Hear his ᎠᏰ My M Dat de 72 GIRL. whole day long she has to sit quiet or be restrained at least in her movements and plays. Her brain, as yet very soft and impressible, is excited too much by the studies in the books, while at the same time, the general system is thwarted in its development by confinement and rest. This is just perverting the order. In this age the brain needs rest, at least, not more action than the natural instinct of the child will demand, while the muscles and bones need all the motion they can get, to develope strongly and perfectly. It is impossible to reverse the natural order of things, without suffering the penalty following such an offence. Nature and medicine will cease to cure, where the offence was too great, disturbing the fundamental arrangements of the system. The brain is proportionally larger in infants than in adults; the head therefore, does not grow as much advice: From six to fourteen years of age.-In a rightly arranged and complete course of elementary, intellectual educa- tion, it is presumed that the period from two to six years of age, has been spent in an infant school. The effect which such a preparation has in facilitating the subsequent operations of the teacher, is so great that every effort should be made, to give children the advantage of it." The practical impossibility of being carried out, saves the above advice from any comment on our part; it is too extrava- gant bordering on the ridiculous and insane in its demands, and therefore harmless; yet the reader will perceive the danger of their infants being killed by methods like the above, recom- mended, or already in vogue. CHILDHOOD. 73 or as fast as the other parts of the body. The brain being as yet very tender, easily yields to the pressure of the blood in its vessels, which pre- disposes to dropsy of the brain, acute or chronic, both equally fearful and fatal. Precocious mental development will over-excite and congest the brain and thereby cause inflammation and dropsy of the brain, convulsions, weakness of muscles and bones, rachitis, etc. The young system wants air and exercise. Without these, its growth is stinted at once; it cannot bear to be shut up in rooms or confined upon benches; it needs the fullest liberty. The injury done to those innocent little ones, by sending them to infant schools, is immense and can hardly ever be repaired, as the injury is inflicted during this early period, mostly on the spine and breast bone, often also, on the pelvis, causing rachitical diseases, which positively de- stroy the best part of life's happiness and destiny. Parents, this misery could have been spared to you and your daughters by a little reflection and action, in the right direction with nature, not against her. It is true, your excuse is perfect; you did not know any better. You did as others have done, and still are doing; you could not be blamed, neither were you aware of any harm being done to your darling. Did the little daughter not come home from school cheerful and 74 GIRL. delighted with her school-mistress; she loved her so much, she could not now stay away from school, she would be very unhappy, etc. You are pleased to watch and see the great progress your child makes in reading, writing and cyphering; what a capital teacher she has, and how forward the child is; there never was such a child. Its future is speculated upon with no little relish. Poor parents, all this time you have been striving with all your might to ruin the health and prospects of your child, nay, even the intellectual developments which you intended to foster so early and tho- roughly, you have impeded, thwarted and stinted forever. But, you say, why is it that the child, if not naturally inclined to intellectual pursuit, loves it so much that it sometimes even cannot be persuaded to leave the books for playthings? This is very obvious, if we consider the means which are used to make the child fond of books and study. Not to mention the fact, that children like to be in the school-room, because they prefer the society of their own age to that of a more advanced one, its noise and excitement to the quiet and restraint of home and its parlor; there is another still greater inducement to draw them to books, instead of plays, and this is one of our own fab- rication. The ambition of the young mind is stirred up in that early period of life, in order to arouse its energies to study, and hard intellectual labor. - CHILDHOOD. 75 Thus ambition, this legitimate stimulus of a more advanced age which needs its sting and propelling power, is used by our enlightened teachers, to set the brains of children on fire, and put their intellects into hot-houses, before their hearts are prepared to expel envy and malice, almost always the inseparable companions of ambition. It is dangerous to arouse passions, even the noblest, given to us by Providence for wise purposes, before the time of their natural appearance has arrived. Be these passions either of a moral or physical nature, their harmonious workings have to follow the same laws. If aroused prematurely, their action becomes de- structive by engendering morbid conditions and precocious development. But if allowed to lie dormant in the system until the time appointed. by nature, they spring up in healthful action and vigor, accompanied always by their counterpoises, antidoting and restraining their activity if too abundant. In this manner, if ambition should be- come too great and unscrupulous in a full grown man, prudence will arise to curb its impetus; man will reflect on the evil consequences which may result from a too ambitious desire and thus the equilibrium of his mind is at once restored. Not so in a child, where reflection has not yet appeared to restrain the will if under ambitious influence. Children, whose ambition has been unduly stimu- 76 GIRL. lated, sometimes have received serious injury in body and mind from such unnatural races; they frequently have died from diseases, thus contracted. A medical friend at my side just now relates to me the sad story of his sister, who lost five of her children, all during the first school period, from precocious intellectual development; the sixth one was saved by adhering to the Doctor's strict rule, not to foster mental but physical development.* It was the fault of former times to educate the young mind too little; we have fallen into the other extreme of educating too much, by over- taxing the minds of the young. The middle course must be kept, otherwise the harmony in *I am perfectly convinced that harm is done by the premiums and prizes offered at the examinations in schools, to the most forward pupils. It is a system which naturally had to accom- pany the hot-house education, as it exists at present everywhere, and for which it furnishes the best fuel to force the tender plants into premature mental growth, regardless of sound physical basis. If modern educationists had offered to the mind of the child at- tractive and comprehensible studies, they would find the stimulus of gain or preferment, in the shape of prizes, premiums and places, unnecessary to induce the child to exercise its mental faculties. Moreover, it is wrong to make the child labor, some- times above its natural powers, by holding out these inducements to his young, lively soul, thereby inflaming the lower passions of gain, pride and ambition, and poisoning its harmless, inno- cent existence with the bitterness and stimulus of an older age; vices of the same age will find an open door, and thus it is, that at present we frequently find our youth having become old, before they have been young. CHILDHOOD. 77 the double nature of man is disturbed and his growth, in either direction, stinted. We have above alluded to only one of the many erroneous practices into which modern edu- cationists have fallen by attempting to raise the standard of education. We have shown that it is not in harmony with a child's development, to arouse in him, prematurely, one of the most powerful passions, without being able to bring into play its counterpoise, and that it is dangerous, even criminal, to do so, as frequently, thereby, diseases are provoked fatal to life and health. We now will add, that it is also cruel to do so, because the ambitious child, having strained its mental powers to the utmost, and still not being able to compete successfully, meets thereby with one of the most agonizing draw-backs which falls to the lot of man. Have you never seen the burning tears rolling profusely down the child's cheek, heated with shame or rage, after an intellectual race was lost? These juvenile disappointments, the frequent and natural results of our present educational system, are as keenly felt, and as bitter in their taste, and as hardening in their after-effect, as those experienced in later years, and perhaps more so, as their severity is not softened by reflection or prospective repara- tion. The bitterness of the moment is felt in all its disagreeable power, and often crushes, at one blow, the aspirations of the young, their hopes 78 GIRL. and energies. You may say that all this only lasts for a short time, that young blood soon forgets the ills of life; yes, it may be so, but nevertheless the young heart is deeply wounded, and although the wound soon heals, a scar will be left to impede the natural and wide expansion of the heart. We ought to be very careful not to offend, without good and wise reasons, the child's mind, because its sensibilities are finer and more perceptive, while reason and reflection are not yet very strong. We hope to see the day when a closer analysis of the peculiar organization of the juvenile mind shall guide those to whose care its education is intrusted. We are sure that after mature consider- ation of the subject, they will find it necessary to adapt their system to the developing, not to the developed child; that they will treat the child as such, and not as if it had all the fully developed faculties of the adult. A general school system should be adopted, based upon the above principles, viz: the physical education by means of gymnastics, dancing, music, etc., together with instruction in the most elemen- tary branches of knowledge up to the tenth year of age, and afterwards, up to the fourteenth year, the higher branches of instruction together with higher gymnastics. Were such a system adopted, we should soon enjoy its good results; the next generation would have strong, intelligent mothers, 1 CHILDHOOD. 79 capable of filling, in the full sense of that word, the responsibilities belonging to them. It is the sacred duty of every one comprehending the vast impor- tance of this subject, to work for its realization. Above, we have mentioned music as one of the elementary branches to be taught to children. It is necessarily comprised in a catalogue of instruc- tion. Music, in its composition and effect, is emphatically the most humanitary of arts. It belongs to all countries, races, sexes and ages; it enters into every one's organization; its harmony and melody are the very soul of all that exists, and its tact and rythm form the mathematics, the crystallizing principle of the world. We cannot have too high an appreciation of its value, either as a source of enjoyment, or in the culture of body or mind. The child perceives and feels its influence as readily as the adult reads, in its swelling notes, the highest thoughts and sublimest sentiments. Music is universal in application and effect, the best introduction, therefore, to all other sciences and branches of knowledge. To exclude music from the schools would be a death-blow to all education; its fertilizing principle would be want- ing, leaving a waste in the soul as barren as the sands of Sahara. Music, like morals, must be taught, practiced and enjoyed during our whole life, commencing with the earliest dawn of perception. Girls, above all, should be well instructed in 80 GIRL. music; not to make of them professional singers or players, but to let them enjoy and study harmony and rythm, the constructors of happiness and bliss. The young soul and hand of a girl is ready to cultivate music, particularly if her mind be not over-bur- dened with premature knowledge of a more abstract nature. We recommend, therefore, instruction in music during the whole time devoted to education. For young girls, the piano forte will be the best instrument for instruction; in after years the harp becomes an elegant and appropriate means of further musical study. The voice ought to be cultivated at the same time. Singing being a natural gift of the female sex, it would be hardly necessary here to admon- ish parents not to neglect its proper cultivation in the education of their young daughters. Having, thus far, considered the physical and intellectual condition of young girls, it remains for us to notice their moral and religious training. But as this comprises the most important elements of individual happiness, and as such must be left to the especial care of the child's natural guar- dians, we refrain from mentioning the means, necessary for the accomplishment of this object; they are known to, and within reach of every one, as we live in a Christian country. One remark may not be out of place here. Religion, like music, is universal, and the very CHILDHOOD. 81 soul of our being; let this soul once awake, and a new creation will appear, immeasurably ex- alted above all others. And as religion, like music, can be enjoyed doubly in sentiment and thought, it follows that its teachings can and should be commenced, like those of music, early in childhood, when the finer sensibilities of our nature are yet in full play, and religious sentiments fasten the attention of the young soul, as the soft tones of the Eols harp. Before we conclude this chapter on woman's girlhood, we will say yet a few words concerning the means of education at present in vogue. We have already mentioned that the popular school system is altogether defective as regards rational education. It might be thought, however, that female Seminaries and boarding-schools had ob- viated these evils and replaced them by better educational means; but this is not so. They are even worse, in many respects, than the common schools of the country. Their plan of education is almost wholly based upon the most rigid intel- lectual training, destroying the physical system in the very bud. The number and variety of studies imposed upon a young girl in these institutions, is really frightful if not ridiculous, each establish- ment trying to out-do the other in these particulars. The programme must be full, comprehensive and novel; if so, it will draw pupils. Hear Eliz. 82 P pg mga mga ma GIRL. Blackwell, M. D., who, on this subject, must be set down as good authority: "The most abstruse subjects, that tax the attention of the strongest mental powers, are pre- sented as studies for the young; girls of thirteen or fifteen are called upon to ponder the problems of mental and moral philosophy, to demonstrate the propositions of Euclid, to understand the refine- ments of rhetoric and logic-admirable studies, truly, but they are the food of mature minds, not suitable to children. But it would puzzle the most ingenious observer, to discover the good use of most of our children's studies. If the object be mental discipline, there is no surer way of defeating such an object, than to attempt to give the mind a superficial view of a subject too difficult for it to grasp to confuse it with a multitude of discon- nected studies to hurry it from subject to subject, so that the simple studies more suited to the young mind, are imperfectly acquired and soon for- gotten. How can it be otherwise, when the young mind has to apply itself, during the limited term of school study, to such a list of subjects as the following: Grammar, Ancient and Modern History, Natural Philosophy, Chemistry, Botany, Astronomy, Mental and Moral Philosophy, Physiology, Rhetoric, Composition, Elocution, Logic, Algebra, Geometry, Belles-Lettres! Now for the accomplishments: French, Latin, Italian, per- * * * CHILDHOOD. 83 haps Spanish, German and Greek-I believe Hebrew is not introduced in this country-vocal and instrumental music, piano, harp, guitar, drawing, painting, and various kinds of fancy work." This is truly a formidable array of studies for a young girl, while she is at boarding-school. It is impossible for her to do full justice to all of them; the attempt would certainly prove fatal to health. But, thanks to the native sprightliness of youth, they slight most, if not all of them, and thus manage to escape with their lives from the ordeal of the fashionable boarding-school. It is true they have acquired a smattering of knowledge and perhaps outward polish of manners and accom- plishments, but it is only superficial, imperfectly acquired and soon forgotten. Has anything been learned, really useful in after-life? No, absolutely nothing, save perhaps reading and writing. And, as regards the first, her taste acquired in the boarding-school, may be anything but the best. Has she secured a healthy, strong body, to sustain her in the duties and cares which will soon follow? No, her body is perhaps less strong and healthy than when she entered the school. How useless, then, nay, how ruinous, must be a system of edu- cation, which promises so much and effects so little good, aside from the real evil it does. The world never was punished with a worse educational 84 GIRL. system, or one which so completely annihilates the hope of the parent and philanthropist, by nipping the welfare of future generations in the bud. It is full time for this nation to look well to its edu- cational matters; because their influence is vast, and the most important interests are at stake. Reform in this respect, should take place soon, or the future flower of the nation will be withered ere yet it opens. With a total change in the course of studies, and the adoption of gymnastic instruction, the young girl will receive that kind of education which will fit her for the severer duties of after-life. CHAPTER. III. MAIDEN, OR YOUNG LADY. Just before or about the time, when the girl becomes a maiden, or as we now say, a young lady, great alterations have taken place in her physical system; changes, the nature of which will, from this time onward, affect her whole future for evil or good. At the same time the girl's mind receives a new direction; she behaves differently, is more reserved in her conduct, and more careful in her appearance before others. The monthly period, or menstruation has appeared. As it is important for mothers to know the use and signification of this periodical discharge, which is the herald of such vast changes in the female economy, and the balance-wheel of her health during the most eventful period of her life, we will treat of it in these pages more fully, showing its origin and connection with other vital processes, occurring simultaneously in the system. As in the course of explanations for this purpose, it will be necessary to make the reader acquainted with the most secret and sacred proceedings of E 86 MAIDEN. nature, we will endeavor to convey this informa- tion in a manner as little exceptionable as possible. A mother should have a correct knowledge of these processes, so intimately connected with her own and the happiness of her daughters, dispens- ing continually either health or disease. If it is not given to her correctly, her natural curiosity, impelled by the interest attached to the strange phenomenon, will incite her to procure from other sources, wherever she can, such knowledge on this subject as may, perhaps, lead her into misery and danger. Before the true nature of menstruation, its cause and object was fully known, the treatment of female diseases, depending on menstrual disor- ders, was very uncertain and hazardous. Recent investigations have dispelled this doubt and uncer- tainty; the anatomist and physiologist have combined to reveal to us these most secret trans- actions of nature, thereby enabling the physician to prevent and cure their diseases more success- fully. Information so important and useful, should not be withheld from the people, if we can correct thereby the many erroneous opinions which are yet afloat respecting menstruation, its origin and signification in female development. The menses have been generally considered the surest evidence of a girl having passed into the state of womanhood. In most cases, particularly F YOUNG LADY. 87 : in healthy girls, this is true. But as menstruation is not properly the cause of this change, but only an outward sign of those internal preparations necessary for such a change, it may frequently occur that, by some morbid conditions, this periodical discharge does not make its appearance, although, from other unmistakable signs, the girl has become a young woman. These signs which, besides menstruation, indi- cate the approach of womanhood, arise commonly between the twelfth and fourteenth year. Some are invariably present, such as the increased size of the hips and breasts, the roundness and swelling of the limbs, the perceptible fullness of the whole form; others are variable in their occurrence, having reference more to mental development. The girl, talkative, roguish and romping, becomes at once reserved, retiring, sometimes even sad and easily moved to tears. She begins to dress with more care, and is more observing anxiously and silently; her whole soul is filled with gentle emotions. She longs to enjoy the pleasures of sincere, disinterested friendship, that love in a bud, which makes life a de- lightful journey. In this state of mind, she clings to her mother for advice and counsel, showing more affection towards her than here- tofore. Then it is that a mother can exert the most beneficent influence over this developing, E2 88 MAIDEN interesting creature, just ready to become a woman. In this time of fear and hope, the mother ought to instruct and counsel her as to the meaning and import of the various phenomena, so strange to the trembling girl, but of the utmost importance to the developed woman. At first, naturally modest, the girl will often hide from the sight of the mother, what she considers to be singular and wrong. The first appearance of the menses may even frighten the timid girl, who does not know the meaning of such an occurrence. A watchful mother or female friend, should never fail to give the girl such instruction and advice as will dispel her fears and guide her actions. A general development of form and size takes place mostly from four to six months, prior to the first appearance of the menses. This first out- break, like the teething of infants, is frequently accompanied by many morbid symptoms, princi- pally of a nervous and congestive nature, such as head-ache, palpitation of the heart, sensation of smothering, irritable, quick and impatient tem- perament, sometimes followed of a sudden by sadness and depression of spirits, restless nights, pains in the small of the back and loins, etc. These symptoms disappear as soon as the discharge commences, which may last at the first time for two or three days. The proper average duration of the courses afterwards, is five days; if it is YOUNG LADY. 89 below or above this standard, it is caused by morbid conditions or other modifying circumstances. As it is all-important for the health of the girl to have the menses established well and regularly, it is necessary not to overlook, in the beginning, those morbid symptoms, above alluded to. They may be ignored once or twice without producing serious injury; but if the menses continue to be accompanied with pains in the back, cramps in the stomach, etc., we must not neglect to call in medical advice. We refer the reader to Part II., where, under the head of "Difficult Menstrua- tion,” the remedial course to be pursued in such a case, is indicated. The nature of these pains and apparent obstructions will be understood after a consideration of the internal proceedings con- nected with menstruation and its object. Puberty in a female, or the aptitude of becoming a mother, is produced by the action of two small bodies, lying on each side of the uterus, and connected with it by small tubes, leading into its cavity. These small, oval-shaped bodies are called ovaries, or egg-beds. They are composed of a formative material, called stroma, which contains sinall vesicles, ova or eggs, the con- struction of which, in all its essential parts, is similar to the common egg, when yet without the external shell, even as regards the presence of the yelk, the main dependence of the growing germ. E3 90 MAIDEN. Their size, however, is extremely small, not ex- ceeding that of a pin's head. The same wonderful arrangement obtains in the vegetable kingdom, which also propagates its kind by means of ova, or little eggs, as far as is known at present. For these astonishing and interesting discoveries, we are mainly indebted to the microscope, by the aid of which the exact structure of the various parts engaged in these proceedings was fully revealed, and their function determined. We will presently see with what precision and harmony the different organs co-operate to facilitate the propagation of the species. The little egg, which we will call hereafter ovule, lies dormant, enclosed in a sack, until it becomes stimulated by the reproductive power of the system, which, as we now know, returns peri- odically in the human female about every month. At that time it begins to grow, bursts the sack, and escapes into the Fallopian tube, which carries it into the cavity of the uterus. In single life it passes away with the menstrual discharge, which, as a secretion of the uterus, is just then excited by the same reproductive power of the system. In married life, when the conditions of nature are fulfilled, the ovule is retained within the cavity of the womb and there developes to a perfect human being. The explanation of this process will be given in another place of the book. For us it YOUNG LADY. 91 is, in this connection, important to know that menstruation stands in the closest relation to the generative power and process of nature; that its healthful appearance is indicative of a perfect development of these forces, but that a premature hastening, or a tardy appearance of the menses by disease or artificial means, must injure the above named functions and thereby the whole female system, formed, in a physical respect, especially for that purpose. As already stated, menstruation appears about the fourteenth year; this may be considered the normal standard, although frequent deviations from this rule may take place. If it occurs earlier, diverse circumstances may have hastened its ap- pearance, such as luxurious habits, indolence, sensual indulgences, reading of novels, etc.; also sedentary habits and too close application to study, have a great tendency to produce menstruation in advance of the other signs of womanhood, mentioned above, which must precede the menses. A girl must have become, first, broader across the hips, the breasts must have enlarged, and her form filled up in rounded outlines, before a health- ful menstrual discharge can be expected. If this is not the case, the cause of the non-appearance of the period lies in the backward ovarian develop- ment, which generally has its foundations in the qualitative deterioration of the blood. This then E 4 92 MAIDEN. has to be ameliorated before the menses can appear. The remedies to effect this will be indicated in the Part II. From the above it will appear how useful, in a practical point of view, these discoveries have become, directing our remedial means to the places really diseased. A physician, without a clear comprehension of these secret occurrences would be unable to treat successfully their disorders. Action without knowledge becomes frequently fatal. An instance of this is related by Dr. Dixon, as follows: "We have seen cases, in which mothers demanded importunately medical treatment for children, possessing not a single sign of woman- hood; and upon one occasion, in which we very unwisely refused to prescribe for a young girl, death was the consequence of a powerful medicine administered by a well-meaning, though ignorant parent. In this instance we might, by apparently yielding to the parent's desire, or by prescribing some harmless drug, have gained time, as re- commended by some humane physicians, until menstruation was produced by the effort of nature. The case made at the time a strong impression upon our sympathies, and we determined to use our humble powers of popular instruction, when time and experience had given us more knowledge of the subject." If menstruation is once established, it generally YOUNG LADY. 93 ܪܘ ܘ ܝ returns every twenty-eight days. Its duration each time is about from five to six days. Its too early or too late appearance depends mostly upon morbid constitutionality, engendered by heritage or wrong habits, by diseases having a special reference to the uterine region, luxurious living, etc The amount of menstrual discharge varies very much. The normal standard, however, may be set down safely at from five to eight ounces during each monthly period. Yet, this can not rule individual cases, which are governed by peculiarities in constitution and habits. If the woman remains healthy, the object of nature is fulfilled. The same constitutionality governs the time of appearance, and may modify the normal standard of twenty-eight days frequently, without inflicting any injury upon the general health. Having thus dwelt at length on the nature of those proceedings which, silently preparing for action during childhood, break forth at last in the monthly period, as the surest outward sign of the important change from childhood to womanhood; having considered its origin, use and effect in the female system, we are now prepared to follow the young woman in the different spheres of her activity. She has not alone changed her physical appearance, as we have seen, but her moral nature also differs essentially from that of the child. #5 94 MAIDEN. While a child, that is before the appearance of her monthly period, her mental faculties were less engaged with the proper, nice and decorous. She was unobserving, careless as to drawing the atten- tion of others towards her; she yet participated to a certain extent, in the free, romping, even wild character of the boy. She had yet to be governed by others, parents and teachers; the rule within herself, that priceless jewel and powerful weapon of a female, womanly modesty, had not yet commenced to guide her steps and desires, which hitherto expressed themselves as mere appetites. She was still a school-girl, thoughtless, sprightly and joyous. But scarcely has she passed the Rubicon of woman's development, when the wild, romping girl becomes thoughtful and retiring; she dresses with neatness and elegance; her gait and carriage assumes an elastic dignity; she is anxious to please and to be observed; her motions and de- sires are regulated by gracefulness and modesty. Although yet under the guidance of her parents and teachers, she already thinks and acts for herself; she feels that she has responsibilities and duties. If she has been educated religiously, she will now realize more the comfort of an intelligent address to the Supreme Being, and feel the need of a reliance on Divine assistance, the more she Ja CA, alda q va qat daljem po mang gaga YOUNG LADY. 95 becomes acquainted with the deceitfulness of the world. The closet will be a favored place for her, and the teachings of the Bible, which now become practical and real, will be sweet and price- less to her heart. The position, which a christian young lady occupies, is elevated beyond any other, if she feels and understands her duties in this respect. The heart, whose throbbings she now begins to feel, for good or evil, for the glitter of fashionable society, or for the high, noble truths of science and religion-this swelling, loving heart will be regulated for the better, in its desires and loves by the mild but earnest teachings of the Gospel. From this book she should never cease to draw the spiritual nourishment of which she now stands in need, perhaps more than ever. In youth, lay up the stores for a more advanced age. The young lady should be the last to neglect the closet, with its meditations and prayers, or the public service, with its high moral teachings and devo- tional sublimities. In the family circle, the maiden occupies a peculiarly interesting and useful position. She is the pride of the father, the hope of the mother, and the cherished object of brother and sister. Towards the younger members of the family she feels and acts like a mother, while they look up to her as such. She becomes, by degrees, the support and i E6 96 MAIDEN. delight of her mother, the link by which the past and present are bound closer together, and are made to understand and love each other. She is now destined to become more and more acquainted with the practical duties of life. Although her studies in the school or under private instruction, are still progressing, her mind already inclines to be occupied, not alone with the abstract, but also with the real. The many little affairs of life as they occur among her associates, or in social circles generally, engage her attention and stimulate her action. Slowly, but surely, does this preparation of her girlish nature for the arduous duties of a married life, proceed, sometimes stimulated by outward excitement, (public lectures, festivities, etc.,) and inward impulses, (the dawnings of a first love,) or at other times checked and purified by the teachings at home and abroad. At home, under the eyes of her mother, she is made acquainted with the duties of the house and family. She will be taught how to regulate the simple but various affairs of a household, which seemingly small and unimportant, confer, by being constantly and scrupulously attended to, such an attractive charm on everything connected with home and the fireside. Her own genius soon breaks forth in creating, ever and anon, new plans and devices in beautifying the home of her youth. Her fancy, order and constructiveness are con- YOUNG LADY. 97 stantly at work to adorn the rooms and apartments with mementos of her genial presence. She loves the home which she has thus embellished, and thereby made her own. To her it becomes the temple within which is contained all she cherishes and all she as yet desires to love. If thus far her soul has not been poisoned by the vile fancies of bad literature, she will enjoy this happiest part of her existence, in the most perfect fulness of bliss and peace. The undefiled soul of a young maiden, presents the most lovely picture of purity and intelligence, which it is possible, in human form, to behold, provided her physical development has not been stinted by gross inter- ference or serious accident. The period of maidenhood is a time of physical development, and requires, therefore, a continua- tion of gymnastic exercises, which have a tendency to invigorate and confirm that constitution and health, thus far acquired by the bodily exertions during childhood. It will be an easy and grateful task, amounting even to a luxury and necessity, for the young girl to prosecute her exercises in the gymnasium, if her body was previously trained for them during childhood. To the readiness of execution acquired by long practice, she now adds gracefulness, elasticity and precision, which con- stitute the very poetry of motion. A firm, elastic step and buoyant carriage, can 98 MAIDEN. only be acquired by those whose muscles are trained and strengthened for every movement of the body. It belongs essentially to youth, and constitutes one of its most attractive charms; it is the surest evidence of health, both of body and mind, rendering its possessor most agrecable to others, and adding not a little to individual happi- ness and contentment. For the days will surely come, when we have to depend upon a sound physical constitution, in order to sustain ourselves under the weight of bodily labor and mental agita- tion. This is the reason that nature consumes so long a time in preparing, gradually, the physical system through childhood and maidenhood, until the perfect woman is formed, in all respects able to meet the arduous duties of a wife and a mother, in the full strength and maturity of body and mind. Nothing is so fallacious and disastrous for a young lady, as the thought, that in married life, she would have no hardships to encounter and no sor- rows to bear, but live in ease, harmony and quiet. If her imagination has been busy to paint the mar- ried state only as a paradise of pleasure, she will probably be desirous to hasten into it as fast as opportunities may offer; and these, in our country, are not very rare. Girls, at the present day, marry too soon and too rashly. In doing so, they not only loose the longer enjoyment of free, happy girlhood, which itself constitutes the most pleasant and Pa YOUNG LADY. 99 joyful period of female life, but they run the fearful risk of making themselves unhappy and invalids for life, by rushing into duties and responsibilities for which they are unprepared, physically and mentally. It is our firm conviction that the female con- stitution, generally speaking, is only sufficiently consolidated and established at twenty-one years of age; marriage before that time must, more or less, operate injuriously to health and comfort. But very few exceptions to this rule may be found where girls of eighteen years have acquired the physical perfection of those of twenty-one. To prevent precocious development in this respect, mothers should guide their daughters in the selection of their social companions, with all due respect to particular predilections or favored persons. If it should be found necessary to inter- fere, it should be done mildly and persuasively, because a mother will gain more by instruction and reasoning, than by a harsh and seemingly tyrannical course. The female mind of this country has preserved one of the finest traits which can adorn any human character, that of great indepen- dence in will and action. It is, one might say, born with them, strengthened by education, and favored by circumstances and public opinion. Against such a powerful combination of forces, the will of an imprudently harsh mother, rarely by plagada valuta 100 MAIDEN. avails anything; even the wrath of a father but adds fuel to the flame. Youthful impulses, strengthened by the love of independence, soon overthrow all parental barriers, and the elopement is no sooner determined upon than it is also carried out. But if the young girl should receive from her parents or guardians, instead of a lecture on filial duties alone, lessons in regard to her physical position, giving her a true account of the bodily development during girlhood, the inexorable laws of nature, which cannot be disregarded by any one without the most serious and even fatal conse- quences, we have no doubt fewer elopements or premature marriages would take place, and a great deal of misery would be prevented. The following remarks of the New York Tribune are here in point: • "The popular notions on runaway matches, fomented by the 'yellow covered' literature of the day, are exceedingly lax and mistaken. The young Miss who elopes from the parental roof to marry some adventurer who was probably un- known to her last year, is often represented as a girl of rare spirit, who does a remarkably clever and admirable thing. We hold, on the contrary, that in a great majority of cases, her elopement is unwise, giddy, ungrateful, immodest, and evinces a lascivious appetite and reckless disposition. Why should she desert and distress those who YOUNG LADY. 101 have loved, nurtured and cherished her through all her past years, to throw herself into the arms of a comparative stranger, who has done nothing for her, and whose protestations of affection have yet to undergo the first trial? It is every way unworthy of pure and gentle maidenhood to do so. "We can imagine but one excuse for her elope- ment-namely, the efforts of parents or guardians to coerce her into marrying some one she does not love. To avoid such a fate, she is justified in running away; for no parent has or ever had a right to constrain a daughter to marry against her will. But where the parents are willing to wait, the daughter should also consent to wait until her choice is assented to or she attains her legal ma- jority. Then, if she chooses to marry in opposition to her parents' wishes, let her quit their home openly, frankly, in broad daylight, and in such a manner as shall kindly but utterly preclude any pretence that her act is clandestine or ill-consid- ered. No one should be persuaded or coerced to marry where she does not love; but to wait a year or two for the assent of those who have all her life done what they could for her welfare, no daughter should esteem a hardship. There is some truth to be told about the 'common run' of masculine prowlers by night about garden- walls and under bed-room windows, in quest of opportunities to pour seducing flatteries into the ANGAN A Vales, mobile game g hadde p 102 Post a - MAIDEN. ears of simple misses; but we have no time to tell it now. As a general rule, they are licentious, good-for-nothing adventurers, who would much rather narry a living than work for it, and who speculate on the chances of 'bringing the old folks round' after a year or two. A true man would not advise, much less urge, the woman he loved to take a step which must inevitably lessen the respect felt for her, and violate the trust reposed in her by those who had loved and cherished her all her days. "The marriage of girls of fourteen to seventeen years is a very prevalent cause of personal and transmitted evil and suffering. Prematurely taxed with the care and nourishment of children, their constitutions give way, and at thirty, they are already on the downhill of life. Eighteen is the youngest age at which any one should marry; twenty to twenty-three is much better.” But as it is, modern education, badly conceived and foolishly patronized, has but one aim, that of hastening as fast as possible, the bridal day. Mothers seem to rival each other in the hot haste with which they seek to secure suitable matches for their daughters. In this respect, their ardor is less excusable than the noble but mistaken instinct of a young girl, which leads her to an elopement, and certainly more injurious, because more universal. A girl is hardly fit to receive attention in view YOUNG LADY. 103 of a future marriage relation, before her eighteenth year, at which time her understanding and dis- crimination are fully awake, to guide the affections in a proper selection. She is then able to appreciate, understandingly, the character of those who approach her, and to love and esteem the true and manly one, who, by degrees, shall win her heart and hand. In an important transaction like this, it is well not to be too much in haste. Persons who con- template becoming partners for life, ought to understand each other's characters perfectly, before they solemnly consummate their union. For this purpose, the time from eighteen to twenty-one can be employed most advantageously. During this period, the affections of the young lady having been bestowed in love and devotion, should become settled and confirmed in understanding and esteem. It is a misfortune of our times, that young ladies are allowed, and even hastened on, to finish their education, as the phrase goes. Its effect on the young mind is decidedly bad, as it produces the impression of having learned all that is needed, while in truth, we never finish our education; no one does, not even the most learned and accom- plished. How, then, can we imagine, that a girl of sixteen or seventeen can have completed her education? Does she not need more knowledge 104 MAIDEN. than she has received during a few years in a boarding-school? Certainly; if she only would apply herself to acquire it. But she has finished her education, and under this mistaken belief, many a young lady is thrown into the giddy whirlpool of modern society, into the lively, gay, yet oftentimes very monotonous circles of fashionable life. Here, indeed, more than in the quiet of home, will she be able to forget that she still has something to learn. So little of the truly needful and great in man does the present state of fashionable society require, that if the outward finish is only given, it pronounces education to be finished. But we trust that sensible mothers and sensible girls will think differently from the leaders of fashion and its circles. They may participate in their gatherings, without becoming fascinated by their vain and transient pleasures, to such an extent as to draw them away from life's higher duties and more enduring joys. Hear a writer on education: "When a young lady is seventeen years of age, if she enjoys good health, she is beginning to have that vigor of mind which enables her to make intellectual acquisitions. Two or three years, then devoted energetically to study, will store her mind with treasures more valuable to her than gold. She will be thus able to command YOUNG LADY. 105 Her a husband's respect and retain his love. children will feel that they have indeed a mother. Her home will be one worthy the name, where a mother's accomplished mind and a glowing heart will diffuse their heavenly influence. An angel might covet the mission which is assigned to a mother. Your child, who thinks of finishing her education at sixteen, may soon have entrusted to her keeping a son, in whose soul may glow the energies of Milton, or of Newton, or of Wash- ington. God did not make her to play a waltz or dance a polka. She is created a little lower than the angels. When the waning stars expire, she is still to go careering on in immortality, till she reaches that happiness-in the presence of God. Appreciate the exaltation of her nature, her duties, and her destiny." Education still remains the principal business of the young lady during the hours which she can spare from the performance of those duties she owes to her God, her parents, and society. How well she can employ these precious hours, as yet free of care and trouble; no tedium need over- come, no wish for excitement render her unhappy. Hundreds of legitimate branches of knowledge and accomplishments invite her attention, if she only is willing to follow the noble impulse of acquiring them, rather than of idling away the precious time of youth, or of spending it in 106 MAIDEN. vanities and gossiping. This is the period of life, emphatically her own, when more than at any other, she can dispose of herself, her time and occupations. This time she should, by all means, endeavor to improve; it is too valuable to be lost, for once squandered it never can be regained. How often have we heard the remark: If I only had paid attention to this or that in my youth, I would now know what to do; it is too late to learn it, etc. These confessions are humbling, but they are not the worst. Idleness in youth brings shame upon more mature years, and ought to be regarded as a foolish, unsafe companion. But more than that, it is also criminal in view of our destiny as men, and our duty to provide in time for reverses which may come hereafter. The poor have to be diligent: they have to acquire knowledge, in order to gain a subsistence; and the rich ought to do the same, in order to be useful to others, or to be able, if need should demand it, of supporting themselves by their own exertions. We remind the reader of the many instructive lessons which have been practically taught, by those who experienced in exile, the horrible reverses of fortune during the French revolution. Necessity then compelled many a delicate hand to work for a livelihood, either for herself or to sustain those she loved. Reverses of fortune, mda P — M YOUNG LADY. 107 sta digital minde however, may occur at any time, and it becomes even the richest to provide for them. No pro- vision excels the one which we may prepare within ourselves, by enlarging the sphere of our capabilities. Young ladies may employ their time variously. Music, the arts and sciences, offer wide fields for pleasure and employment. Whatever is in this respect most agreeable to her, she has a right to choose. Besides the instructions in the household duties, which claim her paramount attention, she will find sufficient time to direct her mind to the higher spheres of knowledge and refinement. Let her bear in mind, however, that whatever she prefers in this line, she must have firmness enough to continue to cultivate with assiduity. One might prefer the study of mathematics, another one that of drawing, painting, botany, astronomy or the classics. If she undertakes to cultivate any art or science, let her do so with heart and head in order to become perfect in it. In such a case only, it will be a source of great pleasure and recreation to her, refining the sentiments, enriching the under- standing, and strengthening the will. Such is the education which we have to pursue constantly, and which never will end, not even with our lives. A young lady, therefore, has not finished her education when she leaves boarding-school, but DĚ V 108 MAIDEN. SERVEISIS P via and harm has just commenced it, and should continue it in such a manner that she may become perfect in some accomplishment, art or science, which would render her independent of the assistance of others, if adverse circumstances, or freaks of fortune, should overwhelm her and those near her. For- tune is the most fickle of dames. Many of our readers may consider these allusions to mere external wealth and its uncer- tainty, as not belonging to the department of ladies, who in their sphere of life, have only the spending and not the making of money. It is true, woman in the beginning of society did not receive that special mission, to "earn thy bread by the sweat of thy brow," and during all subse- quent ages, she has, as a general rule, been relieved from those particular cares assigned to man, as the provider of the family. But if this is and will remain true in regard to her destiny, the other sentence is not less so, that she shall be an help-meet to man, not merely to spend the means he has provided, but also to husband them wisely, and if possible and necessary, to enlarge them. It must be acknowledged that neither the education of our girls, nor the general tenor of the state of society, fit them for the fulfillment of such a task. Neither can we hope that they will do so, while their parents indulge the morbid desires of emu- lating each other in making an external show of MERALARA PICA - YOUNG LADY. 109 themselves, their houses, horses, carriages, furni- ture, etc., oftentimes to such an extent, that the complete ruin of a household and business reputation is the consequence. Those, whose yearly income would hardly, upon sober second thought, justify such aimless expenditures, never- theless rush blindly ahead, under the mistaken idea of thus upholding their respectability in the eyes of those who happen to be Astors or Girards. Luxury and unnecessary expenses, to an incredible amount, have thus been augmented throughout the country, until they have become almost a part of its social existence. From the non-producing class of society, those who by inheritance, or other favorable circum- stance, became possessed of immense wealth, this love of external show in dress, houses, parties, etc., has descended to the producers, those who yet have to live by the sweat of their brow. It cannot be denied that the latter, in trying to imitate the former in luxurious appearances, have caused this lamentable state of things, this degrading and ruinous ambition of appearing wealthy. It is ruinous, because the experience of every day confirms it to be so; thousands of families every year sink down from a comfortable state of opulence, to penury and want, with mortifying remembrances of the past, and blasted hopes of the future. It is degrading, because it F 110 MAIDEN. makes mere outward show, dry-goods and horses, a test of respectability, things and animals, the possession of which, should not, in the estimation of sensible people, add the least mite to one's station. We here involuntarily remember the caustic anecdote of Franklin, related by him to the Legislature of Pennsylvania, that in case the right of voting should depend on the possession of property to the amount of twenty dollars, the death of an ass might deprive a freeman of that right. The illustration was to the point, and brought at once conviction to minds that shortly before were ready to vote themselves into the ridiculous position of granting to the ass the right of suffrage. Substitute, in his place, dry-goods, horses, carriages, and other such necessary articles of high life, wherewith some people fancy they become respectable, and they stand in the same ridiculous attitude; as soon as the horses are gone, their respectability departs with them. Would they might listen to Franklin's story, and follow its moral, as the Pennsylvania Legislature did. But poverty and mental degradation are not the only injuries which result from expenditures inadequate to the income. The example thus held out by the inconsiderate parents to their children, leads them into every extravagance imaginable, and in the case of daughters, into a love of external a mbet YOUNG LADY. 111 finery and its concomitants, poisoning their very souls with falsities and dissipations of all kinds. A young lady, once infected with this show- mania, will scarcely be able to fix her attention upon matters relating to the improvement of her mind. She has no relish for serious study, or the acquisition of those accomplishments which, if possessed in a certain degree of perfection, make her indeed respectable in the eyes of sensible people. She wastes the precious time of her youth in the most trifling and childish manner, preparing for the glitter of the ball-room, and listening to the shallow gossiping of parties. In arranging her dress and outward appearance, she is not led to follow the dictates of her own sense of the beautiful, in doing which some good might result even from the folly of extravagance; no, she is continually dictated to by the representative of fashion, the milliner, or the Journal des Modes, which, like an inexorable tyrant, holds the whole female world in utter subjection. She has only to follow the stern mandates from Paris, and to please the Goddess of Fashion, has to make an exhibition of herself in the ball-room, theatre, at an evening, rather night party, or even in the street, where she often appears during the fore- noon, in full dress, going from store to store, ostensibly on business, but really only to show herself in full, fashionable costume, to the passing F2 112 MAIDEN. crowds of a busy city, composed of all kinds of people, to whom, of course, her glittering appear- ance is a point of attraction. To be noticed by the crowd is the height of her ambition; the dignity of her female nature does not rise, to inquire into the real worth of this triumph of dry- goods, fastened to her body. If it did, she would at once observe that she had paraded her finery mostly before a mixture of people, from the colored laborer in the street, to the stately senator on the side-walk. No one was prevented from feasting his eyes on the gaudy colors of her dress, and admiring the milky whiteness of her satin slippers, to say nothing about the costly display of sparkling jewelry. In thus trifling away her best days, the young lady, brought up to such a life of frivolity and dissipation, cannot fulfill one of the most universal and beautiful laws by which the Creator has blessed the world, that of the bestowing of gifts for useful purposes. No object or animated being is without its use in the world, certainly the glory of the creation, man, cannot form an exception. Animals follow their appetites and instincts, and their use is regulated by the necessities of nature. Man, on the contrary, fulfills his destiny by the dictates of reason, and the uses for which this power was given, are matters of his own choice, his own YOUNG LADY. 113 free will. This is a God-like position, and`the consciousness of its relation is of such vast importance to each individual, that we cannot refrain from drawing the attention of the reader to its particular application in the case of young ladies. What satisfaction can a rational being have in living without some laudable object worthy of pursuit, and the high destiny for which we were created? We certainly must concede that pleasure in the form of gratifying the senses, by whatever means it may be, should not be the highest object of a rational being, either in youth or maturity. On the contrary, experience in a thousand cases, has taught us that a constant devotion to the search for mere pleasure, leads us away from the paths of duty and happiness, into the dark regions of despair and remorse. It is true, we are all weak by nature, and prone to yield easily to the inviting voice of pleasure and dissipation. But if persons of a more advanced age and experience are not firm against the temptations of idle and mere pleasura- ble moments, how much more exposed to their follies and snares are those young in years and full of imagination and excitability. Let a young lady commence her career in the right, truly humanitary direction; show her the F3 114 MAIDEN. purposes of life, the objects of her high destiny, and she will in all probability, continue in this path of usefulness and happiness. If this is not done, but in its stead, the young girl is encouraged by example and advice to commence her life in folly and fashionable dissipation, she will end it in misery and suffering. Hear Eliz. Blackwell, M. D., on this subject; she is an excellent ob- server, particularly in things referring to her own sex; her language is pertinent. In her admirable little book, "Laws of Life,"* she gives a faithful picture of the manner in which young ladies now- a-days, frequently waste their time, preparing the ruin of their future happiness. She says: "The life of the young lady on leaving school, is little calculated to restore lost power, or to excite to a truer and healthier action by the presentation of noble objects of interest. What is there, in fact, presented to her worthy of pursuit? School discipline has not prepared her for serious study; indeed, study without an object, is of little worth, and she has no object in view for which grave preparation is necessary. The attention to domes- tic arrangements does not particularly interest her; indeed, by the age of sixteen or seventeen, she has learned all of household economy that she will There learn at all, till called upon to practise it. - *We recommend this excellent work to our readers, entreating them to give it a most earnest perusal. YOUNG LADY. 115 are no schemes of organized benevolence to attract youthful activity and kind-heartedness, and teach to the young mind a deeper and darker lesson of life than it has yet learned; it is very seldom that the young can profitably engage in these enter- prises. With the large mass of girls, gossip and frivolous amusements become, now, the chief business of the day; they have had no serious preparation for life, they know nothing of its realities, its wants, its duties—so the valuable moments are laughed and chatted away; every incident furnishes a theme for idle talk-church- society-promenades through the streets-all be- come subjects of gossip; novels are devoured to satisfy the new thoughts and desires that are springing up-parties, amusements of all kinds are eagerly sought for the dictates of prudence, the requirements of bodily health, are alike disre garded; till at length, the giddy career is cut short by marriage!" The above statement is not exaggerated, as every one will acknowledge, who has observed the occupations and doings of many young girls in our present day. One of the results of such a task- less career is, as rightly stated by Miss Blackwell, the early, premature marriage, hastily entered into without the knowledge of its duties and respon- sibilities. Parents are perhaps seldom aware, that they have aided in producing this unfortunate result F4 116 MAIDEN. by giving their daughter such ample opportunities to idleness and extravagance. The former leads her to seek excitement in novels, and in a society not much better than these useless and often bad books; the latter destroys all the relish for the cultivation of the serious objects of life and ren- ders her a mere plaything for milliners, besides that it makes her indeed a dear child of her parents, who frequently wish her to be married that they may be rid of the expense. Thus this early extravagance in dress and fashion often is the means of loosening the chords of affection between parent and child, becoming, thereby, the most awful enemy modern society has allowed to creep into its very life. Notions of extravagance have been steadily on the increase ever since this country departed from the patriotic ways of its early fathers. In those times, true-hearted affection dwelt around the family hearth, and a father or a mother saw with tearful eyes and sorrowful hearts, the beloved daughter depart from the home of her childhood. • She had been a daughter to them in the full sense of the word, never an expense or a trouble, and they felt in that moment her loss. But now-a-days, the case is different; many a father feels relieved when the daughter's extrava- gances have to be paid by another one's purse, and in view of this, his paternal affection, which YOUNG LADY. 117 may be otherwise ever so keenly alive, becomes silent and stupified by the unnatural propensity of luxury and pleasure. Thus, one evil creates the other; undue extravagance leads not merely to financial ruin, but often, also, to bankruptcy of soul and heart, the greatest calamity of the two, because the most irreparable. Nothing is so blighting in its effects upon individual and social happiness, as a morbid craving after the useless and giddy pleasures of so-called fashionable and high life. While a moderate participation in its pleasures is not objectionable, nay, becomes, sometimes, a recrea- tion or amounts to a duty, as the case may be, an all-absorbing desire for them, annihilates the great purpose of human existence, and withers, particu- larly in young ladies, the flower of life before it can spread itself out in full bloom, to shed abroad the rich perfume of loveliness and usefulness. To attain the latter end, that is, to prepare the young lady for her true destiny and duty, no efforts should be spared by parents or teachers. Her physical constitution should be strength- ened by sufficient and regular exercise, in-doors, by attending to the various duties of a house-hold and out-doors, by walking, riding on horseback, or other means. Her moral and intellectual faculties should be cultivated by an earnest attention to, and study of, F 5 118 MAIDEN. the various branches of art, science and religion. To interest her in the pursuit of such various knowledge, she should be allowed to bring each of them, when sufficiently acquired, into practical execution, as this, more than anything else, stimu- lates the female mind to their prosecution. The female mind loves less than the male, the abstruse and merely theoretical; whatever promises to be practical, engages her attention. She will, there- fore, naturally shrink from the higher branches of mathematics, as too difficult or rare in application. The same may be said of the dead languages, while the study of the living ones will be attrac- tive to her, because she can make use of them at once as an accomplishment or in necessity. The acquisition of languages is particularly useful and appropriate for the female aiming at a higher and more refined culture of her mind. Ralph Waldo Emerson very justly and perti- nently remarks, that the acquisition of any new language doubles our existence, by opening to our perception and feeling a new world of ideas and expressions. To acquire three or four modern languages, may not be asking too much of a young lady who has time and inclination for the task. Her reward, after having accomplished it, will be immense. French, German, Spanish and Italian, are those of the modern languages which chiefly recom- YOUNG LADY. 119 mend themselves to her attention, from the fact that they are the most polished, and their practical application is the most ready and easy. Of the natural sciences, botany seems to be the favorite of the female sex; no other science has such attractions, innate charms and facility for constant application. The knowledge and care of flowers and herbs, are naturally interesting and dear to every female, how much more if science gives precision and ease. Of the arts, music and painting take the pre- cedence; both are accomplishments of a high order and decidedly practical tendency. A know- ledge of both is, therefore, desirable for a well educated young lady; they will add greatly to the fulfillment of many of the duties and purposes of her life, and repay an hundred-fold the time and exertions spent in their acquisition. Besides the visiting of the sick and poor, a pious young lady will feel it her duty and pleasure to extend her benevolent designs beyond the limits of her personal presence. She will take an interest in the different great missionary efforts, which characterize so magnificently our present age; it is woman's influence which mainly supports them, and as she soon may be a wife and mother, she ought to feel the necessity to prepare herself early for such high duties and responsibilities. & F 6 CHAPTER. IV. > MAIDEN LADY. The laws of nature, few as they are, form, nevertheless, a comprehensive and powerful con- servative check upon the unnumbered multitudes of her creations, keeping them in almost constant subjection to her dictates, and thereby preventing many of the so-called freaks of nature. The law of development regulates each one's life from the cradle to the grave, and, willing or unwilling, each one has to pass through the different stages of life, subject in each, to various physical and mental changes, until mortality itself is stripped off. The female infant will, in time, become a girl and young lady, whose physical nature is slowly but surely preparing to fulfill its part of the duties of a wife and mother. Thus a universal law of development hastens the female to a completion of her earthly destiny, and no contrivance on our part can change or delay the dictates of this imperious will. We are constantly in the power of this rapid stream of life, which bears us irre- sistibly to the close of our earthly existence. What MAIDEN LADY. 121 we read in the ripple of its gently moved surface, or the surging of its threatening waves, are the duties of action, imposed upon us by each moment's advance, and the lessons imparted to us by close observation, reflecting beneficently upon our pro- gress. Unable to stay the action of time on our bodies, which stealthily but surely follow nature's laws, we must content ourselves in each period of our existence, to have fulfilled its duties and learned its lessons. Each maiden, therefore, should, in due course of time, become a wife and mother, this being the natural destiny of her existence. Her system, having developed all the functions necessary for that purpose, would find its surest integrity in carrying out the dictates of nature. In such a case, the harmony of the individual action, thus conforming to the natural law, would prevent the detrimental jarring otherwise inevitable and always pernicious to the welfare of the individual, physi- cally and mentally. As a general rule, we may say that no female, having arrived at woman's maturity, should exclude herself from the duties of the married state, as well upon her own account as that of others. - But there exist exceptions to the most per- emptory laws, those of nature not excepted; consequently we must look for them also in the present case. Young ladies, sometimes by predi- 122 MAIDEN LADY. lection or force of circumstances, remain unmarried, preferring not to follow the laws of nature in this particular, at the risk of the penalties which their own chosen course might thus draw upon them. Generally a greater degree of health attends wives and mothers than those who remain unmarried; statistics also show conclusively, that they attain a more advanced age, less burdened with sickness in body and mind. These individual blessings nature seems to have intended as a compensation to those who, divesting themselves of all selfish motives, enter into matrimony, aiding, thereby, to sustain state and society. This kind providential arrangement has been sufficiently powerful to produce the most desira- ble results, and the cases where females have voluntarily refused to marry, are quite rare, and then owing, perhaps, more to fanatical prejudices than real aversion. Persons eschewing matrimony on religious ground, will, of course, be the last to take medical advice on their intended step, and our reasoning with them as to its blessedness and legitimacy, would be all in vain. There are others, however, who, from different motives, choose to remain unmarried; to these we would address a few words of advice. If a young lady of the proper age is healthy in body and mind, she ought to marry as soon as she has found the partner whom her heart prefers and MAIDEN LADY. 123 her judgment approves. No trifling cause should be allowed to divert her from the path of duty and happiness which nature intended her to follow and enjoy. No petty selfishness, no fear of hardships or troubles should influence or agitate her mind to such an extent as to suppress the kindlier feelings of her heart, at a time of life when it is naturally the most capable of exciting and reciprocating love and devotion. If this spring time of life passes by without forming an attachment from pure motives, the opportunity to do so hereafter diminishes in the same proportion as youth and the warmth of a young heart disappear. The heart does not calculate, but loves or hates; it has the most prominent voice in all those transactions of life where we have to choose or reject. The reasoning faculties only assist, not to make a choice, but to make a rational one. A young lady, if once her heart has chosen, should not, for trifling reasons, depose this heart, the queen of her existence, from the high position it is her natural prerogative to occupy. The weal or woe of a whole life de- pends upon this one decisive step; she can kindle and increase the spark of genuine love by disin- terested and generous emotions, as well as by the opposite she can destroy it never to re-appear. There are instances, however, where certain physical or mental conditions compel a young lady 124 MAIDEN LADY. to refrain from marriage, although possessing a heart capable of appreciating and reciprocating the love of another. These ladies always are objects of the highest interest and the most sacred, re- spectful feeling for the lover of mankind. Entitled by nature, to the high privilege of bearing the Vestal flame, they are separated from the influence of mere earthly ties, and being clothed in the gar- ments of purer loves, their presence sheds around them the glories and veneration of higher spheres. A heart thus sacrificed on the altar of nature, will not grow cold and feelingless. Although prevented from concentrating its rays of love on one single object, the sparks of genuine affection, once ignited in the generous bosom, rent in twain by disease or otherwise, will seek and find objects worthy of its love and devotion; an hundred virtues will adorn its holy, although seemingly soli- tary shrine; family and society will know them and bless, a thousand times, the heart which thus had suffered and thus had loved. Yes, such maiden ladies are a blessing to the family and the social circle. They are generally found the most active and circumspect when sickness or distress invades the family or neighborhood. They minister most faithfully to the sick and render assistance fre- quently, under circumstances where other help neither could be had, nor would be equally as MAIDEN LADY. 125 valuable. The good which thus they do often escapes the observation of those who reaped its immediate benefit; yet the Father of all good is also the Seer of all good, and fills their loving hearts with joy unspeakable. How often have we had occasion, during the performance of our professional duties, to see these angels of mercy, their hearts full of disinterested love, glide noise- lessly from sick bed to sick bed, dispensing their kind attentions and good offices patiently and enduringly. Their presence would inspire the weary with fresh courage, and the suffering with new hope. Nothing escaped their attention, to render the chamber of agony and death as com- fortable as circumstances would permit. Monuments have been raised to the wholesale destroyers of human life, and at their feet nations. have wept, bled and worshipped; but no one ever has found worthy of his praise or public esteem, the names or characters of the heroic women who, in the quiet walks of life, have risked their lives and fortunes an hundred times, without expecting reward or distinction. We will not comment on such glaring ingratitude, the weakest point of modern civilization. Do not let us boast of having attained, even a tolerable degree of civilization, before justice is done to the heroism of the heart. Let us honor the devotion of love and virtue, let us express gratitude and thankfulness to those 126 MAIDEN LADY. who, by their sentiments and deeds, have redeemed and proclaimed the divine origin and sublime aspirations of mankind. ! Considering the physical health of maiden ladies, it cannot be denied that their persistence in an unmarried state, becomes a source of many complaints and diseases, which, when married, might not befall them. Yet there exists one remedy which will counteract almost entirely the bad effects of impeded development, if it be only energetically and perseveringly employed. We allude to a sufficiency of physical activity, exer- cise, particularly in the open air, and the frequent use of cold water externally. These hygienic means, in connection with a systematic performance of duties in and out of doors, will protect a maiden lady from those ills which an undeveloped system otherwise might engender, particularly if the body is too much at rest, and the mind irregularly and not fully occupied. To accomplish these necessary objects, society offers a large field of action. The family of which the maiden lady is a member, needs her assistance in the daily rounds of house duties; the mother and children lean upon her on every extra occasion, either in health or discase. In the parlor, kitchen and nursery, she soon becomes the sine qua non, who, if not MAIDEN LADY. 127 present, is missed from either more than any other member of the family. Thore is no employment which can occupy more advantageously the attention of any female, than that which belongs to the ful- fillment of household duties; and if the maiden lady's lot is cast within the rangé of a large family circle, she may indeed consider it a privi- lege to assist in supplying its various demands. It keeps the powers of mind and body active and clastic, preventing lassitude and depression of spirits. The various nervous disorders so frequently met with in single ladies of middle age, who have generally led an inactive, sedentary life, will not appear in one who has fulfilled almost the same duties and assumed like cares with the mother of a family. Besides, the family and society at large, can furnish her with a multitude of objects worthy her care and attention. The church of which she is a member, offers several societies, religious and benevolent, which need her especial patronage and supervision. The different sewing circles for benevolent purposes, look to her for particular aid, and she ought to render to them as much assistance as possible. Schools of reform, which make their appearance now almost in every city, are objects worthy of her deepest interest; in the same rank stand the 128 MAIDEN LADY. Sabbath Schools, in which she ought to take a practical interest. If a maiden lady has taste or inclines to culti- vate the fine arts, she has objects enough to fill up her hours of recreation and amusement. Music and painting offer boundless fields of individual im- provement and enjoyment, particularly suitable for the female mind. That which renders the arts. and sciences such desirable companions of our leisure hours, lies not merely in their capability of refining our tastes and habits, but particularly in the unbounded resources they offer to the mind for that purpose. They must, however, not be made the sole objects of our activity, except by those who practice them professionally, else they consume all the personal attention, which fatigues and exhausts, without allowing us the inspiring and invigorating influence of their practical appli- cation as is the case with the professional artist. The latter, if deprived of the occasional stimulus of public praise or financial gain, would soon have his powers relaxed to such an extent, that he would be obliged to relinquish altogether, the prosecution of his studies. What we have pre- sented here in the case of an artist, is a general law of nature, which operates in the same manner in any one's occupation. Our principal pursuit, or that which we make our business, needs, inva- riably, a stimulus of some sort, to neutralize the MAIDEN LADY. 129 exhausting effect its continued prosecution would have on our body or mind. The truth of this remark any one can verify by observing, closely, the different professions which compose society. We need, however, besides our professional business, occupations which, by way of variety, become our pets, to occupy hours of leisure and recreation; these must remain what they are in- tended for, amusements and pleasantries, and as such, dare not be prosecuted with exhausting application. Another great field of activity and profitable occupation for a maiden lady, consists in exploring the now almost boundless wealth of modern literature. After she has made the acquaintance of the various standard authors in her own lan- guage, she should find time to learn other languages, the acquisition of which, constitutes in itself, an employment of uncommon interest and benefit. Thus pursuing diligently the road upon which she has entered, that soon becomes a pleasure, which, in the beginning, seemed to be a hardship. The fibres of the mind gather strength from use in study and thought, as the muscles of the body from exercise. But as the latter is never more beneficial than when practised in the open air, so the former ought never to be prosecuted, save when having constantly all the doors and windows of the mind itself open to the free Ch 130 MAIDEN LADY. circulation of the literary air, which surrounds us. We need not retain any or favor all. This is the most glorious privilege of our free born nature, on the basis of which the most philosophic of all apostles, Paul, gave that splendid advice: "Prove all things, and hold fast that which is good." To keep the mind open and free for instruction, gives us the greatest facilities of applying the above rule, and also the opportunity of exercising the high functions of the mind, by rendering our judgment for or against. There is no better way of preventing bigotry and fanaticism, that mildew of the human heart, from taking possession of us, than by following the advice of the wise apostle, and thus making it possible to be both active and useful. No position in life seems to promise a greater share of both activity and usefulness, than that of unmarried ladies, if they understand their mission in the family and in society; in both of which they form links as agreeable as indispensable. With a little care they will be able to preserve their physical health, at least from such ills as might result from the single life they have chosen. If such is the case, the lot of no human being is cast more favorably, and the future of no one shrouded in less darkness, because her responsi- bilities and duties, as they appear and are discharged from day to day, do not accumulate to MAIDEN LADY. 131 require an account of her at any distant time. How different this in the case of a wife or mother, whose sphere of love and action, created within her own family circle, becomes so often the theatre of circumstances, which render it an intensely painful and not a pleasant arena. Although a mother often might enjoy pleasures more intensely felt, and perform severer duties more easily than any other one, yet none will deny, that just as often her heart will be lacerated with untold agony on account of those whom she loved so well. Holier than a mother's love, and more remote from selfish interest, is the life of a maiden lady, if spent in sincerity of motive and constancy of dutiful action. Of Christian virtues, none need be a stranger, but all may be gathered and trea- sured up within its range, and thus fulfill the demands made on every human being by the Holy One Himself. CHAPTER V. MARRIED LADY. In contemplating the true position and destiny of a Christian wife and mother, her innumerable duties and responsibilities in the intricacies of social and domestic circles, of which she is the principal mover and ornament, we feel indeed, as if such a wide field of action and relation was too extensive to be discussed fully within the narrow limits of one chapter. Its importance and general interest would require a volume, in order to bring out all the detail belonging to this weighty subject. This has been done in a masterly style by Mr. Martin, in a work* entitled: "The Education of Mothers, or the Civilization of the World by Woman," in which the author conclu- sively shows, that this most desirable object can only be realized by the efforts of mothers, if themselves first rightly and humanistically in- structed, that they may fully comprehend their *This work was issued from the press of Messrs. Lea & Blan- chard, of Philadelphia, several years ago, and merits to be in the possession of every mother, who considers herself to be a co- worker in the great achievement, to civilize the world, which can only be accomplished by female influence. MARRIED LADY. 133 a duty, and be well prepared to overcome success- fully the difficulties opposed to the realization of this grand undertaking. Our purpose at present, consists in drawing the attention of wives and mothers to the importance of their own position, and in pointing out those physical and moral requisites, without which their high destiny cannot be fulfilled. The wife, in assuming that name full of meaning and power, has given, as the phrase goes, to the husband of her choice, her heart and hand, in fact all that is claimed to be worthy as a posses- sion. At first sight, therefore, she has voluntarily renounced will and power, the two faculties by whose exercise everything around us is governed; apparently nothing is left to her, to influence society or the world at large, and consequently her existence might be considered to be without weight or power in the family or social circle. Yet, this same wife and consequent mother, shall be its redeemer and powerful protector; history and experience teaches that it is so. The question naturally arises then, how can this weak creature, who has divested herself of all rights and self- disposition, become the powerful, all-governing influence in the world? This seeming paradox finds its solution in the fact, that a married woman, although having ceased to dispose of herself only, being, as it Ꮐ 134 MARRIED LADY. ( were, in the power of her husband, nevertheless, disposes not alone of herself, but also of those thus closely related to her. This she effects by enthroning herself in the affections of the husband, absorbing them entirely, and thus becoming, as it were, the soul of the union, while he is its head. It is well known, however, that where the affec- tions are, there our influence preponderates in readiness and weight of action. The intellect, as represented by the head of the family, acts merely as the balance-wheel in nearly all transactions of daily life, and thus far the husband exerts an influence, regulating, as it seems best, the propel- ling force of inclination and will. The latter altogether centres in the wife, and this immense power, the female desire under male direction, can be wielded by her for good or evil. In either case the results are proportionate to the wide sphere of action, which comprises the whole of human society, and the transcendant importance of those interests, depending upon domestic and social relations. It is all-important, therefore, that woman should exert this, her legitimate influence, in a manner to insure the greatest amount of happiness all around, and the possibility to retain the power thus acquired and directed by her. She is the soul and mistress of her husband's affections; her wishes become his own, and if approved by his MARRIED LADY. 135 judgment, are speedily carried into effect. Through him, therefore, her influence has to manifest itself; for and through him she lives; without him she would have lost the centre and strength of her actions. To him she looks in distress and adver- sity for relief; he is her only and constant confidant; no secret of her heart is kept from his knowledge; in joy and sorrow, he is the partaker of the heavings of her swelling or suffering heart. His gain or loss is her own; his plans or opera- tions interest no one so much as the loving partner of his bosom. Thus the constant change of affection is the real talisman of the marriage union; and it is the wife who keeps this precious jewel, whose myste- rious workings unlock a paradise full of love and happiness. Woe to her, however, if she should not possess it; and still worse, if she should lose it, after once having tasted the sweets of its presence! Nothing can compare with the misery into which both parties would then be thrown, because no earthly treasure could buy or supplant the absence of that love which descends from higher spheres only into the human soul. But there is hardly a human being in existence who has not received a spark of this heavenly flame, sufficient to kindle affection in hearts where otherwise it would have slept unlit. The frequent exhibition, therefore, of love betrayed and affec- G 2 136 MARRIED LADY. tion unreciprocated, is not caused by total absence in either of the parties, but by the improper method of showing them. Affection is the daughter of love, whom she never precedes, but always follows. If love departs, or is not to be seen, affection cannot appear; when a wife ceases to love, or neglects to show her love to her husband, no affection will be kindled in the bosom of the latter, no harmonious exchange of thought and feeling can exist. Love manifests itself particularly in a close attachment to its object; a wife must cling to her husband, who is the centre of her life's orbit, like the earth, who rolls her axis in restless joy around the sun, her centre of life; if she would depart only for a short time from her orbit, the rays of the sun would fall cold and cheerless upon her joyless surface; she would not be able to distribute innu- merable blessings, nor even shine herself with light of her own. This comparison has not merely the merit of a close analogy, but contains the expression of a law of nature, which pervades in equal force her moral as well as physical domain. Its further applica- tion, as to marriage relation, we leave to the contemplation of the reader, who will find on closer examination of this subject, the truth of our remarks. Not external beauty or splendid attire, is the MARRIED LADY. 137 sole attraction a married woman should offer to her husband; they are gifts and acquisitions not to be despised by those who possess them, but never important or enduring long enough to be envied by those who chance not to have them. If present, they should form only the casket in which to preserve nobler qualities of the heart, which never lose their charms, or fail to produce affec- tion and devotion in the manly breast. It is needless here to enumerate the many virtues which should adorn the character of a wife; they are abundantly known and understood; besides, we have already grouped them together in the early chapters of this book. We may be allowed, however, to draw the attention of the reader to a few of the most important ones, although sometimes the least observed, on .account of their seeming insignificance. Cleanliness in all that pertains to the wife's domain, is an indispensable companion of her virtues, which are reflected in its spotless surface, as in a mirror of infinite value. To a tidy and well arranged home, the husband hurries his steps with a more than ordinary longing of the heart, and his affection for its beloved mistress is already warmed into life, before he meets her on the threshold of his comfortable dwelling. Here she greets him with the confiding devotion with which she is attached to the heart of her choice. She G3 138 MARRIED LADY. may not be able always to smile, because circum- stances may make it impossible. Nevertheless, in fortune or adversity, she rushes into his pre- sence with an unfeigned expression of relief and security, which shows him at once his duty and pleasure. Because attachment and its expression on the part of the wife, form the great load-stone which moves the affections of the husband, and always draws her the nearest to his heart. While the wife is thus adorning herself with the most magnificent jewels which can enrich any female character, she ought not to be unmindful of the duty and rightful policy of attending carefully to her external appearance before her husband as well as others. Neatness and taste in dress and attire, more than a gaudy or showy appearance, will most favorably engage the attention of the pleased and admiring eye, and the husband, as any other one, has received eyes which would like to behold objects of beauty and symmetry, if presented to his view anywhere; how much more, if in the person of his wife, already beloved and revered, he can behold and admire these pleasing qualities of form and figure. It is true, the pleasure here portrayed, is one in which the senses, from the first at least, are more engaged than the mind. Nevertheless, its re- action upon the inner man is not the less sure and effective; all our likes and dislikes generally MARRIED LADY. 139 originate in the same manner; the various im- pressions of external objects on our senses form the greatest part of our joys or pains. There is hardly an exception to this rule; the wife can the least expect to form one, as regards her husband, because none has a greater right to enjoy and admire the beauty and symmetry of her form or figure. If the husband is pleased and delighted, her purpose in this respect is fully obtained; she needs not cater for the admiration of any other. Neatness of dress, like piety, that incomparable quality of the soul, requires a general, uniform, and constant exhibition, else it cannot sustain itself long, or improve indeed, the tastes of its possessor. If a wife is neat only at certain times, in the presence of her husband, while at others, she appears in a slovenly attire, the contrast thus created is certain to neutralize the benefit of her first effort. The impression on the husband's affections must be decidedly unfavorable. Neat- ness, moreover, is well calculated to preserve the dignity of the female sex, certainly better than seclusion and haughtiness, which, in accomplish- ing this end, destroy other precious qualities of the soul, equally as desirable. A neatly dressed wife will less often forget her lady-like nature, and rarely sink below its stan- dard, while one appearing in a loose and careless garb, will hardly make an attempt to elevate her* G4 140 MARRIED LADY. feelings above the lower promptings of our nature, allowing her soul's attire to assume a character similar to the slovenly appearance of her gar- ments, and thus the intercourse between husband and wife will often become less courteous dignified, a misfortune for both greater than at first sight it would appear. or There lies great danger in these slight beginnings of relaxed attention or interest, both of which are so essential in keeping the matrimonial flame alive. Let a wife once lower herself in the estimation of her husband, as regards neatness of appearance or sweetness of temper, and she has thereby opened a Pandora box, full of misfortune and unhappi- ness. Step by step, but steadily, the social and familiar conduct between the two loses in interest and purity, and gains in lightness and frivolity, until it is depraved to an extent which leaves nothing but moral and physical ruin, where once a bright future opened its inviting portal. It is not our province here, to go into the minutiæ of married life, prescribing certain rules to be observed by the wife or husband, in order to insure the greatest amount of happiness during the matrimonial career. Nothing is farther from our purpose than this; we abhor a censorious, dictatorial spirit, but wish most heartily that every one, capable of forming a judgment, should exercise this high prerogative of human nature, MARRIED LADY. 141 to cultivate all his faculties in such a manner and degree as best befits himself and his own welfare. What we desire to do is, to indicate the leading features of a conduct, which, by their general import, control all the minor ones belonging more strictly to individual character. Variety in unity, is the greatest charm of nature in all her creations, and why should we not allow a variety of conduct between man and wife, if the principal requisites are but observed to keep harmony? Charity covers a multitude of sins, and no one needs the constant exhibition of this exalted attribute of a noble soul more than a wife in the daily intercourse with her husband. No human being is perfect, or will be so this side of the grave; it would be, therefore, unreasonable in a wife to require of her husband perfection. And since he cannot be without some imperfection, it is her natural duty to judge his conduct with that charitable and loving disposition, which allows her to be of real benefit to him, by inducing him to alter it as much as possible. Whoever forgives the most and with the greatest readiness, is said to be the best Christian. This truth ought to find the widest application in married life; no state in which we can exist here on earth, affording a greater opportunity for its exercise; in none can it be brought to such practical perfection. We will now proceed to contemplate the various G5 142 MARRIED LADY. physical changes which take place in married women. They are generally productive of good, tending, if not hastened by too early a marriage, to strengthen and consolidate the constitution, notwithstanding the apparent hardships and suf- ferings which a woman has to undergo during pregnancy or parturition. The immediate effect of marriage on the well and fully developed female organism, consists in the greater vigor and increase of vitality and sensibility in all the organs influenced by the physical and moral changes which have taken place in her condition. She is now married; her highest ambition and most fervid wishes are fulfilled. This state of her mind reflects sensibly on her nervous system and circulation, and increases their action beyond former limits. She is lively, gay and sprightly, and her whole system partakes in this holiday feeling of the senses, developing itself more fully and densely in all parts. The enjoyment of the senses, so cautiously approached, but at the same time so rationally bestowed by matrimony, opens a new portal in the secret chambers of nature for another series of physical developments, different from what had taken place in the organism of the girl, during its preparation for womanhood, but based upon these proceedings, which are now brought to a higher and final perfection. MARRIED LADY. 143 Menstruation, as the paramount feature of girlhood, now loses its exclusive importance, and vanishes for a time entirely from the physical theatre as soon as conception takes place. The reader will recollect that a fully developed girl is only so on account of the complete develop- ment of the ovaries, whose periodical activity shows itself in the formation of an ovule, and its displacement from the ovarium through the Fallo- pian tubes to the uterus, whence it is carried away abortive with the menstrual blood; the latter discharge having been caused by the same pro- ductive stimulus which congested the ovarium. When in matrimony, however, the conditions of nature are fulfilled, this ovule becomes impregnated with the vital force, which enables it to change at once the process of those organs which formed, and now shall develop it, in other words, shall harbor it for a certain time and make it grow. Before we consider any further the uterine life of this new being, let us delineate those signs by which its presence in the womb can be ascertained almost from its earliest existence. There are but very few general symptoms constant enough to be reliable in all cases, which indicate conception and pregnancy in its earliest stage. We will name them here, however, in order to enable the reader to form a judgment of them, if they should occur. She feels a singular G6 144 MARRIED LADY. emotion of painful pleasure, and a shuddering, proceeding from the spine; a pain in the region of the navel, sometimes a sensation of motion in the abdomen, and a tickling in the region of the hips; she feels fatigued and sleepy; this state is followed by a sense of fullness, warmth and heaviness in the abdomen. The first more certain sign of pregnancy, is the suppression of menstruation, which, if not caused by other morbid circumstances, indicates that the internal surface of the uterus, from which the men- strual blood is secreted, is now engaged in other secretions, stimulated into existence by the presence of a fecundated ovum, which has been retained in the uterus, adhering, generally, within its upper portions. Sometimes menstruation may continue for several months; in such cases the menstrual blood is secreted from the lower portions of the uterus, while in its upper, the changes take place necessary for the growth of the foetus. Another well attested sign is sickness at the stomach, with which a great many women are troubled in the beginning of pregnancy; it is uncertain, however, in as far as other congestive states of the uterus, such as suppressions of the menses, etc., may produce it, without having the slightest reference to pregnancy. If the above signs are present in consequence of true pregnancy, other symptoms will soon MARRIED LADY. 145 = develop themselves to verify it. These are en- largement of the breasts, brown circles around the nipples, appearance of milk in the breasts, and finally an enlargement of the hypogastric region. All these signs found together, form a plausible array of symptoms in favor of the exist- ence of pregnancy, yet they are in themselves not sufficient to prove it positively, because they may be produced by other morbid agencies. Women, who have had children, possess signs, which indi- vidually, are mostly sure in indicating pregnancy. For instance, some have always tooth-ache, styes on the eye-lids, or black spots on the face, neck or hands, like freckles; others are taken at once, without a known cause, with salivation, which in some instances proceeds for a long time, unless mitigated by the use of ale, champaign, or Scotch herring; still others have strange desires or long- ings, modifications of the appetite for unusual substances, such as chalk, etc. All these signs, belonging strictly to idiosyncrasies, are, therefore, no absolute signs of pregnancy, but only accidental. The most sure sign of pregnancy which a woman can have, is the quickening, or the motion of the child. It generally takes place at four and a half months from the beginning of gestation, and serves, therefore, as a mark of reckoning, being the middle of the time allowed generally for the duration of pregnancy. In but very few 146 cases, quickening occurs either sooner or later. When this takes place, it may be safely pre- sumed, in connection with the former signs, that a true pregnancy exists, which has, at that time, already run half its course. A fecundated ovule, if it shall grow, must adhere to the sides of the uterus; if it does, we may con- sider conception to have taken place in reality. Then the uterus is stimulated to secrete from its walls on all sides, a membrane, called the decidua, lining the whole internal cavity of the uterus, and forming the medium between foetus and mother, by which the former can come into communication with the blood circulation of the latter. Within this membrane a circulation is established, which unites the child with the mother, through the cord and the after-birth, the former adhering to the child, the latter to the uterus, in which it roots, like a tree in the ground, both containing veins and arteries. for the flux and reflux of the blood. The blood of the child does not go over into the circulation of the mother, to become decarbonized, but is oxygenized by being exposed in the finest ramifica- tions of the placenta to the oxygen carried thither by the arteries of the uterus. Thus the great purpose of oxygenizing the blood is carried on without the necessity of inflating the lungs with atmospheric air, which, of course, would be im- possible in fœtal existence. MARRIED LADY. T 11 MARRIED LADY. 147 The foetus, or young being in the womb, from this time up, grows and develops itself with astonishing rapidity, in the thousands of intricate parts which constitute the human organism. Though bound together by the vital force in one harmonious whole, the various parts of the differ- ent systems develop not all simultaneously, but gradually crystallize, as it were, into one whole body. This formative process consumes more than one-half of the uterine life of the new being. If no disturbing influences interfere, it will develop in a perfect manner; but if morbid causes should operate on the fœtus, its harmonious development may be intercepted, and its growth arrested at any period during gestation, in certain parts of the sys- tem, while others develop themselves naturally. This fact explains the origin of those organic im- perfections and deformities which characterize the so called monsters, whose singular appearance is sometimes attributed by the ignorant to mysterious causes. To this class of arrested foetal develop- ment belong also most of those cases, where children are born with marks on their bodies or limbs, not developed or even entirely wanting. It is not as yet sufficiently settled, whether such a state of things can be produced through the influence of the mother on the child, some physi- ologists denying its possibility, as no nervous connection between the two is as yet found to 148 MARRIED LADY. exist. Whether or not fear, fright, etc., operating violently on the nervous system of the mother, can affect the child, we know at least, that mis- fortunes of this kind are best averted by avoiding those violent nervous emotions. Bodily exercise, or even fatigue, is easier borne by a pregnant woman than mental excitement. While the former increases her physical health, and consequently that of the child, the latter disables the energies of her system, and must injuriously reflect on the child's development. It is the duty of the future mother to live and act during gestation in a manner that her offspring may be benefited thereby. Nothing must be omitted to realize this, the principal object of her life. She must expect, beforehand, to undergo all kinds of hardships and to make severe personal sacrifices; the thought that it is for the benefit of her future offspring, will strengthen her to an indefinite degree of fortitude and courage. She must take daily exercise, sufficient and of an active nature. For instance, riding in a car- riage does not belong to the active exercises ; walking, particularly in the open air, is more active, and therefore better calculated to invigorate the system of a pregnant woman. The best, however, is that exercise which accompanies the daily attendance to the various duties of a house- hold. In these the pregnant woman can find MARRIED LADY. 149 employment sufficient for body and mind up to the very last hour of her confinement, and more. suitable to invigorate her own and the child's health, than in any other. She must not merely direct the affairs of the house; such a course would not accomplish the ends in view. But she must be active and busy herself, if it is only in the lighter kinds of work, such as setting the table, sweeping and dusting the rooms, etc. If she does not feel well at such a time, particularly if she is threatened with abortion, she must not commence, or if she has, must cease at once, to exercise in the above manner. A perfectly healthy woman, however, should not neglect these exer- cises under the mere pretext of being unbecoming or too fatiguing. Next to exercise, the most important consider- ation is dress, which ought to be as loose as possible, in order to allow the most ample liberty for enlargement. Corsets or tight clothes generally, are very injurious, as every one will readily con- cede. It must be understood, however, that she ought to dress sufficiently warm at all times, to feel comfortable. If she has been in the habit to wash. and bathe in cold water, the state of pregnancy, even far advanced, does not prevent her from fol- lowing this most important hygienic rule as long as it is convenient or shows its beneficial effects by re-acting on the system in a healthful glow. kg — — — 150 MARRIED LADY. As regards the various disorders during preg- nancy, we intend to treat of them in the second part of this book, where the reader can find them under their proper heads. Here we would state, that an otherwise healthy woman ought to pass through the whole of her pregnancy without any considerable feeling of disease, and this, too, until the very commencement of labor pains. That this is the real intention of nature, becomes apparent in the thousands of instances where women in the pregnant state, do feel neither disease nor are incapable in body or mind, to attend to all their accustomed duties, enjoying life as much as ever. That this is often not the case, is owing to the irregularities of life and departures from nature's dictates, by which women become weak and an easy prey to disorders. We remind our readers, therefore, of the great rule, the more natural or less artificial you live before and during pregnancy, the less sickness and discomfort you will have to encounter during pregnancy. Let strict hygienic rules guide your life and but very little ailment will disturb your case and comfort. Quickening is a term by which is generally expressed the first perception a woman has of the child's muscular action, and not as if life, at that time, first entered the child. It may vary as to time and power of expression; in some women it occurs earlier and stronger, because the child may MARRIED LADY. 151 be more active and strong; in others it is retarded and weak, because the child may be less lively and powerful or the quantity of the child's water greater. Upon the whole, however, it may be said that quickening occurs in the middle of preg- nancy or four and a half months from either the conception or the birth of the child. Yet, very many and great exceptions to this rule exist; in some women it may never manifest itself, in others it may appear as early as two months and a half after conception, as one lady I knew myself used to experience. Syncope or fainting is not an unfrequent accompaniment of quickening, but soon ceases after the woman has become more habituated to the peculiar feelings of motion in her womb made by the child. About this time the womb has extended so much as to raise itself out of the pelvic cavity, thus acquiring more room for extension and the facility to rest on its brim. From this time up to the seventh month the growth of the child is very rapid and perceptible in the outward appearance of the future mother, the most prominent feature of which is the so-called "pouting out of the navel" or its protrusion, which takes place be- tween the sixth and seventh month. The navel, instead of forming a hollow, is now pressed out- wardly by the force of the gravid uterus which sometimes causes the navel to protrude. 152 MARRIED LADY. In the seventh month the child has acquired such a perfection of development in all its parts, that it is able to subsist outside the womb, if acci- dent or disease should have hastened its birth. Any birth previous to the seventh month is, therefore, called very properly an abortion, indi- cating, thereby, the impossibility of the birth of a living child, although some exceptions may even here take place; while a birth at the seventh and before the ninth month is designated as a pre- mature birth, because the child can live, although prematurely born, and consequently of difficult raising. Pregnancy has, in most cases, a duration of nine months, each of thirty days, although some- times it lasts two hundred and eighty days, or ten months, each of twenty-eight days; cases have even occurred within my knowledge, where la- dies were not confined until the three hundredth day after conception, which constitutes ten solar months, each of thirty days. Accordingly we see that a variation of thirty days is possible, or that a regular birth may occur between two hun- dred and seventy and three hundred days of pregnancy. The appearance of the so-called labor-pains, soon terminates the state of gestation, expels the child, together with the after-birth, and allows the womb to contract, thus assuming, by degrees, its MARRIED LADY. 153 natural size again. Although this process is a physiological one, which, as such, should not meet, on our part with much interference, yet the pain and distress to be borne by the woman, are sometimes so great as to make their mitigation desirable. This fortunately can be effected to a certain extent by the use of ether, which being poured on a loose handkerchief, is inhaled by the sufferer. Chloroform, although more decisive and certain in its anaesthetic action, is not, on that account, pre- ferable to ether, because its action being too violent, endangers the life of the patient, even in those where no diseases of the heart or lungs can be presumed to exist. We warn our readers against the use of chloroform in an emergency of any kind; while we can recommend the ether from practical experience, as useful and harmless. It should not be applied, however, until the severe pains of the latter stage call its use into requisition, when its effect need not be such a protracted one, which ought to be always avoided as much as possible. The duties of a mother, perhaps the most re- sponsible and severe imposed on a human being by nature, seem to be presaged and presented to her mind before even the child is born. The future mother prepares, beforehand, what is needed for her offspring when it appears. In this respect man partakes of the same instinctive providence which has been bestowed by nature upon all animal 154 MARRIED LADY. creation. The birds make their nests for the com- fort of their young, and man provides carefully for the child's comforts long before it needs them. But as soon as it has appeared in this world of pain and pleasure, the realities of a mother's duties never cease to present themselves to her. They may vary in kind, but never cease to exist; moreover they grow in intensity of interest and responsibility as the child develops itself from earliest infancy to maturity. A mother remains always one to the child of her bosom. The father may finally cease to exert a father's influence over his child; his parental relation may change into that of a friend's. A mother never changes her character as regards her offspring; she remains the same to him that she was from the beginning of his existence, the careful guardian of his physical and moral welfare. Time and advancing age can- not work a change in her feelings towards her child; she remains faithful to the trust imposed upon her by nature. In her the conservative ele- ment prevails to a greater extent than in man; and if the latter can even so far divorce himself from the innate parental feeling as to disown his child, and slay it even as was the case in the Roman Sena- tor, who broke the staff over his own son's life, the mother never yields to other voices than those of nature, or other dictates than those of the heart. Wonderful provision of the Creator, who thus MARRIED LADY. 155 made the otherwise weak, the instrument of pro- tection and preservation, while the strong, impelled by moral force, is not unfrequently disarmed into leniency by the melting power of natural affection! Watch a faithful mother in the discharge of her duties in the nursery, at the side of the cradle, or amidst a group of boys and girls of different ages; observe closely, how she manages to get along. Her tact in this respect is wonderful, beyond the grasp of man's most exalted intellect; no rules of art can supply its want. The talent of ruling judiciously in the charming world of children, is a peculiar gift of nature, bestowed upon woman alone, as her sole prerogative, which in faithful hands becomes truly enviable. Then we perceive the wonderful versatility of woman's mind; now she coaxes into quiet slumber the restless eye or whining mood of the infant, now she reproves the noisy restlessness of the boy, and satisfies in stately teachings the eager curiosity of the girl. But always is her eye watching over the whole group, catching at a glance their physical and moral wants; and the expression of her language or ac- tions is suited to the sex or age of the child. In vain could such admirable conduct be asked of a man under similar circumstances; his patience would give out, before even his mind could com- prehend the task; hopeless would be his situation, if he had to fulfill similar duties. If he has to act 156 MAIDEN LADY. on the large stage of life his part, she has to do the same on a smaller, but not less complicated one; neither would fill satisfactorily the place of the other. And if this is true, as it certainly is, the conclusion is irresistible, that each one should remain within the sphere of action properly as- signed to each by the ordinance of nature. Let the father be indeed a provider and protector; let the mother be indeed a guardian and teacher of the little ones comprising the family. Fashionable life, we know, has sadly disar- ranged this beautiful order of nature, and thereby weakened, in many a respect, the ties which bind the filial tree to parental roots. Yet we think, that its laws are so deeply seated in the soil of human feeling and society, that it is almost im- possible to destroy their rule or annihilate their existence. Even fashionable life, with its many heartless and unnatural traits, cannot divest the most reluctant and giddy mother of the inward pressure of her soul, to witness the frolicsome up- roar of a nursery-room, or to spend hours of delight and care in the company of her little ones. Nature designed the mother to be the child's first and most legitimate teacher; from her lips the infant perceives the first sounds of the sweet language of love and caresses; to her the narrow, but nevertheless ardent wishes of its heart are first directed and look for their realization. As the MARRIED LADY. 157 child draws the nourishment with impatient de- light from the mother's bosom, itself heaving with pleasure, so does its longing eye rest on her counte- nance, radiant with intelligence, and beaming forth the tender affections of a mother's love into the appreciative soul of her offspring. Where is en- joyment like this to be found in the whole range of nature's economy? Here she has gathered a combination of physical and intellectual wealth, seldom to be equalled, and never to be excelled, and has laid it at the feet of that being, whom above all she desires to enrich with her choicest blessings, in order to compensate, as it were, for the extraordinary charge laid upon a mother's shoulders. No triumph of the victorious soldier, the subtle statesman, the eloquent advocate, suc- cessful physician, or faithful minister, can equal in reality and sublimity a mother's happiness, when fondling her infant. No other avocation in life can give the full re- ward in innocent pleasure and joyous feeling. There is no reason, then, why the woman, with true motherly feelings, should engage in any other but the business assigned to her by nature, for the transactions of which she is so eminently and exclusively qualified, and so richly rewarded. It is true, she often also experiences sorrows and suf ferings, which no human being can feel with equal intensity. The sickness of her children disturbs II 158 MARRIED LADY. her rest and grieves her soul. But these very mis- fortunes carry within themselves a higher stimulus to a mother's action than the mere every-day duties could afford, and like the passing thunder- storm on a sultry summer day, leave life's atmos- phere clearer and more beauteous than ever. If death, notwithstanding, calls away from her moth- erly heart one of the beloved ones, she follows its flight into the regions where hope and faith combine to promise a future re-union. Thus, even the worst misfortune which can befall her, the death of her offspring, enriches the domain of her love, giving her an undying interest in the joyous realms of heaven, which thus become more than ever the point of her pilgrimage. No member of a family has a greater interest in the welfare of society than the mother. Although the child of the past and destined to direct the present, the mother feels anxious to shape the fu- ture of that society in which her children have to play their part, either for good or evil. This one thought alone is powerful enough to arouse her energies to the utmost, and engage them constantly for the physical and moral welfare of society. She will, therefore, not allow herself to be a stranger to the political events of her country, because these, touching the dearest interest of all families, must affect her own also. And here may I be allowed to pay my humble