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I shall not soon forget the Sial repuo-- inance expressed in the face of the little girl whom I con- ■gratulated awhile ago upon the advent of the month- old baby lying on the mother's knees. The mite of an Blder sister, but two-and-half years of age, looked at the new-comer as if it had been a toad or a snail It s nuffin but a girl-baby ! It ought to be divoivnded ! " phe uttered, slowly and disgustfully .nf J!f ^f ^l ^f^""^-^' ^''' *" ""^y '^ ■ " interposed the 1 Wl ? t/."f°g her pale face, a sigh mingling It an ti ^^ ; J- ^''^ ^" ^°"^^^^'^' ^'^' ^he child take! . It all in earnest. It is natural, you know, for men to want .ii"/f * ^^ ^^ *^® daughter who makes the home ' " was ttll 1 dared say. ' " '^ BnThfJ'"-^''^^^"^i'^'n,^°^J"S^*«^ from the beginning f u the passive voice ? To be supported, to be protected. 14 BIRTH — NOT BEQINNINO. i to be dowered— at the best to be loved. The coarse re- alism of the Chinese father only accentuates the petulant jest of the American and presumably Christian husband into the finale—" To be drowned." We— as the essential condition of the continuation of our subject— will give our new-born daughter the advan- tage at the outset of assuming that she is tolerated and passably welcome in the home into whose warm snugness she has fallen. Perhaps, by reason of a precession of several living sons, her advent is hailed with pleasure, bhe IS " a perfect child," too, and pronounced a " remark- ably fine infant " by doctor and nurse. The conscientious quiet that hedges about " a comfort- able confinement " is peculiarly conducive to day dream- ing. The painless rest would, of itself, be almost com- pensation to the whilom busy woman for months of suf- lering overpast, had the mother won nothing besides her own life by the already forgotten anguish. "Baby is a world of company to me," she says, when condoled with upon enforced solitude and inaction. " The time passes fast and delightfully. She knows and under- stands me already." She must indeed be hopelessly prosaic and inane who does not bring out from the calm, white tent of that still month a juster appreciation of the dignity of maternity ; patience and resolve for the performance of Life's duties', and a deeper thankfulness for home-loves and happiness! Baby, meanwhile, has oflTered many practical suggestions tor the consideration of her companion. It is not singu- lar—muses the mother—that she should already display certain tendencies, entirely selfish, which are usually re- garded as insept able from human and animal nature. But that she should, in the short space of four weeks, have contracted habits, is a puzzle that has in it the ele- noents of alarm. The monthly nurse whose dominion in the household is adjudged by Civilization and so-called iiuxury, to be altogether indispensable in the " circum- I BlRTlt— NOT BEGINNING. IS stances -call her seton, blister, leech, or what you will —has done her professional best to keep herself comfort- able and spoil her helpless charge, during her brief auto- cracy. She has walked and rocked her to sleep in her arms secretly, if not allowed to do it openly ; fed her at all sorts of irregular intervals; pinned the swaddlincr. bands as tightly as her sinewy fingers could draw them • administered catnip, Dewees' Mixture, Mrs. Winslow's boothing Syrup and other invaluables that mother and child (with no thought of the disinterested Gamp) might have a good night's sleep,-until the tiny morsel that has survived the gall-moon immediately succeeding birth is hardly the same gift which was laid, in the first hour of conscious existence, in the mother's arms Gamp feeds Baby with the fussy assiduity of a child ii ling the ever-wide month of a callow robin, and with httlen,ore judgment. She pours down sweet oil thick with sugar as a provisional purgative; toast-water like- wise syrupy to prevent bowel-complaint ; « cambric tea " —still SAveet;— barley-water, patent " Infants' Food,"— all to keep the poor little dear from starving until Mam- Zl'r^^rri'- 1 ^""'^'"'"^ "^ture in robin^and in Baby revolts. Ihe bird generally dies. Baby's survival de pendsupon the strength and activity of the diaphragm ' ^ t'ed twt ''' '"'''''' ^^"^^^^ - industriousfy at^JJ It is hardly just reasons the natural guardian when her property is really, as well as nominally made ov^ to her, that her first official act must be to undo the effects of mismanagement. But she goes valiantly to work UP and down .r^™' "°' ^?M^'*^ ^" ^^« ^^«^' ^«^- «^rried bLXiallvLn '^"''^ ""^'^ "^°"°" ^'^^ monotony act ' Sna Sh?- f"""'!!' ""^^'T^ ^y "^^°P« " a^d over- teedmg. She is taught, after divci^s battles, to go to sleep m a quiet cnb m a darkened room ; is put ti bed a stS 16 BIRTH — NOT BEQINNING, 1 If hours, and given to understand that she is one under wise authority. " There is nothing like beginning aright ! " decides Mamma, triumphant in tlie victory over Self even more than over the recalcitrant subject of her severity. " Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying," is the stern counsel of the Wise Man, whose Rehoboam was an unfortunate result, if the father's pi-actice matched his preaching. Our mother's soul has spared, has melted into weak tears times without number whih the crying was like a knife in her heart. It was the will, backed by sound sense, that held fast to resolve and act. She is repaid by th(^ conviction that she has eradicated the rootlets of evil set by Mrs. Gamp in virgin soil. Or she likens her dar- ling's mind and disposition to waxen tablets that will harden into marble with passing years. It has cost her more trouble than her worst fears had anticipated, to smooth out the impressions made by selfish ignorance. She must see to it that the graving done henceforward is of an order she would not wish to obliterate. She grows very serious in pondering these things. New light from her lately-lit lamp of experience falls upon the old story of the peasant Mother's eager " laying up in her heart" the hints dropped by inspired lips touching the character and destiny of her Firstborn. She begins — and her soul grows as she does this — to en- ter into the meaning of the phrase, heard a thousand times from older and wiser people, — as often in mincing cant from parrot-brained women, drilled by much itera- tion into what sounds sage, — " Resmnsihilities of Mo- thers." ' '' " There are people," remarks Dr. Holmes, " who think that everything may be done if the doer, be he educa- tor or pliysician, be only called ' in season.' No doubt, — but in season would often be a hundred or two I i :i I ■i BIRTH — NOT BEGINNING. 17 is one under wise aright ! " decides r Self even more : severity. i, and let not tliy n counsel of the ifortunate result, preaching. Our into weak tears ; was like a knife by sound sense, is repaid by th(^ e rootlets of evil e likens her dar- tablets that will It has cost her d anticipated, to selfish ignorance. 3 henceforward is irate. ing these things. ' experience falls n-'s eager " laying by inspired lips •f her Firstborn, does this — to en- eard a thousand often in mincing i by much itera- mhilities of Mo- tnes, " who think Der, be he educa- ison.' No doubt, hundred or two years before the child was bom, and people never send so early as that." " 1 always scouted the doctrine of original sin until I had children of my own to rear," ^aid a matron, at a Mothers' Conference meeting. " Now, I am on the hirgent"topic. He flicted, and the aciuired. Under The fir.H « I'l'"''' J''^ '»?'^'dental the in- of hereditary diseases ; under L second h.,r ^^'"'^T''^ *" the influence ter, .and which occur fn.m expXrrto IS nl''T' "f-^^ epidemic charac- poisons, were considered ; un er the th.VI K "I'l'?' "^ *^^ communicable bad nursing exeeasive coinpet t" „ in eucat^on and'," '"'"""' f 'T^' ^'"^^ brought under notice ; and under the fo f h h. 'i .. >'".V"Per feeding were resort to smoking, the use o? stimula t iJt; ho'"''^'''' "•''''«"' ^'''^'^'-ly '^r5mH'''"''J«'''t'' °f comment. wK^^ , r,.!,]"'''-'''n'' "''•eKular meafs sibitity of parents for the failur^ in health of Xdre,^"'"^ '"'^'^ *''« ''^^''^- vanced schoo s of physioloZ ?pf itf ^ ™^'^ ^^- 22 INFANTS FOOD. are the usual attendants upon the habit of nourishing her child from her own bosom. " Tt is alavery I " cries one, passionately ; " and a de- grading bondage, a reduction of a refined, intellectual be- ing to the rank of a mammal female." Another said to the physician who congratulated her upon the bountiful supply furnished by Nature for her tirst-born : " You can not expect me to injure my figure, ruin my complexion, and spoil the fit of my dress, i by nursing my baby as a common washerwoman might ! " " Madam ! " he returned ; " the most beautiful sight upon God's earth is that of a mother nourishing her young from her own breast ! " Apart from the facilities aftbrded by the fulfilment of this duty for the study of your child's constitutional pecu- liarities, the pleasure to the little one and to youi-self of so many hours of affectionate intercourse, and the inevi- table strengthening, through these means, of your mutual attachment, there are substantial advantages in the habit which are not to be lightly p^ussed over, or disregarded entirely. " Like breeds like." Mother and child are as homoge- neous as trunk and twig. The sap — m Inch we charac- terize in these circumstances lacteal fluid — is assimilated naturally and nourishfuUy. The tender digestive organs recognise it at once ; seldom, and that only under abnor- mal influences, quarrel with it. The reflex influence upon the mother comes in, also, as a matter of course. Without heeding the preposterous notions of dieting that obtain with the foolishly-superstitious, she will soon learn that the best food for herself is also best for her nursling; that what agrees with her stomach, being readily and painlessly digested, suits Baby, and vice versa. She discovers, furthermore, that the most useful milk- producing ingredients are not slops, but juicy meats, good broths, milk, really excellent ale, oatmeal porridge and m infants' food. t nourishing her 23 beautiful sitjht thiZ' Ihf T '''"^^' -^"^^ n^ '''''' "^ °^^^^r palatable things that, after supplying Baby's w.-uits, leave in her own system rich reserves for the replenishment of wasted tissues and thinned blood. vvasucu The intelligent woman will bear in mind that the watery .erum distending the lacteal glands after she has nnbibed countless bowls of tea and goblets of water to quench a conslant thirst, while it will, in turn, fill and unreasonably enlarge Baby's stomach and deposit adipose matter between bones and skin, can do little else Phos- phates for bone an.l brain, strong-meat essence for blood • vegetable nervines that shall act directly upon spina marrow ami nerve-centres- all these are chemically inter- fased and adjusted for their appointed agencies in the patient, faithful retort of the mother's bosom. In the ?,?nnK ^Preciation of this beautiful law of demand and supply, the old women and " women's doctors " of our foi-emofchers times physicked the nn^ther when the un- ^ weaned child writhed with colic, and needed pur^ives ■; or astnngents. Still groping after this truth,^S?r un- I wutten nursery code prohibited her use of fish pickles ., her with caudle and posset ; stayed the craving stomach '2Zr:^'K'f '^? ^^^^^"^ P^^^^^^ became Tn XvTr' ^1 ^>:f ^"«^'' '»«r suckling pale and puffy Water-gruel by- the quart and unlimited tea and coftee Z7.\ZZ rTT'^' regimen, and the term of nursing 'mS}^,S ? ;^^ pi gnmage graveward. Babies pulled mothers down to hollow-eyed skeletons, and the mother ^^crificed l^auty, health, and life to keep alive a bkX^ ^yspeptic leech that fretted continually and ySS inarticulate "Giv.! give! "by day and^ight ^ 1 You, Mother of To-day have to undo a'nd to amend ihaSlw!:"' "? ^''' *^^" *? ^^^1^- I^ ^o stress of ^ ^n aWeness do y^„ anathematize the mistakes. and pi es of your predecessors as "actual transgressions" iBgamst you and yours. You do not modify your judg- ,1 24 infants' food. jnent ns there comes to you in some startliriff experience, or by degrees of ol)s(>rvation, the conviction that the su- preme fact of Heredity has to do with the higher part of your chikl's being. U{)on thnt the graving tool of " ordinary generation " has wrought as industrlou.sly mid as deeply as upon her physical nature. The most obvious manifestation of this truth and its practical enforcement are in the circumstance that your moods and tenses affect her comfort. Your distress, anxiety, and petulance are retieeted in her iitful slumbers, convulsive twitchings, " cross fits." " The dear lamb's teeth ! " .says the nurse. " The mother's temper" wouh) be nearer the truth. While she lies at the breast rising and falling with the throbbing heart, you have leisure, and we it,^ for the in- dulgence of the passion or despondency of the hour. There is pith in the old Scotch saying : " It is sair luck to cry over a mucking bairn." The farmer flogs the boy who " races the cows home," not only, he explains to him, because it les.sens the flow of milk, but that fright and irritation injure the quality of it. But when bal)y wails by the hour, " for nothing " — being, so far as nurse and parents can discern, perfectly well, and free from pin- pricks — who blames Mamma on that account for the fret- ful humour that has possessed her all day ? Who remem- bers with any consciousness of the bearing of one incident upon the other, that, when she '.iim' in., at noon, 'lot and jaded from a, long walk, the full h'w'^ of milk pressing hard upon muscles and vein , ; • ' ooukI not wait to get her bonnet off before catching up the child and putting its eager lips to the brimming fountain. She laughed in mingled relief and amusement when the hungry little thing choked and gurgled and coughed itself purple under the rush dov/n its throat into the empty stomach. Yet she knows that a bottle is best filled slo^-ly, with judicious respect to the escape of air, if she .'.*; 1 infants' food. •25 dWnff experience, tioti tliat the su- tlio hi<,'hcr part {i;raving tool of tnliistriously iiiid riie most ob\ ioUH tical enforcement i and tenses afi'eet n'l petulance are ilsive twitcliings, se. " The mother's d falling' with the usie if, i'or the in- ncy of the hour. : "It is sair luck mer tlojLijs the boy le explains to him, it that fright and , when baby wails ) far as nurse and nd free from pin- count for the fret- ay ? Who remem- inir of one incident I at noon, ^ot and ' '^f milk .)r(;.3inj4' kI not wait to get child and putting msement when the and coughed itself lat into the empty )ttle is best filled scape of air, if she .gives no thought to the probable effect of heat and weari- ness upon the food a(lnunistered thus hastily. I could cite a huii