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Commodore United States Navy, the Illustrious Com- mander of Battleship Texas in the Naval Eagage- meiu at Santiago in which Cervera's Spanish Fleet was destroyed. "'What a Young Man Ought to K"Dw' im- presses me as a volume of such serious import- ance and such skilful handling of a delicate subject that 1 have placed it upon the reading table of the Cob Dock Library in this Yard (Navy Yard, Brooklyn, New York), with the expression of the hope, written on the fly-leaf, that 'many sailor men will pick this book up and read it.' " ^^■ M « r K M I ■> • > r I'lii Kn«4I.* N I* M« ». REV. F. B. MEYER. B.A. M.„i.,„„f(hr^. Church, VVeMminst.r. London, Author c^ Mrae., A Prince with God," " Elijah ; 1 Vied by Fire," "The Bell, of I,,' etc.. etc. •• The quest/ons wiiich are dealt with in the ' Self and Sex bene.' of books are always being asked and If the answer is not forthcoming from pure and w.se l.ps u will be obtained through^icioas^a^d em sS ;fr''% ' ^S-^f-« g-'tly commend Zs seiies of manuals, which are written lucidly and purely, and w.ll afford the necessary information wtth out pandermg to unholy and sc.rsual passion. There has been, m my judj,'ment, too much reticence on the whole of th.s subject, and nameless sins have ^rigi nated in ignorance or m the directions given to young I'fe by VICIOUS men. I should like to see a w-'de and judicious distribution of this literature among Chris- tian circles. " «*""«HJ v^urw VVM«r KMiwBNr T'mtym.m i" A%«»n«i< a M»», FRANCIS E. CLARK. D.D. Founder of the Younu People's Society of Christian En- deavor, and I'rfsiV,.«T K«,s«,r !•►, « ,, «,„,.»,„ H«, -■■■:' '"J- V-.- ; FREDERICK ANTHOr. C ATKINS. Editor of -Tlu- VouriK Man," "The Young Woman." Ihc Home McssenKcr," Antt.or . •Moral Muscle." "I-irsf nattles.""A.pi,,aion and Achifvements." "I think- yon have dotic a very difficult work with sreat delicacy and caro. Such hooks as yours have lon^ heen needed, and if they had rippeare.l sooner many a social wreck, whose fall was due to ignorance, mipht have heen saved. V(ni have ^iven young people informa- tion which ought not t.i he hidden from them hy any false and foolish mode^^ty. information which may protect them from many a hlunder and sin, and you have given it with purity of thought and delicacy of expression." I W'h«t K -••■>r •..»....„ ,, K.„.,..,.. ^.,. Ri:V. JOHN CLIFFORD, M.A.. D.D. Min.stcr of VVcsthourne I'ark ( h..p.;. ;.,,„.,, „( „,, t.eneral 'taptut M.,Kaz.rc, an.l c, duor .,f tl>c- Ke- view of the Churches. Author of ' Da.ly htrenulh f.,r Daily Living." "Dawn of Manhood." etc. "What a V.i.ng Man Ought to Know' is certainly one of the best hooks for dawning "•anhood that ha. fallen nn. n,y hands. It yucs to the r.x.ts of hiunan living. Jt is thor- ""glily manly, h does not sh.rk the difficidt problems of l.fc. and yet it handles these prob- lems so as to make the study a help to self-re- straint and an in>piration to self-mastery. Dr Stall has laid the rising generation under an immense obligation." Mfm^r MwiMaMT l>w,rt.a i» Aaaaic* Ma«( THE RIGHT REV. WILLIAM N. McVICKAR. D.D. Coadjutor i'rotestant Kpiscopai Hishupof Rhode liland. "I heartily ciulorse and rccommentl 'What a Young Man Ought to Know.' T bcHeve that it strikes at the very root of matters, and ought to be instrumental for much good." l»'' W-.r »«...., ,.».,.. ,, ^.„.. ^ ^^^ ^fe REV. HORACE PORTER. Formerly Aim.cu.c |-..st..r w.,h Dr, .\l.l„..f .-.n.l ll.lli, of I'lyiiKMlth ( luirch. Hr.KjIclyn. "I regard St..ll\ |{,, k, „i tl,,- Sdf an. I S.x Series as a (;..,| sr,„l to this R.rurafi,.,,. In niy ..piniun n,, ..tlur ..tu- man Iias .l,,,,,. so Krcat a sor\ Ja- to his ffllow-.nni. even i.i all '•■story, as Dr. Stall i. .loing ihro„«!, tlu.se '•"oks. They reach the very foun.latioMs nf lif.. ••n which all character ,> l,„ilt. It s,o.n. to „,. that this series of hooks f,,r men and women, hoys and Rirls, mrst uork a revolntion in hn- man kind if given M.fficicntly wide distribntion." W«4ip n«iiiB»T t*«itrt.B iH AMaax a m*«. ROBERT WLIDENSALL. Secrrtary of the Inlcrn.'ituinal Committrr N'oung Mcii'i ( hristian Association. "Dr, Stall's hooks aro pure poltl. Tlioy ctial)le yoiini,'- men to lui'k'rstatKl the mystery of their own i)0(hes, and the pnrpose aihl meaninij^ of their deepest emotions. The aut!ior is frank and can- aopui t" Am muirt. f4t FRANK W. OBER. Editorof -Men." the international paper of the Y.M.C A carefully exa,„ine.i";h""£l „V cl7 b,u ,°t of n wV •, ^''^ chapters on The Choice time y^M,;;"^ ,7" '^^-^-^^^' "e especiaUv book he.rtil /'^■■^^"'■e. 'n commending the book heartily and unqualifiedly to young men the w Sed hlnnH^''-^'^ manhood, wrecked bv wretchud blunderings of an ignorant youth " '^■AT Kminbnt T>Bnpi.a i* J. WILBUR CHAPMAN, D. D. The Eminent Evangelist; Pastor of Bethany Prcsby. terian Church. Philadelphia. "I have very carefully looked over your book entitled 'What a Young Boy Ought to Know,' and wish to say thai 1 cannot understand how you could ever perform a heiter service than to have given this book to tiie boys of our coun- try. I wish to personally thank vou for what you have said in that book; and I'wish I might commend it to parents everywher . that they might place it in the Hands of their boys. I have also had the recent privilege of examining youi book entitled, 'What a Young Man Ought to Know,' and I bear willing testimony that I btheve this book ought to be in the hands of every young man in this country. It would give us better citizens in the future, and would help us to hve more nearly as God would like ► w A4(A * ^ LA 11 VC* WJLLiAM T. STEAD. ^'"""°"<-"-""<-=-.'-o,.J„.,E„.,.„,. „l7 '^°"^?'"''''"^ you and tl,e writers s ^h'i:;; '^'^i '■■"'""•-"' "p°" the i: ! a verv ,;«;,? 7' '"'''"•«' '" h^"d"ns waV I *,"" f?r« '" ' ^^O- delieatf erest o „^''°'"''''> "««s^ry in the in- able h,f ' e"'"'^"o,,s that indispen- an o ll''™;'"" "P°" ""■ '"O^t impor- tant of al! subjects should be accessible lu- T.T"" ^'"' •™" "^« accontpl shed e '" ^^° .^"^■«-'^'-"".v mt,st be the sub- ject of lasting satisfaction to vou and your staff." ■ ^"0 From J. A. WORDEN, D.D., The Eminent Sunday-School Worker. ( Unsoiici'td. ) •' Your hook, 'What a Young Boy Ought to Know," must have oeen given unto you b the Father in heaven, both in its concepti(,n and composition. The idea of cleansing the heart and way of the young man by God's truth in His works as well as in His word is a sug- gestion of the Spirit. Your manner of eluci- dating . nd elaborating these facts and truths is in the first place faithful, then delicate, and avoids both coarseness and prudishness.' May God bless and use your book which He has evidently animated." From EDWARD W. BOK Kditor of the L.dle.' Home Journal. (Unsoliciitd,) x^J^ " '?/ ■"""" "^ -ngra.ula.i„„ a^you have. old. Wha. a Young Boy Ought •o Kn _. ,^,j ., ^^ directly, and in a way -'ghuly .nterened in this general subject, aj I^confes, . at your boo. has appealed t^ Te Other books have told othe.- things, but you have compassed the whole subject. Consider me most recept.ve to the books which I ,ee are go.ng to follow this one. You may depend upon my hearty recommendation of the pr"- entbook wheneve.it falls into my wavt'oda Pfom EUGENE H. PORTER, M.O. Preiident of Homeopathic Medical Society of the St-te of New York ; Pro(e„or Materia Medica. New York Hom- eopathic Medical College ; Prcfeisor Diiea.es of Stomach and y ver. Metropolitan Tost-Graduate School ; Attend- ing Physician. Laura Franklin Hospiul for ChUdren. " Vour boo'c entitled ' WTiat a Voung Man Ought to Know ' I examined with great interest, an, /), /) 13**** * ^^""^ ^^ ^Cb» to Know." Wh4t A Young Man Ouf ht to Know." **Z^*^ * ^<>»^ Husband Ought to Know.' ^Wh*t A Man ol 45 Ought to Know." Booh for IV omen By Mrs. Mary tVood-.^Ulni, M. Z?., And Vrs. I^mma F. A. Drake, M. D. I Vhat a Young Girl Ought to Know." ' Vhat A Young Vomaa Ought to Know." Vhat a Young Wife Ought to Know." Vhat a Woman of 45 Ought to Know." IN TUB UNITED BTATIS ^^^ Yl^ PUBLISHING COMPANY «37 I^nd Title Building^ PhilaUc.j.hia j IN ENGLAND THE VIR PUBLISHING COxMPAVY 7 Imperial Arcac!c. I^udgatc^Circu,. iloudon « C- IN CANADA WILLIAM BRIGGS ^^3J RKhmond Street West Toronto. Ontario n SYLVANUS STALL, D.D. i Prick |i.oo nst 4S. NKT PURIT Y AND T RUTH WHAT A YOUNG MAN OUGHT TO KNOW BY SYLVANUS STALL, D. D. Author of " What a Young Boy Ought to Know," " What a Young Husband ( Jught to Know," What a Man of 45 ( ' ight to Know," "Methods of Church Work," " Five-Minute Object Sermons to Chil- dren," "Talks to the King's Children," " Faces Toward the Lig ," etc. '« The Glory of Young Men is Their Strength." Philadelphia, Pa.: 2237 Land Title Building. THE VIR PUBDSHING COMPANY London : Toronto : 7, Imperial Arcauk, Wm. Brigcs, Li'UGATE Circus, E. C. 33 R:c hmond S f.. West. CopVRir.HT, 1897. Bv SYLVAN'US STALL Entered at Stationers' H«ll, London, Knglanu Protected by International copyright in C.reat Hritain and al her colon.es, and, under the provisions of the Berne Co- verjt.on. in TJelgium. France. Germany, Italy.Spain Sw .. jerland. Tunis, Hay. i. Luxembourg. Monaco, Norway and All rights rtservtd iPRINTEI) IN THE fNITEIJ STATKS] ^t'bicaU'b TO The Yol'xg Mkx who Should be Pure and Strong. 3 o^\ CONT'^NTS. Preface, zzi CHAPTER I. EQUIPMENT FOR LIFE. This the grandest period of the world in which to live. — All departments of life open to young men of brain and brawn. — Capacity and power indispensable requisites.— The world has always worshipe: the ^x^st there IS in human i. ure—Vour struijL'le no more fierce than that of other men — I hou- fiamls slaves to lust.— Kvil thouj^hts will enter the purest mind.— The sin i.s in harlwrin^ them — 1 ollution practiceil in the mind.— Novels ap- jieal to the amative and sexual.— The Ixist iHK.ks for the formative years— Works of art — ^ude pictures pollute the imagination.— Purity of -speech —A vile story may cling to you through life.— Importance of pure bloml _ ^^ holesome food.— (Jod made the hog to .serve a.s a scavenger, and not as food.— Moral purity dei>ends upon a pure heart.— Christ's exp'anal.on of the new birth.— The spiritual nature reaches out after God.— The sick in the ho.spitAls turn their faces toward the light 1 hey do not know why.— By a similar spiritual instinct all men reach up after God.— The help- ful influence of a pure-minded woman.— One standard of virtue for both men and women. — 1 he double standard a relic of barbarism —Intelligence and virtue safer than innocenc- with Ignorance.— Charlatans who prey upon the' VICIOUS and unfc,tunate.— No right-minded man will desire to degrade his body or that of another. — The true man will proiect and en- throne the virtue of women.- Pei>ional purity of greatest importance.- Effect of conduct upou character— If you demand purity in vour bride she has an equal right to demand it in yoa.— \our conduct will determine the character of your children that come after PAGI you 29-48 CHAPTER III. PHYSICAL WEAKNESS, ^tu.iv your physical powers. —Inherited ness. — A weak- ccjuired weakness.— I niprojier food.— COSTEyTS, Eating at irregular hours. — Sleep. — Itscharac ter and (juaniity —hirst hours of tlienijjht the best. — Troubled and broken .-Icep. — Sleeping «.i' feathers. — Single beds to be preferred. — I'hysical weakness from .sr'f ,ciflicted cau.ses. — Self jH)llution weakens the intellect, deba.ses the moral, undermines the physical. — Ignor- ance the fruitful source of this sin. — Duty of parents. — Seeking development by mechanical means. — A continent life not detrimental. — Testimony of phy.sicians throughout Kur.;pe. — The testimony of Dr. Napheys. — Physicians of New York city. — No room left for doubt. — — (Jnly safety in immediate and complete abandonment. — The sin and its consequences inseparable. — Eventual victory can be secured over passion. — When medical aid should be sought. — The physician who advises sexual intercourse. — Such a physician a party to an infamous crime. — The young man who will resolve need not despai:. — Consult only the physician of moral character. — Seminal emissions, or wet dreams. — Quacks. — Emis- sions normal and abnormal. — Testimony of re- liable medical authority. — How often they may occur without injury. — The testimony of Dr. William Acton.— The fallacy that the sacs must be emptied because full. — Emis- sions should be reduced to the minimum. — The ofhce of the glands. — Like the labo- ratory in a Chemical establi.shment. — The en- tire reahsorption of all the seminal fluid ideal. — Continence demanded of athletes. Samson and Delilah. — The cause of sexual weakness lies back of the emission. — The physical .nature drained \,y excessive secretion. — The cf.ect of th« mind upxjn these glands illustrated. — Purity of mind of primary import- ance. — Suggestions. — Cleanliness. — Weekly and daily bath. — linportance of bodily exer- cise — Distinction between exercisi and recrea- tior. — Dumb-bells, Indian-clubs, etc. — Im- PAOB coyTEyTs. Ii! portanre of exercise in the open nir— I.inuor destructiveof virility— Some l.ri«'f rules — Ab- sorhitiK puqnjsein life.— Strive for eminerK e —Advice of Dr. Acton — Ahstinence.-The evening meal— Karly risinjj — IFow to prevent lymK on the Luck.— Meilicic^ of Utile value _ Imjx)rtanceof a helpful will.— Cauterization — Kxercise of the will in arousing the patient from lascivious dream.-=, . . ' 49-03 CHAITKR IV. EVILS TO UK SIIUIJNKI) AND CONSEQUENCES TO DRUADEn. Fr,r .some .sins the perpetrator the principal suf- ferer. —Social sins enlarge '' e circle.— The innocept and un.su.specting involved — Conse- cmences of .social vice — Not visible to the eye.— rhe prevalent ipiiorance concerninc dis- eases which affect those who are puMty of un- lawful sexual inte.course — The character and conse(|uenccs of these diseases should be made known.— rheirprevn'ence alarming.— A Chri.s- tian public should take up aims in defence of home.- Patriots should stamp it out to save the nation. -Why physicians do not acquaint their patients with the nature of the disease. —All forms of .enereal diser.se are serious.— The gonorriuia, or clap.— Its course and con- sequences.— Testimony of Dr. Napheys.— The outline picfire filled in.— Chorde- and its consequences.- Stricture and its horrors — l|ubo. — Hemorrliage.— Consumption of the lesticle.— Danp^t-r from cntching cold.— The gleet. — How blindness often re.sults.- -Rem- nants of the disensft may rem.iin for years — How healthy l,rides become invalid wives.— Ihe testimony of eminent physicians.- Many guilty husbands the author of their own misery. —An instance named. - What Dr. Guernsey says.— rhe terrible possibilities and probabili- Ues.— After seemingly healed, gonorrhx-a often DK coyTEyTs. reappears— lUlaniii^ ami partial Iom of sexuai mcmbtr.— A spurious alieititjn jx>s.sil)le, . 931-^ CIIAITEk v. eVlLS TO UK SHt'NNK.r* AND CONSKQUKNCES TO H.; IiRFADKI). (Coniinued. ) Similarity between chanrroid and ch.-ncre — I heir (liHcrence indicated— (hancroid usually a simple disease —Sometimes it has its horrors. —Mental suflVrioK and medical risk.— The first symptoms. — |{ulH)es may follow.— How chancroid an 1 chancre are di.scriminaterri.Hi for tr.insmiitin« ihr disraic- 1 hr I rcr (hjjiasslilf.w.r — ( ,.mmiit)i(nir.| l.y drink- '"K tUI'S towcN, brushes nii.I romhs. |)y kiss- m(f. nn.l ev,M. l.y shakinjj handv — I ht- puMic slK.uM lie i..(nisr.I.— I).va>r,i < attic wouLI Ix. 'luanintinr.l — Mrn and w,mu-n exf)osrvi.hdis wel- rotne.! int.) hilis to scrofula, canct-r, consumption, etc —A picture terrible with <]irf posMhilitics _ Knof)unif:enipnt and a.ssisian( r to l)e oirordwl to those seeking relief and cure —Hope of sai- vatiop— Ihe duty of I Iin^tians.—" Salvation to the uttermost. "—rhc uni appy victim a.s a warning to others.— We dart- not l)e indifferent. — Duty orphysicians— Danger from. juacks — n.)mes of Help.— Kffects of venerea! .lisea.ses iifKin the moral character. —Importance of per- .sonal purity— How men lirenk down the har- riers which (iod has set up— p:ven the most debased can rise to a noble manhood.— Voung men need manly strengtti and character.— Mis- taken th.nights concerning the marrieil. Married life will «»lso cal! for self-control. Duty to yourself.- Vice expensive of health, money, happiness, character, ami often of repu- tation.— .\bstain from impure and unlawful in- dulgence.— For yvjur own sake —For the sake of the swe.t girl you hope to have as your wife. — For the >ake of the children whom you would have to be pure.— uwo it to your parents and ^°^°<1 135-153 CHAPTER VII. THE RKPRODUCTIVE ORGANS— THEIR PURPOSE AND THEIR PROSTITUTION. God has ccferred upon man the high and holy function of transmitting life. — Proper views COSTESTS. fili woalrl roTTCct many virM—Marrijigr one of the tfreatcM sounrs <»f man i MrHMti^; anrfuulion of life Ani- mate ol-ecls (lividrd into three (lajwcH— In lowest cla.H.H the serroeaufy and fra^jrance. 1 he male and fcniaie rcpnMluc tive organs fre- f|U»-ntly iiniterfrs<.riH aUcr «fi rrijja«rtnrnt of marrinKr has Ucri Joniictl 'Ihr rut and rpiiiorv of ihoM* who (Id wronjj — I hr tn\r fvlly slatr.l - Never lK-tr«y cond dcntc — Aasotiaie only with the pure, . IO5 17c < HAITI K IX. MARklACK— A DIVINK INSTITin ION. No man inu nfTonl to think or sjK-iik hjjhtly of marriage —I ht- ff>c of mama+jp ihp f,,<- of pvc- rythinjj ^'>hk1. — Itc^j.i.enitctl pul) c sentiment U|)on thr Mil.jctt of nmrriaRe — Kasy divorce and |M)ly>;amy. — Mamavje not simply a civil compact —I nstitute.l hy (;od._Thc divine law U}H)n thr Milijrrt of rre. — For ah.'o hu u.an legislation.— Hie c^urt can adjust only the civil relation— Ilie duty of ministers to those who have lK«n previously r Uid tiowii ; it niu^t \>r rnlirrly prrv)!^!. — 'Ihosr having hrrolitniy trndrtH ir^ to (.>r)>umpti<>n nhoild not iiiarry.-- 'Ihr rrn.vin— ihr rr%ultn whm mi»ma^{e it <<>iUraitrk U|. thr lumily rn or«l - I ho saiiK in also tmr o( iriMmily — No Linn or wo. man havinjj svphili'* should he (irnnittrd to marry under any » ircinistanccji. — The inno- ffnt thildrrn must Ixrar the rcsult.i of the parents' lun, 179 iSj ClIAriKk XI. TIIK SKIKiTION OK A WIKK. Mu< h hap{)ineed op in thin one iransaction. — No dchmti- rule < nn l>e hid down — S)me general principles. — \'ou will need a wife. — 1 he weak, sickly and nervous. — Vounjj men frequently blinded l>y lov • and re- jient later. — Injurious result.s arising from tight lacing. — Kc>ull.s in s .ious displacement.^. — Totally untits for the marriage relation. — Consumption, tul^rculo" and white- swelling. — The connection l)etween them. — The family physician will not always give rehablcinfor- mation. — 'Ilie family i>cdigree. — Woman m the physical sphere, as a clas.s, has failed. — Sla- very to fa.shion. — Marriages iictween parties physically une<|ual. — Vou will need a compan- ion. — Choose a wom-nn of inlelligence. — Some women are ** good, but ggether ex- cept they be agreed ?" — Choose a woman who V ill be a gtKxi housekeeper. — Any one l(K)ks well in silks and costly apparel. — The Bible picture ofa virtuous and indu.stnous woman. — If virtue and purity are wanting everything else is wanting. — God created woman not only IVI C0ATA.V7'.S. i-Aca to hccomo .1 V ifo, I)ut ai-;o a mother. — No lioiiie witliDUt I hildreii can ho jicrfeclly happy. — I'hcrc should he no ^^rrat dispar v of a^e. — The reasons — llie " t hanjje of , fe. — Ke- — Frojuently unhapp'ness, and even sui- .oe. — Child marria^je. — No young man can aJTord tf) marr\ simply for money. — .\ woman is not less wortiiy Ifciauso she hxs money. — Mix your Jfeclioiis witli brains. —Marry your e(jual rather than your inferior or superior. — Choose a wtiman who is devout ami godly. — Von will \>c largely what your wife makes vou. — l]e judicious, 15^5-205 CIIAl'TKK XII. IMI'ORI ANCK OI' CRKAT CAUTION. Marriage is for life, and a tni.stake is irreparable, often fatal.—* )ne-third of all young women are uaciualilied ever to become wives or mothers. — I'hj rea.sons, false ideas of form, cruel and destructive fashion and pernicious eo ation. — The clothing of the body. — Tendency to insan- ity. — Sometimes not noticed until "change of life" occurs. — The wife will dominate and rule you in spite of yourself. — Powder and apparel often mislead. — Obtain the opinion of some di.sintertsted and sensible woman. — Do not despise a pretty face, but a healthy body and a loving heart are to be preferred. — A woman may meet the ordinary requirements of life, but fail in the great events which try men'.s souls. — Bound to a body of death. — Be warned by the sad experiences of .such men as Wesley, Fei^uson, Milton, Ruskin a d Robertson, — Most men what their wives make them. — What has been said has been not to discourage mar- riage, but to save from making a fatal mistake. — Thousands of men owe their success to the noble woman whom they call wife. — There are many noble women, .... 207-215 COyTESTS. xvU CHAPTER XIII. """^ EARLY AND I.ATK MARRIAOK. Many diflerent views.— Karly marriage to one means something entirely difTerent to another. —Child marriage in India.— Results seen in stature, intellect. — Some Norwegian cattle. Marriage in England. — The child wife loses bloom and vigor.— Healthy, robu.st children not bom to child-parents. -Marriage should wait on maturity.— As a rule the husband should be three years the senior of his wife.— 'l"he wife grows old more rapidly than the has- band. — Mo.st noticeable in advanced years. Reasons why marriage is often wisely deferred. — Dangers in the doctrine of early marriage. Nature and revelation teach that it was clearly intended that men and women should marry. — The man who declines to marry wrongs others. — Late marriages have their peculiar disadvantages.— After the age of thirty the habits become fixed.— Each must yield per- :^nal preferences for mutual benefits.— Proba- bilities of a happy marriage rapidly decrease after a man passes thirty year of age. — Study God's purposes and conform to them, . 21'; -2 26 CHAPTER XIV. WEDDINGS. Customs differ greatly. —Entrance upon real life. — Start aright. — Elaborate dressing and ex- pensive display.— The real purpose obscured and lost sight of, — The Hindoos. — The preparation for display by rich and poor attended with its own sad results. — The custom of giving wedding presents. — Pres- ents often selected for vain display rather than usefulness. — The presents often worth- less. — Bridal tours. — Their original inten- tion. — Retirement and quiet. — At present it is entirely different.— Question of expense. xviii cosTEyrs. — 'I'he liride nnd liridc's paron's to Mame for till- display nnd extravaj'ani •. — I lie tlfrjjy- inan's iec. — \Vfddiii(.'- and mticrals slutuld iitvLT l>c exjH,'n.sive. TAOm -'^7-2J3 ciiArri iv XV. IIINDKANCIS 1(1 liK AVDIDI'.D. A man "known ly tlu- company he keeps." — I (unpanions mould cliarai tor. — Many di-ttr- mined to have "af^ood time." — Wo hve Imt once, we should tlurcfore live wisely. — Those to he avoided. — Hie pro.ane, ilio .social drinker, the lil>ertine and the unbeliever. — Solomon's advice. — It holds potxl to-dav — Wasting; the evening; hours. — Sin busy in ,iie eveninj,'s. — The ni^jlit lifeof youii<; men. — The perils of the darkness. — Spt iid your even- inj^s with pmxl Uxiks. — Seasonable hours when calling. — Had bcKiks and lewd pictures. — "Light literature." — Frequently immoral. — The memory of obscene pictures. — Illus- tration. — Amusements. — I )ancing and the theatre. — Statement of a Roman Catholic Prelate. — The appeal to the sensual nature. — A frank ctmfession by a prominent woman. — The theatre appeals to latent passion. — The debasing influences on young men. — Here the senMial hiss at virtue and holiness and applaud licentiousness and vice. — Kxjmsures and pos- tures. — Debasement of the mind and lowering of the moral principles. — Card -playing and games of chance. — Gaming unfits for real life. — The gambler made by a process of gradual development. — Money exacted without giving an equivalent. — Intoxicating drink. — Famil- iarity renders the mind indifferent. — Money annually spent for alcoholic liquors. — Alcohol not a f(X)tl, but an enemy to the body. — An experiment. — Poisonous drugs used.— ihe ap- petite grows strong and the will weak. — Scenes at the Sunday Breakfast Association, COSTESTS. xiz — From a physical as well as a moral stand- point \)€ Aame.l ajjainst intoxicatinjj drink. — *' No drunkard can inht-rit the kingdom of (io'. — Have a purpose in life. — Aim high. — Have indomitable persever- ance. — Examples named. — Never he a.shamed of honest industry. — An industrious young man frefjuently outstrips the man known as a genius. — Early rising. — Doing well in little tilings. — The companionship of the wise and good. — Thev awaken the intellect and improve one's eritire manhood. — The companionship of pure- n.inded, noble women. — They «'xalt and in- spire. — Seek to acquire all the knowledge pos- sibli-. — Conversation, listening well. — Learn to think. — Good books. — \e\cr so cheap as to-day. — Among authors we can choose the companionship of the greatest and best. — The daily newspaper. — Works of fiction. — No young man can afford to read fiction before 25 years of age. — A vitiatetl taste results. — Read only the best. — Books of wise counsel. — Read only as much as you can read thor- oughly. — A college course recommei.Jed. — •' Remember the Sabiiath day to keep it holy." — Respect the Church. — Its influence stated. — The Uible commended to your thought. — The mo:-' wonderful book in the realm of literature. — Its purpose and scope. — Stronger after every assault.— Of all books this the best, and of all helps this the greatest. — ^ . xz COSTESTS. 1 like advantnpe o*" the fonnntivo years. — Vou laniir ' stand sti'l.— Value cvrry aiil that will lielp yovi onward in llie ri>,'lit diretlion. — l he .hanuter fonned here will » ontinuc to deveh)|) thr(>iiL;luiut all eternity.- -Two suuls UH)ki^^; . '. into eternity, . ' . . . . „/ji.28l PREFACE. To no man who is intelligent concerning the dangers wh:ch skirted his boyhoud-path and hung upon his seeps through the years of umolding manhood, and to no one who is in sympathy and in touch with the aspirations of those who are to-day vainly struggling to escape temptations and dangers, is any apology needed for the humble but serious effort we have un- dertaken in these pages. Any book which seeks to treat in a helpful way the subjects proposed in this volume re- quires that its author should be profoundly in love with men, and that he should be willing if necessary, to suffer the reproaches of those who blush not at the grossest sins which they commit in their ignorance, but who are ever readv to lift their hands in horror when attention is called to tne most sacrod laws which God has written deep in our physical nature. The man whose book is begotten of a love of gam, and whose pages secretly foster or un- wittingly inflame the lusts which the author professes to denounce, is devoid of the spirit of genuine philanthropy. Nothing short of an all- consummg love of his fellows, and a willing- ness to sacrifice and even to suffer reproach if that should be necessary, that God may 'be ! %\ BSS PREFACE. honored in the effort to hft up from vice and sin those whom in purity He h:is c tcated in His own hkeness and image, is a sufficient quahfication for such a task. No great work can be suc- cessfully u Icrtaken without money, but no undertaking hke this can be truly succesbful that is nndertaken for monjy. TliP laws which C.nt] has ordained for the right regulation of our sexual nature are as sa- cred as those which He has ordained for our moral government, and. if approached in the right spirit, the study of the one is no less im- portant than the other— indeed the right observ- ance of the moral law involves and includes an intelligent understanding and a strict adhe- rence to the laws which God has ordained for the government of our sexual nature. Under the Old Testament dispensation every divine provisif n was made for the intelligent regulation of the sexual system, both in men and women, and when Israel was statedly as- sembled for the reading of the law without omission and without reserve, no one rose up to declare these divine utterances either immodest or unnecessary, but men, women and children listened reverently while the law was read aloud to the assembled multitude. They were nurtured in these divine precepts from child- hood, so that young and old ahke might walk in the ways of understanding. These teachings have been expunged from our catechisms, but God does not on that account justify either our ignorance or our mock modesty upon these PREFACE xziii subjects, for the violation of the lavs of our sexual nature is signalized by pimishnunt as prompt and even more severe than that which attends the ignorance or w.lful violation of other laws of our being. Vca. when we look upon the pale faces, glassy eyes and emaciated torms of boys; when we see the unmistakable evidences of the lu.ts and diseases which mean death to the moral character and to the physical and intellectual powers of our young men- when we hear the moans of unsus' ecting wives and innocent c hildren who are the victims of inconsiderate, ignorant and vicious men,— I say when we comprehend these things, then we must also clearly understand how in this as in other matters. "God has ordained that every one shall know how to possess his vessel in sanctihcation and honor." Those who see what awful judgments men are bringing upon them- selves by their ignorance and sin will recognize that the blush belongs to those who, in culpable Ignorance or mock modesty, are silent, rather than to those who speak out upon these import- ant subjects in the fear of God. For God is pure, and surely no law which He has made has Its fou ndation in impurity. If with the contem- plation or study of His laws we associate impure thoughts, the fault is ours, and not His. God's thought of our sexual nature is pure, and there is no sufficient reason why ours should not and may not also be pure. To do this, we have only to think His pure thoughts after Him, in His own pure way. xxir PREFACE. As (mk! ( rcatcd Adam, so He inii^ht sepa- rately have ( rcatcd every oilier bcin^ in the w(.rld, l)ut the ^ rcator saw tit to crown man with creative or [irocreative power, and no man dare prostitute these sacred powers without doinjjsacrile^'e to himself, or hold this hi^^hand holy function of his nature in disrespect or dis- honor without offenn^j an insult to the infinite wisdom of ilim who has thus made man a co- creator with Himself. We trust we have been inspired by the same purpose which prompted Rev. Dr. John Todd, in 1854, to write the "Student's Manual." But when he wrote, public sentinrient was such that in his treatment of that portion of his subject which related to personal and social purity he felt it necessary to print in Latin the wise coun- sel which every student should have been per- iritted to translate from plainest English into daily living. No one who knew Dr. Todd would ever have thought of accusing him of lack- ing in courage, but that was at a time when uni- versal prudishness set up scarecrows to guard the fields where Satan found in profound igno- rance a fruitful soil for rich harve?ts of vice and immorality. That was at a tinie when the many victims of solitary and social vice, in their weaknesses and sore distresses, were abandoned by reputable physicians to a great and greedy horde of extortioners and impostors who fol- lowed in the wake of each generation in order to rob the heli)less and strip the si' in. Indeed, forty years ago even the ordinary medical prac- PJiF.F.iCE. XXT tit.onrr was i.ninf„rmccl. ignorant, not only 'P'- the subject of punty.lnu upon the repro iuctue organs and functions, ar.d the inn.enre of many phys.cans was strongly upon the side of viceandimmorahty. Hut we have come upon different times. The sandard of personal anu social puruy has been s-.,lyhfted higher and higher by Chnst-hk men and women, until now there is scarcely a general convention of Christian work >rs with any cons.derable program where the subject of puruy ,n some of its bearings is not considered and d.scusscd. Books and pamphlets are sent and" b ': ' W'^ ""'""^ Purit/organization and by the Woman's Christian Temoerance tn.on. but by some of the most ..fluential pub- l.shmg houses in this and other . uuntries. The grent Lndcavor Conventions are addressed upon hese subjects. Mothers gather in National Congress, the educational and redemptive work IS earned on by the Young Men's Christian As- sociation, and thousands in every section ofthe country are variously enrolled in some form or other of the White Cross and social purity movements. The time has come when men and women who fear God and love their fellows, if they have the talent to redeem plainness from vulgarity, will find respectful and attentive listeners in every community. _^ The kind reception which has been accorded \\ hat a \ oung Boy Ought to Know." the first volume in this educational series, leads us to nODe well for tKo ♦K^,..,l-» _. , . ii"> piCoCiiicu iji iiiese XXVI PREFACE. p.if^cs to more mature minds. Prominent mer\ atul wonu-n li.ive stolen from busy lives the necessary time to wiite lis words of cf)mmen- dation and «"iicoura};cmcnt, and one-third of all the orders rci eivcd have come from anx- ious mother^ and sisters — indeed the letters re- ceived from grateful parents and appreciative readers since publishinjj the first book have been the source of more pleasure than any other single event in the author's life. May He, without whose favor every human etfort fails cf usefulness, own and bless these pages to the good of those who are the hope of the nation, of the present age, and of genera- tions yet unborn. Sylvanus Stali. rhiladflphia. Pa. WHA. A YOUNG MAN OUGHT TO KNOW. CHAITER I. EQUIPMENT FOR LIFE. In all the history of the world there never was a grander period in which to live than the pres- ent. Never before wns there so much to . n- JSter to physical comfort, to healthful recreation The fruits of all climes, the products of all na- tions, and ihe resources of the whole earth we-e never before bid at the feet of man in such abundance as now. Good books and inspiring influences were never befor- so abundant as to- day. Institutions of learnin-, colleges, univer- sities are all open to rich and poor alike. The same is true also in commercial and professirnal life. While crowded in their earlier beginninjrs yet the highest, noblest and best they have to bestow were never before offered in such abun- dance as to-day to those who have the physical intellectual and moral endowment for their at' tamment. The Church and the State, indeed all the walks and departments of life, are open (21 ) 2i ^IIA r A vary (J u.is onmr 7» Avoir as never hcfo.e to yourvj rn-n ui huun .,n>. The vvorl.l has alwiys wr>r^hif)i)C(! sUcw-xh The Kre.itness of k.nK sic.il must ever ( on^fitute in in- dispensable fouiulation, \et that whu h (hstin- guibhcs and crowns man is not found in his u\ s- ical nature. Many of .lie animals are sf: than man. Kven the ox surpa-^.rs hun in :4reiigth. tlie birds rise above him and surpass him in ni.i,'ht, the eye of the ea-!c i, Mipcri.,. lo that of mm, the I)ce surpasses him in ituhistry. and even the little ant has always been to him* an example of tireless perseverance. To us. however, the noblest and grandest thing in the world is a young man in all the vigor and buoyancy of manhood, and v ith all the promise of long life and great usefi:' ess before him. The young man with broad shoulders and dee[) chest, with s'-ong muscles and intel- lectual forehead— a veritable son of Cod— is to us the grandest object in the entire world. That which elevates man and places him next to his Creator in the sca'e of being is found in the factth.it God created man in His own image. Cod gave him irtelligence. gave him a moral sense and a spiritual nature, and these elevate him immeasurably above all other creatures of God's hand. Withou' these he is not qualified to rule over all the lower forms of crcition, but hi3 intellectual moral and spiritual endowments Hi 24 WHAT A YOISG if AN OIGIIT TO LWOW make him the rightful lord of creation, and no creature can successfully resist his dominion. Man's highest culture is found in the symmet- rical development of his threefold nature— the physical, intellectual and spiritual. Nothing can be done which would injure or impair any* one of these without injury to the other two. To ne- glect the intellectual and moral nature, and de- velop only the physical, is only productive of pure brute force, while upon the other hand any- thing which tends to destroy the best develop, ment of the physical man undermines and oft- times overthrows both the Intellect and the moral nature. When a boy gives himself up to self-pollution, or a man yields to the allure- ments of vice, he not only saps the foundation of physical power, but the very earliest symp- tom of his sad mistake and serious sin is found in his perverted moral sense. His moral nature is the very first to suffer, and the first symptom of his sin is insubordinatirn to parents, rebel- lion against God, hostility to the Bible, the Church, and presently to everything that is sacred and good. The subsequent effect is seen in his weakened intellectual powers, and if the individuid persists in a course of excess and sin, the eventual result is imbecility, and oft- times insanity. Therefore any treatment upon the subject of sexual science which fails to recognize the lela- tion of the intellectual and moral to the highest well-being of the physical nature must be^'par- tial, misleading and thoroughly unreliable, and WDATA YOVNQ MAN OUOHT TO KNOW. 35 those who fail to bring to boys and men who have been brought under the dominion of self- pollution and sin the assistance which is to be found in the proper quickening of the intellec- tual and moral nature, must fail of any consid- erable success or permanent good. Our sexual nature was given to us for the wisest and most beneficent purposes, and it is only when per- verted or when permitted to dominate over the higher intellectual and moral natures that it becomes a source of evil instead of blessing and good. God made us to live in our higher moral and intellectual nature. It was never in- tended that the lower should rule over the higher. If there is an insurrection in the lower nature, the appeal must be to the higher, to that in us which is kingly and superior. That our teaching upon this subject is correct was beautifully illustrated in a lecture delivered some years ago before a booy of theological stu- dents by the eminent Doctor Parker, of New York. In speaking of the body he compared the head to the citadel of a great castle, where its lordly proprietor looks out over his vast do- main ; the chest, the upper part of the body, he compared to the living-room of the palace, where the impoitant affairs of the household are transacted ; the stomach to the kitchen, where that which is to minister to the sustenance and strength of the body is prepared ; and the lower offices of the body he compared to that portion of the house which is set apart for the laundry and the duties of the scavenger. It ia 26 WIIA T A rO iWO MAN O i'UU T TO KSO W. the man in the citadel, and not the scavengers in the hnvest departments of the palace, who is to rule, and yet this latter condition results in every human body where the individual sur- renders his moral and intelleccual nature to the domination and control of the physical or sexual. Our position upon this matter is further illus- trated by an incident which took place in the lecture-room at one of the clinics in the medical department of the University of Maryland while the writer was pastor of an adjoining church in the city of Baltimore. One day an anx- ious father came with his son to obtain the judgment ofone of the pro lessors, who was also one of the most eminent physicians of the city, upon the question of the intellectual capacity of one of his children. After discovering that the child had the sense of hearing, the father was asked two questions : " Does your child recog- nize the value of money?" to which the father replied in the negative. The other question was " Does your child pray.?" The father re- plied that the child could not pray, for he did not speak. To illustrate his meaning the physi- cian said, " When you have piayers at home, or when in Sunday-school or church, does your child kneel down, clasp his hands, raise his face towards heaven, or in any other way place him- self in an attitude of prayer?" T reply was in the negative. After dismissing the parent with his child, this eminent physician turned to his class of three hundred students and said : WUA T A Yo i-ya M.iy o djur to kwo w. 27 "Younj^ gentlemen, the absence of these two qualities, the one intellectual and the other moral, are clear indications of idiocy, and the absence of either one makes the sanity of a child a question of grave doubt. The recognition, in children, of the money-v;iIue you may already have observed, but it is equally true that every sane human being born into the world is en- dowed witti a moral nature, and to pray is as natural to a child as the desire for food." If these statements had been heard from the pulpit they might not have seemed authoritative or impressive, but coming from a learned professor while lecturing to a large class of medical stu- dents, they assuredly are both weighty and valuable. In the writing of these pages, let it be under- stood, that while we have not set ourselves to the preparation of a series of moral homilies, yet to ignore the intellect or to pass by the moral nature without giving them the consideration and prominence which God has assigned to them in the constitution of man would both manifest our unfitness to write to young men upon that which relates to their highest sexual and physical well-being, and would make us false to the conviction which has steadily in- creased with our investigations of these sub- jects, as well as make us a traitor to God and the teachings of His Word, Let it, therefore, be clearly understood in the beginning that the physical ruin of no young man can be fully accomplished until the moral 28 WUAT A YOVSa MAN OIGUT TO KSOW. nature has been dethroned md debased and the intellectual power has been denied tlie right to reign and rule. Any man who will enthrone his moral nature and give the sceptre of ^;ov. ernment to the intellectual powers has taken that precaution which will save him from soli- tary and social sins, or, if previously brought under the dominion of these wicked practices, the redemption of his body, the recovery of his manhood, and his eventual salvation both for time and eternity may be regarded as reasoiv- ably assured. CHAPTER II. PEi; JNAL PURITY. The injunction, •• Keep thyself pure," is woithy to have been repeated to every genera- tion of young men, since it was written to Timothy by the great Apostle more than eigh- teen hundred years ago. The young man who undertakes to keep himself pure will find his task is not to be accomplished without a struTgle. A young man who is brought into the world with a well-balanced body will find that the sexual passions and propensities will assert themselves with such vehemence and vigor that if they are not to be permitted to dominate and control, but are to be kept under and made to occupy their appointed subordinate place, they will require that he should have set- tied principles, a firm purpose and a strong will. God has made no mistake in giving us a strong sexual nature. I would not take away fr 'm any young man, if I could, his sexual in- tensity > rob him of the most manly, healthy development of his sexual nature. Sexuality has been strongly marked in all the great men who have risen to eminence in all departments of hfe. Without it man would be mean, selfish, sor- did and ungracious to his fellow-men and uncivil / or^ \ • ~J I I> I 30 1,7/., T A YorsG MAS OiGlIT TO K'XOW. to wom.nkind. Were it not for this nature which C.0CI has .mphntccl.n our bcin,,. no man would de-e to provKlc for the support of another indi v.dual. or enter into a relation whi. h wou M I'kely .mpose upon him the necessity of ..ppo -. a fam,ly of dependent and growm^ch - dren No man becomes affable, .^racious ad onsulerate to women unt.1 he .rendered so by the awakenmff of his sexual nature and the qu.cken.n„^ of that within him. which, when he d under proper disciphne and control, rende s him noble and unselfish renders him'inthrd''V''"'""^^°"^"^^^--^^ h m m tho development of that which is high- h^s^^U^^^^^^^ 'temascu- .ues either men or animals to despoil them of n7nr;"rV"^"" by mutilating o'r remoWn,! any part of their reproductive organs If a man - thus mutilated when he is yo u'n, he becomes a creature which is repellant to me^n and abhor- rent to women. His body is without manliness h..s mind IS without ambition, his life is without' a purpose, and he walks the earth loathing him self and despised by all who are normall^o" Cod has made no mistake in giving man a strong sexual nature, but any young man m" ! .1 fatal mistake if he allows the sexual to uomi! nate. to degrade and to destroy that which is h'.^hest and noblest in his nature. Fven the cnort to bring the sexual nature into subject on >s a discipline which develops force of character and a sense of manly strength and victory. If WUAT I yoiWO MAy Oi-GIIT TO hWOW. 31 you feel that the stru^jjle is a fierce one let me say to you. as Paul said to the younjj men at Connth, " Ouit you like men ; be strong." Hut if you feel like most young men are likely to el. that your struggle is more fierce th n that •n which others are enga^^ed. then let me say to you as this same Apostle said to those voluptu- ous Corinthians more than eigUtcen hundred years ago, '■ There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man ; but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able, but will with the temp- tation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it." That the battle is fierce with many is mani- fest by the fact that thousands are in the vilest servitude to lust. In some senses they may be said to have succeeded in life, but they are in subjection to their vilest self. Alex- ander wept because there were no more worlds to conquer, while he had not yet con quered himself; Napoleon vanquished nearly the whole of Europe, while in his own charac ter he was conquered by his insatiable ambi- tion. These men were masters of millions of others, but they were not masters of themselves Bidel, the famous French lion-tamer, who often went mto the cage face to face with untamed beasts fresh from the forest, says: " The brutes are afraid of ni, because they see I am not afraid of them. To mastrr the.e brutes I have to be- gin by being complete master of myself." Let it be distinctly understood from the first 32 ttllA T A lOi-yg MAX OUGHT TO h'SOW. that no nan who desires to keep his body pure and lus rc-crd clean can expect to succeed if h.^ thoughts, his speech. his.maKinat.on and his heart are Idled with corruption and cvd. Whde no man can totally exch.de cvd thouuhts from h.s tiimd. yet he n,akcs a ^'rave mistake when he harbors and fosters them. Thoi.^rhts of evd enter th. mind as easily a. , >rms of disease are taken into our bodies with the food we e il and are inhaled into the lun^s with the air we breathe. Ih.t in a stronj,^ healthy body, these germs of disease arc killed by the overmaster- ing power of the vital forces; but where the standard of vitality is not sufficiently hi.h these germs of disease find lodgement in conge- nial sod and engender in the body the diseases which beget death. No one can evade or es- ( -pefrom these germs of disease, but they are not suffered to live and propagate in the body oi a healthy person. Or. -o illustrate in another way. weeds will grow of themselves in any soil without being sown. ,he fanner is not to blame because there are weeds in his field, but he is to blame .f he allows the weeds to take possession of the field, rhe strr igth of their growth may even attest the richness of- the soil, but the farmer who plows his field and sows it with good seed IS master of the soil. When the harvest comes •t w,ll not be an ingathering of weeds, but of wheat. The trouble is not so much that evil is suggested to the mind, but that the thou-ht is harbored and is permitted to remain sufficrently W7/.: T A YOVSQ ii^y Oi-OUT TO A'AO w. 33 Jon.Mo uelrome other ev.l thou.^hts. until lust >sconccMv.cl.uhichbrin;,^s forth s,n. lobe pure in »'ody and in life one must be pnre.n m.nd. Perhaps .othin, contribute! more to the detile.nent o. the , ., than 1^ rcad.n,. of .mpure books. The Society for the Suppres.on of VUe has been able to accom Pl.sh much m the destruction of Vic e-en^ender- .nKhterature. but there are hundreds of books ssued every year by otherwise reputable pub- ■sh.n^houses. the characters of which are in. erestrng to the reader, only because they ap- peal to h,s sensual nature, and all unconsciously o many, the.r minds are defiled, their imaging-' ^on polluted, their v.rtue overthrown. andThe'r bod^s debauched. There are books that I.e exposed .n the houses of respectable people he .nnuence of which upon the life and upVn he thought .s to sap the vital forces of the bocly" for the results they effect are the same in kind as masturbation and self-pollution, and from wh.cn the.r results differ only in degree Z even masturbation and self-defilement maybe practiced m the mind while the mechanical processes are not perpetrated upon the body The physical, intellectual and moral effects however, are of the same kind, even lacking bu; ndsv ",'"'•• '^"^^''^PP-' to theamftive and sexual nature .s so universal in novels thit .t might safely be laid down as a rule ttt no young men or young women should be permit- tec to read a novel before they arrive at the age oftwemy-hve. There are so many good books 'u m 34 nilAT A roL\\() MA.\ OriillT TO KSOW. in the world, and so mu. h win. h need, to he learned, that no yoiiiiK man or yoiin^j woman ran afford to s.jiMndcr his .)r her time and o|>- portiinities in rcadin-j a novel until they have l.iid a foundation broad and deep, iiavc culti- vated a tahtcfor that which in tlie development of character and the acqu.sitiun of knowledKc- is indispensable. If books of thi^ best tlass are not read tirst, durinj 'he formative years, and a taste acquired. the> will never be read after novel-readinj; has once been bo;,tin. and the perverted taste has been cuhivated and devcU oped. The writer ma'- be thou^'ht by some t-i oc- cupy extreme views upon this subject, bi.t look- in^' back over an ex[)crience of nearly fifty years, and a larj^'c acquaintance w ith men in all departments of life, he thinks that lie can hon- estly say that he has never known an individ- ual, either man or woman, whether in the j,'os- pel ministry or out of it, who has been given to the readir.-of novels, who has not been pe-cep- tibly weakened either in his intellectual and moral powers, or in both. While he knows some men who have attiinedsomc prominence in the pulpit who are given in some degree to novel-reading, yet he does not know one such clerical novel-reader who is not far beneath his opportunity anu privilege, and below the emi- nence which it would have been possible for him to have attained if he had fed his mind upon fact instead of fancy, if he had made the real and the actual the subjects of his thought »•//.< T A YO I .Su MA S oruilT TO K'SO W. 35 andjhe l,a.is for h.s judgments and conclu- N"t only is the mind ,0 \^ Kept pure b„t tf>e .maKUMt.cn must be carefully "nt' Turn away f,o,n obscene pictures as yo. vould from the most loathsome contagion ihc ■n uence of an obscene p,cture is contaminat n..and,,seMec.s are deceptive and des J. ^e The mfluence of vicious putures often '-His to dhct sexual mdul.ence phm;,os the -happy v.ctim into a l,fe of vice, and .^hn drcds and thousandsof cases terminates in dis- eases wh.ch are far-reaching in the.r results upon the inoffensive and innocent as well as in hc,r terrible physical and moral enec-:;:: Ilani.h from y„„r room an.' your possession all .hotographs and pic,„r« whether know. , works of art or shielded under some similarly dcccpuve and euphonious ,i,le, b„e wh.ch a^ ncverlhcless ■■ nude and nas.y," and which con^ seciuen.ly be^-et impure » those into whose ears the vile thoughts arc |)o.h.-.|. I here are tncn who v^ouUl «'vc thuuvind, of dollars if they had tiot seen some obscene picture whi. h has sf) photo- Kraphed itself upon the nnnd that it refuses to be » htcated. or has become animalr.j .,nd qiiirkened into an almost ever-present thouKht or d.miin int passion. So there arc those in whose memory the rerolle. tio.. of a vile story lives, clinKinjr to the very f.bre of their bein>j. refusinK to be banished from the ihouKht or ob^ )iterated frorti the merrory. If you would " F-lee youthful lust "you should also flee from those who are lustful in their thou^-hts. their lives or iheir speech. Avoid and Hee from impurity, whether it be of that which is loathsome to the eye. abhorrent to the thought, or degrading to the imp. :i nation. Close your ears to the cor. rupting influences of vile stories which arr; so effeciivcly plumed with wu and pointed with fancy that they pierce and poison the very soul c 'bought anil character. ^e young man who desires to be pure in life mu, also b careful about the purity of his blood. No., an can eat pork, at least to any considerable amount, without perceptibly pois- oning lis blood. Numerous forms of skin dis- ease are easily traceable to the eating of pork, both fresh and cured, in the many forms of sau- sage, pudding, han and bacon. But some peo- ple say if pork is not to be eaten, then why was it created } The hog, like the hawk and the crow, IS a scavenger. He was created to eat nilA T A rni.y , ,v^.V OVGlir 10 A'.VOM . 37 »h.it whu h 15 loathHome, and whi< h. if n<.t dc stroyed. would cndan^'cr our I.ve. hv cxpoMnL; us t" infection and leath. Where there are no fa- ciht.Mfor the destruction of Ka-baj-e h, ^,re.t furnac C3 such as are ere. ted in the subuih, of 1-jrye cities, swine may serve a useful oftkc in the consumption of Karba^-e gathered from large areas. (;arb.i-. however, should be con- Mimed. and this can easily be done by burninn .n the stoves an '. furnaces in the abodes where It IS accumulated. Hut even where swine are kept to consume the refuse, there is no reason why the flesh of these scavengers should after- wards become a form of ^ood for human beings. The great basis, however, for moral purity is to be found in the human heart. The unregen- crated heart is utterly at enmity not only against (^od. but against e-erything that is noblest purest and most God-Jike in human nature.' Many do not so regard it. but " the heart " by nature " is deceitful above all things, and desper- ately wicked." It is not only without faith in (.od. but IS also without faith in humanity. No man has a reasonable basis for permanent per- ^onal punty until he has a pure heart. The natural heart "is at enm.iy against God. is not subject to the law of God. neither indeed can be. This wicked heart of stone must he taken out of our flesh, and God must give uc a r-w heart. " a heart of flesh.*' We must be bcm of God. we must have th.it regenenttion of the Holy ( -.host of which Christ spake to Nicodemus when, in answer to the inquiry of Nicodemus' 3^ »'hA TAYO UNG MAN UGHT TO KWO W. •• How can a man be born when he is old ?" Jesus said, " That which is born of the flesh is flesh ;^ and that ^hich is born of the Spirit is spirit." And when Nicodemus desired to know more fully concerning this second birth, or this rtgencration by the Spirit of God— to him it was a myst ry. He did not understanc' spiritual matters. Like thousands of other honest in- quirers he was in search of hgh^-Jesus said to him. " The wind bloweth where itlisteth, and thou hearest the sound thereof, but canst not tell whence it cometh, and whither it goeth. So is every one that is born of the Spirit." Or, to express this change in our own lan- guage, we would say it is like as when you look out of the window and you say that the wind is blowing from the north. Nov y.,u cannot see the wind, but you can see the effects of the wind. You can see the dust and the leaves and the straw which are driven before the wind, and therefore you say that the wind is blowing from the north, because it is driving the dust and leaves, and straw towards the south. After a time you look out of the win- dow, ana you say that it is south wind. How do you know that the wind is blowing from the 3outh ? You cannot see the wind, but you see the effeets of the wind ; you see ;he straws, and the leaves and the dust, that are now driven before it in the opposite direction ; therefore you say that the wind is changed. Just so it is with evpry one who is born of the Spirit. You can- not see the Spirit. He comes into a man's I WHAT A YOiya MAS' OUGHT TO KSOW. 39 heart and into a man's life, and makes of him a new creature in Christ Jesus. At one time you look out upon his life and conduct, and you see that he is worldly and selfish, given perhaps to lust and vice, and that he hates God, that he despises His Word, that he avoids the Church and all that is good and pure, and so ycu judge correctly from these outward manifesta- tions that the influen which prevail witliin his heart are unrighte. .s, that ne has not been born of the Spirit. But after a tim you lock out upon this man's life a^.u conduct again, and you see that there has been wrought a great change. Instead of hating spiritual things, despising God's message, and speaking contemptuously of the Church and godly people, he now wor- ships God, reads His Word, attends regularly upon the servi.es of the Church, and leads an u^iright Christian life. These changes are named by Christ as the evidence that that man hac been the subject of this mysterious and transforming power of God. Now you did not see the Holy Spirit when He came into this man's heart, but you have observed the out- ward results which have been manifested in his life ; therefore you say that that man has been regenerated, that he has been born of the Spirit. He might be able to tell just when that change occurred, and, again, he might not be able to tell the day, the month, or even the year when the change occurred. That the change has taken place there is no shadow of doubt in his own mind or in the minds of those who know 40 WHAT A rovyo MAy OUOUT TO KSOW U' h.m. Swch .s the change of heart to which a t;::""'^"'^°^^'^^ --^f- whence say that no man can be permanentlv pure in hs thought and lif. without having a pur'e heart as the basis for that purity. Word'of r".''^ 'r "°^ °"ly-ritten in the Word of God. but they are also written deep down .n our nature. The instinct of the soul is to reach out after God. just the same as t^e plant which ,s placed by the window reaches ouc after the light. It soon bends over toward he w dow and if you turn the plant around so that ,t bends mward toward the room it will na ural ' ^\'^ '"" ""'^ >-°" ^'" ^^^ ^^at the natural reachmg out of the plant after the sun- -ght has bent u over again toward the window So you may seek to turn your mind and you naturanT'""? ?°'' '"^ ^^^^ -" ^-^ ou nat^urally toward the divine light o. the Son of If you were a frequent visitor in the crowded wards of some large hospital, and were observ- ral V th^" "T^ ''" """^^ '^"'^ how natu- ral y these pale faces, as with a common im- j« fj, • -• ^"^ reason is written ^tanding They do so naturally, they do not kno„ .h So there ^s a „„iversa! in'tinct o the soul that turns the face of e^-ery sin-sick mortal toward the light of divine truth, toward the Sun of R.ghteoosness. But how many are WHA TAYO UNO MAN 10 HT TO KNO W. 4 1 to-day unhappy simply because in their nature deeper down than their understanding, there is a longing and a reaching out after God and Heaven and .nrred things, while at the same time, m w.cked rejection of their Saviour, they are turning their faces away from Christ, the hght of the world. Next after the grace of God. perhaps no other earthly influence is more salutary and helpful to the young man who is struggling for punty of thought and life than the influence of a pure-minded, noble and inspiring woman. The companionship, or even the acquaintance of some women is not helpful to a young man who is struggling for mastery over his lower nature. Some women, although not im- pure in their lives, are yet impure in their hearts Amative by nature, voluptuous in form, and with a predominating sensuality, the>' inspire impure thoughts and arouse the most'dormant sexual nature. But these conditions are not found among the majority of women. As a rule, they are by nature chaste, pure-minded and when their hearts are endued by divine grace and their lives are brought under the sway of refimng and religious influences, if they are not rendered frivolous by society or empty- headed by novel-reading, their companionship and acquaintance is more than likely to prove helpful and inspiring to a yourg man. Associa- tion with women who are pure in heart and noble m life is never anything but inspiring and elevating. 42 WHAT A Yovsa MAS oral IT Hj ksow. When a man loves a woman who ., pure and queenly, and when he sets up f.)r himself the same standards of moral and personal pur ^ whic!\ he sets up for her, he has thrown around himself one of the surest and strongest of hu- man safeguards. No man can possibly make a greater mistake than to set up two standards of virtue, one for men and the other for women. The problem of social purity will never be solved so long as women condone in men the sin whi h would consign one of their own sex to the eternal ob- loquy and endless ostracism which is heaped upon a woman who goes wrong. The measure which is meted to women should also be meted to men. A moral leper, regardless of sex, de- serves to be ostracized and banished. This deceptive and destructive double-stand- ard of morality is a relic of barbarism, and its history and character need but to be known in order to understand both its injustice and its ruinous consequences. In her booklet, " Al- most a Woman,'* Mrs. Mary Wood-Allen, M.D., writes of its origin as follows : " Many, many years ago men bought their wives, or took them by force from others, so they felt that they ojvned their wives. Of course, each man liked to feel that his wife was above reproach, that she really did belong to him, therefore he held any lack of fidelity as a great sin against himself. But he did not think that he belonged to her. She had neither bought nor captured him, so she had no power WHA TAVO Uya J/^l.V UOIIT TO KSO W. 43 over him, except such as she could gain by her fascinations. " Naturally, he did not care to be bound by the same rigid ideas to which he held bcr. lie felt himself free to do what fancy indicated. The general level of morals was low. so he fol- lowed the pleasures of sense, and the wife could only submit, or try to be more fascinat- ing to him than any one else. But if he were great and inlluential or handsome, and were not bound by any moral restraints, there would be other women desirous of gaining his atten- tions and the material comforts he might be able to give, and he would quite willingb think himself free to follow his fancy without censure. In this way has grown up the double moral standard, the pure woman holding herself to the strictest morality, and men imagining themselves not so sternly held to the narrow path of absolute purity. "Women are not now slaves, bought as wives and rated for their personal charms alone. They have intellectual power and moral force and social influence, and they can, if they will, create the single moral standard,' that is the one high ideal for both men and women." In "What a Young Girl Ought to Know," the same author shows in a very clear and simple manner why the same moral standards are for both men and women : " We are souls, living in and expressing our- selves through bodies, and it is as souls that 44 WHAT A YOVNQ MAS OVQHT TO KSOW. our condi;'-t is to be judged. What one soul does is of just as much importance as what any other soul does. It is in God's sijjht no less a hideous sin for boys to swear or be im- pure than for girls, for God looks at us as souls. He knows that the body does only what the soul prompts it to do. It is not the body that is guilty. The body does not lie or swear. It is the soul that expresses itself through the or- gans of speech. The body is in itself not vile, but the soul, tainted with vile thoughts and evil desires, moves the body to do its bidding. The body is our home. Does the style or house one lives in change the quality of his deeds 1 Is it any less sinful for the person who lives in a gray house to steal than for one who livej in a white house ? We would think it a strange way to judge of conduct to say, 'Oh, Mr. L. may steal and lie. He lives in a gray house, and it is the nature of people who live in gray houses to do that way ; but Mr. A. ought not to steal or lie for he lives in a white house, and it is ex- pected that those who live in white houses should be honest and upright.' We would know at once that the i^-ind or color of the house makes no difference, has no effect on the quality of his conduct. " This is just as true in regard to our bodily dwelling. One soul lives in the body of a man, another lives in the body of a woman, but both are souls, and one is just as much responsible for right conduct as the other. Therefore there is no more ■.xcuse for a man doi ^ wrong WHAT A YOISQ MAS OlOUT TO KNOW. 45 than for a woman doing wrong. (*od's law is the bamc for both." One of the greatest safeguards of a virtuous young man is intelhgence. Virtue based upon intelligence is always safer than innocence based upon ignorance. We have not used the word "knowledge," because that might imply that a young man was to obtain knowledge by experience. Such an acquisition would be both expensive and ruinous. Intelligence can be ac- quired without much expense, either of money or effort, and without any ruin. We think it might safely be said that a large percentage of /oung men who begin a life of vice are led into it because of ignorance and a desire for infor- mation. What they have hea.-d concerning women has awakened their curiosity ; vile stories and corrupting books and suggestive pictures have quickened the imagination, and, conscious of profound ignorance, they undertake to secure by experience what they have found themselvesunabletoacquire in a proper manner. Many of the books professing 10 give information and to be helpful to young men have been writ- ten by those who are themselves corrupt ; the information imparted is false, the influence per- verting, and the design of the author is to work upon the imagination of his reader, and to alarm many without cause, in order to effect the sale of his nostrums and secure a large number of young men who will suffer themselves to be imposed upon and robbed, to their own discom- fiture and the enrichment of the author. 4oks cannot be fully understood until the earlier books in the series have been thoughtfully read. The information which they contain is printed in separate volumes, so that persons in different periods of life can have in a sej arate Ixiok such information as is suited to their per- sonal needs. I'very man -liould have the information which is contained in the book to boys, but boys do not need the book to young men until some time after they have passed the age of p.iberty ; and no young man needs the information in the book to young hus- bands until after he is twenty years of age. The Vir Publishing Co. can also furnish lists of tracts, pamphlets and books issued by the American Purity Alliance, the White ^ross, the Woman's Chris- tian Teniperarice Union and others who publish pure literature upon sexual questions. niLlTA iOVSa Jit AS' 0(0 JIT TO A'.VOIJ'. 47 rioiis bodies of ours, and without havinjjhis re- spect and admiration hei-htcncd for every pure- minded and n()l)le woman to whom C.nd has given hfe and being. Kvery man who knows the real nature of a pure woman will adore and desire to protect her. rather than be moved to sexual pas.ion l)y thought of her. and he will desire also to lift her to a throne and to crown her with honor and sceptre her with love. No truly intelligent man will desire to debase a pure woman with vile lust, to trample her vir- tue beneath his feet, and degrade her to the level of the brute. The question of personal purity is one of greatest importance to every young man. What the individuals are. that the state will be. As a patriot and as a lover of humanity you owe it to others that you should yourself be pure. Vou owe it to your parents, to your business asso- ciates and to all who respect and trust you, that you should be pure. The age demands men who are pure from head to foot, from heart to brain. But it is important also that you should realize that by your conduct you are developing or de- basing character. What you do is determining what yo 1 shall be, both in this world and in the ne.xt. If. as you should, you expect purity in the dear, sweet girl whom you hope some day to claim as your bride, you should remem- ber that all you desire to find in her she has an equal right to expect and to demand of you. If she is to be noble and pure, then you should also be noble and pure. 48 nilAT A YOlSO MAN OUOUT TO KSOW. Hut thcic is I. .1 ther thin^j to he seriously remcinlc ?*... \, you are in your own life, that yu' children after you are most likely to become. If you arc vicious, you are making it easy for your chiklren to be vicious after you ; lilt if you are ]nnc .i" | u^*^'.^'*<\ you will be makinj^ it ea;^ier for them to be pure and up- riKht. If we have ourselves inherited bad ten- dencies, we owe it to those w ho are to come after us that these vicious tendencies snail tind in us such a resolute determination and such an in- vincible purpose that the stren^jth of these ten- dencies shall be broken, so that the children who come after us shall inherit opportunities and endowments such as we ourselves have never enjoyed. What the br.ive patriot does who dies with his face toward his country's foe, that let us accomplish in our lives for the children who are to bear our names after us either in re- proach or honor. Henry Ward Beecher wisely said that since so much depends upon blood, every person should exercise great caution in the selection of his grandfather, and the stat#' ment is suggestive. CHAPTER III, PHYSICAL WEAKNESS The younff man who finds that hi, physical power, .re weak, owes it to himself to in.piro a once into the cause. Physical weakness '"a> be. and oftentimes is. inherited; but even .nhcr.te.. weakness can .generally he measur- ably overcome. Hy consultation w.th his fam- ly Phys.c.,m. and by the readm,^ of good hooks on hyg.ene and physical culture, a young man '"ay acquire an intelli.^cnt understanding of J"s own physic! needs, and so modify his diet and direct his efforts and exercise as to effect a great modification of his inherited weakness and sometimes by care and perseverance even to acquire a strong bodily vigc and en- joy a long l.fe of uninterrupted good health. Indeed, in an extended period of close ol.ser- vation the writer has been impressed w.th the fact that, of the men who die before thev reach the age of thirty years, the majority are of those who have been gifted by nature with the be>t physical endowments. It is often said that it is th • bc.t swimmers who are most frequently drowned. They venture they take risks, they oftentimes become fooN hardy, and drowning is f equently the result. ibe same is true of young persons po-.essed 4 Ad 50 WHAT A rot SO MAS OIGHT TO KSOW. of greatest physical endowments. With a sen^e of jjreat bodily vi^cr the/ fail to become intelli^'ent upon the subject of hy^'ienc and heahh, they ncj^'lect to cultivate or even to care for their physical powers, they expose them- selves to rolds, become irregular m their habits, ijjnore and defy all laws of health, and ( (in-ic qnently oftenest fill early graves. The mm who has a comparatively weak body, ami whose 1 nysical powers are not much above the avera^;r if he has learned hew to take : of his health, and how to develop hib p ') .ical powers, has a fairer chance for lonj^ life and fjood health than the man who has the l.irjjest natural endowment, but who, because of ignor- ance, unknowingly violates or openly defies all the laws of health. Where physical weakness has not been in- herited it has oftentimes been acquired, and sometimes is even self-inflicted. Too often the food is rich and indigestible, sometimes it is un- wholesome, and not infrequently it is rendered thoroughly indigestible by improper cooking. Three meals should be taken daily, separated by intervals of not less than fivt hours. The hours for eating should be observed with care- ful regularity, and no food should be taken be- tween meals. If, within a period of two or three hours alter eating, food ii taken into the stomach, that which was eaten at the previous meal, and is well advanced in the processes of digestion, is arrested in its preparation for the intestines by having fresh and undigested •»"/^r^ror"-/;,v^> va^T to asow. j. food poured into t narh »n t Another cause of physical weakness is often found in the rhanrfrr «- »k " secured A , „ '^"^^ °'^ '''^ quantity of sleep poHer. arc not overworked, will jrenerallv re Mu.re aoout ei,.ht hours of sleep The w ^c Sn •X'/''^^^'^^'"^'^P^>-^- ^-ep.w.Ubescns.bleenouK^htotakea. Fver' !■' nentimcs to e.xhaustin^^ and even debas- '"^' ^^"^usement and recreation. Lnles you are naturally a very lazy person, v.: t/;4 5 i wnA T A YO UNG MAN 1 « IIT TO KSO W. likely to take more sleep than your constitution requires ; but always remember that lazily ly- inj; in bed in the morning is not sleeping. It is a pretty safe rule to sleep or to remain in bed only so long as you can sleep soundly. At all times also remember that the first hours of the night are more rich in physical invigorc^tion and healthful benefits than the hours after mid- night, and get up promptly in the morning when you awake. Restlessness or sleeplessness during the night is always a bad symptom, whether the individual be regarded either as sick or well. Your sleep should be sound, and not broken. It should not even be unduly disturbed by dreams. If you suffer from nightmare, have the sense of falling, or have dreams in which the events are full of pcrple.xity and cau?e great mental anxiety during sleep, ycu may be assured that your stomach contains some undigested and possibly indigestible food, which was eaten at the evening meal or during t>>e day, and yoti should carefidly set yourself to discover what that article of diet is. It is possible that yjur stomach may be able to digest meat ea*en in the evening but there are many stomachs which will not digest meat taken at the evening meal, and consequently it must lie in the stomach, where it will be sure to set up irri- tation, and cause discomfon when awake ana unrest when ycu atte: .pt to sleep. The stomachs of some people will not digest fish, some refuse to receive milk and appropriate it. v'liAT A i'ovya iiAy ouuut to Kyoiv. 53 Rich pastry is always injurious, and to some stomachs fruit and especi.dly bananas give sub- setjucnt uneasiness if taken in the latter portion of the day. if at any time your sleep is troubled and broken, rest assured there is always some ade- quate cause, and you should lose no time in de- termining what it is. Generally it will be found in the character or quantity of the food eaten during the waking hours whicn preceded. Every young man should learn to be observant of the effects of what he eats. When you suffer from headache, or feel weak or worthless, or without animation or ambition, there is some cause for it, and you will usually find that cause by a careful review of the past twenty-four hours, or at least of the forty-eight which have preceded. No young man can afford to sleep on feath- ers, nor beneath them, either. The custom, in the country, or s'eeping either on feathers or under feather-beds, while seeming very desir- able or essential on account of comfort, because of the intensely cold room in which people oftentimes sleep in rural districts, is yet injurious, and is carefully to be avoided by those who seek strong bodies and good physical powers. Much better and more wholesome results can be secured by more sanitary beds and plenty of proper covering. Feathers are too heating. Even when lying on the side of the body the feathers are apt to press against the back and spine, and thus result in unduly heatin;^- the 54 WHAT A yousG mas ought to hWOlV. spinal column, which always tends to and does often produce physical and sexual weakness. A good mattress of some sort, excepting cotton, or '*ven z. hard bed, is much to be preferred. No young man who is trouljled with sexual weakness can hope to attain entire relief so long as he sleeps upon feathers or uses a feather- bed as a covering. Prefer a hard bed. The amount of covering should always be moderate, and even a slightly insufticient ain unt is better than overmuch. A single bed is always to be preferred, both for married and unmarried people. Where two persons sleep in the same bed, the one who has the stronger physical power is lii^ely to absorb the vital forces from the weaker one. Where either is aftlicted with any tendency to con- sumption, has any skin disease, or other mal- ady, he is likely to impart its evil influences, if not its actual contagion, to the individual who shares his bed with him. The sleeping-room should always be exposed to the sunlight. The apartment should be thoroughly ventilated during the day, and there should be an ample supply of fresh air throughout the entire night. As we have already intimated, physical weakness may be due to physical excess and to self-inflicted causes. At some period during childhood or subsequent years most young men have learned, either from their boy associates, from some accidental cause, such as sliding down a banister or climbing and descending trees, or because of an unnatural sexual irrita- a JUT A YOISG MAS Ol'OUT TO KNOW. 33 bility, something concerning the unmanly and debasing practice of self-polUition. In our in- stitutions of learning, and even in our colleges and universities, masturbation and self-pollu- tion, and other forms of self-imposed degrada- tion and defilement, are practiced among many of the students, and sometimes even to an alarming extent. The practice is revolting and degrading, and, if continued, is ruinous in its results. It weakens the intellectual, debases the moral and thoroughly undermines the phys- ical man. The practice is not only a sin against Goa, '.jut a sin against all that is high and holy in man's nature, and most thoroughly destruc- tive of all the possibilities which coming years havt in store for the unhappy individual. The most fruitful source of self-pollution is ignorance. If parents were faithful in the dis- charge of their duty to their children in this respect, the evil would be generally corrected. The silence of most parents is both foolish and culpable. The person who leaves his or her child to learn from vicious companions in an unhallowed way what they should have received from the lips of father or mother is guilty of grave neglect, and loses the best opportunity of a parent's "-^ *■) establish the mind of i.he child in purity a..J virtue. Mrs. Alice Lee Moque, herself the mother of three boys, in writing in this subject aptly and correctly says : " Ignorance is a deadly sin. In this enlight- ened age we must recognize that ignorance is ! Isi /! % U -. 56 WHAT A YOLNa MAS OUOllT TO Kyow. not innocence, and reniembcr that to forewarn our boys is to forearm lliem. The truth, prop- erly told, has never yet harmed a child ; silence, false shame anil mystery have corrupted the souls and bodies of untold millions." We have learned even of educated and cul- tured youny men at the aj^^e of twcnty-tive autl thirty who, throu^'h ij;norance, have fallen into this terrible vice. Thousands of boys and younj; men, who are intelli<.;cnt and well informed upon other subjects, are in total ij^norance u})on the nature and design of their reiroductive organs, and fall into and continue in this most degrading and ruinous vice simply because they are profoundly ignorant. There arc some, also, who in their ignorance suppose that if the sexual member is to develop naturally during the growing years it is neces- sary that physical excitation should be pro- duced by some mechanical means. This false and ruinous idea comes from the knowledge of the fact that the muscles are strengthened and developed by exercise. But these mistaken and deluded persons do not know that by far the most important part of the sexual member is composed of the great body of nerves which centre and radiate from the sexual system in a series of network which is most intimately re- lated to the nerves throughout the entire body. Now, instead of being developed by this un- natural process, the sexual member is itself im- paired, and if the process is often repeated or lonfj continued the result is the dwarfing and \nuTA yoiyo j/.j.v olgjit to a-.\>mp. 57 wasting' of the orj;an itself and the complete shattering,' of the entire nervous system. In this way a mistaken and Kuiltv perpetrator is made to suffer the resuhs of the La which was committed in his ignorance. I'.y some strange and mistaken delusion not a few men. and even seme uninformed physicians, have the idea that a pure, conti- nent, self-contained life is inconsistent and un- favorable to the best physical well-being. In order that the reader may understand the un- scientific character of this absurd theory, we quote the opinions of some of the al^Icst'phy- sitians.both throughout Europe and the United States, .-'ion this important subject. Professor Lionel S. Beale of King's College, London, says : " It is an entirely erroneous and unfounded statement that when, for various c.iuses, mar- riage has not taken place, it is necessary to provide a substitute for physiological reasons. It cannot be too forcibly preached that the strictest contin-nce and purity agree alike with physiological and mental as well as with moral laws, and that compliance with wishes, long- ings and passionate desires can be as little jus- tified by the principles of physiology and psy- chology as by those of morals and religion." In order that the people might have a reliable and official answer to this question, the Union for the Advancement of Public Morality in Norway addressed a letter of inquiry to the medical faculty in the University of Christiania I.. 58 WHAT A YOUNG MAS OUOIIT TO K\nH'. to which the faculty, composed of some of the ablest physicians in Northern Europe, made the following; reply : " In answer to the letter of your executive committee, the medical faculty has the honor to submit the following; declaration : The assertion made recently by various persons, and repeated in public journals and at public assemblies, th.it a moral course of life and sexual continence are injurious to health, is entirely incorrect according to our experience, which is herewith unanimously expressed. We know of no dis- ease nor of any kind of weakness concerning which we may safely affirm that it might pro- ceed from a perfectly pure and moral life. " According to the unanimous experience, therefore, not according to the opinion, of these approved physicians, purity is as little inju- rious to a man as to a woman. The Journal of junior Norwegian physicians, who are edu- cated and developed entirely in the spirit of modern medical science, coincided completely and emphatically with this utterance." Professor August Forel, of Zurich, Switzer- land, and Baron von Krafft-Ebing, of the Uni- versity of Vienna, Austria, unite in saying: " We maintain that for a young man up to the time of his marriage chastity is mo::t salu- tary, not only in an ethical and a^sthetical sense, but also from a hygienic standpoint." In perfect harmony with these European phy- sicians, Dr. George H. Napheys, in his excellent book on " The Transmission of Life," says ; nilAT A roiyo MAN ULUllT TO KSOW. 59 " We emphatically condemn, as a most per- nicious doctrine, one calculated to work untold evil, and to foster the worst forms of vice, the theory that any injury whatever arises from a chaste celibacy. The organs are not weak- ened, nor their power lost, nor is there a ten- dency to spermatorrhcra, nor to congestions, nor to an one of those ills which certain vi- cious writers and certain superficial and careless physicians have attributed to this state. No condition of life is more thoroughly consistent with perfect mental and physical vigor than ab- solute chastity." To show the fallacy of such a theory, and to present the opinions of somv» of the most learned physicians upon this subject, Mr. Aaron M. Powell, the editor of The Philanthropist and the President of the American Purity Alliance, obtained and has published in tract form the views of a large number of some of the most prominent physicians resident in the vicinity of New York City upon this subject. The tes- timony of these physicians is in perfect accord with the foregoing statements, and is also em- phatic and conclusive. That the reader may have the full text of this valuable document we present their testimony : MEDICAL DECLARATION CONCERNING CHASTITV • In view of the widespread suffering, physical dis- ease, deplorable hereditary results, and moral deteri- oration, inseparable from unchaste living, we the un- dersigned, members of the medical profession of New 6o MJIAT A YOlSa MAS OLGUT TO A.N'Mi' York nnrk IN .st-l Graduate Medical School; Surt;ti)n of the Manhatl.ii I'ye and Kar Hospital. Anuki.w H. SMnil, y.ly, i'liy.->ician to the Pres- byterian Hospital, .Surgeon to the .Mai hattan lye ar.d Ear Hospital, 'Ihroa^ Hepartnuiit. v.. I,. Kkyis, M.I) , Consulting Surgeon to lielle- vue Hospital, '! hfj Caarity Hospital, etc [The whcili matter, in my opinion i^ intellectual — a pure mind ensiu-es a pure Unly. — K. L. Ki-YKs.] Andrkw F. Currikr, M.D., Ovmccoljgist to the Out I'aticrit Pepanment. Uellevue Hospital; A.^-iist- ant Cyna-cologist to the Ski.i and Cancer Hospital. Wai^ikR Mi-.NI)EI.son, M.').,i,ate \ssislai.i .Vt- tendant Physician, Koosevelt Hospital, (Jut- Patient Department. [I fully believe also th: * the -ure of the social evil lies solely in the abolition of a condition which, by breeding involuntary poverty, constantly tempts wo- men to sell their chastity and men to I uy it. '1 he abolition of jn) verty is the abolition of ninety-nine one- bundredlhs of ail prostitalion.— W. MeNUKLSON, M.D.] \Vm. .1. Thomson, M.D., LL.T^ , Professor Ma- tena Medica and Di..cases of the Nervous Svjtem, University Medical C. liege of New Y rk ; Physiaan to the Roosevelt and Beii vue Hosphals. George F. Shrady, M.D., Surgeon ^o St. Francis Hospital, N. Y. ; Consulting Surgeon to the New York Cancer Hospital ; Consulting Physician- in- Chief to the Hospitals oi the Health Department a If AT A rouya i/.i.v orouT to a'.voh'. 6i of th- City of N. V. ; and Kditor of TAf MeJical Record. HiNKY DwK.iiT ('HAriN, M.D., Professor of I )is- eascs of Children at the New \'ork Post (iraduate Medical School and llohpital ; Attending Physician to the I)emiU 1 )isii( nsary. J. K. 1. A I HAM, M.I). Nk.wton M. Shamir, M.1>., Suri^con in ( hief lo the Ntw \\>rk ()rthop;vdic Dispensary and Hospital; Consulting ( )rthopa'dic Sur^^eon to St. Luke's and Preshytfrian Hospitals; Consulting; Physician to the New \(.rk Iiitinnary for \Voinoii and Children. Koya:. W. Amidon, A.M., M.D., Professart- mnuth College, Hanover, N. H. ; Surgeon to the Manhattan Eye and Ear Hospital; Consulting Oph- thalmic Surgeon to the Hackensack Hos|,ital, the Hospital for the Ruptured and Crippled, the House of Mercy, etc., etc. 62 WHAT A YOUSa MAS ftVOHT TO KSOW. I.FWis IIaikk K, MI). ( I mf>st hrortily «pprove and cndcii^« the foreffoing clrciuruiioii. J A. I). kcKKWKi I , M.I)., Formerly Trofrssor of Klfitrt) ITierapcut.cs, New York I'ost- Graduate Medi- cal .SchiKil. Chas. Mii.nk., M.I). [It vpvcs me riiuih pleasure to sitm this imiKr. — C. M J R. C. M. r.\(;K, M.l)., rrolV-vsorof Ct-ncr.il Medi- cine and Hi.sea.scs of the Chest in thf Nt-w NOrk Polyclinic; Physician to the Polyclinic Hospital, Con- sultinjj Physician to St. Klizaheth's Hospital. K. Van Sanivoori), MI). J,\MK.s R. MActiRKCoR, M.I)., Surgpon to the MetrojK)litan Throat Hospital, N. V. ; funncrly As- sistant Physician to the IJutlcr Hospital for the In- sane, Providence, R. I. [So far a.s my opinion may have any weight, I will- ingly enlist it in the endeavor to (lis|)el the mistaken notion — or. rather, pretext — that, oiiNideof tlie proper marital relation, there exists any pliysiolo},'ical need of sexual indui^jencc. — J. R. MAC(iKK(;()K, M.D.] Thomas R. Pdoi.ky, M.I)., Surpeon- in -Chief, New Amsterdam Kye and Ear Hospital; I'ellow of the N. V. Academy of Medicine ; late Profes.sor of ()phth:ilmoloi;y in N. V. Polyclinic. N. A. Mo^iMAN, M.D [Heartily endorsed. ] Frf.dkkicIv Pi-tkkson, M.D., Pfi.D., Neurolo- gi.st to Rand.ill's I ,lan■ ^^ ■^ "7,. O^y FhotDgraphic Sdences Corporation ^■. 4 4. ^^ \ v^v ^^ \ ^ AJ-" 23 WEST MAIN STREET WEBSTtr.N.Y. 14580 (716) 872-4S03 ^ I fr li^: 64 WIIA T A ro UNO MAX lailT TO KSO 5'. Section of Disease.-, of Woman, New York Academ, of Medicine. Ci.KMKNT CirvKiAvn, M.D., Attending Surgeon, Woman's Hospital in State of New York. FPHRAIM Cl;tti:r, A.M., M.D., 1856 Ilarv-. and 1857 Univ Penn. ; LL.I)., Iowa; Professor Clinical Mory^hnlogy and Applied Medicine, College of Physi- cians and Surgeons, JJoston ; Physician and Surgeon, Heart K<-(, Saratoga, New York, etc. 15. (■'•. Cl.AKKK, M.D. [With pleasure.] Ai.vi.N M. Woodward, M.D. Paul F. Mini,,:, m.D., Professor of Gynaecology at the New York Polyclinic, and at Dartmouth Col- lege ; Gynx-cologist to Mount Sinai Hospital. [I see no reason, morally or socially, whv men should not be sul)jected to the same rules regarding cha.stity as have always governed and still govern women. I he observance of these niles, under the penalty of social ostracism, would, I think, go far to anndulate the "social evil."— P. F. M., M.D. "I W. W. Robert, M.D. J. Mount Bleykr, M.D., F.R.A.M.S., Naples; Corresponding Member to The Soci6t6 D'Electrothe- ropid, France ; Surgeon N. Y. Throat and Nose Hos- pital ; Surgeon N. \'. West Side Clinic, etc. [I find that the sexual sense is as prone to educa- tional inHuence as any of the other senses. The de- veloped appetite can be compared to a gormandizer. Who can eat, and eat, and is never filled. All those who are continually appeasing such a sexual sen.s* are always m a semi-paralytic condition in body and mind. I hey have not the power to carry on any train ot thought in a logical manner. It is my belief that most of the suicides are due to these excessive nrac- Uces in both sexes. It is the business of the phy.^ician to step in as a reformer, and begin to educate, and .0 """''^ '-<>'■'■■'"'■"' oc-a„T TO ^-.von: i, open the eves of mothenj f^.K regarding the eff^cU o^'sexua?* ""*^'"'" ^"^ ^"' M. li., M.D.J ^*'^"''' o^er-^timulation— J. John a. Wveth, M D Pmf - Po'yclinic ; AKend.;^ Sur^eo:^^^^^^^ ^f" ^'^^'^ Consulting Surgeon St nf kIu " ""^pital ; pitals. etc . etc. "^'^ ""^ ^^^'°"- Hos- Charli.:s McDoweji M n p r og>, New York Hnm ' f ' ^''"^^^^of Physiol- iSspital. "°'"--P-tb'c Medical College and Kur.ENF.H. Porter. M. A MD P r teria Medica, New Vnrl u ' ^^°^"^ssor Ma- lege; Profes or"s ^t AT'^f ''^ '^^'^'-' ^■- cia.Uu.Krank.nHo^;t;tc^;r"^^^^- -ci^P^vert^are the deS.^^'rtU::!^^:^ Clarence E. Beebf. AM Laryngology and Rhenor„By' n' V .,' ^'°''^"" Medica] CoMei-e- P,„r- , "omoeopalhic "logy, CollcgeTfWv o°:„'l'^^°'°®' "'"' R^en. Governing /„;1^ jj ' y "''"^ T"? "»P"'' College , ST. Ce',„ l::l I °P^^;'">- "»pi.,, e... P^Cice of Medicine, NlfY;,,^,f'"°' ^''^ »"'' »l College; Consul ingPh'^fJ'"""'!'"''- M«ii- ?'f Five P„i„„ „oJ. o?C ; ^'"'^'"^ "°^- Edwin West M n \f ^ cie.y and or ,he ;::„?.; Xl: *= ^--y «». rCo„cnm„gi„ ,h^ abov,! . """"'P"''''- add ny name _E \V j;^';"'""™!^, I dieerfclly of ct:L°ofr rir,' ,r'" "' '^' ''-"' a-d Hospital. ^ "I' W»ra«opa.hic College G-OKCEVVau«W,„ERBUKN,Ph„.r,,„„ 66 WHAT A Yorsa mas ovqiit to k'xow. ii It > i Professor .if Obstetrics, Metrojxjlitan Post-draduate Sch(K)l of Me,s KS-nW. 6, ^I- Iv. Hoi.I.HRooK M D TV-^f f ir . N.wv..M„,..,K-,,„g::;,;:;,::,:''--; r.ditor of the Atuf*,,,/ ^f rr ■ "'"cn , rnotes a higher social sta^^ !^M I ff ''^"'^' P'°- M.D.j Mate.— M. l. IIulhirouk, The Medical Faculty of the University of Christ!- -.a^ Norway, replying to an inquiry addressed 'o them in relation to Chastity, say .ha',' JcSSiLtX'ir '■ "^ *'''™' r— no disea« nor of any weakn,,, J-?,i t t ''"°"' °' U ,he resuU of a p.,^ec"ff;,:! ^S^i^: i'.' ^"^ "' Tte la„er is signed by eight members of the faculty of Christiania. ' '"""'"^ '" ""^ ^'"""^V After such united, clear and conclusive testi mony there surely remains no room for doubt upon th.s important question. ,., ™'"= ^ y°™g "^n has inflicted physical weakness upon himself by a course o/ sexua defilement and physical debasement, hi, only *l 68 WHAT A YOISH MAS OlUIlT TO KSOW. (I security is in its immediate and complete aban- donment. This needs a •.horoii^h and over- mastering^ determination to brin^ his lower nature into subjection to his hijjher intellectual and moral natures, a calling upon (^lod for forgiveness for the past, salvation for the present, and grace and victory for the fu- ture. Any young man who continues his evil practice may be sure that he is steadily undermining his physical ;)owers, destroying hii health, softening his brain, weakening his intellect, converting himself into an imbecile, and preparing himself either for the insane asylum or an early place in the cemetery. If the course is persisted m, the results are inevitable. The sin and its consetjuences are inseparable. Well might a young man in vuch a condition cry out and say, " Wherewithal shall a young man cleanse his way ?" and the answer must be given, " By taking heed thereto, according to Thy Word." Such an one needs to hear and heed the injunction, " Abstain from fleshly lusts, which war against the iou In many instances — and we think we can safely say in most iiistances — where there is sufficient moral manhood left to desire to be free from this sinful and destructive practice, and where a young man will rise up in the dig- nity of his manhood and declare that he will be free, that he will put the monster under his feet, that he will fight if needs be until death for his victory, that he will regain his physical, intellectual and moral powers, such a young »UA T .1 vocya man ovqut to ksow. 69 man has reasonable hope of success, and. with the blessing of GocJ. he is s-.ire to be crowned with eventual ucto.-y over his passions, and may even ^.ixn back, if persistent and faithful throuj,'h a course of subsequent yeari, that which distin^'uishes the victor upon the field of battle and restore to himself his regained manhood and powers. In extreme cases, where a young man is suf- fering severe physical effects or feels his total inability to make an effort to subdue his pas- sions, or his physical powers are being ex- hausted by a constant loss of seed, or sexual fluid, it may be necessary to apply to a com- petent physician. But in all such cases a young- man should be careful to select a man of expe- rience and good judgment, a man of pure life and Christian character and of irreproachable standi-g in the community. Carefully avoid men who are without standing o- character, and who would advise illicit sexual intercourse as a substitute for self-pollution and a remedy for scxua! weakness. Such a remedy always rroves worse than the disease. The physical condition is sure to be aggravated, one defile- ment is followed by another, an additional deadly blow is administered to the moral nature, and the young man who before was at least' safe from the grave dangers of numerous sexual diseases finds himself exposed to new forms of corruption, and even to syphilis itself, which is so much to be dreaded because of its loath- some character, its incurable nature and its niiAT A rovy;al nature hurried on to a new pur- j^atory uf torment. The mind which needs streni^'thcnin^ will l)e weakened, the imagina- tion which needs purifying will he defded, and thus damnation is deliberately dealt to the young man who seeks help and healing at the hands of an incompetent individual, who may be nominally, but who is not really a physician. When a physician advises illicit intercourse, he would only be properly rebuked if his patient were promptly to ask for an introduction to the physician's own wife and daughter, and inq ire when they would be at leisure that he night meet them. The physician who advises sexual indulgence outside the bonds of marriage is party to the commission of an infamous crime, and deserves the severest punishment pre- scribed by law for the commission of such outrages. While the results of self-pollution a -e not imaginary, but real, yet an/ young man who has the courage and the strength of purpose necessary to lesolve to be free, and who is willing to use the simple and sensible helps and suggestions which are made available to him need not despair. There is a tendency in human nature to imagine that we have inherited all the ills to which flesh is heir ; but even where nii.i TA yo( wo tu v c in in to kwo h: 7 1 a younK' man has been guilty of this debasinfj and 'Icstructivc vice he should turn tr..m the dark picture which is behind him. from the recollections of i!,e filthy past to the brijjhter futuro and the ■..sj. n.^ pr'..r...cs of hope and dehvetance. These may be his. if he w,!l ac- cept the advice of his real friends and the help of hi:, divine Maker. In spcakin^j .f jhe reformation and the re- gaining' of lost powers, it is necessary for you, first ( f ;di. to he honest with yourself, ^nd to institute a-i intelligent inijuiry into your real physical condition. Do not allow your imagi- nation to frighten you, neither aliow yourself to be selfueceivfd concerning acutal conditions by any desire to cominue in a course of sin and ruin. If you need the consultation and advice of a physician go t.. your family physician, or if you prefer, go to some other physician • but always select one whos moral character and acknowledged ability renders him a suitable and safe adviser in such a time of need. Above all things avoid quacks. The policy they pur- sue is to frijjhten you, to work upon your im- agination, and to make such alarming and unreliable statements as will induce you to purchase their nostrums and subject yourself to such a series of humiliations and impositions as will enable them to pilfer your purse and without rendering you in return an- value received, but possibly leaving you in k much worse condition than they found you, permit 7i WHAT A yorsti v i.v onuiT to ksow you eventually to j^o in scairh of reliable in- formation and of a tnistworthy physirian. whom you shoiiUl have sou^'ht at first. At this |)(,int it is nc« essary also to say some- thinjj upon the subject of what is often sup- posctl, and sometimes reallv is, sexual weak- ness, and which is known to all youn^,' men, and older ones also, who have arrived at the a>,'e of puberty, as emissions, or wet dreams — the loss of semen or sexual fluid during' the hours <»f sleep. The tpiatk will tell you that any and all loss of semen is a loss of manly power. While this statement is rclati'cly, it is yet not really, true; and. in the sense in which these quacks know that youn^' men will under- stand it in connection with their other mislead- ing statements, it is not true at all. The young man who would secure the highest and best development of his physical and intellectual powers will carefully seek to avoid, as far as possible, all loss of sexual fluid, either in the form of emissions, or even in the form of law- ful sexual intercourse. But when younp men are made to believe that any and all emissions are certain and unmistakable indications of coming imbecility, the statement is both pre- posteious and absurd. Such a statement is wholly unreliable and misleading. After years of acquaintance with men in all periods of life, and after having spoken freely with many upon the subject, the writer is frank to confess that he has yet to meet the first male member of the human race, who has passed the period wtrA T A ro ( so ma s oiohtiv k.\o w 7 j of puberty and who ha-t attaincci to early man- hood. uh.. has .,ot at some time had such emissions, and from whom an undue accumu- lation of r.cxual fluid has not passed dunnjf hours of sleep in a dream of a more or less amorous nature. \Vc have also carefully examined medical authorities upon tnis subject, ind f^nd that all reliable writers are a^'reed that such loss of semen, if not OicurrinK' at too frequent inter vals. is not only quite general, but scemin^'ly natural. The only point to be settled in this question is that in reference to how often such emissions may occur with a person who is in a normal condition and in good health. It is difficult to lay down any rule which would be absolutely without an exception ir all instances. What might be normal to cpr man might be •innatural and exhausting to another. In ex- ceptional cases, or for a very limited period, emissions might occur as often as once a week without injury to the individual, yet few men can suffer emissions more frequently than once in two weeks without serious physical loss. The safe limit is generally stated to lie within a range of from two to six weeks. With per- sons in their normal condition, who have {)roper food and take sufficient recreation, and whose minds are properly engaged and whose time is suitably occupied, emissions are not likely to c"cur oftener than once in three or four weeks, and sometimes not even in a period of six »veeks. Where they do not occur more fre- !:" i i It :H 74 »»•//> r A yo' so mas oiuiit to a voir. I Wi (,urnil\, th.in thi>. anM the \hh') s-, kcp! m ^'ood hc.illli. ami otlc-r i orulitions arc iiorin.il, they ncctl not l)C the <>< < .iMon of any unthic anxi-t\, I here ate oi . aMonal in-.tant cs whe-ri .ri m«li- \ idiial may n<>t tcci weakened or (U|)Icfcd dur- ing,' the MK. (Tchn^; day* aftrrha\in^' suffered (i"fn an cii.i^Mon; hut. a-, a K't-''it^ral rule, the indivulual !•> not only hkily to feci di-,^;u>.ted with himself, hut is also likely to feci • tempo- rary enervating' cffcc t. Where such etfec ts ex- tend hcvond the period ot twenty-four hours, or leave a permanent scn-^c of depletion and weakness, the individual should seek medical counsel and advice. To show that our position upon this subject is correct. wc(|uotefrom Doctor William Acton, who for many years has been rc^'ardcd as the standard medical authority upon the repro- ductive oryans in childhood, youth, adult a^e. and advanced life. In writing,' upon emissions Doctor Acton says : "Circat alarn; is often expressed by patients who suffer in this way ; b t I am enabled to pive them much relief w hen I mention that such emissions, occurring once in every ten or four- teen f'ays, are in the nature of a safety-valve, and are even conducive to health in persons who do not take enouj;h exercise, and live gen- erously. It would, however, he better for the adult to be free cv en from these ; and I feel con- vinced that in one who has not allowed himself to dwell on sexual thoughts, but takes stronjj bodily exercise, and lives abstemiousiy, emis- >*U.iT A YniSQ MAS OHiIIT Tf) K.\:)H- 75 •inn, u.Il either not or, „r. or thc.r orrurrcnre nuv \.r looked for only very rarely. It is only when the looses or evapen take plare repeat- c.llv. a:ten(lc«l l,y symptoms of prostration, with .,thcr .11 -onsecpien.^s. that the patient should 'cck incdii al advice." "ne of the K^catest fallacies, however in ron- ncrtion u.th the suhjen of emissions" is th,.t when thr scnien has a( c umiilatcd. and the sa> wln.h (.od has provided for its rctenfon he- come full, that they must of neccssitv |,e e.-o- ticd l.y an emission, or even ;n the case..f mar- ried men by sexual intercourse with their wives. Nature has provided us not onlv with the sacs for the retention of seminal fluid, hut its reten- tion IS necessary in order that this vitalizinK and hfe-gu in^' fluid mav be reabsorbed into the sys- tem, .ind become the vitalizing and strenKth- givin^' source of added physical and intellectual power. What we have now said with reference to the general prevalence of emissions has been said in order that we might be perfectly candid and frank with young men. and also that we might remove the possibility of their being unduly alarmed; that they migh: be removed beyond the possibility of being deceived by books pamphlets and circulars which are sent broad- cast over the land by persons whose only pur- pose 13 to iT.islead. alarm and defraud those who should simply be made intelligent and helped according to their need. While what we have said is true, there is, '• f PS »il' 76 n'jiATA roiya max 01 out to know >'.: J upon the oth*>r hand, no little danger lest young men might be greatly harmed should they be- come wholly indifferent to the matter of emis- sions and the loss of semen. No man can af- ford to be entirely indifierent to these matters. Every man should, by careful observation, vig- orous physical exercise, regular bathing and judicious diet, seek to reduce emissions to the minimum, and in every way seek to reabsorb and use in his own system the sexual fluid which is so important to his highest physical, intellectual and moral well-being. Every young man will best understand this subject when he has learned the nature and office of the glands which secrete, or take from the blood, the fluid which, after bemg secreted, is transformed and undergoes such changes as are necessaiy to convert it into sexual fluid. These glands in the human system are very much what the laboratory is in a large chemical ebtnblishment. The fluid, which is abstracted from the blood, in a manner which we can neither understand nor explain, is made to un- dergo such chemical and vital changes that it becomes entirely different from what it was when it was absti acted. After these changes have taken place, it is again poured back into the system to supply such requisites as .ire ab- solutely essential in order that the entire body may be kept in perfect health. It will be seen, therefore, that the sexual fluid is needed for constant use in the physical laboratory of the body. It is very possible that if one could live *^'iiA TA ro i-yo 3IA y o i on t to kso w. 77 in that state of mental pureness and at the same time care for his body as God has intended that it should be cared for. it might be possible for a man with a perfecdy normal sexual develop- ment to go for periods of months, and possibly for years, without any loss of the sexual fluid. Such a condition may not be absolutely ideal, but we confess that in our researches we have never yet to find such an individual, and the statement made by quacks that in the closing part ofhis life Sir Isaar Newton affirmed tha*t never in his entire life had he lost a single drop of sexual fluid cannot be sufficiently substanti- ated to make the statement creditable even in this given instance. The importance, however, of strugglirg for that ideal physical perfection is recognized by all who seek iie most perfect physical and in- tellectual development. Whenever athletes are under training for some contest w hich will de- mand the most perfect physical development, and the best possible powers of endurance,' even the married among them are required not only to abstain from all sexual indulgence, but are often also required to leave their homes' and take up their abode where, as far as possible, they chall be removed from the sexual stimulus and excitement which comes from the presence and even from the sight of women. The ex- tent to which the loss of sexual fluid tends to weaken the human system is clearly illustrated in the Old Testament in the instance of Samson and Delilah. While much of what is meant ■| ■J ■li ■i h I I P 78 WHAT A YOUSQ MAN OL'GUT TO KSOW by the statement that Samson was " shorn of his hair," research will doubtless make very plain some time in the future, yet it is universally a^^rced that Samson's enemies, with a full knowl- edj,e of the weakenin<^ effects of excessive sexual indulgence, used Delilah, who was a harlot, to divest Samson of his strength so that they might conquer the giant, whom they could not overcome by other stratagem, or by the united strength of many. That the seminal ducts in which this ^lud is retained naturally empty thei iselves when tilled to repletion is doubtless true ; but the false idea which we desire to correct goes upon the theory that a man is not weakened by the loss of sex- ual fluids if the sacs have simply emptied themselves when they were full. The cause of sexual weakness lies back of the emptying of these seminal ducts or sacs. The moment any young man stimulates his sexual nature by im- pure thought, by reading books which are cal- culated to excite the sexual nature, by looking at obscene or even nude pictures, by attendance upon the theatre, or participation in the dance, by association with those who are lewd and who tend to quicken his sexual passion — I say when any young man thus stimulates his sexual na- ture he causes the seminal fluid to be secreted more rapidly than nature has intended, and in this Wov he saps his physical and intellectual nature by the unc'ue excitement of the sexual nature and the abnormal secretion of more than the usual amount of seminal fluid. The cause. iiv/.ir.t }-or.V(y .v.i.v oiaiiT to ksow. 79 therefore, of sexual weakness lies back oi the emission itself, and is found in the pollution of the mind, the debasing' of the imagination, and the abnormal quickening' of the sexual nature I3y such influences the physical nature is drained in order to suppiy the seminal fl. id which IS abstracted from the system and is ac- cumulated in the sacs more rapidly than na ture intended or can dispose of it in the system and consequently it is ejected during sleep in the form of emissions, or posi,ibly. as soir.e as- sert, may pass otT unconsciously and without emotion while the person is emptying the blad- der of urine, or even while the individual is evacuating his bowels. Let it be distinctly un^ derstood that on account of these results the young man who pollutes his mind or imagina- tion undermines hif moral nature, weakens his intellect and saps his p«hysical powers. What we have said with reference to the secretion of the seminal fluid is very sin.ply illustrated by the action of the mind upon the secretion of the salivary glap.ds and also the tear glands. The simple thought of eating peaches, or of anything which is specially agreeable to the taste, causes an instant flow of saliva into the mouth, ft is not necessary that peaches should really be eaten, but the glands respond to the simple thought, and the moment you think of eating peaches the saliva begins to flow in increased abundance into the m. th. The same is also true with reference to the tear glands. Steadily, hour by hour, the mod- ir 8o HIJAT A YOV^'O MAS OUOUT TO kWOW. ^^■^ fci erate and requisite amount of fluid necessary to wash and cleanse ♦he eyes is steadily secreted and poured upon these organs of vision; but, as soon as the heart is stirred with emotions of great joy, remorse or sorrow, this rluid is secreted in greatly-enlarged ([uantities and poured into the eyes, overflowing the cheeks in the form of tears. It is easy lO understand that if the salivary glands were to be too frequently thus stimulated unnaturally and to no purpose, as is oftentimes done by those who chew gum for several hours and day after day, the glands themselves are exhausted, and become diseased, the equilib- rium of the body is disturbed, and the result is uctrimental to the entire system. Now the same thing is true of the glands which secrete the iemen. When the mind is permitted to dw il unduly upon sexual subjects the secretions become more rapid than is de- signed, the system is drained, and more injury is done by che impure thought that produces this result than by the dream which attends the emptying of the sacs which are flooded with this vital fluid more rapidly than it can be re- absorbed for use throughout the entire system. Thus it will be seen that the purity of the mind is both of primary and vital importance. But we must here make some helpful sugges- tions to those who seek to avoid this form of sexual weakness, or who desire to escape from the consequences of a polluted mind and a de- graded imagination, to those who would master ^'lUTA yOi-yo MAN OUGI.'T TO KSOW, g, What has hitherto been a dominant passion or thT'," "^T'' '^^^"^^^"-1 -nd physical powers that have been weakened or partially losL 7 he si.JTRe.t,on made in the second chapter .nder the tule of "Personal Purity" m.st be careAdh observed and rig.dly followed. We also refer ectTn I .^r'^^ r '^^^ ^^'^ "P- ^h- ob- ject m I art Four of the book " What a Youn. BoyOughttoKnow/'frompageuptorsa We also make the following suggestions, which wdl prove most valuable and helpful • tio^nT'^^T''""''^*""'"'''' °f thought, imagina- t on. and of purpose must be reinforced also by chdd should bathe at least once or twice a week In add.Mon to the ordinary weekly bath there should also be added the daily morning sponge or hand-bath Any young man who will'begTn in the month of July or August, when the weatLz IS warm, by washing his entire body each morn- ing, by simply dipping a small quantity of water from the bowl or basin and wetting the entL^ body, not omitting the eyes. face, neck and feet, and then follow such ablutions wUh a thorough rubbing with a dry towel, and subse- quently follow this with a vigorous rubbing of the body wuh the bare hands, will find suchin- vigoranon and beneficial physical results that he wdl doubtless be induced to continue the habit throughout the entire year. If begun in the summer, as we have suggested, there is no danger of contracting a cold, and as the weather gradually grows colder in the fall, no shock will 1 82 WUAT A YOlWa 31 A. \ OUOIIT TO hW'OW. fi come to the system, and even though the sleep- ing-rt)om should be so cold that ice would form in the pitcher during the night, the morning bath will be taken without a shudder, and the invigoration and healthy glow wliich will follow will be more than a recompense and reward for the resolution, time and effort which it cost. The writer began such baths when a boy, has continued them without interruption through his entiie life, and conscientiously believes that they have been of inestimable physical benefit. The man who takes his regular morning hand- bath with cold water is also fortified against taking cold in all periods of the year, and will be blessed ^nd benefited in many ways which we cannot now stop to enumerate. Where emissioDS occur at too frequent inter- vals it will be found very beneficial to stand the bowl upon the floor, and then, with the body placed in a sitting position over it, the water should be dashed freely over the sexual or- gans each morning, and, if necessary, each evening. Every young mar who would remain pure, and who desires V retain his fullest physical powers, should conscientiously avoid any un- necessary handling of his sexual organs. But even with such a thought in mind he should not neglect at his weekly bath, and sometimes at his daily morning bath, to press the foreskin back over the head of the sexual nif^mber, and carefully cleanse under the skin anv .iccumu- lation of smegma, or soapy secretion, which if «":ta ro, so i,.,s oiauT to ksow. sj left ..n ten ing walk,.H ,11 \ „ ^ postman who has talked all daywdl surely not need to seek recreatton by an evening stroll through he park. n... while an hour or two speAwth po'.mTnr"V™'"'^'" ""* "'«'^'— it • e postman s need. ,t might be entirely unsuited as a recreation to the student, or the'awv" „. I It it $ HI 84 WHAT A YOVSO MAS OVOIIT TO KSOW. even the physician whose physical needs might require something very different.* Kvcry young man, however, should own a set of light-weight dumb-bells, and if tht height of the ceiling and the capacity of his room will admit, also a pair of light Indian clubs. To these may be added various kinds of exercises, health-lifts, and even, in cases where wealth is abundant, a well-furnished private gymnasium. No young man, however, is so poor that he can afford to be without at least a pair of dumb- bells weighing two or three pounds each, which can be purchased at a cost not exceeding fifty cents. Learn how to use your dumb-bells so as to call into exercise all your muscular powers, an^^ secure their most healthy develop- ment and the best physical results possible. Use your dumb-bells freely, but do not neglect to take plenty of exercise in the open air. When the weather is pleasant, and the season of the year will permit, seek bodHy vigor in the use of the bicycle, exercising great care to have a sanitary saddle, for many men are p'^w ac- quiring bladder trouble, the prostate glands being enlarged to the size of those of old men, and in extreme cases some i*re even suffering from sexual impotency. It is necessary, therefore, that great care should be exercised in selecting a proper sad- dle. In the winter skatmg and sledding, and * See •'\\'hat a Young Boy Ought to Know," p.ige 140 to end of chapter. wuAT A yovyu MAy ovoiit to k.sow. 85 at other periods croquet, lawn-tennis, jjolf. foot- b.illand other forms of recreation will be found of great value. Physical exercise will do for your body what intelicntual traininjj will do for your mind. It will educate and stren^hen it, and you will thus be fortified more successfully to resist both sickness and .sexual passion. It is scarcely necessary that we should say anything about the injurious etTects of licjuors of all kinds upon the reproductive organs. It is well known ihat drur.kards and tipplers are early robbed of sexual power. The ancient proverb says '' Venus is drowned in Bacchus." Shakespeare aptly displays his marvellous range of information in the play of Macbeth, where the porter says to Macdufif. " Drinking provokes the desire, but it takes away the per- formance; it makes him. and it mars him; it sets him on, and it takes him off; it persuades him, and it disheartens him," etc. Manliness and virile power in their best development are impossible to those who use liquor of any kind, in any quantity. Here are a few brief rules, which cannot help but be s jgestive: 1. Bathe, or at least wash youi entire body, twice each week. 2. Eat light suppers, avoiding meat. 3. Never eat poor victuals to save them 4. Totally abstain from the use of all liquor and iubacco. 5. Coffee and tea, if used at all, .-hould be used in the greatest moderation. ,{ 86 uiiAT A ro lya mas oiuut to n.sow. 6. Never take exrrs-,ivcly hot or cold drinkn. 7. Do not cat nork when other nicat>> ran b« obtained. 8. r.at slowly, and masticate your food thor- oughly. 9. I at throe times euch day, and take noih- in^' betwc'Mi nieaK. 10. Have your meals at regular hours, and ;it least five hours apart. 11. See to it carefully that the bowels move regularly each morning. 12. Sleep in a cpiiet place and in a single bed. 13. Retire early, and sleep as long as you can sleep Soundly. 14. Keep your room well ventilated, especially your sleeping-room. 15. Exercise at least two hours each day in the open air. 16. Keep the feet warm and dry, and through- out the entire year wear woolen under-garments. Every young man who desires to remain strong, o- to regain his physical, intellectual and moral powers, should have an absorbing purpose in life. Live with an aim, and let that aim be high. The man who aims at the -un will shoot higher than the man who aims at the earth. If you do not build a few castles in the air. you never will own any that are built on the earth. Devote yourself with untiring dili- gence to some department of work. Determi ne what is to be your life-purpose, and devote your- self absorbingly to its attainment. Do not be coiiteiiled with mediocrity. Rise above the *IUTA roc.vo inxoroiiT .n ,-.vor. 8, > >"" »UI th,„ .|,v„,e y„,„„|f ,„ ,^ be no q„cM,on ,„ r..,.ard ,„ ,„,„ f„„„, .^ ^^" ■on; y„„M,fcw.l.l« worth s„„K.,|.:.,K.T„d .you lay all yo„r phy.cU. in,.l,cc,'al and eery over your lower nature, but that which will crown you „i,h ^.^^ ^^^ " - » 'h.s world, but also in the world to come That the -eader may have the benefit of what one o the ablest and best writers upon thU w th s V" "P"' '" "■°^' -h° »- 'o" Jfed able f ,T" T"'"'"' "' 1"°" "■'" consider able fulness from Dr William Acton in his book Zs- Iny^^T"' °^'>'»"'" '^^- Acton Mys. In s rong, robust young men the surgeon need not take much notice of emissions r-.o!™ on once a week, but to recommend the pa „t o avo.d suppers, to abstain from tea, coffee and nst"d°oft ',° "'r,'-- " ^P-S mattresses ■nstead of feather-beds, and sleep with only a moderate quantity of clothin.. ' at-ter' dim"""'"'' ■"*■ ''"'•"'°' •» ''"'"' "O fluid a ner amucr supposing that meal to be taken at s,x or seven o'clock. This, and reguhr evac.,at,on of the bladder a. bedtime togft oTn a tl'" "" "" ™ '"' ">"■= ™er a olten as the pat,ent wakes in the nigh;. w,l| ■i m 88 wuAT A yoiS'j if Ay viuiir to aaoit »in^,'ul.»rly a»^i^t the fre.iltncnt. A vcty littia rtiml will he luM'.cicnl tt) relieve any ^;rc.it ll»ir»C that may <)< cur in the evening', but the rule ihouUI he. avoid drinkinjj after ci^ht o'l lock. " The sufferer should l)c told that emission usually takes plat e in heavy sleepers, and the l)est way of preventin^j thii intense d:owsine«»s in the morninji is not to load the stomach over ni^^ht with all sorts of indigestible and mist el- laneous food. Care should be taken in regard to the quantity as well as quality, and I should rather say to such persons. Like your principal meal in the middle of the day. and let your evening meal be light. I do not advise a man to go hungry to bed. but 1 am convinced, if a patient will judiciously attend to his diet, and in this respect exercise self-control, he may, without much assistance from his medical ad- viser, ward off frequent emissions. If. however, a young man will persist in gorging himself with what to his delicate stomach is an indi- gestible meal, he must not expect that any means a surgeon has at his disposal will avail to preve'it these losses. *• Let me further remark, that if a man is dis- posed to emissions he should it How himself to fall into n second sleep, but t ... rise eai'v. In following out this plan t r '., nj difficulty if the patient goes to bed at a reasonable hoi'". No doubt can exist that emissions most fre- quently take place in the second sleep; and it is equally certain that although a man wakes tlioroughly refreshed from his first sleep, he '»//.4; A rorsa mas nrouT to ksow. 89 may an.e. after hav.n^; taken a second ci.,.e t hor.M.^jhly proHtrate.1. An rarlv call, or an al.irm-clo shes. ^n ^ ^V"; '""^ '^''"" '" '^"^ "^e of ordinary kn.ves and forks, which may not have bee^ cleansed m water sufficiently hc:t to kUl the ijerms that remain everywhere after these diseased persons themselves have gone on their way. If these dangers were visible to the ordinary their fearful consequences within prescribed Ws; but such is not the case. AH signs of disease may disappear from the person for ten wenty. or even forty years, and then suddei.ly.' almost m a day. over^vhelm the entire body of the unhappy victim with sores that make him an astonishment to the beholder. Like Mount Summa. with its vast sides covered with verdure and vineya.ds. with the inhabitants of busy aties that lay at its base, after ages of repose bursting forth in an hour, and amidst lightning and earthquake and mid-day darkness, buryinf Pompei. and Herculaneum and the inhabitants of a vast plain in a ruin that after eighteen cen- tunes still apprJs the entire world That outside of the medical profession there >s general and almost profound ignorance con- cerning the prevalence, character and sad consequences of the disease^ which afflict those who are given to illicit and unlawful sex- ual indulgence, there can be no doubt Fven those who have themselves suffered from some one or more forms of venereal disease are often 90 WHAT A yOLNO MAy Oi'UIJT TO h-yoW. as totally i^'norant of the real character of the malady s those who do not knov anything of its existence. After the first manifestations of the disease have disappeared they regard them- selves as wholly cured, and the subsequent re- sults which they suffer in the after months and years are never associated in their minds v.ith the original ?nd only cause. It is not too much to say that if the public were more ful'.y ac- quainted with thechaiacter and consequences of these diseases, thousands of men would be annually saved from moral and physical cor- ruption, ana thousands upon thousands of the innocent who are unknowingly inoculated with the disease might be saved from the contagion which is poisoning the very fountains of human life and being. There are good men and wo- men, some of whom even in their own per- sons suffer the effects of these diseases which have been transmitted for a generation or two, who would raise their voices against the imparting of any information upon this subject to the general public. An intelligent physician, who has given much time and study to the con- sideration of this subject, in writing says: "In the great cities it is fearfully prevalent, including both sexes and all grades of society. We do not doubt that more than twenty-five per cent, of the whole population is more or less tainted with it, and the greater number innocently. Nor is it at all confined to the indigent and de- graded. It holds j ust as firm . though concealed and held in check, in the fashionable clubs and ^'11 A TAYO ISO AlAy CO JIT TO A.,0 W. 97 Stately mansions of the opulent as in the alleys and oack slums of the dregs of our population No man no woman, ue care not what us posU t>onorh,sl,f..naybe. issecurefromuslo'th. some touch. ' 'o*«n. These .|„cslio„, are of vilal interest to the pubhc an.l ,f we would save our youn,- n,e„ from the s,„s which some people condone bu" «h,ch a just God judges and punishes, at^d if we would save .he purity of unsuspecting wive and bnng ,n,o the world a holy and healthy offspnnj;, „ „ te necessary thac an intelligen' Chns .an publ.c should take up arms, not only n defe ce of our own homes, but in order that" a- loyal ..nd patriotic citizens, as far as possible a7resT?hi^T\?' ""'^ '™'"'"' -""^e and arrest this terr.ble curse, which threatens the deh.emen. and overthrow, no, simply of the ind.v,dual, but of the nation itself That some, so-called physicia.s, may the sTtoi„?h'"""""'" "P°" => dis'easeland suffcnng humanity, they do no, desire to do S t'hf T 7"'" ^^^"^•'" "'- patient^ with the natural results of venerea, diseases Among the physicians of ,he better class there a e those who are ,00 busy in their practice to allow of the t.me necessary to explain these .h.ngs ,0 ,he,r patients, while others fear the <.epress,ng effects which the information would ha>e upon the minds of those who have con- tracted these diseases, and who are already under treatment. But after these individuals have been cured of the external appearances g8 WUA T A ro r.VO MAIf O VQIIT TO A'.VO W. of disease, they often disappear fio;n the list of the doctor's patients and go out into the world, either to contaminate others or to con- tract even a worse disease. On these and m iny other accounts there is a general lack of intel- ligence, and it is necessary that in th's treat- ment we should speak plainly, so that if possi- ble we may save the >oung from this leprosy of lust. What we have to say is not the rer.ult of a slight acquaintance with the diseases to which we shall refer F'or twenty-seven years we havp. beert acquainted with some persons who have suffered from these fearful dis^-ases, and it was through them that our attention was first called to a thoughtful consideration and study of their terrible efTerts. At different times we have visited the venereal wards of some of our largest hospitals in this country, and in order that we might be guided by reliable medical authority :;i preparing for the writing of this chapter, we have given the subject such an amount of care- ful reading and investigation as would enable us to speak accurately, and also to merit the endorsement and commendation of such emi- nent practitioners and professors ab might be necessary in order to give our statements weight and authority. For the sake of brevity, and that our pages might be understood by all, we have quoted the language of such reliable medical authorities as have expressed in an intelligible way the information which we seek *o communicate. ^'"■^rAvoryoM^yoranTTOK'yon'. 99 No form of venereal disease m ly |,c sa.d to be s.mple. f„r all are at times attei-d w t^the n^-t senous and fatal consequences. That however, from which the patient oftent me; escapes w.thout subsequent consequences 7a enous character .. known by the Ldica p o «^h cla^'Th'^^•^•^ tne clap. fhere are men who say thev would as soon have the gonorrhc^a as a b.'cl dtln " r ''''• '"' ^^^'^ declarafon only d^closes their profound i.^norpnce of the re.^ character of a disease which is oftentimes veTy rehearse a d.sgustmK catalogue of symptoms wh.ch would be of no value except to^heTd.' on of the h"' "' "'' '''''' '"^ ^^^ '■"^— .on of the ordmary mdiv.dual. in plain terms the general course of this d.sease and T^ consequences w! ■;». frequently follow In h.s book entitled - Transmission of Life " Dr. George H. Napheys. in speaking of this 'ualnn'."';.; "'' "^^ '""^' about 'life-long col ''"n ^^'/""''^S^ f'-^m the bladder be come mfl.med and contracted. That organ tse f IS very apt to partake of the inflammatfon and become .rritable and sensUive. Sperm"' torrhoea and impotence, with all their misery' nay follow, and the whole economy may pi ! takeofthemfection. An eruption of theX and an obstmate form of rheumatism, both -holly mtractable to ordinary remedied are in^agme. Not mfrequently these troublesome til if *li fc loo WHAT A yor .\u mas oiaiir m Ksn\% chronic, rheumatic romplaints \. Inch annoy men in mitldlc and adv.wu rcl life are the iate castij^ations which nature i^ jntliiung fur early trans^'rcshion." Such a picture as this whirh Dr. Naphcys with a few strc)ke-> of his pen ^'ivcs of the < har- actcr and results of the disease is not cah ulated to comfort the mind of its unfortunate possessor with any assurance that he has contracted a disease that is no worse than a bad cold. Hut when we till in this hare outline with some other delineations which belong to the picture, it be- comes truer to life and nit^re terrible to look upon Another troublesome accompaniment of a se- vere attack of j,'onorrluL'a is an oft-repeated and sometimes cjuite continuous and painful erec- tion of the sexual member, which is known to medical men as chordee. This inflimcd condition of the entire organ, and especially of the urethra, or the canal through which the urine passes after leaving the bladder, produces an irritation which causes the less affected parts of the sexual member to set up an erection in which the diseased portions take no part, and the result is a distorting, stretching and lactrat- inir of the delicate linings of the urinary canal, resulting at the time in intense suffering, which may even continue for days, and for a consid- erable period not allow its victim a single nigh^ of undisturbed rest. Uncomfortable and i)ainful as this condition may be in itself, it is generally only the fore- » //• T A yoi.yo MAX oiuiiT to ksqw. ioi rtinner of worse thing, to f„llow. This Urcrat- mK' of the urethra, or urinary ,anal. results in a contraction of .he si,e of ,hc urethra, and >r tne results centralize, the pissa^c is likely lo close entirely, and the p.u.cnt sulier from «hat IS called stricture. Stricture may be successfully reduced either temporarily or per manently. or it may refuse to yield to local treatment, and the passage close entirely leav- ing the sufferer no natural means of emptying the l.ladder md in conse<,uence necessitate a surgical op. ation extending up iato the blad- dci. so that the urine may for a j^jnod of days or weeks ho removed by artificial means, while the local di.-T^culty is being treated and relieved Such conditions are not at all uncommon, but are frequently i^ct. even by physicians of limited practice. Sonu of the more aggravated ca^es of this cl iss. which we have ourselves witnessed in Che wards of our large city hospitals, art too excruciating and terrible to narrate in these pages. Then there is also the painful swelling of the glands which are located in the groin, or that portion of the Lody directly in front of the hip- joint, at the junction of the thigh with the abdo- men. These swellings, or buboes, as they are technically called, may be only perceptible to the touch, or they may become as large as wal- :nits. occasioning much pain and alarm, and not infre(i..ently even form large abscesses, and rail for surgical treatment. Hemorrhage, or bleeding, during the acute loj WHAT A yov.\n the disease^ parts, impotency may follow, or the sease may protract itself into a chronic state, and continue in a somewhat modified character durinj,'the remainder of one's life in the form of gleet, concerning which a medical authority before us sa^s: " P" what we will, a gleet is often unmanageab' •, ^rd no man who suffers from gonorrhoea sho^id ever allow it to degen- erate into this form, either from neglect or from improper treatment." In estimating the risks which are encoun- nit AT A Vorsa MAS OtmiT Tn k.\()W. 103 tereil in contract- ^ thin fearful ili^canc. the in- (Iivulual wh<» |)rt•frr^ it to a i uUl i.r the tooth- a« he may aho l»e < oinfortecl by the informa- iion that if. n tnyin^' with thi-* lll^ca^c which he rcyjards s v» trifling;, he •.houltl chan< e to tran-ifer some of the virus from the afTected sexual part to his cyt-. or to leave thi^ invisible e\ il on a towt-l whii h some one i<» to u^e after him, or communicates this di>ca>,c to his \ncg- want wife, and she should fail to he entirely cured before the birth of her < hiM. in either of thcc events a ( ase of total blindness may fol- low. Indeed, bliiulncss frequently follows as a result. Ofleniinics younj; men who have con- tracted Konorrhcta, and after careful »- -ncnt think themselves entirely cured, ctain m- nants of the disease, the presence of which can only bcdi'coveicd l)y a careful microscopical examination. In writing of such cases an cminenl ".erman physician says: " In count- less cases it dc:,troys the happiness of the family. How often do specialist i in female diseases see youn^' wives, after the first few weeks of marria^'c. sickly and in failing,' heaUh, whom they formerly knew as bloominjj, en- ergetic girls." Another physician says: "This disease has a power of infection which is re- markably obstinate. It is an cvery-day expe- rience that men who contracted the clap five or ten years ago, or even longer, and who counted themselves as cured, have infected their young wives soon after marriage." There is no lack of authority upon this point, 1 04 WlIA TAVO LAO MA S O f GUT TO AWO If and the saddest feature is that in such a large pcrccnta^'e of cases the condition of the youny wife is not tempora y, but permanent. Man> iin unhappy husband has gone to his phvsician and bemoaned the (ondition of his invaUdwife. hide dreaming that he is himself the author of his own unhappiness and his wife's misery— never for one moment supposing that but for his folly and his sin his wife would still be the bloom- ing woman she once was. Under such circum- stances it ill becomes a guilty man to cast re- proach upon the innocent and unsuspecting woman who is bearmg by far the heavier bur- den of the two. A single illustration from the practice of Dr. Lowdenhardt will s jffice : " J. B. contracted gon- orrhoea in the fall of f 1ie year. Discharge la^sted for six weeks, and the .1 almost ceased. Drank champagne during the Christmas holidays, and the discharge reappeared, continued for sev- eral months, and then became scarcely more than a slight secretion. This kept up, some- times slightly worse, sometimes disappearing altogether, for eighteen months, when he mar- r.ed. Two months after marriage his wife had an attack of acute ovaritis and pelvic peritoni- tis, and came near losing her life, and did finally lose hci ovaries. This man's urethral secretion was examined by me and found to contain gonococci in large numbers." Thus by the unlawful sexual intercourse of their hus- bands, before or during marriage, countless wives are made unhappy, are defrauded of nJlA TAVO lyo MAN 1'GHT TO KWO H'. 1 05 all hopes and possibilities of becomin^r happy mothers, are robbecl of the joy of livin<;. are ruined in their health and oppressed with'^paiu and low spirits, all because of the ignorance, vice and folly of their husbands. Dr. H. N. Guernsey, in his excellent little book, "Plain Talks on Avoided Subjects," says : " W..en gonorrha^a is contracted, al- though frequently suppressed by local treat- ment in the lorm of injections, it is never per- fectly cured thereby. No; the hidden poison runs on for a lifetime, producing strictures, dy- suria, gleet, and kindred diseases ; finally, in old men, a horrible prostatis results, from which the balance of one's life is rendered miserable indeed. If inflammation of the lungs super- venes there is ofte». a transmission of the virus to these vital organs, causing what is termed ' plastic pneumonia,' where one lobule after an- other becomes gradually sealed up, till nearly the whole of both lungs becomes impervious to air, and death results from asphyxia." When we come to sum up the total of these possibilities and probabilities, and add to the pain the financial expense, the personal degra- dation, possible humiliation because of expo- sure in this world and of eventual exposure and divine punishment in the world to come, we are willing to leave the intelligent reader to judge whether a pleasing sensation w> ich lasts but for a moment is an adequate return for what not a few, but thousands upon thousands, are this moment suffering both as to the imme- •fli •!' m io6 WHAT A roiwa max olout to ksow. ■^^ diate and subsequent results, some for a tern. poral j)eriod, ind others for an unending eter- nity. There are three forms of venereal disease com- mon amon^' those who defy the laws of ("lOd and man, and expose themselves to the immediate judgments which God visits upon those who transgress moral restraints, social rights, and physical laws. The most common, gonorrhoea, or clap, usually appears about ten to fifteen days after the criminal relation, and while it may not be attended with serious results, and may be permanently he. .d after a few weeks, yet it may, and often is, attended with one or more of the sad results we have indicated, or may seemingly be healed, and then reappear at intervals, or it may differ from anything we have described, because the disease, instead of attacking the urethra, may engraft and conceal itself under the prepuce, or foreskin, and pro- duce a form of external gonorrhoea known as balanitis. The parts may become so swollen, that in order to reach and treat the hidden ul- ceration the use of the knife may become neces- sary, gangrene is possible, and physicians fa- miliar with the disease tell us that wh«. not promptly or properly treated, the unhappy vic- tim may even suffer the loss of a portion of his sexual member. While gonorrhoea is local in its manifestation, and when thoroughly cured does not leave any permanent constitutional effects, and is not transmitted to his offspring, yet it is by no means the simple and indifferent WHAT A YOVSa MAS OVOIIT TO K^OW. 1 07 matter which many wayward and wicked tfansgressors would gladly ha.e the innocent and unsuspecting believe it to be. Medical records and journals are generally agreed that it \% possible for pure and unoffend- ing marrie 1 people to suffer from an affection which closely resembles gonorrhoea. This is caused by an nrrid discharge from the female parts, or may be developed at the time of the monthly sickness of the wife. Physicians of unquestioned ability and honor declare this to be a fact, and assert that it is important that this should be known, as ignorance of this fact has led to unjust suspicions an^l cruel accusations, resulting in the disruption of families and the suffering of untold misery. mi I i .1 CHAPTER V. EVILS TO BE SHUNNED AVD CONSEQUENCES TO BE DREADED. Continued. The two other chief forms of venereal dis- ease are chancroid and chancre, the latter being the primary lesion or sere of syphilis. In their first appearance they are, at least to the unpractised, quite alike. The first, how- ever, is purely local, external, does not poison the blood, appears from three to nine days after inocilation, generally yields quite readily to treatment, leaves no permanent constitu- tional effects, and after being cured is not trans- mitted to the offspring. With the chancre, or syphilis, it is different. The firs, positive evidence of the disease does not make its appearance until at the end of from three to six weeks ; and wnen the chancre or first sore appears, although it be discovered when no larger than the head of a pin, the system is already thoroughly contaminated, and though this first visible symptom should be cauterized and destroyed, the entire body is already af- fected, and the results are inevitable. When compared with the ' orrors of chancre, or syphilis, chancroid is regarded as a simple disease, but it is not without its oun peculiar M> ;!' no WHAT A yoLWo j/^a onaiT to ksow. horrors, not the least c.l which is the fact that only a physician who is familiar with these two diseases can at first tell which is which, and the mental agony through which an individual ^iasses while this question is being definitely determined has often been sufficient to render its unhappy victim a raving maniac, or to lead to immediate suicide; the wretched mortal, closing his eyes to the awful judgments of the world to come, rushes unsummoned into the presence of the great Judge, seeking thus to escape the awful temporal judgments and physical ruin which he has pulled down upon his own head. If the physican is unskilled, mistakes the chancroid for a chancre, and begins a course of mercur.al treatment, he may salivate his patient, who will suffer afterwards with mercurial diseases, which may be thought to be the symptoms of secondary syphilis. The venereal ulcer, which attends chancroid, may make its first appearance as early as the second or third day, but may be retarded in its appearance, or it may not be observed for several days, or even for a couple of weeks. It may be very small, exist unnoticed, occasion little or no inconvenience for a time, or an alarming ulcer may form rapidly. There may be a simple ulcer or chancroid upon the sexual member, or several chancroids may appear upon the same person, at the same time, in the same vicinity, or upon different portions of the body. These chancroids may also be attended with niU TAYO VSa MAN tVHT TO KSO W. 1 1 1 buboes, or a swelling of the lymphatic glands •n the groin, and the.c may gather and break or reciuire to he lanced and treated the same as m similar trouble in the instance of gonorrhoea . or as in syphilis itself; for bubo is likely to' attend alike all three of these diseases, the only difference being that in cases of gonorrhoea and chancroid the virus is not absorbed into the system, as in the case of chancre, or syphilis. There are a few differences by which the physician distinguishes between chancroid and chancre, or syph.iis. The chancroid usually appears in a few days, the chancre in a few weeks. The chancroid, in external appearance IS qu.te like the chancre, but the latter has an indurated or hard base, somewhat like the core of a large boil, while the chancroid is an ulcer with a soft base ; and it is upon this difference be. tween the lesion or ulcer with the soft base or the hard base that enables the physician to dis- criminate between the chancroid, the counter- feit syphilis, and the chancre or genuine syphi- lis. The chancroid may be. and often is a larger and more inflamed ulcer, but it does not become constitutional, and yields readily to local treatment, while the chancre does not make its appearance at all until the system is permeated and the contamination has been effected When the chancroid and its bubo, or swelled gland in the groin, if that follows, are thoroughly healed the consequences ..re over, but when the chancre IS healed, the terrible results of syphilis are but just begun. The appearance of the chancre or I; i 'it J' 1 1 2 niiA T A ro vyo man o ugut to kso w. 11': ulcer in syphilis is only an announcement that the poison is in the system, and that the second- ary effects may be confidently looked for, and modify these by treatment if you may, but un- less spcctlily arrested in its course, the tertiary, or third, staj^c of the disease will l)e reached ; and the peculiar terror of this disease is that each stage is more destructive and more to be feared than that which preceded it. In order that the reader may get an intelli- gent idea of this most terrible of all the diseases which afflict humanity, it will be important to fix clearly in the mmd the fact that syphilis has three distinct and clearly-defined stages— the primary, secondary, and tertiary. The primary stage is recognized by the ap- peaiance of the indurated or hard chancre, or ulcer, which usually begins as a pimple, and after several days develops into an inflamed open ulcer, or chancre, having a red circle. These sores may be attended by the swelled grom or buboes, and after a few weeks both may yield to tieatmcnt and disappear, but this is the source of no intelligent comfort, for the serious trouble has only begun. The secondary .symptoms which follow, manifest themselves in a virulent attack ot vhe disease upon the skin and mucous membrane. The secondary stage is reached at the end of a few weeks, usually three or four, or it may re- main dormant for that many months. The at- tack now is upon the skin. Rashes, eruptions and sores appear upon the body. The glands -nflame a.ul K'athcr. Shallou- „Ircrs form upon t'>|-' to,,MK-.an.lj,,.t hack ofthc. lips on the in- M^lc (.f the. MH.uth. The throat ulcerate, ca- tarrh lays held c.f the rm.ccus c hainhers c.f the head; the stomach, the liver, and the internal organs may he attacked. The hair is apt to onsen and fall out. the spirit bee omes depressed he brain may be involved, and imbecility epi- lepsy and insanity may foljou-. These' are some of the terrors and horrors of the second- ary sta-e. The next is still worse. In the tertiary stage the disease leaves the outer surfaces and attacks the bones. The early -^vrnptom IS a severe pain like rheumatism, not at the joints, but between them, especially be- t^veen the knee and the ankle and on the head 1 he pair ,s se c at night, and its victim often wa.ks the tloor. unable to lie down or sleep The oones become brittle, and nature loses her power to heal. The nose is liable to be eaten away, and, piece by piece. th.o.-.H g.eat sores in the flesh, the bones slough and pass out or they may weaken and break by a sudden strain. Dr. Napheys tells of a young man who in at- tempting to pull off his boot snapped nis thigh- bone at the hip-joint, and for nearly two years was laid upon his bed, from which he was only relieved by death. We have ourselves seen similar sad results, and anyone visiting the Medical Museum of Anatomy in Washington 1). C can there see a human skull, the top of which was eaten through by this dreadful foe and scourge of mankind ^ 8 Dr. Hollick says: "No i 114 ii7/.i r .1 vorsd MAS' ormiT to hSOW. person wlio has once had ch.ine(juen( es nf tertiary syniptoins, unless he has uiulcrj^ona ihc most th()r()ii^,'h ami a|)propriate treatment, and at the proper time. 1 ki\e\v one pentle- man in whom tertiary syphilis ')r()ke out in the mouth and throat ei^jht yeais a ter he had be- come, as he thou^dit, perfectly well." This is the thseasc com erninj; which an emi- nent professoi in oneof our lar^'esl mcilical col- leges in this country, in one of the clinics, when examining and prescribing for persons who had skin diseases, and when a man with a syphi- litic sore was before the class, saitl to his stu- dents: "('.entlemen, I would not have that sore on my body for the entire continent of North America." A physician, who is " personal acquaintance of the writer, related to us how a young man, vho had contracted this disease, came to him for consultation and treatment. In ord'-r that he might understand the import.mce of taking his medicine regularly and faithfully for a period of at least two years, and in order thiit he might be induced to use proper precaution to prevent the transmission of the disease to \ all uho »rc f.i- tnili.ir \itl» tin* si^^ns with ulu'h (..'ti;,'iic aiul throat. Ihcic sores n\ay also cxtcml to the outer surfaec near the nose anilniouth. or ni.iy .ippe.ir aroiitul the nail->, on the .inns, .md on the upper p.irt of the thi^;hs, and on the sexual })arts. Thcsi sores are hi^'hly »nfe< tious, and at this sta^;e of the disease the ror.'amin.ition is left on drinkinj^ cups, knives, 'ork>^, di>hcs, towcN, etc., ami the innocent are very frc(piently contaminated, and doomctl to •uffer all the terrible manifestations of this dreadful disease. About the cml h\0\\: 117 nodes, form (Icrp iHulcr tlic sk.n. Thry 11 Mi.illy lottic <.n the arm-,, or on the Ick's iK-twc-n the knee and the ankle. 'I iic swelling; c.it«n l)e- Cnine« hardened and remaitiH pernuincntly, cither hK)sc, or attached to tlic trae hone. When these nodes form on tlic inside of tlu- skull, as is sometimes the rase, they press upon the brain ami cause ronvuKions, and eventual dralh. At the end of a year p Hcsiiy swelling' of the tcsti( les is usually looked for. This is a ticw form (;f trtaihlc and dan-t -s it exposes the sufferer to the possible loss of the funi tioii. or use of those members, or it may tle^'enerate into .1 condition rcsemblin),' cancer, or it may termi- nate in one of several v^ays. or. for almost ar indefinite period, refuse to terminate at all. If the disease is not arrested and the system cleansed, at the end <> about the secomi year a new form of the disease known as rupiamay be expec ted. The word rupia comes from a I..itin word meaning' a ro( k, and is so called because the body is covered with hui,'e scal)s resembling a roc k. These begin with a little scab formed over a small sore resembling a blister. Hencath these s( abs the ulcer eats deeper and spreads brradcr, all the while exuding a scrum which dries from bencala in layers, each broader than that next above, and thus the scabs or scales grow broader or higher until their appearance suggests the resemblance or propriety of calling thcin " rupia," or a rock. These great sores appear upon the arms and legs and we have I 1 8 TI7/.1 T A YOVSG MAS OUOIIT TO A'.VOR'. seen them sufficiently nmncrous and lorj^e to ^M\e the patient a very horrible a[)pearance. We have also seen them quite completely cover the back with smaller sores, anil have known persons to remain in the hospital an entire year before these sores have disappeared. At the end of three to five years, or a much longer period, tubercular deposits are likely to form in the mouth, throat, nose, and on the tongue. At first they appear as hard lumps or tumors, and then develop into ulcers of a very destructive character. They eat away the pal- ate, nostrils, and bones of the nose. These ulcers in their appearance and r >sult greatly resemble and are often mistaken for cancer. People with the nose thus eaten away are not infrequently met with upon the streets in our large cities, and we have often seen them even in small towns and villages. From four to six years after the appearance of the chancre, gummy tumors are liable to ap- pear. They are much like the preceding. Hard, movable lumps, from the size of a pea to that of a hen's egg, form under the skin in any part of the body. For months they may remain unchanged, and occasion no pain, but finally they attach themselves, ulcerate, and when opened disclose a condition that looks as though the underlying tissues had all been undermined, and a large and destructive ulcer develops in a surprisingly shcrt period of time. Generally, destruction of the bone follows, and the terti- ary stage, with its much-to-be-dreaded results, (vi/A T A ro cya .v,, y q i-hht to K-yo w. 119 is upon tlie poor victim, uun all its pains and terrors. If the sufferer is not thorout,My cured at the end of twenty, or even forty vrars. r'c at a much earlier period, as the case m'xy be the bones may be attacked, and the nose the upper portion of the skull, the spine, or the ikr-e bones of the arms and \cg^ may yield to disin- tegration and decay. These may slou-h off and pass out throufjh great sores, and afflict with untold pain and horror their unhappy victim. Not all the results we have indicated always happen in any one case, nor are the periods of time indicated to be relied upon in all in- stances. The secondary symptoms, because of treatment and the physical conditions of the indivulual. may be so slight as to be almost unnoticed, and the tertiary, or third stage, may steal m upoi its unsuspecting victim without previous warning. The differen-. stages may be separated by defined periods of relief, or they may follow closely, or even overlap each other The first chancre may heal, and nothing more may be see-> of the disease for eight or ten years, or even longer, and then it may suddenly reappear with all the horrors of the secondary or tertiary form. Nothmg can be definitely foretold, save that syphilis has an infinite vari- ation and modification, and never lacks for some new form with which to surprise both the patient and the physician. At times it fights m an open field, then flanks its enemy, lies in ambush for a new surprise, or, -emingly van- m i m 1 20 M-jiAT A yoiyo MAy oraiiT to ksow quished, retreats to gather strength for a new attack, or forms an alliance with some ordinary physical foe, rendering fatal a bruise, a fever, or even a bad cold. We have seen these things with our own eyes, we have learned them from the lips of the ablest medical authorities, and the picture is not overdrawn. To recognize the full charac- ter and effects of syphilis, you would have to conipel the world to throw open the doors of all its hospitals, and expose to view the moral lepers, whose flesh and bones reek with rotten- ness and death, and, as yon pass from ward to ward, it would be necessary to require your attendant to call diseases by their real names, and tell you the true relations of the many aches and ills to this one terrible disease of diseases which visits its judgments upon the children of its unhappy victim to the third and fourth generations ; to throv/ open the doors of the insane asylums, to show you the large number of their unhappy victims who have been thrust in here from among the primary and sec- ondary sufferers of syphilis ; to throw open the doors of the sepulchres and show you the slain ; to throw open the gates of the lost world and show you the doomed, and let you listen to the wails of the millions who have been slain for all eternity by this awful sin of lust and dis- ease. " Truly the wi^ , ' — not only the end, but also the way — " of the transgressor is hard." We have found no pleasure in dwelling thus in detail upon this dreadful disease. If your WIIA T A roi-yo MAN OUQIIT TO A'AOH', 121 nature shrinks from the contemplation, so does ours. Hut the fri.^htful spread of this disease 's largely due to the almost universal and pro- tound Ignorance upon the subject. The protec tiop of society demands that the nature and results of this scourge of humanity should be kno^vn and recognized. We quarantine against yellow fever and cholera, nnd shall society not be protected against this disease, which .s far more destructive of human life and happiness than yellow fever and cholera combined > God put a mark upon Cain, and he puts a mark lipon those who have syphilis ; and it has for years been a serious question in our mind whether, for the protection of the pure the government should not brand upon the 'fore- head those who have this disease, so that they could always be recognized, and thus the un- contaminated might be apprised and put upon heir guard. A leper is excluded from associa- lon with the pure, while syphilis, which is no less contagious or terrible. ,s permitted to spread both by illicit sexual indulgence and by ordmary contact. But there are still a few important questions that demand to be considered in this connec- tion. An important question often asked is 'Can it be cured ?" Upon this question there IS among medical men a diversity of opinion. Oftentimes the chancroid is mistaken by the physician of limited practice for the genuine chancre, and because of its early disappear- ance he IS awarded by the patient, and sin- f • 1 2 2 WIIA T A YO LNQ M. IX 01 V 11 T TO kWO H'. i!' ih cerely accepts, the credit of havin>j perma- nently cured a chancre or a case of (genuine syphilis. In other cases, where the lesion or ulcer is one of genuine syphilitic ori^Mn :\nd character, and where the jihysician is success- ful in hrinj^in^' the secondary sym[)tonis to hay, the patient removes from the neighborhood or disappears, and if, in after years, the disease returns, the physician may never learn of it. And even if the patient does not remove ar.d the symptom^ subsequently return, the patient may accept that fact as evidence of incompe- tency upon the part of the physician who failed, as he thinks, in his first efforts to cure the di-.- ease, and upon that account seek medical aid elsewhere, while, at the same time, the first physician may mistakingly regard the cure as having been radical and permanent, and may so record it in his journal. Dr. Guernsey, the author of " Plain Talks on Avoided Subjects," may be regarded as a fair sample of those who believe that the disease can be thoroughly eradicated. In his book he says: "An experience of nearly forty years of the treatment of these cases, in both sexes, has given me the power to know whereof I speak ; and I do declare that a very large percentage of these cases can be cured in a safe manner, and so perfectly cured, too, that there will be no danger of transmitting the infection to the offspring. I by no means stand alone in this statement ; many other physicians, after long years of experience, assert the same truth." fni.lT A VOUSO MAS OUGHT TO h'SOW. I 2i ^_ The author o an old medical work, entitled rem 1 ? ' '"'°^'" ^^>'^^ "'nnumerable »' .t i^ chthcult to say when it is really cured Indeed, some very wise men have doubted -hether .t is ever radically removed. What- ever .hame may be felt by the unhappy pi t.ent. .f there be a proper regard for Hfe' to fay noth,., of the interest of society, the best ac- cessible phys.aan will be consulted, and his counsels most carefully adhered to- dJuU n"'^^'' "^ '''""' "^^^'^^^ ^"thority un- treatment ,s be^u.n at once and continued un- mterruptedly and faithfully for a period of some ,,,, ,, ^,^^^ ^^^^^ ^ ^^^.^^^ ^P cl of is d u'bT "" '' '^'^^^'- '"''^'^ ^h.s theory s doubtless correct, medical authorities at the same time agree that in a very large proportion of cases such radical and permanent'cures Ire no effected, and for n.anifest reasons easf anTK "' ''' "'^ ''"^"'^^^^ °"f ^he dis- ease, and because the contaminated person may find no very serious difficulty wit) he pri" mary lesion or sore, or because of s. ne or poverty, or not knowing to what physician to hshed'^ 7"y ^-^es become thoroughly estab- lished and obstmate before medical aid is sought. Others, having so often heard the matter spoken of by their companions in jest thmk hghtly of the disease, and unless thei^ mmds are d.sabused by the physician, they are likelyto neglect their medicine, or. pon' the 124 WUAT A YOiyO MAX OIUUT TO KSOW. I' first disappearance of the symptoms, discontinue the treatment altogether, and never truly awaken to the gravity of the situation until it is too late ever thoroughly to eradicate the dis- ease. We do not think any eminent pliysician would be willing, even under the most fa- vorable circumstances, to promise a radical cure inside of two years, and even at the end of twice that period he would not be willing to accept a liberal sum of money and receive into his own system the germs of syphilis which might still remain in the system of his patient, nor would he for the world be wilhng to give his own pure daugh- ter in marriage to such a man, however thor- oughly his physical renovation or moral refor- mation might seem to be. Another question often asked is: "Maya man who has had syphilis ever safely marry ?" To this question an eminent French specialist docs not hesitate to reply, " Never." In the book. " The Family Doctor," to which we have already referred, the author says: '•As we write we have before the vivid eye of our memory a series of facts which might almost make your ears tingle. A young man connected with a family o<" the highest respect- ability early in life indulged in the sin which brought on syphilis. Much labor and expense led, as it was believed, to a full cure, and after a few years he married a most estimable lady of health and beauty, entered an honorable profession, and by his piety and benevolence ^HA TA ro Vyo MAS OVQUT TO KSO W. \ 25 rose to high esteem in the community. The mid- dle period of life arrived, his wealth increased, and a large and beautiful family of children surrounded him. Disease attacked him. and physicians at length were - jmpelkd to tell him that he suffered from an uneradicated and in- curable disease arising from the sins of youth. In a state of ( hagrin and grief which the pen cannot describe, he soon after ended the mourn- ful tragedy by death." Dr. Hollick. on this subject, says : " People have been assured that they might safely marry, and have found afterwards that they were still diseased, and. still worse, that they were diseasing others. The despair of a man who discovers that his single youthful impru- dence is entailing disease on his offspring may be better imagined than described ; and such discoveries are often made." Dr. Napheys. in his volume on " The Trans- mission of Life," thinks that with unmistakable evidence of a radical cure a man may subse- quently marry. While, however, impressing the importance of great caution, he says: "We doubt if any man having once had decided in- fection can positively say that he has entirely recovered from iv. We know a respectable physician who, when commencing practice contracted syphilis on the finger in attending tlie confinement of a diseased woman. It be- came conbt.tutional, but by active treatment he apparently completely cured it. He mar- 'Jed, an., has four, to all appearances, healthy I[ ^■ I i t.' ^ 126 WHAT A YOVSO MAS OUGHT TO hWOW. children. Fourteen years after all symptoms had disappeared, on an occasion when hi^ j,'en- eral health was lowered by loss of rest and anxiety, the disease broke out anew. There is not a doubt but that durin)^' the whole of that period it hail been lurking; in his blood." Our own advice on this subject is averse to such marria^'es, and as a clergyman, if asked to oiticiate at a weddin^j where we knew that either of the parties had previously suffered from this disease, we wouid refuse to officiate or consent in any manner to be a party to such a contract, and for the following; reasons: Mar- riage is too sacred an institution, and the fear- ful consequences which such a disease is more than likely to transmit to an innocent wife, and because of the diseased bodies and physical sufferings which is to be forced upon helpless children, who, if they are to be brought into the world at all, have a legitimate right to demand of ministers of the gospel, if indeed of no one else, that they shall be protected against having tlisease, suffering and death thrust upon them V ithout the privilege of choice or the power to decline. These interests are too momentous and sacred to allow of being regarded as offset by the consideration of the personal comfort or convenience of one who should rather desire at the cost of his own life to protect the innocent, the unsuspecting and the helpless from the wretched- ness that he is most likely to bequeath to them. If such partief, desire to marry they will never be able to secure our sanction to the contract, nilATA rOLXO VAX OUOIIT TO KSOW. 1 27 Another important ((uestion to be consiilered in connection with the marria^'e of men pre- viously diseased, but subsequently only par- upon the wife and the tialiy cured, is the f'"'"Tt children, if t'lere t .ild be says: " The father maybe so f; any. Dr. Hollick ;^r well that he w.Il not disease the mother by connection but he will heyct a child diseased throu^-h the semen, and this child will infect its own mother before its birth." The same author says: "The poison by syphilis docs not reside in the sores only, but infects the blood of the patient. If blood be taken from the man who has syphilis, and in- oculated into another man, it will K'ive him syphilis, the same as if he had been inoculated with matter from the chancre." Dr. Napheys, in speaking of the ulcers which form in the mouth, says : " The discharge from them IS a poison, ai.d can convey the disease and so can a drop of blood from the infected person." Dr. Hollick also says: "It is not positively known whether the semen itself from a man who has syphilis will give it to the woman with whom he cohabits. That is. suppose he con- tracts syphilis and is cured so far that there is no sore from which the woman can be infected, may she be so from the semen ? There is good reason to suppose she may, in the same way that she would be from the man's blood." The same author also says : " Most usually the child inherits syphilis from its mother, who may contract it from the father without beincr aware us WHAT A rot so a Ay ovout to ksow. h • i:ii. of what is the matter. Hut the ( hild may also he atlci tcU from the fatht-r thmuj^h the semen, whi,'h to retain itself in the womb. Through how many ^'cnerations syphilis may run l)efnre it becomes extint t we do not know, but V -th each remove it seems to become more modified and lighter, till at last it probably merges into some ordinary form of disease, especially scrofula. " It has long been observed that aliortion (miscarriage) is very frequent in those mothers who suffer from constitutional syphilis, on ac- count of the disea->ed condition of the child. .\ large proportion of the children themselves also die, even when they present no indication of infection at their birth. . . . Hut nearly all that I have known to live have been scrofulous or scorbutic' Dr. Xapheys says : " It is possible for a man in whose constitution the taint of disease exists, but is latent, to have perfectly sound offspring. But if he has any symptom of the disease in any stage, it is probable, nay, almost certain, that his children will show the effects of it, although their mother remains healthy. ^ *'nATA rorsn jr.i.v ovgut to lsow. „, " Much more Kmcrally. the mother takes the disease c-.hcrf, on. the father or fnun the ,m born ..hi. in uh... „..,, ,.„,, ,,, ^^^^^ t.unt IU.t unle.. she vho ap,h.s it to her breast, the friend who »^'-es ,t. the attendants who handle it are in jmm.nent danger of bein.Mn turn v.ctim^ of the loathsome disease. "The only person who can nur.c or even thTt tt r •' 'V^'"^ ^'"-"^ "'^ '"f-ntile syph.l.s hat the d.sease .s most ea.ily co.nmunLated. of I r. Co les. a well-known I.^lish sur^e'n! The read.ness w.th which syph.lis in infant can be commun.cated by contact cannot be exceeded by any other disease with w „ch ton adds A common mode by which the bem^ /.../ by the girl that carries it. or bj- ^s It not tune that the public received sop.e -n.n, about it? Are we to shut our mouO;! 9 i| ii • JO WHAT A rOVyO mas OIVHT to kS(fW. u > and sfc these jicrih to piiMic health nourly in- crcisin^, .uul viy nothing;, do nothing' ? " Let ;.iu h a < hdd hy c. ireful attention ancs of the eyes, skin, fjlands, and bones, to which the epi- thet scrofulous has been applied, are '■'•ally the results of inherited syj)hilis.' "And all this misery, all th'^se curses long drawn out, th'!se consequences so dire to inno- cent ^generations, ihe penalty of one moment of illicit pleasure, the vcn^'eance of a violated law, which knows justice, but no mercy !" Dr. Guernsey bears testimony to the same ihin^'. He says: "Young men marrying with the slightest taint of this poison in the blood will surely transmit the disease to their chil- dren. Thousands of abortions (miscarriages) transpire every year from this cause alone, the poison being so destructive as to kill the child in utero before it is matured for birth; and, even if the child ])e bom alive, i* is likely to break down with the most loathsome disorders ^n r A roryu a^y 01 JUT TO A-.VOI .... ,1, iK.yoH\ , J, '"• IioIIk k sa\s • " 'II , in ..II r,„„',l, *>l''"l''i'- infant f" "'mc limi ■■ •i|,„ ■ ■ ,'"' '«i"m to •■AHnM,na,.^e, r;,rr'''':;''^''">-■ never show it. cvcrnf „.... ' "'' >*"' f"r.un.„cly urcmsunccl , ' l ' "'' " «ar.U become, .he vie m r r " " """■ tlevel()r,ed Still K ^*^'^'"' "'" remain un- «m, am may ■''::;■"•'''":•"''■'■ •'•'»)- feneration, in whi"h ," '""'"".""' "' "" "<^^' The same author also savs • •• tk in/an,,b„rnsvphiluicarr ;,X^:::;"-"^ ^ith, esneriallv if »K . ^ "'^"<^^"t to dea •i-chiir ••'::'"•'■" -■-w.,„nu,,e fa«e a heah,rwe.-n ::',''"'''' "^■''' •"'■'■ become di.ea.:,| Tm.^^e c'S" ,""= "?"" -e.„„,.:,;:;tt;'n::;jp'-'.^'K.ca.e not injure the child." "' ''""^'* I oiinT nvn -11- 1 1 -ent to ;,";h ,; :; ■; " ""■""■^ "> ^n"- .he ex. t1 i iT,2 WliA T A YO ly MAX UGUT TO KSO IV. i t ' ? i: 'i an infected person, and escape or free them- selves from the <,'crms before they ha\e affected the system. Something of the prevalence of disease and the effects of intemperance and ex- cessive sexual indulgence may be judged from the fact that the average duration of life of those women who give themselves up to a life of public prostitution in our large cities is only from four to six years. We know of no reliable records which show the prevalence of this disease among women who lead lives of prostitution in our American cities, but in many of the cities of Europe where its suppression has been attempted by various forms of stated medical examination of the women, by requiring all prostitutes to live in some designated portion of .hese cities, and various other efforts, reliable statistics become available. We have before us an unpublished manuscript trauslaticm of a German book on " The Hygiene of Chastity," by Dr. T. G. Kor- nig, of Berlin. In his book Dr. Kornig pre- sents the resi'lts which show beyond question that all effons to rv.gulate vice in the European cities have invariably increased the prevalence '.nd spread of venereal diseases, and that where a fair and faithful eiTort is made to suppress the evil the pr,esence of these diseases shows a very considerable decrease in the number of persons applying at the hospitals and to the physicians for treatment. Gleaning from these pages, we find that in Kiev, in Russia, and Copenhagen, in Den- n-iiAT A roiwo MAS ova JIT to h\on'. 133 mark, amon^' the registered prostitutes, cent, men of them were i eith 43 per n condition to transfer to er soft chancre or syphilis. A niony ■' controlled prostitutes " the proportion was 51 per cent,, and in " tolerated houses " as high as 66 per cent., with tne chances for syphilis^and soft chancre in the proportion of si.x to one. The reports from other European cities where reliable 'sties arc available do not differ materiallj .om these figures. Upon the subject ' inspection anc ,jrotec- tion, Dr. Guernsey. ;a " Plain Talks," says: "There is no safety among impure or loose women, whether in private homes or in the very best regulated houses of ill-fame ; even in Paris, where, after women have been carefully exam- ined and pronounced free from any infect- ing condition, the f^rsc man who visits one of them often carries awiy a deadly enemy in his blood which had lurked in concealment beyond the keen eye of the inspector. A young man or a man at any age, is m far greater dange amidst company of this stamp than he wou'l be with a clear conscience and pure character in the midst of the w ildcst forest full of all manner of poisonous serpents and wild beasf^ of every description. A knowledge of the above facts should be enough to chill the first impulse and to make any n.an who respects his own well-being turn away and flee from the destruction that awaits him." In confirmation of the above statement, Dr. Hollick also says : " The actual existence of the 134 WHAT A YOVSG ifAy OUGHT TO KXOW infecting chancre cannot be disputed, though it is sometimes invi-.ble. Thus a man may have a chancre in the urinary passage unknown to ..v-v-i. ti iCiiiaic Willi vviiuiil nc associates without being aware of it. In fact, he may be firmly convinced that he has no suv-h disease, and on examining him no trace of it may be seen. In the same way a female may have one in the vagina, or neck of the womb, which may be totally overlooked, even during a surgical examination. ... It should be remembered that the virus may be separated from the body for several days and yet retain its power. Even if dried, it only requires to be made moist again." CHAPTER Vr. EVILS TO RE SHUNNED AND CONSEQUENCES TO HE DREADED. Continued. The extent to which sexual excess and dis- -•ase affect the human family is understood bv those who study the results of this disease as they are seen in the young, manifested in all grades of domestic life, and as found in their fullest fruitage in our hospitals, prisons, and insane asylums. Dr. Guernsey says : "A search in any insane asylum will show that a very large proportion of patients are made up from those who masturbate or who have syphilis Stamp out these two evils, or rather curses, of the human race, and the supply that feeds our insane asylums, aye, and our penitentiaries, too. will become vastly lessened. Think of it ' So many of the inhabitants of our prisons, asv- lums, and our poor-houses are composed of men and women who have offended against nature's laws by violating their own sexual nature. Add to this summary the list of bro- ken-hearted, deflowered virgins and unwe^ded mothers, and you have the picture complete " The contagious nature of this disease, and the extent to which it affects the innocent and unsuspecting by means of ordinary contact, can 136 nilAT A YOiSG iiAX OlUUT TO hWOH. scarcely ho credited liy those who have nevei given special attention and ccj'^sideration to this subject. The iJo.ird of Su^iC Charities of Massachusetts, in one of their annual reports, in speaking of the results of syphilis, savs: "With slow, painless, insidious, resistless march, it penetrates into the very marrow of the bones, and poisons the fountain of life be- yond purification. All may look fair without, and feel fair within, but the taint is there, and it affects the offspring. The effects of this dis- order in corrupting the human stock, and pre- disposing offspring to disease, are more deadly than is usually believed." Concerning the poison and ravages of this disease, Dr. Napheys says: "A masked pesti- lence, a subtle infection, is stealing upon the health of the nation, poisoning its blood and shortening its life, spreading from husband to wife, from parent to offspring, from nurse to infant, working slowly, but with a fatal and inexorable certainty. This pestilence is the specific contagion of diseases which arise from impure intercourse. Were this its only source, and did it stay its ravages with the guilty par- ties, we might say it is a just penalty, and calls for litde sympathy. But this is not so. By the inscrutable law of God, which decrees that the sins of the father shall be visited upon the chil- dren, even unto the third and fourth generation, these diseases work attainder of blood, bec( ie hereditary, and blight the offspring. They pass from the guilty to the innocent by lawful inter n-HAFA roiwa MAX or;. JIT to KWOW. Ij-/ course, by vaccination, by circumcision bv nurs.n-, by utensils, even by a kiss. Hundreds of examples arc- recorded in medical literature where the infection has spread by just such means. Not a sin^^e physician of experience who has not witnessed wife and childicn pois- oned by the husband's infidelity." One of the most dangerous periods for trans- mittmji the disease by ordinary contact is dur- ing the secondary sta-e. when nasal catarrh and sore mouth make their appearance In speaking of the intlamed mouth, which may exist m an innocent and unsuspecting person or be the inheritance of a gui'ty transgressor who may never have been apprised of the nature of the disease, and in his ignorp • may unwittingly expose others to the aie dire consequences, the author whom we have just quoted gives an instance which must have been of this character. " An instance is re- cently reported in a French medical journal of a glassblower who was suffering from such ulcera- tion. As is usual, in all respects he appeared in good health, and was received into a manu- factory. In these establishments the workmen are accustomed to pass rapidly from mouth to m ^uth the tube through which the glass is blown. He had been there only a few weeks when the physician to the factory was applied to for ' sore mouths,' and found with horror that this sin-le diseased man had infected, in the process "of blowing bottles, nine others." Persons in this stage of disease contaminate i.|ii • .5^ II7/.1 T A yo I .Ml MA S O LUIIT TO KSO »'. ji others not only by sexual contact, Init several instances have come even to our own knowl- etli/e where pure, innocent girls have been in- oculated upon the ( heek or mouth by a kiss. I'.vcn when these secondary sores are compara- tively harmless in appearance, and are sup- posed by the uninformed to be only common eruptions of the skin, they may be and are often communicated by the use of drinkinj;- cups, pipes, towels, brushes, combs, etc., and even, when the skin is broken or a sore exists, by shakinj,' hands. When it is received into the system the disease always be},-ins with the primary staj^e, and, unless arrested, goes in regular order through primary, secondary, and tertiary stages. It never begmr, with the sec- ondary or tertiary stage, but always at the be- ginning with the primary sore. The public need to be informed of the nature of this dreadful disease. Public sentiment needs to be aroused until it shall stand as the mighty dykes that restrain the sea from engulf- ing the nation. It is a terrible contagion that is destroying multitudes of men and women. It is invading the homes of the innocent and unsuspecting, and even threatens the life of the nation itself. If such a disease existed among the cattle of the field, the health officials of the State would lose no time in stamping it out. Every herd would oe inspected and e\ery diseased animal would be killed and its loathsome body burned or buried so deep that th ? vultures could neither «IUTA ror.svM.,.y„r.;„TroK.yow. ,„ oll.ir licliU. N„e even the hide would l,e al- ..wed ,0 be tanned f„r s„,e.|eather. an , the por,» „f every civilised nation „„„„ ,,„," ™"'f, '.'= ^''''«' -'l 'l"ara„t.ned .',ai„!, possible imp.irtation. And yet how is i, in human society ? In their '-found tgnorance of the real danger, a,Vd .omble consequences of this loathsome con , :iho,r::T"''='""'^"'°''^-f-'^- w . ,o, ^ pprehens.on. Physicians quite ,.e„er- al keep he,r pat.ents in profound ignorance ties ofth" •"""":'"'' ""' ''•-g""- Possibi i! t.es of the d^ease, the innocent and unsuspectinir a^e exposed to the contagion in a mul.it'u "^ «a ys and even tntellijent fathers and mothers .0 h r^ '7 '"f drawing-rooms, introduce to thetr friends, and permit and encourage their daughters to receive the attentions of men whom they know to be immoral, and wC ess'thaT^^'T"" '°''^"'- -= -'Wng ness and r T' """'"' """^ P^^^'"' "'"^- ne s and contagion. We protect the cattle of our fields against dangerous and destructive contagion and leave our young men and yo ng wotnen, our sons and our daughters exposed whl h "o'n'd' "' '"'t ""^"'"'-- -"-n "1 profound ,/"'"" ^''' ^'"diously left, hem in profound Ignorance. Talk about the heartless people WHO blindfold the defenceless horTetl s tands before the infuriated bull that is to gore him to death in the Spanish arena- talk of the heathen rites of the ancient Amm;ni ' ^h „ I40 WHAT A YOlMi HAS Ol •• four or e\ tn several ^'cn- erations bac k, this terrible scour^'e. recoyni/ed or unrecognised, visited some ^niilty or inno- cent ancestor and poisoned the fountains of life and beinj(. One of the authorities frequently quoted in this chapter says: "It is true they cannot transmit to them (their offspring) the syphilis itself, but they are a|)t to ^\\c them im- perfect organization, and a direct tendency to certain forms of constitutional disease, espe- cially scrofula and cancer ! In fact, many per- sons think that these terrible diseases first origi- nated in this way, from syphilis, and if so they may be regarded, in one sense, as a further stage, still more removed from the primary one." While the germ of tuberculosis is ditferent from the germ of syphilis, yet the presence of syphilis in the parent may, and doubtless does, render the physical condition such in his de- scendants that the germs of consumption, which are so universally disseminated, find in such constitutions the conditions requisite to their reception, propagation, and destructive hJlAT A Vol. Mi MAS- Ol OUT TO A.\7)l| i^j rt-suhs. If thi, be a correct statement of the ca^f. then the tubercular troubl evolved fr otn s >I)ljiht cs are not leave the descend such a physical condit ic con litions, but often inls of syphditic parents in ion as rentiers them un- e to re.ist or escape the attacks of tubercular ab! Kcrms. Whatever may be the correct theory' the fact remains that scrofula, cane er. and con' sumption are found in the wake of parents who have been afflicted with syphilis, and in whom the disease still lurks-cornered, but not cast out. scotched, but not killed. Whether this disease is studied in its pri- mary, secondary, or tertiary f„rm. whether in the body of its erring or innocent victims or of their descendants, it presents a picture terrible with dire possibilities, and we are compellea with Alexander Pope, in his " Kssay on Man to cry out— ' " Vice is a monstp- -f :,o frightful mien, A \ to l.e hated. xls hut to he seen ; Vet seen tcx, oft, familiar with her facj, We first endure, then pi,y, then embrace." There is yet one important inquiry to be answered before we bring this chapter to a close, and that is the question of the encourage- ment and assistance to be afforded its victims in seckin>r and securing relief and cure. We kiiow that the pen-picture which we have drawn is dark, but it is true to facts and life We have desi-cd th.it a knowledge of the facts may be made the means of warning, dissuading and #1 14} tin.ir A yo; .Mi j/.i.v dIi.ht lo KMtw. iavin,' thf pure who aic trm[)tc(l to ^tcp aside int.. the p.iths of \ K c. lUit as a minister (. the (iospil. ue UMiil.l Ik- the last to withhold fnin the erring .uul Mrdd a siii-lc ray of hope or encourau'enu-iu \shient and sincerely accept n- d follow Christ. '_' I'aljv letv for th >i.. anxiety and • may not ami i).:ation uc owe nav r.ither. our atix- o^e a K)vc the Falls should rati qn.rken our sense of ol,li^rati„„ t„ ,|,„se I.el RT the {-all s, and we feel sure tl ow n[)p.-ehension of Christian d nuist.andwill. in, hide also th c correc t and full rowing' class. To tl iity and ohlij^ratj,,^ IS sinning' and sor- pathy lose who look without or pity upon this sinnit s\ in- d buffc rin; i class .loes not jesus even now say : ■• Suppose ye that these (iahlcans were sinners above all the ( .ahleans, l>crause they sufTcred such thin-^s > I tc 1 you. Nay : bt.t. except ye repent, vc shall all likewise perish." Jesus died for these, a, for all sinful men. His (iospel invitation is to W hosover wdl." for « He is able to save them to ihcufh-n,w/ that come untoCiod bv Him seeing He ever liveth to n^akc .ntercessiun fu. them. 'ihere are those-and they are not a few- •^hc■ would leave the untortunatc victims of venereal disease to suffer the unalleviated fury of an awftd plague, that they might serve as a warning to others who -."'°- vicious, discloses a mor-Tl conHv "'"""»"/ ins and serious as .h"v phy" f ^nd!? '"''"': no ,rea,n,e„. of ,l,e indivWa X h-' .^"^ i=rc:rj-rdr,frt"'^' beyond the proving of thl ''""^^^'"^ '-^^ 'y^ng hosDi^iI V../.K the physician and the nospual. yet the protection of the Dure nnH f 148 WHAT A YOUSG MAS OUGHT TO kWOW. lepers, raise the dead, cast out devils ; freely ye have received, freely give." hi concludin;,^ this chapter we desire to urge upon all young men the importance of personal purity. In the Ijcginning, dispossess your mind of the last vestige of the idea that continence is either impossible or injurious. Whjn m.en have broken down alUhe natural, physical and moral barriers which God in ni^ infinite wisdom has set up ; when a man has trampled upon natural modesty, has broken down his moral sense by criminal relations, has inflamed his sexual pas- sions by repeated indulgence, has polluted his imagination, cornipted his thought, and de- based his entire nature, of course he is going to have a fierce struggle ; when men drug them- selves with tobacco, stimulate themselves with wine and strong drink, and when, instead ot reading books that bring the mind into sympa- thy with worthy thought and inspiring ambition, people prefer books that arouse lascivious de- sires ; when they persist in exciting their sexual passions by the close and immodest contact of the roimd-dance, or deliberately seek the com- pany and the companionship of the impure and the vicious — of course such persons will find it difficult to hold themselves in check, or to live within the bounds ordained of God and ap- pro^/ed of well-informed and pure-minded men and women. But e -en where such a person will turn to the pursuit of a reasonable and ra- tional course, where he will live hygienically WHAT A yoiwa MAX VVnilT TO K-XOn- 149 and rise up in the majesty of he can be free from both sol and li a noble manhood, itary andsoc- vjce new a continent, he o the fallen, God has made possible a )f purity and uprightness, and to those who are just coming under the full sway of sex- ual consciousness, in all its strength, it is also possible, for the Author of our physical beii.'"'iins wno tlius prey upon those who step aside from the path of virtue and h lono'^ Vo re spect, to your inte-rity and I moral ch u owe It to your self, lonor, to your laracti ^ _^^^ to the accomphshmem c.f 'youriJ^:riirnur: pose, to your bodily strcn;^nh and mental vi^or to your purity and peace, to abstain from Im^ pure and unlawful sexual indulgence Vou owe it as a dut>-. also, to the pure and spotless character of the woman whom ^•ou hone ^ome day to make your wife. A ^ oung man naturally desires and reasonably demands chas tityin the young woman whom he chooses as his wife; but has she not an equal ri-ht to expect and dema .d that the same purit^'v and honor which you seek in her shou! : be found also in your own character and life ? If vou knew her to yield the flower of her virginity to another, you would turn frouT her in disgust • and by what right, then, dare any youn^ man yield his own body to lust, and then turn and demand of a young woman what he does no^ recognize or possess in himself? If harlotrv is heinous in the young woman you covet V.;r your bride, or in your sister, it is equally so in you. If unfaithfulness is heinous in the wife it 13 equally so in the husband. God did not make one law for woman and another for man He has made but one law, and bv that law both must be judged. It is also a duty that you owe to your children. h^ m 152 WHAT A YOiSO MAS' OldllT TO h\0**. What you are in your character and in your hfe, that they will become. The influences which are to mold and fashion their character and life are present with yo-- now. Parental influences arc potential, and start a generation or two lie fore children are born. You owe it to them that there should be no taint in their blood, n(^ shadow of dishonor resting upon the home in which they are born, and that no fire of passion and no flame of unquenchable lust shall be kindled in their veins by parents who owe to them an inheritance of virtue, honesty, and honor. The preservation of your purity and honoi you owe to the parents who have nurtured your early years, watched over you in sickness, pro- vided you with food, clothing, and shelter; who have coveted for ;. ju every advantage of edu- cation and culture; who have directed your tliought, guarded your steps, prayed and wept over you, and to whom the knowledge of your vice and sin would deal a blow that would sad- den their lives and hasten them on to early graves. You owe it to God who created you for a life of purity and blessing upon this earth, and for a life of endless glory and joy in the world to come. He has endowed you with in- telligence that you might know the truth, a conscience that warrs you against evil and reproves you for disobedience and sin. He has redeemed you from sin and its conse- quences by the death of His Son. He offers WHAT A roiSG MAN OroIIT TO KSOW. 153 to lift you up and crown you a son of God and an heir of everlasting,' glory. He promises never to leave nor to forsake you, and assures you that His grace, which has been sufficient to main- tain in purity and honor millions of others shall be sufficient for you at all times. You most as- suredly owe it to your God. to the pure and good >n this world, and to all that is s.cred and hoK .n the next, to live a life of purity in all things III ft! CHAPTER vrr. AND TIIEIK PRosTrru-noN. tl It of. ""' .'''^^'^'' '^""<^tion and office tlnn t'-U of transmittintj life tHp ,?. . i "'"ch .ncn so of,c„'h„M „.i^,' '^;[" " > "'" tl'an bcaslly manner in whiclwh "'"'^ f..nc.i„n, are pros.i, ^ V„:;"f "'"l! He did Adam and Eve. Hemth h, T' " anv one of an ;„<; • ^'"'S"' "^^e adopted ( I ; :: ^ UN 15'' nil.lT A H>l Sn .l/.l \ uldJlT TO hWOW. II : wi^c^t and i)c t t<> cihImw man with icprodiu. tivc j)'>\\ fi, i.rul to mak<' the divine institution of niartia};e the roriier-sttjiic ot dcmu'^tK h.ippi- ncss and the foundation of ( ivd ^"^ i^rnnient. Marriage i> the enf the ^'reate^t sources of man's blessing anil happiness. The study of the rcprochu ti\e s\ -.tern ii. j'l ints, fishes, reptiles, hirds, aiumal-. .ind man is one cf intense interest. It-. thou^^Iuful i_on- templation inspires awe and revereiu e. In the openin;; ch.ipters of the first volume of this series, entitled "What a Voun^' Hoy ()u;,'ht to Know," we have treated this entire suliject at some len^Mh. and while the lan^'ua^'e used there is de-i;,'neil to be very plain and intclli^nhle, so that it can be readily understood by boys of ei^'ht and ten years of a^'e, yet the subject is of suih intense interest that there is not one man in a thousand to whom the information im- partcil in those pa^'es will not be entirely new, and the many letters received from eminent men and women indicate the interest it is to educated and cultivated adults, as veil as to boys. On account of lack of space ue are compelled to refer the reader to that volume, w here he will find this subject treated at greater len^nh and with more fulness. There are however, some phases of this subject which more properly be- long to the consideration of older persons, and on that account it deserves an additional and somewhat lift'eient treatment in this place. When (iod created the universe, from all m 4'iiAT A yorso MAS ovuiiT TO Awon- •37 animate ohjccts, such as the m '•iiMtams. nn ks. and the hkc. He withheld power to reprodurc oth*- sun, moon, stars. the He reserved to Himself the bole power to destroy these U(,rl(i o rto create others, as in His infinite wiMlom mi^'ht seem ^'ood. To all ol.jects that have Ii(e such as i)lants. trees, ti.hcs, reptiles, bird., anii mals and man. Cod has ^ivcn reproductive- power, and an endowment of su, h instincts or intelligence as woidd be necessary to exercise the.e functions aright. Reproductive power i. not power to create, else plants miK'ht cre.ite bu-ds. and fishes mi^'ht create animals, and thus introduce disorder and confusion intf. the har- mony and beauty which in infinite wisdom ( iod has instituted. In the creation (k)d endowed each with the power to produce seed after its own kind. The power which He ^ave them was not creative, but reproductive power- power to produce seeds from which should be raised up the youn^ of plants, and animals to take the places of the parent life which was to continue only for a time, and then die and pass away. By this means life was to be perpetuated upon the earth, passing from parent to child, year after year, and generati.>n after i,'eneration,' until the end of time. Now if we take animate objects, all of which have reproductive power, we can readily divide them into three classes. First, plants which do not have ner^•es or any of the five senses, and which i)roduce seeds which are fertilized by the oollen and which are then matured in a pod lit: urn IMAGE EVALUATION TEST TARGET (MT-3) W- / O {•/ 4^0 / V 4l^ /. %0 1.0 1^128 ■ 1-5 Ui tii e m I.I t us. 1. 1.25 : 1.4 ~-,"^ II — 125 12.0 I 1.6 ^^ m /a / CP/1 ^ ^ Photographic Sciences Corporation 23 WEST MAIN STREET WEBSTER, N.Y. 14580 (716) 872-4503 A^ 3 h • 1: '■ j^:H- 158 WHAT A YOUNO MAX OVOHT TO KNOW. which is on the exterior of the plant, and from which the seeds generally fall upon the ground and are quickened into life by moisture and warmth, and thus the life of the plant is per- petuated. The reproductive organs of plants are found in the blossom or {lower which con- stitutes its beauty, and is also the source of its fragrance. In many flowers the male and the female organs of reproduction are united, while in others the male flower may grow by the side of the female flower, or on an adjoining branch, or stalk, while in other instances the plants which bear the male flowers are entirely sepa- rated from those which bear the female flowers, and the pollen necessary to fertilize the seeds in the pod, or womb, of the female flower is blown by the wind, or is carried by the bees and in- sects which are engaged in the gathering of honey. The mdividual who is sufficiently intelligent to learn the lessons which the flower teaches tv'hile in its passion of beauty which attends it at the period when the seeds are to be fertilized, and when the flower is most beautiful and fra- grant, and then observes and understands the lessons which it again teaches, as its beauty fades, its fragrance vanishes, but the hidden and undeveloped life has been quickened and remains to perpetuate the life which shall spring up in the plants which are to come after It, cuch a person has learned the lessons which illustrate in beautiful outlines the unfolding, the beauty, and the fading of human life. >rBATA rovya mai, ovbht to lsow. ,5, Were it not for this means of peroetuatinn ,» laT"!,'''' -"'d perish fromThTre „f".h" ea«h, and ,t would require only a few months .rera"d"ar;o """'T"^ ""'"""'' "'-'-^ tree and all fonns of grain would have ner wasfe' 'anV'f """'f '"''' """"^ " '^-" waste, and all animal and human life would consequently peHsh because „f dea„h and fully Illustrated in the study of the flowe.s s a so fo„^,„ the fishes, reptiles, insects and tords. When we come to this second class we discover some differences, however, which are suggesttve and interesting. I„ „os plants the SoT?nd''7'"r P"" which is'upon he exteror and when the seeds are ripe the pod usually butsts and its contents either Ll .0 'he ground, or. as m the case of thistles, are borne by the wmd to some distant field. When we sudy the orders of life which are next high" han the plants, we find that the seed is retained .nfte mside of the body of the parent ftmale In some instances, and perhaps in most the ^ffh': f ""r ^•':"« « ^"" --ins in the body a . - whi^h :■ '' """ ''"'"'^ ""'^" of 'he male' afte. which it passes out of the body to be in "rw'atf'''"^"'""'"^-'--'- When we come to the next higher order of r/rret"' ';' ;'^^ ^'^^^^ the^ammals th and \TT "f ''^ '^^ ^°^>^ °^ ^he female, and after being fertilized by the bodily con- If 1 1 ■"•l" ' >' .t- ■ i l6o WHAT A rOiXO ifA.W OVOHT TO KSOW. tact of the male, it continues in the body of the female until it has passed through a period of ^cwth and dev( .pment and is fitted to pass o. . into the world to begin its own separate and individual life. The rea- son for this difference is easily understood when we remember that as we ascend in the scale of being the animals are exposed to a larger series of dangers, and because of the higher sphere they occupy they are required to meet an en- larged round of dutieo and obligations. That these dangers may be guarded against, and these duties discharged, it is necessary that the individual animal should be enabled to pass from place to place, to escape danger or dis- charge duty, while at the same time the growing life should be protected from destruction and also from injury. To secure these ends it was therefore ordained that the germ of developing life should be retained within the body of the parent mother. It might also be interesting to note that where the tgg after being fertilized is covered with a shell and then passes into the outer world to be hatched, the germ or egg is much larger than in the case of the higher forms of life, where the germ is oftentimes so minute as to require the aid of a microscope to render it visible to the human eye. The reason for this is that the growing germ must be provided with nourish- ment sufficient within the shell to sustain life until the developing body is matured and the shell has been broken, so that the infant creat- 'fl'ATA yOUXOUAXOVnilTTO L-SCV. >(,, ;:re can either he fed by the parent- or obtiin ■••s own nourishment as (;„d hL directed When wc study the reproductive or.-.ns i„ he three forms of hfe to which w. ha e r ? fejred, we ,5 „d that there are some marvellous d n-erences tue study of which are full of inter! esling and suj;gestiie lessons. !n the lowest fornts of life the reproductive organs „rthe emale are on the exterior, while i„^hehUer vhese organs arc found in the interior. wSen however, we study the male organs of repro-' di.ct,on, we ,5nd that whde in the plant Xy •-re qu.te like those of the female plant b ,^ Z7::t *° "' "^'■^ ""■' "'^^^ "«■ find that the male organs, instead of having a de- velopment which might be called positne, the female. In some of these forms, especially among the fishes, the male and female neve^ come mto bodily contact in the .act of fertilizing •he seed. In the large majority of instances however ,h,s is not the case. When you cot^e to an.mals. the male organ is a positive. ItTs however, contained within the bcdy, from which It does not pass except in the exercise of the "ncaTe";?"^""- ^^ ''" ^^"^'l '-«''" '■> he scale the male organ is partially upon the extertor of the body.bu, alw ys sheaLS. The reproducuve organs of the male .re not t,p„„ the extenor of the body and fully exposed until we come to the highest form of develooment *hich IS found in man. '^•e have referred to this matter in order to II — Sf 162 yriAT A roiya mas ouoiit to a .vow* ;2f i- I I I , 1 1 (I 1: f rail attention lo the f.irt that sexual dcj^radation in the form of ma .turb.ition, or self-pollution, is merhanically ahno^-t practically impossible to all the lower forms of animal life. As we have never seen this subject alluded to by other writers, we have made a c.ueful investigation of the subject, and find that all forms of masturbation are mv-'chanically and physically almost absolutely impossil)le to all animals except man and the monkey. Mas- turbation amon;5 animals is so exceptional and rare that of those who have spent their entire lives among animals of various kinds, there are only exceptional individuals who have ever seen an animal masturbate himself. There are occasional instances of this kind, but they are wholly exceptional, seem to have been learned by accident, and are accomplished with the utmost difficulty. And even where father ani- mals have witnessed the act, they do not at- tempt it by imitation. It will be seen from this that self-pollution in man does not arise from any natural necessity; indeed, it is so far a violation of nature that no human being will begin the practice of this vice until he is taught by some degraded companion, or learns it be- cause of some unnatural and unfortunate cir- cumstance. The fact that God has placed the reproduc- tive organs of man upon the exterior of his body is an indication of the exaltation to which He has lifted man. He has endowed him with in. telligence, with a moral sense, and with a con- '^'^i^TA yoVyOifAyoiGlITTOKSOW. 103 science These elevate man infinitely above every other creature. Hui it is not alone because the reproductive organs are upon the exterior of the body i' mun. but God has also blessed man with a Phy..cal endowment which He has conferred upon no other creature. The beneficent Cre.- tor has g.ven to man a hand. Without our hand, .t would be impossible for us to make doth.ng to build houses, to compound med! ernes to cultivate the f.elds. to prepare our food to mvent devise, construct, or to do any of the thousands of things which are so essen^ t.al to our elevation and comfort, to say nothing of our existence. Without the perfect human ^and man could not overcome the physica" djfficult.es by which he is surrounded or ^ above the level of the beast Jut with the hand man not only constructs and confers blessings, but he destroys, and in- h!^ ^r' w"f °"'^ "P"" °^^^^^' but also upon h rnself. Without the hand it would be impos- sible for man to wage war. to destroy his fe'low- man upon the field of battle, to commit murder to prostitute and pollute his own body or to overpower and compel woman to yield to his lustful passions. The human female is the only Jemale that cannot successfully resist the male or can be made the subject of a rape. The facts which we have n -med in this chap, er. It seems to us. are design, by the Creator to each usthesacrednessof the reproductive func- tion, and to manifest to us the confidence which i 164 WJIAT A yOLyu Ji.l.V OIUIIT TO K.\u»r. f^*sm He has reposed in man l)y endowitij; Iiim with capacities and powers which arc* inhnitcl- above those conferred upon any other creature. Hut the ^'reater the exaltation and honor, the ;^'rcater the fall and the ruin, if these faculties a)e pros- tituted and these powers perverted from the purpose which (lod has had in conferring,' them. God has crea'cd man in His own moral like- ness and image, and has designed that lie should be pure and holy. \'irtue and pusity are easily j)ossible to any individual who v\ill avoid the inthiences which so often degriale a-id will u-ic the aids w lifch God has designed should be helpful in safeguarding and sa\ ing mankind. The great difficulty is that huncheds and thousands daily go wrong, fall into sin and into physical, temporal and eternal ruin, sim- ply because they grope in the darkness of pro- found ignnra.ice. It is with a desire to impart knowledge, to ennirage thoughtfulness, and inspire to personal i.unty, that we have imder- taken in this chapter to ii!rect the minds of young men to these phases of this interesting subject. CHAI'TKR VIII. ! \ RIGHT RELATION To WOMEN. In order that a yoiinj,' man may sustain a proper relation to woman, it is necessary that he should correctly understand the nature and character of woman. Tliousands of people think they understand something,' about human nature, when they have only the perverted ideas which are created in the mind by reading novels. Whether such characters :ire pure or impure.' moral or immoral, they are ideal characters,' and not real characters. The only proper study of man is man. The only way to arr.ve at the correct knowledge of human nature is by a study of human nature. There are many jriddy. silly, empty-headed girls and women, but they by no means all belong to that class! There are some who are deficient in moral character, in integrity and purity of life, but such constitute a somewhat small proportion. In order that a young man may sustain a right relation to woman, he should have an exalted Meal of the character of woman. He should know and appreciate the fact that the great majority of women are unapproachable and irreproachable. The woman who aspires rises higher than man. and the woman who desires may descend to such depths of moral degradation as are not possible to man. •-i"^-.-. ( i I66 WHAT A YOrsa MAS OVOliT TO KSOW. VNHien a m.ip tells you th.it uonion arc all of easy virtue, and tli.it none of them ran he trusted, you should avoid him as you would one with a loathsome < onta^^'ion. Such a man, unless he simply retkv ts the opinions of others, is always vuiou ,, licentious, thorou^jhly cor- nipt, both in his mind and life, and oftentimes both his flesh and his bones are reekinj; with moral and physical rottenness. There are three classes of vicious men whose vices and crimes entitle them to a perj)etual place in the penitentiary. They are more dan- gerous than thieves and robbers. The man who robs: a bank, or the burglar who enters your house at night, is guilty of a petty crime when compared with the vicious man who de- spoils young women of their virtue, who robs husbands of the affections of their wives, or who walks among men a moral leper, spread- ing disease and de.ith along life's entire journey. The first class of vicious men are those who give themselves up to a life of vice, and who ft-equent houses of prostitution in order to secure the gratification of their lustful passions with women who are as degraded and polluted as themselves. These men may undertake, and for a time successfully run the gantlet of dis- ease, but the same result, with only rare excep- tions, eventually comes to them all. Another class of vicious men, fearing conta- gion and disease, if resident in a large city and possessed of sufificient means, support a private prostitute. While such a man in some measure ? vip "'■" ■^* - '¥, •^r^ protects himself from the pn.h.ihil.tv of disease yet :.c is smc to suffer pcrprt.ial tormci.t from' the fact th.it he is < onstantly liable fo exposure. He has an ever-present consciousness that such a woman, if her ex tin^ demands arc not com- phcd with. „r if an^'crcd by any cause, may at any t.mc di,< lose his course of i;fe to his family, to the so( ial or hu.incss world with which he stands connected, or. if he were to deny her exacting and incrcasin-r demands for money nii-ht levy blackmail upon him and thus ruin hiin f.nancially. Such mm. while escaping one risk, assume another, which, if a man has one spark of manhood or of conscience, will convert his life into a proI(jn},'ed torment. The third class consists of those who are not able to support a private prostitute, and who are restrained by the fear of disease from going with bad women promiscuously, and who un- dertake to secure tlie gratification of their sen- sual passion by seducing innocent young girls. The man who despoils a pure girl of her honor,' and robs her of her virtue, in a single act.' for a momentary gratification, deposes her from' a place in the estimation of society which can never be regained, and pollutes her thought, and sends her headlong in a path of ruin and vice.— such a man deserves no less to be hung than the man who deliberately, or in a moment of anger or passion, takes the hfe of his fellow- man. While none of these three paths of vice may attract to their ruin i!,c large class of young I6« HllAT A rot \a W.J.V "tailT TO hSOW men. \ct there i-, another tenijx.ition to \vhi( h even the j.iircM an.l lK•^t arc expo^cil. aruj M^fty is best stciiri-d l>y an intclh-enl iindcr- tlanilinK' of the dan^'cr. an.l hy an al)ulin^' moral purjxjse. Jou are not severely rebuked, or re- sisted, or even if consent was indicated by pas- siviiy. remember that y..u are nevertheless the criminal betrayer of one whose confidence you have K'ained. but whr.se respect you delihcr- atelv sacrifice, and whose name and reputation you sully, and whose character you senoui.ly mar. Even though she should by her own consent prove herself as debased and dej,^raded as I'otiphar's wife, your own sense of honor and manhood should enable you to say like Joseph : •' How can I do this great wickedness, and sin against Cod ?" I lee from such a wo- man. To make her you: wife would be delib- erately to bli<;ht your life, to blast your happi- ness, and render impossible the happiness and blessmg that would likely and reasonably be V l< '1 i ^^1 170 WHAT A YOlSO MAy OUOllT TO KNOW. yours if married to a pure-minded and v t.ious Woman. No man who has in him the spirit of true manhood can betray the confident.e reposed in him by a pure-minded, confiding woman with- out a subsc(iuent sense of shame and dishonor which time will not obliterate, but which will surely detpen into remorse as the coming years advance. Associate only with the pure. Be careful to maintain a strictly proper relation, and at all times avoid familiarity. Be suspicious of the woman who receives promiscuous attentions. " Where the carcass is, there will the eagles be gathered together.' If your life is impure you may rest assured that as truly as there is a God in Heaven conscience will lash you relentlessly, and even in this world you will suffer remorse and mental torment. The beginning which leads to such a result is paved v/ith little but improper familiarities of speech and conduct, and only the young man and young woman who carefully and conscientiously avoid the beginnings are likely to escape the end. CHAPTER IX. MARRIAGE — A DIVINE INSTITUriO '. No man ran afford to think or to speak lightly of marriage. The most sacred interests of this world and of the next are wrapped up in this relation. The foe of marriage is the foe of man, of the tender relation of husband and wife, of parent and child, of brothers and sisters ; he is the enemy of the home, of the nation, of the Church, of man's greatest earthly blessings, and of man's brightest hopes of everlasting happi- ness in the world to come. And vet, strange to say, the subject of marriage can scarcely be mentioned, even in the presence of intelligent people, without provoking a smile. Upon the subject of marriage there is a degenerated pub- lic sentiment, due, doubtless, in a large measure to the almost universal custom of novel-read- ing, to the presence of practical prostitution of a large class of married women who refuse to become mothers, because of simultaneous po- lygamy in Utah and the consecutive polygamy made possible in so many of the other States by easy divorce. It is due also to the destructive doctrine of free love, which is only another nnme for free and unbridled lust, and to the mistaken idea which grows up because of the prevalent practice of the coi-rts in granting "%■■ i ♦ if' ' .* ■ L A. .■■■■'. ■ 172 WIIATAVO Uyo MA .V UGHT TO KXO W. Civil divorces, causing the people falsely to sup- pose that marriage is simply a civil contract. Marriage is not simply a compact entered into by a man ar.d a woman. It is not a social partnership, nor yet an alliance for convenience to be dissolved at pleasure. Marriage was in- stituted by God himself. Its foundations were securely laid, and its principles are as fixed and enduring as the human race itself. If man had instituted marriage he might enact laws which would modify or even annul the relation. Bur marriage was instituted by God himself when as yet there was but one man .-ind one woman upon the earth, and it not only ante- dates human legislation, but is above all human legislation. It was ordained of God and has been, made indissoluble by any Court or for any cause whatsoever, save for the sin:jle cause of adultery. The divine law upon this subject is very plain, and is found in the Gospel : " Whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery; and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery." (Matthew 5 : 32.) "Who- soever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, commit- teth adultery : and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery." (Matthew 19 •• 9-) "Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth' adultery I whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery." (Luke . I I WIIA T A YO UNO MA.S 01 OUT TO LWO »'. 1 73 16 : 18.) " Whosoever shall put away his wife, and wiarry another, committeth adultery. If a woman shall p.it away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery." (Mark 10: 11, 12.) Not only are these words very plain, but there is also in the same connec- tion :he added injunction: "What therefore God hath joined together, let no man put asun- der." (Matthew 19: 6, and Mark 10: 9.) Mar riage may be dissolve d by the death of one of the contracting parties, for the Scriptu.es say : "The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth ; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will." (Corinthians 7: 39.) Death may dis- solve the marriage and give to one of the parties the right to marry, but the Courts never, except for adultery. It must be plain from these clear and explicit declarations of God's Word that marriage is an institution above human legislation, and it ought universally to be understood that while the Courts undertake to grant what is nominally called a divorce, yet it is merely a civil and not a really legal proceeding. The Court simply undertakes to adjust the matter of the civil re- lation, so far as it affects the question of prop- erty, the annuity for the wife, and the support of the children— it simply regulates the out- ward relations of life, but no intelligent lawyer or judge will affirm that their action can in any wa_ ifiect the real question of marriage, wliich lies back of all the^e civil relations 1 74 nil A T A YOVNO MA S 1 GUT TO L'XO W. The man who puts away his wife, or the wife who puts away her husband, for any other cause than that of adultery, and marries a-in IS himself or herself guilty of violating the ai- vmelaw. and is therefore also gu>Itv of adul- tery. It is also universally agreed by all learned statesmen and theologians that when a divorce IS granted because of the adultery of either the husband or the wife, the innocent party is at liberty to marry again, but that the guilty party both by divine and human obligation is de- prived of the privilege of marrying again, so long as the other, the innocent party, lives. No minister, who understands his duty iothis divine institution, will be guilty of performing a marn.;ge ceremony in which either one or the other of the contracting parties has been pre- viously divorced because he or she was found gu.lty of the act of adultery. Nor will he be guilty of marrying either a man or a woman who for any cause whatsoever, save that of for- nication, has put away his or her former part- ner, and who by remarriage to another party becomes guilty of adultery. While such an act might not be punishable in the civil courts, it would yet be a crime in the sight of God. akd the officiating minister would be a party to it. Few ministers will consent to perform a mar- nage ceremony in which one of the contracting parties has been divorced, unless they are well acquainted with the person, and the circum- stances are well known, and the innocence and nght of the contracting party is established be- WJIA TA ro UNO MAN UOHT TO KXO W. 1 75 yond doubt. Where stringers apply to a minister and he knows that one of the parties has been divorced,— and no minister should ever marry two people without inquiring' whether either has been previously married, and whether divorced.— unless he is willing to investigate carefully and thoroughly, which few ministers have either the time or the inclination to do, consequently, the only safe course to pursue is, to decline to many all divorced persons. Marriage is not only a divine institution, but ': the only one instituted in the Garden of Eden which has come down with its continuous line of blessings to the present time. God officiated at the marriage of the first man and the first woman. The first miracle wrought by our Saviour was at a ma ri age feast in Cana of Galilee, and the first event in the next dis- pensation will be the marriage of the Lamb to the Church, the bride of Christ. In instituting this relation God united one man with one woman, and not one man with many -vomen. God said: "For this cause shall a man leave father and mother and shall cleave to his wife" (not wives), "and they twain shall be one flesh " (these two, not sev- eral). "Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh." (Matthew 19 : 5,6.) In the account in Genesis, when God found that the solitary condition of Adam was not conducive to his highest well-being. He said: " It is not good that man should be alone; I will make an helpmeet for him." (Genesis 2: 18.) 176 WHAT A yOlWO MAS OIGUT TO hWOfl'. If there was ever a time when it would have been either ri^ht or expcdier.t for a man to have had more than one wife, it surely would have been in the very beginning', when the entire world was to be peopled. And yet God created simply a helpmeet, not helpmeets, for Adarn. If the theories of wicked and licentious men wcie correct, instead of taking; out one of Adam's ribs, Cod would have removed everv rib in Adam's body, and have created a plu- rality of wives for him. Lamech was the first pojyf^amist mentioned in the Bible; but the fact that polygamy is mentioned does not give it the sanction of God's Word, any more than when an American historian who records the fact of the presence of polygamy in Utah thereby gives to the facts which he records his own personal sanction or that of our government. He simply records the fact, a.id that is all that God's Word has done in recording the historical fact that in some instances polygamy existed in the earlier periods of the world. The Bible condemns polygamy, and explicit- ly says : Neither shall man take one wife unto another. (Uviticus, 18.) And Paul makes a clear and unmistakable announcement to all nations when he says : " Let every man have his own wife, and every woman her own hus- band." The children of Israel were forty years in the wilderness, and yet among this nearly four millions of people there was only one case of pol -amy. Lamech was a self-confessed (TlIA T A YOlSa MAS OlGUT TO KSOW. 177 .nurderer. nnd wherever you find a polvgamist '11 the n.ble, whether it was David or Solomon you find a man who was up to his neck and ears in tmuhle. When Adam was started. Cod started him atiK'ht. And if j, had been 'riL-ht that Adam .houid have had a phirahty of wives (.od would have given him mor. than one! U hen the whole human rare was destroyed by the Flood, and the world was subsequently to be re- peopled from the family of Noah then surely, if poly^-amy had 5>een right, each man sa%cd m the ark would have been fully justified in taking with him a dozen wives. We find however, that Noah and his wife. h,s three sons and their wives, just eight persons, were saved in the ark. If there were no written law upon this subject the mere fact that the number of males and females born into the world is nearly exactly equal would be a sufficient indication of divine purpose upon this subject. Because of the larger number of men among th- immigrants who come to this country, the male population of the United States is even in excess of that of the female population, although the greater hazard to which men are exposed on the sea in the mines, on the railroads, in the army' ,and in various other ways, constantlv tends to make the death-rate greater among men than among women. In each life there are two imponant events and in many three— the day of one's birth, the day of one's marriage, and the day of one's 12 178 WHAT A rovsa mas ovqiit to Ksnw. death. The day of one's birth is surely a very important event, but the day of his marriage and the day of his death seal his destiny as no other eveiUs could possibly do. Marriage not only involves the happiness of tho^e who enter into this sacred contract, but, at least to some extent, it affects the happiness and comfort nf a large circle of relatives, and involves the hap- piness and destiny of a generation yet unborn. As marriage is a divine institution, no young man or young woman should enter into this relation without seeking divine wisdom and guidance. The subject of marriage should be made a subject of frecjuent prayer. If you are not to make a mistake, you should not first form your alliance and then go to Ciod and ask for His sanction, but you should begin to pray very early, lest you mistake your infatua- tion for the voice of God, or your inflamed amativeness for the leadings of divine Provi- dence. Pray while your eyes are still open, for Cupid blinds many, and then suffers them to be led to their ruin by lust. ffr CHAPTER X. WHO SHOULD NOT MARRY. Many persons, in .rdcr that they may pro- vule fc.r a^ed parents, c vre for dependent ones or accomphsh some undertaking of spe. .al diffi! culty, rema.r. unmarried, and lead a liCe of con- sent celibacy. Wh.le all persons of mature ;fe a e entitled to marry, yet any one may de. tn T '^"''"[^^'^*^ '^''' P'-'^i'^'Ke. Some may prefer to devote the.r lives to such pursuits as render marriage inexpedient. On account of the ..er- secutions to which the Christians were subjected at the time uhen Paul wrote, he advised celi- bacy for those who would devote themselves to missionary work, in order that they mijrht be unincumbered in their flight from place to Fl..ce. But even then he declared that all had the nght to marry. Neither the Church nor the State has the nght to impose cel.hacy. but an in- dividual has a perfect right to choose that s^ate for himself, if he is influenced in his choice by a de.i-e thus to bless the condition of hi. fellow- men or to devote himself to the glorv of God There are. however, some other 'conditions and circumstances which should influence a man m determining this important question family, should assume that obligation. Young ( ^79 ) I. So MiiAT A yorsiiMASori.iniiKSow. men without rtliK.ition ami without occupation should hy no inc.wi-i think of ru^hln^,' into .i ic- hition which in»|toscs moral antl tin.inc lal obli- j,'at.«)ns which he i>. not able to dischar ;l'. Where a man ha^ a moilcrite in. onic, and de- sires to marry, it is a su!)|cct for the two persons nto-^t interested to detciminc whether the amount is sufficient for their maintenance and support. Ihe amount which is squandered hy some individuals, and wilfully wasted l;y others, would he sufficient to supj)orf a family of eco- nomical and fru^'al haljits in easy comfort. iWhat mi^jht he wholly inader\ii.il ititrr< mirsi*. The a< t of i o- h.iltitiiK: tn.ikc«» Mich l.ir^c «lcin.iiuli upon the vii.il .mil physical forrc-*, th.U only those who ate in thr hcs' of phy^i' al health anil who are endowed witfi a strong,' < onsfitiition. ( m endure th" drain whi. h is Mire to l)rin)^' weakness and evcntii d «l«Mth to th')sc wht) arc already weak and disr.istd. It ii one of the symptoms of ronsnmption that those who are altlu ted witli it will .eldoni believe that they have the tliseasc. A phv^i- iian cniiUi scarcely be expected tf) speak can- didly upon this subject to one who contemplates marriage, but any one may look up the record of his or her <.wn family, of parents, ami espe- cially of their ^'randparents. of uncles and aunts, and if they find that members ol their family have died with consumi)tion, they may rest assured that there is a tain* of it. either to a greater or ,css ext-nt, in their own system. A careful study of the whole subjct, and a thor- O'lgh knowledge of one's own physical needs, a carefully-reK'iilatcd diet, and the observance of hygienic laws, and the use of the best means calculated to d»"clop the ph\ ^ical powers, are always .mportant and valuable in such in- stances. What is true of consi mptir.n is also true of insanity. Kach one should determine for him- self, by a careful inquiry into ' iie family record, whether there are taints of in ,anity, and. if so, he should be governed by the exercise of the M-// 1 /• i yory,. n.w nioiiT in avow iJ»j mo.t . ...oful wl^(lom in ihc m.itt.T of marriajjc This Mil,,c« t i> itnporum. an.l v) vHally atfcrts the intrrcM. ..f thr jKirtK- . on, crnc.l that the titmoM care and juUi. lou ...cs should he ex- crri>cd. N«> man or wom.in vvh<. has the taint of svphihs, as wc h..\e already shown, should he |.«'rmitto(l t . marry und» r any < luumstances. Ihc f.ica that a nun has hccn "injudicious" an.l that he has hccn unfortunate" in con- tra, t.,.^- .11. case, an.l ,> i^r " arK'umcnts." are without ava.l when uc^/.^d aj,Mins' the awful rnmc ol hnnKm^' into the world a Kcncration "f innoccn' and immortal beings who mu.t. without the slightest possibility of escape hear the results of the parents sin. In the light of the facts already given in these pages, surely no man whose blood has been tainted with syphilis should ever think of committing fur- ther sin by plun-ing innocent and helpless women and children into phvsir xj torments from which he should rather desire to help them to escape. And even when looked at from a purely selfish standpoint, marriage can only bring new and added horrors to the per- son in whose body this terrible disease will, in all human probability. lurk as long as life lasts. It !}| CHAPTER XI. THE SELECTION OF A WIFE. MORK happiness or misery is wrapped up in this one transaction tlian in any other upon which a man is permitted t., exercise his judg- mert. The frogs in ^sop's fable had a great fondness for water, but th^y were not disposed to leap into the well, because they could not get out again. But when we see the h.iste with which many young people rush into ill-advised marriages, it looks as though they had less sense than the frogs. The man who does not marry makes a mistake which is only sur- passed in its serious results by the conduct of the man who marries a woman who is only calculated to make his life miserable and his existence a burden. When you are married there are several essential qualities you will need to find in your wife. If you have married a toy or a fool, you may get along for a few weeks or months, or, at most, for a few years ; but you may rest assured that misery will not fail to find you. No definite rules can be laid down which can be followed with the positive assur- ance of satisfactory results. Some general principles, however, may be stated, the wisdom of which must be apparent to any thoughtful ( IS J J iS6 wiiiTA roryo max ovght to rwow pe-son. and by the i^norin- of whirh any young man will be sure to reap sad conse- quences. In the first place you will need a • • • No woman who is weak and sickly ani .ous is fitted to be a wife, and much less a mo.her. A niarria-e in which the sexual element must be wholly eliminated can never be a happy irar- ria-e. No man with strong physical powers should expect a wife to yield herself to his un- bridled and unrestrained sexual passion. Rea- son and love must regulate the marriage rela- tion, but love, or even graceful indifference is quite impossible where either the husband or the wife is iuipotent. or the wife, because of physical weakness or some one of the numer- ous diseases peculiar to women, is rendered incapable of sustaining the marriage relation. Such a woman can only yield to the sexual desires of her husband at the expense of her health and comfort, and, in some instances even at the cost of her life. The marriage relation renders her unfit for her numerous household duties and responsibilities. She be- comes irritable in temper, uncompanionable in spirit ; and the woman who, if she were well and strong, might be a true helpmeet, becomes only "a help to eat meat," a constant source of ex- pense and care to her husband, and a burden to herself Such a woman cannot become the moth-^r of strong and healthy children, bear her part of life's burdens, or be an inspiration to her husband ; but, instead, must impose upon him the I i n'lr.tTA rorxG .v.^.v ought to R\on\ 187 duties of a nurse, convert his home into a hos- pital, and by marria-e render herself miserable and all who arc about her unhappy. At limes, while under the infatuation a id blindin- influences of courtship, a youn-r mm who fully realizes the physical infirmities'of the youn- woman with whon. he is keepinjr com- pany wdl excuse all her aches and ill" and unucr the delusion that it will be a pleasure to nurse her in her sickness and minister to her many infirmities, deliberately decides upon marriage. If you are in love with such a young woman, you cannot possibly be more cruel to her than to marry Ler. Let her con- dition appeal to your -mercy, and if vou love her, and desire to support her, well and good But never marry her. As the result of tight-lacing-and when we say tight we do not mean such an extreme drawinasthe flower, as pure as the snow, as sweet as th! ^'cntlc breath ofsprin,.- educated- and rehnee anythiriK other th.m a constant ronil.rt of in- tcrcst,, and a con^c.l.icnt unhapp.ncss > •• Can two walk together, ex. opt they he a^-rrcd >' " One of the r.-.,w.sitcs which yo„ w.ll need to r.nd ,„ a Miitablc w.fc will he that of a (.(m>o "o- s..KK.:,.KK. Home .houl.l afford her , sphere sunr.cirnt for the exercise of her Krande.'t aml.mons. It ^s not eno-.^^h that she sh., dd know what is orderly and iuKood keeping' when she sees .t. hut her taste, ^ool jud^Mnent andir.- dustrv should secure these essentials in her own home. Circumstances may he such that it may not he necessary for her t<, ^., into the kitchen .n order to do the necessa^^ service there, hut she should he compct.MU to . , even that in times of extremity, for some day the Sickness of servants or reverses in business may possibly render even this unavoidable IJut sho should by all means be competent to direct wisely, md should be so bu.ied with im- portant household duties and cares as that she should not be idle, for an idh woman is an up- happy voman. Cod has aciiu ted our physical constitution to labor, and ^^o„ 1 health is not possible to those who will not .all their physi- cal powers into active ex*^ .ise. Women who are constantly seeking " ^rsion and entertain- ment, who arc absorbed by the empty and ex- acting demands of what is called "society" who are extravagant in dress, and who hon- estly contribute nothing, either of happiness or comfort, to the sum of the world's good, are i ifjo M".« r A roisa has m out to a \'»ir r a re.illy i«ll»-.s. iiul arc pr.\i tn .illy worthlr^s as hrlprnccts. Any woman < l.iil :.i silki anil ^c.il arul costly ai'().'-rfl < an look plfis.mt ami smile attraitivcly on t hestnut Street or !■ ifth A»c- nuc; l)ut. y live with you in your home is one who i .;n he a^'rccihle and helpful in the miilst of every ilas' burtlcns and self-tlenials — one who ran mana^'e wisely anil well with much, or, if n''tr{)n^ her .irm>.. She pcrtcivctli tl.af tirrnR- liand isc is t)rofit- able llcrlarnp ^'-xth nr)t (uit l>y ni^'ht. She layct!> htr l>and-> (.. tlic- di->la(r, And hiT harcK hold the ^jjindle. She sprcailcth out htr hand to the poor; Nea, ^hc ica-'■ -'-- '"an you^ I •nferior or superior. Where there is a ^'reat 204 H7/.ir.i ro lya max ok.iit to ksow. r disparity, cither sorially. intellectually, finan. cially. leli^'ioii^Iy. or in any other respect, dis- appointment and unhappiness ate likely to be the result. Ilsen the niarria^'c of Christians who have l)een brought up under the intUienre of different branches of the C hurc h i:, often dis- membered as the result of differences in reli},'ious training and experience. If you desire your home to afford a foretaste of heaven, you can only reasonably hope for such a result when the woman who bee omes your wife is devout and godly. The best that is in human nature is never called into e.\er- cise where the mo.al and religious nature is dwarfed or atrophied. Character never finds its best development until the physical, intellec- tual and moral are alike developed into a well- rounded symmetry. The best husband who ever lived has always had enough weaknesses to call into largest exercise the patient endur- ance and Christian charity of the best woman who ever lived. What the husband is, what he hopes to be, is only possible when he has the sympathy and assistance of a godly wife. Ahab was what Jezebel made him, and you will Hkely be largely what your wife makes you. Not only will her religious character modify your own life, but her thought and her life must mould or mar the thought and the life of your children. If she lacks in moral character, your children will suffer a loss that cannot be sup- plied them in any other way, and if her influ- ence should be exercised against spiritual inter- nuAT A roiyo j/.i.v onuiT to k'^om: 205 csts, no opposing' intliience can fully counteract the sad results. If you arc careful in the purchase of a horse, which ycu may dispose of if not found satis- factory, much more should you be judicious and call your caution into fullest exercise in the selection of one who is to be your life-partner, and <'rom whom you can only be separated by death. Take time. He judicious. (;o slowly. If you rush into marriay;c with h.iste, you will likely spend the rest of your life in a perpetual penance. Don't fall in love. A man only falls when he is helpless. Keep your affections, and your judgment, and yourself well in hand. Keep your feet under you. Take in the whole situation, and when you find yourself in love be sure you did not fall in. A Russian proverb says : " Measure your cloth ten times, for you can cut it only once." Be careful lest the skele- ton of horror steal into yc 'ife and enthrone itself where God designed that an angel of peace and ulessing should preside. If you want to be happy in your home, have the peace of God in your own heart also. Trust Him to direct your steps in this matter, as in every other important matter in life. Ask God to direct your steps as he directed the steps of Isaac and Rebekah, of Jacob and Rachel. " Commit thy ways unto him and he will di- rect thy steps," for " The steps of a good man are ordered of the Lord." « V I n ll H tirr ;^-i t!^: r CHAI'TKF< XII. IMPORTANCE OK (.REAT CAUTION. TnK man who m.ikes a mistake in the selec- tion of a wife, makes one of the m-.st K'rievous blunders that is possibli- to hmi in hfe. Mar- riage is for life, " For 1-ctter or for worse, until death do you part." and a mistake here is ir- reparable, often fatal. In a matter of marriaj^e, more than in any other, the jud-ment is likely to be warped by sentiment or swayed by pas- sion. If a young man does not deceive him- self, decc,.tions are likely to be practiced upon him. Many people who could be (horoughly relied upon for honest dealings in a business transaction, seem to think it no wrong to dis- semble and deceive a young man concerning the moral, mental, physical, or financial condi- tion of a daughter, sister, or intimate female acquaintance. Perhaps it is not putting it too strongly when we say that one-third of the great mass of young women are unqualified ever to become wives or mothers, because of false education and inherited or acquired in- firmities. From one-half to two-thirds of ^11 our married women suffer from some form of womb trouble. Young girls, who are wholly ignorant of the delicate texture of their sexual organism, and without dreaming of the serious consequences which are to follow, contract ( 207 ) mt m-f jo8 Mll.iT A yniMi .v.l.v (tnillT TO won; fhcir w.ii^ts. and tluis( rowd tin* r ontcnts of the rntiic .il.domm.il ( .uity liclow what :-, a natural |>..>iti, n. I!y tlii>. mcaii^ tlu- wi.inl) i<,f()rlf, l)ut ahsohitcly wu keil. While |)liysi(al weakness amoii;,' women is cx« eedin-ly more prevalent than mental weak- ness, yet the «|iiestion of mental ^^-c•n^;th is otic of Kreat importanc e. in many •ust.inces where thereare inheritt-,! tendenc-s to ins;inity. whi( h may n >t l)e very pp-noimt ed. yet. if they do p ,t show themselves at other tm»es, they arc likely to .ippc r at the monthly period of female su k- ncss, or in times of protrartetl illness or death in the family, or when financial reverses come, or when ( ares and anxieties weij;h with such pressure as to tax the endurance of those who have inherited the strongest physi. al and men- tal powers. Where it exists, and is not mini- fcsted at such times or during the period of child-l>carin}r, it is more than likely come out dearly Ixjtween the a^^^es of forty . hftv, when a " chanj,'e of life " occurs with women.' ' If a woman is deceitful, untruthful, untidy, a pad-about, a j;f>ssi{). extravagant, a sloven in dress or housekeeping, contrary and mean- tempered, contemptuous, or has other charac- teristics which make her an incompatible companion, t'lcse traits of character had better be discovered and recognized in due time. If in moral principle she is lax or irre- ligious, she will set up under your roof a little heathenism in the mids' f a surrounding Chris- tian civilization. If she is always contrary and obstinate, she will oppose your most carefully leveloped plans and wisest judgments. She 14 III 'i 2IO HiiATA ynt sa MAS omtir To kSoW. will n|)p()^c you in every I)ll^in('^s urnlcttakin^j, wlictluT ri,;lit cir v.rnn;^;. .mil re i^f you in the government .uul tlis< ifiliiie of yoiir i luUlrcn ; antl, however ni.ii h you may rciMrt the aliNcnoe of that h.irniony between parenl . without whi- h children « annot l)c proprrly e I-^Ml.-r. ,,.urf.an.I.,,,,MrcI. somru.mcn wl.u.u,..l..wM.| ..f.lur.utcr pr.i.„.c..,.a-.MrK ''^•'••l.'.oM uhui. .,nen s.rvc. ... I.e^uilc an.l ni..lfM| tLcimautinu-, and unHu.pn ,in' I,, t even tlu. more d.s. crnm^- an.l j.ulu .,.„. ..r..' ,|.„ often nu.Ukcn rrspc t...^' the he., th, .hspcsi- tion . h.,r.,r,cr. and Kcncral , a,,.,, a ., ih-.r f«.r u»w,m an adm.ratuM, ha. been avvakene.l ,„ t H-.r thon.ht an.l fan, y. It .s often well t„ .erure t'"- "I'lr.K.nof.nme disinterested ans wh.,!|y d.s.ntcrestcl and Mupart^d. the op.n.un expresse.l woul.l be nmlead.ng and unsafe. The judgment of your "wn sister m the matter might be valuable cr the .mpart.al ju.lgment of s..me man of middle ..»e. who .s not blind t., love, might prove s.gni.uant and suggestive. Ut your advisers be few an.l carefully chosen. Do not .Icspisc a pretty face when seeking a '•-mpanion for life. Hut good health, an ami- able disposition, religious culture, a knowlch-e of the practical every-day duties of l,fe, and ^iich education and training as w.U tend to assure unity of purpose and an earnest co-oiie- r.it.on m your chosen l.f,,.-work. are much to be !"cferrcd. The essential requisites in a com- panion, which are nec-^sary t. insure hn .pi. ness and a life of .levo n. are to be found in strength of character, a aealthy bo.ly, a judi- I i \ I #»: m I 212 WHAT A YOl'NG MAN OUGHT TO K'^OW. IN I M cious head, a loving heart, and these all brought into attune with a high and holy life-purpose. A woman whose powers are even a little be- low the average may answer for a period, and may meet the requirements of ordinary life, but she will be sure to fail you in the great events, in the struggles and trials and adversi- ties which are sure to come, and which try men's -ouls. The man who has such a wife is very much like the man in the Scripture who had a house which was built upon sand ; while the days were pleasant and the sun was shining, the air balmy, and it was more pleasant to live out of doors than in the house, he was quite as well situated as his neighbor, whose house was built upon a rock. While he had no need for a house, he bad one which was seemingly good. But in the day when a house was most needed, when "the rains descended and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat upon xhat house"— ill the very hour when the storm and tempest cams upon that man's head, and he most needed a place of shelter, he was home- less and houseless. Re wise. Be judicious. Remember that marriage is not for a day, or year ; not simply for the periods of prosperity, but for life, ibr the times of adversity, when in the darkness you will need somebody to stand by you, that each may be to the other an inspi- ration, a help, and a stay. In the inflicting of punishment in the olden time it was the custom in some countries to chain a prisoner face to face, in actual contact WHAT A rouya max ought to k^ OH'. 213 with a dead body. For d ays and even weeks he was compelled to breathe its foul od look into a face of dec 01s. to effort of his ow self f:om tht ay and death, and l)v was he able to liberate hi no ni- l corrupti itrefacti he loathed, an( It was to this form of punishment that St. Paul refers when he cries out and says: "Oh wretched man that I am, who shall deliver me from this body of death ?" or dead body. As the spiritual nature of Paul cries out in these words for deliverance from the corruption of the unregenerated, natural, sinful man, in like manner will every man who is married, like Socrates, to a regular Xantippe, long to be de- hvered from that to which he is bound in an in- separable marriage union. Be warned by the sad experiences of such men as James Fergu- son, John Milton, John Ruskin, Frederick W. Robertson, and scores of men who may be found in almost any considerable community. While most men are what their wives make them, and secure only that amount of success in life which th«ir wives make possible, there are exceptional men who have risen above un- favoring conditions and have become great, and good and useful, in spite of adversities and domestic infelicities. To this class of men difficulties have not been an impediment, but seem to have constituted a pedestal which has elevated them above the great mass of comnion humanity. John Wesley, one of the world's great and good men, was married to one of the 214 H7/.ir.l yOiWU MAS OUGHT TO KXOW. \\ ! most unreasonable, outrageous, and scandalous of women. While he preached in City Road Chapel his wife sat in the audience niakinjj mouths at him. On one occasion, when he spoke of the slanders which had been uttered against him, and declared that he had been a j- cused of every sin and crime except drunken- ness, his wife arose in the audience and accused him of having been drunk, when the gieat founder of Methodism exclaimed: "Thank God, the catalogue is complete." One day while James Ferguson, the philosopher, was lect- uring, his wife entered the room and wilfully upset his astronomical instruments. Turning to the audience the great philosopher said : " Ladies and gentlemen, I have the misfortune to be married to this woman." What we have said has not been with the thought of turning the mind of any properly qualified young man from entering the marriage relation, but to awaken thought, to arouse cau- tion, to put you well on your guard, to save you from making a fatal mistake. When you find a pure-minded, noble, whole-souled woman, of suitable age, with good physical, mental and spiritual qualifications, one who is affectionate in her nature, loves you, is sympathetic with your work, and responsive to your great pur- poses in life, and is appreciative of that which is purest, noblest and best in you ; if you are yourself pure in thought and life, and can bring a similar contribution of excellent qualifications, your duty is plain, your joy is complete, your I miATA YOiyu MAS OIGIIT TO O'OH'. 215 futMrc is assured, your happiness will be as nearly perfect as is possible to frail humanity. Thousands of the best, the most gifted, the most successful me-^ in the world owe their well-being, their usefulness, their success to the noble, devoted, godly women, whom they call wife, and their children call mother. In the midst of many worthless wonv^n, who are weak worshipers at the altar of fashion and folly, there are multitudes who yield themselves to the nobler, higher and holier instincts of their nature, and who are worthy of the noblest and best men who live upon the earth. There are courageous Deborahs, faithful, trustful Esthers, praying Hannahs, prophetic Huldahs, serving Marthas, loving Marys, and ministering Dor° cases not a few— and, thank God, they have a rapidly-increasing line of descendants in this closing portion of the nineteenth century. I CHAPTER XIII. EARLY AND LATE MARRIAGE. Many different views are held re-arding the age best suited for marriage. We have even read one writer of some repute, who holds the theory that the period for marriage is indicated when the individual arrives at the age of puberty • while, upon the other hand, many authors hold that men ought not to marry until they are at least twenty-six or twenty-eight yea. 3 of age. What one writer means by " eady marriage '• IS a very different thing from that which another author means by the use of the same term. We believe in eariy marriage, but by the term " eariy marriage " we do not mean the marriage of mere children. The sad consequences of marriage at too eariy an age are cleariy seen in India, where giris are married at the age of twelve and fourteen, and boys at a correspond- 'ly eariy period. In conversation with a i.ighly-educated Brahmin, who was in this country pursuing a course of medical study in one of our universities, he seriously deprecated these eariy marriages, and named it not only as the cause of the small stature and undevel oped physical proportions of their men and women, but as having a similar effect upon the mtellectual development of the nation, which is / ... \ ~'i J I) ' ¥ 218 WHAT A roiyo man ovuiit to kxow. • evidenced by the fact that, instead of ^'overning themselves, they are the subjects and vassals of a foreign power. vVhether the ([iiestion is studied in India cr China, or any other country where marriage occurs at a very early period in the development of men and women, the result is that the people are dwarfed m stature, in intellect, and also in moral power. The same principle has been noted in Nor- way, where all the cattle of certain varieties have become small and inferior as the result of mating at too early an age. breeders of do- mestic animals in this country have found that if they desire to improve their stock, the sexual impulse of the animals must be restrained until such time as they have attained th'iir fullest bodily maturity. The reverse of what is found in India is seen in the period in which men and women marry in England. There the men marry at a mean age of about twenty-six years, and the women at about twenty-five. Not only do Englishmen generally attain to a goodly stature, but to a well- rounded physical manhood, and their intellect- ual powers are well exhibited in the intellectual strength of the English race, and the world- wide influence of the English nation. In order that they may acquire and main- tain the greatest bodily strength, the sportsmen and hunters of England are said by Dr. T. G. Kornig to have largely adopted the laws of their Saxon ancestors, that youths lught to be continent until they were twenty-five years of WIIATA YOVNQ MAS OIV/IT TO hWOW. a;:e, in (,rcler that they might attain a 219 perfect so be- staturc and great muscular power, an come tlie fathers of a splendid progeny. When a woman is married at too early an age, she soon loses her bloom and vigor, and. after dragging out a miserable existence, unable to bear her burdens and discharge her duties, she oftentimes sinks into a premature grave.' With men the results are no less injurious and disastrous. The physical powers are gradually undermined, the mind loses its grip and grasp the man becomes dispirited, loses heart in busi- ness, is cross and irritable, and in his entire life and bearing evinces the fact that the burden prematurely assumed, and the cares which steadily increase, are cheating him of man'y maturity and preparing him for premature decay and possible death. Healthy, robust children are begotten and born of parents whose physical and intellectual faculties are completely developed and fully matured. Nature thus manifests her demands for complete abstinence from all effort at repro- duction until fullest maturity of all parts has been attained. When we say that we advocate early mar- riage, we must therefore be understood to mean that marriage may be properiy entered into, from a physical standpoint, when the body and mind have fully matured and the judgment and char- acter have attained an advanced stage of devel- opment. By early marriage we mean that a young man who is normally prompt in his de- » ^ . if ' 220 WHAT A roiyo mas olgijt to kwoh- i| I velopment, and one with wliom other consider- ations do not stand in the wa\ , may marry between the ages of twenty two and twenty- five, and of the young woman, th.it she may marry between the ages of twenty and twenty- three. Where the man and the woman have a nor- mal development, the man, as a rule, should be three years the senior of his wife. Physioally and mentally a woman at twenty is the equal of a man at twenty-three. And a man at seventy, if he has conformed to the laws of health, re- tains as much vigor as a woman at sixty. If a woman is of equal age with her husband, or is of greater age at the outstart, she enters the marriage relation at a serious disadvantage. As the years roll on, this disparity must con- stantly increase, not only as the result of the ordinary course of nature, by which a woman naturally lives faster than a man, but also as the result of family cares, confinement within doors, and the unnatural life to which so many women cheerfully subject themselves. There- fore the wife who is older than her husband is destined some day to awake to the fact that she is an old woman while her husband is yet com- paratively a young man. Where both parties to the marriage contract have arrived at the age of full maturity, so far as the j)hysical questions are concerned, they have attained that period when they may prop- erly and profitably marry. It oftentimes hap- pens that where a man is preparing himself for WHAT A roi-yo MA>' OUOUT to AAOH'. 221 iiome ^TCAt life-work, or finds it to be his duty to support dependent parents, or afllictcd broth- ers or sisters, or where he is without a reason- able means nf support for a wife, and for m.iny other sufficient considerations. marriaj,'e may not only be profwrly but wisely deferred. The mature man or woman, however, who defeis marriage until he or she shall have acquired 6uch an accumulated wealth as will enable them to live in splendor, or who prefers to live alone from the simple standpoint of economy, will usually find that no amount of money which they may }>e able to amass, and no posses- sions which they may acquire, will ever be worthy of being compared with the blessings of married life which they have missed. The man who prefers his selfish pleasures and perso::al luxury to the blessings of the estate which God has or;cs have their own peculiar disadvantages, and in proportion to the extent to which the in- dividual departs from the manifest purpose of his Creator in delaying beyond that period in which it was designed he should marry, he must necessarily suffer to ihat extent in some one way or another. Where a man does not marry until forty or forty-five years of age, he is likely, because of the greater drain upon his nature, and the fact that his physical and nat- ural powers do not respond as promptly and gratefully to the new demands which are then made upon them, to suffer .n his own per- son the consequences of his undue delay. If he is in good bodily vigor, and all his powers have been well-guarded and are well-preserved, his children may possibly not suffer in the physi- i ' i A\ l\ • 224 nil AT A YOISU MAS 01 OUT T() k\OW. ral inhm tnr father; hut thry arc sine to sudct in the (.ut that thcif father IS hkely cither to he over iiuhil:.;cnt with them or not suffiriently in,'cnt, hcrausc he himself has [)as^ccl on so far hoyuul his earlier years that he is entirely out of s\ inpathy with the rhiUl-nattire. and tiic cxpcrirnt cs thriai^^h v^hith all chiUlrcn must pass hcforc they attain that maturity of judgment and that more settled condition which onl) romes with developed manhooeautiful .ind ',ul)lime. When one of these trees is rut down, the |)crfe« tion and hcauty aie «k-stn)ycd. and no art or device of num (an restore that pc-fi^rtion which once existed, nor can it Ik; suet .,fully imitated by thrusting; the unyiehlinv hmhs of lar^'er trees into a union which c^. |y |)c elTcctcci by per- mitting the two trees in their growth to modify themselves to th^ developin^j r. (|uir< inenls of each other. The marriage of peoj)lr Ivanccd in life, with tastes and habits un( . -n^'ingly fixed, is seldom the source of as Tjuch joy and blessing as the marriage of younger people. The probabilities of a hai>;,y marriage rapidly decrease after a man passes the age of thirty. Marriage should not be unadvisedly o- has- tily entered info by the young and immature, nor should it be unnecessarily deferred until those yea's win n the probabilities of a happy union are greatly dimin;,^ d. 'ITic largest hd\>- piness and bic sing in ' .e married state, as in every other condition of life, is to be secure*, when we conform in our conduct to the pur- pose and plan which God had in mind in our creation. Cod has created us men and women. He has designed that at the age of maturity we should enter into the marriage relation under such conditions as will secure not only the largest blessing and happiness of the two persons thus united, but He has de- signed that by this intimate relation of husband and wife, healthy and happy children should :=.J t 226 WHAT A YOIWG MAS OWUT TO KNOW. IM come to bless the heart and home of then parents, and thus the earth be repeoplcd and the r.ice of man perpetuated. And any man or woman who loses sight of this divine purpose degrades his God given and sacred n -wers, and debases himself to ihe level of the brute. No young man has a right to exercise this God- given power during the years of his immaturily, and thr.s beget an '■-•rioi offspring, nor has he a right to av, ., for sordid, selfish, or sensual ends, the purpose which Ciod has contemplated, and iu.-r,, later in life, cn*er a relation in which he calls into being an unoffending and innocent offspring that must share the penalty of his mistake and sin. ¥'> I chai'ti:r XIV. WEDDINCS. Perhaps in no othe- events do the customs of society so greatly differ as in those which ac- company weddings P.nd funerals. If the cus- to of different nations, or even of different sections of country in the same naiion were the same in character, it would not be so difficult to understand why so few people are willing to break away from prevailing customs in these matters. Kven where the customs are absurd or ruinously expensive, only people of character or independence feel free to do what their judgment de.:ides to be most appropriate a id most in harmony with their own means and wishes. Marria^ is a g^reat event in the life of any individu;... It might be called the entrance upon real life. Other events may have their importance, but th-^ is the most important of ail. It is esrentiai, therefore, that a young man and a ycing woman should start aright. Men find, perhaps, greater pleasure in woo- ing, but wnh many women their mar- riage io regarded as the greatest occasion m their life, simply because it affords an opportunity for elaborate dressing and expen- sive display. Indeed, k oftentimes makes I I |i 228 WHAT A VOL SO MAN OUGHT TO KSOW. ' » one sad to see how the cjreat purposes of mar- riage are wholly forgotten in the all-absorbing effort for empty show. If these things were wholly confinefi to the rich, or those whose lives have always been hollow and empty, it would not be so sad ; but the poor so often think that thr'v must imitate the follies of the rich, and in their efforts they are plunged into wasteful extravagance and hopeless ruin. The Hindoos are not the only people in the world who make marriage the occasion for the con- tracting of debts which require the entire re- mainder of their lives to pa^' This preparation for display is attended with its own sad resuhs. It surely is strange that an intended bride should be expected to deprive herself of air and exercise, and all the invigora- tion of her ordinary duties for days and weeks before her marriage. Then, if ever, she needs the strength and health which these alone in- sure. Every minister has witnessed the pallor and nervousness which have come after en- forced seclusion and idleness upon the part of the rich, and the weeks of largely needless toil upon the part of the poor — sev. ing early and late to decorate with unnecessary needle-work nn accumulation of garments, which usually prov c oi little value after they are all done. Who has not seen brides, with pallid cheeks and col- orless lips, whom the white wreath and the long veil made appear more like the bride of death, than like a woman who was about to assume the sacred duties of wife and mother ? If there miAT A }Ol\\G MAX OVGllT TO KSOW. 229 is any time in the life of a young woman when =\\c needs the largest siore of physical endur- ance and glowing' health, it is when she would enter heartily into the festivitiesof her marriage, and would begin her married life with such a store of health as gives promise of years of blessing and influence. The custom of giving wedding-presents has led to the issuing of a large numljer of wedding mvitations. If these presents were inexpensive to the donors or useful to the recipients, there might seem to be some excuse for this useless extravagance. Those who purchase presents, however, often seem to have in mind no other thought than that of display. It never seems to occur to some people that useless presents are generally more of a curse than a blessing. Wedding presents seem usually to be selected with a view of pleasing the vanity of the pur- chaser rather than with a view of being service- able or helpful to the recipient. If those who desire to give wedding-presents would give car- pets, furniture and dishes for daily use, the newly-married couple might have something with which to set up housekeeping. But where means are limited, and relatives and ac- quaintances numerous and wealthy, young peo- ple often start with an accumulation of solid silver or plated-ware, which is entirely out of harmoi.y and out of keeping with the humble home and mcdest furnishing which their hmited means is only sufficient to supply. These pres- ents are oftentimes of no practical value, but ,r i' . 1: -I Ijo nil ».T A YO UNO MA S UQHT TO KSO \\\ since they were weddinp-^ifts, the recipients, because not able to pay for their safe storaj^e, are compellctl for ^ears to remain at home that they may stand guard over an accumuhition of matter which mi ,ht hive lx?cn stolen the first week with actual Ixjiv.tit and blessing to their owners. Not only are ine presents often worthless, but as the years come and go and marriages occur in the families of those who have bestowed these gifts, wedding-j^resents will be expected in return, and the consequent outlay for a series of ten or fifteen years often imposes a serious burden upon the newly-married, who find in- creasing demands upon thtir purse as the years go by. If the parents of the bride would take thf money expended in flowers, carriages, feast- ing and display, and use it in supplying the actual needs of the newly-married couple, their outlay would be productive of lasting good. Sensible young people may also properly give some thought and consideration to the subject of bridal tours. Nearly every newly-married couple, however limited their means, seem to think it necessary, in order to maintain their position among their friends, that they should go to the expense of an extended " bridal tour," The original intent in such a journey was doubt- less to remove the nev/ly-married couple from ♦''6 midst of their daily surroundings, and to enable them to become familiar with their new conditions while removed from the staring gaze, F 31 WHAT A rOVNO MAS OLUIIT TO A VOW. 231 unpleasant remarks ami unwise interference of those with whom they ordinarily came in con- tact. The thought of quiet and retirement, which usually characterized this brief period of absence, has been wholly lost in the conven- tif a wedding', and the expenses of an extended tour, newly-married people generally find themselves greatly embarrassed with debt. \nd bc^in life with a burden which is destined to harass them for years, and, la many instances, results in greatly marring both their happiness and their usefulness. In many cases wedding waste leads to worry and want, and blights the lives of those who are brought under the dominion of an i.bounding pride and a love of empty display. In most instances the bride, and especially the bride's parents, rre to blame for the display and extravagance which attends the ordinary wedding. In arranging for these matters for your own wedding be manly, and brave too, if that is necessary, and exhibit such a reason- ableness as will lead not only to moderation in the outlay, but which will secure for yourself the esteem of all who learn the honorablenes^ of your motives and the reasonableness of your desires and suggestion. Unreasonableness upon the part of the young woman or her parents should lead to serious apprehension. There is no reason why you should be needlessly and deliberately impoverished in the very beginning of your married life. In reference to the fee which you should pay the officiating clergyman, it is only necessary to say that this should be in proportion to the displays and expenditures. Some people i WJl.lT A YOiyO MAS OiaUT TO A'.voir. 233 will cx[)cnj- garly fee. When people are lavish in all their other expenditures, there is no reason uhy they should be mean with the officiatin^j clergyman. But in no respect should it ever be expensive either to be married or to be buried, and yet both are often made the occasions of most unreasonable extravagance. ' if f '\ i CHAPTER XV. HINDRANCES TO I!F. AVOIDED. If a youn^' man desires a healthy and pur« body, there are several su^,'j,'ebti()ns which are important to him in the attainment of these de- sirable ends. A very limited observation of the lives of the vicious and corrupt, to„'ether with a little reflection, should be sufficient to disclose to any young man such important prin- ciples as are necessary for his own guidance and t,'overnment. One of the most dangerous influences to which all young men are exposed is that of bad companionships. Not only is a man " Known by the company he keeps," but his compan- ions will be quite sure to mould and fashion his character into conformity with their own. Bad men take great pleasure in plunging the inno- cent and unsuspecting into the iniquities with which they themselves have become familiar. The depraved seem to find great satisfac- tion in helping others to become as bad as theniselves. Your greatest danger, however, will be, not that you would be likely to seek or even accept the company of those who appear to you as superlatively bad, but that actuated, as most young men are, you may greatly prefer the company of those of your own age who (235) iiH n 1 II m «i,y^ 2j6 WHAT A VOlSd MAS 0\ (»(1 Ixjoks, ami with false iilcas of life are ready to he led of evil into all forms of dissipation and vice. The danj^er is that, like many others, you may re- solve that as you are to live hut once, therefore you are determined to have " a ^n>od time." Is it not rather true that because we are to live but one e, therefore, we should live wisely ? Mis- takes made cannot be corrected, and wrongs done can never be wholly ri^dUed. As you are to live but once, you cannot afford to let the earlier year- pass without laying the necessary foundations broad and deep, in order that you may build upon them a noble, successful and glorious manhood. Avoid those whose companionship and inllu- ence silence the admonitions of conscience, de- stroy your reverence for the IJible, your fiiith in r,od, your dread of j^idL^ment. Avoid those who would help you to such a course of conduct as would destroy your reputation, dc^^rade your character, waste your substance, undermine your health, defeat the grc.it purpose of your life, and take from you all liopc of eternal sal- vation. Avoid the profane man, th*. social drinker. .Shun the libertine, and turn a deaf ear to the cynic and the unbeliever. " F' '.sake the foolish and live, and go in the wav of un- f" WHAT A Vol sa J/.J.V or <;IIT TO kWOW. 2J7 dcrstandinfj." Remember that the fncnilship of the vorld is just as much riunity with (ioci in the ninctrfnth tcntury, and in your own nei^'hboihootl, as it w.is in the tirst century, and in the (juict towns of Judea and fialilce. It was true then, and it is true no / : " He that walkcth with \s i'.e men shall be wise ; hut a tom[)anion of fools shall he destroyed." The advice w hich Solomon i^HLve nearly three thousand years a^;o is cijually applicable to young men of the pres- ent day : Knter not into the path of the wicked, And walk not in the way of evil men. Avoid it, pass not by it ; Turn from it, and pass on. For they sleep not, except they have done mischief; And their sleep is taken away, unless they cause some to fall. For they eat the bread of wickedness. And drink the wine of violence. But the path of the righteous is as the shining light. That shineth more and more unto the perfect day. The way of the wicked is as darkness : They know not at what they stumble. You will notice, also, that the wicked gener- ally begin thtir downward career by wasting the evening hours. Instead of using the even- ing for the acquisition of knowledge, the devel- opment of the physical, intellectual and moral powers, under the cover of night they plunge ^'1 n.HH ajS i»y/.!r,i vol sa m.ks omiiT to kso\*. into siK h cxrcsscs a iindcrmine i' , ilp- ha >• t'le m.inliooil, and |).iuj)cti/.c i. e. It was I'lulcr cover c'" ni^'ht thav ] rsook an«l betrayed his Masfr And .Nolon.. . s ob- servation C()n(ernin>; the " youn^ pu* *. void of u^dcr^tandin^,'" who was met hy ,\c stran^;e woman with nattering words is of one wh<» was Koinj,' wrong "In the twilight, in the cvcnin^', in the black and dark night." At night the ser- vants of sin are busy in the harvest-fields of de.uh. When the great rush of busmess has swcot past, and the rumble o<" wheel, has died away in the quiet of forsaken streets, then it is tl I colored transparencies and tinselled saloons and cheap music ' old high carnival in the de- seited stic'-'t; and out from the hovels and ha. nts of vice stalk forth the forms of those who would gladly hide their shame under the shadow of the buildings which skirt their way to death. Then it is that many of our young men go forth to Ix; lured by enticing company into bil- haid-halls drinking-saloons, gambling-dens, seraglios ( f ice, and r-, and on, to physical, moral and e eriial ruin. The ni-ht-life of the young men < . y- -yreat cities, and even of our smaller towns, is a perplexing problem. The night accomplishes the ruin of the day, and un- dermine th.i man jrcver, and as God " set a mark upon Cain," so upon the forehead and ui)on the faces, and ever the entire frame, God brands these lepers of lust so that none can conceal their sin from thos( who are tau<'ht in WHAT A vol Mi V.iy 01 OUT TO kWOW 239 the lan^jiiaKC in whi.h is writfeii the penalty of thfirKuilt. Determined to have " a k'""<1 ume." we have known yountj n>cn in .1 hip>.jle hour to bli^;ht .ind blast the possibihtics of an entire life, ami to receive in place of their virtue a curse, into which was condensed the quintes- scnc c of all the aches and ills and :nisery that flesh is heir to. Voun^' m.in, be warned in the bc^'inning against the fatal delusions which seek to blind you to the perUs of the darkness. Spend your evening's with ^ood books, in the companion- ship of the pure, in the midst of refining' and elevating' surroundinj;s. In the darkness do not ^o where you would be ashamed to be seen in the light. Have no companion to whom, if Jesus were upon the earth in bodily form, you could not introduce Him without shame or em- barrassment. While speaking of the proper use of the even- ing hours, it may not be out of place to add a word of counsel concerning the too prevalent custom of remaining until an unseasonable hour when calling to spend the evening in the comp- ly of young ladies. All parents should have tne rule— upon which many insist— that theii sons and daughters arc nut permitted to keep company after ten o'clock, i i.is t istoni of late hours not only disturbs the peac* and rest of other members of the family, but unfits the young people themselves for the duties of the ne' -;ay, often becomes injurious to h' 1th, and throws around such relations the f^ 240 WHAT A YOl'NG MAS 01 OUT TO KSOW. W ' air of suspicion, and, by affording easy oppor- tunities for violating the proprieties of life, tais custom often leads to such temptations as be- come a serious menace to virtue and honor. A young mi^n who desires to remain pure needs also to be warned against bad books and lewd pictures. The influence of books cannot be over-esiimated. It is stated upon good au- thority that " Cervantes laughed away the chiv- alry of Spain," for " Spain produced no heroes affer Don Quixote." If a single book can change the character of an entire nation, how much more easily may a young man be beguiled and mis- led by an author who has the ability to make virtue appear disgusting and vice attractive? And how can young men associate with such authors without imbibing their thoughts and principles? Much of what is called "light literature" is pernicious, and even immoral. Show us the books and the papers which you read, and it will not be difficult to portray your character or to predict your future. Eyes that weep so easily over fiction and fancy seldom have tears for the perils and sorrows of real life ; and the young man whose heart is filled with the imagery of sin is likely to be found sooner or later actualizing in his own expe- rience the pictures which he has cherished in his mind. The ycung man who clings to right principles and keeps his mind pure, may be regarded as reasonably safe from the defile- ment of vice; while any young man whose mind is brought into contact with the vices WHAT A njiWG MAX 01 1. II T TO KSO H'. 241 and the corruption of those books which wiih iiionil rottenness is hkelv to 1 '■ek natcd by the cv lis \\ hich and are cnnta-ious in this at e «.:ontaini- sw iK-r\a^i\e 'nosphcie of death. ') youii- man can read an impure book with- out havin- Kr;iv-d upon thea J-cstos of lus soul pictures wliich time cannot erase nor fire efface. Our bodies are Hk e a ca>'e that end OSes a 110 youn^f man arouse the bcibt. a;ul thus dchb- bcast, an an>;el ..nd a devil, and can afford to e.-ateiy deliver himself into the hands of the devih ].etmc urge ujton you, young man, as an accountable being, by all that gives saiistac- tion in life, by all that is worth living for in this world, and which is attractive in the world to come, that you shun any and every book which holds up vice for your admiration and imitation. No young man can look upon obscene pict- ures without the danger of photographing upon his mind that which he might subsequently be wdling to give thousands of dollars to obliterate. Rev. Dr. Leonard, in an address before the New Ycrk Society for the Prevention of Vice, said: " I remember to-mght an instance in my loyhocd. when I was not more than twelve years of age, and was shonn a book— a vile bo< k— by a German shoemaker who came through the region of country where I lived, and the pictures that were in that book are now' 1:1 my mind to-night as clearly as when I fir.t looked upon them. Other pictures of beauty have faded out, but those pictures somehow have remained, and I have said to mvself a-ain 16 " 242 WHAT A yoryo mas ovgiit to ksow. and again, ' I will turn that picture away from my mciuory, and won't think of it again.' \'ct, as often as I think of that Cerman shoemaker, that vile book stands out again Ijcfore my mind." Those who years ago had the pleasure and privilege of listening to the elocjuent words of John H. (lOugh, the distinguished temper- ance lecturer, will remember his reference to his early life and the experiences through which he had passed. They will remember his refer- ence to the sins of his earlier years, and recall how impressively he said: "That he would to God he mij,ht forg ^f the impressions which they had left upon his mind ; that he had tried to banish them from him, but they would not be banirbed." The Society for the Suppression of Vice has done much to rid the country of this kind of de- filement, but a single picture which escapes their search and destruction may defile the minds of a hundred young men who behold it. No modest young man can aff"ord to display pictures of actresses with unbecoming expo- sures and suggestive postures without endanger- ing the esteem in which he desires to be held. And no young man who desires to have a strong body and a pure mind can affoi .1 to harljor such pictures, either displayed . . his room or concealed in a secret drawer. The purpose which w^ have sought to keep in mind in the preparat . of these pages, and the limitations within which we are compelled to work, render it impossible for us to consider WHAT A rorSf; MAX orciIT TO KSOW -+J separately the various kind. „f questionable amuse- nt. lU.t it m.iv be s.ifdv 'stated as a principle that no youn- man should enga-e in any amusement whirh is c.xtiava- int of money wasteful of time, undcrminin- t., tlie health or subversive of the best standards of moral recti- tude. There are. however, two fowns of amusement of which ue must speak particularly, because they are f.au-ht with more than u.ual attract iveness and danger. We refer to dancin- and theatre-going. Th a danciug deserves to be re- garded as one of tl>e rmusements which arb most dangerous and destructive to virtue is attested by the fact that recently a bishop in the Roman Catholic Church, in conversation with a bishop of the Protestant Episcopal Chu: h stated that the work of the confessional re- vealed the fact that nineteen out of every twenty women who fall, co .ess the beginning of their sad state to the modern dance. Late hours, ex- pensive dressing, violent and protracted exer- tion, and other -easons might be named as a sufficient array of arguments against the objec- tionable Chan: ..t cf this amusement. To our mind, howevc- the insurmountaMe objection and that " ^h constitutes its real and by far Its great . .attractiveness, consists in its appeal to the i:ciisual nature. The insufficient dress- mg, the u" \ Q exposure of the persons of the females ., the dance, the suggestive altitudes, .ne personal contact, the passionate cxciiement and the undue license allowed while whirling 244 n7/.ir.i I'or.w; max oii.iit to ksow 'M ^11 upon the floor to the strains of music are su(fti as cannot help but arouse in any stron.;^, vij;or. ous, normally-developed > oun;^^ man the strong- est sensual tendencies and propensities of his nature. No man would be likely to admit that he is so cold and j)assionlcss that his sexuality is not consciously (piickened by the close conta< t and inspiring inthiencc of the round dance. There are women, however, who declare that there is nothing in the dance which appeals to their sexual nature; and yet, strange to say, these very same women are passionately fond of this form of amusement. If we are to credit their declarations, we would b-j forced to believe that they are devoid of tn>it vvhii h characterizes other members cjf their sex, or that they do not imderstand or correctly interpret that which is awakened in them, and which causes them to become such devotees of the dance. The following'- quotation from a letter, written by a lady who nas obtained a wide reputation in literature, and who has abandoned the dance forever, constitutes a frank confession, and may reasonably be expected to interpret, at least to some dcgr»:c, the emotions which are experi- enced by other women, who so much enjoy the wait/.. " In those times I cared little for polka, and still less for the old-fashioned money musk or Virginia reel, and wondered what people could find to admire in these slow dances. But in the soft floating of the waltz I found a strange till AT A yor.\(7 MA.y m chit to A'.vow. 245 pleasure, rather ditiicult to intelligibly descr-he. The mere anticipation tluttercd my pulse, and when my paitner appn ached to claim my jiromibed hand for the dance I felt my cheeks kIow a little sometimes, and I could not look him in the eye with the same frank gayety as before. lUit the climax of my confusion was reached when, folded in his warm embrace and j;nidy with the whiil, a stran};e, sweet thrill uould shake me from head to (<'<>{, leaving me weak and almost powerless, and really obliged to depend for support on the arm which en- circled me. If my partner failed from igno- rance, lack of skill, or innocence, to arouse these (to me) most pleasurable sensations, I did not dance with him the second time. 1 am si)eak- ing openly anrl frankly, and when I say that I did not understand what I felt or what were the real and greatest pleasures I derived from this so-called dancing, I expect to be believed. But if my cheeks grew red with uncomprehendcd pleasure then, they grow pale to-day with shame when I think of it all. It was the physical emo- tions engendered by the magnetic contact of strong men that I was enamored of, not of the dance, not even of the men themselves. Thus I became abnormally developed in my lowest nature. I grew bolder, and from being able to return shy glances at first, was soon able to meet more daring ones, until the waltz became to me, and whomsoev er danced with me, one lingering, sweet, and purely sensual pleasure, where heart beat against heart, hand was held ill A ■I II i I r i 14^ 117/. 1 7- . t ror .\>, .}f. {s nt;.it r to kso \ 1 • in hand, ;i;u! fy.- I K.kc-l !)iirr.inij ^'^rinU which lips (larc.l imt spc.ik. All this, while ri) one said to nir, ' Wnn d^, wrnnj;.' So I dcaincd cf sweet WMid^ whispered durin- the d.uuc, and often folt while alone a thrill ( f joy, indcscril). aMe yor overpowerin,:. \^lK'n my ni;nd would turn from my study to rcmemli(r a piece of temerity of uniisn.d ^-randeiir on the part of one or .-mother of my r.i\a!iers. " Married now, with hoine and ( hildren aroui d me, I can at lea.t thank Cod fv)r the experience which will assuredly be the means of prevent- ing; my little dau-hters from indnl-in- in any such dan^'erous pleasure. F.ut if a youn;; ^''rl, pure and innocent in the be^Mnni;l^^ can be brought to feel what I have confessed to have felt, what must l>e the e.xperience of a married woman ? She knows what every <;lance of the eye, every bend of the head, every close clasp, means, and. knowing that, reciprocates it, and is led by swifter steps and a surer path down the dangerous, dishonorable road." Another form of amusement against which it IS important to warn young men is the theatre. Through its debasing influences more young men are every year undermined in their moral principles, and plunged into vice and sin. than it would be possible accurately to estimate. At one time, when preaching to a large congregation of young men. l^r. Lyman Beecher said : " If any man can invent a more speedy way for sin- ners to go to hell than the theatre, he ought to have a patent-right for his infernal ingenuity." I J t\ HAT A YOiyii .U.I.V OVOIIT TO hWOU- 247 It mi;^ht be hoped that i:i si\ty or seventy years the theatre WDuld have h'.'on purified aiul pie- pared to take a nmre cxahcd p.-^itinn in .1 pro pres-iive civih/at ;in, hut the portra'. al of \ice and CI line lias been its chic-f attraction (or cen- turies, and every effort to eliminate tlicse o])jec- tinn.dile features has re-iuhed in financial failure. If the theatre is to draw, virtue n :si he clothed in sable garments, \vlule\ice parades it -elf in attractive robes. Licentiousness must be thinly veiled, and the appeal must ever be to latent passion. The debasing' intluences of the theatre pro- duce quick results in the lives of youn;,,' men. Mo : principles which have cost Christian J) ;>ts months and years of care are banished in an hou Here youn;; men are asked to loik upon the stimulating intluences of drink, while the iie<;rading effects of the dre;;s are carefully concealed from view. Here they are brought under the influence of those who have learned to abhor home, who look upon e/erything as dull and worthless that is not sufficiently stimu- lating to arouse their depleted and stupefied sensibilities. Here the low, the drunken, and the sensual hiss at what is pure and holy, and applaud that which appeals to their basest pas- sions. Here, under the influence of exposures and postures which )ring the blush of shame to the check of delica^-y, previously pure young men feel the awakening power of ungovernable passion, and thousands of them, dazed and be- wildered every night, fall an easy prey to the 'ir 24S uv/.ir.i yor.\u mas oiaiiT m a.wxi b.ir-roonis. the K-^mhlin;,' dens, and tlu- hrnthclj whi. h ( Iu-.tfr under the -huidw dfcvery theatre. Here tlie stian;^'e woman hiiks for the ilevtnic- ti.in of tho e who, in no other Imnr of their lives, can so e.ibily he led into the path-, (.f vice and vin. To m.).st yoiint:: nicn the appeal of the theatre to the bensual, and tlic easy temptations which follow, seem (piite irresistihlc. I hit even if these saddest and most serious results do nut imme- diately i"()llow. the (lehasement (.f tin- mind, the lowering' of tlie moral ^taiulards, ami the break- In;,' down of all the |)rinciples aial imhic-iices which can mc st safely be relied upon to keep a youn;; man from inward dttilement and phys- ical weakness, are yet very j;reatly to be die idcil. Dancip.j,' and theatre -^oin^^are as hostile to vir- tue, and as destructi' e of moral character, as water to fire, salt to iron, oil to rubber, death to lift;. Xo young man nee»l deny himself any ^afe form of recreation and amusement, but there are many reasons why he should not cn-atye in those which are either questionable or danger- ous. Closely related to (' mcing and theatre- goin^j is card-playinp^, and other captivating games, which are liable to entice those who en- gage in them, and, as a consequence, the valu- able time which should be devoted to healthful recreation, reading, mental improvement, social fellowship and mc^r d culture, is likely to be wholly devoted to these beguiling pastimes. Many who learn to play at games of chance H7,M7,1 vol Mi M.i\ nt (HIT TO hWOU: 2\<) become so cntirt. ly < aptix ,i;i-,l tli.if cvfii Ixisi- ness CHKa-cmcnts .uul d.uly diitii-, arc n«;- ^'Icrtcil for passinj; |)kM',urf. until, throii^jh ( (.n- se(|iiiTit gamhliiiK' and dissii.ation. tlu-y li.uc ncillicr lionorahlc Ijusiiicss nor prolitahlc diiti. s, and that which l)f-an as a diversion h is cnd.d in dissij)ati()n. < lamin;; tcmls lo piodm ca di-,cM^fd rotiditioii of the mind, \vhi( hunlits for real life. Vonn- nicii who en^a-c in it are lial.le to he- conie inrrcasin;.dy unfitted for hii-iiie-^s, to ne- glect their duties, InHoine unfaithful to their engagements, and sii-ht all they do. except such amusements as minister to a !'e\ereil mind. We all need relaxation and diversion, l.ut like the -seasonings which arc put in our food, they shouUl be judiciously ch(jsen and sparingly used. Life is not a holiday, a mere joke or jest, and no one can lightly regaril it. manifold obli- gations, or turn a deaf ear to the voice somcwliat a-^ lollous: At tir i \()iir ( on .( icii' e uill di apiiroNc, .iiul for a time \ 011 will he at unri->t. \\'\i wull, hou(,\er. likely (■(iiitiiuie, and seek to Idiint your moral sen-ihilities Iiy nr;juiii„' with sour- self that \oii aie not to la- shut out from all enjoyment, or to he sin^'iil.ir hy heiiiL; diileient from other youn^' tnen. Instead of nti oci a- sion.il game, you will soon hecome .1 fieIIIT TO KSDW 251 thrti uhcre .uv. tlu-y f ih\'x the lint ? If these t!;m,:-, (|(» not . r)rriii.t t!ie uioi.iK, (h--r;i(le the man, .111(1 jjcspoil of nioal f ,e and nianlv th.-iiartrr. then what ihtic and insidious intlu- ciin-^ do ar«()ni|)li^,li thee ruitio;!, results "" 'nie of the j^Tcatest hindram es, one of the n> '^t destru(ti\c c\ iU to he avoided i!i tliis worl 1, is intoxicatin ; drink. When we th;nk of tliis subject in all of it., vastne-.s and fearful conscciucnres, its treatment demands an entire V'hime, rather than a few j)ara;;rai)hs in a sin^dc chapter. How can we, in a few nord-., say somethinj; that would he ade(|uatc to the im- portance of this suhjert? If it were not that every day Iwfore our very eyes is bcin^' enacted the fearful drama, in w hirh |)oMtion and money, health and reputation, homes, broken hearted parents, pauperized wives and children are ^'o- in.^ down in the wreck and ruin whi( h attend the destruction of sixty thousand w ho are an- nually slain by this j^reat monster of evil— I say were it not for the fact that we become some- what f imiliar by what we see and by our con- stant contact w ith these terrible results, a few declarations concening this evil would be suffi- cient to move the mind and to persuade any young man never to touch the intoxicating cup, 15ut familiarity with this stupendous initjuity seems to render the mind indifferent, and thousands toy with the danger, which is destroying multitudes of others before the very eyes of those who take their firsc glass. In the manufixcture of malt and alcoholic ^^ ^ IMAGE EVALUATION TEST TARGET (MT-3) // / ,>. <^> y M Photographic Sciences Corporation 23 WEST MAIN STREET WEBSTER, NY. 14580 (716) 872-4S03 ^^:^ r ' 1 ' 1 j ;■ 1 £ ^ .4 ■ I 25 2 B'ir.i r ^ 1-0 ' -.XG M.iy van t to kxo w liquors in this country alone, more grain is de- stroyed than would be necessary to feed a con- tinent- The money annually expended for liquors e\cecds m amount the cost of all the bread, meat, hoots and shoes used in the ent, e country during the same period. It is equal to twice the value of all the church buildings, par- son:\gesand school buildings, and ground upon which all these buildings stand. It is said that :f the money spent annually (51,500,000,000) by the English and American people for intoxi- cating drinks was converted into silver dollars, and these piled one above another, this monu- ment to our sin and shame would extend 2959 miles above the earth— a distance about as great as from New York to San Francisco, This vast expenditure not only pauperizes in- dividuals, but impoverishes the nations. If this vast outlay were used for food, cloth- ing, or comfort, it would not be so sad. But alcohol is not a food in any sense, but consti- tutes an enemy to the human system wherever it is found. Alcohol cannot be digested, and, when taken into the stomach, the lungs seek to throw it off in the bieath, and every organ of the body seeks to eject it from the system. If It is taken into the stomach in any considerable quantities, it passes into the circulation of the blood, permeates the entire bod>, enlarging and diseasing the liver, deranging all the natural functions of the body, and appearing upon the surface in great red blotches, blear eyes, and many forms of human disfigurement. l;.p \ *r//j TA Yoi yo MA y o i an t to a'.vo n\ 253 If you take even the best of liquors and apply a match, the akc^hol will take fire and burn with that lurid flame which is an unmistakable evi- dence of its presence. Mix alcohol with water and apply the match, and you will find that the alcohol will burn, leaving the water behind it in the bowl. Take from the arm of an in- veterate drinker a small quantity of blood and apply the match, and the presence of alcohol is immediately indicated by the same lurid flame, which continues to demonstrate its pres- ence until the alcohol is all burned out of the blood. But in addition to the alcohol which is pres- ent in pure liquors, most of the alcoholic drinks are poisoned by drugs which introduce other agencies that are destructive to human life. When a young man begins to tamper with liquor, before he is aware of it he has cultivated a taste for strong drink, and, as the appetite has grown stronger, the will has grown weaker, and in an incredibly short period of time the young man finds himself a helpless victim, bound hand and foot by a destroyer from whom he is unable to break looso. We have frequently spoken at the Sunday Breakfast Association, in Philadel- phia, before an audience of five or six hundred tramps, vagabonds, and outcasts of every class, anv? have frequcndy seen as many as forty and fifty who have been brought under the influence c f the truth, and who have presented themselves for a word of counsel and prayer. In passing from one to another of these young men, ask- Hi! ifi' f^ i-^ i 254 Hv/^ r A Yoryo Ar.iy olgi/t to awow. ing one after another what influences brouehr them there, the answer, which does not vary in one case out of f.ftccn or t^. nty. will quite uni- versally be • • d^.nk. • • These young men do not all come from the slums, but among them are to be found sons of the wealthy, graduates of colleges and universities, professional m-n Inv yers. physicians, and even some who have pro- cla.med life and salvation to others, but who Have themselves become castaways. If you desire to preserve your bodily virror and virtue, be wained against intoxicating drink. Of those who are given to the intoxi- cating cup. Solomon says : " Thine eyes shall behold strange women, thine heart shall utter perverse things." Liquor and prostitution in our large cities go hand-in-hand . Every brothel IS a saloon, and the influences which are exerted in every saloon tend to people and perpetuate the houses of prostitution. The words of Solomon written hundreds of years ago are just as applicable and impressive to-day. and deserve the thoughtful considera- tion of every young man : Who hath woe ? who hath sorrow ? who hath contentions ? Who hath complaining.? who hath wound, without cause ? Who hath redness of eyes ? They that tarry long at the wine ; They that go to seek out mixed wine Look not thou upon the wine when it is red When it giveth Its color in the cup, fi'iiAT A rovya ma\ ova in to ksow. *5S When it goeth down smoothly : At the last it biteth like a serpent, And stingeth like an adder. The stimulation and exhilaration with which an intemperate life begins soon result in the dethronement of the will, the enslavement of the man, and the debasement of all that is noblest and best in human nature. It speedily blights and blasts, and ruins a man or a woman, both for this world and for the world to come, for the Bible says " That nc drunkard can inherit the kingdom of God." The use of liquor destroys health, disfigures che body, ruins the nervous system, dethrones the reason, produces insanity, becomes the parent of idiocy ; it blunts the finer feelings and sensibihties, it fills our poor-houses with paupers and crowds our prisons with criminals ; it breaks the hearts of parents and pauperizes helpless women and innocent children ; it leads to vice and violence, and plunges its victims into tem- poral and eternal ruin. There was a time, years ago, when men of intemperate habits were found in many posi- tions of trust and responsibihty ; but to-day railroad and transportation companies of all kinds, the various departments of business, the professions, and every other seful walk in life are being more and more closed r, ainst young men who use intoxicating Hquors. In these days of fierce competition and struggle for place no young man can afford deliberately to close to himself every avenue of usefulness and ^;l 'If !' tt I i' I % !•«" 2S6 n-ITATA yOi\Wo MAX OlOUT TO kWOW all hope (.f livelihood. The i)reservat^)n of your heahh. dclixcrance from vice, and the hope of success in life, to say nothing of the destinies of your immortal soul, should warn you against the influences of this monster vice which digs the graves of thousands of young men every month in the year. We trust that before reading' another para- graph you may be constrained to take a sheet of paper, or to write upon' the fly-leaf of your own Bible this simple pledge: " I. the under- signed, do pledge my word and honor, God help- ing me, to abstain from all intoxicating liquors as a beverage, and that I will, by all honorable means, encourage others to abstain." and then sign your name and attach the place and date and forever after adhere to your recorded pur^ pose. ^ What we have said with reference to liquor IS also measurably true with regard to tobacco. The statistics of the Government show that more money is spent each and every day for tobacco than is expended for bread. For every dollar that is contributed for sending the gospel to all parts of the world, one hundred and twenty dollars are spent for tobacco in this country alone. It would be difficult to show that tobacco is beneficial for a man in any period of his life although there are some few men who seem to use It m moderation without seemingly serious results. Medical authorities are, however agreed that the effects of tobacco upon one who has not attained hi? full bodily maturity is inju- rf7/.ii A roL-yo jf.i.v OUGHT to kwow. ^57 rious in the extreme. To one who has not at- tained his entire growth, the use of tobacco stunts the body and dwarfs the muscles, makinij them flabby and weak. When used in excess, tobacco ;,'rcatly affects the vision. I'hysicians who make the treatment of the eye a specialty tell us that when they use the magnifying lens, and throw the light in upon the retina of the eye. they can tell immediately when one is addicted to the excessive use of tobacco. It also deadens the hearing, greatly affects the heart, producing palpitation, and when u^ed regularly, in large quantities, results in produc- ing what is called " tobacco heart." The re- sults of either smoking or chewing can often be noticed in its effects upon the nerves, rendering the individual both nervous and irritable, even to small provocation. Surgeons tell us that their experience in the operating-room has de- veloped the fact that men who are addicted to the use of tobacco quite generally suffer a lack of manly fortitude, and are noticeably cow- ardly under the severe trial of a surgical opera- tion. Tobacco discolors the teeth, makes the breath offensive, excites the glands which se- crete the saliva, and tends to produce dyspep- sia, low spirits, a pale face, and an emaciated form. It also tends to produce dizziness, rush of blood to the head, palpitation of the heart, loss of memory, and a diseased condition of the liver. Its tendency to produce mcer of the mouth is generally known, and such results have been noted in the death of prominent 17 i 'Mia- :^'M I a If I ! 258 WHAT A VOl'SO MAS OVdllT TO KSOW. persons, such ;is (icncral ("irant, ami many others. While many bad effects are e£.sily traccal)le to the use of tobacco, it is also a ..ourcc of consider- able personal expense, and even smokinjr ren- ders the habits of some persons very disagree- able. The custom of smoking cigarettes, and taking the smoke into the lungs, and then blow- ing it out through the nostrils is especially inj". rious, and speedy results are oftentimes visited upj iiicn become insurmoimfahle. If theNC thin^js stand in the way of i)hy>ii< al acquisition, much more do they als(» stand in the way of intellectual and moral acquisitions and abiding st; ength. I; : S : CHAITF.R XVI. m HF.LPS TO BK ISF.D. The strujj^lc for mastery in life is ho fierce with every person, that, whether the principal effort he for bread, I'or success, or for mastery over the sexual nature, no one can afford either to court the hindrances or to ne^'lect the helps which stand so closely related t'^ the result. The ^'ravity of the hindrances, and the value of the helps, are not always duly appreciated in early life, and, even in later life, there are many who seem fully unable to understand why they should have failed while others have suc- ceeded. lUit most men who succeed are able to look back and discover hov/ different would hive been the eventual outcome if their prin- ciples and metVods had been such as have brought defeat to others. If you desire to accomplish anything in life, you must have a purpose in the beginning. An aimless life is never a successful life. Live with a purpose. Have a high and holy ambition. " Let all the ends thou aimest nt be thy coun- try's, Cod's, and truth's." "S'our purpose should take in not simply this life, but should compre- hend, also, the great object of life, and should be a purpose worthy of an immortal being. Have an aim, anrl let that aim be high and (261 ) i'li ft t'c ♦<'»3 n/M T .1 vol so MAS OVUIIT TO k.SOW holy, anil then -iirivc for cminenrc in that work. No >ounK' t\\.\n can accomplish njuch in this world of (limcultica who docs not aim for cmi- .cn( c. Many with good phy^tical and intellcct- lul powers, withlar^'e possil)iHtiM and oppor- tiinitics. accomph^h little or nothing; because they lack an endowment of power which is only possible to one who has an enduemcnt of pur- pose. Stand steadily on tho plane of your bc5t endeavors and K'-incrishablc lines of " I'ara- dise Lost" and " I'aradisc Regained;" be in- spired by Robert Boyd, the paralyzed preacher, writing for coming generations the truths which he was unable to spe.ik into the cars of those who lived in his own time. Learn indomitable perseverance from Sir Walter Raleigh. John Hunyon. Richard Baxter. Martin Luther. Cast into prisons, languishing in dungeons, these men rose victoriously above their difficulties, and the mighty forces which they marsh.dlcd in the "History of the World," "Pilgrim's Progress." " The Saints' Rest." "The Call to the I'ncon verted," and the translation of the Bible into the language of the Great Reformer, came trooping forth like invincible armies from behind the bars where their writers were held as captives. Many fail in life who secure the end which they seek. Their purpose, even if not low oi nil A r A lot y, ir you will mi-five years of age. There is too much that is indispensable I rUAT A I OIWO MAS OLOIIT TO KSOW. 269 for intelli^jence. for l.iyinjr of foundation prin- ciplcs for study, for business, health and morals, that need to he read first. If fiction is b-^'iin before a correct taste is formed and foundation principles laid, the best books will never he read at all. The haliit of reading' rapidly for the simple sake of the story will destroy the J)0wer, and even the wish, to read thouj^htfully! and seriously. The power to concentrate thought will, as a consequence, never bo acquired. A vitiated taste is the inevitable result. If it is important that the body should be fed upon the most nourishing food, the same is also true of that upon which the mind is to be fed. Kead only the best. Few books have enough of merit to enable their publisi. rs t-. sell the first edition. The book that lives five years has some merit; those that live ten have more; but many of the best books are twenty-five and fifty years old or more. In science begin with the simple and intelligible books, and, if you desire, let th- more abstruse follow later. In the realm of history, the standard authors are always to be preferred. There have been too man/ great and good men to devote any time to reading the biographies of any others. Give much time and careful study to books in which men of eminence and character give wise coun- sel to young men. The principles discussed are such as must form the foundation for every manly character and successful career. The Dooks which start a young man aright, which ■mpart the right principles, inspire with high and 270 WHAT A YOUSQ MAN Ol'OIIT TO KSOW J: U-tL ■ 1 - '4 , "'' h ■ 1^ holy .-imbition. and give a dauntless and undying puri)ose, are the best books. Next in importance to wl:at to read is how to rcatl. Never read rapidly. Always thoughtfully. Take up a single subjec t and study it carefuliy. Take notes, analyze, outline what you read, re- view what you have read. The chapter or' the bf^ok that contains no information or thought that is worthy of being fixed more permanently by summoning a second time before the mind. is not worth reading at all. In reading, as in other things, give yourself absorbingly to what you are at. " VVhac is worth doing at all, U worth doing well." You cannot read every' thing, and do not be so unwise as to attempt it. Read only as much as you can read thoroughly! More than that is never helpful, but is often hurtful. The young man who fails to secure for him- self a large fund of knowledge with increasing mtcllectua! and moral culture cl.uring the first ten years after entering upon life. will, more than likely, fail eventually. The cidy leisure for young men is dunng the first ten years, and after that they are either absorbingly busy, or persistently idle and increasingly ignorant. Many men who have nev'er been inside the walls of a college have acquired more informa- tion and a more useful fund of knowledge than thousands who have pursued the prescribed course in our colleges and universities, but this is not the character of all who go to colleije or attend the universities. I ! ! njrii A i ksow 271 There is a mcntnl discipline, strcn^'th and grip which can be .-xciuired in a Ion;; course of intellectual training, which cannot be acquired in any other way. We would recommend every young man lo whom such a cours:^ is possible to take a thoroui^h college training in the very best institution possible. To those w'lo are poor, the idea of expense may at first seem a formidable obstacle, but this can be overcome when deliberate judgment and indomitable per- severance determine upon securing this desir- able re-.ult. Many of the most useful men in the world are those who have saved their small earnings, taught school during vacation, sold books, or engaged in some profitable employ, ment, and never allowed any discouragement to turn them aside from their purpose to enjoy the best educational advantages which our in- stitutions of learning afford. Most of our col- leges and universities have free scholarships, and oftentimes funds with which to aid young men who are struggling in this way to acquire an education. If your exchequer is low, your aim high, and you greatly desire a college train- ing, enter into correspondence with the presi- dent of some institution, and, sooner than you think, you rnay be successfully on the way to the attainment of a thorough college education. The young man who desires a useful and successful lite makes a fatal mistake if he does not conscientiously and reverently keep the Sabbath and reverence the Sanctuary. " The Sabbath was made for man ;" not to be wasted ii I ■ II 272 H'HA T A vol Wd MA .V o I t;n T TO A'AO »' in idleness or devoted t) pleasure, or j^iven to recreation, Diit to be dcvf?ted to man's moral nature and needs. After six «)oks combined. This book was begun some thirty-four centuries ago. and in the comple- tion of it some thirty or forty men were en- gaged in various times during a period of six- teen centuries. Upon it prince and peasant sovereign and slave, scholar and novice each wrought the part which Cod assigned them. Men in various conditions, in different states of society, separatf^d by sea and land in ages widely apart, helped to complete this book which records the remotest past and reveals the most distant future, beginning at creation and stretching away to judgment-a book in it:^ sccpe and design transcending any human pro- duction, and with its methods of composition at variance with all human authorship, yet em- bodying in itself an individuality which brings all this diversity into one essential unity. It is the 18 ¥ l!^ 874 »iiAT A yoiyo mas ovuut n) k:.'ow. •1 -h i ,1 most wonderful book In the whole realm of literature— the atonement its central thou^jhl, and Llirist its central fij^'ure. Here Dante found the theme for his " Divine Comedia," and Milton the theme for his " Taradisc Lost" and " I'aradise Regained." Here the k^c.xX Sf ulptors found the subjects for their chisels, ;i ml the great painters the inspiration for their p.v:ti"res. Michael An^elo's Moses, Leonardo lia Vinci's picture of The I^st Supper, Rubens' Descent from the Cross, ant' many of the choicest, richest and rarest treasures of the art galleries of the world here find their inspira- tion; here Handel comes to sinp of the Mes- siah, and musicians come 'o touch their sweet- est notes. While human books have been shaped by the opinions and spirit of the a^je and the countries which produced them, this exceptional book antagonized the countries and the peoples which gave it birth. Its purj)ose was, and still is, to set up a kinj,'dom of truth and righteousness, not only in the hearts and hal)it itions of men, but among the nations of the cirth. Its plain teachings and saving truths are suited alike to rich and poor, old and youn;^', learned and unlearned bond and free. It is not written for one age, or for one nation, but for all nations and for all ages alike. In sorrow or joy, in sickness or health, in life or death this book fits into the needs of the human soul like a key into the intricate wards of the lock whose bolt it is designed to throw back. It is the friend and herald of progress, affect i*IUTA yoiyoMAyoioilTTOK.SOU'. 275 f. I en and by sp.uual ra^cncr.u.on makes .Ic- K.iclc.l man to stand up in the likeness of (-.ocl Tc.h urcver. I" .re and Hood, war and pes- t.lcnce iK.vc not been su.fic.ent to destroy it K.n«do,ns have risen, flourished and pa sed away but the D.bic remains. Nfen have as s ..led .t a-Kl overturned it. but it has been like overturn.nK'acubeof,ran„e:Mtisjustas »>'^' one .ay as the other, and wh n you lu.ve ui>seUt..tisnKhts:deup.andwhenyouhac overturned U aga.n it is .,ht side up stdl -very httle while somebody bhms up the U;ble Uu w hen .t comes down .t always h.hts on its' a« ^and runs faster than ever throu.d. the Voun^^ man. this is the book I desire to com- mend to you above all other books. If vou dc- ^re to be intelli.^ent. this is the book of' which you cannot aCord to !,c ignorant. If you desire punty and virtue, if you would overcome weak- .^ess and grow strong in body, if you desire to be the peer of the best of your fellow-men this .s the book that w.ll show you the way. "f 'u would understand the mystery of life and death here you will find its greatest revdntion. I." you' desire to walk in the path of honor and integ- nty, of peace and prosperity, this book will be a ^a>. Of all book3 this is the best, and of all belps this IS the greatest. Ill ,i! 7-](> miAT A )()t.\(i MAS Olt.in lo A.NOM Ml ■.«" J And n«tw, my ilcir yonn^' friend, wc arc about to |)art. In my t.ilks with \(tii in these pa^'c^ I have not been tint on^i ion-, of tlie iniportancc of the umlettakin^' whi(h I jiropo-^rd to nij'self m the hc^inninj^'. Wm air in the inid-.t of your formative yt ,rs. I.aih inthicncc is hclpinj,' or hlndcrin^,^ hi.dihiiK' »'P '"■ tf-iriiiK' down. i->t.d)- h liin^' o! iinsettlin;,' your matd; pt ni ipir-, and iinpcri-%hal)Ic ( h.»ra< tor. 1-arh year voii .ire niovin^r onward, cither in the ri;;ht or in the wton^' (Urcction. \c. as well as yours, has been w.isted, and the writer is without his coveted reward. And now, in parting. I wish to press upon your thought the tact that neither in this vvorld nor in the world to come ran you stand still. Voii must ever move onward, cither upward or downward. Had is ever hading to worse while better ever fends to best. One ye.o- from r w yof will be either more a man or less a man. Complete victory will eventually be cither to the monster or to the man. Trac- tice will make perfect, and bad practice will make perfectly bad. The young man who fails to bring lust and passion into subjection and control in the be- ginning has a dark future before him. Thc^e ui:.\T A rorxo man oraiir to A\nn: 277 pa.>.inn-. will K'row st.onK'rr nnd stron^'cr, cwry lUi.r.il .intl rc.»v>n.il)le ii.,tr.iint \\M he hrokcn (loun. until .It l.i-»t. whin cx.civc itulul^'cnrc orati\arr ir.^f jcars W.ix c him wilhoiif thr power lon;:crto at* ..inpli-^h his ^ ,1c purposes. hi» mind and his iina^jinaiKjU will ( oiuinu- to ^row more and more c.irnipt. I very physician i^ hron^^ht Into fie5 have rohi.ed thcni of .Iieir power to pcrfi^im their vu ions I)iirposes. hut whose lack of j cr has no tffc. t to modify or correct their vile wishes and efforts. ^. is this that makes old men w ho have led lives of \icc e.cn more danj^croiis to the virtue .\nd honor of the youn^; than those who arc in their c rlicr years and possc?iscd of stron^'cr passions. 'I here are multitudes of men to w horn the sexual act is impossible, hut whose ima^Mnations. anacleased Table of Cooteots PART r. Ood'i puiTX)^ in cndowinK plantn. animali and man with rcprcKluctive power— I he a(>y oyster— The two na- tures separated in the fishes— The eg^s and the baby fishe»— 'How seeds are made to grow and how eggs are hatched— The beautifid lives of parent bircrr— The urd's nest, the eggs and the baby birds— Why the eggs of animals may not be exposed in a nest— The nest which God has prepared for them— The hatching of the egg or the birth of the animal— The creation <>? Adam »nd Kve— God created man with power s'milar to his creativv power— The purity of parentage. PART II The manner In which the reproductive organs are in- jured in boj-1 by abuse — Comparativeanatomy, or points of resemblance between bodies of bi'ds, auimuls and man— Man the only animal with a perfect hand— With the hand he constructs, builds and blesses— With the hand he smites, slays and injures others, and degrades himself. PART III The consequences In boys of the abuse of the repro- uctive organs— Need of proper information— The moral effects first to manifei-. themselves— How secret sin af- fects the character of boys— Hffects upon the body and the nerves— Effects upon the brain and mlud— The pbyaicpl effects that follow. PARTS rv and V How boys mav preserve their bodies in purity and strength — Our duty to aid others to avoid pernicious habits, and to retain or regain their purity and strength. PARTS VI and VII How purity and strength may be measurably re- gained—The age of adolescence or puberty and Us Wi fen da n t changes — its significance and its dangers, PWce, {^\'^} net, post free n What a Young Boy Ought to Know" For Boys under Sixteen Years of Age WHAT EMINENT PEOPLE SAY Theodore L. Cuyler, D.D. "•Wh«t a Younfc Hoy OiiRht to Know' ought to be in every home where there is a boy." Lady Henry Somerset *• Calcnilated to do nn immense amount of good. I •Incercly hope it may 5nd its way lu many homes." Joseph Cook, D. D., LL. D. "It is everywhere lUKjrestive, inspiring and strateRic in a deg^ree, as I think, not hitherto matched in litera- ture of its class." Charles L. Thompson, D.D. " 'tVhy was not this book written centuries ago ? *' Anthony Comstock ** It lifts the mind and thoughts upon a high and lofty plane upon delicate subjects." Edward TT. Bok "It has appealed to me in way which no other book of its kind has." Bishop John H. Vincent, D.D., LL. D. "You have handled with great delicacy and wisdom an exceedingly difficult subject." John Willis Baer " I feel confident that it can do great good, and I mean that my boys shall have the contents placed before them." Mrs. Mary A. Livermore, LL. D. "Full of physiological truths, which all children ought to know, at a proper age ; will be read by boys without awakening a prurient thought." Josiah Strong, D.D. " A foolish and culpable silence on the part of most parents leaves their children to learn, too often from vicious companions, sacred truth in an unhallowed way." h ' ft li i '*What a Young: Husband Ought to Know." BY SYLVANUS STALL, D. D. CMdeoMd Table of Contenti I'AKT I WHAT HE OroiIT TO KNOW COI*CE»NINO HIMSELF The true foundalion for hnpplneM in marrrd lifi^ cT^^n'^e^' rr "^T.^l'l -r^e--'^' to the othe^rnd complete only whc„~„;aecd::iTWe"VhV;VVhVoriT;^^^^^^^ coition- the correct theory-The phy.icnl cof? of creat on— tlliistrni^l i„ i.,.L-.. _..i*: X '^"' .'^°" °' ioR upon wirc-Upon children-Purity and fidelity PART II WHAT HE ODGHT TO KNOW CONCER^ IWO HIS WIF» I THE 1IUII>K «.J^H,"V''^^*.*'t"°u '^'"« vent in a woman's life^ F?w in. lV*"*^'= ''*''^'?- "'"*' P'"""? hu.band, makel Hnr.iV^ir'''^*""/ J^"*--'''*"' or thefr brides-VhreefoW clasaificaUou of women— Causes of differences. "* II TlIK WIKB r ,11 ^^''''i^''^. 'J"''^r' "? ^'^*' "Other and housekeeper — (.od has fitted her for her sphere— The mother-natOre -Uarrenncssand sterility-Physical social intHli^tufll and moral benefits of iiiothe^rho^ a^d VatherSd- Aversion and evasion-Gods purpose in raarr^aR^U'^ itat.on of offspnng-Marital excess-The wroiT^r^^hich b^.nd'J^K.'.Lr^"''* of ignorant and unthrnkinrhui bands- Kcpcllant periods in the life of woman. in THE MOTHER Purposed and prepared parenthood— Conceotion—Th*. marvels of fcjctaflifeand growth-^hanfi •» .?i.rin7T!!! months of gestation-The^'husband-s d i?y to w f.? and offspnng-What the wife has a right to exoeTt^efor^ svmi"th:!.rT^r'"T"'^',«"°^^"t ""tfi^nki^g LnS S^^^^ symiwthetic busbands-The child in the home— Reel life and gennine happiness-The mother while^rshfJ -Protection of chilclVrom impure nurses """^suig PART III WHAT HE OUGHT TO KNOW CONCERNING HIS CHILDREW «^"f'^''>7^''^''«tal influences- Physical conditions L^d ^fl^nrfn ^"°'^'PV°°-^^"-P«'^"'t"^^Essenrik Is of seed, soil and care— "Longings," markings etr r^r, sex Of Offspring be Rovernedicause of °5i^f^-^,^d° ness. etc.-Vhe right to be well-born-R-rental^iscinHM during first two year^Duties during childhwKJur! sery influences-Honest, answers to Lnest i^irie^ How to secure punt y in though t and life of cSrl^ P"" {^If } -et, per copy 'What a Young Husband Ought to Know'' WHAT EMINENT PEOPLE SAY Chat. M. Sb€\doa, D. D. "I b^HcTc the book will do iTTt" Kood and I hon^ li. R-v. F. B. Meyer, B. A. -Hi.''^'"*?"^/.''"""*"'* ^f"'* ««'^e» of tnanualii which »ri> P-Mirn •• "' pandering to unholy and ieDBu.! Hon. S. M. Jones h-.'ve'b«n"l^J°»"^'*"'' my study of It Indicates that you of the mnJhlil^J^ ? P"Z*^ ^":'' for vour kind to write one mVpriv"JSe^'•cl^i:;^rl^„'^••3.Ts." '''"^ '' '"^" Bishop John H. Vincenf, D. D., LL, D. AwDvLi.ah?';'''"''^' ^.'r*"*' ^*'"^- '^''^^ »"d convincing A copy ought to go with every marriage certificate " Rev. Newell Dwlght Hlllia diffio,!u\rKi°'^'*""5 '?"*' helpful contribution to a most difficult subject, and Us reading will help to make tliV American home happier and more safely ^ardJ^' Rev. A. C. Dixon, D. D. and ofd'* ^rh^'lJ.v '"/^9'nra^nding it to husbands, young fmt.Aant subwf,*'h'^"2''""" o" these delicate bu! iiujjuriant stiDjects has done much tn innr.xic. ♦»,« business of divorce cjurts and w"eck ho^es " ^ Amos R. Wells so'Jff^n hn^Z'f ^'^ '"fi^i'^'y stronger in body and Us pre^pti- ' ° •"" '^'^ ^^^ ^"'l f°"o'^ in ''What a Man of Forty-fivc CXight to Know/' BY SYLVANUS STALL. D. D. CoadcQMJ T«bk of Cootcrii TART I WHAT IIR OUGHT To KNOW CONCKRNIN HlMSHi.I' turn of i....ll.*»hich follow iiicnrxuai niisn — l'hvit(ca> and mental rttrft. ci,... at their best after m-xu«I hu.h-To them lime and r. ^lihZln°^?^'^^l' "*^"» tr«..ure;^MXr.'ron?n Mviiu *2 *njoi,.„,_s«.,„., mo.leration rnnhasiifH- H J f^Jj*^/^'^^"^^' ''"'^ Pr"erve,l-Hff,!^U of «er clutfo^a^T^Ulr'f '"'"^ .SrJeT.^S«J:.dTfi;^?^K^LTro?;{!'''!^ -hTfT, '' >"" beyond- The man at Tur^y determinV: reVp':;;inT.Vd^^;ffir-ri«„!57.-«'- «^ i^^i^^ PART II WHAT HE OUGHT TO KNOW COHCKRNINO HIS WIFE tract Reproduction he primal purpose of marriaee-At active and repellent periods in life of woma^-^l^a; tcricorchanKeof life the most repJl^TpcrlS'lTi^ ^f,S"*Th"/t.S^ menstruation only an'^utwaX^a^iT.^u^ tion-The phenomenon explained--Rrason8 for chnn^,r made plain-Not a peri xl of stress for all women-H.fw to meet he menopause-Occupntion. diet fresh aTr^T Vri^*'',f'''*r''. ':""'I»aincnship, kexual repose etc eJc ' unUs'^hrch Lu^nd r,^'"'"" '" "*"""« "^"-The a h^i .al1,at"u^ri^GrT;l';:S°' '!'? 'V ^omTu-^r^T&'l^l: others. ^°'''^^«'^°ce upon the part of husband ani Pri ce $1.00 \ 4 5. J net, post free I IR 1 44 What a Man of Forty-five Ought to r .now ft PRAISED BY THE PRESS •• W* ,lo not he.lt.ie to r^omiAtnA ■-/•:, p,„mrf. .£^jr-?^^^K'^-:t^-i;^.:;«r^rr Oa.'TulTa/r °' """ ''"»«^«— ■ -/V/..«.^A CAM.. c ;.»/:ir.^jL'::. ^'--^ ^-nk .„., r^nc. ii/za-. StandatJ. way."— . -A.T^r//;?;}/;.'^''^'"^' '^ b^circutd by the million.' of "l':!:!!'/;^^;: -;„7^^o »>«. .n ..^rat. knowledge mraiis to rrf?ilh L^ f ' '"' ""«'" *" wrl-ome it <9 a of' the7^Ti7p °ct\7h^H^' ^^^*y-^^' («"<« »»'"'«re • ..ny it is^ifficu.t tol.r^^'. ,\';- T^\^,""' ^- -'^'. but sonujR with and plain talk I L - rS'^ v . ,^^ J""?' a healthy clevB(iLr\,V*^ .;.,'""' ^ ^k dot-s it n h "'What A Young Girl Ought to Know.** CY MRS. MARY WOOD-ALLEN, VL D, Coedtnud TibU of Gmkola I'ART I Th« origin of tlfc— <^n« plan !■ ell forrna of life — Ham pUnta gro-w from the •♦ed— Thry fee««• •nd iiuccta in fertilisation. PART If PLihea and their young— The parent fiahaj and th« baby fiahr*— T.:' aeeda of pUnta and egga of fiahea, blrdaand anlmala — How fiahea neve r know their tiaby offipriog— 4Varm Mocded animal*— ' taaooa from birda —Their neata, egga and little onea. PA^T III A aimala and their young— The place which God haa prr pared for their young— Beginning their independent life— Human babiea the moat hrlpleaa ard dependent of all oreaturet- The relations of parent and child— Th« child a part of each parent— Heredity and ita leaaona. PART IV Th* value of good health— The care of the body— Tb« body a temple to be kept holy — Girla ahould receiva their inati-uctlon from thei' mothera— The body the garment which the aoul weara — Effects of thought* Bfxm life and character— Value of good companions, good books and good Influencea— What It is to bccom* « woman. PHm {»i-J"} net* pef copy 'What a Young Girl Ought to Know" WHAT CMINCNT PCOPLK SAY FriQcl* E, WjIUfcI, LL. 1 -trUtly ^Hrntific tnU „ot forgriel.iK • .trong rthU-.l iTr"'; ".'y '"' "'"'''" •"•' "*''"y "•<> ^y «>'«■• d'T girl. I., ihnr tcent.r Uhr young women iu their home.." Mr*. ElUabeth B. Grtaah ••The,.* f.ct. ought to be Judlclou.ly b.ought to th« Intelligence or every chil.l whenever it a.k. ^ue.tion* concerning It. own origin." Mn, Harriet Lincoln CooUdgt "It «• I '«ok that mother. .„<| d.ughter. ought to own." • " Mfi. Katharine L. Stevenaon The book i. .trorg, dire t ,,ure. .. healthy a. , breeie from the mounUln-toi< • Mn. lubclla MacDonaW AUen, **Paiay^ "It U ju.t the book needed to le v-h whaf mo«t t)«ooI. do not know how to teach, being ^Hentific. .implVand plain-apoken, yet delicate." Mia Grace H. Dodge "I know of no one who writes or speaka on theae great •ubjecta with more womanly touch than Mra. Wood- Allen, nor with deeper reverence. When I listen to her I feel that .he has been inspired by a Higher Power." Ira D. Sankey "STcry mother In tht laud tha. las: -^aughtrr should secure for her a copy of "Whnt a Yo,ing Girl Ought to Saow." It will save the world untold sorrow " H ';! •What a Young Woman Ought to Know/' BY MRS. MARY WOOD-ALLEN, M. D. Coadetaed Table of Conteots PAKT I CHILDHOOD AND GROWTH Woman's worth — Importance of care of the body- How to obUiin health— Waste and rt-pair— Q\iestion9 of food— Importance of rest in sleep— Tho office ami im- portance of correct breathing— Injuries from tight clothing— Physical culture— Kxcrcise and recreation— The value of the bath. PART II . ■WOMANnOOD The endo't^ment of new powers— The conferring of life — Brai i building and cliaractcr formation— Soul and self— Special physiology— Woman's special bodily en- dowments—The crisis in the girl's life— Ovulation and menstruation— Th ir significance — Causes and cures of disturbed physical conditions — Painful periods and dis- placements— Special care of 1 eaith at special times- - Many healthful suggestions suited to the physical needs of young .vomen— Secret vice and its consequences— The relation of pure young women to young men— Friend- (liipd. PART in What is love— Should include mental conjugality, spiritual sympathy and physical attraction— Responsi- bility in marriage— Antecedents, talents and habits of youns man— The law of heredity— Beneficial— Eflects of ^■imulant.supon ofTspring — Inherited effects of immor- ality—Good characteristics also transmitted— Requisites in a husband— Engagements— Benefits of, evils of— Holding to the highest ideals— Weddings— Gifts, tours and realities of life. Price { ^4 *s^ I °^*' P*' *^°P^' P°^* '*** *'What a Young Woman Ought to Know" WHAT EMINENT PEOPLE SAY Lady Henry Somenct " An extremely valuable book, and I wi«h that it may be widely circulated." Mrs. Laura Onniston Chant " The book ought to be in the hands of every Rirl on her fifteenth birthday, as a safe guide and teacher along the difficult path of womanhood." Margaret Warner Morley "There is an awful need for the book, and it does what it has undertaken to do better than anything of the kind I ever read." Mn. May Vright Sewall " I am profoundly grateful that a subject of such in- formation to young wpman should be treated in a man- ner at once so noble and so delicate." EUzabeth Cady SUnton *'," *" « 8™^e mistake for parents to try to keep their children ignorant of the very Questions on which they should have scientific information." LUIUn M. N. Stcvena "There is a great need of carefully, delicately written books upon the subjects treated in this series. I am gratefully glad that the author has succeeded so well and J trust great and enduring good will be the result."' Mrs. Matilda B. Can* ' It is pure and instructive on the delicate subjects that mean s* much to our daughters, to their future as nomekeepers, wives and mothers, and to the future een- erations," " k 3 "What a Young Wife Ou^ht t o Know/^ BY MRS. EMN5A F. A. DRAKE, M. D. Condensed Table of G)ntents HUSBAND ANO HOME The choice cf a husl>aiid— One worthy of both love and respect — Real characteristics neccssarj' — Purity vs. "wild oats " — What shall a youiift wife expect to be to her hus- band? — His equal, but not his counterpart— His helpmeet Wifehood and motherhood— Should keep pace with his mental ((growth — Trousseau and weddinff presents — The foolnh .''nd ruinous display af weddings — Wedding pres^ ents and unhapp'ness — \V*ise choice of furniture — The best adornments for the home. THB MARITAL RELATIONS The marital state shot" Id be the most holy of sanctua- ries — Its influence upon character — Movlest'y- Reproduc- tion the primal purpose — I,'I^-°/-"n'^ ?»."*'?*' .y*'!' my unqualified e-ndorMment of I^wish every young and perplexed wife might read lis Mrs. Booker T. Washington nnH !P**?^.y";»tcrday and Ust night reading yourbor.k I^La to'"*' '° ^'^y '•'^' ^ consiiTer thU Ix^k » useful friend to every ycning woman." »'^i»i Charles H. Parkhurst, D. D. u7ii^"?**'"^*L*?"'?.'^"«" *° « manner a«. firm as it «u^Vv*'nf''vr'* ^'?."'fi" *^" what is comn:orby the rhicnit1sS«t'^"/J"'°' "°^ '^°*'"'^y °' intent ^wiih Marietta HoUy ( Jodah AOen's de) "It is an excellent book; if every youup- /e of to-dav would read it and lay its lessons to Jeart >^ould make dalght^tsj"^ " *'""*'■ '''"^ J"»PPi->- -or aU of EveY V. G. Sperry, M. D. "Young wives, for whom this book is intended will receive great benefits from heeding its wise worui. It is good forincitement, guidance, restraint." Mrs. Joseph Cook nf"i«it^J,*l°'°?*f-'**'u"°'y?L"°''" ''^ the most sacred Of earthly relaUonships with the white liJht of truth Julia Holmes Smith, M. D. S*^f "t"",! ^'■- ^^^^'s ^^ " part of your daughters outfit. I have never read anything which so ihoroughlv met the use it was designed for as this volume. J. P. Sutherland, M. D. "A subject difficult to treat has been handled by Dr. Drake with delicacy, earnestuess and straightforward- ness. It is a practical book destined to do good » 'f < "What a Woman of Forty-five Ought to Know." BY MRS. EMMA F. A, DRAKE, M. D. Condemed Table of G>ntenti KWOWLKDOK OF CLIMACTEUIC NKCBSAAftT Why women are not prepared to meet the climacteric —The fear that unnerve* many— Error of views concern- ing 'Change of Life "—Correct teaching sUted— In- fluence of medical literature— Three periods in a n,°'"t'J.'* >"^— Relation of early habits to later aches and ills— The menopauye— Conditions which influence th" period of the climacteric— The age at which it usually appears— Effects of heredity— Childless women- Moth- ers or large familica— Effect* of different occupationa— Excesses. HERALDS OF CHANGE— DISBAaES AlTD REMEDIEa MenUl sUtes during menopause— Change in blood currents— Flushes, chilliness, dizziness, etc.— Nervous symptoms— Disturbed mental and nervous equilibriums —Nature as woman's helper— Troublesome ailment*- Mental troubles considered— Suggested hclp-Can-er- Benefits named— Apprehensions dispelled— How to ban- ish worry— Simplifying daily duty— An eminent physi- cian s prescription- A word to single women— Reluctance of unmarried women to meet the menopause— How to prolortr one's ^outh-Dress during thiV period-The 2.i?Il ^l Se«T--vJuarding against becoming gloomy —Effects of patent medicine advertising— Drug fiends- Lustful indulgence. * "cuu*— WHAT BOTH HTJSBANn AND WIFE SHOtTLD REVBUBEK Slights and inattentions keenly felt by her- Need of patience— \ word of private counsel— Value of little attentions-Wife's duty to her husband— Holding hus- liand 8 affecUons— Making home attractive— Un^lfisb ness. AUTO-SUOOESTION AND OTHER SUOOBSTIONS Influence of mind over body— The mind as a curative agent— How to rise out of depression— Mental philosophv and phvMcal betterment— Relation of health to sieht— Care of the teeth— The hair— Constipation— Self cure- Choice of ffxxis— Exercise— Physical development— Ex- ercise of mind and soul. h»"'^ui »* Price, {^4^-^} net, post free. ii "Wlwt a Woman o^ Forty-Five Ought to Know" PRAESEO BY THE PRES9 "Will dispell apprehensions aroused l)v g^roundless lorebodlnKS."— ^^0nM«(/ Church Messenger. "If the hygienic advice in this book is followed it will lengthen the lives of women and make Iheir closing yearH the happiest and most useful of till."— Herald and Presbyter. "In no line vt I'.terature, perhaps, is such a book so much needed."- A^rtv Haven Leader. "Those "vho peruse the book only from prurient curiosity will be disappointed."— C/«i/«/ans fourteen till he is twciity-cight.' BWlop J. H. Vincent, LL.D., Chancellor of Chautauqua University -JI^^**"^ minister who deals with younir men and everv younK man who cares to avoid evil and love, righteousness should read the book." Frances E. Vlllard, President National W. C T. U. ♦JL^* ^'^"^^ parents to send for a copy of this book to give as a present to their sons." T. J. SancLrv A^'., Ph.D., President Otterfaeia Unl»rersity, Ohio .t;m''uSranS'sugTeluv?.^''^P'"^ '° ^^^^ "«»- P'*^{^4f}'^-Pe'Cop7 OTHER BOOKS — nv — SYVA NUS STALL , D. D. Five-Minute Object Sermons to Children " r.ir t)ctlrr tliaTi Nrwton'^. the nnccdotrnniul Riihjwti nf wliK li hiivr loinf RJiiir bcionic cominon proprrty. Many of th»- Mitijtcls arc very frc»h aud telling." — New York )'.vniiK'"''' to ai roii; ,)lisli an vthing for the kniKdnni of Chii^t." — New York Christian Intelligencer. Cloth, ,^t>4 pp. I'liie Ji.',o, post free. Bible Selections for Daily Devotioi:. Thf^ most spiritual and helpful portion of tt'o entire ISiblt.' iirraiiKnl in the order ot the original text. Com- prises atioiil onethiKl of the whole Hilile. 'That there has heen a firviil falliiit; ofT in the rockI old custom of daily family worship, tin re can he no