Facts of Life Digitized by the Internet Archive in 2016 https://archive.org/details/teachingfactsoflOObaie TEACHING THE FACTS OF LIFE by Rev. Paul M. Baier Tst Printing 15th Thousand 1959 DIVINE WORD PUBLICATIONS Techny, Illinois Spec '^-c\pa\r~\ FOREWORD There are five general 'norms’ for sex edu- cation. It must ( 1 ) be private, ( 2 ) be grad- ual, (3) be repeated, (4) be continued throughout the period of growth, and (5) meet and slightly anticipate the needs of the individual. Parents should and can observe these 'norms’ very closely, and easily, by the method outlined in this booklet for teaching their children the facts of life. Experienced pastors and priests urge Cath- olic parents to 'bestir themselves’ in this re- gard of teaching the facts of life. Use this aid-word quiz to teach your chil- dren. It can be simply and beautifully ap- proached by this method. (Cover photo by Underwood and Underwood, Chicago, Illinois) 8 Teaching the Facts of Life You know how easy it is for children to ask questions. A first grader can often amaze you with deep truths or insights and quaint expressions of them. It is just as simple and easy for YOU to ask questions . . . and teach your children while you are doing so. A few lists of words can show you how to start. Words are magic. Written words convey ideas and truths to a child. Spoken words are, however, — with or without illustra- tions— the usual means of conveying truths or facts or insights. Children learn many things through the sense of sight in the eye, but meanings, explanations and understand- ings come also through the sense of hearing in the use of words. Experience combines both sources of information in many ways. RELIGION Parents can, for instance, teach religion by means of questions. Give a fourth grader a list of words on the Life of Christ. Ask the child how many words or terms are known. Take your time. Be patient. Listen. Coach a little. Hint here and there . . . and enjoy the eager efforts at communication and ex- pression. (The method and art one learns in asking one list of words will be helpful afterward in other similar 'quizzing” situa- tions. ) 5 Agony in Garden, Annunciation, An- drew, Apostles, Ascension, Assumption, Bap- tism of Jesus, Barabbas, Beatitudes, Bethle- hem, Calvary, Cana, Capharnaum, Carpenter, Carrying of Cross, Centurion, Circumcision, Cleansing of Temple, Coronation (of Mary), Crowning (with thorns), Crucifi- xion, Daughter of Jairus, Dead Sea, Descent of Holy Spirit, Devil, Disciples, Dismas, Draught of Fishes, Elizabeth, Evangelists, Feast of Passover, Finding in Temple, First Holy Communion, First Mass, Flight (to Egypt). Gabriel, Galilee, Golden Rule, Good Samaritan, Gospels, Healing the sick, Herod, Holy Family, Holy Innocents, Holy Land, Holy Week, James, Jericho, Jerusalem, Jesus Christ; John the Baptist, John the Beloved Disciple, Jordan, Joseph, Judas Is- cariot, Judea, Lake Genesareth, Last Sup- per, Lazarus, Longinus, Lord’s Prayer, Magi, Magnificat, Mary (Blessed Virgin), Mary Magdalen, Matthew, Messias, Miracle, Moses, Multiplication of loaves and fishes, Nativity, Nazareth. Palm Sunday, Passion, Pentecost, Peter, Peter’s denial, Pontius Pilate, Presentation, Prodigal Son, Redeemer, Redemption, Resur- rection, Sabbath, Salvation, Samaria, Savior, Scourging, Sepulcher, Seven Last Words, Seven Sorrows (of Mary), Simeon, Simon the Cyrenean, Stations of the Cross, Storm on Lake, Temple, Thomas the Doubter, 6 Upper Room, Veronica, Way of the Cross, Wise Men, Zaccheus, Zachary. Those are the bread-and-butter words of teaching many truths in the Life of Christ and also, it must be remembered, of learn- ing them. Vocabulary is as important to the child-learner as it is to the adult-teacher. Words are the bearers of ideas and truths between parent and child . . . and it must be a two-way street between them. Parenthood means having a child in mar- riage; fatherhood and motherhood mean more than that. Fathers and mothers have the happy (at least, it should be happy) task of introducing their sons and daughters to the wide, wide, wonderful world into which they come as strangers from the hand of God. Strangers need a guide: a guiding hand, a guiding word, a guiding light. God’s world is in them and all around them. Bles- sed are the children whose fathers and mothers act always as guardian angels to "'light and guard, to rule and guide”— in the world of grace and also wisely in the fascinating and law-regulated world of na- ture around them. GENERAL SCIENCE Scientific truths and realities make up a vast fund of human knowledge. These reali- ties and facts of the world of science sur- round us on every side. They touch our lives and the lives of children most intimately. Air (oxygen and nitrogen), Altimeter, 7 Anemia, Antibiotics, Astronomer, Astron- omy, Atmosphere, Atom (protons, neutrons, electrons), Atom-splitting, Balanced diet, Binoculars, Birds, Body of man, Botany, Calorie needs, Cells of Body, Chemical ele- ments, Climate, Clouds, Colors, Comet, Con- stellation, Contact lenses, Diesel engine, Drugs, Dynamo, Earth as planet, Earth’s rotation and revolution, Electricity, Electri- city’s uses, Electromagnet, Energy, Evapora- tion, Eye. Field glasses, Fish, Fluorescent light, For- ests, Fossils, Geology, Germs, Geyser, Gla- cier, Glands (of body) Gravitation, Health, Heat, Heredity, Hormones, Human physi- ology, Hydraulic brakes, Hygiene, Infra red rays, Jet propulsion, Kinescope, Light, Light year and speed of light, Magnet, Matter (solid, liquid, gas), Matter: change, Matter: organic and inorganic, Metal, Meteor, Me- teorologist, Microbes, Microscope, Milky Way, Molecule, Morse Code, Music (and/or noise), Nitrogen in air, Ocean, Organism, Organs (of body), Osmosis, Oxygen in air. Penicillin, Photoelectric cell, Photosyn- thesis, Planets; orbits, Precipitation, Proto- plasm, Radar, Radio, Rainbow, Reptiles, Rocket engines, Rocks, Sanforizing, Satel- lites, Science, Scientific facts, Soil, Sonar, Sound, Sound track (movies), Sun: dis- tance, Star, Stereoscope, Stratosphere, Syn- thetics, Telegraph, Telephone, Telescope, Temperature, Thermostat, Tissues (of body), 8 Ultra-violet rays, Universe, Vaccination, Virus, Vitamin, Weather. The school of experience has made it clear to us that there is no royal road to learning and comprehending these facts. Youngsters and oldsters can (and do) take many of them for granted and pay little or no atten- tion to them. These wonders of the world of science, however, can bring a man of faith closer to his God. Many indeed have studied the God-given realities and God- regulated truths of nature in such a way as to follow the clear path of them up to the source of truth, God Himself. God gave us a mind. He wants us to know the world around us; through it, He wants us to know Him. In what is a child interested? What is a child’s capability in knowing? What is the capacity of a youngster for learning, if he or she is guided by an interested and interest- ing teacher? Parents know that these ques- tions are difficult to answer. The mind of a child is eager, quick, penetrating and reten- tive. Interest and attention may be short in childhood, but they are phenomenally keen and real. SECRET OF SUCCESS The point we wish to make, however, does not lie actually in the facts themselves or even in the knowledge of them. The vital point is in an individual’s personal interest. One person already knows at least some of 9 the facts and wishes to impart them; the other person must still learn the information. Whose personal interest is vitally necessary? Tell a child to get interested in the Life of Christ or in the truths of General Science. Tell the youngster that personal interest in such vital subjects will bring rich rewards. What happens? Nothing. Or only very little. Try it once and see for yourself. Show a child, on the other hand, that you are interested in the youngster’s knowledge of the Life of Christ or knowledge of Gen- eral Science. Those three words "You are interested” shed an all-transforming light on the problem. It is a fact of experience. When parents want a child "to be interested in something,” they sometimes hope to attain this goal with- out "becoming personally interested” in it themselves. Such a hope is very often an empty one. Such an approach is almost a complete waste of time. A child observes when "you are inter- ested.” Actions speak louder than words. Your words are noticed; your actions are treasured. Genuine personal interest is the "action,” and the message received joyfully in the heart of the child is the most precious of all truths, "You love me.” "You are interested . . . you love me.” No satisfactory substitute for real personal inter- est has ever been found. 10 THE "FACTS OF LIFE" The facts of life are true. There are many methods of teaching these truths. Any method that is involved, unusual, startling or in any way really embarrassing will not be widely accepted. The speaker and the hearer both have human sensibilities. A mind that is chaste and pure and a soul that is natur- ally Christian both have an innate sense of the fitness of reality, and that common sense of the fitness of things is needed above all else in this particular problem. The truth ... in a certain way ... at a certain age . . . from a certain person : that is what the children want and have a right to expect from the parents. The goal of knowledge in this respect is reached step by step at various levels of age and intelligence. Parents are the judges, and they are also the teachers. One must re- member that, when the interest of a child is ignored or curiosity is repressed, the chil- dren simply learn from other sources what they want to know. This writer has explored many of the possibilities of the following list of words and has tested it quite thoroughly. Some readers of this article may be ultra-careful or ultra-conservative. Are there not some who would as a precaution omit Circumci- sion from the word-list of the Life of Christ? Some who would omit Organs of body from the General Science list? Yes, even some who would, if they could, omit the word 11 Womb from the "Hail Mary" or the word Adultery from the Ten Commandments be- cause of a certain inelegance in these words? Pre-judging of this kind is very near to prejudice (notice the words themselves!), and these overly careful individuals need a prayerful meditation on the oft-quoted words of Chesterton: "Christianity has not been tried and found wanting, it has not been tried ” ( italics added ) . Parents can teach the truth to their chil- dren ... a little at a time. Once a begin- ning is made, it is quite simple and easy to continue. If, however, parents teach a half- truth or a whole untruth to their children, the deception will make it difficult to clear up the real truth at any time later. An oft-repeated verse has more than a kernel of truth in it in this regard: "Oh, what a tangled web we weave, When first we practice to deceive!" Wisdom lies in truth . . . the real truth . . . part by part . . . a little at a time. PARTS OF THE HUMAN BODY Abdomen, Adam’s apple, Adenoids, Ali- mentary canal, Ankle, AORTA, Appendix, Arch, Arm, Arteries, Auditory canal, au- ricle, Back, Backbone, bacteria, Beard, Belly, Belly button, Biceps, Bile, Birth canal from womb, Bladder, Bladder opening, Blood, Blood vessel, Body, Body (solid and fluid), Bone, Bowels, Bowel movement (bm), Bowel opening, Brain, Breast (chest), 12 Breast (nursing), Breastbone, Bridge, bron- chi, Brow, Buttock (butt), Calf, Capil- laries, Cell (many kinds in body), Cheek, Chest, Chin, Circulation: circulatory system, clitoris, cocyx, Collar bone, colon, cor- nea, Corpuscles (red-white), Crazy bone, Cuticle. Diaphragm, Digestive system, Drum, El- bow, Esophagus, EUSTACHIAN tube, Eye, Father cell, Finger, Foot, Forearm, Forefin- ger, Forehead, Foreskin, Gall, Glands, GLOT- TIS (eppiglottis), Groin, Gullet, Gum, Guts, Hair, Hands, Haunches, Head, Heart, Heel, Hips, Hymen, Intestines, Iris, Jaw, Jugular vein, Kidneys, Knee, Kneecap, Knuckle, larynx, Lashes, Leg, Lens, Lid, Ligament, Limbs, Lips, Liver, Lobe, Lungs, MASTOID, Membrane, Midriff, Molar, Moth- er cell, Mustache. Nails, Nose, Nostril, mouth, Muscle, Nape, Navel, Neck, Nerves: nervous system, Nipple, optic nerve, Organs, Ovaries, Ovum (mother cell), Palate, Palm, pan- creas, Pelvis, Penis, pharynx, pituitary gland, plasma, Pores, Private parts, pro- toplasm, PULMONARY ARTERIES (& VEINS), Pulse, Pupil, pylorus, Rectum, Respira- tion: respiratory system, retina, Ribs, Rump. Saliva, Scalp, scrotum, scruff, Senses: sense organs, Sex: male and female, Sex or- gans, Shin, Shoulder, Shoulder blade, Side- burn, Sinus, Skeleton, Skin, Skull, SOLAR plexus, Sole, Sperm (father cell), Spinal 13 column, Spinal cord, Spine, spleen, Stom- ach, Stool (body waste matter), Sweat glands, Tail bone, Taste buds, Tooth, Temperature, Temple, Testicles, Thigh, thorax, Throat, Thumb, thyroid gland, Tissue (fleshy & bony), Toe, Tongue, Ton- sil, Trunk, Urine (body waste water), Uter- us, uvula, Vagina, Veins, ventricle, Vertebrae, Vitals, Vocal cords, Voice box, Waist, Windpipe, Wisdom tooth, Womb, Wrist, YELLOW SPOT, ZONULE OF ZINN. It is not expected that either a child or an adult will know all of these words. A few of the words were added, let us say, for the sake of honesty; it means a lot to a child to hear an adult admit honestly: "I myself do not really know what that word means.” Actually, a child of ten knows a high per- centage of the 130 words in Group I (reg- ular type), some of the 40 words in Group II (italics), and even a few of the 30 words in Group III (small caps). Parents in gen- eral do exceptionally well with the list; the earlier School of the Three R’s is a poorer teacher in this than the School of Life. IN PRACTICE The list of words is a valuable quiz by itself, but the lessons learned in the quizzes of the Life of Christ and General Science can be applied here with wisdom and under- standing. If, for instance, a mother finds that a little girl does not know the meaning of Beatitudes or Evangelists, she is 14 content with the question alone. If a father finds that a little boy does not know the meaning of Energy or Microbes, he is satis- fied with the 'mere saying of the words without any explanation of them.” Someone may be wondering what effect the mere asking of a question or the mere saying of a word could or would have. The effect, it is true, is small when a word is un- known and unfamiliar. But then, the par- ent-educator is certainly not looking for the shocking or startling effect that is produced at times by a single instance of profanity or blasphemy (for obvious reasons, no ex- amples will be given in print). Parents, thanks be to God, know that the growth of a child is a long process and the true educa- tion of a child proceeds very, very slowly also. Another problem presented itself in the question of HOW to use the list effectively in ( 1 ) a step by step fashion ( 2 ) on various age levels. An "Addition” was decided upon and devised for the purpose of meeting this need. THE "ADDITION" Fact No. 1: An eight or nine year old knows that a boys body is different than a girls body. This difference is in the private parts or sex organs of each person. The sex organs of the boy are on the outside of his body, and the sex organs of the girl are on the inside of her body. 15 Fact No. 2: A nine or ten year old knows that a boy’s organs of sex are called the penis and the testicles. The girl’s organs of sex are called the womb and the birth canal ( from the womb to the outside of her body ) . We use the word womb in the ''Hail Mary.” The birth canal is also called the vagina. Fact No. 3: A ten or eleven year old knows that a baby grows in the body of the mother. God creates the soul of the baby when the father cell and the mother cell are united in marriage to form the body of the baby. The man and woman in marriage are called husband and wife. The baby grows for nine months in the womb of the mother before it is born. Fact No. 4: An eleven or twelve year old knows that changes take place in the body of the boy when he grows up to be a man and in the body of the girl when she grows up to be a woman. These changes are a sign that the father cells and the mother cells are beginning to grow in the body of each per- son. The time of these changes is called pu- berty or adolescence, and the twelve year old is told about these changes before they be- gin to appear. (Note: It cannot be known with certainty in what way St. Anne imparted this infor- mation on the facts of life to the Blessed Virgin Mary. The Gospel story makes it un- mistakably clear, however, that Our Blessed Lady knew both the full meaning of her vow of virginity and the sublime meaning 16 of motherhood before her betrothal to St. Joseph and before the Angel Gabriel came to her in Nazareth at the time of the Annun- ciation.) YOU ARE THE JUDGE Beating around the bush — hedging and hesitating — is a fatal mistake in this task of teaching the facts of life. If you, as a father or a mother have decided that you wish to tell your fifth grader something ( not everything! ) about the facts of life, you say simply: "'Come here, my child, I want to find out how much you know about this list of words. First, I am going to read a simple and easy fact (Fact No. 1) . . . OK, that’s it. Now you read it to me . . . that’s fine. We’ll come across those ideas as we go along through this list of words. What part of your body is your abdomen? Your Adam’s apple? Your adenoids? Etc, etc, etc.” You may prefer to omit the "Addition” in the beginning. In such a case you simply add the fact or truth as an "extra” at an ap- propriate place in the course of the list of words. The direct and the indirect methods both reach the same goal of clear informa- tion and clear knowledge. You may not know some of the words yourself. It matters not at all. Your child may not know a lot of the words. So what? The point is that you say the words to your fifth grader, and your fifth grader hears the words from you. Maybe in the sixth grade 17 you will add another fact (Fact No. 2); you will say the words again, and the sixth grader will hear the words again. When you think your child is ready for more informa- tion, you will add other facts (No. 3, No. 4, or your own Fact No. 5 ). You will not only say the words, but you will begin to ask the child to say certain words after you, read some of them and perhaps spell a few of them. A fund of knowledge is built in this way, and a clear and accurate vocabulary is built along with it for the child. You are the judge. A writer cannot pre- sume to tell you when your son or daughter is ready to hear certain facts or truths. The list of words is suggested humbly as a useful aid, and the "additions” are presented as one simple way of doing the task step by step on various levels. Your children will someday be ready for the knowledge you can give them. Words are necessary; know-how is invaluable. The day for you to help your children in this regard may be close. You want to be pre- pared to help them easily and simply when they need your help. You are the judge; you are also the teacher. IT'S WORTH TRYING You need a vocabulary. You can build it quickly for yourself from the list of words. The child needs a usable vocabulary also, but it cannot be built quickly. You actually acquired your vocabulary step by step. Give 18 your child a break; help him to acquire his or her vocabulary in the same gradual way. You need an idea on how to begin: Know-how. The list of words is a quiz for a youngster, and the "additions” are a sample of certain facts that can be added one by one (as you decide they are needed). It seems best to present each fact or truth in conjunction with the list; this procedure serves the very useful purpose of keeping each single fact clear as one small part or section of a growing and extensive fund of knowledge. When a start has been made, other occasions and opportunities will pre- sent themselves. There are many ways of teaching the facts of life. All of the ideas in the world, however, will be quite useless without two vital factors: your own generously given TIME and your own truly sincere PERSON- AL INTEREST. Parents can teach the facts of life, if they teach them step by step on various levels. Truth is the secret of success. The whole truth and nothing but the truth . . . but only a little at a time . . . when a child is ready for it. 19 . . Ablution cloth — ablution cup . . Acolyte . .Advent wreath . .Aisle . .Alb . .Altar boy . . Altar cards . . Altar chimes . . Altar — a. cloth & a. cover . . Altar sepulcher . . Am- bry . .Amice . .Antependium (frontal) . .Apse . .Assistant . .Balcony . .Banner . .Baptismal font . .Baptismal shell . .Bap- tistry . . Benedictus . .Benediction . .Bible . .Biretta . .Bishop’s candle (bugia) . .Boat . .Bobache . .Brazier . .Breviary . .Burse . .Candelabra . .Candle . .Candlesticks . .Candle tube . .Canopy . .Cape (altar boy ) . . Cappa magna . . Cassock . . Cata- falque—c. candlesticks . .Catechism . .Cen- ser— c. stand . . Chalice— c. veil . . Chapel cap (veil) . .Charcoal — c. tongs . .Chas- uble . .Chimes . .Choir . .Chrism . .Church bell . .Church Year . .Ciborium — c. veil . .Cincture — c. tassel . .Clapper . .Code of Canon Law . .Collar . .Collection bas- ket . . Communion paten . . Confessional — c. screen . .Confessional counter . .Cope — c. clasp . .Corporal . .Creche . .Credence table . . Crib — c. set . . Crozier . . Crucifix . .Crucifixion group . .Cruciform church . .Cruet . .Curate . .Dalmatic . .Deacon . .Dossal (of altar) . .Eton collars . .Ewer . . Extinguisher . . Faldstool . . Filigree cruci- fix ..Finger towel (lavabo) ..Flag — 20 American f. and papal f . .Flame protector . . Flint . . Following of Christ . . Gothic vestments . .Gradine (of altar) . .Gremiai . .Holy Picture . .Holy Sepulcher . .Holy water . . h.w. font, h.w. pot, h.w. sprinkler . .Holy Week . .Host box . .Humeral veil . . Imitation of Christ . . Incense . . Infant of Prague . .Key of Heaven . .Kneeler . .Lec- tern . .Lectionary (book) . .Lent . .Lighter ..Luna — 1. case ..Lunette ..Madonna . .Magnificat . .Maniple . .Mantilla . .Mass — Low M., High M., Solemn High M. . .Mass card . .Medal . .Medallion . .Men- sa (of altar) . .Mercy cross . .Missal — m. marker & m. stand . .Miter . .Mon- strance . .Mourning card . .Nativity group . .Nave . .Novena . .Octave . .Oil of the catechumens . .Oil of the sick . .Oil stock . .Ombrellino . .Ordo . .Orphrey . . Osten- sorium . .Pall . .Pallium . .Pardon cruci- fix . .Paschal candle — p.c. candlestick . . Pastor . . Paten . . Pax-brede . . Pectoral cross . .Pedestal . .Pews . .Pieta . .Pontifi- cal ( book ) . . Poor box . . Prayerbook . . Pre- della . .Prie Dieu . .Processional Cross . .Processional lantern . .Pulpit . . Purifica- tor . .Pyx . .Rabbi (rabat) . .Raccolta . .Relics . .Reliquary . .Repository . . Rere- dos . .Resurrection (statue) . .Retable (of 21 altar) . .Ritual . .Rochet . .Roman vest ments . . Rosary — r. case & r. indulgences . . Rose window . . Rubrics . . Sacrarium . .Sacristy — s. bell . .Sanctuary . .Sanctu- ary bench . .Sanctuary lamp . .Sanctuary veil — s.v. stand . . Sanctus bell . . Sash ( altar boy ) . . Scapular . . Shrine . . Sick call set . . Sprinkler . . Stations of the Cross . . Statue . . Stipend . . Stole — s. tassel . . Stole fee . . Stopper . . Stylus . . Subdeacon . . Surplice . . Tabernacle — t. curtain, t. key, t. veil . .Taper . .Te Deum . .Thabor . .Tester (of altar) . .Throne (of bishop) . .Torch . .Transept . .Triduum . .Tunic . .Vase — v. liner . .Veil (for Benediction) . .Verse cards . .Vestibule . .Vesting card . .Vestment — v. banding, v. emblem, v. case . .Vestry . .Votive candle — v.c. light, v.c. stand . .Wax savers. # # # Note: Mark with a check the unfamiliar items in this list. Each correct item gives Vi% toward the goal of 100% for you. 22 IMPRIMI POTEST Nicholas Bisheimer, Provincial NIHIL OBSTAT J. Musinsky Censor Deputatus IMPRIMATUR + Albert G. Meyer Archbishop of Chicago July 7, 1959 TEACHING THE FACTS of LIFE by PAUL M. BAIER “What would you say, Father?” is the time-worn query of fa- thers and mothers seeking guid- ance for teaching their young- sters the facts of life. Parents truths and general rules — but it’s the ‘KNOW-HOW’ they need . . . and can’t seem to get. This booklet is the culmination of questions such as this put to Father Baier by parents. Father Baier is the Assistant pastor of St. Boniface Church, Wilkes-Barre, Pa. His articles on youth problems and religion teach- ing have appeared in a number of Catholic publications. Another Book by Father Baier SUPERNATURAL LIFE Life! New Life! Life of Grace! Supernatural Life! All of the deepest meanings of the term “state of grace” — the age-old and ever-new truths of religion—are expressed by St. John and St. Paul in the words LIFE and LIVING. Parents and teachers could find the terms equally as valuable. Cat. #3008F 25^ ORDER FROM: DIVINE WORD PUBLICATIONS TECHNY, ILLINOIS