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John Reynolds , Who Died in the Lord the preceding 25 Decemb. By SAMUEL SLATER , Minister of the Gospel . LONDON , Printed for I. Lawrence at the Angel in the Poultrey . 1693. TO M ris . Reynolds . Dear Sister , ALL these things shall be dissolved , the very Heaven and Earth , and so must our Relations , however delightful , for they are only for a time . Death with its cold hand will easily loose the straitest Knot that coupled the most suitable and affectionate Pair : You frequently have heard and seen it , now you feel it . God hath been pleased to make a breach upon you , Oh that he would fill it up by standing himself in it : By the Father of Mercies , and God of Bowels , great and precious Promises are made to the solitary , Widow , which are Yea and Amen ; sue them out by Prayer , and live upon them by Faith. It is well with your Deceased Husband , and whatever straits and Difficulties you may for a time meet with , I hope it will be so with you . What I heartily pray for you , is , that you may have a full Enjoyment of God in the end , and receive Supports from him by the way , together with fresh and full supplies of Grace , Peace and Comfort . You by and with your Son desir'd the printing of the following Discourse , I could not deny you : Now it sees the light , may it do good to you , and many more through the Blessing of God accompanying it ; which will be the Rejoycing of Your Sympathizing Friend and Brother , Samuel Slater . From my Study , Ian. 19. 92 / 3 Newly published , and sold by John Lawrence at the Angel in the Poultrey . A Sermon Preached on the Thanksgiving-day , the 27th . of October , 1692. at Crosby-Square . By Samuel Slater , Minister of the Gospel . Quarto . A good Minister of Iesus Christ. A Funeral Sermon for the Reverend Mr. Richard Steel , a Faithful and Useful Minister of the Gospel . Delivered Novemb. 27. 1692. By George Hamond , M. A. and Minister of the Gospel . Octavo . Mr. Addy's Short-Hand is newly Re-printed , the Bible being Printed in the same Short-hand . Octavo . 2 SAM . I. 26. I am distressed for thee , my Brother Ionathan , very pleasant hast thou been unto me . THE last Chapter of the former Book of Samuel , gives us an account of a Battle fought between the Philistines and Israel , in which the former had the Victory , and the latter were put to flight , no less than three of Saul's Sons were slain , and alas ! of them Ionathan was one ; and Saul to avoid being killed and abused by such loathed hands , took a Sword and fell upon it , which however it may be by some applauded as a Brave and Heroick Action , was certainly unlawfull for him to do , wicked and abominable , whereby he became Felo de se , and brought upon himself the guilt of his own Blood ; but as he had lived , so he dyed under the power of an evil Spirit . The dolefull tydings hereof being by an Amalekite brought to David , it much affected and afflicted him , he lamented over them with a great Lamentation , of which the Words of my Text are a part ; and in them two things present themselves to our Observation . 1. What Ionathan had been to David while he lived , very pleasant , and sweet , by consequence his Life was exceeding desirable . 2. What David found himself to be , now that his Ionathan had been so cut off , a poor distressed Man , I am distressed for thee my Brother Ionathan ; for thee , i. e. for the loss which I , poor I have of thee , in whom so much of my Comfort was laid up . Thou art gone , for ever gone , thy place will know thee no more , and I both do and shall dearly miss thee . Although he was sure shortly to possess the Throne of Saul the Father , yet he should want the Company of Ionathan the Son. By how much the Life of Ionathan had of all outward Enjoyments been to him most sweet , by so much was his Death of all Temporal Losses most grievous . I am distressed for thee , my Brother Ionathan , very pleasant hast thou been unto me . The Doctrinal Conclusion which I shall draw from these Words , and prosecute in the following Discourse , will be this , Doct. When God doth take away from his own People their pleasant things , it brings them into distress . Depriving Providences are distressing Providences . If you look into the 13 Iob 26. you will find that good Man complaining to God , that He did write bitter things against him ▪ If you ask , how did God do that ? I Answer , by the hand of his Providence ; though he had set down most precious things for him in his Eternal Purposes , yet he wrote bitter things against him in his present Dispensations . He had stript him of all his outward Comforts ; his Estate was melted down , his Cattel driven away , his Servants slain , his Children all buried in the Ruines of the House which fell upon them while they were Feasting together : God had in this way brought him from Plenty to Penury , and from great Abundance to pinching Want. He took his pleasant things from him , and in so doing he wrote bitter things against him . Ionathan had been very pleasant to David , his tender and immovable Love had very much sweetened to him the implacable Hatred and violent Rage of Saul against him ; but now his Death did imbitter his Enjoyments and Expectations , whatever he had in his Hand , whatever in his Hope , yet he had not his Ionathan ; No , No , He is gone , He is gone never to return , He is slain in his high places , and therefore he lifts up a great and bitter Cry , I am distressed . There are three things that I shall speak to in the Doctrinal part , and then proceed to the Application , which I principally have in mine Eye . We shall enquire , 1. What rendered Ionathan so pleasant unto David ? 2. What brought David into Distress ? 3. What his being in Distress doth import and hold out to us ? We begin with the first of these , What was it that rendered Ionathan so very pleasant unto David ? to this I Answer , There were sundry things which did happily concurr , and greatly contribute thereunto ; so many remarkable things did unite and meet in that one excellent Person , so many singular Ingredients , as that they could not choose but make in him such a Composition of Sweets , as would make him the Pleasure and Delight of David's Soul. You may take some of them in these following particulars . First , The nearness of that Relation in which he stood : This is mentioned in the Text , my Brother Ionathan : Not that he was his Natural Brother , but by Marriage : Not Consanguinity but Affinity ; David having married Michal the Daughter of Saul , and Sister of Ionathan . But had this been alone , had it been all , it would not have been enough to make him so very pleasant : Many times Relations are bitter , they prove Burdens and Vexations to one another , and instead of rejoicing in the nearness of their Union , they could even Curse the first day of their Acquaintance . How often is the Wife a Thorn in the side of her Husband ? such was Iob's Wife to him ; the Child an Heart-break to his Father ? such was Absalom to David ; and the Brother an Affliction and Terror to his Brother ? so Esam was to Iacob , and Cain to Abel . There must be something beside the Relation to sweeten it , otherwise the Persons related will be mutual Crosses and Torments , instead of being pleasant , 113 Psal. 1. Behold , how good and how pleasant it is for Brethren to walk together in Vnity : This is like the Precious Ointment , like the Dew of Hermon , the Dew that descended upon the Mountains of Zion ; there God commandeth the Blessing . It is not nearness of Relation , nor oneness of Blood , nor any other strictness of Bond that will be sufficient alone , but together with that there must be an oneness of Mind and Heart . Thus it should be in Families , and thus in Churches , 2 Acts 42. They continuing daily with one accord in the Temple , did eat their meat with gladness : And again ; 4 Acts 32. The multitude of them that believed were of one Heart and of one Soul. Brethren and UNITED BRETHREN , this is amiable indeed and delightfull , when they Dwell together , Meet and Converse together , and all in Unity ; so that there are no Animosities and Heart-burnings among them , no Divisions and contrary Motions , no Quarrels and Contentions , but Harmony and Agreement , this is good , a lovely sight , God and Man count it so ; and it is pleasant , the Joy and Comfort of those Persons Lives . Well then , this was not all in the present Case ; there was not only a nearness of Relation , but also Secondly , There was in Ionathan unto David a dearness of Affection . Not only such as was suitable to the Relation , but above it ; such as too too often is not to be found in an own Brother . For the proof of this , do but observe the expressions used in the Scripture for the setting of it out ; 1 Sam. 18. 1. When he had made an end of speaking unto Saul , the Soul of Ionathan was knit with the Soul of David . They were glewed together , fastened one to another , and bound together by the Holy Spirit of God : There was between them , as the Philosopher saith , but 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 , one Soul ; and read on , Ionathan loved him as his own Soul , which words are repeated in Verse 3. He did really desire his good as his own , and sensibly felt his Afflictions as his own , and heartily rejoyced in his Prosperity , Successes and Honours , as if they had been his own ; they rejoyced and mourned together ; they sung and sighed , laugh'd and wept together . Again , it is said in 1 Sam. 19. 2. That Ionathan delighted much in David : He was not only pleased with him , but he delighted in him too , and that not a little , but much : He was delighted to see his Face , and to hear his Discourses , and to be in his Company . David was sensible of this , could not but take notice of it , you may see he did in the words immediately following the Text , where he speaks of it in an high and lofty strain , that so he might the better shew the Price he himself set upon it , and raise up in others the greater Admirings of Ionathan . Thy Love to me was wonderful , passing the love of women . As if He were a Prodigy of Love , the None-such of the Age , yea of the World , and had such a pure and vehement Flame as could not possibly be matcht : Among men there was none to be found that came near it , nay it exceeded the Love of Women : Which may be variously understood , and is by the Learned . Either thus : Thy Love to me is above that which men have , yea that which thou , my dearest Brother , hadst for Women : Or thus , That Love , which was in thine heart unto me , was above the Love which is in the Heart of Women themselves . Tho' they have strong Affections , and violent Passions , yet they come short of thine , are not to be compar'd with thine ; the most endearing Wives do not love their Husbands , the most affectionate Mothers do not love their Children , the fruit of their own Wombs , at such a rate , to such a degree , as Ionathan did his David . Now this could not but make him very pleasant , for Love is the Beauty of all Relations , it puts a sweetness into , and a gloss upon all Societies ; yea it is the Glory of Heaven it self , where it is advanced to , and shall Eternally continue in it's highest Perfection , without the least languishing or diminution . But further , This Love of Ionathan to David was not dull and sluggish , a sleepy habit , but lively and active , hastily catching at , and laying hold upon all opportunities offered for the venting and expressing of it's self . And therefore , Thirdly , The Love of Ionathan did signally evidence its self in a way of Self denyal , and by the unparallel'd humility of his Spirit . He was no conceited and lofty Person , puffed up with Pride , wholly confin'd to his own Interest , and looking with contempt or jealousie upon them who were below him ; but most readily yielding to the interest of his Brother , and cheerfully welcoming and embracing all means of promoting it . We may learn this from 1 Sam. 18. 4. Ionathan stript himself of his Robe that was upon him , and gave it to David , and his Garments , even to his Sword , and to his Bow , and to his Girdle . Good Man , he now would have his David go like himself , arrayed in a Courtly Habit , as became the Son-in-law to a King : He must put off the Shepherd , and put on the Prince , yea he should have his own Robe ; that all who met with him might see Ionathan in him , and accordingly respect and honour him as another Ionathan ; yea , he gave him his very Girdle , or Belt , which was a great Ensign , or Badge of Honour , and the principal Ornament of a Souldier ; thus he accounted nothing too good or too great for David . And tho' he full well knew that David should succeed his Father in the Throne , and be King in Israel , yet he had no rising of Heart against it , he did not at all envy him that Royal Preferment : No , no ; 1 Sam. 23. 16. He went to him into the Wood , and strengthened his hand in God : i. e. with the gracious Promises that God had given him , putting him in mind of former Assurances he had received , as is clear from the 17th . Verse , He said unto him , fear not , for the hand of Saul my Father shall not find thee , and thou shalt be King over Israel , and I shall be next unto thee : He was very well content not to insist upon the Right Line , but tho' as Prince , Heir of the Crown , yet to resign it to David , and to be himself his Inferior and Subject : Nor was he at all heated in his Spirit against him , or alienated from him in Affection by his Fathers angry taunts , and upbraiding him with his having chosen the Son of Iesse to his own confusion , and to the confusion of his Mothers nakedness . As if he should have said , Thou dost by this means expose thy self and thy Mother to reproach , none will look upon thee as my Son , but a Bastard , and of some mean and base Original . Fourthy , Ionathan was true , and immoveably faithful to the interest of David . He was a cordial and sincere Friend , as did appear by his stedfastness : As he was united to him in Affection , so he would bind himself to him yet faster by a Covenant . As in the 1 Sam. 18. 3. Ionathan and David made a Covenant , and they did again renew it , in the 20 ch . 12 , 13 , 14 , 15 , and 16 , Verses . Thus he added Obligation to Obligation , as if he thought he could never lay bonds enough upon himself , nor give unto David sufficient assurance of his Sincerity and Faithfulness , and that never dying Friendship and Kindness which he had with , and for him : He so loved David , that he feared himself , and was jealous of his own Heart , lest it should afterward prove false and treacherous , and therefore he would bind it to its good Behaviour . Fifthly , Such was the Love of Ionathan to David , that it put him upon being his Advocate . Oh how ready and forward was he at every turn to appear on his behalf , and plead his Cause with his angry Father , tho' he knew him to be very jealous of him , and desperately enraged and set against him , and could not but foresee that his standing up on his behalf would certainly bring his Fathers Displeasure , Frown and Indignation upon himself , yet he was resolved to act the part of a Friend and Brother to the utmost , and put his Life in his hand , and speak , rather than by a timerous silence be wanting unto David . We find in the 1 Sam. 19. 1. that Saul spake to Ionathan his Son , and to all his Servants , that they should kill David : He gave them Command and Commission to do it , but notwithstanding this , we read in the 4th . Verse of the same Chapter , that Ionathan spake good of David unto Saul his Father , and said unto him , Let not the King sin against his Servant , even against David , because he hath not sinned against thee , and because his works have been to thee-ward very good . It was an argument of dear Love , and a brave Spirit , to speak so to his Father at such a time . And he did the like again in the 1 Sam. 20. 31 , 32. As long , saith Saul , as the Son of Iesse liveth upon the ground , thou shalt not be established , nor thy Kingdom , wherefore now send , and fetch him to me , for he shall surely dye . What now ! this went to Ionathans Heart , it was as a Sword in his Bones , the Fire burned ; Then spake he with his tongue , and said unto his Father , wherefore shall he be slain ? what hath he done ? i. e. What Evil hath he done , what one thing hath he done for which he deserves to dye ? And it is said , ver . 34. He did eat no meat the second day of the month , for he was grieved for David : He could not but think of David's Case , and when he did think of it , it could not be without great sadness . Sixthly , I shall add but this one thing further , Ionathan was unto his David a ready and faithful Counsellor : Ready to give him timely notice of any danger that threatned him , and to acquaint him with the true state of things , and how matters went as to him , and to afford him the best Advice he could for the steering of his Course , and preservation of himself in so critical a time . Thus in the 1 Sam. 19. 2. When Saul had declar'd his Will to have him butcher'd , Ionathan told him , My Father seeketh to kill thee ; and thereupon directed him what to do , I pray thee , take heed to thy self until the morrow , and abide in a secret place , and hide thy self . And again afterward in the 20th . Chapter , by the Arrows which he shot , and the words which he spake to the Lad , he gave him to understand how exceeding hazardous his continuance thereabout would be , and how necessary it was for him to provide for his own Security as well as he could , and with all possible speed ; Make speed , haste , stay not . Shall we now take all these six Particulars , and bind them up togegether thus : Since Ionathan was in so near a Relation to David as his Brother , and did bear him such a sincere and entire Affection , could freely wave his own Interest , and lay it at the foot of David , continued so faithful to him , and at all times ready to plead for him , and carefull to give him the best Advice and counsel that he could , he must needs be very pleasant , exceeding desireable and delightful , he was very loving , and therefore very lovely . But alas ! David was not always to have his Ionathan ; the knot is soon untied that had united and coupled this excellent pair . Ionathan hath breath'd his last , his Soul hath made it's escape out of his wounded Body , and taken its flight into the other World. He is slain in his high places , and that brought David into distress ; and it brings me to the second thing which I promised to enquire into , viz. What was there in the Case , that David should be so distressed ? What Reason was there , that so Good a Man should be in such a plunge ? Time was when we found him at Ziklag , 1 Sam. 30. which was burnt by the Amalekites , the Wives , and Sons and Daughters were taken Captives , and the People spake of stoning him , and then he pluck'd up a brave Spirit , and encouraged himself in the Lord God. How then comes it to pass that upon this Occasion , tho' sad enough , he cryeth out of his being distressed ? I shall give you my Answer in these three things . First , I do not think he was brought into Distress by any Fears or dark Apprehensions concerning the Eternal State into which Jonathan was now enter'd : Surely he did not question but he was now in the Bosom of Divine Love , though he had fallen by the Cruel hand of a barbarous Enemy , for he was a good Man ; whosoever reads the Story of his Life , and considers his Spirit and Carriage , will find therein sufficient reason to conclude him not only truly gracious , but a Person of an excellent and more than ordinary Spirit , and from thence gather whatever was his Exit out of this World , He had an entrance ministred to him abundantly into the glorious Kingdom of his God and Saviour : His dying upon the Mountains of Gilboa , could not at all hinder his direct , speedy , and joyfull ascent to the Mountains of Myrrhe and Beds of Spices , where he shall take a sweet and undisturbed repose to all everlasting . He had indeed his Head not incircled with a Crown , but laid in the Dust , and so the earthly Throne was left for David to fill , but he was advanced to one much above it , a Throne of Glory in Heaven . I do not in the least doubt that David was abundantly satisfi'd about the happy Exchange Ionathan had made , and the goodness of that Condition in which he now was , that if he might return again to be as he was before , he would not ; nor leave the clear Vision , and immediate Communion with the Son and Lord of David , for a fresh and further Enjoyment of David himself . Instead of making a descent to this lower , dirty and troublesom World , he would choose to continue where he now is , and take some delight in the thoughts of Davids coming to him as soon as he had served his Generation according to the Will of God , and finished the Work given him to do . But Secondly , I judge him brought into this distress , by a reflection upon the manner of Ionathans Death : That he did not Die in a Natural way , but was cut off in his prime and flourishing Age by a violent stroke , and that ( which was Gall in the Cup ) given by the hand of the Uncircumcised ; it pained him at the very Heart , to think , that that brave Prince , who had been so eminently valiant and prosperous in fighting the Battels of Israel , whose Bow turned not back from the blood of the slain , nor from the fat of the mighty , had now fallen a Sacrifice to their Fury , and was become the Object of their boasting and triumph . Hence it is that he did , as in an Agony , cry out in the 20th . Verse of this Chapter , Tell it not in Gath , publish it not in Askelon : Conceal it from them , if it be possible conceal it from them , lest the daughters of the Philistines rejoyce , lest the daughters of the uncircumcised triumph . Poor Soul , he knew not how to bear up under the thoughts of this , that those desperate Enemies to his God and People , should rejoyce in the fall of his beloved Ionathan , and with their unhallowed feet trample and dance upon his precious Dust. But then Thirdly , That which encreased his Distress , and did yet much more straiten him , was the Consideration of his own Loss . We all know , that cordial Friends , of good humour , are the great Comfort of our Lives . Suppose a man hath a great confluence of mundane Delights , Waters of a full Cup wrung out to him , more indeed than Heart could wish , yet would he be miserable in the midst thereof , if he were Friendless . God did not think it good for Man to be alone , tho' in a Paradise : He enjoyeth himself pitifully , that hath not a Friend to enjoy . The Sacred Scripture speaking of a Friend , adds this Expression , 13 Deuter. 6. Who is as thine own Soul ; i. e. as near and dear to thee as thy self , he is an alter Ego , another self , a second self : So that when an intimate , entire Friend is taken away by Death , a Man is almost torn in pieces , and loseth a very considerable part of himself . The wisest of Men tells us in the 17 Proverbs 17. A Friend loveth at all times , and a Brother is born for adversity . This was verified in Ionathan , he was such a Brother , endearing David in the clearest Sunshine , and under the blackest Clouds in fair Weather and soul , in Halcion days , and most tempestuous blustering Storms , being always the same , whatever Changes were to be found abroad ; he being tryed by Adversity , was found faithful . When his Father was his implacable Enemy , he was his fast Friend ; Saul could not be more resolved to ruine him , than Ionathan was studious of saving him . He stuck to David , and would not leave him , any more than Ruth would her afflicted Mother-in-law Naomi , who spake thus to her , 1 Ruth 17. Where thou diest will I die , and there will I be buried , the Lord do so to me , and more also , if ought but death part thee and me . His Fathers Enmity and Hatred of David could not part them ; if for that he did not love him the better , for certain he pityed him the more . His Fathers Displeasure and Indignation against him for loving of David , could not part them : But Death came , it may be , unexpectedly , and by way of surprize , and did that which nothing else could do , it parted them , and now whatever Friends David still had about him , he had lost the best . He had not his Ionathan , among all the rest he could not find one like Ionathan ; and therefore when he thought of it , yea dwelt in his thoughts upon it , as he could not choose but do , he found himself wounded , and in pain , so that he could not forbear crying out in our Text , I am distressed for thee my Brother . So we are got to the third and last thing which I said was to be enquired into , viz. The import of the word : What may we look upon as the meaning of David , when he saith , He was distressed ? I shall give you my Thoughts of it in these two things . By this word he intimates . 1. The greatness of the Loss he sustained . 2. The intimate sense he had of it . First , By saying he was distressed , he signifieth the greatness of the Loss , the soreness of the Affliction . It lay heavy upon him , being no common stroke , no ordinary blow ; not the blasting of a sorry Gourd , but withering a Plant of Renown , a principal Stud was faln . This was such a loss , as every one could not meet with ; none but a David could lose , so lose his Ionathan . It must be granted , his Death was a publick Loss , all Good Men had a share in it , but his own was more than double . His Brethren had a Loss , let their Eyes be fountains of Tears ; his Family had a Loss , let them put on Sackbloth , and be cloathed in Mourning ; all Israel hath had a Loss , let them hang their Harps upon the Willows , but their Loss , put them all together , is not comparable to mine , mine is by far the greatest : I have lost my Right Hand : I have lost my Companion , my Counsellor , my Comforter : My Loss is such , as that it cannot be made up to me by any Man upon Earth , but only by a God in Heaven , from whom came all that sweetness that I found in Ionathan , and in whom there is infinitely more . Secondly , By saying he was distressed , he giveth us to understand the deepness and intimacy of that sense which he had of this his Loss . He felt it , for it went to the quick , and struck him to the very Heart ; this was such a blow as he did not well know how to bear , he was troubled at it , and bowed down greatly , feeble and sore broken , so that he was scarce able to outlive it ; therefore here he draws up the Flood-gates , spends the strength of his Sorrow , pours out his last and heaviest groan . We may conceive him speaking thus to himself : I easily yield some Sorrow to be due to Saul , as bad as he was , because Israels King , chosen and appointed of God , one that had been anointed with Oyl , yet I can bear with his Death ; for tho' he was King , and my Father-in-law , yet he was my irreconcileable Enemy , who hated me with a cruel hatred , and hunted me as a Partridge upon the Mountains , therefore his Death I look upon not as my Affliction , but Deliverance ; accordingly some Tears I will drop over him , and bestow a sigh or two there , but can soon wipe mine eyes , and dry my Cheeks again , leaving sorrow and mourning upon his account as a business more proper for them who find themselves concern'd : 2 Sam. 1. 24. Ye daughters of Ierusalem , weep over Saul , who cloathed you in Scarlet , with other delights , who put on Ornaments of Gold upon your Apparel . You have reason , for he was your Friend and Benefactor . As for mourning over Ionathan , that is my Province , my Business , and I undertake it , and will go about it with all my might , there is none to be found in Israel that I will trust with it , none that can do it so well as my self , there being none so much concerned , none so inwardly sensible , none so great a Sufferer , none so deeply wounded , I am distress'd for him , brought into a great strait : While I had him , my Heart was enlarged with Love to him , and Joy in him ; how did it flame , how did it leap , how strong was my Affection , how high my Delight ; but now he is gone , those Comforts are gone with him ; my Heart is pent and opprest , my Sun is set , and I am clouded , benighted , left alone to bemoan my self . We have finished the Doctrinal part , and now come to the Improvement of all in a way of Application : And there are only three things which I shall bring in as so many Corollaries , and speak to , in order to the making the late Providence and my present Discourse profitable to you . USE 1. From hence learn the weak slippery hold you have of all your worldly Comforts . Tho' your Title to them be good , the best that can be , founded not only upon Providence , but Covenant , yet they may slip thro' your Fingers before you are aware , your Possession is not sure : Whatever sweetness you taste in them , whatever expectations you have from them , they may take their leave , and disappoint you , there by at once proving their own Vanity , and your Vexation . Hence they are called things that are not , because they have so little of being , are of so uncertain continuance , and no further removed from nothing . They are here to Day looking pleasantly , but may be gone to Morrow , yea before , and leave you drown'd in Tears : Fragrant Flowers they are , by which you are at present greatly refreshed , but know not how soon they may wither in your hands . You greatly rejoice in your loving Friends , dear Relations , faithful Ministers , but their Breath is in their Nostrils , and wherein are they to be accounted of ? Ionah was exceeding glad of the Gourd , under the refrigerating shadow whereof he sate comfortably and at ease in a scorching day , but a Worm smote it that it dyed , by this the good Man was transported into an excess of Passion , and disordered throughout . Iob complained not without Cause , Iob 10. 17. that Changes and Wars were upon him , or against him ; a multitude , a variety of Changes , they trod upon the heels of one another , so that he was at no time safe , knew not what a Settlement meant , could not say , the Morrow will be as this Day ; nay , he could not commend one Day before the Night ; the fairest Morning he had seen overcast , and converted into a blustering Afternoon . He that hath the most Eagle-eye , and pierceth into Mysteries , cannot look into the Purposes of God concerning his present State , nor into the Womb of Providence , so as to tell aforehand what a Day will bring forth . The gross Mistakes of every Almanack about the Weather , proclaim the Impudence and Ignorance of the Star-gazers , and it is to be attributed to the Patience and Mercy of God that he doth not strike those Diviners mad . As God hath a variety of Mercies and Blessings , so that Day unto Day sheweth Love , and Night unto Night Faithfulness , he compasseth his Children with Favour as a shield , loads them with Benefits , and we may say , many such things are with him , so hath He great store of Afflictions and Exercises for them too ; an House of Bondage , an howling Wilderness , and a red Sea. Before you have finished your Course , pass'd through the World , and enter'd into your Rest , you may be sure of Changes , but none of you can tell what those Changes will be , how God will try you , nor in what Vein bleed you : Now through Mercy you have your Comforts , but know not how little awhile you shall have them , Ruth 1. 20 , 21. Call me not Naomi , call me Marah , for the Lord hath dealt bitterly with me : I went out full , and the Lord hath brought me home again empty : The Comforts of Life are not sure , for Life it self is not , that is at best a Vapour , and may be soon exhal'd . Upon this account , let the Advice I shall give in four things be acceptable to you . First , Do not overvalue any of those outward good things you have : Do not withhold from them that which is meet . There is a Love and Delight due to them according to the several degrees of Excellency which they have , and of nearness in which they stand to you ; this is a Debt you owe them , and what you owe you are obliged to pay , if you do not , Divine Justice may come upon you for it . Oh that you would wisely consider how dreadful and tormenting a sting it would be to you at the last , if Conscience ( which is now a Curious Observer of you , and all the Passages of your Lives ) should arrest you , and say , Man , Woman , thou art now fetching thy last Breath , a dying Creature , ready to launch into Eternity , and to appear before the Tribunal of God ; but know , thou diest desperately in debt to thy Friends , thy Relations , and thy Family ; thou hast lived with them , and conversed with them , but not carried toward them as thou oughtest to have done ; thou didst not abound in those Expressions of Love which thou shouldest ; nay , thou didst want the Love its self ; thou didst not take that Care of them thou shouldest , neither Care of their Bodies nor of their Souls : Indeed it is no wonder that their Souls were neglected by thee , since thou didst not at all mind thine own , thou wast not so kind to them as Civility would have taught thee to have been , but morose and chubbid ; at one time thy Carriage was strange , at another thou didst put on the Countenance of a Fury ; thy Words were cutting like sharp Swords , nor didst thou hold thy Hands , but they lighted heavy upon the Wife of thy Bosom , ( unnatural Brute as thou art ) whom thou shouldest have been tender over , and loved as thine own flesh . As for you that are herein guilty , I cannot but tell you , Your Relations now feel the want of your Love , and Care , and Kindness , but you will then feel the Smart and Horrour of your having been so willingly and wickedly wanting to your Duty : Therefore amend your wayes , and put away the evil of your doings from before the Eyes of God ; learn your Duty , and chearfully apply to the doing of it , do it all , do it more and more , take Delight and Pleasure in doing it : Love them , love to Love them , let your Love continue , let it abound , convince them of your loving them , that whatever other wants they may have , they may be sure of this , that they do not want your Love. But still , do not overdo : Love God as much as ever you can , because him you cannot love too much ; you cannot bestow too much upon him to whom you owe more than all you have amounts to , therefore there give your Affections their full liberty , lay the Reins upon their Neck ; but when you have to do with Creatures , take heed to your selves , and love with Caution ; let there be a true , honest and faithful Heart , but yet a weaned Heart . There is a great difference between Endearing and Doting , study and practise the former , avoid the latter , 1 Cor. 7. 29. It remaineth that they that have Wives be as though they had none : And the same is to be said of others , Let those that have Husbands be as tho' that had none , and they that have Children , and they that have Brethren , Sisters and Friends : Too much Love layes a foundation , and makes way for too much Sorrow ; if while you have Comforts you are not as tho' you had none , I am sure , when you weep , you will not be as though you wept not : Alas you will scarce find in your Heart how to resign that which you have fixed your Heart upon . In such a Case , and unto such a Person , the taking away of a Comfort , or the dissolving of a Relation will be not as the putting off a Garment , but rending the very Caul of your Heart . Secondly , Wisely and carefully Improve your Comforts while you have them : Be as good Husbands as possibly you may , they may not abide long with you , therefore while they do , suffer them not to lye dead upon your hands . Have you Friends and Relations ? draw from them all possible Soul advantages ; labour you to be the better for them , and do your utmost , that they may be the better for you ; be mutually helpful one to another , quickening , warming , strengthening one another , provoking to Love and Good Works . That Proverb is not to be slighted , for Wisdom is in it , Make Hay while the Sun shines . By present Diligence prevent those idle and unprofitable Wishes that come too late ; Oh that I had been wiser , Oh that I had done so and so . Do you now , and every Day think and repeat the Thoughts of this , who have Husbands and Wives , Brethren and Sisters , Children and Servants , Ministers and People ; and you that walk together in an Holy Communion , meeting in the same Assembly , attending upon the same Ordinances , and sitting at the same Table , and let these Thoughts be mighty in their Operation . And as it ought to be thus with reference to your Friends and Relations , so to your Estates and Possessions . Many are all the Year round digging like Moles in the Earth , scraping , raking and heaping up of Riches , as if there would be no end of their days , but they should live here alway : Like the Horse-leeches Daughter , they never say it is enough , as some never think they have sinn'd enough , but drink in Iniquity like Water , and draw it with Cart-ropes ; so these never think they have got enough , in the fulness of their sufficiency they apprehend themselves in straits . Would these Persons hearken to me , I would advise them to be ready to communicate , and do all the Good they can to others , since they do not know how soon they may die , and so have no more Opportunities for Charity and Usefulness in the World. By Acts of bountiful Compassion make sure of something considerable , that you may carry with you , before Death comes to take you from all , and all from you : What thy hand findeth to do , either in Works of Piety or Charity , speed the doing of it , do it with all thy might , considering there is no work , nor device , nor invention in the Grave , whither thou art going , Eccl. 9. 10. Thirdly , Provide for Changes : Expect them , and arm your selves , that when they come , they may not do you a fatal Mischief . Do not say as David did in his Prosperity , 30 Psalm . 6. I shall never be moved , tho' thou thinkest the Lord by his favour hath made thy mountain to stand strong . Dream not of such a settlement upon Earth , as knoweth no shaking , thou mayst quickly be moved , and thy Mountain too ; thy Mountain , as big as it looks , may dwindle , and shrink it self up into a Molehill , or the hand of Divine Providence may take it and cast it into a Sea of Trouble . Notwithstanding the height of his Confidence , he soon found it so , and in the next words hath left his Experience upon Record , for the teaching us to cherish in our selves more solid and sober thoughts , Thou didst hide thy Face , and I was troubled . God doth not need to arm against us , nor throw his Thunderbolts , it is but hiding of his Face , that is enough to cover us with the shadow of Death , and put all into Confusion ; and this , or any thing else that God pleaseth to do , may be done in the twinkling of an Eye : Therefore under the warmest and most comfortable Beams of Divine Favour , under the brightest shinings forth of the Face of God , we should think of a Cloud , and in the highest Spring tide of Creature comforts prepare for as low an Ebb. It doth not indeed upon any account become us to give way unto those Fears , that would deprive us of the comfort of our Enjoyments ; nor when God hath put a Cup of Consolation into our hands go about to imbitter it to our selves with the frightful apprehensions of that which may never be . But it is our Wisdom in the serenest day , and when there is Peace round about , to cherish those prudent fears which may enable us to look Terror in the Face , without being distracted by it , and to endure evil , without having our Hearts broken by it . There is nothing lost , no hurt done by a calm , sedate propounding difficult Cases to our selves . As thus : Now I am full , but I may be emptyed as from Vessel to Vessel . Now I am cloathed with Silk and beautiful Garments , but God may strip me of these and put Sackcloth upon my Loins : Now I have a convenient stately House , richly hung and furnished , but Sons of Violence may break in and steal , or a Fire may burn it down to the ground , so that I shall not have where to lay mine head : Now I have a dear and Loving Husband who careth for me , but I may lose him , and be brought to a State of desolate Widowhood : Now I have enough , and to spare , an overplus for the relief of the Poor , but the time may come wherein I shall want Necessaries , and pine away , stricken thrô for lack of the fruits of the Field . My Soul , how wilt thou be able to bear up , if it should please God to bring it to this ? Thou knowest how to abound with Joy , and to eat thy Bread at a plentiful Table with a merry Heart ; but dost thou know how to be contented in a time of Want and Scarcity , and to rejoyce in the God of thy Salvation in a Day of Famine , as the Holy Prophet could , 3 Habbuk . 17 , 18. Fourthly , Seek for , and diligently look after those things which you cannot lose , nor be deprived of . In the midst of the uncertainty you live at , as to all the Comforts of this present World , make sure of something ; I mean , something that is worth your pains to get , and that it is your interest to keep . In the 17 Psalm 14. we read of the Men of the World , that their Bellies are fill'd with hid treasures ; and possibly so is their Bags , and their Cherts , and their Houses too , all full , and that not of Trash , but Treasure : But poor Creatures , this is their Misery , that they have their Portion in this Life . They have a Portion , and it looks great , makes an huge noise , but alas ! it is only in , and for his Life . We read also of the sure mercies of David , 55 Isa. 3. Incline your ear , and come unto me , hear , and your Soul shall live , and I will make an everlasting Covenant with you , even the sure mercies of David ; now be you so wise as to mind them . It is very good to be sure , excellent to have that which is so . Christ told Martha , in a way of friendly Reproof to her , that Mary her Sister had chosen the good part , which should never be taken from her ; neither by God , who was too good to do it , nor by Men and Devils , who were too weak : That was a wise Choice , be you perswaded to make it . Take not up with that which may leave you , and which sooner or later you must leave . Sit not down with any thing that Thieves may break thro' , and steal , or that Moths can corrupt , or Rust can fret , or Time shall see the end of . Look out for Christ , who is the everlasting Father , and able to save to the utmost of your Needs , and Dangers , and Desires , and of Eternity too ; pray for the Spirit , he will abide with you for ever ; Grace will grow up to Glory , and Holiness bring you to an Happiness that knows neither measure nor end . Follow the Noble Example which was set you by the Holy Apostles , and Primitive Christians taught of God , who 2 Corinth . 4. 18. Looked not at the things which are seen , but at the things which are not seen , because the things which are seen are Temporal , but the things which are not seen are Eternal . Spiritual Blessings in heavenly places , and things , are of all good things the best , and also the most lasting . Riches and Honour are with Wisdom : But what ! such Riches as take unto themselves wings , and flee away , such Honour as is a vain and vanishing breath ? No , no ; durable Riches and Righteousness , 8 Prov. 18. When all worldly Enjoyments take their last Farewell , leaving you for ever , you need not look upon your selves as Persons undone , but say , for all this the lines are fallen unto me in a pleasant place ; still I have a God here , and I shall have an Heaven hereafter . VSE 2. Learn , that it is both the Duty and Interest of Persons in Relation , to study and endeavour the being pleasant to one another . Ionathan was so to his Brother David , and by being so , He obtained a good Report , in the Text , Very pleasant hast thou been unto me . This is a fair and lovely Copy for us to Write after , drawn by an excellent Hand ; let us all imitate it , and come up to it as near as we can : Whether we stand in Natural or Civil , or Church-Relation , whether Conjugal , Parental , or Filial ; whether we are Masters , Mistresses , Servants , Fellow-Citizens , or Church-Members , let us labour to sweeten that Relation , and to render our selves as easie and acceptable as possibly may be to one another , that we may not be as Thorns in one anothers sides , nor pricks in one anothers eyes ; there will be Aloes enough , we had need bring good store of Honey . It is an excellent Command the Scripture gives , Follow peace with all Men , go and do it ; follow Peace abroad , tho' it run from you follow it , but be sure to keep Peace at home ; yea , not only Peace , but Pleasantness too , and both these are to be found in the ways of Wisdom , 3 ▪ Prov. 17. Her ways are ways of pleasantness , and all her paths are peace : See then that ye walk circumspectly , not as fools , but as wise . A great deal of benefit will be the fruit and effect hereof ; your Relations will have the Comfort of it while Providence continues you with them , and so will your selves also : and besides that , you will have the Comfort of it when you come to die , a reflection thereupon will be exceeding cordial , and over and above you will have the Honour of it after Death . Nabal was a very Chub , a morose and ill-natur'd Fellow ; Well , what did his Servants say of him behind his back while he lived , see 1 Samuel 25. 17. He is such a Son of Belial , that a Man cannot speak to him : And what did his prudent Wife say of him after he was dead , 25 Verse of the same Chapter , Let not my Lord regard this man of Belial , even Nabal , for as his Name is , so is he , Nabal is his Name , and folly is with him ; whereas by your being pleasant to your Friends and Relations , you will raise a Monument to your own Honour , far better than Absolam's Pillar ; and tho' your Body will corrupt in the Grave , and return to Dust , yet your Name will be embalmed , and your Memory blessed . And to this end I commend to you by way of Advice , these three things , desiring you to put them in practice . First , Let your Love be sincere , hearty , constant and free ; a self-evidencing Love , that there may be more ground and reason to believe it than your bare say so : Be sure that your Relation carry along with it all the Affection that it calls for , and all the desireable fruits of that Affection . It is this , my Friends , that makes every thing savoury , and puts a good relish into it ; take this away , and all that remains is nothing else but bitterness . What is Communion and Cohabitation without Love , but a constant Burden ? And what are Services but ungrateful ? and what is it that makes them so , when they are good in themselves ? Nothing but their coming from such an hand . The Conjugal Yoke will be very heavy , and pinch and gall if it be not lin'd with Love : and is there not reason ? Did not God reject and abhorr all that the hypocritical and profane Iews did in his worship upon this very account , because he knew they did not love him : Isai. 29. 13. This People draw near me with their mouth , and with their lips do honour me , but have removed their Heart far from me . And for that cause he delighted not in the blood of Bullocks , or Rams , or He-goats , but their Oblations were Vain , their Incense an Abomination , and their solemn Meetings Iniquity . Why was Ionathan so very pleasant to David ? The words immediately following the Text tell us , Thy Love to me was wonderful . Secondly , Labour for , and in all your Converses be expressive of a sweetness of Temper ; there is without peradventure , a great deal lieth in the Natural Disposition . Many Persons , who are enriched with the true Grace of God , are notwithstanding that , Burdens to themselves , and very uneasie to their Friends , because of the Untowardness of their Temper . I have heard of a Person very Eminent for his Place and Learning , yea and Godliness too , of whom yet it was said , Tho' he had Grace enough for ten men , he had not Grace enough for himself : The Soil was rank , and the Weeds that grew in it got to such an height , that too often they overtopt the Divine Plantation . Is it not too ordinary and common to find some Imperious and Lordly , others fretful and peevish ? Some are Lions , and others are Wasps ; every little thing almost unhingeth , and puts them out of humour ; they are angry for Trifles , the very wagging of a Feather , by no means enduring a contradiction in their Speeches , or a being crost in their Wills ; but all must study their Humour , and comply with it , otherwise they will be all on a Flame , and soon make the House too hot : But this will not do , they are to be greatly condemned , and those that live with them to be as greatly pitied , specially those that are stak'd down , and must bide by it . The Lord give them of his Comforts , for indeed they have Cross enough . As for you that are so much Friends to your selves , as to desire a being pleasant to those that are concerned with you , labour to file off this Ruggedness ; rectifie your own Spirits , conquer your selves , pray and labour for a Mastery over your unruly Passions . Get that meek and quiet spirit , which is an Ornament of great price in the sight of God , 1 Pet. 3. 4. A singular Friend of mine , by nature hasty and furious , attained to so great a Victory over himself , by Prayer , Reading of and Meditation upon the History of Christ , that none could put him into a Discomposure . Make you use of the same Remedy , remembring ; that which is to sweeten other things , must it self be much more so . Wormwood and Gall are very improper Means for so excellent an End. Thirdly , Give diligence that ye may know the whole duty of your place , and make Conscience of doing whatsoever you know to be so . Contribute all that is within the compass and reach of your Power , to the spiritual , eternal good , and temporal comfort of those with whom you have to do . It is a very good Commendation which Lemuel's Mother gives of a virtuous Woman , 31 Prov. 26. That she opens her mouth with wisdom , and in her Tongue is the Law of Kindness . She hath a Liberty to speak , it is her right , but she useth it with discretion and affection ; and when her Lips are opened , specially to her Husband , they drop like an Honey-comb : There you see the amiableness of her Temper and Conversation . But that is not all , there was another curious stroke given in her Picture before , a choice Character in the 12th . Verse , She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life . She is carefull to avoid doing evil , ready and constant in doing good , yea all the good she can , being , as Paul would have every one , unwearied in well-doing . Oh! this is a noble Life , what our precious Lord and Saviour led while upon Earth : He went up and down doing good , therein leaving us an Example , that we may tread in his steps . Do good , all of you , in those several places in which Providence hath set you , all the good you can , fill them up with Love and Duty ; and do good to the several Persons you have to do with : Let nothing be wanting in you in order to their being really the better for you , their Souls being the better for you , that they may have cause to say , Blessed be God that ever I lived in such a Family , that ever I had such a Wife , was married to such an Husband , descended of such Parents , served such a Master and Mistress . You will then be pleasant indeed , when you are profitable , when you teach the Ignorant , and reduce the Wanderer ; when you enlighten the dark Mind , and blow up the languishing Flame ; when you strengthen the weak hands , and confirm the feeble Knees . And I beseech you , seriously consider with your selves , why God did make the Woman , and order out the Conjugal Relation ; and we may say the same of others : It was that Persons in those Relations might be Helps meet for one another . And truly that Person lives to no purpose , that doth not live to good purpose ; and he doth not live to good Purpose , who doth not live to that Purpose for which God made him , and sent him , and set him in the place where he is : That person who is an useless Vessel , I do not , and you need not wonder , if he be a Vessel in which there is no pleasure . All that know him , may look upon him as an unprofitable burden to the Earth , and so he may be to his Friends , for he doth nothing else but take up a room , and cumber the ground . USE Third . Since the taking away of pleasant things doth bring Saints themselves in distress , we may learn how weak , impotent and inconsiderable a Creature man is . The Royal Prophet tells us , 39 Psal. 5. Verily every man at his best state is altogether Vanity . This is a Truth , I have searched it , I have found it , I am sure of it ; Verily it is so , not onely some men , those that are poor and sickly and silly , but every man , the youngest , the strongest , the wisest , the most holy ; and that not only at some times , and in some Conditions , when he is diseased and discompos'd , but at his best state , when he is most himself , when his Faculties and Powers of Soul and Body are raised up to the highest pitch , and most in tune for work , then , even then , He is vanity . He not only hath some Vanity in him , some mixture of vanity , some Dross with his Gold , some Water with his Wine , but He is vanity : He may e'en be defined by it ; nay more , He is altogether Vanity , it over-spreads him , it runs through the whole , from the sole of the Foot to the Crown of the Head he is Vanity . In se uno omne genus vanitatis complectitur : In himself alone he contains all sorts of Vanity : If any one is lost , it may be found again in Man. The several and manifold lines of Vanity meet in Man as in the Centre of them . The Doctrin we have been discoursing of , is one proof and Evidence hereof . David was a good Man , a godly Man , a man after Gods own Heart , a Man of War , a man of Mettal and courage ; when but a Stripling , he did not fear Goliah an huge and mighty Gyant , before whom all Israel trembled ; yet when God was pleased to deprive him of his Friend and Brother , to take from him his Ionathan , he was distressed . How great Strangers are all of us at home , and how much unacquainted with our selves ! It is very usual for good men to be mistaken about themselves , and that among others in these two cases : They do not know how much they can do and suffer , when God is with them : That which to them seem'd intolerable at a distance , feels light when upon them ; they can sing under that which they thought would have broken their Hearts . Hence a good man once said , I was in Prison till I was in Prison . On the other side , They do not know how little they can do or suffer , if God be pleased to subduct from them , and cometh not in to their assistance . This made confident Peter tell our Lord , Though all men should deny him , yet he would not ; whereas , when the Temptation came , though Iudas betrayed him , and the rest of the Disciples forsook him , yet Peter was the only man of them that denyed him . But let us return to the business before us . Afflictive Providences may , and oft-times do , bring the best Saints into distresses ; and those not only outward in their Condition , so that they shall be compast about with Difficulties , and hemm'd in on every side , as Israel was at the Red Sea ; but likewise inward in their spirits , so as to be brought to their Wits-end , and almost to their Faiths end ; they know not which way to turn them , nor what course to steer : They are at a loss both how to bear the Affliction upon them , and what to do in the case . First , Afflictions , such afflictions may be order'd to good men , as may bring them into those distresses that they shall not know how to bear it . This is often seen and felt . David did not know how to bear the Death of Absalom , but went up and down like a Bedlam , wringing his hands , and crying , Would God I had died for thee , O Absalom , my Son , my Son , 2 Sam. 18. 33. Ionah could not bear the non-fulfilling of his Prophecy concerning the Destruction of Niniveh , nor the withering of his Gourd , for he would have had God take his Life from him , and told him to his Face , He did well to be angry , even unto Death , 4 Ionah 3 , and 9 Verses . Thus the spirit is roil'd , the Patience is spent , and the Heart fires and flames . In the 73 Psalm , holy Asaph seeing the Prosperity and flourishing state of the Wicked , while he was daily under a pressing load of Afflictions , and the violent hurries of Temptation , cried out , Ver. 26. That his Flesh and his heart failed . Have not some of us heard poor Creatures under some sore and heavy blow given them by the hand of God , crying out in the Agony and bitter Anguish of their spirits , This is such a loss I cannot bear it ? Little considering that Iob did bear more than is laid upon them , and when all was gone at a Clap , fell down and worshipped , saying , The Lord hath given , and the Lord hath taken , blessed be the Name of the Lord. Neither do they consider , that nothing is happened to them , but what is common to man ; and what reason is there for extraordinary passions , when there is nothing but ordinary Providences . Once more , they do not consider , what the Apostle saith , viz. That God is faithful , who will not suffer his People to be tempted above what they are able , but will so graciously and tenderly order that they shall be able to bear it . Forbear such Expressions . The Church understood her self , and spake very wisely when she said , 7 Micah 9. I will hear the Indignation of the Lord : And if she could bear indignation , you may very well resolve to bear affliction . Secondly , Afflictions do sometimes bring good men into such afflictions , as that they do not know what to do under them . That is an usual cry , Things are so and so with me , that I cannot tell what to do : I do not know in all the World what I shall do . And indeed it must needs be exceeding sad with that Person who is brought to such a loss : Now I shall say these two things to such Persons as these are . First , Those distresses which amount to this , are too much , and rise to too great an height ; and you may thank your selves for them . Be the affliction which you meet with what it will , it is not too much , nor too great ; not such as God could have laid on , nor as you did deserve : So Ezra acknowledged in his 9th . Chapt. 13 v. Thou our God hast punished us less than our Iniquities deserve . Remember it is of Gods ordering out , all whose wayes are Mercy and Truth , to them that fear his Name , and keep his Covenant ; who doth all things to his People with Wisdom and in Love , measuring out the Potion , and weighing the Burden , that there may not be a grain more than is necessary and fit . But this sore distress is a great deal too much , into which thou hast thrown thy self by thy unbelief and Impatience . What meanest thou by saying , This I cannot bear ? from whom comes it ? Was it not from God ? and if from God , it is thy Duty to bear it . The Lord Jesus knew better , and spake better , when He said , Shall I not drink of the Cup which my Father hath given me to drink of ? 18 Ioh. 11. and how will you avoid it ? how can you help your selves ? Can you shake off the burden ? If not , you must bear it . Thine arrows stick fast in me , said David , 38 Psal : 2. v. Yes , too fast for him to pull out with all the strength he had . See to it , that you bear it becomingly , submissively , like a Child whose will is bowed to the Will of God , and swallowed up by it . Let Patience have its perfect work . Be the present load what it will , if you will not bear it , you take a Course to bring upon your selves an heavier . What doth a wild Bull in a Net do when he tosseth , and kicks , and flings , but intangles himself the more ? He had better be quiet . Again , Art thou thy self when thou sayest , I know not what to do ? Have you been in the School of Christ , and taught of God , and yet such a Dunce as not to know what to do ? You ought to know and do too . Your work is before you , and will you not see it ? I beseech you to sit down , and recollect your selves , seriously commune with your own Hearts , propound the Question , What is the will of God concerning me ? There is no State or Condition in which you are or can be , but therein you may find something , yea enough to do . You may do something to please and honour God , and something to help and profit your selves : You may therein set Faith at work , and Patience at work : A time of Affliction is the proper season for those Graces to yield their Fruit , those Spices to flow forth . Now act submission to the Divine Will : Here am I , let him do what seemeth good unto him : Fall to Improving of the Affliction , get Meat out of the Eater , Honey from the Carkase of the Lion , that what hath devoured thy Comforts , may seed thy Graces ; see if you cannot by an holy Chimistry extract Gains out of Losses , and turn Iron into Gold : Try what advantage you can make of the Sickness that consumes you , of the pain that grinds and tortures you ; what Life you can fetch out of the Grave , the death of such a Friend or Relation ; there is no Affliction with which we are exercised , but it puts into our hands an opportunity for some special work or other ; there is no Condition but what hath a particular duty belonging to it . Do not say , I am now altogether useless and unserviceable ; who is it that hath made thee so ? God hath not , have a care thou dost not make thy self so : What thô thy Work doth not lie where it did , it lieth somewhere , find it out , and do it . I most freely and readily grant , you cannot do your present Duty , nor any thing else in your own strength , as it ought to be done . You cannot stir a Finger without Divine Concurrence , nor lift up a Prayer , unless the Spirit set his hand to it ; there must be an helping of the Infirmity , else no performance of the Duty . It is one above that worketh both to will and to do , of his own good pleasure : But however , go you about your Work , set to it heartily , and in good earnest , going for strength where it is to be had : Seek it in , and from Christ , in whom it is laid up for you . To this purpose , for your Encouragement , remember that of Paul in the 4 Phil. 13. I can do all things thrô Christ , who strengtheneth me . Upon the gracious conveyances of Life , Spirit and Power from Christ , he is able to do the work of a Christian , and of an Apostle , to resist Temptation , to bear Affliction , and glory in Tribulation : He was able wisely to improve what he had , and willingly to part with it ; able to deny himself , and yet enjoy himself , when he had done so . In short , while you bitterly complain , that you know not what to do , have a care you do not overdo , in inflaming your own wounds , afflicting and sinking your own Spirits , when the hand of God hath touched you . Secondly , Labour to extricate your selves , and with all possible speed procure your own deliverance and enlargement out of these Distresses . Submit to the Loss God hath order'd out to you , and to the Affliction with which you are exercised : Hath he brought you into the Dust , lay your Mouths there , and lie quietly till he bring you forth to the light , and shew you his Smiles and Salvation ; but get out of the distress as fast as may be , only see that it be in the right way . Be content that a Storm should be upon thy Tabernacle as long as God will have it there , but command thy Soul to be silent , and still , and as soon as thou canst , recover the calm of thy Spirit . Our Lord and Saviour of his own accord came to do the Will of his Father , and without hesitancy yielded to a suffering Condition , not running from it to the last , but breathing out his last upon a Cross , but his Agony did not last long ; very sharp indeed it was , so that therein he sweat drops of Blood , but it was short , and quickly went over again , and in all his after Trials he expressed a full and most sweet Composure of Soul , and carried it with a true greatness of Spirit . There should be in us a due sense of Losses and Afflictions ; otherwise we shall be guilty of offering an Affront unto God , and putting a slight upon him ; and we shall prejudice our selves by not serching that good out of an Actiction which we might : But still we must be careful to moderate our grief as much as possibly we can , both as to degree and duration , returning to a right and even Temper . It is most honourable for the Christian , and comfortable to him , when Grace doth that which Time will. In order hereunto , I advise these four things . First , Ease your selves in a way of Prayer . It is indeed very good , when an Oppressed Person can broach the Vessel , and give his Sorrow vent in Tears : I my self have known some ( among others an Eminent and Noble Lady ) so full of Sorrow , that their Hearts were ready to break , relieved by Weeping , when all their Friends that came to Comfort them , prov'd Physicians of no value ; but the best , and most excellent way , is to mingle Tears and Prayers together . Weep over your Afflictions if you can , but withal go and tell your Father of them , pouring out the Complaints and Desires of your Souls into his Bosom . Poor Hannah was in great distress , having an Adversary in the House with her , who multiplied provocations to make her fret , whereupon she became bitter of Soul : In that Case she tried what God would do , and sought unto him , 1 Samuel 1. 10. She wept sore ; that she could not help , nor did she endeavour it , Tears have their Rhetorick , but she also prayed : And O! how much did she gain by it , what abundance of Peace , what Quietness and Comfort did her Prayer fetch into her ! It is said , ver . 18. She went away , and her Countenance was no more sad : While she was praying , God gave her a Gracious Smile , a look of Love , and she was a cheerful Woman ever after . Faith and Prayer will do the work , notwithstanding the difficulties of it , and scatter the Clouds , be they never so thick . The more a gracious Soul relies on God in a way of Believing , and seeks him in a way of humble , fervent Supplication , the easier will every Burden be to it , the lighter every Affliction , and the more comfortable every Condition . Secondly , Put the most fair and candid sense you can upon Providences ; and make the best interpretation of every thing God doth with you . We should have both Honourable Thoughts of it , and Amicable too , for He is too Righteous to do wrong to any of his Creatures , and too Gracious to do hurt to any of his Children . When our Lord had open'd the Ears of the Deaf Man , and loos'd his Tongue , the People said 7 Mark 37. He hath done all things well : say the same of God , for it is true : He doth not fail in any of his Undertakings , nor miscarry in any of the works of his hands , but doth all things like himself , like a God. Do not only assert this of his Providences in General , but bring it down , and apply it to particular Dispensations . He hath done well in this , and well in that , 119 Psalm 65. Thou hast dealt well with thy Servant , O Lord , according to thy Word : 71 Verse , It is good for me that I have been afflicted . 75. I know , O Lord , that thy judgments are right , and that thou in faithfulness hast afflicted me ; Go ye , and do likewise . He hath done well in emptying me , for had I continued full , I might have grown proud , and denied him , saying , who is the Lord : He hath done well in taking my Husband , my Father , my Teacher from me , for being ripe for Heaven , he was gathered . He had finished that Work which was given him to do ; and it is more than a thousand pities that a Good Man should outlive his Work , or stay in a place where he hath nothing to do : It is pity but that a Faithful Servant of Christ , when he hath dispatch'd the business he came for , should forthwith be taken up to his Rest , and have an entrance granted him into the Ioy of his Lord : Believe this also , That in all God's dealings with you , he intends you a Kindness ; if a Raven be sent to Elijah , it shall carry Food for him ; the very Rod blossoms with Love , and bears the peaceable fruit of Righteousness . Iacob was mistaken , when he said , 42 Gen. 36. All these things are against me : Good Man , he little knew then what God was doing for him . Do you rather say with Paul , 8 Romans 28. We know that all things work together for good , to them that love God ; this shall work so , and that likewise . Thirdly , Look off from the Afflictions you feel , to the mercies you have ; from the Comforts you have lost , to those that are yet left . God might have stript you of all , for you have made frequent forfeitures . We took notice before of God's dealing with Vpright Iob , who in a little time was deprived of all , brought to the Ashes , having his Body over and above smitten with fore Boils , from the sole of his Foot , even to his Crown , yet had he then something left him for his Support and Comfort , viz. The witness of his Conscience . Tho' his Wife was very unkind , a Thorn in his side , and spake bitterly , when she bade him Curse God , and die ; yet Conscience was within him like a Bird of Paradise that sung sweetly , while it told him , he was not wicked , and bare Testimony to his Integrity . God hath taken from you an Husband , a Father , a Wife , a Mother , a Child , one Child after another , a dear Brother or Sister , a faithful Friend , a diligent Labourer in the Vineyard : But ask your selves the Question , what hath God left me ? And be sure that the present Loss , be it what it will , do not so corrupt and vitiate thy Palate , as that thou shouldest not taste the remaining Mercy : Rather let the Mercy which remains influence thy Spirit to the alleviating of the present Loss , and enabling thee to bear thy Burden the better . Possibly some here have lost the Husband , or Father is dead , Estate is spent , Debtors are broke , Trade fails , all is gone , and no visible way for a Livelihood . Be it so , yet there is something left for you ; namely , a God , can you not live upon him ? Cannot you rejoyce in him ? You may read of one that could , 3 Habbuk . 17 , 18. and you have Promises left , which are exceeding great and precious : Go feed upon them , believe them , plead them , and turn them into Prayer . Lastly , Often relieve your selves with Meditations upon the fulness and sweetness of Christ. Was Ionathan pleasant to David ? how pleasant then is Iesus , far more than Ionathan was , or ever could have been ? And tho' Ionathan be dead , yet Iesus is risen . He is said to rejoyce over his Church as the Bridegroom over the Bride : And he saith , 7 Cant. 6. How fair and how pleasant art thou , O love , for delights ! And shall not Saints reckon Christ so ? They that know what he is , and what Communion with him is , do , and will witness with the Spouse in 1 Cant. 16. Behold ! thou art fair , my Beloved , yea , and pleasant . O , how fair must he needs be , who is the Sun of Righteousness , who outshines all the Beauties in the World , all the Angels in Heaven , and who is the brightness of his Fathers Glory , the express Image of his Person , 1 Heb. 3. And how pleasant must he needs be , who puts a sweetness into our worst things , so that the Saints have taken joyfully the spoiling of their goods , 10 Heb. 34. and a deliciousness into their best things . It is He that makes Truths sweet , being the Marrow of the Gospel ; and Ordinances sweet , they are but the Dishes , he the Feast . It is He that makes Heaven sweet : What would that place be without his Company ? There indeed Saints are , and shall be without Sin , and without Sorrow , above Affliction , and above Temptation ; all this is very good , but that which commends it , and is its self yet better , is , they shall there be with Christ. 14 Ioh , 3. Where I am , there ye shall be also : And said Paul , 1 Phil. I desire to be dissolved , and to be with Christ , which is far better . Yea , it is Christ that commends God himself to us , for out of him he is a consuming Fire , and everlasting burnings ; 33 Isa. 14. We could not endure his Presence . In him He is reconciled , a Father of Mercies , and God of Comforts , 2 Cor. 1. 3. So that he must needs be pleasant , and with this comfort your selves : Whoever is dead , whatever is gone , you have Christ still , who hath said , He will not leave you comfortless , but will come to you . It may now be expected I should speak something concerning my Dear Brother , who fought a good Fight , kept the Faith , served his Generation according to the Will of God ▪ and hath now finished his Course ; but there is no need , his Works praise him : You have known his Doctrine , and manner of Life , and so have others who were gainers by his Ministry , being begotten , nourished and built up by the Gospel he Preached . Take therefore what I shall say in short ; thus : He was well accomplished with Learning , and furnished for the Work to which God had call'd him . His Abilities and stock of Knowledge were very considerable , as they found who conversed with him . He was , I am perswaded , truly Gracious , an humble Christian , a profitable Preacher , an able Catechist , and a Faithful Friend : He was a wise Man , and a Man of Peace , one that did adorn his Profession by his unreproveable and exemplary Conversation . God hath been pleased to take him from us , I do bewail my Loss , and so do many of you yours : But he had done his Work , and is now , I doubt not , taking an Everlasting Rest in the Bosom of his dearest Lord. His Faith let us follow , considering the end of his Conversation . FINIS .