Dating violence - Wikipedia Dating violence From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia Jump to navigation Jump to search Relationships (Outline) Types Genetic or adoptive Kinship Family Parent father mother Grandparent Sibling Cousin By marriage Spouse Husband Wife Open marriage Polygamy Polyandry Polygyny Group marriage Mixed-orientation Partner(s) Significant other Boyfriend Girlfriend Cohabitation Same-sex Life partner Friendship (romantic / cross-sex / zone) Sexual Casual Monogamy Non-monogamy Mutual monogamy Polyamory Polyfidelity Cicisbeo Concubinage Courtesan Mistress Activities Bonding Courtship Dating Engagement Bachelor's Day Mating Meet market Romance Singles event Wedding Endings Breakup Separation Annulment Divorce Widowhood Emotions and feelings Affinity Attachment Intimacy Jealousy Limerence Love Platonic unconditional Passion Sexuality Practices Bride price dower dowry service Hypergamy Infidelity Sexual activity Transgression Repression Abuse Child Dating Domestic Elderly Narcissistic parent Power and control v t e This article is about dating violence in general. For teen-specific dating violence, see Teen dating violence. Dating abuse or dating violence is the perpetration or threat of an act of violence by at least one member of an unmarried couple on the other member in the context of dating or courtship. It also arises when one partner tries to maintain power and control over the other through abuse or violence, for example when a relationship has broken down. This abuse or violence can take a number of forms, such as sexual assault, sexual harassment, threats, physical violence, verbal, mental, or emotional abuse, social sabotage, and stalking. In extreme cases it may manifest in date rape. It can include psychological abuse, emotional blackmail, sexual abuse, physical abuse and psychological manipulation.[1] Though most frequently the perpetrator of abuse is a male partner against a female partner, abuse by a female partner against a male also takes place. Dating violence crosses all racial, age, economic and social lines. The Center for Relationship Abuse Awareness describes dating abuse as a "pattern of abusive and coercive behaviors used to maintain power and control over a former or current intimate partner."[2] Contents 1 Profiles of abuser and victim 2 Characteristics 2.1 Emotional abuse 2.2 Psychological abuse 2.3 Sexual abuse 2.4 Physical abuse 2.5 Controlling behaviour 3 See also 4 References 5 Further reading 6 External links Profiles of abuser and victim[edit] Individuals of all walks of life can find themselves in an abusive relationship. Abuse can occur regardless of the couple's age, race, income, or other demographic traits. There are, however, many traits that abusers and victims share in common. The Centre for Promoting Alternatives to Violence describes abusers as being obsessively jealous and possessive, overly confident, having mood swings or a history of violence or temper, seeking to isolate their partner from family, friends and colleagues, and having a tendency to blame external stressors.[3] Meanwhile, victims of relationship abuse share many traits as well, including: physical signs of injury, missing time at work or school, slipping performance at work or school, changes in mood or personality, increased use of drugs or alcohol, and increasing isolation from friends and family.[4] Victims may blame themselves for any abuse that occurs or may minimize the severity of the crime. This often leads to victims choosing to stay in abusive relationships. Strauss (2005)[5] argues that while men inflict the greater share of injuries in domestic violence, researchers and society at large must not overlook the substantial minority of injuries inflicted by women. Additionally, Strauss notes that even relatively minor acts of physical aggression by women are a serious concern: 'Minor' assaults perpetrated by women are also a major problem, even when they do not result in injury, because they put women in danger of much more severe retaliation by men. [...] It will be argued that in order to end 'wife beating,' it is essential for women also to end what many regard as a 'harmless' pattern of slapping, kicking, or throwing something at a male partner who persists in some outrageous behavior and 'won't listen to reason.' Similarly, Deborah Capaldi [6] reports that a 13-year longitudinal study found that a woman's aggression towards a man was equally important as the man's tendency towards violence in predicting the likelihood of overall violence: "Since much IPV [Intimate Partner Violence] is mutual and women as well as men initiate IPV, prevention and treatment approaches should attempt to reduce women's violence as well as men's violence. Such an approach has a much higher chance of increasing women's safety." However, Capaldi's research only focused on at-risk youth, not women in general, and, therefore, may not apply to the entire population. Characteristics[edit] Emotional abuse[edit] They are afraid of their date They are afraid of making the date angry and are unable to even disagree with the date. Their date has publicly embarrassed and humiliated them. Psychological abuse[edit] The date threatens to use violence against them or against themself. (e.g. "If you leave me, I will kill myself".) Sexual abuse[edit] See also: Date rape The date forces their partner to have sex with them. They are afraid to say 'no' to the date's demand for a sexual act from them. The date does not respect them, and is only interested in gratifying their own sexual needs. The date does not care about the consequences of the sexual act or how their partner feels about it. Physical abuse[edit] They were subjected to some physical attacks by their partner The date has held them down, pushed them, or even punched, kicked or thrown things at them. Controlling behaviour[edit] Main article: Controlling behaviour The date has tried to keep him/her from seeing friends. He/she restricted from contacting his/her family He/she is even forced to choose between the date and his/her family and friends. The date insists on knowing where he/she is at all times and demands that he/she justify everything they do. The date will be furious if he/she spoke with another person of his/her preferred sex. The date expects him/her to ask permission before seeking health care for themselves. The date dictates what he/she wears and how he/she appears in public. See also[edit] Date rape Loveisrespect, National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline, of the National Domestic Violence Hotline Sexual bullying Teen dating violence Violence against women References[edit] ^ "Family and Community Development @eCitizen. Warning Signs of Abusive Relationship". Archived from the original on 6 January 2009. Retrieved 13 January 2009. ^ Warning Signs of Abuse ^ Centre for Promoting Alternatives to Violence ^ Common Myths and Facts Alabama Public Health Training Center. pp. 3-4. ^ Strauss, Murray A. (2005) "Women's Violence Towards Men Is A Serious Social Problem." In D.R. Loeske, et al., eds. Current controversies in family violence. Newbery Park: Sage Publications. ^ "quoted in Sacks, Glenn. (2009) Researcher Says Women's Initiation of Domestic Violence Predicts Risk to Women." on HuffPost, 6 July 2009. Retrieved 9 January 2019. Further reading[edit] Tuller, A.; Raghavan, C. (2010). "Dating Violence". In Fisher, Bonnie S.; Lab, Steven P. (eds.). Encyclopedia of Victimology and Crime Prevention. 1. Thousand Oaks, Calif.: SAGE Publications. ISBN 978-1-41-296047-2. External links[edit] Dating violence at Curlie Canadian resources RespectED, Provided by the Canadian Red Cross, give information to teens, parents, and teachers about abuse in dating relationships. UK resources The Hideout Women's Aid Respect US resources Center for Relationship Abuse Awareness National Domestic Violence Hotline ACADV.org - created by the Alabama Coalition Against Dating Violence, provides a Dating Bill of Rights. Jennifer Ann.org - provides free educational materials to schools and groups and sponsors video game contests about teen dating violence from Jennifer Ann's Group. Love Is Not Abuse.org - sponsored by Liz Claiborne, provides educational materials. Love Is Respect.org - runs the National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline. National Youth Violence Prevention Center - offers articles and fact sheets. The Safe Space.org - created by Break the Cycle, offers information and allows teens to submit questions. v t e Abuse Types Anti-social behaviour Bullying Child abuse neglect sexual military marriage Cruelty to animals Disability abuse Domestic abuse Elder abuse Financial Marriage Gaslighting Harassment Humiliation Incivility Institutional abuse Intimidation Neglect Persecution Professional abuse Proxy abuse Psychological abuse Physical abuse Police brutality Religious abuse Sexual abuse Stalking Structural abuse Verbal abuse more... 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