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Keying and markup guidelines are available at the Text Creation Partnership web site . eng Anger. 2004-10 TCP Assigned for keying and markup 2004-10 Aptara Keyed and coded from ProQuest page images 2004-11 John Latta Sampled and proofread 2004-11 John Latta Text and markup reviewed and edited 2005-01 pfs Batch review (QC) and XML conversion A PLAIN DISCOURSE ABOUT Rash and Sinful Anger ; AS A Help for such as are willing to be relieved against so sad and too generally prevailing a Distemper even amongst Professors of Religion . Being the Substance of some SERMONS preached at Manchester in Lancashire . By HENRY NEW COME M. A. and a Minister of the Gospel there . LONDON : Printed for Tho. Parkhurst at the Bible and Three Crowns in Cheapside , near Mercers Chappel . 1693. TO THE Christian READER . I Have of late been much pressed by a dear Friend ( not only to me and mine , but to all good Men , and to the Church of God ) that I would have done something this way , about Family Worship . A thing sadly dis-used even amongst great Professors of Religion . A thing greatly to be complained of and lamented , as that which betokens decay of Piety amongst us ; and that Hypocrisie in the Professors of Religion herein expressed , joyned to the professed prophaneness amongst us , may portend Ruin and Destruction unto us . I confess I have upon occasion insisted oft on this Subject , but it having been still by the by , and of no one Subject on purpose , it seemed too much for me , both for want of strength and leisure , to gather into one , what lyes so dispersed : And besides , I could not per swade my self into any opinion of such a Performance if it had been done by me ; especially when so much is extant already on that Subject . Besides some of former date , as Mr. Paget's Demonstration of Family Duties ; and Mr. Ambrose in his Media : so of late the Reverend Mr. Baxter in his Christian Directory , hath spoken fully to it , and proved the Divine Appointment of it , p. 489. and p. 594. to this Question , Is a Man bound to pray ordinarily in his Family ? He answers ; I have answered this affirmatively , and proved it . One grain of Grace would answer it better than Arguments can do . And the truth is , if Men out of wicked partiality , and love to their neglect of their Duty , will take it for granted , and venture to go on , and will not so much as consider what is thus offered against their Course . they may die in their sin , and be damned , and who can help them , or will pity them . And the latter answer about one grain of Grace , is mighty startling , I should think . Implying a total want of true Grace , where these Duties are wilfully neglected . True Grace sets upon Prayer naturally ; a new-born Child is not better known to be alive by crying , than a new-born Soul by praying : Acts 9. 11. Behold he prayeth ; and therefore doubt not but he is converted — And this grain of Grace doth so naturally carry the Soul out unto God , for assistance and only satisfaction , that it is rather inclined always to be in Prayer , than to neglect it at any time when it may lawfully do it . And his Zeal to God and the good of Souls disposes him to take his Family with him ; and if there were not a Duty to God , to do other Business , ( which God allows of , and is mediately served in ) he would do nothing but read , and pray , and praise , much less refuse it , when he is permitted as oft as he can . There is a great deal of difference between them that would always be in these Duties if it were lawful , and those that are so apt to neglect them as much as they can , as not necessary . And worthy Mr. Doolittle , in his Sermon on that Subject in the Morning Exercise , in p. 74. Serm. 15. hath so learnedly , exactly , and pathetically spoken to that Subject , that I know not what can be added to it . I did sixteen or seventeen years ago my self earnestly move him , that he would print that Sermon by it self , as that which I was desired to press him to by some in the Country , that thought it might do much good in a single little Book by it self ; whereas , as it was , it lay out of the reach of the most , ( especially that most needed it ) as not being able to come up to the Price of the whole Volume . His answer was , That the Copy was the Booksellers , and not his , and so it could not then be done . But I would humbly renew my Request to my Reverend Brother , thinking that that Objection in this time should cease to be of any force , and that the Bookseller might have no cause to complain , if he had the Profit of it in a single Book , of which it need not be doubted , there would be a ready Sale. I cannot but be grieved at what I remember I was affected with , ( to hear when I was but a Youth ) concerning London , that it would have ravished a Man's heart almost , to have gone in the Streets on a Lord's-day at night , and to have heard them almost in every House singing or reading or praying , that one would have thought himself almost in Heaven . I was much surprized and troubled when many years after I came first to London , and found so little of these practises ; Singing of Psalms almost quite disused in Families ( and prosessing Families too ) a practice that obtained from the very beginning of the Reformation , and that whereby Bishop Burnet hath observed the Protestants were distinguish'd from the Papists ; the Lord's-day much neglected and made common ( and it is so in most other Towns ) whereas it was the Badge of a Primitive Christian , without which he could not assume the name ; implied in that Dominicum Servasti ? Christianus sum , if not misapplyed and true , it had been a great Charge . This Man is not of God that doth not keep the Sabbath-day , Joh. 9. 16. It is observable , that in times when these practices were least favoured , that a Law should pass , That all and every Person and Persons , whatsoever , shall on every Lord's-day apply themselves to the Observation of the same , by exercising themselves thereon in Duties of Piety and true Religion publickly and privately . How this is consistent with unrestrained walking about the Streets , that Day , many making their Visits , and discoursing of Dogs and Horses , and such like ; that have so heavily reflected on others for not observing the Laws ( which have been of disputable matter ) and yet this Law to be no way binding , it remains un-understood . It hath been observed that Nations and Places have flourished , or not flourished , as the Lord's-day hath been more or less observable . [ See the Epistle to the Reader to Sabbatum Redivivum , the first part . ] Some may be sure that Religion shall never keep up in that Town , Family , or particular Soul where the Lord's-day is prophaned or neglected . Famous Judge Hales was so strict an observer of the Lord's-day , that he observed things went well or ill with him in the Week , as he had been strict or negligent on the Lord's-day . And let Men observe it in their Families , and in Persons , that Religion shall languish , and sensibly go back , where the Christian Sabbath is neglected . I shall take it for a sign and a means of Proficiency or Non-proficiency in Religion , as this holy Day is observed . And let me here suggest a word of humble Advice : 1. That all Persons would make Conscience of needless neglect of their Attendance on the Publick on the Lord's-day . Not to make necessities , nor easily and pleasingly to admit them ; but to account it a burthen and a loss to be hindered . Pray ye that your flight be not on the Sabbath-day , Mat. 24. 20. Some make this savoury and likely sense of it , That though if necessitated , they must fly for their Lives on that Day , yet it would aggravate their Grief and Misery , that it must be on that Day , to deprive them of the Comforts of the Ordinances of that Day in the full Liberties of it , Psal. 65. 4. & 27. 4. As the good Woman , that when with Child , prayed still , that if the Lord pleased she might not Travel on that day , as if she were desirous that others might not be hindered for her necessary help , and that she herself might have the Comforts of the Sabbath to help her to bear up under her Pains . It is very sad when People cast to set out , or to keep on a Journey on that day , as if they counted it so much time gained ; or to cast to take Physick that day , &c. The conscience of never having needlesly or willingly neglected the Publick , when in a capacity for it , will be a great Relief when by sickness or weakness a Person is under an unavoidable detention : And on the contrary , it will gaul sadly when a Person cannot go , that he has wantonly and carelesly neglected to go when he might have gone . And 2dly , when the Publick is done , to make conscience of keeping within the rest of the day , to attend to Catechizing the Children and Servants , and to secret Duties , &c. There needs no part of this holy Time to lye upon your hands , if you consider your own Needs , and the Advantages of a total and thorough Improvement of it . Renowned Judge Hales was so afraid of loosing any part of that holy time , that wherever he was , he pursued some pious Subject for holy Meditation , the product whereof mostly are those excellent things of his that are printed . And this I will subjoyn as a matter of ( true , though ) sad Observation , That as many have at the Gallows acknowledg'd that the beginning of their Ruin was in the prophanation of the Sabbath , and in the total neglect of it ; and many on their sick Beds have been loaden with their sin this way in a chief place : So the Scandal that some Professors have run into , hath been justly ascribed to their too much Liberty on that Day , being either needlesly going out , or having Company coming in for Diversion or common Converse , without the respect due to that holy Time. And for Family Duties , I desire it may be considered and observed , 1. Whether Success in Affairs can be expected , when not prayed for ? 2. If Crosses unexpected befal you , you could look for no other , when you did not commit your self and Family and Affairs to God's Blessing and Protection by solemn Prayer . And 3dly , for your Souls , how should they thrive , when no Worship of God among you ? No marvel if unfaithfulness be in Servants , disobedience in Children , drunkenness , and bastardy , and what not break in upon the House , where there is neglect of Religious Duties in it : what is there to keep such Mischiefs out ? As I remember a holy Man once to a Family related to him ( where he called at the Door to enquire of their health and welfare ) asked , Whether there was any thing done to keep the Devil out of the House ? meaning , was there any religious Duties in the House to entitle and relate the House and Family unto God. If it be Carnality and Flesh-pleasing , and love of Ease that makes you lye in Bed so long , that you have not time for Duties when you get up ( and it may be you cast for it that it may be so ) because you love it not . I remember what I have heard a reverend Minister say that knew the famous Mr. Bruen , that he had-heard him say , That it was better to deny the Body a little rest , than deprive the Soul of the benefit of a good Duty . Old Christians would have got up on purpose , that they might be ready to worship God in the first place with all their Family . Good Men in the former Age , they would have robbed themselves of rest at a night , to have read the Scriptures and good Books , whereby they became brave knowing Men , and got up early in the Morning to have Duties with their Families , and so had orderly and religious Families . If worldly Business croud in upon you , and hinder religious Duties , to neglect them or shorten them , you must cast to be up before them , and be afraid lest any thing should come in before the Blessing . But if these Necessities are consented to , and frequently hinder your Duties , it will be a load to you when you come to die . A good Man on his Death-bed ( dying from home ) desired me to warn People of their being too busie and eager in the World , to the neglect of Prayer in their Families , as what he found then a burthen to him . And for Duties at Night , I will suggest one thing , that Men should make conscience of keeping good hours in coming in ; that by tarrying out late , they do not unfit themselves for performing them , or unfit the Family for joyning in them . And for Friendship and good Neighbourship , I should never be against it , provided you consider the time , with respect to Family Duties to be performed , both in the House you are in , and at your own House too . But there is another great Fault , and sadly general , and that amongst Professors of Religion , who do keep up Family Worship , and that is of rash and sinful Anger ; of which the Men of old ( and Women too ) professing Godliness , made conscience , as well as of the Sabbath and Family Duties ; and to be guilty of such Outrages as many of us are , was counted little less than scandal . I have therefore very lately taken up that Subject to testifie and help against it , if it pleased God. The same Friend requiring at my Hand to publish these Notes , I was not willing to deny it . Out of my great and deserved respects and deference to him , whom I rejoyce to oblige , and for that being so lately preached , I could with some more ease recollect what I have on the Subject ; but chiefly for that I am satisfied in his Reason for such a Work , for the great Necessity of it , only a better Hand for it had been desirable . I have oft said it , That there is scarce any sin that prevails so generally as this does , that does so much mischief as it does , and that so little conscience is made of , as is of this . They generally make it the Professors sin , and set it against the Prophaneness and Drunkenness that abounds amongst the Irreligious . And though under favour we may say it is not only the Professor's sin , for there is Rage and Wrath enough with them , together with their other Wickednesses ; they can be angry and drunken too , &c. yet it is a reproach to Religion that there is so much of it amongst the Professors as there is , and though it be not proper to us , yet it is sadly too common amongst us . I do not design an Invective against it , nor any Persons guilty of it , but a compassionate charitable relief and help against it ; and so it may prove , if God bless it , and set it on , and it be taken as it is in sincerity intended and designed . And if it should take effect , that Men and Women should make more conscience of it , and be more watchful against it , so that it might be less amongst us than it hath been , I shall account it as considerable a Success as almost of any Subject I could have preached of . And why should we despair of seeing such an effect , what is too hard for Grace and the Spirit of God to work us unto ? To make Lions and Lambs to lye down together . I deserve no Applause , nor look for any ; nor yet will beg pardon of any , for being to bold with his sin . And if I meet with Scorn from some , it is what I look for , and have had Experience of in those few things I have troubled the World with . But he that will not bear a Scorn , if he can hope to do good to any Soul , is of too narrow and selfish a Spirit for a Minister of Christ. The humble modest Christians that shall get good hereby , I desire they will be thankful to God , and pray for Their Servant in the Gospel , Henry Newcome . TO THE READER . THere are two Discourses lately come to our view , by two very excellent Servants of Christ , the Authors whereof both labouring in the Lord's Vineyard in the same Country * , and not at a remote distance from one another ; are however much nearer to each other in Spirit , Judgment ; Design , and dearness of mutual Affection . And the agreeableness of these Discourses to one another , and their joynt subserviency to one common End , the promoting of practical Godliness , is not less conspicuous than that which is between the Authors themselves . The one treating of Personal Order , the other of Domestical . That , Christian Reader , which is here offer'd to thy view , is a most useful Preparative and Prerequisite to the other . 'T is plain , they can neither be capable of being good Governours , nor indeed useful Members , of Families ( much less of larger Societies , Sacred or Civil ) that have not learn'd to govern themselves , or bear rule over their own Spirits . So unruly a Creature as Man is , within himself , must undergo a great transformation , to make him regularly , and profitably sociable with others . It was predicted by the Evangelical Prophet , That in the happy Times of the Gospel , the Wolf shall dwell with the Lamb , and the Leopard shall lye down with the Kid ; and the Calf , and the young Lion , and the Fatling together , and a little Child shall lead them , Isai. 11. 6 — 9. By which Metaphorical Expressions , is represented in lively colours , the strange effect , which the Government of Christ shall have upon those , who by the Ministry of the Word , shall be subdued by him , and made the obedient Subjects of his Spiritual Kingdom , and his willing People in the day of his Power , in the Beauty 's of Holiness . They shall through the efficacy thereof upon their Hearts , be so changed , that they shall seem New Creatures , metamorphosed , or transformed , as it were , out of Beasts into Men : Such as before were of a fierce , hurtful , venomous Disposition , like the forementioned savage and venomous bruit Creatures , should become meek , and gentle , harmless and tractable , and converse together in peaceable and friendly manner , as becomes the Subjects of the Prince of Peace , and Professors of the Gospel of Peace . But how , or by what means shall this strange and stupendous change , be brought to pass ? This is rendred as the Reason , for the Earth shall be full of the Knowledge of the Lord , as the Waters cover the Sea. The abounding saving Knowledge of God in Christ , revealed in the Gospel , and made effectual by the Spirit , shall thus new mould and transform Men into the Image of God , and make them conformable unto Christ , who was meek , and lowly in heart , and was love incarnate . We live in Times wherein Knowledge does abound ; but how little of the forementioned effect , and powerful change of the temper and disposition of Mens spirits , is discernable , or to be found ? Hath the Gospel , which at its first Promulgation , was so powerful to change sinners of the Gentiles into Saints ; and to turn them to God , from Idols , to serve the living and true God ; by calling them out of darkness into marvellous light : hath it now lost its power , and become like the Law , weak through the flesh ? No certainly , the everlasting Gospel is still the Power of God unto Salvation , to every one that believeth ; and is mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds , casting down imaginations , and every high thing that exalteth it self against the Knowledge of God , and bringing into Captivity every Thought to the Obedience of Christ , 2 Cor. 10. 4 , 5. But though we have the Gospel , yet we have too little of the Spirit of the Gospel , though the Gospel be come unto us in Word , yet too little in Power and in the Holy Ghost : for how little of the fruit of the Spirit , which is Love , Peace , Long-suffering , Gentleness , Goodness , Meekness , &c. is to be found amongst those who profess themselves to be the Disciples and Followers of Jesus Christ ? But the Works of the Flesh , are so manifest , that they need not be named ; unless it be to reprove them . Amongst these , rash and sinful Anger , does partake , and discover much of that Root of Bitterness , from whence it springs , in its mischievous effects , in which it is so fruitful , that they cannot be numbred for their multitude , nor enough bewailed for their sinfulness ; the Tongue is called a world of Iniquity , when set on fire by this Passion , yea , set on fire of Hell , as the Spirit of Truth , who speaks both of Persons and Things as they are , doth assure us , James 3. 6. No Passion stands in more need of Moderation than this , because it is one of the frequentest that Men are troubled with , and the most unruly , and does the least admit of restraint , from Reason , or Religion , the one being dethron'd , and the other quite forgotten , while the Passion prevails and is predominant . How useful then and seasonable is this Treatise , as a Remedy to so common a Malady ▪ as an Antidote against so pestilential an Infection ; for 't is very catching , and speedily spreads from one to another . The Reverend , Pious , and Learned Author , hath comprised much in a little room , convincingly setting forth the sinfulness , with the mischievous Effects of rash Anger ; and also the most effectual Means to prevent , restrain , and keep it within its due Bounds . The Treatise may serve as a Glass , wherein they that are subject to this Passion , and the Excesses of it , may behold how ill it becomes any , who pretend to the Government of Reason ; and much worse becomes those who make profession of Religion ; for if it be considered , how much of Religion lies in Love , ( Love being the fulfilling of the Law ; yea , he that dwelleth in love , is said to dwell in God , and God in him . ) It 's easie to infer , or whether Men will make the Inference or no , because unwilling to condemn themselves , ( as the Jews in the Question about John's Baptism ) yet the Consequence is unavoidable , that where there is much Passion , Strife , and Contention , there is but little of Religion : He that bridleth not his Tongue , may seem to be religious , but his Religion is vain , James 1. 26. i. e. comes short of obtaining the end of Religion , which is Salvation . But how lovely and endearing in it self , and what an ornament to Religion is Meekness , Slowness to Anger , Readiness to Forgive , and not only so , but to render Good for Evil ? A meek and quiet Spirit is in the sight of God of great price . Reader , let it be so in thine , and then thou wilt answer much of the Design of this Treatise , and ours in recommending it , who are Thy Servants in the Lord , JOHN HOWE , JOHN STARKEY . PROV . XXV . 28. He that hath no rule over his own Spirit , is like a City that is broken down , and without Walls . THE Proverbs of a latter Collection , ascribed yet to Solomon ( which begins in this Chapter ) admit of more connexion than the former did ; yet some of them are entire Sentences , as this is for one , intreating of a Matter diverse to what went before , and so admits of no Light from the Coherence . And it will be our work to handle it as an Entire Proposition , and as a Doctrine , in the very words , viz. That he that hath no Rule , &c. And so shew , 1. The sence of the Similitude , A City that hath had Walls , and has them broken down , or is an unwalled Town , is of no Defence . Jeremy sadly laments the Walls of Jerusalem to be broken down , and Nehemiah also , and was at great , care and cost to rebuild them ; and thought the People but half restored till this was done : A place that lyes open is in a sad condition , and next to being ruined , especially when Invaders are abroad , and Enemies near , as were about Jerusalem . In such a Case , ( 1. ) Any Body may come in unnoted , and rob and spoil ; and Forces may come upon them , and nothing to make resistance with , they may take such a City without the cost or trouble of Besieging . ( 2. ) Any Body may go out and escape Justice , and go over to the Enemy and betray it . ( 3. ) Strangers may come in and inhabit , and so spoil it's Riches ; may swarm all over it , and eat up the Inhabitants . The Safety , Honour , and Government of the Place all void when it lies open on this manner ; they are sure of nothing ; can call nothing their own whilst in this Condition . This in the Application of the Parable signifies , 1. That the Soul of Man was at first made a defenced City , encompassed with Walls , and bravely secured from Enemies both from without and from within . 2. That these Walls by the Fall are broken down , and in the Unregenerate all lies open to Invasion without Resistance or Defence . 3. That there is something of great value in the Soul which is worthy to be kept , and in danger to be lost . 4. That it is the great Work of Grace to build up the Walls which Sin hath broken down , and to set up the necessary Defences and Fortifications . 5. That to keep them in constant good repair , is a good Man's great care and duty . The Muringer is a great Officer in this City . 6. That it is a most deplorable and lamentable thing to have these Walls broken down that sometimes have been up , and betokens ruin to that Place ( and Soul ) if it be suffered to lye in that order . 2dly , In likeness to this , What is it for a Man to have no rule of his own Spirit ; the Man that hath no Cohibition or Retention to his own Mind . No Bridle , says one , no Command or Empire , says another , who doth not , or cannot keep in himself homo animi sui incontinens . Such a Man is obnoxious and liable to many Losses and Dangers . Now his own Spirit , the Subject of this Empire and Rule is , 1. By many taken largely ( and truly ) for all his Affections ; they ought to be bridled and restrained , The Flesh lusteth against the Spirit , Gal. 5. 17. and the Spirit that is within us lusteth to Envy . James 4. 5. It may signifie the force of both the Concupiscible and Irascible Appetite , that we should check and restrain the inward corrupt Lustings of the Soul , that they may not break out into inward or outward act to his own or others prejudice . And Judicious Cartwright on this place says , It concerns us to search especially what Vice we are most addicted to , and to take special care that we do not in that thing break out , by leaving our Spirits without guard . We must take care to compass about our Mind and Affections with a Wall , Gates and Bars , and all little enough , that what should not go out be kept in , and what would not come in be kept out . All Excess in any of our Carnal Affections , restraint must be carefully and duly laid and kept upon . There are those Men that have no government of themselves , and their Fort lies open to be taken upon every Summons by the Enemy . Such are the Lustful and Unclean , 2 Pet. 2. 14. Having Eyes full of Adultery , and cannot cease from Sin. Every Whore-masters then . Prov. 7. 21 , 22 The Drunkard , that counts it a piece of Kindness and Civility and good Nature to go with every one that asks him to the beloved Alehouse , and that on the Lord's-day it self . He hath no Walls , can see no time to give over ; he hath no rule of himself at all ; when he awakes he will seek it yet again , Prov. 23. 35. He loves drink at first ( at least as he says ) for Company sake , but he will soon love it for Drink 's sake ) that he cannot be without it . Ale and Wine is his Element , he has commenced and taken his Degrees in Debauchery , and now adds Drunkenness to Thirst , ( Deut. 29. 19. ) hath attained to a drunken Thirst , and now he hath made Excess natural and necessary . We have a distinction of seasoned Drunkards , such as have arrived to a great habit , and cannot but drink ; and can drink too , and not be prejudiced by it . These are men of Empire in their Slavery : but many Well-wishers to the Trade are spoiled in the seasoning . But seasoned or seasoning , they have no power in the case . And for Unrighteousness , Oppression and Covetousness , many have no rule of themselves at all . If they can but get in the World , they care not whom , nor how much they hurt , nor how much wrong they do to their own Souls . And some have no rule of their own Spirits for Acts of Charity ; they have no power to part with any thing , but are scandalously sordid and base in their Contributions ; hardness of heart and covetousness hath the whole Empire in them ; they forget to distribute , Hebr. 13. 16. or not at all proportionable to their place and havings . 2. The Passion of Anger , many restrain it to that Eccl. 10. 14. the Spirit there signifieth Anger . So Prov. 16. 32. he that is slow to anger is better than the mighty ; the more truly great and valiant Person , that keeps down and keeps in his Passion . He is a Man of great strength that is rarely Angry : 1. Because there are always Provocations enough : 2. Because a Man is naturally apt to be provoked . Men are the most mistaken in their Judgments in this thing , to count him a poor pusillanimous Man , that is not angry when provoked and injured ; it is not weakness of Mind , but great strength and mightiness ; He is better than the mighty , and is liker to God , and in greater honour with God , Angels and good Men , than the most valiant Man ; and he that ruleth his Spirit , than he that taketh a City . He that can keep out of Anger , or can keep it down , is a mighty Conqueror . He is more honourable than the most glorious Victor over a strong City . He is better , 1. Because it is a sorer War that a Man has with his own self and with his own Affections , than to fight with others , because the Enemy is more unseen , and has more interest , does all by Treachery and Ambuscade ; and the danger and loss is greater to be beaten ; in the other Warfare it 's but loss of Honour or outward Goods , &c. but this is in the loss of the Soul. A Man fights with himself to save his Soul. 2. Because this Victor profits himself , and hurts no Body else ; in the other case Men are sure to hurt others , and it may be not much profit themselves . 3. Because the other overcomes by the help and hazard of others ; the Patient overcomes per seipsum & in seipso , by himself ( assisted only by Divine Grace ) and in himself . 4. The Dispassionate Man overcomes not only Flesh and Blood , but the powers of darkness , Eph. 6. 12. And I will assure you the Powers of Hell are no little concerned in these Wars and Victories , since he that moderates not his wrath giveth place to the Devil , Eph. 4. 26 , 27. Now how aptly doth my Text annex to this , That he that hath no rule over his own Spirit , is so far from being such a mighty Man , and a Conqueror , that instead of being better than he that conquereth a City , he is one so base , that he loseth his City : He makes his City , that might be a strong Hold for God , to lye open and naked , and to be invaded and spoiled at every turn , as being broken down and without Walls . 3dly , Some will have it signifie the neglect of the Tongue , and certainly there is much unfortifiedness on this account , and so great damage , when Men have no rule of themselves in what they say , make no choice in their words , but to say what 's next . Psal. 39. 1. and 141. 3. When Men pour out every thing without respect , 1. to Time , 2. Place , 3. Company , ( 4. many times Truth ) to throw out what comes next , much damage comes to the poor Creature this way ; In the multitude of words there wants no sin , Prov. 10. 19. It is a great thing to have Walls in this case . It is something of government when a Man can hold his peace , so as ( 1. ) Not to trouble the Company with impertinent Stories of himself ; and ( 2. ) To be sure not to speak what shall hurt them that are present , or them that are absent : Prov. 29. 11. A Fool uttereth all his mind ( or spirit , Marg. ) and such an one to be sure hath no rule of his Spirit : But a wise Man keepeth it in till afterward ; saith not all always that ever he can , but keepeth some for another time . The known story of Pambo's Lesson is of great Instruction . Some wise Heathens had such bounds on their own Spirits , with respect to their Tongue , as to say , they would never speak at all , but when their speaking might do more good than their silence . And Thomas Kempis , It is an easier thing to be silent than not to offend in speech and multitude of words . Talkative People want rule , and walls about their Spirits . James 3. 2. If any man offend not in word , the same is comparatively a perfect man , and able also to bridle the whole Body . As if , rule the Tongue and rule all . Prov. 17. 27 , 28. He that hath knowledge spareth his words . It is want of wisdom to be too talkative . Even a fool , when he holdeth his peace , is counted wise ; and he that shutteth his lips is esteemed a man of understanding . When some Stranger was among the wise Men of Athens , ( if I misremember not the story ) and took notice of , and writ the wise Sayings as they came from each of them ; and when one among them let nothing fall towards the Collection , and was solicited to do as the rest had done , he answered , You may report where you go that there are some in Athens that can hold their peace . Where there are no Doors about the Lips , nor guard there , there oft much hurt is done . Prov. 15. 2. The tongue of the wise useth knowledge aright ; venteth not all at a time , nor at all times ; but the mouth of fools poureth [ or belcheth or bubleth ] out foolishness . And Verse 28. The heart of the righteous studieth to answer [ considers to speak appositely and to purpose ] but the mouth of the wicked [ for want of that due consideration speaketh at random , and so ] poureth out evil things . Now this rule over a Man 's own Spirit ( to serve my design ) I shall take in the latter Senses conjunctly , with respect to Anger exprest by Words ( and Actions , if it goes so far , as oft it doth . ) But Anger and angry Words seldome are asunder . Men have no rule of their own Spirits , and lye open without Walls , that offend this way . 1. Anger is a natural Passion , and may be without Sin ; nay , is given us for the due resisting Sin , Eph. 4. 26. Be angry , but sin not . If you be angry , be sure you sin not with it . Our Saviour looked on them with anger , being grieved for the hardness of their heart . Anger and grief for mens sins are justified by our Savours example ( as Mr. Baxter on that place ) . Anger at sin , and an Anger with grief and pity to the sinner , is the only lawful Anger . It is Anger at sin , but not an Anger to sin . They that are Angry and sin , are seldom angry at sin , as sin , at all . Pure Zeal is sanctified Anger . In human things ( says one ) Anger is lawful , when it is for Vertues sake , or in the cause of others , but then it must be in measure . And this modus irascendi [ the measure in Anger ] cum ne plus aequo irascamur , tum ne aequo diutius [ is when we are not angry more than is fit , nor longer than is fit . ] We pretend Anger ( says a great Divine ) to the Sins , not to the Persons , for God's , not our own Cause . But this may be discovered , 1. In the partition of God's and our own Cause ; as Moses in the Rebellion of Korah , he was Angry ; God's and his own Cause engaged in it . But see them single , Miriam and Aaron offered a private Injury ( though a great one ) and he gave them not a word . The People make a Calf , he throws down the Tables , and chides all . A meek Lamb in his own Injury , a fierce Lion in God's . 2. If it be against Sin , we shall not sin in it . As David about Nabal , falls to swearing , and conceives a bloody Intention of Murder , and an ungodly Revenge . 3. Holy Anger doth not unfit us for any Duty towards God or Man. As Moses was angry with the People , and chid them and more , yet even then he prayed to God for them . Jonathan angry at his Father , yet a Son and a Subject at the same time . Sincere Anger is a loving Anger and a devout Anger ( says the same excellent Man. ) 2. Anger therefore to Sin ( which is sinful Anger , as God knows most of our Anger is ) is a great Evil , as Mr. Baxter ( on the fore-quoted place ) but use it not blindly , rashly , and inordinately to sin . Those that have Walls strong enough to keep in just Anger and Zeal for God , that it degenerate not into some selfish end at some side of it , may have no Walls to keep out intemperate Wrath. Now it is sinful , 1. When it is against that which is good . To be angry when Men do well , and will not sin with you , nor sin as you do , and to speak evil of good Men and good Practices , this is Diabolical Wrath. The Spirit that is within us ( if we have no rule over it ) lusteth to Envy , James 4. 5. Men may be really and wickedly Angry , when others do better than they can find in their hearts to do . And hence proceeds detraction and lessening others all that ever we can . And some have no rule over their own Spirit in this respect . If no Body were better nor stricter than thou , It would please thee better . 2. When Men are angry at their Brother without cause . No design to offend thee , and no real true Cause of offence , if examined ; yet upon misapprehension Men oft are angry . This is for want of rule of your Siprits . That Men oft fly at others in the dark , and are in a rage without scarce any colour of Provocation ; like the barking Dog that flies at the next comer , and it may prove his own Master . 3. When Men are angry for a small Cause . Anger is too great an Effort of the Soul , to be let out for a Trifle ; like as to raise the Militia to set a Vagabond in the Stocks . The matter , whether real or no , however it goes , will not bear so great a commotion , so great a ruffle and disturbance . Thou couldst not have been in a greater heat if some body had offer'd to have killed thee , than thou art for a wrong look , or a misplaced or mis-accented word . Some with some sort of People , know not when they shall offend , they will be offended for so little a thing . It is all one almost what is the occasion , if they can be angry they will be angry , as if they were big of it , and it were an ease to them to be delivered . 4. When Men are angry too much for a real great Occasion . To be angry without Cause , Aristotle expresses it to be quibus non oportet , de quibus non oportet , & magis quam oportet ; with whom we ought not , and for what we ought not , and if Person and Thing would bear it , yet we must not be angry more than we ought . The Party hath done greatly amiss , yet you should not be angry without bounds , as to break out into all manner of bad words ; some times against God himself . Some will curse and swear when angry , and speak any thing to villifie his Brother that hath offended him . Racha and thou Fool are nothing with some of you . Where are your City Walls and Gates and Bars this while ? And if it proceed to Blows it is sadly Excessive ; thou art in too great a Passion to strike for Correction , or indeed to intend it ; and to do it for Revenge is a great and dangerous Usurpation upon the Soveraign Avenger , and he will be avenged on thee . A moderate Anger and Resentment might have served for a Fellow-servant , that hath a Master in Heaven to account unto . 5. When Men are angry too often . We should be slow to wrath , and long-suffering , and not easily provoked . But when Men are as oft angry as ever they can ; when it may be said to some , when did you ever avoid Anger if there were occasion for it ? where are your Walls this while ? The holy and blessed God , it is truly to his glory said of him , Psal. 78. 38. Yea , many a time turned he his Anger away , and did not stir up all his Wrath : But far be it from you to do so ; you have waved many an Opportunity for the Soul , many an Opportunity for Charity , and of doing Good ; but an Opportunity for Anger many can truly say they have rarely , if ever missed . 6. When Men are Angry with too many . An ordinary thing , when some hath angered us , to be angry with all about us ; some one hath displeased thee , and now no body can please thee ; the Innocent are disquieted , and ▪ equally treated with them that have offended ; a most unreasonable and unjust thing : This is one way , that the Fool troubleth his own House , and shall inherit the Wind by it , Prov. 11. 29. A hard task some have for their desired Peace , that to please for their own parts will not do it , unless every body else please too , which is in no ones power to procure . 7. When Men are Angry too long : Can never give over when they begin . How great a matter a little fire kindleth , James 3. 5. If you intend amendment to the Party , fewer words in love were liker to effect it ; but this length of Dispute provokes more sin , and no one knows when it will be at an end ; and then to let the Wrath settle , no one knows what it will end in : when you cannot end your Wrath at one bout , but fall into sullenness , and keep it up for days : O sad ! what a dismantled City is this ? Is the Sun gone down upon your wrath ? Was there so great matter for it ? or rather , will you so far give place to the Devil ( Eph. 4. 26 , 27. ) as to take him to be your Bed-fellow . God is slow to wrath , and will not keep his Anger ; but you are ready to be angry , but not ready to lay it aside , unless it be quickly to return to it again . 8. When it proves digested wrath , and ends in hatred ( which is ira inveterata , inveterate Anger ) and desire to revenge . If you are Angry with any one , so as to be willing to do them hurt , this is sinful and unchristian . You should not admit every one that hath crossed you , ( nay , if he hath wronged you ) into the List of your Enemies ( for you are to keep no such Roll ) . And none should be your Enemy so far , but you should love him , and be ready to do him good so much the rather , that you may win him with kindness , and overcome evil with good , Rom. 10. 20 , 21. To do any one any hurt in your sudden Passion , is a great wickedness ; and to say you did it in your Anger , will not excuse it , ( no more than doing such a thing when drunk ) but rather aggravate your sin , and double your guilt . Who gave you leave to be Angry ? To cast Firebrands about , and to say it was in sport , ( Prov. 26. 18 , 19. ) is as good as to say , I was angry when I did this undecent thing . What Mischief had David like to have done in his wrath ? and how thankful is he to God that he was restrained and prevented . What a grief of heart might the angry Expedition of that Day have been unto him , when he had been in best Prosperity , as was wisely suggested by Abigail , 1 Sam. 25. 31 , 32 , 33. John Cardinal de Medicis , Son to Cosmo Duke of Florence , rode a hunting with his Brother Cortia , at the killing of the Hare , the Brothers fell ▪ to debate about the first hold , each of them attributing the honour of it to his Hounds ; one word drew on another , till the Cardinal gave Cortia a Box on the Ear ; Cortia immediately drew upon him , and thrust him into the Thigh , of which he died presently : A Servant of the Cardinals , in revenge , gave Cortia a sore wound , so that ( saith the Historian ) with the Venison , they carried home to Duke Cosmo one Son dead , and the other wounded , of which he died soon after . The brave Atchievement of Anger let loose , and the destruction upon destruction upon the City without Walls . But to premeditate Revenge , and to bear Grudges after you have fallen out , and to dare to say , I will do to him as he hath done to me , ( or as in our own Dialect , I hope to be even with him ) Prov. 24. 28. or to rejoyce when any Evil comes to him , Vers. 17. This is sublimate Wrath , and no way consistent with the Religion of Love and Forgiveness , of which you make Profession . Here is a Spirit ruled by the Devil himself ; for you know not what Spirit ye are of ; for the genuine Spirit of the Gospel is Diametrically otherwise : Whereas there is envying and strife — are you not carnal , and walk like Men , 1 Cor. 3. 3. but if you design Hurt and Revenge , you walk like Devils ; and where are your City Walls this while ? This poor Soul lies open , naked to all the Invasions of the Enemy ; and where this is in this height ▪ there is confusion and every evil work , James 3. 16. I shall subjoyn in this place once for all that famous passage of our Saviour on this Subject , Matth. 5. 21 , 22. where he to vindicate the Law from the corrupt and too scanty Interpretations of the Jewish Teachers , he speaks of the Law about Murther ; where he takes notice that they made the Law to reach only the outward Act , and the Punishment only to reach the outward Man : but he shews that this Law may be broken by the heart , and a Man may be a murtherer that is unjustly angry with his Brother , and hates his Brother . For ( 1 ) such a one would kill if he could , for the time that his Passion is up . And ( 2 ) oft murthers are owing to such Causes . And such Passions , if indulged , none knows what they may end in . But the Punishments are from God sure to fall on them that kill , and on them that are angry in order and tendency to kill , in allusion to their several courts and degrees of punishment , which rise from simple Death , Stoning and the Sword ; and for heinous and most flagitious Crimes to burning alive , or burning their Bodies when dead , an execrable thing among them ; and this was counted the Punishment of the Valley of Hinnom ; you shall find worse from God than all this comes to . If you be angry without cause , so as to be wrathful and evil-minded towards your Brother , to hate him , and wish him hurt ; if it go no further than the heart ▪ it is a damnable sin , if not repented of ; but greater the sin and danger if it break out into words : To say Racha , a vilifying expression , and the action that usually accompanied it is implied , spitting on him or at him ; vilifying him unjustly , as the vilest of Men ; with respect to his Person and outward Condition , to treat him with the greatest Scorn and Contempt . A thing God allows not towards any , for the honour of our common Nature . A Malefactor that deserves disgraceful Scourging yet he must be beaten within such a number of stripes , ( Deut. 25. 2 , 3. ) least thy Brother ( even such a one as this , even as one at the Rogues Post ) should seem vile unto thee . And will God suffer it unrevenged , that ye shall in your Spleen and Passion vilifie any one on some private ( it may be but conceited ) Injury , to call him ugly , beggarly , pitiful Fellow , because he hath angered you . But it is higher yet to call him Thou Fool ; in Scripture sense this reflects upon his Mind and Morals , as a most wicked Person , to be cast out of all Society , as an Heretick and one Accursed , and judged fit for nothing but Hell. To reprobate them in thy Rage and Malice , and wickedly to pass thy doom upon him , and to damn him as far as in thee lyes , by making him a Scripture Fool , which is a flat wicked Man. Dr. Lightfoot will have rash Anger to be guilty of the Judgment of God , and these two latter to be obnoxious to Punishment from the Magistrate , as things not to be tolerated , as tending to break the Peace , and to further Mischief if not curbed . And Dr. Gell on this place says , There ought to be in the Church , Courts and Councels to judge and censure reproachful words . All shews the great evil of unbounded unjust Wrath , the evil of it and the mischief that it doth , and that much more if it take degrees with you , and break out in unchristian words , it shall not escape the Judgment of God , and if not repented of , it shall meet with his Hell fire properly so called . Men must not begin Anger without a just Cause , nor continue in Anger above a just time . One reckons up ( appositely enough ) four sorts of angry Men : 1. Some it is soon kindled in , and soon goes out ; the cholerick People , like Gunpowder , no sooner toucht , but instantly fire in your face , yet all but a sudden flash . 2. Some long in kindling , and long in going out . These are of a melancholy temper , long before they burn , but last a great while . 3. Some soon kindled , and long in burning ; and these wrathful Wretches are worst of all . 4. Some long in kindling and soon cooled ; and these are best of all , and likest unto God ; they will not begin Anger unreasonable , nor continue it unseasonable . There are two things to be done to pursue this Similitude to the designed end of it . 1. To shew the Damages we are liable unto whilst thus unwalled and unfortified , which may serve as Motives to the Duty implied . 2. To shew the way to be fortified better , as the best Means against this great Evil. 1. The Damages we are liable unto , by not having due rule over our own Spirits , by being unwalled and unfortified . Our Wall is broken down , and we lye open . 1. In General . 1. To our vigilant Enemy to break in upon us at pleasure , and that is the Devil ; if we abide in Wrath , we give place to him , Eph. 4. 27. which implies he hath a chief hand in kindling this fire , and adding fewel to it , and is highly pleased with it , and gets great Advantages against us by it . You make one another sad , but him merry by your clamours and quarrellings . Now is his time , 1. To destroy Love ; 2. To aggravate the Offences ; 3. To help you with provoking words ; 4. To put you on in your heat to say or do something , that else would not have been said or done ; and 5. To lay a foundation for more work of the same kind for the future , by boiling it to hatred and malice and enmity and perpetual uncharity . 2. To our base Corruptions to break out ( which yet had been kept in ) to the disquiet of some , and scandal of others . One would not have thought there had been such a superfluity of naughtiness in thee , as this Passion hath let out to the hurt of all about thee . That gets out now which will not easily be gotten in again ; and that gets vent now , that will not be fetcht back again . Such base words had never took Air but for this occasion : but where there is no Walls , these Salleys will be frequent as they are filthy and mischievous , such as are bitterness , and wrath , and anger , and evil-speaking and malice , Eph. 4. 31. If there be any thing within against thy Brother , that were fitter to be kept in , now it breaks out to his reproach and great prejudice , by the hurt it may do him , and the hurt it may tempt him to do in his own defence or vindication , or it may be Revenge . Any thing that is evil within ( and there is always enough ) may now break out , for the Walls are down , and there is nothing to keep it in . 2. Both these ways more particularly , there is great hurt done by , and to , this unguarded Spirit . By the Incursions and Excursions before-mentioned . It damnifies 1. In thy Innocency , and lays thee under guilt ; thou canst not be innocent , and do thus from time to time ; thou art a Transgressor of the holy Command , that forbids unjust and inordinate Anger . Thou sinnest in thy self , within thy self , and thou sinnest in thy words and actions . He loveth transgression that loveth strife , Prov. 17. 19. and an angry man stirreth up strife , and a furious man aboundeth in transgressions , Prov. 29. 22. It is sin , and that is no little evil ; but the Sin of Anger seldom goes alone . * Swearing , † lying , reviling , violence , &c. do oft attend it . 2. In thy good frame and disposition for holy duty , without which thou canst not live . The performance and acceptance of Religious Duties is sadly hindered hereby , because rash Anger is so great a sin ; therefore before you offer your gift you should end your quarrels , Matth. 5. 23 , 24. Take special heed of Anger that your Prayers be not hindered , 1 Pet. 3. 7. that it hinder not the duty , or the success of it ; you must remember to pray lifting up holy hands , without wrath and doubting , 1 Tim. 2. 8. 3. Consequent , or a part of this , it will damnifie in the presence of God to thy Soul , without which thou wilt have a poor dull life , Psal. 63. 1 , 2 , 3. Thou hast fumed him to a distance from thee , and shalt not find him to influence thee and comfort thee , as sometimes he hath done . He may well take his turn to be angry , and thou maist find it to thy cost . 4. In thy Peace . If you would not grieve the Spirit that should seal you , you must put away all bitterness and wrath , Eph. 4. 30 , 31. The sweet Spirit will not abide in the House , where there is so much noise , that good men have no mind to be there , if they could help it . No marvel if you want inward peace , when you are so unquiet , that we cannot know by this work , what Spirit you are off . To be sure in this temper and outrage you are not of the Spirit of Christ , choose what you are in the main . And if the Truth of Grace can be consistent ( at least evident ) amidst such habituated Passion , is very hard to understand . That sad word ( of a great Man of God ) I have often mentioned , That they rarely have much Peace of Conscience that do not make Conscience of Peace . Who will wonder , or almost pity you , when you complain of unassuredness , when you indulge Anger as you do . How can you hope that God should be well pleased with you , when no body almost can please you . 5. In thy wisdom . It is want of presence of mind ( that is , of Wisdom ) or thou wouldst not turn thy self out of doors , on this fashion , for a slight cause , or for any cause , Prov. 17. 27. a man of understanding is of an excellent ( or as it is in the Margin ) of a cool Spirit . It is a Nabal , and folly is with him ; that is , morose and evil humoured that he cannot be spoken to , ( 1 Sam. 25. 17. 25. ) that setteth Will and Humour above Reason . Anger resteth in the bosom of Fools . Eccl. 7. 8 , 9. The discretion of a Man deferreth his Anger , Prov. 19. 11. It is want of Discretion to be angry . Ira [ Anger ] is ab ire , to go out of himself , and to be pacified , is redire ad seipsum , to return to himself . A proud man ( saith one ) has no God , an envious man no neighbour , and an angry man hath not himself . 6. In thy Honour and Reputation . It is a great abatement to any man that he is a rash and passionate man. Proud and haughty Scorner is his name that dealeth in proud wrath , Prov. 21. 24. It is a blemish to him to be under such a Character . An Heathen advised an angry man to look in the Glass in the Paroxysm , what a disfigurement it is , Eyes flaming , Countenance distorted , Mouth frothing , &c. Nescio utrum magis detestabile vitium an deforme , Seneca . I know not whether it be a more detestable or deformed Vice. Men have no pleasure in converse with such a man , lest he be hurt or infected by him , Prov. 22. 24 , 25. And is it not a fine credit for thee to be marked , and to be warned of , as one to have as little to do with as may be ? Make no friendship with an angry man , &c. He is too hot to make a Friend of , or to keep in with any while , or to have much comfort from , or not to be prejudiced by at some turn , or at the long run . But especially it damnifies the honour of the Religion thou professest ; when Men shall have an occasion to say , If this be your Religon , or these be your religious Folks , fair fall a good quiet Carnal man , as People call them . 7. In thy Authority , where thou should'st have it and use it for God. He that knoweth not how to rule his own House , how should he rule in the Church of God , 1 Tim. 3. 5. And how should he rule his own House , that cannot rule himself ? This passionateness makes him cheap to those he should govern . They will not heed him when he speaks importantly , because he oft speaks passionately and unadvisedly . Such a one is an angry passionate Person , and therefore not so much to be heeded . The words of the wise are heard in quiet , more than the cry of him that ruleth among fools , Eccl. 9. 17. A quiet sedate man that speaks quietly and weightily , shall be more heeded and obeyed , than those that make a noise ▪ and think to rule with great words , and by strong hand , whom none but Fools will much regard . 8. In thy ease and comfort of life . Anger of it self is trouble , and brings troubles from those we converse with , and God oft severely punishes this Sin in crosses and disappointments , in sickness and sin of relations to tame them . God doth not fail to afflict to make men see , and repent of this sin , and to seek Peace with God and Men : Who hath wo ? who hath sorrow ? who hath contentions ? who hath babling ? who hath wounds without cause ? but the angry man as well as the drunken ; as well he that hath no rule of his own Spirit , as he that tarries long at the wine . 9. In the danger of the Soul. He that is angry with his brother without cause , is in danger of the judgment , Matth. 5. 22. that is , of God's wrath and judgment , if it be not repented of and forsaken ; and this judgment of God reaches the Soul with respect to eternity : And the truth is , the danger is greater , because men are loath to be in a fault for Excess this way , and so to humble themselves , as they should do , that they may obtain mercy and favour of the Lord. And if ye forgive not men their trespasses , neither will your Father which is in heaven forgive you , Matth. 6. 15. the sad Process of habituated Anger . The poor Wretch is so used to it , that Salamander-like , he lives in the fire , always crossing , and chiding , vexing himself and those that are about him ; it is his Element . Angry with Enemies and angry with Friends ; angry for little things , angry for nothing ; angry at his work , angry at his meat ; angry in health , angry in sickness , Eccl. 5. 17. Hath great wrath in his sickness . It may be he is angry at his sickness , or at least angry with all about him when sick , and no body can please him ] and it may be sadly feared it will end in wrath passively , least the remainder of wrath the Lord put on [ as some read that instead of restrain ; Psal. 76. 10. ] least he now take his rightful turn of Anger , and make thee feel it to all eternity . To improve our Parable , I shall conclude this Head in comparing this City broken down to the lamentable condition of a glorious City , in the taking of it , and the desolation of it . 1. In the taking of it ( Jerusalem I mean ) Jer. 39. 2 , 3. the City was broken up . And all the Princes of Babylon came in , and sate in the middle gate [ where their own Kings and Rulers use to sit , to rule and do Justice , and acts of Government ] even Nergal-sharezer , Samger-nebo , Sarsechim , Rab-saris , Nergah-sharezer , Rab-mag , with all the residue of the Princes of the King of Babylon . Now I sometimes think that it was in no honour to these men , that they are named thus in the holy Records ; but it is to give Emphasis to this sad change which sin had brought upon this famous City . To have men of such names , of such uncouth sounds sit here , so diverse to Hilkiah , Eliakem , &c. Strangers , Heathens , &c. O God , the Heathen are come into thy Inheritance , Jerusalem have they defiled . So when thy City is broken up and dismantled by the Enemy , that always lays siege to it , and thou sufferest thy self to be invaded . O what a gang of Aliens sit in thy Gate , that where Reason and Grace and the Spirit use to rule , now Nergal and Rab-saris and Rab-mag sit in thy Gate , and has the whole Command for the time of thee . Envy , and Hatred , and Malice , and Jealousie , and Rage , and Cruelty , with the rest of the Princes of Babylon , have the sole rule in thee . And not unlike 2. to the Desolation of this City , will it be here , if Repentance do not relieve . A poor Wretch given up to his Passion is like the City . Isa. 13. 21 , 22. The wild beasts of the desert shall lie there , and their houses shall be full of doleful Creatures ; Owls shall dwell there , and Satyrs shall dance there , and the wild Beasts of the Islands shall cry in their desolate Houses , and Dragons in their pleasant Palaces ; that is , Anguish , and Vexation , and Sadness , and Darkness , and Discontent , &c. shall over-run and possess this Soul. Enough sure is said to perswade us against this great Evil , of having no rule of our own Spirits , but to lye broken down and without walls . The second thing to be spoken to , is , What is to be done , so as to be fortified , to have the rule over our own Spirits , so as not to be as a City broken down , and without walls . We see the Mischief that is done to , and by ungoverned Spirits ; what is to be done for remedy ? And this may serve for helps and means in this important case . 1. A true Principle of Good in the Soul. To be transformed by the renewing of your mind , Rom. 12. 2. To be brought into the true Spirit of Christ , which is a Spirit of Meekness . The hidden man of the heart , is the ornament of a meek and quiet Spirit , 1 Pet. 3. 4. A Soul full of the true fear of God , to be truly regenerate . The old man is a man of wrath ; put off all these , anger , wrath , malice , for you have put off the old man with his deeds , 3 Col. 8. 9. True Grace builds up the Walls , and engarisons the Soul for God. Grace reduces the Soul to its rightful Lord , and at the same time it is restored to the rule of it self ; like a City delivered from a Usurper is restored to its lawful Soveraign , and to its own Franchises the same day . Base men in Office before , and now the best bare rule that were turned out before . Then Lust and Pride , and Passion , and Covetousness ruled , now Reason and Discretion , and a good Understanding do bear sway . Prov. 2. 10 , 11. When Wisdom entreth into thine heart , and Knowledge is pleasant unto thy Soul , Discretion shall preserve thee , understanding shall keep thee . 2. The Example of Christ ; whose Name we bear , and after whom we are called [ Christians ] for his Patronage and Imitation . He did not cry , nor was his voice heard in the streets . Learn ( says he ) of me , for I am meek , dispassionate . In a world of provocations it was great wisdom in that great Man , that to keep him out of Anger , had that saying Matth. 11. 29. written in his Study always before him , to temper himself by whenever he was provoked ; Christ endured the contradictions of sinners against himself . Hebr. 12. 3. Christ hath left us an example that we should follow his steps , who when he was reviled , reviled not again , when he suffered he threatned not , but committed himself to him that judgeth righteously , 1 Pet. 2. 21 , 23. and that in the case of Life it self , and great bodily Sufferings ; and will not this Example serve to bear slight Indignities , which is our usual Exercise at most ? 3. To live in a constant sense of God's presence . Psal. 119. 168. I have kept thy Precepts and thy Testimonies , for all my ways are before thee . To break his Law before his face is very daring ; It 's dangerous to threaten or strike in the King's presence , nay , in the Verge of his Court. If you can get out of God's Court , you may chide on . Besides the undecency , rudeness , and unmannerliness , not to forbear your Contests , whilst he stands by , is unaccountable , a respect expected by any stranger , not much better than your selves . It may cool you , one would think , to consider that God hath seen and heard all . Potest miles coram rege suo non irasci , ob solam Regiae Majestatis eminentiam , Basil. A Soldier ( though Wrath and Envy seem to be the essential qualities of a Soldier ) can bridle his Rage , and put up an Injury in the presence of his King , how much more should not God's Eye check us in these transports of ours ? 4. To labour for true Humility , and low esteem of your selves . If you were lowly in heart you would be meek , Matth. 11. 29. Only by pride cometh contention , but with the well-advised is [ humility and ] wisdom , Prov. 13. 10. You are too good to be controlled , and no body knows any thing but you , and Wisdom no doubt shall die with you , and that makes you testy and touchy , and impatient of any Contradiction or Non-compliance , as if you were infallible , and none must think or speak otherwise than you do , on pain of your high displeasure . Prov. 28. 25. He that is of a proud heart stirreth up strife , but he that putteth his trust in the Lord shall be made fat . He that over-values himself despiseth other men , and is impatient of Contradiction , and the least Slight or Injury , and indulgeth his own Passion , shall not be fat , but shall be lean and miserable : But the humble man is one that trusteth in the Lord. He is mean and vile in his own eyes , and therefore trusts not to himself , but to God only ; making God's Will , and not his own Will and Passion , the rule of all his Actions , and can easily deny himself , and yield to others ; all which are excellent Preservatives against strife . He shall live happily and comfortably , because he avoids that strife which makes mens lives miserable . ( Mr. Pool on the place . ) Mr. Ball hated Passion in Professors , and would say , Look well to your hearts , for Passion is the effect of Pride . Keep a fresh sense of thy own vileness upon thy Soul. This humbleness of mind will make us for bearing and forgiving , Col. 3. 12 Alas ! all Wrath and Contention , and spiteful Words , and Revenge comes from Pride , and some rooted conceit of some Worthiness in thy self . Remember thy self , and it may make thee meek and placable , though abused and provoked . Alas ! Who am I , they vilifie me , and am I not vile ? I am beholden to my Enemies or my Friends when Angry , to know my faultiness and imperfections . Can they say worse by me than I know by my self ? A great matter , if it be true who speaks it : This poor man knows not me ; or this is not all the evil he would have said by me . 5. To be mortified to the world . Oft your great quarrels are about worldly Concerns , which if you were mortified to as you should be , you would not count them worthy of so much heat and passion about them . Those that are covetous , are oft horribly cross ; they are afraid the World should overgo them , and so oft withold more than is meet , and trouble their own House , Prov. 11. 29. How should sinful Anger be kept out , when Wives are straitned , and have not honour ( of due maintenance as the word imports ) and are not used as fellow - heirs of the grace of life , ( 1 Pet. 3. 7. ) And in other Occurrences and Occasions , mens too much love to the World will hazard the greatest kindnesses , if any thing of Meum and Tuum be toucht upon ; then these Dogs snarl and fight about their Carrion . Let the World rule you less , and you will rule your selves better . 6. To live by faith . There is an evil heart of unbelief in all roots of bitterness , that spring up among you , one towards another at any time . Faith in unseen things sets a huge wall about our Spirits , against all Incursions or Excursions to our prejudice . Actual believing gives reality to greater things , which may possess our Minds , and stir up other Affections in us , to imploy us , so as not to be vacant to such mean things as these are that we vex about . Moses endured , as seeing him who is invisible , ( Hebr. 11. 27. ) And Faith will fetch in help from Heaven , to repel and overcome all Assaults made upon us , Luke 17. 4 , 5. Our Saviour spake considerably to this matter , when he advises his Disciples to take heed to themselves , and that is about passing by and forgiving many provocations , for you are sure to have many ; and unless you take great heed , you will be liable to miss in this , as in any thing , in not forgiving as you should do : but it is your duty to forgive , and that again and again . And on this the Apostle said unto the Lord , Increase our Faith ; without more Faith then yet we have , we can never pass by such reiterated Provocations ; but if our Faith be encreased , it will furnish us with Arguments enough , why we should do it , and with strength in Soul whereby we may be able to do it , and a great deal more . When your Passions are so high , your Faith is low ; believe , and you would be calmer at any time ; Faith is a mighty stickler of Tumults in the Soul ; and Faith is set aside when you give way to such intemperancy of Spirit as you do . Through Faith ( and it alone ) you do more than subdue Kingdoms , [ you may subdue your selves ] and work righteousness [ even the righteousness of God , which the wrath of men never worketh , Jam. 1. 20. ] and out of weakness be made strong , wax valiant in fight , and turn to fight these armies of the Aliens . What a disappointment and defeat doth believing Patience give to your Enemy , when Anger and Wrath is suppressed and turned by ? He thought by it to have had the Plunder of the City , and to have quartered his Legions upon you , to have enthralled you , and to have kept possession for him . But by the Fortifications of Faith and Patience you hold out , and keep your Peace and a good Conscience , and it may be you cause your Enemy to fly to his loss , and gain to your selves by it , to increase your strength against another time , from the Success and Comfort you find in this stout resistance . 7. Live in Love. Christian Love in its genuine Latitude would rule thy Spirit . It will cover a multitude of Sins of other Folks , and prevent abundance of thy own . If Love suffereth long , and is kind , envieth not , vaunteth not its self , is not puffed up , doth not behave it self unseemly , seeketh not her own , is not easily provoked , thinketh no evil , beareth all things , believeth all things , hopeth all things , endureth all things , 1 Cor. 13. 4 , 5 , 7. Where could Anger get in ? If love had this ascendency in the Soul , there would be no room for Passion . And it is evident that so much the more Anger , so much the less Love , at any time , look and judge where you will. He that covereth a Transgression seeketh love , Prov. 17. 9. And he that truly loveth , will cover what Transgressions he can . Uncharitable suspition ( says one ) is a cause of Anger , a good disposition makes a good exposition . Love one another , and then you will not willingly offend , nor easily be offended with one another . And study the Love of God ; 1 John 4. 11. If God hath so loved us , we ought also to love one another . Under sense of the Divine Favour , it is so taking , that we can do no less than love all about us : In a sense of his turning his wrath from us , and forgiving us , it cannot but make us lay down all wrath , and forgive all that offend us . And if we labour under the want of the manifestation of Divine Love , and feel his Displeasure , that he may be pleased with us , we would sure be willing to let our displeasure towards others , to fall , and to be at peace , that we might have peace . A thing not to be expected whilst we continue our Anger and undue Wrath towards any , Matth. 11. 26. But if you do not forgive , neither will your Father which is in Heaven forgive your trespasses , Matth. 18. 35. 8. Labour to have the heart always possessed with some holly thing . To be always under the powerful influence of some good word of God , to keep the heart savoury towards God ; Psal. 119. 11. I have hid thy word in my heart , that I might not sin against thee . The word of God should dwell in you richly , Col. 3. 16. If the Book of the Law is prescribed to the King , that he must have it with him , and read in it all the days of his life ; among other reasons , that it might help the temper of his Spirit , that his heart might not be lifted up above his brethren , Deut. 17. 19 , 20. Why should not this blessed word , read constantly by every good man ( with understanding , observation and application ) help his heart to carry without pride and passion towards all about him ? If it be sufficient to temper the heart of a King , shall it not be enough to temper such poor Wretches as thee and me . You should have Forces from Heaven to keep Garrison , or you can never keep Enemies out , nor keep order within . An empty drained heart will easily be surprized and disturbed . 9. Keep constant watch in this case . We must , because of the many Enemies that are ready to come against us , make our Prayer unto our God , and set a watch against them day and night because of them ▪ Neh. 4. 9. In the case of Offences , and passing by and forgiving , you will easily miss it , ( there will always be so many occasions ) unless you take great heed , implied in that of Luke 17. 3. ( as I hinted before ) . If you would carry as you should , do towards all Relations and others you have to do with , you must take heed to your Spirits , Mal. 2. 15 , 16 , you must cure your Miscarriages at the root , by getting your Spirits better compounded , and mixt and made up with the Graces that make a right Spirit , and then you must watch to keep it so , that you may neither deliberately nor suddenly deal treacherously . Though your Walls be built , you should keep a watch too , and all little enough . 10. Religious and rational Consideration . Have you no consideration with you , that you are thus transported on this manner ? Consider , 1. That rash Anger doth not work the Righteousness of God. Jam. 1. 20. It hinders duty to God , and oft brings in much sin . 2. That it seldom rightly intends our own good , and rarely effects it . What doth Anger do , but what Calmness might do , and do it better , and escape this trouble of vexation ? unless like the Dog in the Fable , that would not have his Bone unless he might fight for it . The soft tongue breaketh the bone , Prov. 25. 15. Wise men speak quietly , and do their business without noise , ( Eccl. 9. 17. ) and by this means prevail more with the weightiness of their counsel and calm delivery , than he that hath more power , and dealeth all in proud wrath . If what I would have done , may sooner and sooner be done by fair words , who would chide to have it done ? What a fine Life is it to have all things done in quiet ? Unless you love Anger , who would be angry , if he could do things as well , nay better , without Anger . 3. Consider that provocations are either intended , or not intended , ( as to the Party you are provoked by ) . If not intended , you do wrong to the Party to lay such an imputation upon him , to lay to his charge the thing that he knew not , or thought not of . If intended to provoke you , you are a Fool to gratifie him , and to fulfil his Design upon you . None can vex you , unless you will your self . 4. Consider the quality of the person you are concerned with . Seneca hath almost done this to my hand . Is it a good man that hath done thee the Injury , do not believe it . Is it a bad man , do not wonder at it . To strive with thy Equals is doubtful , with thy Superiors madness ; with thy Inferiors sordid and base ; either he that hath wronged thee is stronger than thou , or weaker . If stronger spare thy self ; if weaker spare him . A Christian may argue much more on this manner . If the Person provoking be above you , let good manners make you bearing . If below you , contend not , least it savour of pride , &c. It is some want of your part to conceive an offence , or possibly they would not give you offence . Their Ignorance is to be pitied , and not contended with . Answer not a fool acccording to his folly , least thou be also like unto him , Prov. 26. 4. If a bad man , have a care of exposing Religion by thy salleys of wrath , that you prejudice him not to Religion for want of a little Self-denial . The Turk that suffered a Renegado to beat him , and being askt by a Christian why he would suffer it , said , If you will turn to our Religion , you shall beat me too ; may shame us to high degree , that will abate nothing of our Humour , let it be never so great a prejudice to our holy Religion . If a good man , be loath to grieve him . If both good , more shame for you , that neither of you should have wit nor grace to forbear , or take up the matter betimes . If good Folks cannot spare one another , what can be expected from Enemies ? or what could the most Carnal do worse to you , or to one another ? 5. Consider that nothing can be got by contention , if you carry the day , that can countervail the loss of your Patience and Love in the contest . That celebrated saying of Gregory , It is better many times to fly from an Injury by silence , than to overcome it by replying . 6. Consider that all must be repented of . And if it be as bitter to you as it is to some ( that are rarelier guilty and less transported ) you will not buy no pleasure and repentance at so dear a rate ; and you will find your selves further off , the oftner you repent of this , unmanly , much more unchristian sin ; you might at any time , when all in a Tumult , with the Town-Clark , dismiss the Assembly , Acts 19. 40. with this , We are in danger to be called in question for this days uproar , there being no cause , whereby we may give an account of this concourse . 7. Consider that nothing in any anger with others is lawful , farther than you design and effect their good thereby , and not at all to satisfie your own Humour , or promote Revenge . And it is easie to see that another way is more likely to compass this . One advised , That we would not be angry at men that do amiss , but rather endeavour to cure their Faults , by the example of Physicians , that are not angry at the sick , but apply themselves to cure their Disease ▪ 2 Tim. 2. 25. In meekness instructing those that oppose themselves , if God peradventure will give them repentance . 8. Consider , least besides your own , you contract hereby the guilt of others sin , which you occasion . You provoke them to wrath too , to think , and speak , and do amiss as well as you , and so sin abounds in more than in your selves , or you occasion grief to others , and no good to your self . Thus Eccl. 9. 18. one of these sinners destroys much good , spoils Peace and Devotion in others ; and when thy Anger is done , it may be his will continue to do hurt for a great while . The beginning of strife is as when one letteth out water , Prov. 17. 14. [ He pulls up the Flood-gate , or cutteth the Dam , and can neither stop the water , nor know how far it may overflow , nor what mischief it may do ] therefore leave off contention before it be medleth with , Prov. 30. 33. It cannot be expected , but that as the churning of Milk bringeth forth Butter , and the wringing of the Nose bringeth forth Blood [ instead of blowing it , that should purge the Head , and cleanse the Nose ] so the forcing of wrath bringeth forth strife . Unless we did more good in the world , we should be mighty tender of doing hurt to others , as we are sure to do hereby ; such as we know not , how much or to how many , nor for how long . One is angry , and he angers another , and then he is angry at the others anger , and so in infinitum , there is no end when it is once begun . 9. Consider that you should do as you would be done unto ; Eccl. 7. 21 , 23. Also take no heed to every word that 's spoken , [ so as to catch at it , and be angry at it , and take it proudly , &c. ] . ( 1. ) Hast thou never done as much to any other ; what doth thine own heart tell thee on this account ? ( 2. ) Or maist thou not soon do as much , Gal. 6. 1. Or ( 3. ) wouldst thou be willing to be screwed , and aggravated , and no defence admitted , as thou dost no with thy Brother with whom thou strivest ? Or ( 4. ) would'st have God deal so with thee ? Job 31. 13 , 14 , 15. If I did despise the cause of my man-servant , or of my maid-servant , when they contended with me ; [ As if Servants may not sometimes be in the right , and must have their Cause despised , and their just Defence refused ; because Servants , they must take it right or wrong . Wouldst thou be willing to be thus born down , and not suffered to speak if thou hadst Truth on thy side , meerly because thou art an Inferior ? ] But what then shall I do when God riseth up , and when he visiteth , what shall I answer him ? [ if he be extream to mark what is amiss , who can stand ? ] to mark every little thing , and to aggravate our real Transgressions , as we do Appearances , it would be very sad ; and how can we look for other ? Col. 4. 1. Masters give to your Servants that which is just and equal , [ one part whereof is imputing fault unto them ] knowing that ye have a Master in Heaven , that will judge you without Passion , and call you to account for unjust judging of those that are under you . But Job goes on , verse 15. Did not he that made me in the womb , make him ; and did not one fashion us in the womb ? There is no such difference between us , that there must be such a distance , we are even in the Womb and the Grave , and therefore what needs this insulting and proud wrath . In a word , if Servants could observe that duty of not answering again , and Masters and Mistresses that of forbearing threatning , ( Tit. 2. 9. Eph. 6. 9. ) there would be more peace in our Families and in our Consciences too , than there is . 10. Consider that none gains by all your Anger ( or is pleased with it ) but the Devil . He has the pillage of the Field , whoever gets the Battel . He rejoyceth in your vexings and bitter words , whereby you grieve one another . He makes the matter worse , if he can , and gets it to settle into prejudice and hatred , that there may be matter for Anger from this day forward , for what was done at this time . Chrysostom hath an ingenious concession in this case : Wilt thou remember Injuries ? wilt thou be an Enemy ? wilt thou revenge thy self ? Spare thy own Members , and be an Enemy to the Devil ; never forget the Injury he hath done thee and whole Mankind . You may thrust your Sword-hilt and all into his Heart , and add another stab ; and how is this done ? why , when we spare one another , and are kindly affectioned one to another : It is what defeats much of the Devils work in the world , and will as much subvert his Kingdom as any thing you can do . Lastly , Consider and believe the universal Soveraign Providence of God , which extends to every thing , and all the actions of men . There is nothing you can be angry at , but what he hath ordered and appointed . A Sparrow falls not to the ground without the Father , Matth. 10. 29. The thought of this may curb me to dare to kick it when it is down , or any the like thing , because it fell not without him . If any one acts crossingly , or speaks provokingly , it is what God hath appointed , and who can say to him what dost thou ? This quieted David when Shimei cursed him ; Let him alone , God hath bidden him , 2 Sam. 16. 11. He orders all these things , to correct what evil I have done , to try my grace , to do me good by it ; and therefore I will keep my mouth and heart too , under all occasions of wrath . The 11th Help is , Have a care of a prejudice in your heart towards any one . A pique is a very ill unchristian thing ; to lay up an aversation in the Heart towards any , lays in for Anger towards that Person upon every occasion . Such a one can never say or do any thing right with thee ; old grudges makes Anger stir upon every occasion ; Ill-will never speaks well . Gen. 37. 4. When Joseph's Brethren saw that his Father loved him more than all his Brethren , they hated him , and could not speak peaceably to him . Some that we have prejudice to , we cannot endure to hear them speak , but are snapping and snarling at them , nothing is right which they say , nor we cannot afford to speak kindly to them , nor are willing to hear any speak well of them , 2 Sam. 13. 32. By the appointment of Absolom , this hath been determined , from the day that he forced his sister Tamar . A grudge conceived , lyes , and breaks out sadly . From such a day , such a passage , there hath been ill-will toward such a Person , and thence is all this passion towards him . I shall suggest two things under this Head. 1. That we take heed of Tales and Reports of others to their prejudice . Prov. 16. 28. A froward man soweth strife , and a whisperer separateth very friends ; and so he that loves to repeat old things , doth the same , to set men at a distance one from another , Prov. 17. 9. Lev. 19. 16. Prov. 11. 13. & 26. 20. therefore love not Tales , and take no heed to every word that is said . Hear both sides , and conceive not a prejudice upon hear-say . Isa. 11. 3. The blessed Messiah would not reprove after the hearing of the ear . To judge by hear-say ; a great fault and weakness in many , that if any hath spoken ill of a man , ( whether true or no ) that they take up with it , and judge and blemish him by it always , as if it pleased you rather to hear evil than good by another . Now a right Christian-heart desires that others should do good , and so are not hasty to believe evil of any . 1 Cor. 13. 6 , 7. He rejoyceth not in iniquity , but believeth all things , hopeth all things . Many may have cause to say as David , If they be the children of men that have stirred thee up against me , cursed are they before the Lord , 1 Sam. 26. 19. 2. That we clear our hearts of all prejudices towards any one whatsoever , to retain no Offence , though never so real , but to forgive and forget too . Injuries hurt not more in receiving them , than in remembring them . A small thing ( says one ) shall go as it comes , a greater may dine and sup with me , but it shall not lodge with me . Of the two ( says another ) it is better that the Scum boil over by Anger , than boil in by Malice . Some say they forgive , but they will never forget ; a Divinity the Scripture knows not . God says , he blots out our inquities , and remembers them no more , [ as if he did not only cross them out , but blot them out ] And we are to forgive , as God for Christ's sake doth forgive us . You cannot remember the Offence , but you retain it , and you are thereby in readiness to revenge , by words at present , and in act too upon a temptation . Some Heathens have done worthily this way : Tully said of Julius Caesar , That he was wont to forget nothing but Injuries . It is a notable Gloss that the Jewish Writers have on Lev. 19. 18. Thou shalt not avenge , nor bear any grudge against the children of thy People , but thou shalt love thy neighbour as thy self . They distinguish between avenging and bearing a grudge . They illustrate it thus , Thou shalt not avenge . If Reuben ask Simeon such a Courtesie , and he deny him ; and soon after he himself comes to Reuben to ask the like of him , and he says , No ; I will no more do it for you , than you did it for me . Now bearing a grudge is , when in such a case , Reuben should do the thing , but should say , I will do it , and will not do by you , as you did by me : in this he transgresses , for he remembers the offence , though he doth not retaliate it . God forgives throughly , his wickedness shall not be mentioned if he repent . So our Brethrens failings should not be mentioned by us ; they are not to be upbraided with any thing they have done unto us ; this through forgiving should be studied and practised . It is an observable thing , that if we go to Ordinances ( Prayer , Sacraments , &c. ) if thy Brother hath ought against thee , thou must leave thy Gift at the Altar , and go and satisfie thy Brother , and then come to offer thy Gift , Matth. 5. 23. but if thou hast ought against thy Brother , Mark 11. 25. thou maist make a short work of it , forgive that thy Father may forgive thee . Injury to thy Brother thou must satisfie , before thou prayest or comest to the Sacrament : but Injuries to thee must not hinder ; thou hast the power within thy self , that want of Charity shall not hinder thy duty . Thou must ( and maist ) forgive without any more ado , and so need not delay on that account to offer thy Gift . This clearing thy Soul of all Offences towards thee , is of great concernment . To rid thy self of any grudge toward any Person in the whole world , will be of great ease and comfort to thee . Like a good Man whom I knew , that in viewing his Shop-Books , and found here and there some old Debts standing , he took his Pen and crossed them all , and said , If you will not be even with me , I will be even with you . If the Debt hath been satisfied , it ought to be crossed and blotted out too ; but if not satisfied , nor never like to be , what should it stand to trouble me in the frequent review of it . If it be uncrossed by due payment , I can cross it out by forgiveness , and there 's an end of it . Such a clear Soul you should get and maintain , and it will take away much of your occasion of anger . 12. Inure your selves to defer anger , and to put it off some times . The Heathen will rise against us that counted Anger so unmanly ( and so unmanning ) a Passion , that between the Commotion and any Word or Action , he would repeat over the Greek Alphabet , that Reason might have a little time to recover its Seat , and to rule in the case . If there be Reason in it , it will be so anon , or to morrow . But it is a sign of an ill Cause , when it is all for present Execution ; it will not bear consideration , why then in reason never meddle with it . It is some cure of this Passion to delay it ; Anger is not like other Passions that grows by degrees ( says one ) but it is at full height at first . Prov. 19. 11. The discretion of a Man deferreth his anger . Frederick Duke of Saxony , when he was angry , would shut himself up in his Closet , and let none come at him till he had mastered his Passion . It is easier to exclude than to govern pernicious things , not to admit them than to moderate them when admitted — For when the Enemy hath gotten himself within the Gates , he doth not receive Law from the Captives . As if any should be guilty of such a transparent folly , as to let in a Conqueror , and think to make him a Prisoner . Use your selves to put off the present motion , it may spoil many a chiding match , and who will loose by that ? you would by this know the difference between a denying and a fulfilling of this Lust , and whether has more true sweetness and satisfaction in it . An Experiment , I am afraid , few have made . You have tried and tasted the bitterness of being angry , but did you ever try the sweetness of putting anger by ? Do it therefore that it may appear you can do it , and that you are not such Slaves to your Passion that it must be observed , whenever it comes , tho' Reason comes after , and brings Repentance with it . Now what if you made trial to put off Anger at certain times ? 1. When Strangers are by . Is it handsome to entertain Strangers with brawls ? They will say , you might have forborn till I had been gone . Prov. 27. 15 , 16. Bishop Hall says upon it , His grief cannot be avoided , so his shame cannot be concealed . An angry person will shame one before company . 2. Before and after any solemn Ordinance . Before , that thy own heart may be prepared to do Service that may be accepted , and made beneficial to thee . After , that what is gotten may not be presently thrown away . To admit Anger after Ordinances , is to turn Swine into the new-made Garden . And besides , just , or soon , afte Duties in Secret or in the Family , to fall a quarrelling , implies that it is more than like , that that matter possessed your mind all the while of the Duty : However , that it becomes you not so soon to forget where you have been , and it seems rather too great an Extream to turn from Devotion to Passion , from Praying to Chiding : This is as if out of the same Fountain should proceed sweet water and bitter ; with the same mouth to be e're while blessing ( and worshipping ) God , and cursing ( as it were , and reviling ) Man , that is made after the similitude of God , Isa. 3. 9 , 10. My Brethren , these things ought not to be . And let it be for a lamentation and great shame to us , that any occasion should be given for an observation to be made of any of us , that after some solemn days , we are most cross and peevish , and harder to please than at other times . For shame let it be so no more . ( 3. ) And all the Sabbath-day . What if you made a resolution , that whatever occasion you have , you will not be angry on that day ; not finding your own pleasure , [ to be angry for your own pleasure though you can find no pleasure in it ] nor speaking your own words , Isa. 58. 13. The Sabbath would be better sanctified , and your Souls more profited , I am sure , if you did so . These are but modest Intervals , unless your Passion be such an advantage to you , that you dare not loose any opportunity for it , least you should not meet with the like again , which there is little danger of . But it may be , the occasion of Anger thus put by , Reason may in the interim recover it self , and you may not , when cooled , admit it all ; and will not this be matter of Joy to you ? and may you not , by finding the feasibleness and sweetness of putting it by at some times , be strengthened rarely to admit it at any time ? 13. Be thankful to them that would deliver you , when you are near seized by it ; and count them not Enemies , or not taking your part , when they would divert your present madness . This is the way never to be helped , but to live a Slave to the tyranny of his base Lust. Consider the sad Example you follow in this , even of Saul ( from whom the Spirit of the Lord was withdrawn for his sin , and an evil Spirit from God troubled him , 1 Sam. 16. 14. ) who was inraged against Jonathan for endeavouring to pacifie him towards David , 1 Sam. 20. 30 , 31 , &c. albeit once before he had taken Jonathan's intercession much better in the same cause , 1 Sam. 19. 4 , 5 , &c. It looks as if an evil Spirit from the Lord was upon us when we do on this fashion . But David was thankful to God and Abigail , for appeasing him in a like case , 1 Sam. 25. 32 , 33. What a rich and lovely Ornament in Religion is a wise reprover to an obedient ear ? Prov. 25. 11 , 12. I have , I am sure , read a story ( which I cannot so far recollect , as to fix it on the Person to his just honour , but it was ) of one that was a Tutor in the University , and when his poor Sizar had broken a Glass , or some such thing , and he fell into a great Passion about it ; the young Man ( that had had religious Education in some poor Puritan Family ) naturally and innocently said to him , to this effect ; That he wondred that such a Man as he should be angry ; for ( says he ) we in the Country dare not do so , but count it a great fault to be so passionate as you are on any occasion ; and my Father put me to you as a good Man , but if he had known what a Man you are , he would never have put me to you . The good man took it so well , that he said , sayst thou so : and forthwith , as a reward , gave him money to buy him a new , instead of a ragged , Gown . Such as these love to be helped , and so do not love the sin . What a mighty huff was the whole Congregation in , against the Ultra-Jordanists , that they are up in Arms against them . Now here is much Instruction in this holy story . ( 1. ) Their Anger is against a feared Sin. ( 2. ) They shew much love and self-denial in their pleading with them , to recover them rather than force and punish them . ( 3. ) When they are satisfied , how glad are they that they were mistaken . Now our Passion oft is not so glad to be allayed , but rather to add more Anger to it , Quasi sufficiens causa sit irascendi , graviter irasci . Seneca . As if to be inveterately and greatly angry was a sufficient cause for the first Anger ; where Anger is not loved , to be appeased is pleasing . A good Man had rather let it fall , than keep it up . 15. Be unfeignedly humbled for this sin , that you have had such a long course in , and have done your selves and others so much hurt by ; you little think what mischief you have done by it , and would not be checkt : you may over this , above any sin , say , I have sinned , I have perverted that which is right , and it profited me not , Job 33. 27. Men will never offer to make head against it , unless they see cause to be humbled for it as a sin ; and the concomitant of forgiveness upon true Repentance for it , will be some help in Soul against it . If it be matter of shame and sorrow after , it may be hoped it will not be so easily admitted at present as it hath been used to be , as a matter of delight and pleasure . 15. Pray mightily for help in this thing . Pray for the Grace and Spirit of Meekness . Ye meek of the earth ( much more ye that are not so ) seek meekness , Zeph. 2. 3. And when assaulted in this kind , lift up thy Soul in Prayer for present help . The very thoughts of God , and directing the Soul to him , may help to stickle in this Tumult that is arising : but the effect of thy Prayer may be very discernable , especially if after thy long custom , that Sin be not grown natural and pleasing to thee ; or that thou hast tasted enough bitterness , as to escape from it as much as ever thou canst . It is possible victory may be had in this case , that thy broken walls may be repaired , and thou be restored to the rule of thy own Spirit , and whose blessing this will be , thou wilt quickly know . And let the peace of God rule in your hearts , to the which also ye are called in one body , Col. 3. 15. Earnestly , and without ceasing , pray for it . 16. Help one another in this case . 1. Take this for a Rule for Peace and Comfort every way , Design not to vex or anger any one : this we ought not to do , this doth but cause sin , this hurts our neighbour , and this we are forbidden : We cannot live , but we shall anger one another , do what we can ; but to intend to anger one another , is ill advised , and is not from the Spirit of the Gospel . If either thy word or action be designed to vex another , it is to make thy Brother sin , and thou art the Devil's Deputy that while . And if what thou faist or dost by mis-interpretation , doth provoke any , it will be a great relief to thee , that it was never intended by thee . 2. Take heed of a peevish touchy Spirit ; it proceeds from great weakness , that every little word should be taken in snuff , and every little thing should offend thee : Use thy Spirit to more hardiness , and let not every little thing make impression upon thee ; we must have more strength of Spirit , if we will live among men on earth ; we are disquieted , not because things are hard we suffer , but because we are so soft and tender that suffer Some will be angry at just nothing . Men sometimes of a peevish spirit , take all for Enemies that join not with them in their extravagant Passion . They take part with their Enemy that are not as mad as they . One expostulated with Demonax , why he would be a friend to his enemy ? he answered , why he would be an enemy to his friend ? there is as much reason for the one as for the other . Saul under an evil Spirit ( and this peevish Spirit is little better ) is angry with all about him , because they tell him no Tales of David , 1 Sam. 22. 7 , 8. Use your selves to more hardness , he not so fond and tender of your own will , you may spoil your selves as well as a child with fondling . Let neither child nor self have all their will , ( 1 King. 1. 6. ) Comë , come , we must be cross'd or spoil'd ; It is good for us , and we are sure of it ; we must bear more then thus , if we will be Christ's Disciples . Jesus Christ endured reproaches &c. and so must I. Expect crosses , and then thou wilt be able to bear them with patience . Who am I , that I should not be crossed , when few have their will in every thing ? And the great God , from me and others too , hath scarce his will in any thing . A tender , nice , delicate , ill natur'd Spirit is always wrong with some body , or some thing . 3. Do not provoke the weak . Deny your selves to prevent anger , and add not to it by angry replies to unjust anger . Pro. 15. 1. A soft answer turneth away wrath , but grievous words stir up anger . When one had angred his Brother , and he said , If I live I will be revenged on thee ; the other calmly answer'd , Let me not live if I do not make thee love me again : and this took up the quarrel . Answer not passion with passion , but with compassion ; Mr. Dod. Bear ye one anothers burthens , and so fulfil the law of Christ , Gal. 6. 2. Demosthenes could not pacifie a Mutiny with all his Oration , till he told the People a story of a man that hired an Ass to ride on , and the Sun was so hot , that the rider got off the Ass's back , and took to the shadow of the Ass ; The Owner pretended the shadow of the Ass was not hired , and so the contention grew as hot as the Sun ; and the story diverted the Peoples rage , and quieted them . The grave Author makes this remark , We cannot find out a diversion so impertinent , but it is better than to let Anger have its course ; Mr. Herle . Prov. 27. 15. A continual dropping in a very rainy day , and a contentious woman are alike . They are both equally troublesome ; the one not suffering a man to go abroad with comfort , the other not permitting him to stay at home with quietness [ Mr. Pool on the place ] . The truth is , one would not be wet in our Journey , nor unquiet in our House , if one could help it . Let me here suggest to you a matter of great observation and instruction , that these do mutually cause one another ; the Womans unquietness at home , oft drives the Man out for a little rest , and so proves a temptation to him to be an ill Husband ; and his coming in disordered and spending unduly , oft provokes the Woman to excess of Passion at home ; let both mend , that ye may have peace and comfort together . Let the Woman take heed , when she complains of the hurt her Husband does abroad , that she be quiet and pleasing at home , that she do not drive him out , and then quarrel that he keeps not at home ; and let the Man be a better Husband abroad , and keep better hours , that he may not tempt the poor Woman to unquietness at home . 4. Study sweetness of conversation with all men . Study peace , and sowr not company by quarrels . To keep peace in discourse avoid censures , comparisons , & contradictions ; the golden counsel of Bp. Hall. Causinus in his Holy Court , in his Agathopolis . p. 270. hath this instructive passage ; That he fancying himself to travel into such a City ( which represents not what is , but what should be , and might be ) says , that he took a singular content , when one day passing through a Street , he heard two old men discoursing in their language of foreign Countries ; and the one said to the other , that Duels and Quarrels were used there ; the other would not believe him at all , thinking that two men that bare one and the same figure , could not contend one with another ; but he persisted and said , he knew it to be true ; and that the source of all their debates was to say , It is mine , It is not , It is so ; Yea , No. This narration so enkindled them , that they resolved to imitate them of whom they spake , and to have at least once in their lives a quarrel . But what endeavour soever they used , they could never say confidently , Yea , No : For as one had pronounced Yea , and made shew of contestation , the other said take it , I yield it . If Persons were not too positive and peremptory in their Assertions , as too much trusting to their own judgment and memory , and others would not think the matter worth the hazarding of peace for , but let the confident Person have it for the time , it would keep quietness . He gets not so much though in the wrong , as I should loose though in the right , if I lost my present peace . Let not the one be so absolute , but think I may mistake , I may misremember , and I have been mistaken before now , when I have been as confident as I am now : And let the other say , I may be mistaken , though I think I am not , but let him take it at present , and if it be not his , he will bring it again , and I keep peace in the mean time . And it may be the matter is not so much worth , choose who is in the right . I could wish it might pass into a Proverb what is lately mentioned , Remember the shadow of the Ass. Labour to be like the brave Woman , Prov. 31. 26. She openeth her mouth with wisdom , and in her tongue is the law of kindness . She talketh wisely and kindly with every body , and talks of kindness and love and mercy , and peaceableness . These are the Lessons she inculcates every where , she talks according to that Law , as the rule : and of that law as the subject of her talk . Study to be quiet , 1 Thess. 4. 11. Forecast for it , to give no occasion of disquiet , and to be armed and fortified against occasions that will be given . True friendship requires patience : There is no man in whom I shall not mislike somewhat , and who may not mislike somewhat in me ; Bp. Hall. Go then and build thy walls by these helps , and the Lord be with you . Object . 1. Would you have us tame fools , and let folks abuse us , and not let them know that we can understand what they do , and that they have not fools to deal with ? Answ. And will nothing serve but you must make your selves fools that you may not be accounted fools ; beware of the standard you judge a fool by ; God's is one , and Man's is another ; you count him a fool and a mean spirited man that doth not resent every injury ; God judges him a wise man that doth pass by such things as below his notice , or being so much as moved by them . When one had strucken Cato in the dark Bath , and he that did it , not knowing who he was , afterwards offered satisfaction ; he answered , That he did not remember that he was strucken . Melius putavit ( saith Seneca ) non agnoscere , quam ignoscere . He thought it better not to know it , than to forgive it . And readier and cheaper it is . He is a man of understanding that is of an excellent ( aliàs cool ) spirit , Prov. 17. 27. You count him a weak man that doth not quickly take fire at a provocation : God saith he is a great man , and a mighty conqueror , that overcometh himself , Prov. 16. 32. You think it a disgrace , and God says its a man's glory to pass by a transgression , Prov. 19. 11. It is the greatest honour and gallantry that can be to be above abuses . Ille ingens animus & verus estimator sui , qui non vindicat injurias quia non sentit , Sen. He is the great mind and the true valuer of himself , that doth not revenge injuries , because he doth not feel them . It is the part of a great mind to despise injuries . It is the most disgraceful revenge ( says Seneca ) when a man seems not worthy from whom one should seek revenge . The noble Soul scorns to take revenge . I remember a story of a great Minister of State ( a Cardinal of mean extraction , but of great parts ) in Spain , when a Duke in great heat sent a Priest to revile him with his birth and pride , and some threatnings withal ; and when the Priest kneel'd down , and begg'd pardon for bringing the Message ; the Cardinal umov'd , said , Go back to thy Master , whom thou shalt find repenting the foolish words which thou hast delivered . And so he did ; for he was angry at the Priest that he was so ready to go , and at all about him , that they had not hindered him in his present Passion , from sending such a Message . And they were soon after reconciled . The numbring of the Transgressions you have for Christ's sake , and Religions sake passed by , are as so many Trophes and Marks of Honour as Atchievements of the Grace of Christ in you . Never talk of Injuries you have received , but what Injuries you have christianly born , and bravely despised and passed by . Learn well the Preacher's counsel , Prov. 26. 4 , 5. Answer not a fool according to his folly , least thou also be like unto him , [ as foolish and mad as he ] And if you must answer him , or may answer him according to his folly , [ in the matter of his folly ] remember , 1. That it is for his sake to cure his Error , and to prevent his Self-conceitedness . And 2. you must not do it foolishly and passionately , but gravely and mildly , lest it attain not your end . A man may be forced sometimes for the love of truth to answer a Fool , but he must look to the manner of doing it , lest he do more hurt than good by his Answer , but nothing of self , or to vent his spleen , will be allowed as the cause of answering a Fool. The instance of ruffling , as the objection pleads , is that of Simeon and Levi , Gen. 34. 31. Should be deal with our sister as with an harlot ? No , he ought not to have done so , but he married her upon your own terms , and should you have dissembled at that rate as you have done , and murther a whole City , for the abuse of one unwary young Woman , &c. You think it was bravely done to avenge your Religion in the horrid abuse of it ? but see how this is remembred by God ? in the Prophetick blessing of the Tribes , they are cursed , and their Posterity branded for this outrage , Gen 49. 5 , 6. Object . 2. Sure this is no such great sin to make such a stir about to be a little angry , can be no such great matter . Answ. 1. There may be a great difference in the Case , and in the Person ; As , 1. to be rarely angry , 2. to be soon appeased , 3. to be troubled for it , and to repent of it , &c. may mitigate much . But 2dly , as it ordinarily prevails it is a great sin . Doth Christ for nothing say that he that is angry with his Brother rashly , is in so much danger ? And is it nothing that Moses , 1. the meekest man of all the Earth , and 2. was greatly provoked , and spake unadvisedly with his lips , and 3. was so severely punished for it . And even slighty efforts of it are oft great sorrow to some Souls , and is it nothing to you ? Object . 3. It is my nature ; I have not the felicity of such a temper as some have ; I am naturally hot and passionate . Answ. 1. So some are naturally lustful and gustful ; but will this excuse acts of Uncleanness & filthy Gormondising . 2. What is Grace for but to correct and relieve Nature ; let it suffice for unregenerate men to be children of wrath ; Eph. 2. 3. actively as well as passively ; but let not the regenerate talk at that rate . Are ye carnal , and will ye walk like men ? 1 Cor. 3. 3. In some of your Transports , what could the vilest carnal Wretch speak or do worse ? and if persisted in , take heed lest you prove your self unrenewed , after all , and for all your Professions , your holy Religion will not allow allowed Anger , you have not so learn'd Christ , Eph. 4. 24. And it reaches to all that follows , as well as to what went before , and so pursuant of that , you are to put away all bitterness and wrath , &c. ver . 31. It is the victory and triumph of Grace to change mens natural tempers . 3. Men have had help in this case . It is said of Beza , that he was naturally passionate , but he had got such victory over it , that it passed into a Proverb , That Beza had no Gall. And Judge Hales would say , that of himself he was inclined to be passionate , but unless he had said it of himself , no body could in the least have thought it by him , he had such an absolute command of himself in all his converse , that nothing like Passion was to be seen . It is what hath been cured , and if thou be willing , why not in thee ? Object . 4. But I am so accustomed to it , I cannot help it . Answ. 1. Your being accustomed to it , will not make it no sin , if it be a sin . 2. It will be no Excuse nor Plea against Judgment in the case ; no more than for a Thief to plead I cannot help it , for I have always used it , the greater the Malefactor ; and in this case it will be no better . 3. True Christians have new work , and new conversions ( in some particulars ) as long as they live . And this of being as a little Child , against Envy , Pride , and Passion may claim a considerable part in a Christian's Progress : Matth. 18. 3 , 4. The Spirit that is in us lusteth to Envy , [ and so to Pride and Revengefulness ] but he gives more grace to overcome these most rooted lustings , James 4. 5 , 6. 4. Some Christians have made Conscience of striving in this case , notwithstanding their nature and custom , and have had help and great comfort . Object . 5. But I have more than ordinary provocation . Answ. 1. To be patient unprovoked is no patience , what thank have ye ? 1 Pet. 2. 18. The Devil ( ye say ) is good if he be pleased . 2. Here is the truth and exercise of grace , to be meek when provoked , and herein you imitate Christ Jesus , 1 Pet. 2. 23. Who when he was reviled , reviled not again , and when he suffered he threatned not , [ what he would do at them , or what God would do to them in his cause ] but committed himself to him that judgeth righteously . Flesh and Blood cannot bear such Affronts you will say ; but ( as one says ) I have not Flesh and Blood to deal-with , for Flesh and Blood shall not enter into the Kingdom of God ; I hope , I speak to believers , to whom the Prophet speaks , Isa. 51. 7. Hearken to me ye that know righteousness , and in whose heart is my law . Such as these will govern themselves , and keep their Anger down . 3. If you take no care to moderate Anger when provoked , you will be angry when unproked , or but lightly provoked . And angry People , if they dare be angry , and use to be angry , it is too usual with them to be so , when they have little or no cause at all . 4. It must be a great provocation indeed that will excuse wrath without bounds at any time . The Ass kicks you , and you kick the Ass again . Object . 6. But I have ungodly Relations that I cannot flee from , they are a constant eye-sore and provocation unto me , I cannot forbear . Answ. 1. Such Cases should be constant exercise of Christian Patience , and not of Carnal Passion . 2. Doth Anger mend them , or not make them worse ? A good Medicine will not go down when scalding-hot . Angry Reproofs ( says Mr. Dod ) are scalding Potions , they might do good , if not too hot to be taken . 3. You may be grieved at their sin , and pity them , and pray for them , and not fret and vex and rail at them . 4. You may find some sin of your own , that had a hand in this trouble , if you have indulged the Child , when you should have bended him , his stubbornness and rebellion is a punishment for your sin towards him . And it is seldom that any can carry so undutifully and ungratefully towards you , but your heart will tell you you have carried it worse towards God. Mend your self , and 1. this may be a means of their mending , or 2. at least a help to you to bear it better . 5. But if they are irreclaimable , why should you destroy your own comfort , or fall upon your self for their wickedness ? were it not more rational to leave them unto God , and preserve your own City as well as you can ? resolving ( as once a grieved Father said to me ) that he would not hence forward lay that to his heart , which his Son cast at his heels . Object . 7. But I am old and sickly and full of infirmities , and this makes me peevish . Answ. 1. I would have others for their own ease , and in conscience of their duty , to take it so . And to give all manner of allowance to persons in these circumstances ; and to exercise unwearied patience and forbearance and pity towards them , considering that for ought you know , some may have the like trouble and exercise with you . Yet 2. one would think that old age should teach you better , and that you should have had enough of the folly and vanity of this sin , so as not to admit it after all the sorrow it hath cost you . But 3. it is the most unseasonable now of any time , when the Lord's hand is upon you , and you have so much need of his pity towards you , for you then to be quarrelling with all about you is very unsutable . It is just as if a Child , when his Father is beating him , should be fighting with the Servant ; a Parent would whip again in such a case . If your Spirit were broken and humbled to God under affliction , it would make you calm , and not cross towards all about you . It concerns me ( may one say in such circumstances ) to be so taken up with making my peace with God , that I might have little heart to indulge any difference with any other . David in a sense of his Affliction from God for his sin , was calm and merciful to Shimei , that did most wickedly abuse him , 2 Sam. 16. 11. how much more with the rod on thy back shouldst thou be calm with them that do all they can to please thee , which oft is thy case ; but very unbecoming it is to be cross , where you should be thankful , and especially when the hand of God is upon thee . To conclude , It is not any one particular person that has been aimed at in this Discourse ; it were well for us , and would be better with us , if but one or two were guilty this way ; but it is a prevailing and noted sin , and charged upon Professors , not only poor Women , but Men too ; but if any think themselves hurt hereby , it is a sad sign they are sadly guilty , and that they love the sin ( which is sad'st of all ) and would not have it spoken against . At this rate we must speak against no sin , for some or other in the Congregation is guilty of it . But how must you be cured , and others warned , if your sin must not be named ? I am sorry if any have been uneasie under this Subject for their own sakes : But see ( says a worthy man ) the sad condition of God's Ministers , if they preach Generals , O he is a good man ; but if he come to preach particularly , and to come home to the conscience , then he is a railer , &c. The brighter the Sun shines , the more afflicting to a sore eye . The Lawyers were content to hear Christ speak against the Scribes and Pharisees , but when something came that reach't them , they wince at it , and very perversly are aggrieved , Luke 11. 45 , 46. Master , thus saying thou reproachest us also . Why who are ye ? that we must be so cautious lest we touch your Freehold ? And it is observable , that he doth not say , thou reprovest us , but thou reproachest us . Jer. 6. 10. The word of the Lord is to them a reproach ; they take themselves affronted , and exposed , and abused , when their sin is spoken against ; they cannot bear close dealing , they take no delight in such things . But see what they get by it ; our Saviour falls directly upon the Lawyers , and gives them woe 's of their own , Wo unto you also ye Lawyers . We may sometimes come close and hit you , when we know nothing of it , and if it anger you ( as oft close work has that effect ) and you take yourselves reproached . I tell you , when we know it touches , we shall say the more of it , for now we know it is needed , and do not expect , tho' we have done with this Subject , that we will ever have done with Anger , till you leave it . But alas , alas , there are two many concerned for any one to be offended that they are particularized . But what a mercy would it be , if many might be humbled instead of angered : Ministers aim , and satisfaction should not be the praise , but the profit of the Hearers . If there might be many cast down in their own eyes , in a sense of their sin and guilt in this thing , it would be more than applause unto us . And I should account Success in this Discourse , to a general lessening of this Sin , worth all my labour , and worth coming into the World for . And I shall have cause to be grieved , and greatly humbled , if after all this , any one that professes Religion should persist in unbounded and unbridled wrath , so as to be noted for a Person extravagant this way , to the dishonour of Religion , much more that they should be unashamed of such disgraceful transports , so as to report themselves how they have let fly towards any this way ; an Atchievement that pleases none but the Devil : And to have passed by such occasions with meekness and patience and holy silence , would be matter of more true glory and peace to thy own Soul whoever thou art . Take heed to your Spirits , repair your Walls , keep up your watch , mount your Guards , and study to be quiet . Let the meeek seek meekness Zeph 2. 3. That the Peace of God may rule in our hearts , That we may learn of Christ to be meek and lowly in heart , That we may find rest to our Souls . That we may study to have quiet Hearts and quiet Houses , That God may continue to make us a quiet habitation . Isa. 33. 20. And we may be under the proper qualification for Heaven , that Land of Quietness , and Peace , and Love , never to have End. Amen . FINIS . Notes, typically marginal, from the original text Notes for div A70719-e150 Act for the better observation of the Lord's-day . An. 29 Ca● . 2. 1677. Notes for div A70719-e700 * Lancashire . Viz. Mr. Heywood's Treatise , entituled , A Family Altar , now comeforth at the same time with this . Notes for div A70719-e1340 Fortior est qui se , quam qui fortissima vincit moenia . Numb . 16. Numb . 12. 3. Exod. 32. 19 2 Sam. 25. 1 Sa. 20. 34. Luke 9. 55. * You should rather hate Anger , that occasions you to swear , than think to excuse swearing by being angry abominable . † In the fit of Anger Men care not what they say , true or false , and after oft to cure and mitigate the matter , they stick not falsly to represent the whole thing . Prov. 23. 29. Psal. 79. 1. Zijm and Ochim . Frustra appellamur , Christiani , nisi sumus imitatores Christi . Hebr. 3. 12. 12. 15. Hebr. 11. 33 , 34. Psal. 130. 3. Non vis iracundus esse , ne sis curiosum . Sen. He that is inquisitive is oft vexed . Isa. 43. 25. Eph. 4. 32. Ezek. 18. 22 Facilius est excludere perniciosa quam regere , & non admittere , quam admissa moderari — Nam cum intravit hostis , & portis se intulit , modum à captivis non accipit . Sen. Dr. Parker in his Continuation of his Ecclesiastical Polity , p. 695. hath this severe Reflection . — Some men will pray with the ardours of an Angel , love God with raptures of joy and delight , be transported . with deep and pathetick Devotions , talk of nothing but the unspeakable pleasures of Communion with the Lord Jesus , be ravisht with devout and seraphick Meditations of Heaven ; and like the blest Spirits there , seem to relish nothing but spiritual delights and entertainments : who when they return from their transfiguration , to their ordinary converse with men , are churlish as a Cynick , passionate as an angry Wash , envious as a studious Dunce , and insolent as a Female Tyrant ; proud and haughty in their deportment ; peevish , petulant , and self-will'd , impatient of contradiction , implacable in their anger , rude and imperious in all their conversation , and made up of nothing but pride , malice , and peevishness . [ A Book not at all liked by Judge Hales , in the design of it ; but if my Adversary will write a Book ( if he say nothing but true ) surely I would take it upon my shoulder , &c. Job 31. 35 , 36. so ] pudet haec opprobria nobis , & dici potuisse , & non potuisse refelli . Josh. 22. 31 , 33. Spernere mundum spernere nullum , spernere sese , spernere se sperni , quatuor ista b●a●t . Veritas luceus amatur , redarguens odio habetur . Docente te in Ecclesin , non clamor populi , sed gemitus suscitetur , Lachrymae auditorum tuae laudes sunt . Hier.